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oJanuary 1, 2008
Dear y’all (This email has been altered so as not to reveal details that the person it is being sent to asked me not to put on the world wide web.)
I wish you all the best.
I hope that the universe will unfold for you in the best way possible in 2008.
I believe that if you make positive suggestions that events transpire to endorse good happenings.
….. I think a great deal of you and in the kindest ways only.
Thank you for being so good to me in all your ephemeral and undefined ways.
Allan

January 1, 2008
Dear Lorena,
I hope the universe unfolds for you in the most beautiful way in 2008.
Sincerely,
Allan
I also called LL and left a message a few minutes after midnight.
Noon: I called the ‘linea baja’ but no one picked up the phone.
I called Nancy and left the following message: “Heypodey, this is Allan and I have two things that I wanted to leave since the message machine came on. The first is that I wish all of you a wonderful 2008. I hope that the universe unfolds for you in the most beautiful manner possible. And the second is that I would like to speak with Hannah and Sofia. I left a message earlier on the telephone answering machine and I am hoping that they were able to listen to that, and that they can call me back. Thank you very much, bye bye.”
Then I called LL and left a message asking for her to have Sofia and Hannah call me so that “we can wish to one another happy years.” I wished the same to LL.
4:00PM I called Nancy and left a message with her answering machine that asked for me to be able to speak with my children.
7:30PM I called many numbers, left messages asking to speak with my children.

January 2, 2008
11:00 AM called the ‘linea baja’ in vain. Then called LL’s cell phone and left the following message. “Heypodey Rena, I expect you and Sofia and Hannah are having happy times and I am hoping that you can call me to tell me about it.”
12:46PM I call the ‘linea baja’ but no one picks up the phone.
12:49PM I call Nancy’s ‘linea baja,’ but no one picks up the phone so I leave a message: Meine lieben Kinder Hannah und Sofia, Ich liebe euch natürlirch sehr und ich vermisse euch.”
3:55PM I called the home phone of LL and no one picked up the telephone.
Dear Lorena,
Would you please facilitate telephone contact between me and our children?
Thank you,
Allan
7:20PM call the ‘linea baja’ to no avail.
7:21PM I called LL’s cell phone number and she said that “the kids aren’t with me they are at mom’s house. So you will have to call mom.
Allan: Rena I have never been able to get through to the children by calling Mom’s number.
LL: Yes, I just tried to call three times and they did not picked. Mom’s phone isn’t working well so if they are on the second floor can I come and visit.
Allan: Hey Rena are you sick?
LL: Yes, I can not be around the baby.
Allan: Can I bring you tea or medicine and come by your place and talk with you about the children.
LL: No I don’t want you to. I don’t feel good.
Allan: Well, hopefully I have the chance to talk with you.
Lorena: No, you don’t.
7:30PM I call Nancy’s number and as effectively always no one picks up the phone. I leave a message: “Heypodey Nancy, this is Allan and God loves you very much and he wishes for enmity and strife to be obliterated so in an attempt to not have the potential for something like that to be even considered possible, would you please facilitate communication between me and my children. Thank you very much.”
7:36PM I call Lara Lasky and leave a message. “Heypodey Lara, Again I congratulate you and Rick on your beautiful baby. Rena indicated to me that she is sick and it must hurt her very deeply that she can not be with you all due to her sickness. I feel pain for her not being able to spend the evening with you and your baby… and with Sofia and Hannah. Would you please facilitate telephone calls between me and my children? I would appreciate that very much.”

Ok bye.
And then I got a call from Sofia on Nancy’s phone. This telephone call lasted 12 minutes and then when I called back, Sofia was intent only on passing the phone to Hannah. Still, I know that Sofia had a good time on the phone with me because I took her thoughts to interesting places. I started with Sofia telling me that she was playing Webkinz on he computer and then we spoke about mommy being sick and I told her “you think that children are different today from 50 years ago? 100 years ago?”
“Why are you asking that?”
“Because you are playing Webkinz. (pause) What is your favorite game?”
“Webkinz Zingo” she replies.
And then I asked questions about Charlotte’s Webb.
1. “What is a runt?” We explored the extended meanings of this term. How does this portray the differences between parents and children? Are their values different? Explain.
2. “How are Fern's fears very like Wilbur's?” We explore the possibilities.

