logotipo

This is the story of how 2007 started out: more of the same

The foundation for this entire case rests on libelous behavior, slander and severe malpractice by most of the professionals involved especially Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo, as of the deposition of myself by Mason Trenaman, Lorena Lasky’s attorney, these therapists are called the KGB.

I was not able to speak with my children on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day or New Years Eve or New Years day…

I had just spoken with Farfar and he had told me that he had sent Lorena Lasky $200 worth of gift cards for the children. He had wanted to know what Lorena Lasky had bought for Sofia and Hannah, so I tried to ask my child….

December 30, 2007
Dear Sofia,
Please tell me what Farfar got for you and Hannah? Fartar sent Mommy a gift card' so that she could buy the presents at a department store. You can also email Farfar. Mommy knows Farfar's email address but I can tell you also: It is

williamheadrick@yahoo.com

I can not wait to see you again and I still want to make a Donald Duck with beeswax. The Yellow mellow Fellow called Mellow sends kisses to you and Hannah,
Lots of Love,
Your Daddy

Lorena would not show Sofia this email. She would explain a week later…

December 30, 2007: I get this email from Sofia:
Dear Daddy,
Here is a list of things i got for christmas.
1. heelys
2. mancala
3. magnetix
4. purse
5. giant bead kit
6. crochet kit
7. beeswax
8. markers
9. 3 Nancy Drew books
10. 2 other books
11. Nancy Drew computer game
12. 3 head bands
13. 3 outfits, a sweater & a shirt
14. art kit
15. bath soap with chapstick
16. heart box with a necklace
17. candle-making kit
18. CD
19. kid's cookbook
20. mad libs Happy Feet
Hannah got:
1. heelys
2. horse puppet
3. 3 horses and dolls
4. Egypt puzzle
5. sewing kit
6. CD player with headphones
7. CD
4. 2 outfits
5. helicopter playset with a whale
6. baking dishes
7. cariboo game
8. kids makeup
9. necklace & bracelets
10. mad libs junior
11. horse sticker book
12. junie B jones book
13. 2 majic treehouse books
14. stained glass art book
That's all we can remember
Sofia


January 1, 2007


“Wake up sir!” a security guard called to me. It was almost 5:00AM. I caught the 7:50AM flight to Raleigh/Durham where Farfar and Farmor picked me up. They had wanted to know what Sofia and Hannah had gotten for Christmas, in particular from them, since they had sent Lorena Lasky gift cards with which to purchase presents for the girls, but the email that I had gotten from Sofia did not indicate that they had gotten anything from them. Indeed, they made no mention of having received anything from Farfar and Farmor for Christmas.

Let’s start the New Year with a poem:

Here is a poem by W.B. Yeats (1865 – 1939) and according to Gretel DeRuiter and Dr. Sununu at Swarthmore (20 years ago and more) is one of the most “beloved poems in the world.” Most likely it’s a poem about a new found love, but it works for Lorena Lasky and me with three lines added by myself:

HE WISHES FOR THE CLOTHS OF HEAVEN
Had I the heaven’s embroidered cloths,
Enwrought with golden and silver light
The blue and the dim and the dark cloths
Of night and light and half-light,
I would spread the cloths under your feet:
But I, being poor, have only my dreams;
I have spread my dreams under your feet;
Tread softly because you tread on my dreams (.)

I plead as you with Münche’s Silent Screech
Are away repulsive off and shit!
You tread monstrously.

It is truly something to visit my parents. I am so lucky and glad they are around. I want to be like them to my own children.

Farfar is laid back while never loosing his sense of what is right. Farmor is passionate about her dispositions. They are cookies in the same mould but made with different ingredients.

At 7:00PM I try to call my children but the phone rings without anyone answering it. I call Richard and LeeAnn…

Papole bought a Harley Davidson 1200cc. 1994 Sportster.



January 2, 1007
Allan; your next scheduled appointment is 9:00a until 11:00a on
Saturday, January 6th. Please choose a location (in reasonable proximity to Lorena's residence) and remit $102.00 by 1/5/07. Thanks, Richard

January 2, 2007
FELIZ AÑO ALLAN,COMO HAS PASADO PASASTE CON TUS HIJAS O QUE ALLAN,ESTOY ACA EN ESPAÑA CON MI HERMANA JULIA Y RAMON Y MIS PRIMA AHORA VINO UN TIO MAS CON NOSOTROS ALLAN Y HOY ESTA VINIENDO OTRA PRIMAS MAS COMNOSOTRAS ESTOY MUY CONTENTA
ALLAN PASE MUY BIEM LA FIESTA ESTOY FELIZ POR MI HERMANA ESTA MUY GUAPA CON LA PANSA Y VAS A SER NENE SU BEBE,A SU PAPA ES BRASILERO Y MUY GUAPO BUENO Y TRABAJADOR MI HERMANA TIENE LA SUERTE QUE TODO LE SALE BIEM A ESCUCHE A MI MAMA MUY CONTENTA QUEASERRATO NO LEESCUCHABA ASI.ALLAN TE QUIERO ALLAN.

January 2, 2007
Querida Fatima,
Que bueno encontrar este email tuyo. Yo entiendo que las cosas se mejoran y se empeorecen, pero yo quiero mucho que las cosas se queden bien para ti por un buen rato. Ojalá yo pudiera venir a Espana a visitarte pero parece que ahora no puedo porque parece que tengo un buen trabajo en un colegio. Te deseo toda la suerte en el mundo y aun mas, Allan


January 2, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Again today I called at 7PM and the phone only rang and no one picked it up. Today is Monday, Jan 1, 2007 Please address this issue,
Allan

January 2, 2007
Just to let you know, dear Richard, that the telephone call today at 7:00PM did not happen because no one picked up the phone.
Allan

Jan 2, 2007
Allan, we were home but walking in the door at 7:00 or 5 til. Maybe you just missed us. We will be home tonight (Tues) all night from 6:00pm on, so you can call at your convenience (before 8pm please)
Lorena Lasky

January 2, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I did not get your email until 8:30PM and when I called no one picked up the phone.

If only you had called me.

Also, you did not send the email until a few minutes after 5PM so it would have been a veritable lucky strike for me get the email within the window (two and a half hours...) of opportunity for calling.
Allan

January 5, 2007; LL does not respond until the fifth
This is true that I sent the message late in the day. I have a perception that you are on email all of the time due to the sheer volume you send so I figured chances were good you'd get it. Since you did not get it in time, we certainly have to reschedule I just sent an email suggesting times for Sat. & Sunday.
Lorena Lasky

We go back to the regular chronology that continues with emails from the second of January:

January 2, 2007
Hey Allan,

I hope you found lots of love in the last few weeks of "holidays" and are fully ready to begin having assisted principles or assisting others with their principles. I've never been clear on how that works.

I've sadly stayed in town the whole time, though I've had a good time with friends who've visited. I just found out sad news about Ky and Owl, though it may be good news for them too. Here's the link to Ky's note: http://www.kyhote.com/personal.htm I knew you'd want to know.

I'll be at Austin High this semester under Beth Butcher as a full-time student teacher. I think I learned a lot at Reagan to make this experience good for me and my students. Here's hoping.

later,
reed

January 2, 2007

Dear Reed,
Yes, you have been in the fire and now into the frying pan: Austin High is a relatively easy place for white cultural fronteer’s men. You will think "oh, this is easy," but I am glad for this because no student teacher should go through the wonders that I had to go through (Johnson HS) and staying at Reagan would have been just that.

Yes, I am sad to read what has happened to Owl. Do I read between the lines that he wants to have relations with another woman or other women? (You need not answer that.) Yes, I am looking forward to the challenges of being an administrator. I am so very much looking forward to this, it makes no sense. But I love change and new challenges. I am currently learning about grants – I will have to write some. Do you know anything about this? As far as the fight to get my children back does, it continues and it will continue for a while, but I know I will win. This is now becoming evident.... Lots of Love, Allan

January 3, 2007
Dear Richard,
The point is that this is a NEW/confining/constraining rule and did NOT used to exist. You write things like "in the future...." as if it were something that I can count on. But this is an indication that I can NOT count on things.
Do you want to explain it to my children that they cannot go to Wall*mart because of their mother?

This email confirms the waffle house. It is not copied in on Lorena. I will send another email to Lorena.
Thank you,
Allan

January 3, 2007: Hum? I think Richard is a little off kilter?
Allan; I'm not going to address this issue again. The policy is that you will not transport your children during supervised parenting time without Lorena's consent. In the future, so there is no guessing as to where we will meet, you must provide an actual address. Please re-confirm your location choice and copy Lorena. Richard

January 3, 2007
Dear Richard,
The remit request is on course. I would like to meet at the Waffle house near the airport, I think it is on Preston? Would you please call me to confirm? Would you please allow me to take my children in a car from there and to there -- which is to say, make it clear that the custodial parent does not have grounds for making things worse. I remind you that I used to be able to take my children in the car.
Allan

January 3, 2006
Hola mi gran amigo!!!
Como etas???
Que tal pasaste las fiestas de fin de año???, yo me fui en la navidad en rojas silva pase con la familia,y en l año nuevo lo pase trabajando, es la primera ves en mi vida que lo pase trabajando, fue muy triste para mi, por suerte Cinthia estaba conmigo, vino aqui en el trabajo. Y vos como la pasaste, pudiste ver a tus hijas??? Bueno feliz año nuevo, que el 2007 sea un año de mucha prosperidad, paz, amor!!!! Y mis mejores deseos para ti!!!!
un afrazo

January 3, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I would like to meet Sofia and Hannah at a new Waffle house that is near the airport and I think the name of the street is Preston.
Thank you,
Allan

January 3, 2007
I called at 7PM and no one answered. A few minutes later I got a call. I said “Rena?” But it was Sofia. She sounded reluctant to acknowledge who she was but after I had spoken with her for a bit, she was happy and glad to speak. We spoke about:
“How many ways to make 20 cents?” “Thursday and Friday school,”
“Gym is Monday.” “I will see you tomorrow Sofia!” “I don’t like running,” said Sofia “because I have to breath with my mouth and I dehydrate.” We also talked about Hannah being a poet. Hannah had said, “Mellow is a fellow fellow.” We talked about global warming. “It is the hottest December in a century.” All this time Hannah was playing a computer game. Then LL removed Sofia and Hannah told me that she was too tired to speak on the phone so that was cut off and the telephone line went dead.

January 4, 2007
Confirmed. Thank you for the directions. Richard


January 4, 2007
Dear Lorena,
It would be good if you said something to me about the children when you call me and before you put the phone in their hands so that my conversation with them can be more aligned with their reality. If you can imagine what it is like to be deprived of this kind of information then you would appreciate how important it is. This was discussed with LeeAnn Gardner. But it was good to speak with Sofia this evening.

OK there is a Waffle House very close to the intersection of Newburg and Bishop lane. Please bring the children to that location on Saturday at 9 AM. The following map-quest web page describes the location.

http://www.mapquest.com/maps/map.adp?latlongtype=internal&addtohistory=&latitude=Ds4hLxbuRa90822mLsuhGg%3d%3d&longitude=7cNd%2b9lRif9MIsL%2bVV3lcw%3d%3d&name=Waffle%20House&country=US&address=4320%20Bishop%20Ln&city=Louisville&state=KY&zipcode=40218&phone=502%2d458%2d6434&spurl=0&&q=waffle%20house&qc=%28All%29%20Restaurants

Thank you very much,
Allan


January 5, 2007
Good talk with Sofia lots of math and then Vera came and Hannah however just said “hello, good bye.”

January 5, 2007
Allan, I am attaching the final version of your instructions to Helmers, which include the last-minute changes you penciled in this morning. Mommy and I were both happy that you came to visit us. Some day perhaps Mark will do the same on his Harley-Davidson. Your Dad

January 4, 2007
To John Helmers, Esq.

I suggest that the following matters should be dealt with at the February custody hearing. The aim of this list of points is to have a custody decree which is as complete as possible, for the present and the foreseeable future.

Lorena and Allan would retain joint custody, under the terms described below. The terms of their joint custody will be supported by the testimony of Richard Nassr and the letter of Dr. Raymond Hawkins, who evaluated Allan during eight or more sessions in the early part of 2005, which he attended in order to comply with the condition in the decree of Judge Dietz allowing him certain visitation rights. If the terms described below are not substantially granted, then Allan requests that another hearing be scheduled in six months for the purpose of reviewing the parenting situation.

1) On a regular two-day week-end, Allan would have parenting time with his children on Saturday for the full day, from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m., unless different hours are mutually agreed upon between him and Lorena. On a three-day week-end (when there is an official holiday), Allan would have a total of twelve hours of parenting time; the distribution of hours among the three days would be mutually agreed upon between Allan and Lorena. Failing to agree, Allan would have the children from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Saturday and from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. on Sunday.

2) On days when Allan has parenting time, the children would be picked up at Lorena’s home and returned there at the end of the visit, unless Lorena and Allan agreed on another location.

3) All parenting would be without supervision.

4) During the week, as in the past, Allan would be allowed three telephone conversations with each of the children, on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, lasting approximately 20 minutes with each child. The conversations would take place between 7:00 and 7:30 p.m., unless the parents agreed on a different time. The telephone calls could be initiated by either parent. Allan shall also have the right to send emails to the children. It will be the responsibility of Lorena to bring these emails to the attention of the children and to facilitate their replies.

5) If for any reason Allan is unable to be with the children for the amount of time allotted to him on any week-end or to have the prescribed telephone conversations, the time missed could, at his option, be made up on the following week-end or, in the case of the telephone conversations, during the following week.

6) Allan would have possession of the children during school vacations. During vacations, Lorena would have the same parenting rights and telephone time with the children, and the same right to send and receive e-mails from them, as Allan enjoys during the school semester. She would pick up the children and return them to Allan’s home, unless a different location was agreed upon.

6a) As a fall-back position, if it appears that Allan having possession during the full vacation time would not be in the best interest of the children, Allan would have possession of the children for half of the vacation time, and Lorena for the other half of the vacation time, as determined between them by mutual agreement.

6b) At least twice during the year, while the children are on vacation, Allan will have the right to travel with the children to visit their grandparents, who live in Durham, NC. One such a visit, which would take place during the summer vacation, would last approximately one week and the other, during the winter break, may be for four days.

6c) Lorena and Allan will allow all relatives of the children to speak with the children by telephone, send and receive emails, and to send gifts and regular mail.

7) Allan and Lorena would both have the right to attend school activities and to consult with the teachers concerning the childrens’ behavior and academic work. Both Lorena and Allan shall have the right to attend the childrens’ extra-curricular activities, such as soccer, ballet or swimming. During the school semester, Lorena would be obligated to keep Allan informed of any medical problems affecting the children. Conversely, while Allan has possession of the children during vacation, he will be obligated to keep Lorena informed of any medical problems affecting the children.

8) The amount of child support, while the children are in Lorena’s possession, would be based on Allan’s net income per month. During 2007, his gross salary will be of $2,916.67, gross rental from his house in Austin will be of $750.00, making a total of $3,666.67 per month. From that amount must be deducted income tax, real estate tax, cost of repairs on the Austin house, Social Security contributions, and contributions to Medicare, estimated to be a total of $1,000 per month during 2007. Allan’s net disposable income would then be of $2,666.67 per month. His obligation to pay child support to Lorena during this year would be calculated on the basis of that figure.

9) Conversely, while Allan has possession of the children during vacations, Allan would be discharged from the obligation of paying child support and Lorena would pay child suport to Allan based on her net income from employment plus any other sources of income she might have.

10) If either parent’s employment is terminated or their salaries are modified, or if Allan’s house in Austin is vacated by the present tenant, either parent would be required immediately to notify the other, his or her attorney, and the court. At such times, Allan would pay child support to Lorena based on the percentage provided under Kentucky law. Similarly, during vacations, while Allan has possession of the children, Lorena would pay child support to Allan based on the same percentage.

11) The cost of medical insurance, to the extent not provided by the State, would be for the account of Lorena as a part of the childrens’ cost of living to which Allan would be contributing in the form of child support. Medical and dental care not covered by insurance (e.g. braces for Sofia) would be covered in equal parts by each parent.

Sincerely,
Allan and William

I write back to Farfar:
Dear Daddy,
Oh thank you for having me and it was a very pretty experience for me.
With regards the letter to Helmers, don't you think we should also make the point that an exact inversion of the proposal is also OK -- that is to say that I have the children during the school year. It seems to me that this is an important point so please include it.
Thank you,
Allan

And he responds:
Dear Allan
In the long run, your idea of an inversion might work. It amounts to your having full custody with Rena having parenting time. At this stage in the development of the case, it is still premature.
Your Dad

Farfar has a way of stretching metaphors because this is under the rubric of joint custody.