Silly and crazy adults who would rather kill the runt….. Sofia fires “Why are you silly and crazy?” I tell her that I am neither but instead that I Love life which means that “I wake up in the morning because I love the morning and I eat breakfast because I love breakfast and I open the door because I love it outside… and Sofia corrects me “No, Daddy, you open the door because you love the door.”
4. “Describe the character of Templeton? How does what Templeton does differ from Charlotte's work? from the other animals?”
I ask Sofia some 1uestions about emotions:
“Which one of the following statements best describes how you feel about math in school?”
I love it.
I like it.
I don't have an opinion about it.
I don't like it.
I hate it.

About P.E. in school? About Social Studies, art, science projects, about going in a school bus to school? About playing monopoly, about wearing dresses instead of pants? About watching movies? About ice skating? About dogs? About cats? About chocolate covered banana’s? About macaroni and cheese? About people who eat potatoes and roast beef? About tigers who eat people and tall grasses? About riding in a car? About riding on a bike? About swimming in a pool? In a lake? In a river? About painting with water colors?





And then
Screaming! Hannah did not hang up the phone. I was able to listen to distant sounds for another half hour and after 15 minutes or so, I heard a great deal of screaming.
I got an email that I appreciated:
Hi Allan

I am very happy about you and your kids, I guess that your persistence and efforts are paying off in at least you get to see the girls on a regular basis. I really hope that the world has some natural justice as I think that you would make a great primary care giver parent for the girls. The large family gathering sounds very nice as well.

You helped me out in a way that no one that I know …. was willing too. That means more to me than you can ever know.

I am very happy to hear that you are living with intelligent people. I think this is good for you as a person and also good for our case. Would getting a place to live and where the kids can have a primary residence help you in your case? How is the job front going are you lecturing again??

Cheers and Shalom
Lionsharecology
And I respond:
Dear Lionsharecology,
Do not worry about us not having met during your visit. It does not mitigate the nature of our bond – actually, I reckon it strengthens it. I believe that surviving the challenge of distance and time without meeting make us stronger.
As you can imagine, it is hard for me to get any kind of job that involves education – at any level – since my X-wife has accused me of child abuse and the fact that it was dismissed in the court, does not mitigate the damage. I had thought that I might get a job in a town called Bowling Green (about 100 miles south of Louisville) but that fell through.
However, I have sold my house in Texas and I am not living on the street. Yes, I am living in a nice house with nice people with whom I can engage in dialogue and discourse at a high level. Currently there are a litany of crazy things going on in the world including people vying for the next president of the United States, wars in Iraq and Afghanistan (and Iran, though that is not in the news) and there are civil wars in Pakistan and Kenya. There is the perennial issue of Darfur. There is the issue of HIV in the world, global warming, you name it – we can talk about it and we seem to be diverse in our opinions. That creates a great social dynamic. They are also very good friends: They support me in my quest for custody of my children.
As for my contribution to your life at the institute, helping you graduate suma cum laude, and hanging out with you in Louisville for a while thereafter – it came to me naturally, like helping a stranded whale back out to open sea or an old lady over the road, or a child open a door, or an indoor plant get some water. What you did came naturally to you as well. I know that you were not thinking about what you were doing, it was obvious to you that it was good and you just helped me without reservation. But let me remind you that I did not have a penny to my name when you met me.
Most sincerely and with a happy feeling in my belly,
Allan