January 5, 2007: Oh look –LL responds to an email I had sent on the 29th of December that read “Dear Lorena, You did not email me in response to the question "when is our next meeting with LeeAnn?" and you did not make that meeting. Please call LeeAnn and set up a meeting (as I asked of you in Richard Nassr's presence) for a time that is as soon after the fifth of January as possible. Thank you, Allan.” LL responds as follows:

I understand you are moving to Tennesse or at least working there. How will you make an appointment with LeeAnn? Are there certain days you know you will be in Louisville?


January 5, 2007: Oh look – I got a response to an email I had sent on the 24rth of December that read: “Dear Lorena, Since the children will be at your mother's place on Christmas day (Monday) is that where I am to call? Also, can you please fix your 625-1218 phone? It hardly works --- I have a hard time understanding what my children are saying. Thank you, Allan.” LL responds as follows:

I need to purchase a new phone & do not have the means to do so. Lorena


January 5, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Hum? I have seen phones for as little at $9.99. I will do some research for you.
Allan

January 5, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I called this evening: Sofia and I spoke on two occasions. The first time we spoke the connection was good and we were able to communicate well about the math problems that we had generated, but then my phone battery died and I called back and this time the connection was not easy.
May I conclude that you have one good phone?
Thank you for letting Sofia use the good phone today if that is what is going on.
Allan


January 5, 2007; LL writes:
Okay. I will see you there on Saturday at 9:00 am.
Regarding the phone call, I certainly have agreed to do that more often & have made attempts to do so. For this particular call, however, Sofia wanted to call herself & I helped her do it.
Sometimes, people get the progress they were asking for (i.e., kids calling you especially when you missed calling on time--you have asked for this for a long time--that you get a call when you forget to call) & instead of celebrating that new progress, continue to nit-pick on other things, thus making others want to avoid conversing with them.
Furthermore, it is tiring reading emails every day & worse responding daily. I simply do not check my email every day. Once a week, the kids will be sat down to read your emails & respond. If you email me every day in betweeen asking if they read it, you create a huge log of emails that is exhausting. I do not read them every day &, therefore, you cannot expect a daily response. Relax and celebrate the progress of that phone call, albeit perhaps small in your opinion.
Monday's call was missed, so maybe you can call another time this weekend. Friday we are already expecting a call from you. Saturday morning you will be with the kids. What if you call Saturday afternoon before 5:00pm (we will not be home after that) and also call Sunday after 12:00noon for the call missed the week before on Dec. 25. Please suggest a time you will call on those days.
Please advise of your new residence. Have you an address in Tennessee yet? Are you keeping the Kentucky cell phone or getting a new one? Have you already reported this job to child support office? Where are you working?--the children say you got a job in Tennessee, but did not elaborate. Will you be travelling to Louisville every weekend?
Lorena

January 5, 2007
Dear. Lorena,
I have not started my job and am now in Louisville So please call LeeAnn and set up a meeting as soon as possible.
Thank you,
Allan

January 5, 2007: Today I got this email from LL in response to an email I had sent on the 30th of December that read: Dear Lorena, Yesterday's tel cal was a failure for both of us. I forgot to call and you did not call. We are countless phone calls behind. Please suggest a strategy to overcome this problem. Sincerely, Allan
Allan,
It is refreshing for you to admit that you forgot to call. I suggest that you not wait for me to respond by email & schedule the next time & simply call the following evening. We will still do email & attempt to coordinate the calls & keep to normal schedule, but since sometimes people want to be flexible in life (like go out to eat on a whim) or simply forget (human error) we have to anticipate missed calls some fraction of the time. If the assumption is that when a call is missed, you can call the next day regardless of scheduling it by email, then less days will lapse between the missed call & the make-up. In other words, options are expanded & perhaps it will be more fluid.
and, what do you suggest as a plan to remedy the situation? Lorena
January 5, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Ok, I was just with Farmor and Farfar and they told me that they had sent you gift cards. I will call them and ask them about this. Thank you for letting me
know.
Allan



January 5, 2007: And to an email I sent on December 30, 2006 where I wrote to Sofia and Hannah and included a line about a gift card that Farfar and Farmor had sent, LL responds:
I did not receive a gift card so I have not shown this email to Sofia yet. Lorena

Ok so now what does this actually mean? Well, there are two likeliest scenarios. The one is that LL actually got the gift certificates and spent the money on other things. The other is that the US mail failed to deliver this letter which Farfar sent special delivery.

January 5, 2007
Dear Lorena
That is a very good idea and I am very pleased. I will simply call the next evening at 7PM. Thank you very much for this suggestion. Thank you for writing that you "will still do email & attempt to coordinate the calls & keep to normal schedule, but since sometimes people want to be flexible in life (like go out to eat on a whim) or simply forget (human error) we have to anticipate missed calls some fraction of the time." I agree, Lorena -- but not this many. 83% misshaps in two weeks and especially including Christmas, is too much.

I do hope and am very glad that you write that "when a call is missed, I can call the next day regardless of scheduling it by email, and then less days will lapse between the missed call & the make-up." I agree that under these new circumstances that "options are expanded & perhaps it will be more fluid." I hope that we can make this true since I can not even suggest that there have been any make-ups.


You ask me what I suggest? I have been making many suggestions over the course of the last two years (before that, there was no problem.) Certainly for the last year I have been constantly asking you to take some responsibility: you can dial my number when ever you want or the children want, and you know that, because I have said so itteratively. but your suggestion that I call the next day is my idea too. I have also suggested calling in the morning before going to school.... But all this is not too important now -- since I am aligned with calling the next day at 7PM. Still, honestly, it would be even better if you would call me too.
Thank you,
Allan

January 5, 2007

Dear Martha,
Oh oh oh! I can not believe what you wrote and I see that I have to... torn to pieces, like the rug was pulled from under. How to fathom something so extreme? Make sense and be sensible? Oh Alec, and Martha... life is so fragile and boom, fuck boom! Damit! God are you at all?

My friend Peter had a daughter who had leukemia and died last week. I should not have written that. I am sorry. I could go back and delete it but it's not like me to do that.

I love the picture now more than anything I could ever have imagined. I will show it to Sofia and Hannah tomorrow. I will tell Rena tomorrow.

I plead, beg, invite, recommend, demand, ask, pray, that the Universe unfold for you in a kind and nice way. I send you all the love that I have,
Allan



January 6, 2007
I had arrived about half an hour early in order to set my computer up in my car. At 8:45 AM I called Richard Nassr to tell him that I was ready for the “pep-talk.” Richard arrived with one minute to spare. He did not look at me as he entered the Waffle house. He went and sat down at a table – I was at the counter. A waitress came along and asked him if he was alone and he said that he was not and I said that he was with me. The waitress was a little miffed that we were not sitting together. She recognized me as being someone who had been at that Waffle house before and was looking for a job with Jefferson County Public Schools. Richard commented that she had a good memory. I liked that because it made the Waffle house a place of my kind. Richard remained where he was. My children arrived a few minutes late…. Sofia was not in a good mood when she arrived (Hannah was fine) but I was able to convince her to come with me (in a much better way than LL’s brutal ‘you gotta go,’ technique and we entered the Waffle house where we started out drawing pictures. I asked the children to copy my drawings. First I drew a square, then, made it into a cube. I drew a triangle and made it into a prism, I drew a star and made it into a thick star. We drew a house and finally, we drew Donald duck. Hannah lifted her drawing on Donald Duck and showed it to Richard “This is a picture of you!” We laugh and Richard pulls a face.

Hannah wanted to go outside. We got our things together and started walking. We were not going anywhere in particular. Hannah was wearing shoes with roller wheels on the heels and we explored pulling her, Sofia with one hand and I with the other. There was an automotive store nearby where we bought batteries for the camera. We returned to the car where we watched Charlie and the Chocolate factory. I like watching movies with my children and asking them questions about the movie. “Why is Charlie happy?” Hannah sat on my lap. After a good long time however, Richard accidentally pulled the electric chord. I took advantage of that incident to take the children for another walk to the convenience store where I bought little presents for them. Hannah got a fan and Sofia got a sweet. We took several videos and pictures. When we returned to the car LL had arrived. I kissed my daughters goodbye. I had asked if it would be possible for meet the children again tomorrow and Richard looked into it with LL. LL was prepared to do so only if I promised that I would not see them the next weekend. I told her that I did not know if I would or could. It was left undetermined. Richard left without speaking with me.

January 6, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Yes, I'll see you at 9AM at the Waffle house. Thank you.

Thank you also for confirming agreeing to speaking with me about the children prior to my speaking with them. This is a good step, albeit terribly late, but I welcome it like a flower the sun.

You write that you helped Sofia to call me: does she now know my telephone number?

As for the paragraph where you accuse me of being nit picky, hum? I don't think. Let's discuss this with LeeAnn. Lorena, you have NEVER spoken with me since we arrived in the USA; just to or at. So the claim that Nitpickiness is the cause for avoidance has no validity. You avoid me to avoid yourself.

I do celebrate. What have you been celebrating?

And here are direct answers to your questions: I do not yet have a new residence, so I do not yet have an address in Tennessee. I have no idea what I will do with my cell phone. Right now it looks like it might get disconnected for lack of payments. I have not yet reported this job to the child support office since I have not yet started working and I have not yet a contract. I am not yet working. Yes, I may have told the children that I got a job in Tennessee, but did not elaborate. Yes, I plan to live in Louisville when not working unless I can take my children to TN. Lorena -- I wish you would answer my questions too.

Ok, Thank you for giving me a brief summary of Sofia and Hannah's day today prior to my speaking with Sofia and for letting me talk to her again (after my phone battery went dead) with a different telephone. Sincerely,
Allan


At 7PM I tried to call my children but no one picked up the phone. I called both LeeAnn and Richard about this.

January 6, 2007
Richard never called me about spending a little time (1 hour) with my daughters tomorrow. “Richard is tired of supervising,” I told Farfar.

But at least this was a good visit for Richard in the sense that he did not get any reprimanding from me.

January 6, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I will call tomorrow around noon. I wish you had just called me today when it was good for you so that the children and I could have spoken.
Allan


January 7, 2007
I tried calling my children at 12AM, 1:40PM, 5:00PM, 6:40PM and 7:00PM and none of these times did any person pick up the phone. It merely rang. Finally at 7:40PM I was able to speak with Hannah. I will describe this in a bit but first: Let me make a short interlude here and let you know about a friend of LL’s who was a colleague at the American School and at the Lumen school: Martha Dodge. Just a few days ago I checked an email address that I have not used since Paraguay and found a mass mailing from her. I have always wondered if she had been in touch with LL during the time in the USA. She was, after all, LL’s best friend in Paraguay.
____________________________________________________________
Hi. I had heard that you were getting divorced but unfortunately, I have lost contact with Rena. I would love to see pictures of both the girls. Alec has never stopped asking about them either! Alec has been dealing with Leukemia this past year (he was diagnosed a year ago and spent some scary weeks in the Critical Care Unit) but is doing very well with chemo. The ad I sent is advertising a 10K run in Toronto that supports a camp for kids with cancer.

I'm encouraged to hear of your position. I have recently finished getting my certification as a junior/intermediate visual arts teacher in Ontario but am finding it difficult to get work. I am currently working as a supply teacher for the board near my house.

Hope you are well.
Martha
________________________________________________________________
Dear Martha,
Oh oh oh! I can not believe what you wrote and I see that I have to... torn to pieces, like the rug was pulled from under. How to fathom something so extreme? Make sense and be sensible? Oh Alec, and Martha... life is so fragile and boom, fuck boom! Damit! God are you at all?

My friend Peter had a daughter who had leukemia and died last week. I should not have written that. I am sorry. I could go back and delete it but it's not like me to do that. I love the picture now more than anything I could ever have imagined. I will show it to Sofia and Hannah tomorrow. I will tell Rena tomorrow. I plead, beg, invite, recommend, demand, ask, pray, that the Universe unfold for you in a kind and nice way. I send you all the love that I have,
Allan

________________________________________________________________

Dear Martha,
Yeah you are strong to write like you write and I admire you. To admit that this is a learning experience is beyond my ability to fathom and I wonder how you do it. Thank you for your advice regarding Peter.

I regret very much (and am embarrassed) that I did not remember to tell Rena that you "love her," yesterday when she brought me the children. I will forward your email address and tell her about Alec -- I could just forward your e-mail -- I reckon that's Ok with you and if it isn't, you can tell me (when it's too late) and I will then apologize deeply for stepping over the line....

Another sentence you write is that your step son "is lost to you forever." I am sorry. What ever happened to dialog, discourse, conversation, multi-culturalism, exchange, sharing, honesty, decency, fairness, truth and love? That sentence hit me very hard for personal reasons. I miss my children terribly.

It is wonderful that you are happier, now, in spite of all life's twists. Life for me and my children was much more sensible in Paraguay and I love Paraguay --- enough to like living there again. Of course, I am not married to a Paraguayan and when I am there, I am free from other family and the influences that would bring into the heart... mostly good? but still...

Martha, I hope very much that Lorena emails you. As far as I know, she has lost touch with everybody in Paraguay. When I was in Paraguay, people asked me about Rena because they had not heard from her. When I tell Paraguayan's about Rena they are disbelieving.

I am leaving Louisville and my children because I got a job in Tennessee. I will be an assistant principal at high school starting on Monday!

After being around Peter's daughter Monica and Peter during this last year, I am sensitive about Alec and you and want to get up-dates. Of course, I dream that you will move to Brazil and eat yummy things.

We have so much to catch up on and this email is a jumble of disparate topics, but over-arching all is my best to Alec, and thank you for your honesty.
Allan

_____________________________________________________________
Dear Lorena,
I had forgotten to let you know that Alec, Martha Dodge's son has leukemia. She has stated in the last two emails that she wants to get in touch with you and that you "still are an important person in her life, "and that she misses you "terribly." She writes that Sofia and Hannah were Alec's "buddies" in Paraguay. Martha now lives in Canada. Please write to her. Just in case you don't have her email address, it is: marthadodge@yahoo.com
Allan
___________________________________________________

January 6, 2007
Allan.

It is not as tragic as it sounds, really. I've gotten over the death and dying crap mostly and so has Alec. If anything this has taught me to enjoy everything I have. Alec is so strong. He went through radiation this summer and came out laughing (we made up a radiation song and dance, too). He has dealt with stares and pointing (hairless as he was for several months) in a way I could never. He knows that sometimes people die from cancer (many adults like to point this out to him for some reason, I've come to realise that it probably stems from their feelings of helplessness and how incredibly saddened they are to hear about him) but accepts that he has about a 70% chance of a cancer-free life after this treatment. He has dreams and ambitions and has learned to express himself through art in an abstract, poignant way. I am so sorry to hear about your friend's girl. There are no words to tell to someone who has lost a child. Tell Peter we are thinking of him. Later, when he's ready, remind him that there is still a lot of beauty to discover. Alec often asks about your girls. He has never stopped missing them (his first buds, as they were). We live in Ontario in a house of my sister's with Gustavo. There is just the three of us at home (my stepdaughters are both in Germany, now and my step-son is forever with his mother). We tried to get residency for my step-son but the mother would hear nothing of it. He is lost to us forever. I am much happier, however. I love Paraguay but was not in a very good space when I lived there. I would go back to visit but not to live there. We are thinking of going to live in Brasil after Alec's clean bill of health comes back in two years. I can teach in an international school. and eat churrasco every day. Send my love to Rena. She was and is still an important person in my life. I miss her terribly. It is nice to speak with you. I know that I can be completely honest with you. That quality is rare. Martha



Ok, back to what is going on with the telephone calls:

January 7, 2007
At 7:40 LL called and put Hannah on the phone. She said the children wanted to speak with me. I had a very hard time communicating with them because her telephone is bad. I asked her to please put them on the cell phone so that I could speak with them better. LL’s telephone is so bad that I can not hear my daughters spelling out words. LL refused. I could hear my children screaming in the background and LL said that I could not speak with them any more.


January 7, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I will call tomorrow around noon. I wish you had just called me today when it was good for you so that the children and I could have spoken.
Allan


January 7, 2007
Dear Martha,
Yeah you are strong to write like you write and I admire you. To admit that this is a learning experience is beyond my ability to fathom and I wonder how you do it. Thank you for your advice regarding Peter.

I regret very much (and am embarrassed) that I did not remember to tell Rena that you "love her," yesterday when she brought me the children. I will forward your email address and tell her about Alec -- I could just forward your e-mail -- I reckon that's Ok with you and if it isn't, you can tell me (when it's too late) and I will then apologize deeply for stepping over the line....

Another sentence you write is that your step son "is lost to you forever." I am sorry. What ever happened to dialog, discourse, conversation, multi-culturalism, exchange, sharing, honesty, decency, fairness, truth and love? That sentence hit me very hard for personal reasons. I miss my children terribly.

It is wonderful that you are happier, now, in spite of all life's twists. Life for me and my children was much more sensible in Paraguay and I love Paraguay --- enough to like living there again. Of course, I am not married to a Paraguayan and when I am there, I am free from other family and the influences that would bring into the heart... mostly good? but still...

Martha, I hope very much that Lorena emails you. As far as I know, she has lost touch with everybody in Paraguay. When I was in Paraguay, people asked me about Rena because they had not heard from her. When I tell Paraguayan's about Rena they are disbelieveing.

I am leaving Louisville and my children because I got a job in Tennessee. I will be an assistant principal at high school level starting on Monday!

After being around Peter's daughter Monica and Peter during this last year, I am sensitive about Alec and you and want to get up-dates. Of course, I dream that you will move to Brazil and eat yummy things.

We have so much to catch up on and this email is a jumble of disparate topics, but over-arching all is my best to Alec, and thank you for your honesty.
Allan




January 7, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I had forgotten to let you know that Alec, Martha Dodge's son has leukemia. She has stated in the last two emails that she wants to get in touch with you and that you "still are an important person in her life," and that she misses you "terribly." She writes that Sofia and Hannah were Alec's "buddies" in Paraguay. Martha now lives in Canada. Please write to her. Just in case you don't have her email address, it is:
marthadodge@yahoo.com
Allan

January 7, 2007
Dear Sofia and Dear Hannah,
Today I went to a store called Radio shack and I saw a remote control car. I remembered that Hannah wanted a remote control car. Hannah, do you still want a fishing pole? One of these days we have to go to a toy store, like Toy's R Us and get your Christmas presents from me to you. Sofia wants a surprise: and she did not tell me what kind of surprise! So, it might be a musical surprise (like a CD player or a violin) or it might be a living surprise (like a turtle or a fish) or it might be a flying surprise (like a kite or a bird or a helicopter.) I love you very much and I can not wait to see you again.
Lots of Love,
Your Daddy

January 7, 2007
Dear Richard,
This is to let you know that I had tried to call my children today and no one ever picked up the phone. However, at 7:40 LL called me and without telling me anything about the children's day, put Hannah on the phone. Lorena's phone works very badly and it was difficult to hear Hannah speaking. Finally Hannah became frustrated and Lorena told me that Hannah did not want to speak on the phone -- but at this time, Hannah was screaming in the back ground. Could I please see my children on Monday or Tuesday? Monday would be better. Please, can you look into this? I will certainly not be in Louisville next week end.
Thank you,
Allan



January 7, 2007
I called Richard and left a message on his answering machine asking him to set up a meeting for my children and me for Monday or Tuesday.

January 8, 2007
I called my children at 7PM and it was great to speak with them. I spoke mostly with Sofia but they were both in good moods. After ten minutes, LL interrupted and said that the children had come from Brownies, needed to eat dinner and do homework. The telephone was suddenly cut off a minute later. I called LeeAnn to tell her this much – left a message, and I called Richard to tell him that I want to see my children tomorrow.

Richard finally called late in the evening time and said something about not being able to get in touch with me about Sunday. Maybe he did call on Sunday? But he did not leave a message and I bet he did not call again. His computer is down… so what about a café or the public library. I guess that would be too much to ask. What about answering the phone when I call? Anyhow, so if he made an attempt, it was pathetic. So, he did say that he would have a space for my children to see me tomorrow and I hope that something will come of that..

January 9, 2007
Richard did not call me until 4PM. He told me that he had made a mistake in telling me that he would be able to meet me and my children today because he had an ‘emergency or close to an emergency,’ and that he would not be able to meet us until tomorrow at 5PM. Richard is concerned that I am not going to work. I assured him that I was much more concerned than he could ever imagine. I called him back to get him to called Dennis in case Dennis could do the same job today. He told me that he would call Dennis and ask and that if he did not call back, that this was to mean that Dennis was not available. As I have now come to expect, Richard did not call me back.

So, a comment on Richard is in order: He is probably sick and tired of his role in this case. He cannot wait for the Judge to order something else. He can not believe that my lawyer, John Helmers, has done nothing since the case got brought to KY. He does not understand that Lorena is fighting tooth and nail because Lorena shows him as little of her fighting as she can. Also he has not been to court in years and has no idea what LL and her lawyer are saying. The problem for me is that Richard just wants to walk away from my children. He does not call me back, he does not communicate with me coherently. Can you imagine that we agreed to meet on Sunday and he did not bother to call me, that I left many messages asking to meet on Monday or Tuesday and he did not bother to get in touch with me until Tuesday – less than one hour before we would otherwise have met? I consider Richard to be very much at fault for hindering progress in this case.


January 9, 2007
I stopped by down town to make a child support payment (25% of my income) and then met Helmers in his office. He said that there had been no progress in our case, that he had met Patti Walker Fitzgerald and had asked her what had happened about Christmas and that she had admitted to having forgotten about it. He said there is nothing more to do than feel the belly ache.

I called him back about an hour later and left a message to get something done – like a hearing.

January 9, 2007: An other Job down the tube.
The "Co-op - Business Assurrance Test Lab" job you have inquired about has been filled. You may go to http://www.upsjobs.com and check for other opportunities with ups.


January 9, 2007
Dear Lorena,
While I most certainly do 'celebrate' (your word) that my children and I spoke yesterday, I also wonder what you imagine you are accomplishing by cutting us off abruptly. Not that this is anything new, you have been like this since you started living in your mother's house in December of 2003.
Allan


January 9, 2007
I called my children at 7PM but the phone rang ten times and no one picked it up and of course, there was no answering machine: there hasn’t been one for over a year. I was about to call Richard Nassr and LeeAnn Gardener to let them know, when I decided to try calling one more time and this time Sofia picked up the phone. She was in an excellent mood. There are the topics that we broached:

• Do you paint with water colors or with crayons or with oil pastels?
• What color do you get when you mix red and blue?
• Blue and yellow?
• Green and red?
• How do you make black?
• Do you think the paint companies should make only three colors so that people learn to mix?
• What is roygbiv?

• The orchestral family is all the instruments in an orchestra:
• Woodwinds,
• Brass
• Percussion
• keyboard

• Did you see that a little bit of snow fell today?
• How cold does it have to be for snow to fall?
• What happens to the snow if the ground is warmer than that temperature?
• Why are there no rivers on the north pole?

• Did you know that when you divide by zero you get infinity?
• 1/0 = 2/0 = 3/0 = infinity.
• Ok, now I am going to ask you a very tricky question: What is 0/0?
• But only 0/0 = 1
• What is ((13+13 -13)X13)/13?
• Did you know that when you multiply by zero you get zero?

And then, when LL discovered that Sofia was talking to me on the phone, she quickly disbanded that phone call and Sofia told me that she has to hang up. I was just able to say ‘good night’ to Hannah.

So, I called LeeAnn to tell her that I had been able to get through to my children at 7:30PM and speak with Sofia mostly for 10 minutes before being disconnected by LL.

January 10, 2007
Michelle, Justice’s mother called me and that surprised me. She caught me when I was just thinking about how human beings are and so I did not make her conversation with me easy: I asked about Jen, who had echoed the crap from the Lasky family and told her that I wanted to speak with her. Michelle said something about Jen not wanting to talk with me and I said “yeah, well neither did Eichman, Mengele or Husein want to talk with with the people they affected.”

January 10, 2007
4:45PM I called Richard since he is already about to be late telling him that I really want my pep talk.

At 5:59 no one had yet arrived.
At 5:08 I called Papole and he checked my email. He confirmed that there was nothing from LL or Richard indicating a change in the parenting this evening.
At 5:15 Richard called to tell me that we are to meet at 5:30PM (Ooops, my mistake? It’s possible but I don’t think so because I wrote it in my journal right after he told me yesterday.) If we are all to meet at 5:30PM then Richard and I are supposed to meet at 5:15 for the ‘pep talk,’ so he is late.
5:30 everyone arrives. We remained at Day’s café. I had bought presents for my children which they loved opening. I also bought a present for LL. I gave told the children what it was: A book called “1001 fun ideas to do with children.” Hannah and I did the home work, she had to write out the numbers from 100 to 200! At first Hannah was able to do it, then she lost track of how to do it, then she regained her confidence and at the end, she was happy to do it. Sofia would, at times, tell Hannah the next numbers. I kissed Hannah on her head. We had a gentle, calm and very nice time. We did things like watch the Batman movie – I put on the subtitles and turned the volume off so the children had to read the subtitles, make paper airplanes from a book I had bought for them, put on finger nail polish from a pedicure kit, color, read…. LL came to pick them up right on time. I gave LL her Christmas present and she took it like she deserved it. But I did so in front of the children and so, since she has decided that she can push her shit on them, she took it like she deserved it. She is evil enough not to say thank you. Should I care? No, not for me. I care for Sofia and Hannah.

I unloaded on Richard when they were gone. Then I called him to add a last note.

January 11, 2007
Traveling to Memphis. I think of my children. It is so bloody disgusting what LL is. The only solace I can get is that by getting my children back, I will return okayness to my children. I get a call from Youth Dimensions “you can stay in Louisville – constructio is still on.”
4:00PM I call Richard to let him know I will be in Louisville until Monday
7:00PM I try to call my children but no one answers and so I call LeeAnn and leave a message with the information about today’s failure and the last call.


January 11, 2007
Dear Richard,
Yesterday you said that Ginger Crumbo has a Ph.D. and just in case you have not noted, so does the President of the United States. It is embarrassing.
Sincerely,
Allan

Several weeks later I discovered in a café in Memphis that I was wrong about the President of the United States and quickly emailed the following correction to Richard:
January 21, 2007
Dear Richard,
I was wrong about president george w bush having a Ph.D. like ginger. He only got an MBA at Harvard.
Allan

January 11, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I did call last night when I thought you would be home but no one picked up the phone -- it was very close to their bed time. So, let's work on telephone contact tonight at 7PM your time -- call me if I forget since I am on the road and there is a time change. Also then, it is more likely that you will give me a synopsis or anecdote of their day.
Allan


January 11, 2007
Dear Sofia,
If you ever want to call me, ask Mommy for help. I love you very much and have wonderful conversations with you on the telephone. I also think you are a quality paper airplane maker. I remember how you worked out, there was a mark in the book that was one inch long. You used that mark to make perfect foldings. Those folds made the airfoil of the wing of your plane. If an air molecule has to travel farther over the top of the wing to keep up with the air molecules traveling underneath, then it must travel faster and that makes the wing go up. I will explain this to you when we meet next time. But this is also why there is low pressure in the windy part of a tornado. And it was by watching changes in the air pressure, that Benjamin Franklin knew there was a thunder storm coming. It is because there is low pressure in the shower that the curtain moves into the shower and so on.

Here, try this! put a piece of paper on the table and push the sides a little bit together so that the center part of the paper goes up in the air. Then blow between the paper and the table. The paper will not go up even though you are blowing under it – the paper will go down.
(Mommy and Hannah may try this too but I think Mommy already has done this.)

You are a very good paper folder for airplanes and I want to make all the airplanes in the book with you. Then I want to attach threads to all the planes and make a mobile. Then I want to go camping with you and Hannah.

Lots of Love,
Your Daddy

January 11, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I am still in Louisville so please set up an appointment with LeeAnn Gardner.
Dear Richard,
Please set up a parenting time for us. Thanks to both of you,
Allan


January 12, 2007
7:00PM I try to call my children. First I call LL’s number but the phone rings interminably. I call this number twice.
7:30PM I call Nancy’s number and Nancy picks up the phone. I tell her that LL had sent me an email informing me that the children might be with her. Nancy tells me that LL had said nothing to her about me calling. She refuses to let me speak with the children. Then she says that she will call LL and see if LL wants it. I agree to call back in five minutes. I am very polite with her the whole time. She is like shards of glass and two by fours but I do not let that affect me. “I will not let you speak with the children without Rena’s permission, you poor person.”
7:35PM I call and LL is there! She has me speak with the children but tries to avoid giving me an update on their lives. I get her to do so and all is good. My conversation with Sofia is especially funny. We speak about MLK day, what he did, about Grandpa, Lori, Nicolas and Lucas, about Mommy’s Christmas present etc…

January 12, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I am here this weekend and then not next. Also, it's a three day weekend due to Martin Luther King Day, so please make a time for me and our children, Thank you.

Please schedule with LeeAnn.
Thank you.
As you know, I am innocent of everything including not getting a teaching job in Louisville and Texas, $$$$, etc... You are welcome to have the children call me but please call me prior to that to let me know about the children so that my conversation with them is more fluent. Again, thank you Sofia tells me that she does not get to read my emails. Please have her read my emails. Again, thank you.
Sincerely, Allan

January 12, 2007; LL writes:
Allan,
Does this mean you are not going to Tennessee at all? For how long will you be in Kentucky? I need to know before I schedule with LeeAnn.
We had the visit on Wednesday because wyou would not be here this weekend. Therefore, the next parenting time due is the weekend of January 19th. If you have enough money to pay for two extra hours perhaps you could pay child support. To date, you paid nothing for January & still owe over $200 for December. The $250 deductible for Sofia's surgery has still not been paid. You owe $125 of that and it needs to be paid ASAP.
There is a high chance that the children may be at my mom's house tomorrow at 7:00pm. I may just have them call you to avoid confusion. So far this week, you have talked to them Monday & Tuesday .
Lorena Lasky

January 12, 2007; LL writes again:
Allan:
As I said in the last email, you spoke to them on Monday & Tuesday. You spoke Monday for 20 minutes & Tuesday for 45 minutes. Wednesday you visited them from 5:30 to 7pm. By the time they got home, it was a mad rush to get cleaned up & ready for bed & Sofia to do homework. Why would talking to them at bedtime help the children? As it was they got to bed late. I did hear the phone ring--I was upstairs in their room with them & not about to go downstairs at bedtime to get it. Was it an emergency?
Lorena Lasky
January 12, 2007
Dear Lorena,
You ask if a telephone call is an emergency. If I had the children and I had not allowed them to communicate with you, as you have done with me, you would consider it an emergency too. It has been an emergency or three years.

Furthermore, if there has been a tsunami, tornado, nuclear blast or other natural or un-natural disaster there has never been any indication of such incident being a reason for communication on your behalf. This situation is so extreme, that you have NEVER called me, not even when either of my children was sick. In short, you have never called me to deliver me any information about the children. You have never called me for any reason since arriving in the United States. You have hidden behind your retained co-players, Kim and Ginger et al. You are hiding the children and yourself from your own self.
I refuse to stoop down to the level of people like Kim and Ginger and... and wish you a nice day.

And so, just in case you are still in doubt about the importance of totally good fathers being in the lives of their children, the benefits of saying 'good night,' are incalculable. I hope you have a great time with your dad.

Sincerely,
Allan

January 12, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Hum? At least you admit to the salient features of telephone calls on Monday through Thursday: Your watch runs a little funny. As for your question about the benefit of bed time calls, the best way to answer it is to place you in the same predicament. I think then, you may understand.

When I have the children at bed time and you call, I will think that it would be important for you to wish them a 'good night' and speak to them about their day or their next day for at least a bit.