January 3, 2008
Dear Lorena,
Any person in your situation would feel stressed. But I am writing to you again to tell you that you do not need to feel stressed. There is still a way out for you. So, what is this way? I have already told you several times but I thought that maybe it would be better if I define for you better in an email, what would be involved to remove the stress in your situation.
Probably you do not want to recognize what you have done: You have facilitated the fractured invigoration of reality warping and way to in the children. I hope you do not mind my telling you and I hope you recognize that I have attempted to veil it with unorthodox rhetoric.
You have had a good run for your game. But again, any person in your situation would feel stressed. If you find some way to communicate with me what you consider to be a fair and equitable way to raise the children – it needs to be joint custody, then that will attenuate your stress.
If you say to yourself, “I’m not stressed,” you are like some of the coldest people who have ever lived. I actually think you are blisteringly cold. Every now and then I see some glimpse that you are not so, but it is only when your mother is not around you. You have to remember what your mother has been to your father, you have to opt not to be like your mother, and then you are a tiny bit OK.
Sincerely,
Allan

Around 3PM I called LL at the ‘linea baja’ and she answered the phone! She told me she was sick and I offered to come by and bring her tea or medicine but she said no. I asked her if we could speak on the phone and she said no. I asked her to allow me to see the children and she said no and then she hung up on me. Oh, she said “look, if you had not spoken to them at all, that would e a different matter, but you have spoken with them so don’t push it.” Then she hung up.
3:30PM I called the KGB and before I had even finished my sentence, I was transferred to David Weatherspeak’s voice mail. I asked for him to get me copies of Crumbo’s page 13 and Dial’s page 3 which had material that had not copied well for me to read. I also asked him to provide me with a copy of all the art produced by the children and added that this had been used in court thus making it necessary.
And here is an email from Girl Scouts:
I would like to have a Cookie Meeting for the parents (Girls are welcome to come but they must listen since we have a lot of new parents and girls) to go over the paperwork and information, I would like to have it hopefully this Sunday if this doesn't work then I would like to have it on Thursday night right before the cookie sales start which is Friday 1/11/08. (Would last about 30-45 mins)

Sunday at 4PM
I was not able to communicate with my children today.
January 4, 2008
10:45AM I try to call my children in vain. No one picks up the phone.
11:30AM I called LL at work and she said that she would call Lara and Grammy and, pending getting through, have them call me. So, Lara is still there. She was cold on the phone. She said “I will see if can get in touch with them.” I got the feeling that LL enjoys (pretending?) that it is as hard for her to speak with Sofia and Hannah on the phone as it is for me. LL explained that the phone on the ground floor in Nancy’s house is not working…. The only time any one picks up the phone is if they happen to be in Nancy’s bedroom on the second floor. Well, wouldn’t you say that is a sign of poverty?
12:00AM I called Nancy and left a message. In the message I asked her to ask my children what “would one see if two rainbows intersect?” I asked her to facilitate my children calling me.
About an hour later I called LL’s cell phone and it was off because the answering machine came on in an instant and I left a message asking to speak with Sofia and Hannah.
4:41AM I called LL’s cell phone but she did not answer so I left a message telling her that I was not having any luck having the children call me while they were at Nancy’s and asked her to call me back so that she could brainstorm a way to have the children and I make contact.
January 4, 2008
Dear Lorena, Hello? Is there anybody out there? Can you please call me?
Sincerely,
Allan
7:30PM I called and Hannah picked up the phone. She asked “where are you right now?” and I told her that I was visiting Tony and Ginger and Gipsy and Roxy (the latter two are dogs.) “Ok, fine!” she said “you can talk now to Rena, I mean Mommy.” And she tried to give the phone to LL who said “I can not talk right now.” However the phone was not shut down and Joey picked it up and I asked Joey “what is one plus two?” (He said three) “and what are the colors of the rainbow?” (he listed five of them) and then I told him who I was and then he said “I gotta go.” This time the phone was disconnected. I called again about ten minutes later and found out that Sofia and Hannah were in LL’s car. Sofia had just been for several days at her grandmother’s house (and moreover with Lara) and these had obviously made her a very difficult person for me to talk to. I started asking her about the snow but she refused to speak about the snow. “Never saw any snow,” and for a long time she used only tow words “snow” and “no,” so I asked her if she was a poet and I generated the following poem:
No snow,
Oh snow! No
No snow?
No
Snow
Dogs know snow,
Snow dogs show snow
….how to fluff in the air as they run.