Did you open the Winter Solstice present I gave you on Wednesay? I hope you have a happy day and that you call Richard and LeeAnn.
Thank you,
Allan
January 12, 2007; Richard writes:
Allan; your account balance is $204.00. No payment has been received. Please remit. Thanks, Richard

January 12, 2007
Dear Richard,
The fee business is on par with realization along your
lines. I got an email from Lorena stating that Sofia,
Hannah and I can meet Monday. I would prefer Monday
morning: for breakfast but will, of course, take
whatever you can make.
Thank you,
Allan

January 12, 2007; LL writes:
We were suppossed to go to Michigan to see my dad. I did not tell you since you said you wouldn't be here anyhow & we made up the time Wednesday. Now that has changed & dad is coming here instead, but we have plans all day Sat & sunday. Is Monday a possibility?
Lorena Lasky

January 12, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Please send your Dad my best and tell him that I would like to get a telephone call from him or to be told that I can call him. Tell him that I missed him at the Kerrville Folk Festival and that Joseph and Jodie asked about him. Please send Lori my best as well and your little brother. Yes, Monday is fine -- in fact, it is my favorite day for us (Sofia, Hannah and I -- You and I) to meet this week end. Again: let's get together on Monday: You and me at LeeAnn's. Please call LeeAnn. Also the children and I should meet on Monday. I will call and please confirm. Please print out my emails to the children so that they can read them.... Have fun with your Dad.
Thank you,
Allan

January 12, 2007
Wow read the Courier Journal article about the social workers here in Kentucky! My blood is already boiling due to Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo - has been for years -- I am in a chronic state of total disgust and shock by their behavior, and reading the newspaper today required a massive amount of self control. I took some deep breaths and then, went for a five mile
run.

January 12, 2007
Hello Allan,
Thank you for your interest in the Anchorage School District ! As requested, your interview with Ms. Bellamy is scheduled for:
Date: Monday. February 12, 2007
Time: 9:00am
Place: Hampton Inn Nashville/Vanderbilt (lobby)
1919 West End Ave
It is recommended that you bring any/all of the following documents with you to the interview; resume, official transcripts, letters of recommendation, phone numbers for phone references and copies of any current teaching certificates. You will also need to complete an online application at www.asdk12.org.
Should you have any questions regarding the screening process or need to change your interview time, please contact me by email or by phone.
A little helpful information: The Department of Education is located in Juneau , Alaska . They are the best source to answer any questions you may have about certification and testing requirements. You can get information on how to obtain an Alaska teaching certificate at http://www.eed.state.ask.us/teachercertification by clicking on “Teaching in Alaska ” or you can call them directly at (907) 465-2831. If you are serious about teaching in Alaska , it is best that you start looking into this process; it takes at least 90 days to get an Alaska certificate.
Sincerely,
Peggy Perkins
Admin Asst, Equal Employment Opportunity, (907) 742-4132

January 13, 2007
Dear Richard,
Since Thursday I am waiting to find out about meeting my children at some time during this three day weekend. Also, I was barely able to speak with my children last night and in that conversation I found out that they are not travelling to see their grandfather, instead Lorena's dad is staying at a hotel in Louisville. I interpret this to mean that it would/could be possible for my children and me to meet basically any of the days of this extended weekend. Sincerely,
Allan

January 13, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Ok, so I have now paid about $160.00 to the D.A.'s division of child support. As you may well imagine this is close to 25% of my months income but I will try to add more.
Sincerely,
Allan

January 13, 2007
Thank you for submitting your application for employment with Anchorage School District. We have received your application and will release it for review by the hiring manager for consideration. If you wish to make changes to your application your user name is egonbegone@yahoo.com.ar and your password is ‘sugarschwein.’ You can update your application by visiting https://hr.asdk12.org/novushrapp/login/login.asp .

Anchorage School District


January 13, 2007
Dear Richard,
Since Thursday I am waiting to find out about meeting my children at some time during this three day weekend. Also, I was barely able to speak with my children last night and in that conversation I found out that they are not traveling to see their grandfather, instead Lorena's dad is staying at a hotel in Louisville. I interpret this to mean that it would/could be possible for my children and me to meet basically any of the days of this extended weekend.
Sincerely,
Allan



January 14, 2007
9:00AM I call my children and Hannah picks up the phone. Obviously LL does not know that I am on the phone at first but when she takes the phone from Hannah and I speak with her, it takes three seconds for the children to start screaming. I am trying to get LL to call Richard and she refuses to do so. She states that Richard has made no attempt to reach her and then one of my children screams “Mommy you scare me!” and LL states on the phone that the children are scared by one of the presents I had given them at Day’s café. She says ‘You can not speak with them right now because they are fighting and we will be gone all day, so tomorrow, bye.”
9:04AM I call LeeAnn and update her.

1:09PM finally a call from Richard and we are to meet tomorrow at 1:30PM at the Karma Café. Richard said that he was sick and had taken a day off, but is that an excuse for leaving my children hanging? He also seemed surprised when I agreed to meeting in the early afternoon – like he was hoping that I would not be able to make it. I was very polite with Richard even though he is sick in his handling of this case.

January 14, 2007
Well, what I can say is that I have remained in Louisville as long as I possibly could before finally leaving and going to Memphis. I am scheduled to meet Sofia and Hannah tomorrow at 1:30PM. I reckon I will be on the road by about 4PM and will arrive in Memphis very late... My time in Louisville has been marred by the idiot-social workers/ therapists and a legal mire that Richard Nassr allowed to flourish.... and the months continue to fly by, Needless to say, I tried to call my children at 7PM
this afternoon and no one picked up the phone.

January 14, 2007
Dear Richard and Dear Lorena,
Lorena has agreed to meeting any time on Monday, tomorrow and so it is up to you Richard, to agree to the time and place. Unless you have other obligations, I would like to see Hannah and Sofia at the Karma Cafe at 9AM. We have been there before several times. It is on Bardstown road, on the western side (towards Texas), just south of Grinstead (towards Paraguay.)
Thank you,
Allan


January 15, 2007
I tried to call my children at 7:00PM and no one picked up the phone. I checked to see if LL had tried to call me and she had not. I called LeeAnn to let her know.

January 15, 2007
Dear Lorena,
You are now about a hundred telephone calls behind. I will call tonight.
Sincerely,
Allan


January 15, 2006
The job of a prosecutor and of a social worker is to seek justice and present indiscriminate evidence. It is not to lambaste and be a pushy pig. This is the story of Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo who chose to take the lies for their own professional advancement. They are hiding exculpatory evidence. That is disgusting. "Potentially playing hide the ball" is the name of LL's game. When you really get into this, as I have been doing, and see what is potentially at stake here it is terrible what you find.


Sundering of my family demands reforms

My three year investigation has turned up shocking abuse and neglect by some social workers and supervisors in Louisville Kentucky who unjustifiably took me away from my children and my children away from me.

I have spent 5,000 hours and accrued nearly 400 allegations of wrongdoing.

Many of the problems, "were long-standing and, to a certain extent, part of a culture" that had developed in the Seven Counties.

I find that records had been falsified, that courts had been deliberately misled and that placements, including "permanency decisions," had been made subjectively and without proper oversight.

As well, I, a parent who complained and the few whistle-blowing staffers like Richard Nassr and Dennis Hefton were intimidated and retaliated against. This was obvious during the telephone conference at 7 Counties. "Shame on you," I compounded the problem by accusing Richard of yielding to the Seven Counties crap.

Kim Dial actually "boasted about making it difficult" for clients, according to Richard Nassr, and "thrived on the power of controlling certain families." Richard Nassr told me this during my next time with my children after Judge Dietz ordered LL have full custody of Sofia and Hannah.

And they were largely able to do so, according to the investigators, because the unaccountable fiefdoms populated by ostensible public servants nicknamed "The Queen of Removal" and "The Terminator."

It is that "the cloak of secrecy that currently dominates the process is not in the best interest of children and must be removed as part of any material reform."

Secrecy doesn't protect children; it fosters their harm.



January 16, 2007
I tried to call my children but didn’t call until 7:24PM and no one picked up the phone. I checked to see if LL had tried to call me and she had not. I called LeeAnn to let her know.

There are no good byes for us (Charlie) Sofia.

I will release you on bail of 100 rupees
Then I will grant release without bail.
But good god man you yourself raised the rent to go hunting.
But you’ve made this half naked, armed only with honesty and a bamboo staff waging war against the British Empire.
Watching the movie Ghandi is therapeutic for me because it mimics the manner I intend to implement

LL’s quote. The ways of truth and love have always won.

And I will save the court time I believe that non-cooperation with the devil is a duty. I have no defence. I am guilty as charged and if you truly believe the laws you have inflicted on my relationship with my children, you must inflict the severest penalty.

Whatever moral ascendency the west held today is lost.


You must make the injustice visible.

January 17, 2007
I called at 7:55 and LL picked up the phone and she allowed the children and I to say good night to one another. Sofia and Hannah were happy children on the phone. LL was dictatorial and unemotional on the phone. I was polite and reasonable with LL and I was happy to say good night with my children.


January 17, 2007: Finally I get some kind of email response from one of my daughters, Sofia.

Dear Daddy,
Hi.
I just finished reading one of Hannah's rainbow magic books.
they're 7 books-
Ruby the Red Fairy
Amber the Orange Fairy
Sunny the Yellow Fairy
Fern the Green Fairy
Sky the Blue Fairy
Inky the Indigo Fairy
Heather the Violet Fairy
From,
Sofia

-----------------------------------------------------------------

the underlined ones are the ones i am reading or have
read.
love,
sofia

January 17, 2007
Dear Sofia,
It makes sense that Ruby be the Red Fairy but it seems to me that Amber should be the Yellow Fairy (but she is Orange) so that Sunny is the Yellow Fairy.

It makes sense that Fern is the Green Fairy, Sky the Blue Fairy, Inky the Indigo Fairy but why is the Violet Fairy called Heather when she could have been called Violet, or Viola, or Vy or Vyolia?

I will read these books as soon as I get to a public library.
Lots of Love,
Daddy



January 17, 2007
Dear Richard and Dear Lorena
Ok, May you please set up two times for Sofia, Hannah and me between January 26 and the court date? The only days I know I can not make it is the court date and the day after the court date as well at the 12th of February. Please do this as soon as possible so that I can make arrangements. Thank you and have a nice day,
Allan

January 17, 2007; LL writes:
How about February 3rd & 4th, so you can do them in the same weekend to cut down on travel costs? (I assume you are still goign to work in Tennessee?)

January 17, 2007
Dear Lorena,
That sounds good, and .... Today I said good night to our children in a one minute telephone call. Can you set things up for longer better calls?
Thank you,
Allan


January 18, 2007
LL had indicated that I could call and speak with my children at 5:45PM but when I called the phone merely rang and rang and no one picked up the phone. I called again at 7PM and again no one picked up the phone.


January 18, 2007; LL writes:
Allan,
Last night you called at 7:50 pm instead of 7:00pm like scheduled. Therefore, you did not have time to talk to them. Perhaps what you could set up is an alarm on your phone or watch so you remember the time.
As far as other calls go, we are going to be challenged the next two days. The girls are going to a sleepover Friday right after school, so they will not be available. thursday is ballet practice which is from 6:30-7:30pm--again no time to talk. If you call around 5:45 pm, you could get in 10-15 minutes before we leave for practice (?).
What will work best is to set something up for Saturday. Are you available Saturday evening around 7:00pm?
Lorena Lasky

January 18, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Yes, it is true that I had called at 7:50 (or so) last night but that is not to say that I did not call at 7:00PM etc.... In fact, I called several times starting with 7:00PM before you finally picked up the phone at 7:50PM. What is much more important is that you do not call at opportune times for me to speak with Sofia and Hannah. I call and you do not answer for any number of reasons and then, you do not call me.

My cell phone has an alarm system that is set for calling my children 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year. In fact, I have three alarms and these are set for 6:55PM (get ready signal), 7:00PM (call signal) and 7:15PM (call again as needed signal...).

Again, it would be better if you call me since the "challenges" (your word) are at your end. Needless to say, I will try calling today, Thursday, at 5:45PM and on Saturday I will call at the same time that my alarms are all set to go, that is 7PM. Now in my email to you I asked you to please set things up for "longer and better calls," and you have responded with "(a)s far as other calls go, we are going to be challenged the next two days." I am therefore asking you again to brainstorm for a solution to the telephone situation.

There is another issue of great importance and that is LeeAnn Gardner. Please set up an appointment with her. Please set up an appointment ASAP for a meeting that is close to today. If you can, also please set up and appointment for 2-3 weeks from now (or at least before February 12, 2007)

Then there is the issue of emails. I got an email from Sofia but not in response to the emails I have been sending her. Does Sofia have the opportunity to read my emails? Why do you not give her the opportunity to respond to them now? I would most like Sofia to type the responses herself. She has typed several emails in the past and so I am sure that she is able to do this task. However, you have typed the last two emails and they have not been of the nature that is Sofia's.

Can you please let me know what Sofia and Hannah got for Christmas from your Dad and Lori?

Have they received the gift cards from Farmor and Farfar?

Thank you,

Allan


January 18, 2007; LL writes her responses embedded in my email to her:
See below
Lorena Lasky

________________________________________
From: Allan lasky
To: Lorena Lasky , richard nassr
Subject: oh Lorena, que te pasa?
Date: Thu, 18 Jan 2007 14:25:00 -0300 (ART)
>Dear Lorena,
>Yes, it is true that I had called at 7:50 (or so) last
>night but that is not to say that I did not call at
>7:00PM etc.... In fact, I called several times
>starting with 7:00PM before you finally picked up the
>phone at 7:50PM. What is much more important is that
>you do not call at opportune times for me to speak
>with Sofia and Hannah. I call and you do not answer
>for any number of reasons and then, you do not call
>me.
>
>My cell phone has an alarm system that is set for
>calling my children 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year.
>In fact, I have three alarms and these are set for
>6:55PM (get ready signal), 7:00PM (call signal) and
>7:15PM (call again as needed signal...).
You did not call at 7pm. I got a call at 6:50 & ansered it. It was someone doing a survey. I asked them to call another night because I was expecting a call at 7pm. I got another call at 7:10, it was someone trying to sell me a credit card.

>Again, it would be better if you call me since the
>"challenges" (your word) are at your end. Needless to
>say, I will try calling today, Thursday, at 5:45PM and
>on Saturday I will call at the same time that my
>alarms are all set to go, that is 7PM. Now in my
>email to you I asked you to please set things up for
>"longer and better calls," and you have responded with
>"(a)s far as other calls go, we are going to be
>challenged the next two days." I am therefore asking
>you again to brainstorm for a solution to the
>telephone situation.
You are suppossed to call 3 days a week minimum. The next 2 days can't be one of the 3. Saturday is fine.

>There is another issue of great importance and that is
>LeeAnn Gardner. Please set up an appointment with her.
>Please set up an appointment ASAP for a meeting that
>is close to today. If you can, also please set up and
>appointment for 2-3 weeks from now (or at least before
>February 12, 2007)
I will call today. But aren't you going to Tennessee?????

>Then there is the issue of emails. I got an email from
>Sofia but not in response to the emails I have been
>sending her. Does Sofia have the opportunity to read
>my emails? Why do you not give her the opportunity to
>respond to them now? I would most like Sofia to type
>the responses herself. She has typed several emails in
>the past and so I am sure that she is able to do this
>task. However, you have typed the last two emails and
>they have not been of the nature that is Sofia's.
Sofia read your email & responded to it;. She sat there for like 10-15 minutes saying she did not know what to say wbout what you wrote & she sis not want ot do the paper experiment. I said--"why don't you write about somehting that you want ot tell your dad about, then." She is not an experienced letter-writer--she is 8 & she should be able to pick her own topic, too.

>Can you please let me know what Sofia and Hannah got
>for Christmas from your Dad and Lori?
I'll ask Sofia to write about it.

>Have they recieced the gift cards from Farmor and
>Farfar?
NO
>Thank you,

>Allan
Lorena Lasky

January 18, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Yes, I called as stated in my email and, no, you did not call as indicated in your email, and so what is left is only what we agree about which includes:
1. There was a one minute or so tel call on Wednesday.
2. You did not call and consider the calls to be exclusively my responsibility even if you change the dates and times without any ado or see the tel calls as a 'challenge.'
3. The one minute is the only interaction my children have had with me with week.
You have never been fair to the children and me since arriving at your mothers house and still I wish you a nice day.
Allan

January 18, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Once again, I called at the time you suggested and no one picked up the phone. It is now 5:54PM and I will call again.
Allan

January 18, 2007
Needless to say I call at 7:00PM as well, but no one picks up- the phone.

January 18, 2007
Dear Allan Lasky-Headrick,
Thank you for submitting your application to the Memphis City Schools. It has been received and will be processed. You will be contacted via e-mail when the review of your application has been completed. Your application will remain on file with MCS for one year.
For more information on next steps, please visit http://www.teachmemphis.org/apply/next.htm
Your file number for this application is 21741.
The username for your online account is egonbegone@yahoo.com.ar and the password is schiele
If you need to update your contact information, please log back into your application at www.teachmemphis.org and click on “Update Contact Information”.