And then I changed the topic of the conversation to asking her questions to which she would be inclined to say “yes,” I started asking “are you Sofia?” but she said “no,” so I asked her reverse psychological questions. “Are you
Leylanie?
Joey?
Leah?
Anna?
Leylanie?
Mommy?
Grammy?
Rick?”
I asked her if she had seen Uncle Jon or Uncle Rich and she denied this. Then I asked her some truly nutty questions:
“Are you eating frog dog soup with mud smoosh banana gish?”
“Would you like to play banaply with bacteria?” “Monopolice with Gandalf the Grey?”
And finally we got onto a good conversation:
Which one of the following statements best describes how you feel about __________?
I love it.
I like it.
I don't have an opinion about it.
I don't like it.
I hate it.


About painting with oil pastels? No
About drawing with a pencil? No
About roller skating? Esp no
About skating on ice? No
About dancing Ballet? No
About days that are cold? Don’t know
About days that are hot? dont know, no no ---
About water with out ice? No no,
About orange juice? No no no no ,
About dolphins? Don’t know , about Webkinz ,
About winter? , spring, summer or autumn,
About coconuts? No,
About Ana? Leah? and Joey?
About horse back riding?
About ….?

Math questions
Sharing can be hard. Every kid knows that, and mathematicians do, too. So mathematicians have spent a lot of time thinking about how to make sharing easier.
Mathematicians are particularly fond of sharing birthday cake. Not just any birthday cake, but one with lots of icing and various decorations, with nuts here and coconut there. Then they ask, if two people like different parts of the cake better, how can they divide the cake into two pieces so that they're both satisfied with the piece that they each get?

You and your friend want to divide a cake into two pieces in such a way that each of you is happy with the piece that you get. How would you do it?

There's an old solution known as "I cut, you choose." You start by cutting the cake into two pieces that you like equally well. Then your friend picks the one that she prefers.
The two pieces don't have to be the same size. If you particularly like nuts, for example, you might make the piece with fewer nuts bigger, so that you'd be happy no matter which piece your friend chose. You'd end up with either a smaller piece with lots of nuts or a larger piece with fewer nuts.
But Steven Brams of New York University doesn't think that's fair. When you're done, you get a piece that you might think is worth half the value of the cake. But your friend might think that she got much more than half the value of the cake.
For example, suppose that your friend really likes coconut, and the bigger, less nutty piece has lots of coconut. Then she'll think that she's gotten a really great deal. She got not only more cake but also the best part!

In dividing this cake, A marks the cut where you think the two pieces have equal value. B shows the division where your friend thinks the two pieces are equal. By a new method, you'd get the leftmost piece and your friend would get the rightmost piece, and the two of you would share the middle section.
E. Roell
Here's how it works. You and your friend would each tell your mom where you would divide the cake into two pieces. If the two of you happen to pick the same spot, she'd simply divide the cake at that spot. Both of you would be equally happy with your shares.
But suppose the two spots are different. If your spot were to the left of your friend's spot, you'd get the piece to the left of your spot. Your friend would get the piece to the right of her spot. And there'd be a piece left over in the middle. Your mom would then split the middle section between you and your friend.
That way, you each get a piece that you value equally—plus a bonus!
It's a neat idea, but is such a procedure practical? Would you use it?
And then Sofia was at her house and she told me that she could not speak with me any more. I asked her if she would call me back and she said that she did not know if Mommy would let her. I told her that I would try to call her back as well. I assured her that I understood her situation and I did not blame her at all for this.
Anyhow the point is that Sofia wants to call me and if Sofia does not call me tonight then she LL breaking with the Judge’s orders – not that I could ever prove it, but LL’s pretense to the Judge that I can speak to the children and the children can speak with me when ever we want is of course an outright lie and always has been.