Memphis City Schools
Teach Memphis. Change Memphis.

Please do not respond to this e-mail.
If you have any questions, please e-mail teach@teachmemphis.org or call us at (901) 416 – 0232.


January 18, 2007; Francy writes from Paraguay:
hola mi amigo como estas????, como sigue la vida contigo??? que tal te esta yendo en tu nuevo trabajo???? aqi en paraguay la vida sigue igual todo suave tu sabes como es las cosas por aqi!!!!!
que tal pasaste las fiestas de fin de año??? ok como estan sofia y hannah???? ok dales mis saludos!!!!


January 18, 2007
Querido Francy,
Que bueno eres! Gracias por tu email = como un regalo. Mi Nuevo trabajo resulta ser como el trabajo que tenía Aldo – Es una escuala privada que no tiene dinero y no paga. Que mala suerte. Asi es la vida. Pero parece ser que despues de todo van a poder pagar. Vamos a ver. Yo no se que pasa con Sofia y Hannah porque Lorena las sigue escondiendo. Hablaremos con el Juez el 12 de Febrero a ver si se pueden arreglar las cosas. Pero cuando pueda, les mandaré a Sofia y Hannah tus saludos. Pasé las Navidades y el año Nuevo en mi propio estilo: imagínatelo. Te quiero Franci, y a todo Paraguay. Algun dia nos veremos. Un poco mas paciencia.
Un eterno abrazo,
Allan

January 19, 2007
Betty called me this morning from Paraguay. In fact she called me twice. . She wants to come to the United States and wants to know if she can go to the US embassy. I will email Lorena asking her to look into this. 595 0516262070 and then she called me a third time and left me a phone number to call her back on: 01 595 0981 - 997491
So, now that means that I have two people to follow along with towards the Lasky family: Martha and Betty. I go to Catherine’s house to send her an email and to see if she has sent me one like she said she would.


January 19, 2007
Hola Allan, soy Betty. Lo primero quiero saber que doqumento voy a necesitar para la enbajada porque quiero llevar a mi pareja y a Veronica. Me dicen que con ella, puedo entrar en la enbajada, o sea que con ella puede ser que nos den la visa

January 20, 2007
Hola querida Betty,
Te recomminedo que lleves tantos documentos como puedas. Estos son los documentos que yo sé que Francy tuvo que llevar que para ti serían.
1. Pasaporte para ti, tu pareja y tambien para Veronica.
2. Actas de nacimiento para todos que viajan.
3. Carta de buena conducta de la policia de tu pareja también.
4. Carta de buen trabajo de tu empleador(a) y el/la de tu pareja.
5. Documento que indica que la casa te pertenece (la propiedad).

Una vez que tienes esas cosas, pasa por en frente de la Embajada Americana. El guardia habla español y es un buen tipo si lo tratas bien. El te puede dar los formularios que tendrás que llenar.

Entonces vas a tener que ir a un banco en el centro -- el guardia te dirá como se llama el banco. Necesitas approximadamente 100 dolares - en Guaranies se puede pagar tambien. Pagas por una cita para una visa en la Embajada Americana. La persona en el banco te dará la fecha y la hora de la cita para la entrevista con la consul en la Embajada Americana.

Entonces llevas todos los documentos y el formulario (completado) a la cita.

Suerte,
Cuando llegas a Nueva York, te voy a visitar! Con todos los mejores deseos en el mundo,
Allan

January 19, 2007
Hola mi amigo,
que pena lo de tu trabajo, pero bueno como tu lo dices asi es la vida, jajajajajaja, yo pasé la navidad en Rojas Silva con mi familia, y el año nuevo lo pasé trabajando, fue una mala experiencia pa mi,x q la primera ves en mi vida que pase el año nuevo trabajando x suerte Cinthia vino luego para acompañarme, a propósito Cinthia te envia muchos saludos. Su hermanito te acordas el bebé, en febrero ya cumple 1 año, ahora estamos de vacaciones, en la facu, y en febrero también salimos de vacaciones en el trabajo, queremos caer un viaje juntos, vamos a ver donde vamos, y así la vida está x aqui, mi papá se operó recién de los ojos, tenía carnocidád en el ojo izquierdo, pero todo salió bien por suerte, te envio un fuerte abrazo, saludos
Francy

January 20, 2007
Querido Francy,
Yo también me rio de mi situación. Hay dos maneras de reirse, la una es porque uno reconoce que la vida es como un juego complicado con chistes y drama... la otra es porque es lo único que falta - un poco de risa. Que bueno es conseguir noticias de Cinthia y de su hermano. Eso es gran cosa, Cumplir un año. Le mando mis mas grandes deseos. Y tu papá tuvo la misma operación que también tuvo mi mamá. Mi mamá dice que ahora puede ver colores mucho mejor. Tu papá dice lo mismo? Como que los colores brillan otra vez. Sería un sueño para mi volver a Paraguay, pero esa chica, Betty, que Lorena y yo mandamos a vivir con Rececca, la hermana de Lorena, quiere volver a los eeuu. Ella me llamó ayer, y me mandó un email preguntándome como se hace para conseguir una visa. Yo le dije que tu le puedes decir.... Lo que yo no entiendo bien es porque Betty se communica conmigo y no con Lorena? o la familia de Lorena?... me parece que hay algún problema en la relación entre Betty y Rebecca?... pero no se nada de nada. Lo que yo si sé, es que la familia de Lorena es una familia muy dificil. Hoy conseguí un email de Fatima. Ella está preocupada porque Lorena dejó de mandarle emails y porque ella piensa que la dirección que Lorena tenía ha cambiado. Pero el email de Lorena es el mismo, y puede ser que Lorena no le da caso a los emails de Paraguay? Te accuerdas de Martha? La chica flaca con un hijo llamado Alec? De Canada? La mejor amiga de Lorena en Asunción? Martha se encuentra ahora en Canada y mientras ella y yo hemos communicado, Lorena no. "Asi es la vida." Texas se congeló. Un frio increible destruyó puentes, edificios, el agua en los automóviles se congeló y los radiadores se fueron pa'l dompe. Ahora es invierno en eeuu. Me gusta la nieve, bueno, ya te dejo, estoy escribiendo por escribir, la vida sigue sin igual pero te mando un gran abrazo, Allan

January 19, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I called at 7PM and again at 7:15PM. The phone only rang and no one picked it up. Que paso?
Allan




Allan draws an analogy
between George W. Bush versus Iraqi folk
and
LL versus himself

Title/Subject: 9/11
Date, location: September 20, 2001 at the house chamber.
Reason: To address the nation nine about the 9/11 terror attack on the world trade center and Pentagon.
What happened: On October 7, 2001 George W Bush invaded Afghanistan.

Title/Subject: Allegations
Date, Location: Several days after I got a job in January 2003, KY CPS
Reasons: For LL to not have to interact with me, for her to get the children and for her to be able to live a thousand miles away from me.
What happened: Hannah manifested clear signs of coaching and Sofia denied the allegations.

Title/Subject: Axis of Evil
Date, location: January 29, 2002
Reason: In his first state of the Union address, George W Bush cited Iraq as one of the rogue states that might supply terrorists with weapons of mass destruction.
What happened: The nation and Iraq become polarized.

Title/Subject: Slander
Date, Location: Louisville, KY
Reasons: An attempt by LL to destroy my relationship with my parents.
What happened: My parents are appalled with LL’s behavior.

Title/Subject :The mushroom cloud.
Date, location: October 7, 2002 in Cincinnati.
Reason: George W. Bush takes his case against Iraq to the American People with a prime time speech in the politically pivotal state of Ohio. “ We can not wait for the final proof – the smoking gun – that could come in the form of a mushroom cloud.”
What happened: In March, 2003, the American military invades Iraq.

Title/Subject:
Date, Location:
Reasons:
What happened:

Title/Subject: Mission Accomplished.
Date, location: May 1, 2003 aboard the USS Abraham Lincoln
Reason: To declare the end of major combat in Iraq.
What happened: The effort to bring democracy to Iraq goes on amidst sectarian violence and an insurgency. The war has claimed more than 3000 troops.

Title/Subject: Cour House in Austin Texas
Date, Location:
Reasons:
What happened:

Title/Subject: Second Inaugural address
Date, location: January 20, 2005 on the west front of the US Capitol
Reason: To dedicate the United States to fight terrorism without specifically mentioning Iraq.
What happened: Republicans begin discrediting the president. The intention to end tyranny is somewhere between dreamy and disturbing.

Title/Subject: Slander part II
Date, Location:
Reasons:
What happened:

Title/Subject: Hurricane Katrina
Date, location: September 15, 2005, in New Orleans
Reason: Try to offset the administration’s critics who were appalled by the pace and nature of the government’s response.
What happened: Bush continues to take the heat, now from most of the American People about his entire political game.

Title/Subject: Court House in Louisville KY
Date, Location:
Reasons:
What happened: Lorena’s lawyer argues that I am advocating my way or the high way.



This is the BBC on Iraq




January 20, 2007
I tried to call my children at LL’s home but the phone rang and rang and no one picked it up. There is no answering machine so I gave up communicating for the time being.

January 20, 2007
HOLA ALLAN, COMO ESTA ALLAN? ESTOY ACA , POR FIN ALAN ESTA SEMANA MI JEFE MA A FIRMAR EL CONTRATO DE TRABAJO. AHORA TENGO QUE ESPERAR EL RESULTADO. TARDA PERO SEGURO QUE LLEGA, TARDA MUCHO PARA SALIR LA CITA DEL GOBIERNO PERO SALIO. (I think she meant to put this verb in the future tense.)

January 20, 2007
ALLAN MI HERMANA ESTA GUAPA CON SU PANSA. ESTA DEMASIADO GUAPA. LE TENDO ENVIDIA. ES ENORME SU PANSA. ALLAN, SOY LA TIA MAS GUAPA DEL MUNDO. ALLAN COMO ESTAN HANNA Y SOFIA? COMO ESTA ALLAN? ME GUSTARIA MANDARLE A LORENA UN MENSAJE. TU ME MANDAS SU CORREO POR FAVOR. TE QUIERO UN MONTON.

January 20, 2007
Querida Fátima,

Yo ando por el mundo asi como tú. La vida no es facil pero es una experiencia que vale la pena. Pero entonces cuando me mandas un email -- que dice cosas tan buenas; como que tendrás una cita con el Departamento del Gobierno Español para otorgarte residencia en España -- yo me pongo muy feliz! Y las noticias que mandas de tu hermana son deliciosas! Me imagino que eres la tia más guapa en el mundo. Me lo imagino no solo porque sé como quieres a los pequeños, sino también porque creo que tú también quieres ser una madre. Esa es una parte de la vida muy complicada porque no se puede hacer sola. Que pena. (Solo la Virgen Maria lo hizo sin un hombre y aunque lo approximes, tú no eres la Virgen.) Es possible que tú y Lorena no communican por email? Cuando fue la última vez que ella te escribió? Yo sé que ella tiene tu dirección de email porque ella te conoce como "la Sirena Paraguaya." Eso quiere decir que ella tiene tu dirección de email. Le voy a decir a Lorena que te mande un email. Te quiero un montón y sueño ir a Barcelona para visitarte algun dia, quien sabe cuando, veremos. Parece que será un largo tiempo porque prefiero invertir mi dinero en Sofia y Hannah que son más el futuro del mundo. Sofia y Hannah andan por el mundo asi como tú y yo. Lorena no me permite ni verlas ni hablar con ellas por teléfono. Que te digo. La vida sigue. El correo de Lorena es lmlasky@hotmail.com
Bueno, te dejo ir porque he estado escribiendo un buen rato. Te deseo, y a tu hermana también, lo mejor possible, y para siempre! Allan


January 20, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Funny thing how two of your Paraguayan-connection people in the last month have gotten in touch with me and wanted to find you -- since we left Paraguay. Did you get in touch with Martha Dodge? I hope you did. Her son has Leukemia but she seems to be acting with power.

And now there is also Betty -- who lived with your sister: She wants to return to the United States and would like to get help from you or Rebecca. Her email address is betty_gutierres@yahoo.com.ar And even if you can not help her like we did (while we lived in Asunción, Paraguay) she has employment already arranged in New York and merely wants advice about getting the visa.

Have you made an appointment with LeeAnn Gardner?

I will call you in ten minutes... it is 6:50PM.

Can you get in touch with Ricahrd about Sofia, Hannah and I spending times together?

Thank you,
Allan

January 20, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Please make the telephone calls and the meetings happen. The game you play is at the expense of the children.

Dear Richard,
Please confirm that you are attempting to get in touch with Lorena and set up 'parenting' times. I need to know so that I can arrange my schedule. We can meet at the karma Cafe (for the first meeting) since we did not actually go there last time. I will determine a place for the next meeting (in consultation with you, if you like, or with you and Lorena if you both like) at the next (first) meeting.

Thank you very much and sincerely to both of you individually,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick


January 20, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Fatima, who lived with you and lived with me in Asuncion Paragauy, and who worked at your bar called La Plazita, would like to get an email from you. Would you please email something to la sirena-paraguaya? I hope that you and Martha are communicating and that you have emailed something to Francy.
Sincerely,
Allan
P.S. Fatima's email is sirena_paraguaya@hotmail.com



Let me make a small note here: I think that there are many people in Paraguay who have wanted to stay in touch with LL. Those two gay guys at the Britannia Pub, Carlos and Christian, her Paraguayan catalyst for the dissolution of our marriage – what was her name? Parents at the American School and so on, but no one in Paraguay is communicating with Lorena and the reason is that she has closed the lid on that part of her life since she is lying about me during that part of her life. Do you remember that our British Friend, Nic, tried for a whole year to communicate with LL by email and she never responded. So there are only two reasons for me to present LL and they are (1) to drive the point home that Lorena is hiding the truth about me in Paraguay and (2) just in case she does get in touch with someone (unlikely), something better can come of it. So now this month, I have asked her to get in touch with:
1. Martha Dodge – her best friend in Paraguay
2. Francy Velazquez – who lived with me in both Asuncion and in Fernando de La Mora and worked at La Plazita, LL’s bar.
3. Fatima Fernandez Arestequi – who lived with us in Asuncion, and me in Fernando de la Mora and LLin Asuncion and worked at la Plazita.
4. Betty Gutierrez – who lived with us at the start of our time in Paraguay.

January 20, 2007
I tried to call my children at 7PM and no one picked up the phone. I later called LeeAnn.

January 20, 2007
Dear Richard,
This is to let you know that I called at 7PM as per Lorena, today, January 20, 2007 and no one picked up the phone. I called again fifteen minutes later with the same result.

In fact, I have tried to call my children every single day this week (since Lorena indicated that a missed event automatically means that I can call the next day) and I have been able to speak with my children for about one (1) minute.

I will stop at this juncture because the email would become a mile long (that is a kind metaphor because it would, if measured reach the moon) if I tried to detail how many times Lorena has failed to pick up the telephone when a call was scheduled.

What is going on with ‘Parenting’ time?

Sincerely,
Allan

Just after sending that email I thought to try calling again although it is actually 8PM in Louisville. I thought that since it is Saturday that maybe my children would have a slightly later bed time… but no, no one picked up the phone.

January 21, 2007
It is 2:00PM right now in Louisville and there is no response from either LL or Richard. Hum, that’s a shame. (Shame on them!)

January 21, 2007
Dear Martha,
What kind of Leukemia is it? I understand that Leukemia, like Diabetes has a genetic component -- neither of my parents have diabetes and there is no record of anyone in the family having it but there is a mixing of genes that made me a viable candidate for Diabetes contingent on my becoming infected with a virus like mumps or the flu or something else… What prompted you to agree to go through with the chemo with Alec? I understand that it is cancer of the white blood cells – which I seem to recall are made by the bone marrow cells, are there ramifications in the bones? And you, you love life, you always seemed to, you always seemed to me (and I am a nobody to you) to believe that the world is a better place. Martha, I am keeping my fingers crossed like the intersections of all particles in the entire universe. Please write to me something about Alec. Please send my best to Gustavo.
Allan

January 21, 2007
Dear Lorena,
On January 18th, 2007 you emailed me that you were going to call LeeAnn. What became of that? Thank you,
Allan

January 21, 2007
At 7:00PM I tried to call my children and it worked! How long has it been? Two weeks or so? Except for LL the conversations with both Hannah and Sofia went very well:

LL picked up the phone and said “Yes?” and I said “Hello Rena, it’s Allan…” and before I could finish what I was trying to say LL said “Here is Sofia.” So, when Sofia got on the phone I asked her to please let me speak with Mommy first which she did and I asked LL to give me an review of the children’s day. She said “It is the week end (pause) and they were at a sleep over on Friday and they were at Grammy’s last night because I had a dance rehearsal (I am paraphrasing but I did not get the feeling that she indicated that she had gone dancing for the sake of meeting guys which, of course, would have been fine.) Then she put Sofia back on the phone.

I was able to recap the weekend for Sofia thanks to LL and this made our conversation start out really well. I asked her about her sleep over. Did you play games? Did you play games with 2, 3, 4 or 5 people? She determined that it could not have been five since there were only four people at the sleep over. I told Sofia about a slumber party that Papo and I had gone to where the game played was to see who could stay awake the longest but I assured her that I was ten years old. I told her that I had won because I was older than Papo. I told her that she would probably win too since she is older than Hannah. The Sofia told me that Hannah snores. I asked her how often Hannah snores and she determined that it was every fourth breath and that each breath lasts one second. Then Sofia went on to calculate how many snores emanate from Hannah in one minute, 15 was correct. But Sofia told me that Hannah snores for one and a half minutes and so I asked her to calculate how many snore she makes in that time interval. Again Sofia got the right answer, 22½ snores. Then we spoke about her last email to me. Sofia was creative and made up names for new fairies… (see Sofia’s email from January 17, 2007) “Brownie the brown fairy” and “Crystal the Snow fairy” and “Purple the Puppy-dog fairy…” Sofia told me that she was going to make a wand and bring me the recipee for our next encounter and at that point I heard LL say with a monochromatic voice “Sofia, it is time for Hannah to talk and for you to get in the bath.”

My conversation with Hannah was prolific and fun as can be. First I told her about the fairy books that are hers and which she knows very well now because Sofia has read them to her and because she can read them herself. And then something amazing happened: Hannah tried to speak Spanish. Hannah cannot speak Spanish because LL has created a non-Spanishness about her life but I spoke with Hannah in simple Spanish using lots of repeated phrases and parts of phrases and Hannah got so happy that she looked for a CD that had some songs in Spanish and sang them to me. Lorena was not on the phone at this time I don’t think because I could hear her in the background screaming at Sofia. Hannah and I continue to sing in Spanish. This is obviously fun for Hannah. Hola Hannah, yo quiero a Hannah, yo quiero a Sofia, yo quiero a Hannah y a Sofia etc… In the background I can hear LL scream “Well hurry up and get out!” obviously to Sofia who must have still been in the bathtub. Then Hannah has me listen to the CD by placing the receiver near the music box. Hannah says to me “I’ll be right back and Daddy, don’t go away.” “Ok, Hannah I will wait for you to come back.” I can barely hear Lorena and Sofia disputing something about a piece of paper. I wait for about a minute (It was between one minute and two minutes because the digital watch in the convenience store marked minute intervals…) and I can hear a song in the background and then Hannah comes back and asks: “Did you like that song?” and I said “Yes, Hannah, I loved that song!”
“Yeah, me too,” she says but then she adds “I think I’ve got to hang up.”
“Ok,” I say, “I love you Hannah.”
“I love you too,” she says “bye!”
-click-
And I look at the digital clock in the convenience store and it is 6:44PM, so I was able to speak with my children for 43 minutes which is 13 extra minutes.

Why? Because LL was busy with other things and Sofia, which distracted her. Lucky for me and the children! I note, over the last year, that when LL is over the children I am still able to speak with Sofia because Sofia has the strength to withstand LL but not Hannah. Hannah is 6 years old and she will cave in under LL and barely speak with me. When LL is not present, our conversations go very well. Thus, while LL argues that five and six year olds do not have what it takes to engage in a telephone call, this is certainly not correct with Sofia and I do not believe it is true in Hannah’s case either.

I returned the pen to the person at the convenience store who had overheard my conversation with my children and remarked “what a joy!” I had used the pen to take notes.

I called LeeAnn Gardner to let her know that tonight’s telephone conversation had worked.

January 22, 2007 – Monday. By 1PM I had still no emails from Richard Nassr or LL.
1. go to the place for drug test.
2. go to the ss place.
3. call my children.
Yes, I tried to call my children today and it did not work too well. Sofia picked up the phone and she very much wanted to speak with me. I started out asking her questions about physiology. What are the lungs for? What about the stomach? What about the brain? What about the liver? Kidneys? Blood? And then suddenly LL made her get off the phone. Sofia said to me that she had to go because otherwise Mommy would be late so I said good bye. I called LeeAnn and told her what the telephone call had been like.

By 6PM I got emails:

January 22, 2007; this one from Farfar
Today, I received copies of letters from Helmers sent to your addresses in Louisville (1118 S. Catherine St. and 535 Zane St.). Both letters are dated January 19. The first letter reads:

We are writing in reference to your non-support case. As you are aware, your non-support case was scheduled for sentencing on January 18 at 1:00 p.m. I appeared, but you were not present. I was able to persuade the Judge not to issue a warrant for your arrest. The case has been continued until February 7 at 1:00 p.m. You will need to be present at that time.

The second letter reads:

We are writing to notify you that we have scheduled your mediation for February 6 at 1:30 p.m. in our office. The mediation cost will be $240.00 for you and your former wife. You should make payment to us in the amount of $240.00 on or before February 2 for the payment of the mediator fees. Additionally, we should meet prior to the mediation. Please schedule an appointment for approximately one-half hour so that we can discuss your goals and our strategy.

These letters were received in the mail today. They were both signed by John H. Helmers. I will mail him a check for $240.00 to cover the fees of the mediator. Keep those two dates in mind: February 6 for the mediation and February 7 for the sentencing.

Please give Helmers your new address at your job, so that he can mail letters to you. When you settle down in a house or apartment, also give him that address. You could also let me have your business address and your home address.

Your Dad

January 23, 2007: so I wrote to John Helmers
Dear John,
The only way to communicate with me is by email. I have missed some important court dates because I did not know or remember or have any idea. Please do so now. Thank you,
Allan

January 22, 2007
Dear John,
We also need to get LeeAnn Gardner on the stand.
Thank you,
Allan


January 22, 2007
Hi Lorena/Allan; I will see what I can schedule for that weekend (the 3rd and 4th) and advise by 1/24 . Please be sure to advise exactly when the court date is and, if the hearing pertains to visitation and you need my testimony, that I receive a subpoena (with minimum three day notice). I am only able to attend by subpoena (ie: not by your request alone). Thanks to both of you. Richard

January 22, 2007
Hello, Allan,

Alec has T Cell Acute Lymphoblastic Leukaemia. Leukaemia is caused by both genetic makeup and environmental effects. Researchers are not sure how or what causes it but it is agreed that some kind of genetic response is triggered by an environmental stimulus/i, causing cells to mutate and start producing leukaemia cells.

Alec was admitted last January with a white blood count of 400 versus a normal range of 4.0-10.0), pleurisy of both lungs (he was only functioning on 1/4 of one lung), a large chest mass of white blood cells which filled the entire chest cavity, heart palpitations caused by severe anaemia, and a fever of 41C. He was placed in the critical care unit (one step worse than the intensive care unit), underwent a series of tests and procedures including the introduction of a femoral line; a type of dialysis in which the blood is removed, cleaned of excess white blood cells and then put back into the body; 4 blood transfusions). His difficulty in breathing meant that he had a respirologist with him at all times as well as a nurse who stayed in the room with him always. We discovered he was allergic to blood after a severe reaction and as a result any transfusions he has had since then have included antihistamine treatment.

Alec's type of leukemia is more treatable than AML by far however, it is on the most difficult end of the leukemias in the ALL group. Patients with Tcell usually die in the very beginning (when we almost lost him), are unresponsive to chemo, or relapse early in the spinal fluid or fluid around the brain. He had two types of specific treatment for this last factor including high dose methatrexate (5000mg pumped into the body for 24 hours then flushed for 48 hours after), and cranial radiation. We will see about the relapse.

This is a more detailed description than I have given anyone but you sounded curious. Alec is doing well, he has had smooth-sailing mostly, so far. We expect that to continue but if it doesn't, we'll face that then.

As for the genetic end, neither Gustavo nor I have a history of
leukaemia in our families. I guess it was just a lethal combination.

But on a happy note, Children's Wish foundation has granted Alec his wish to go to Venice. We will be heading there for 1 week, all expenses paid. He can't wait (he's a really interesting guy, he is fascinated by art, music, literature and loves to explore new places).

Hope you are well. I emailed Rena on her hotmail account, not sure if she still uses it.
Martha

January 23, 2007
Dear Martha,

Oh thank the heavens you are going to Venice! Rena spent Christmas 1997 there - That is where she discovered that she was pregnant with Sofia. I hope she writes you back.

I too have been to Venice (many times) and love it.

Yes, there are of course the standard Gondola rides and all that which I have taken as an adult, but when I was a little boy with my grandfather, I enjoyed the pigeons in the squares, the speed boats to and from adjacent islands, the bridges, …
oops I gotta go, but I loved getting your email. I was using a provisional public library computer.

Allan

January 23, 2007
Dear Martha,
A couple of hours ago I was in the Memphis public library and my time ran out on that computer but now I am at a cyber cafe (so to speak) with my laptop and want to continue to write... I am just writing what comes to me... But I was describing to you some of the things I had appreciated as an eight year old visiting Venice and suddenly I ended with a statement to the effect of appreciating your brutal honesty: Methatrexate inhibits cell replication, shit, the choices lead me to sense that you and Alec are truly incredible – any side effects? And cranial radiation and flushing out the inhibitor and chemo and.... I am deeply sorry that Alec is with ALL and deeply hopeful that everything will be the best that anything can ever be in the long run. It must be the case that Alec is the future of Canada and Paraguay, a treasure to be cared for like the entire ecology of this planet. I realize that I can not even begin to comprehend the feelings that you are swimming but wish like hell that I had a silver bullet to extinguish Leukemia. Are all three of you going to Venice? I hope so very much. Is there a community of parents in similar situation to yours with whom you have developed bonds? What has Alec done to your beliefs in God?

Rena still uses her hotmail account because it is the only email address she has used with me since we arrived in the USA. I have emailed your email address to her as well. It is probable that she has not yet read our emails since she has not yet responded to either one of us. I trust that she will within a day or two.
Dabble in color,
Allan

4. meet Jeff at Café. (a) fix computer (b) Email Yuri

Here I am, back at the old stand, trying to convince Kentucky that kids who find themselves in that Louisville CPS system may be treated with compassion and wisdom but sometimes victimized by incompetent, indolent or downright malevolent lawyers, judges, social workers and therapists.....

With their comments and actions, IDIOTS Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo, once again victimize my children by telling them they are not worthy to live normally in their community. That an appointed (idiot, sorry)called Richard Nassr, entrusted to see to the good of the Sofia and Hannah, is involved is especially reprehensible.

January 22, 2007
Dear Richard,
There will be a mediation meeting and a hearing on the 6th and the 7th.
Allan

January 22, 2007
Ok, Richard. Thank you. I am however more interested in weekly visits than what Lorena is proposing. (Please note that I did not propose the one-week-end visit idea.) You are also cognizant that weekly visits are recommended because you past statements indicate this. Please do what you can.
Thank you very much,
Allan


January 22, 2007
Allan; then I will check for availability this weekend as well.
Thanks,
Richard

January 23, 2004 – Tuesday
What a dream I had! It was a dream of the fantastic! Full of the wonders of synchronicity and play and serendipity. I felt like I was one of the participants in the unfolding of the universe, I understood the unity that exists and the binding of all events to one whole. I remember waking up and looking at my feet under the blanket and seeing them in the distance feeling like they were a part of me and like they were separate from me, I remember thinking of Harry Potter and transporting my thoughts into actions at a great distance. I felt connected with my daughters by some unquantifieable network of thoughts and emotions and I felt like the swirl was just as much a part of me as it was outside of me - by the swirl I mean the game that LL plays and my reactions and actions to it. But the flavor of the dream was chromatic and there was reds and blues and greens and yellows and the overarching sentiment that I accrued was one of understanding the meaning of life.
1. call Catherine and see what’s up with Youth Dimensions.
2. call my children.
3. Go to storage unit and look for documents and portfolio
4. Go to storage unit and pay them

January 23, 2007
Hola Allan, soy Betty. Tengo mi agencia le podes embiar los requisito y te doy el correo e-mail.
icarotur@telesurf.com.py
Tambien me podes enviar el número de Lorena o de rebeca, porque quiero hablar con ellas. Espero tu repuesta, gracias por todo. chau

January 23, 2007
Querida Betty,
Aqui tengo algunos numeros para ti: Pero te recommiendo que uses la internet que te doy tambien.
El número de Lorena durante el dia es:
(502)213- 2637
El número de Lorena durante la noche es
(502) 625-1218
El número de Rebecca durante la noche es
(502) 479 - 9235
El número de Nancy Lasky es
(502) 339- 8140

tienes que poner los códigos para eeuu delante de estos números cuando marcas de Paraguay. No sé que son esos números pero sé que tú lo haces cuando me llamas. Veo que trataste de llamarme hoy pero es mucho mejor communicar conmigo por internet y no cuesta tanto!

La dirección de correo email de Lorena es:
lmlasky@hotmail.com
Si tienes qualquiér problema communicando con cualquiera siempre te puedes communicar conmigo por internet!! Te ayudo como pueda, y manda mis mejores recados a todos en Paraguay.
Allan


January 23, 2007
Allan, when you speak to Helmers, be kind and polite. Make no accusations. Downplay his failure to notify you of the date of your sentencing.

Send Helmers an e-mail, written in a matter-of-fact and businesslike tone, saying that you now live in Tennessee, but still have the same telephone number and e-mail address, and ask him to communicate with you by one or another of these means. Tell him that I e-mailed to you the copies he had sent me of letters sent to your former address in Louisville. You can confirm that you are now informed of the mediation session on February 6 and of the sentencing hearing scheduled for February 7.

Your Dad

January 23, 2007; I respond right away:
Dear Daddy
Perfect.
Love, Allan

January 25, 2007; But I take a little more time to respond to John Helmers.
Dear John,
I had called yesterday to make an appointment but this was not determined for certain and so I am emailing you to please confirm a time and date for our meeting.
I now live in Tennessee, but still have the same telephone number and e-mail address, and so you may communicate with me by one or another of these means. My father e-mailed to me copies you had sent me of letters sent to my former address in Louisville.

I confirm that I am now informed of the mediation session on February 6 at 1:30PM and of the sentencing hearing scheduled for February 7 at 1:00PM. My father told me that he has sent you the payment for the mediation.
Thank you,
Allan

1. Call my children – Hey, it worked. It did not work at 7Pm but then I had been warned by an email sent by LL today. It worked at 7:40PM and I spoke with both my children very nicely.
2. Call Helmers about meeting before the mediation and trial.

January 24, 2007:
Mr. Lasky-Headrick,
Thank you for your ongoing interest in teaching with Memphis City Schools. The 2006-07 application you submitted Dec. 4, 2006 will be used to consider you for interim positions, or mid-year vacancies as the arise during the remainder of the school year. If we are able to find vacancy that you are eligible to fill, we will contact you about next steps in the hiring process.

Again, thank you for your interest in our district.

Teach Memphis
(901) 416-0232 phone
(901) 416-0540 fax


January 24, 2007: Another job down the tubes, imagine that!
Dear Allan,
Thank you for considering a career opportunity with AutoZone and for taking the time to participate in our online application process.

We regret to inform you, the current information submitted does not meet our qualifications at this time.

Thank you again for your time and interest in AutoZone.

Sincerely,
AutoZone Human Resources

January 24, 2007 – Wednesday
Dear Lorena and Richard,
I called today at 7PM. Today is Tuesday and I called because Lorena had written that a missed call can be assumed to be made up on a day like today. No one picked up the phone. It rang ten times.
Please act to correct this problem.
Thank you
Allan
January 24, 2007; LL writes:
Allan:
You spoke to the children Sunday for 45 minutes and Monday for 20 minutes. Today is Tuesday.
Wednesday we are babysitting at my sister's until 7pm, so we will not be home right at 7. If you can call closer to 7:20-7:30 on Wednesday, that will be preferable.
Lorena

January 24, 2007; And I respond:
Dear Lorena,
Two things about your email merit comments:
(1) One make-up call on Sunday does not supplant a whole week and more of your missed calls, And
(2) How do you measure the telephone call duration? On the Monday call you are 100% off when it comes to the time taken. What I mean by that is that I recorded only half that amount of time. You may remember that you were on your way out when I finally got through -- that is to say, when Sofia picked up the phone and it was well after 7PM. I had started calling at 7PM and
no one picked up the phone. Ten minutes into my conversation with Sofia (I did not speak with Hannah on that day), Sofia said "Gotta go, Daddy, because Mommy's running late," and I let her go.