“We got a new kitty,”
Autumn scared it.
From mommy’s friend
Afraid of people
What is the biggest reason why dogs and cats are afraid of humans.
Old lady –
Cracked a nut
Nut cracker’s suite
Shape


So what is this LL person about? What is she like? What kind of a human being does she think she is? What does she imagine she warrants her ego? It must suck to be her? I can’t imagine how heavy that must hang? Or maybe the hanging is so severe that she has obliterated that part of herself and does not know it and floats on in life? Or maybe she is so cold and bloodied that she simply machines her way through life? It’s a combination of those things of course. Sometimes one shows itself more than the other, and she is “lucky” when she can get away with the latter but the children force her to implement the former… But imagine that? A fly on the wall could see how she works her endemic hell but I do not need to become a fly. I am pretty certain without being with her because I lived with her and have known her now for thirteen years. She is a auto-delusional about her own self out of necessity. She is powerless with her mother and unhappy about this and still she is conniving, cold, and manipulative… like her mother.

January 5, 2007
9:00AM I called and Hannah picked up the phone. I asked her how long she had been awake and she said “I don’t know.” And then whether she had eaten breakfast to which she said “NO.” Then suddenly LL was on the phone saying “Hello, we are in a hurry and can not talk right now, we have to be somewhere at 9:30.” I said “May I speak with the children when you are all in the car?” and she said “I don’t know, if I can find my cell phone.” Click.
10:00 I called LL’s cell phone and LL blamed me for calling early in the morning and told me to leave them alone and said that the kids will call me when they want.
12:00 I called LL’s cell phone. First LL put Hannah on the phone. Hannah said “Hello Daddy, I do not want to talk with you and I had a boring time in North Carolina and I did not like riding there in the car.” I said “I love you very much.” Then LL took the phone back and said “Well, that is Hannah for you,” and she passed the phone onto Sofia without giving me a chance to say anything to her (but it is obvious that Hannah was coached to say that.) Sofia however was better with me. I still faced a great deal of adversity in the sense that she did not want to speak with me – she would prefer to say “no,” rather than make sentences. She did tell me that she had been with Hannah and her mother to look at a house that LL wanted to buy, but that was all the information I was given. The rest of the time it was up to me to do the speaking and I spoke for a long time. I started out reading her a book called “Kennst du Pippi Langstrumpf?” and then I spoke about the ages of the universe, of life, of the existence of worms and people on the planet and then LL told her that she had to hang up. I asked to speak with LL and asked her if I could speak with Sofia while they were driving home. LL said “no, because (LL) needs to use the phone.” Then LL went on to explain that the children need to do homework when they get home and left me with the understanding that I would not be able to speak with them any more.

I tried to call while I estimated they were in the car some minutes later but no one picked up the phone. I left a message asking if there was a way I could see the children.
5:19PM I tried calling LL at home but, no one picked up the phone so I tried LL’s cell phone and left the following message: “Heypodey Rena, hope you are having a nice day. Would you please ask the children, Sofia and Hannah, to call me tonight? Thank you very much.”
6:40PM I called the ‘linea baja’ and LL answered the phone. I asked if I could see them tonight or tomorrow and LL responded: Tonight they are with their cousins. She said that she had plans for tonight so they are being baby sat. And what about tomorrow? Could I see them tomorrow? refused to answer me. Instead she said “I don’t know why you keep calling! To which I responded “What do you mean you do not know why? You know exactly why!” and then I asked “Can you ask them to call me? (pause) Now?” and LL responded “Well l will try to get a hold of them.” click the telephone line went dead.
7:00 I called LL to confirm that she had told Sofia and Hannah to speak with me but she told me that she had not gotten through.
Finally at 8:10 I called John and Rebecca but no one picked up the phone. I asked them to have the children call me so that I can say good night to them.

January 6, 2008
I tried calling my children at their cousins during the morning and early afternoon. I called about at about five different times and each time I called several numbers: LL’s cell, LL’s home, Rebecca’s cell. No one ever picked up the phone.
At about 3:15 I called and while I was leaving a message I got called back. It was Sofia. She explained that Mommy had heard the phone ring, seen that it was me calling. Not picked up the phone but instead passed it back to Sofia who had then called me. (I think Sofia also said that LL dialed the number?) In any case, Sofia and I spoke for a few minutes. Sofia explained that she had been with her cousins all day and that Mommy had just picked them up. (They had been with their cousins last night as well…) I again told Sofia the ages of the Universe, the planet and its life and then I asked her how long has Christianity been around? How long ago did Jesus live? She did not know so I told her. At that moment Sofia told me that she had to hang up with me because they had arrived at home. Sofia promised me that she would call me back when they were all inside. I said “oh good,” and “I love you bye.”
3:45 I called again and LL picked up the phone. She blurted out “they are eating peas and will call you back when they are done! Click.”
But here are the questions I was going to ask LL:
1. “May I invite you and the children to tea or coffee and yummies at Starbucks or to falafel, humus and babaganoush at the Marakesh restaurant next to Starbucks?”
2. “Well, then may I come by for ten minutes and say hello to the children? I also some things that the children left in North Carolina that I would like to return….
3. “Well then, would you please give Hannah a kiss on the top of the head and tell her it is from me through you to her?”
4. “Well then, may I speak with Hannah and then Sofia?”
But I did not get a chance then.
I went to Girl Scouts. But on my way to Girl Scouts I called Sofia. I told Sofia that I was going to Girl Scouts and told her that I wanted to tell Mommy. When LL got on the phone she told me that I did not need to go to Girl Scouts, that she would call Amie(?) and arrange the issues at stake. But she also denied knowing that there was a girl scouts meeting today. She said “so you got a call?” and I said “no, I got emails and several emails, all of which you were copied in on because I saw your email address.” She then went on to deny having looked at her emails.

Well, I talked with Sofia about the planets, Mercury, Venus, Earth Mars, Jupiter, Saturn… I started walking from the Highland Coffee House and walked to the Deer Park Babtist Church while talking with Sofia – I reckon this must have taken me about 30 minutes. When I arrived I found a whole bunch of mothers and no fathers, all in a circle discussing all kinds of issues and I told Sofia that I needed to hang up with her because I had arrived at Girl Scouts and I promised that I would call her back.
It was good that I went because LL did not go. I signed two permission forms allowing Sofia and Hannah to be involved in the sale of Girl Scout Cookies.
When I left the meeting I tried to call Sofia (and Hannah) and it was about 5:00PM but no one picked up the phone – neither the ‘linea baja’ nor LL’s cell phone. I left a message telling LL of the permission slips that I had signed and asking her to allow the children to call me back.
I was never called.
LL is not corresponding with me by email at all.

January 7, 2008
10:30AM I tried to call my children. No one picked up the phone at home – the ‘linea baja’ and when I called LL’s cell phone I was left only the choice of leaving a message so I said “Heypodey Rena, I hope you had a gentle, smooth evening yesterday like you said you wanted. But I was calling to speak with Sofia and Hannah and I do not know where they are? Would you please call me back and let me know how I can get in touch with them? Thanks.”
I had left a message with John Helmers last week (when I went to make a child support payment) and he did not respond to that so today I called. Amanda, his secretary responded that she would have him call me today when he comes back from court.