I am glad I got this email on time. You sent it to me today. Yes, I will try to call a bit after 7PM.
Sincerely,
Allan

Let me introduce something from other aspects: The world’s current shit in the middle east:
• 24 January 2007: Senate panel votes 12-9 against troop increase in Iraq
• 23 January 2007: Rockefeller says Iraq is draining funds
• 23 January 2007: Republican Senators oppose more troops in Iraq

January 25, 2004 – Thursday
I get a call from Anchorage at around noon-time for an interview. Here are some questions I need to ask them:
1. Will any of my moving expenses be included? To Anchorage, back from anchorage at the end of my teaching contract? If I stay, will there be provisions for flying outside, to KY in my case? I have children in KY.
2. Is there an immediate opening? That is to say, starting February 14 – valentines day?
Ok, I did that and the answers to both questions is negative. But this was only a prescreening interview and there will be more interviews to come.
And then I must
1. Interview with Rod - did that and he effectively promised me a job.
2. Call my children – That went well. Of course I think that LL was on the brink of oblivion since she had emailed me that I should call later than 7:00PM due to the fact that the children were at Taekwondo practice at 7:00PM and I imagine that there was a fast and furious bedtime routine. But Sofia was mostly about giggles and amusement with words tonight while Hannah was mostly about describing kicking the air at martial arts practice.


January 25, 2007
Dear Richard, This is to let you know that yesterday, Wednesday, starting at 7:34PM, my telephone conversation with Sofia and Hannah went well. Sofia and I joked about the United Cakes of America, Ameri-‘cakes’ and that there are 50 ‘cakes’ in the Union. It was a good conversation with Sofia because it was funny to Sofia and it also had didactic elements: Puerto Rico is not a ‘cake,’ Mexico and Canada border with the United ‘cakes’ of Ameri-‘cakes,’ etc… I believe Lorena was busy with home chores.
Allan

January 25, 2007; I called LeeAnn to let her know (on her answering machine) about yesterday’s telephone conversation. By the way, I have almost never been able to actually speak with LeeAnn and therefore leave messages on her answering machine.

January 25, 2007; I tried to call my children. At 7:00PM the phone rang ten times with no one picking it up.

January 26, 2007
Dear Richard,
I just checked my email and am just writing to let you know that I am
extremely grateful that you called me today (Friday) at 5PM to let me
know that tomorrow (Saturday) at 1:00PM my daughters and I may meet at
the Karma Cafe, because without the call I would still be unknowing.

Also to let you know that I called this evening, at 7PM, and spoke with
both my children very well and for a long time. 40 minutes into the
telephone conversation the telephone line was suddenly and without
warning cut off.

Also I can let you know that I made a child support payment to the
effect of $550.00 -- not that this is of professional importance to you,
but that it helps the heart.

I intend to be at the Karma cafe at 12:45 and will be most glad to see
you then.
Sincerely,
Allan


January 26, 2007
A good conversation with my children and this time it started on time because LL actually picked up the phone at 7PM. The conversation last until 7:40PM. Sofia and Hannah and I spoke fluidly and well. You know what I love about my conversations with my children now is that non-sequitors are completely cool. Like we will be talking about school and then I can say, completely without recedent “hey, and then I had a different kind of question to ask you, and it is, are you ready? Can you count backwards from one hundred in fives? In twos? In threes? In fours?” and Sofia is able to do this and Hannah can count backwards in two’s… My children are compelling intellectuals! Especially Hannah! Of course Sofia can do much more than Hannah since she is nineteen months older, but Hannah is not only way advanced for Sofia at the same age in mathematics and science, but she is much more able in other things like kinesthetic abilities and linguistic improvisation. It is Hannah who has the reputation of being a poet. “Mellow, the yellow fellow.” It is not that Hannah is more intelligent than Sofia. My daughters are both equally intelligent. It is that Hannah has an older sister to learn from as well, something Sofia did not have. In effect, Sofia is paving the way for Hannah and this is lucky for Hannah.

January 27, 2007
Ok, so I am in Louisville after a long sojourn in Memphis and life is certainly very interesting. Wow! Last night, at 5:00PM I got a call from Richard who stated that the parenting time for tomorrow had been confirmed by LL. It is to be at 1:00PM. Richard made some lame excuse about having emailed me this information and I told him that I had not gotten it. He tried to blame it on the Internet. But the problem is that he had told me he would call me. He did not. Again, sloppy, lackadaisical, shoddy work. What to do but to let it go. By the way, imagine I had been in Memphis when he finally called? He probably called because I had sent two emails that said that I was coming to Louisville on the strength of pure hope of seeing my children. Anyway, if I had been in
Memphis when he finally called I would have had 20 hours to get to the Karma Cafe. One hour to get ready and one hour difference in the time, would have left me with 18. It is an 8 hour drive with a one hour rest stop, leaving me with 10 hours. I also need to sleep leaving two hours of leeway. That is the nutty way that the people in Louisville handle this case. They seem to not care.

By the way, don't you think it is incredible that John Helmers does not respond to my emails or my telephone calls? What is up with that?

And then, last night I called Kelly and Dawn Michelle but neither called me back until the next day, which is today. Kelly called me. We agreed to meet this evening at some unspecified time. I could like to bring her to meet with Stephanie.


January 27, 2007
I tried to borrow a moped from one of Skeeter’s sons but it stopped working effectively half way to the Karma Café. I called Richard to see if he could give me a ride. I was very hands-off about seeing if this was possible but he did not call me back until I had almost reached the Karma Café on public transportation (the bus.) He then made some excuse about his telephone not working, just as he had about the email recently. I believe now more than ever before that he is trying to help LL. I told him that my situation in Memphis is terribly precarious with communication as it currently stands between him and myself and only then did he apologize. Richard told me that Helmers had still not subpoenaed him. I immediately called Helmers and left a message on his answering machine telling him to do so. That Richard is asking for a subpoena is not a good sign.

During this parenting interval, Richard spent a great deal of time on the phone. He was almost never within earshot and many times he could not see me and the children. Richard quite simply is using this time as a time to relax and get paid for nothing.
But I had a great time with my children. First we went to the mid city café and there Sofia made a wallet out of duck tape for me and then showed me how to play poker. Hannah and I played with the poker chips then we went walking around and then we ended up at the convenience store and finally back at karma café. It was fun.

Richard arranged for me to see the kids at the same time next week at Days café.

January 27, 2007

Dear Richard,
I have a friend who hates Israel, Every time he mentions Netanyahu he says "Netan-(spit)-yahoo." I still get along with the guy because both he and I recognize the importance of dialectic syntheses. You can suggest and work towards symbiosis but each has their own sovereignty.
Anyways, I am confirming that the next parenting time is at 1:00PM at DAYS CAFE next Saturday.
Thanks
Allan


Dear Richard, (Not sent.)
I am emailing you to ask you to come to the court hearing independently of a subpoena. I am asking you to not be forced to testify. I am asking you to stand on your own. I am asking for you to walk the high moral ground without instigation. I do not want you to complain that your employer…

January 28, 2007
11:42AM I tried to call my children but no one answered the phone.
3:22PM same thing.

January 28, 2007
I called at 8PM and spoke with both children very well. Sofia knew somehow that there were over a thousand ways to come up with a dollar? Hum? How to check? But with just nickels and pennies there is obviously 20 ways and add dimes then there is 200, add quarters and there is 800 and add half-dollars there is 1600, but this is obviously a rough and large estimate because the larger coins exclude more and more permutations of the less value coins. (See more at end of this month.) And Hannah sang to me until LL told her to hang up with the result that this call lasted a total 17 minutes.

Then there are 18 days until the custody hearing.

Personal Hygiene
Eating
My eight year old, Sofia, does not seem to have a big appetite, and is not experiencing weight gain. I have no need to control weight gain by limiting sweets and starchy foods. She still dislikes some food, and is especially sensitive to food smells. Sofia can cut her own meat now. Her table manners are greatly improved, but she does not need to be reminded to slow down and not burp at the table! My six year old Hannah is on drugs for ADHD and behaves like an eight year old and I am very uncomfortable with this. I want Hannah to be herself. She is skinny but at times is very hungry. Hannah is very well behaved, even for an eight year old, but I am very wary of considering this to be the real Hannah and I want to know the real Hannah.

Sleeping
Sofia is starting having a later bedtime. She has to be reminded to go to bed and will put it off as long as possible as I have been able to tell since I call just before bed time and since she describes sleep overs as involving staying up as late as possible. She probably needs a behavioral incentive to get to bed on time (early bedtime tomorrow night or no radio unless he is in the bed) and it does not sound to me like LL believes in this. Since I am on the phone it is hard for me to provide any incentives other than words. It appears that now Sofia sleeps soundly and rarely has nightmares. She did when she was lying to the KGB. The average number of sleeps hours is now ten? If she goes to sleep at 9Pm and wakes up at 7AM?

Sofia still likes to be tucked into bed by Mommy (LL).


Bath and Dressing
From the screaming and yelling in the back ground I am assuming that Sofia and Hannah both need to be reminded to clean their face, neck, and fingernails. She needs to be reminded to “soap up” and to brush her teeth? To clean up her room? as she will try to rush through cleaning routines which seems to happen in the kitchen, again as I can discern from the manipulative commands LL barks in the background. I am prepared to bet that Sofia dresses herself completely, and likes to pick out her own clothes each day but probably Hannah is still completely LL’s canvas. This is indicated by the clothes they wear when they come to me. For example, Richard (that nincompoop) will recognize that Sofia is wearing shoes that are much too large for her and I will discern that Sofia had wanted to wear those shoes….She also likes to be involved in picking out her clothes at the store, but is still open to suggestions because when we have gone to the second hand store she has clearly shown a preference for clothes but a willingness to consider arguments for selecting on the basis of it being winter time…

I believe that my 8 year old child, Sofia, has emotions which are expressed selectively openly. Anger is a prominent emotion in Sofia’s life. She may blow up at her mother (I can not count the number of times I have experienced Sofia screaming at the top of her lungs in the background), friends, and especially Hannah – who is a very tough cookie and holds her own, often making Sofia cry. Sofia is very dramatic in her verbal expression, saying “This always happens to me,” or “I never get to do what I want.” Rude and obnoxious are two descriptive terms that LL would apply to Sofia. She thinks she knows more than she really does, and comes off as a know it all. She likes to argue and is critical of others, especially her mother. Sofia seems at times impatient and wants to do things immediately. She can't stand to wait for special events such as birthdays, Christmas, and family vacations. Involving her in preparations and planning helps her cope with the torture of waiting for these special days.

Sofia is very attention-seeking and will follow me around constantly and vies for my attention and away from Hannah. I have never been able in the USA to spend time alone with Sofia, but I have with Hannah.

Sofia’s emotions shift as frequently as her activities, so she usually she can be calmed quickly when upset. There is one important exception to this and that is when she is stuck in the middle between LL and me. For example, she is always on very thin ice when she is dropped off by LL. Then, the only way that she can become calm is for LL to get out of there. I believe she can go from calm to furious in the blink of an eye. When I have custody of Sofia I expect this to happen to me too, but I expect it will not happen with anything like the frequency that it happens to LL. All of these negative behaviors are Sofia’s way of coping with her development in the shit that KY has placed in her life and asserting herself in the world. When I look past these difficult qualities to the courage and openness I avoid panic and stay hopeful. Guidance and planning for good behavior is the best strategy.

Sofia is courageous and open to new experiences. Some of the lingering fears they do experience are of fighting, of failing, of others finding fault with them or not liking them, of snakes, and of the dark. Often, their coping mechanism for fearful feelings is to compulsively confront a fear until it is mastered. This brave approach is evidenced in their fascination with books, movies, TV programming, and Web sites about fire, storms, blood, violence, dangerous animals, etc. Our children certainly have plenty of opportunities to witness frightening events on TV and video games, and we often worry about why they are drawn to this material. Wise parents will supervise their child when she views frightening themes, discussing the issues and helping her to confront her fears within the safe confines of a nurturing family. This is something I do not think LL and Nancy (especially) are good at doing. Fear is much more the modus operandi for them – it’s atrocious. Still anxiety and worry are more prevalent than outright fear because she understands that LL and Nancy are liars. Anxiety is eased when parents are consistently available to help the child understand and plan for new and difficult situations. Often, the child will not admit to or talk about her worries or fears, so sensitivity and open communication from the parent means a lot: A mixed bag in the case of LL.

Sofia does not seem to have many dreams. Her dreams are mainly pleasant and related to daily happenings. Nightmares are now infrequent, though can be triggered by watching a scary movie or TV show. Sofia used to have nightmares from Hell last year. She would tell me and they were always about her grandmother talking to her.

Back then, Sofia was more interested in introversion. Now at eight her personality is definitely more extroverted. She is interested in being out in the world with other people, going places, doing things. She evaluates herself against the standards of others -parents, peers, and teachers. Because her performance often does not measure up to the perceived standards of others, she can feel inadequate and unhappy. At eight the seeds of peer pressure are sown. Parents and teachers can help her self-esteem by providing opportunities for successful mastery. High expectations for behavior and school performance are important, but for these external expectations should be realistic and accompanied by plenty of support and encouragement an this is much more important in the case of my medicated Hannah.

Sofia does not like to be ordered around.

I can see that LL and teachers who use an authoritarian style of instruction see sullenness and resentment in Sofia. He responds better to subtle cues and reminders. He also wants special privileges such as later bedtimes. A smart parent will use the if-then approach to managing eight's behavior - If you clean your room completely, then you can have your friend over to play today. Self-consciousness is apparent in the eight year old. She is aware of his differences - wearing glasses, being left-handed, having freckles, learning difficulties - but is not yet terribly bothered by these differences. Self-acceptance can be nurtured now to carry him through the coming years. Eight can be very dramatic and loses himself in pretending to be a character from TV or movies. Regarding sex, the eight year old is becoming more aware that the specifics are not very clear. So, some will ask, others will not. Girls are more likely to broach the subject with mother, specifically regarding intercourse and menstruation. Of course, the children will discuss the subject among their friends, as well as begin to make the connection from observing animal's mating. This is a very good age to begin to discuss sex in more detail with many children, in response to their questions. If she doesn't ask or seem aware, perhaps I can put it off until nine or ten.

Eight year olds are involved in boy-girl relationships. Boys notice pretty girls and girls will chase handsome boys on the playground. Parents should be alert to the possibility that their eight year old girl could become involved in sexual play with older boys. Parents should not allow the circumstances that might lead to this to occur. Friendships are so important to an eight year old child. The lucky eight year old will live in a neighborhood where group play is readily available. He also will have a best friend, though they may have frequent disagreements and fights. At eight, child's play is almost totally segregated, though girls will chase boys on the playground. Eight gets along especially well with older children, but parents should assure that any older playmates are a positive influence rather than negative. The eight year old begins to get along better with his younger siblings, but easily regresses to teasing and fighting with them. The relationship improves if parents give the eight year old some privileges that her younger sibling, Hannah, does not have.

Sofia is not as helpful as Hannah even though she has more mature abilities. If she is in the mood, she might do her chores willingly, but she usually grumbles and moans when
required to do chores, and will try to avoid them. New
responsibilities are tackled with enthusiasm, however.
Boys and girls enjoy cooking at this age. The primary
task with the eight year old at home is learning
organization. This is a good age to use chore charts
and behavioral point systems. Some parents object to
using money as rewards, but for the eight year old it
is a good motivator and opportunity to learn money
management.

Active group play, sports, clubs, and table games are
the eight year old child's favorite play activities.
Any pastime that is enjoyed with others attracts her.
She is very organized in her play. She will organize a
group for a club or arrange elaborate doll play. Boys
and girls enjoy both organized and neighborhood
sports. Playing board and card games with the family
is a great opportunity to build family bonds and have
fun. You can't go wrong with Monopoly, Risk, Clue,
Dominos, Hearts, or trivia games.