I called the KGB and again asked for copies of Crumbo’s page 13 and Dial’s page 3 which had material that had not copied well for me to read. I also asked for copies of all the art produced by the children in court or otherwise.
I called Bloom Elementary and asked for Hannah and Sofia’s teachers to call me back.
I checked my email and saw that Amanda had sent John Helmers an email:
Please call him on his new number when you get back from Court.
Thanks,
Amanda
I also found an email from Peter:
Dear Allan,

I very much enjoyed having coffee with you yesterday. You seem to be one of the most flummoxed people I've ever met and I need more of that in my life. Can we get together for another cup of coffee and soon? By the by, I had the coffee, and you did not. I wish to rectify this situation when next we meet.

Peter
Peter is an elementary school teacher who I met the first time I came to Louisville to stay for an extended Period of time – about two years ago. He has been an ardent supporter of my wish to get my children and has on several occasions helped. He has invited Sofia and Hannah to his house, he has driven them to many places, he has been with us bike riding, he has come to court to testify….
Here is how I responded:
Dear Peter,
I love you dearly and deerly and deeply deep doopty doop. Now the thing is that I am flummoxed pretty badly on the outside. This is good because itinstigates t he inside, with the wonder of circumnavigating and/ or rampage barging the impedimentous snork-bedragglers and their fog. The inside is, as I reckon you sneakily suggest, yearning for the pretty. You are pretty.
Allan

1:15PM or thereabouts, Sally Schartzer called to tell me that she would leave a joys on copy of Sofia’s progress report with the front office and that I may pick that up on Monday. She also urged me to call if I have any questions.
And then Mark Duke called me and he told me that he considers Hannah to be completely normal, even in regards the fact that she sometimes has “bouts… does things off the wall, squirts mustard, has arguments with other kids,” but she is “smart, and is good at math,” She still sees an ECE teacher for math but she does not need to. The only reason (Mark Duke) agrees to her seeing the ECE teacher is because Hannah likes the one on one.” The only reason she got to see an ECE teacher is because her 1rst grade teacher sent her to have to do this.” But Mark Duke re-iterated that Hannah is “organized, she should be in the top 20%” He said “she is precocious at times and manifests anxiety, sucks her arm, has flashbacks, tattle tales,” and I explained that all this is normal for a child who has been in the dire situation that Hannah has been in since arriving in the United States. I told him of the depositions on Wednesday just so that if Hannah is stressed he can have some back-ground context. Was Mark told me that he is adopted and that he has told Hannah. I told him that Hannah met her biological mother last summer. “I have never heard of something like that happening,” he said and I think he was flummoxed. Other than that, the conversation was really good.

January 7, 2008
Dear Lorena,
You are invited to a cordial get together at any coffee shop of your choice and at any time of your choice to talk about the future of Sofia and Hannah in both of our lives. Would you please respond to this?
Thank you,
Allan

3:43PM I tried to call my children but no one answers the phone.
I left a message on LL’s cell phone saying “Hey Rena this is Allan and I am calling to speak with Sofia and Hannah so if you could facilitate that happening that would be great. Thank you.”
3:50PM David Weatherspeak called me. Right off the bat I asked him, “Who do you think is the most gay friendly presidential candidate?” He was probably surprised (though he should not have been) and answered, “who do you think?” and I said “I don’t know but let’s then get to the issues at hand. He explained that he had not been in the office last week and had only today gotten my messages. He told me that he would call me tomorrow to let me know when I can pick up the badly photocopied pages (I reminded him that the depositions are the day after tomorrow.) I begged him (I said please at least four times) to get me copies of the art work that Sofia and Hannah had produced. He said “I do not think you can have that since that is raw data.” I got upset and said “So that means that the KGB is the only organization to whom the raw data is available and they hide it so that no one may question it? That is wrong!” David said he would see what he can do.
Lorena acts as if my hope is an insane quest. She does this with her indifference and coldness. She acts as if I should be grateful for having made her pregnant (which is ridiculous in the first place…) I recall the words from Rebecca telling me in Paraguay “fathers are lucky if they get to see their children every other week end.”
Hope is not ignoring the challenges and road blocks that lie ahead. I know because I know how tough change can be but I also know this we are going to kick the yoke of tyranny and ensure that my children will be allowed a better life. that is what hope is, imagining and then working for what didn’t seem possible before because of the KGB. When my children but much more I (because I am an adult) set aside the fear and doubt and cynicism then that is a clear manifestation of hope, this is our moment, this is our time. If you can imagine the world of my children not as it is (psycho-social mire) but as it might be, where we are crating a good situation,
7:00PM I called the ‘linea baja’ and no one answered the phone. I called LL’s cell phone and she did not answer so I left a message. I started out my message telling her that I had been watching the caucuses in New Hampshire and then asked her to facilitate my children speaking with me.
9:10PM I tried to call LL. I was going to ask her if she could please explain to me why the children and I were not able to speak today, but no one picked up the phone and the ‘linea baja’ does not have a message machine.