Eight year olds also enjoy drama, and love it when an
older child invites them to be in a show or
performance. Some eights enjoy reading. If yours
doesn't, perhaps he could be encouraged with
magazines. He still loves to be read to by teachers
and parents. Boys tend to like non-fiction books and
girls at this age like the easy series fiction
readers.

Eight is beginning to show an interest in popular
music.
Favorite toys for the eight year old are construction
sets, doll collections, science kits, arts and crafts
kits, sports equipment, and board games. Eight year
olds love collections of any kind as they satisfy
their developmental need to classify and organize
their world.

Certainly Sofia responds best to variety in her life, both at school life. They handle transitions well now, and enjoy moving from one learning activity to another during the school day. This shifting of attention and interest can cause problems, but is to be expected of the eight year old's developmental level. They get a deep satisfaction from being part of their class group
at school, and generally enjoy being at school more
than being at home. They are still boisterous and
impatient, but more capable of working on an
assignment without depending on the teacher's close
presence.

Many eight year olds are good readers now and will
begin to read library books for pleasure. Writing
skills are still rudimentary, with relatively poor
spelling and grammar in written assignments. Oral
communication is more developed, and she can speak
using good pronunciation and grammar.


Oral learning is thus very important in the third
grade classroom, and may include reading aloud and
oral math drills.
School and home become more interrelated in the third
grade. Eight enjoys bringing items from home that are
related to a school project or his personal
experiences. He is also more likely to relate to his
parents the events of the school day. He feels great
pride when his mom or dad serve as the room parent or
contribute to the class in some way

Eight year old children are very concerned with right
and wrong. They need and want to know what is right
and wrong in order to guide their own behavior. They
are forming opinions about the big issues with the
guidance of their parents, teachers, church, and
society. Eight year olds want to do what is right and
to be recognized and praised when they do.

That said, it's the little issues that confuse her.
She will not hesitate to blame someone else when she
does something wrong, make up an alibi to explain her
lateness, or tell an outright lie to prevent being
punished. If she is criticized she may burst into
tears or take an attitude of who cares. It's as if she
cannot tolerate being wrong or guilty so she will go
to any lengths to deny or explain away her guilt.
Another distressing behavior that is fairly common in
eight year olds is stealing.
Often she will use money that she has stolen from
Dad's change to buy something for someone else. The
eight year old is obsessed with money and the toys and
treats she can buy with it. This is a good age to use
money as an incentive for chores as it will certainly
motivate her.
The eight year old child will rarely respond
immediately to instruction from his parents. He
dawdles, offers excuses, or argues with his parents
when asked to do something. He is more motivated to
complete a task if he is to receive a small reward or
star on his chore chart. Physical punishment is very
detrimental to an eight year old and should be
avoided. His sense of self at this age can be greatly
harmed by humiliating and heavy-handed discipline
techniques, with the devastating result of an angry,
disturbed child. He is so responsive to positive
behavioral management techniques using rewards and
incentives that there is really no sense in using
spankings or harsh punishment.

By age eight, children have integrated the concept of
death and accept that all people, including themselves
will die. She accepts what she has been taught about
God, and shows an interest in reading the Bible and
going to Sunday School. Many children begin memorizing
Bible verses and passages in the third grade, and they
enjoy the challenge and accomplishment of this skill.
She enjoys hearing Bible stories and begins to pray.
This is a good age to teach a child how to pray, both
silently and aloud. She is still interested in Heaven,
takes for granted that God is in Heaven, and that
Heaven is where you go when you die.

Eight's world of space and time is expanding. He
ranges farther out into the neighborhood, and knows
all the routes and shortcuts to get to his favorite
play places.

Sponsored Links
Child Behaviour Problems?
The fastest and easiest way to get your children to
listen and behave.
Good-Child-Guide.com

What Type of Mom Are You?
A fun test to find out what type of parenting style
fits you!
www.AreYouASlackerMom.com

5 Rules for Parents - DVD
Raise responsible, independent kids Get beyond crisis
management.
www.parentingwithdignity.com/
He is interested in maps and geography, and loves to
visit new places in his town and on trips with the
family. Eight can also now distinguish right and left
on another person as well as on himself.
Interestingly, eight regresses in his ability to tell
time. Though quite able to keep up with the times of
his favorite TV program, he is not as cognizant of the
times to go to bed or come in from play. Selective
time-telling, you could say, is common in normal eight
year olds. He has an interest in learning about events
in history and will enjoy stories and projects that
explore times past. By age eight, children have
integrated the concept of death and accept that all
people, including themselves will die. She accepts
what she has been taught about God, and shows an
interest in reading the Bible and going to Sunday
School. Many children begin memorizing Bible verses
and passages in the third grade, and they enjoy the
challenge and accomplishment of this skill. She enjoys
hearing Bible stories and begins to pray. This is a
good age to teach a child how to pray, both silently
and aloud. She is still interested in Heaven, takes
for granted that God is in Heaven, and that Heaven is
where you go when you die.

Eight's world of space and time is expanding. She
ranges farther out into the neighborhood, and knows
all the routes and shortcuts to get to her favorite
play places.


She is interested in maps and geography, and loves to
visit new places in his town and on trips with the
family. Eight can also now distinguish right and left
on another person as well as on himself.
Interestingly, eight regresses in his ability to tell
time. Though quite able to keep up with the times of
his favorite TV program, he is not as cognizant of the
times to go to bed or come in from play. Selective
time-telling, you could say, is common in normal eight
year olds. She has an interest in learning about events
in history and will enjoy stories and projects that
explore times past.


Let me introduce something from other aspects: The world’s current shit in the Middle East:
• 6 February 2007: Iranian diplomat kidnapped by men with Iraqi defense ministry IDs
• 4 February 2007: Iraqi suicide bomber kills 121, injures over 200 others
• 2 February 2007: Insurgents shoot down U.S. helicopter near Baghdad
• 30 January 2007: Informal MSNBC Poll: 87% of respondents believe Bush should be impeached
• 30 January 2007: Iran to expand military and economic ties with Iraq; will reconstruct nation
• 29 January 2007: Thousands protest Iraq war in Washington D.C.


January 28, 2007 - Sun.
Dear Richard,
This is to confirm that the parenting interval is to start at 2:00 PM at Day's cafe. I would appreciate being able to speak with Alicia for a few minutes before the parenting time starts. I believe this would be good for Alicia. Please recommend to her that she arrive fifteen minutes before 2:00PM.
Thank you very much,
Allan


January 28, 2007 - Sun.
Dear Allan,
Please plan on being her at approximately 12:00 p.m. on the date of the
mediation. This should give yourself and Mr. Helmers plenty of time
to prepare for mediation. I figured this would work better for you as you
are now living in TN. Let me know if you have a problem with this time and
we can rearrange it, if necessary.

Also, if you would please forward us an updated address.

Thanks!!


It is interesting to me that I got this on Sunday. This comes from Jill, Helmers' secretary who
apparently works on Sunday?

January 28, 2007 - Sun.
Dear Jill,
Your suggestion is Perfect, thank you!
Also I made a child support payment to the effect of $550.
Allan



January 28, 2007 - Sun.
By pure fluke I was able to speak with Sofia today...
I called at 6PM and LL picked up the phone! I asked her if I could speak with Sofia and Hannah and she said that either I could speak for a long time later or I could speak for a little before dinner and then call back for an other, shorter time. I said "What ever you like.," She did not want to decide. She wanted me to take responsibility for the transpiring of the telephone call. I said "You decide," and did not deviate from that. She said "Ok, here is Sofia." But then she remembered to give me an update of the children's day so that I was cued into their day. She told me that they had stayed with Nancy (or so I thought) because she had worked and belly danced. It was not clear to me whether belly dancing was something she was being paid for. Then Sofia and I spoke for three minutes. At first I thought I was speaking with Hannah. It is possible that I had been speaking with Hannah and that Hannah quietly passed the phone onto Sofia. I do not know, but after about one minute I worked it out that I was talking to Sofia because the utterance was Sofia-esque: "sign a million dollar record deal with Sony." and then we spoke about the email that we had exchanged. I asm going to guess that she read my email within the last few hours. I had checked my email four hours ago and it had not had any response from Sofia. Also Sofia had a perfect memeory, not only of what she had written but also what I had written. Then, Sofia said "I have to eat dinner." "Ok Sofia I wil call you back later. Tell mommy that I will call you back later." "Ok," and I can hear her telling LL. Then she adds: "Call me back Daddy," And we exchange "I love you"s.

Again I called and it was a long and good telephone conversation. There is a paper that describes this telelphone conversation and I hope to type it in as time allows... Yes, here goes: Sofia had a number of recipees that she wanted to give me and I diligently wrote them down:
1. To make a "Paintbrush made of Chocolate," the ingredients are (1) Bubble tape (2) Milk Chocolate, 1 piece (3) a straw (4) Sugar, brown. Then, open the milk-chocolate package, remove one piece and wrap it up with bubble tape and "then push on it so that it stays there." Use micro-waved chocolate to keep it all glued together. "Then cut about two and a half inches of straw off and use the melted chocolate to glue it on." Add brown sugar in the straw and freeze.
"Am I supposed to close the open end of the straw with molten chocolate?" I ask. "Yes! You are supposed to glue all pieces with micro-waved chocolate."
"How long am I supposed to microwave the chocolate?" I ask. "Oh, about one and a half minutes will do," Sofia says.
2. Then she describes to me how to make a chocolate home. The pieces of chocolate are glued together with molten chocolate and the roof is made with bubble tape.... When it comes to making the doors she says "use a knife and you have to be very carefull."
3. Then she describes how to make bubble gum people.
At some time in this, I can hear Hannah and LL in the back ground. Sofia is distracted from talking with me for a little and then comes back telling me that Hannah wants me to know that she has braces. (I am not sure this is true because there has been no note of this from LL and because Sofia shortly later denied it.) In the slight confusion it seems to have been determined that Hannah was not going to speak on the phone with me (because she has braces seems to have been a false reason given for this but the fact that it was false did not alter the reality that Hannah would not speak on the phone with me...) and I heard LL say: "Get off the phone now, Sofia."
Sofia said "Mommy said that I have to get off the phone."
"Ok, get off the phone Sofia," I encouraged her "I love you, bye-bye."

January 28, 2007; LL writes:
Saturday at 2:00 p.m. is fine with me at Day's Cafe.
Lorena Lasky

January 29, 2007; I respond:
Dear Lorena,
Very good. It is exclusively and only good that you are opening up to greater and greater interactions between the children and me. I will call the children tonight at 7PM. I hope you have a nice day.
Allan


January 29, 2007 - Mon.
I started calling my children at 7:00PM and it was successful finally on the third call, at 8:00PM when LL picked up the phone. I said "May I say good night to my children?" She said "Yes," and "They are about to go to bed." I spoke with both my children and with Hannah I had an unusually good interaction wherein which she sang songs to me.

And so begins another week of this quagmire that LL and Nancy have staged for my children. I am betting that tomorrow when I try to call for a make-up, no one will pick up the phone.

January 30, 2007 - Tues.
I called LL at 7:00PM and then again at half hour intervals until 8:00PM but it was as usual to no avail. Well, for what it is worth, I called only to listen to the phone ring interminably. I thought to call LeeAnn and email Richard (copy LL in on the email) but also realized that again LL was likely to make the claim that I had been able to speak with my children (or at least one of them) on Sunday and Monday and that there was no order that I be able to speak with them on Tuesday, so I did not push this point. Remember that last week this had happened.

January 31, 2007 - Wed.
I called John Helmers to confirm that Richard Nassr had been subpoenaed. I was not able to confirm that Richard’s reports had arrived. Richard had promised that he would send them over a week ago. That is maybe because I did not speak with Helmers himself but with his legal assistant.
I emailed Richard to tell him that if he had not gotten the subpoena that it was on the way because it is possible that he is concerned about this. How likely is this? On the one hand I think that Richard really wants to get out of having anything to do with this case but also, I truly believe, that he does not care about Sofia and Hannah enough to be particularly helpful. Do you actually think there is a chance that he will arrange for me to be able to meet with Alicia before Hannah and Sofia arrive at Day's cafe? Remember on the 28th I had written "I would appreciate being able to speak with Alicia for a few minutes before the parenting time starts." I do not think Richard cares.

As I was brushing my teeth, after lunch today, I pondered the heinous natures of Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo. Effectively, I think, these people need to be accepted as they are: appalling, unethical, immoral, sociopaths -- and I mean that in the deepest sense. To lie heinously and cause suffering and anguish to children (let alone me) is as atrocious as to be that which the lie entails. What I am saying is that they are as disgusting as pedophiles, as disgusting as god awful parents. And again, I accept that there are people like that in the world, just as I accept that there have been Hitlers, Pol Pots and David Koreschs. Of course they died for their actions but I think that incarceration is all that Kim and Ginger should get with a good dose of professional development or the loss of their professions. To psychologically warp a person (which is what Kim and Ginger have done to my children) is worse than to physically destroy a person (which is what happens when you are in an avalanche...)

January 31, 2007 - Wed.
Again, by pure fluke, I was able to speak with my children. I called at 7:00PM but the phone only rang interminably so I hung up. I called again at 7:30PM and still the same thing. At 7:45PM however, LL picked up the phone. She told me that the children had had a normal day in school and had then been to girl scouts. I deduce that this is why they were not able to answer the phone at 7PM. Also, LL told me that Sofia had gotten something in the mail...
First LL put me with Hannah. Hannah was in great shape and spoke with me like there was no tomorrow. She read me a book about birds and when she came across a word that she did not know, she would spell it out: "C-u-r-i-o-u-s,.." But LL did not allow her to continue on the phone after she finished with this book and was about to start another so the phone was transferred to Sofia who was also in a great mood. She described the magazine she had received in the mail - some kind of zine for 'creative girls,' and proceeded to tell me what was in it. Of particular interest was a kind of paper that could be made fluffy. Then she told me that it had been the 100th day of school. Hannah's class had celebrated this day by bringing in a piece of art with one hundred elements to it. Hannah had glued 100 beans on a blue construction paper. "She lost some beans," said Sofia "now there are only 97." At one point in the conversation we were talking about dividing and Sofia said that 123/3 = 41. I asked her how she knew this and she said that she had "counted by threes." Then suddenly, Sofia said "gotta go Daddy, bye bye." I said "Ok, Sofia, you can go, I love you." But she did not want to get off the phone and added "There is no such thing as the United States of America, this is the United Cakes of Ameri-"cakes..." and then as I was answering to this, the phone went dead.


How many ways are there to make a dollar?
It seems to me that if you find out how to make 50 cents, then you can square that and get the answer for a dollar? If Sofia is right about there being a 1000 ways to make a dollar then, there should be about √1000 or about 30. That should be easy to determine….
So, how many ways are there to make a half dollar?
1. With just pennies alone, nickels alone, dimes alone, quarters alone and half dollar there are 5.
2. With only pennies and nickels there are 9.
3. With only pennies and dimes there are 4.
4. With only pennies and quarters there are 3.
5. With only nickels and quarters there is 1.
6. With only dimes and quarters there is none.
7. With only pennies, nickels, dimes and quarters there are 11, I think.
Which adds up to 33 and 332 is 1089. Hum, but I am not inclined to think that this is exact because it’s an un-even step function.
Maybe the way to do this is to imagine the graph of frequency of a given coin against the coin. Then, find the mean frequency and square it. So, is the mean frequency of a given coin about 30? At most there are 100 pennies and at the least there are 2 half dollars and that averages to 51 but the graph is obviously skewed to the higher denominations because it is a whole lot easier to fill in with pennies to make the dollar than it is with higher denominations which therefore rule in determining the number of coins in the heap that comprises the dollar, so I expect it to be less than 51 and I am just waffling.






18. January 26, 2007 *- Friday call children, help Stephanie
17. January 27, 2007 –
16. January 28, 2007 –
15. January 29, 2007 – Monday call children
14. January 30, 2007 – Tuesday
13. January 31, 2007 – Wednesday interview with Schnukers at 9AM (change if need 901 272 5500), call children
12. February 1, 2007* – Thursday, pay child support
11. February 2, 2007 – Friday call children
10. February 3, 2007 –
9. February 4, 2007 –
8. February 5, 2007 – Monday call children
7. February 6, 2007* – Tuesday, Helmers mediate @ 1:30OM
6. February 7, 2007* – Wednesday, trial sentence @ 1PM, call children
5. February 8, 2007 – Thursday
4. February 9, 2007 – Friday call children
3. February 10, 2007 –
2. February 1,1 2007 –