January 8, 2008
Today is my children’s first day of school.
David Weatherspeak called me this morning and told me that he had made copies of the two pages that I did not have good versions of but that he can not provide me with any of the raw data: those are the pictures drawn by my children. “And I quote Kim Dial as saying to the question ‘can we have another . evaluate this case, “NO.”’ So you are the the ONLY ones to evaluate the data? David seemed to agree.
“I consider that immoral because you are probably hiding the truth.” That is what I said.
Here is LL’s email for the day:
I think you need psychotic medication. Lorena Lasky
And I wrote:
Dear Lorena,
I do not need any such medication.
I'll see you in an hour at 4:45PM.
Allan

And then I went on to say “But thank you very much for attempting to facilitate something better.”
Although LL had asked of me that I pick the children up at 4:45PM (in an email I got today) she did not bring the children to the Highland Coffee House until 5:00PM. Hannah was sick according to LL. Apparently she had the fever. I went to Hannah and kissed her on the head. She behaves in a strange way in the presence of her mother but when I asked her if it would be alright if I kissed her on the head she managed to mumble in an almost inaudible way “yes, Daddy.” I told LL that Sofia and I would be calling Hannah. Sofia was totally happy to have me to herself. She bumbled into the car and said she wanted to eat spicy food for dinner. I took her to the Mediterranean Restaurant on Bardstown Road (very close to LL’s house) and she loved the Schwarma and the lentil soup. She also worked on her homework. I was able to give her the ‘Ducky’ that Farfar and Farmor had sent her.
We tried to call Hannah but got no answer “Do you think LL will call us back?”
Hannah is sick. I got the children later than LL had suggested but that was OK. LL said that she was going to take Hannah to Brownies (I think) and then take her home. LL was not happy to communicate with me.
“No, said Sofia, then she thought about it a little more and then she said “Maybe she will get Hannah to call” and then she thought about it a bit and she said “maybe.”
But then Hannah called us. And I spoke only a few loving sentences to her and then passed the phone to Sofia. Hannah inquired from Sofia what she was doing or where she was and Sofia commented that Hannah was sad that she was not with us.
Sofia made a Lasky-Ungaro remark. She said “Daddy, why did we get less presents for Christmas this year than we did last year?” How do I know this remark is from a Lasky-Ungaro member? It is because (1) I have a list of all the Christmas presents my children got both last year and this year which means that I know that this statement is false, and (2) Nine year old children do not remember what they got a year before. I don’t even remember what I got last year! (Although I bet I got some clothes.) I did not tell Sofia that I believed that statement was from a Lasky family member. Instead I said, “look!” and I pulled up the email she had sent me that listed all the presents she (and Hannah) had gotten in 2006 for Christmas. “I remember I sent you an email!” Sofia exclaimed and re-read the email. While I was at it, I showed her the picture of Hannah and me with her on the R25 BMW motorcycle taken in Paraguay.
After dinner we went to the Dollar Store and bought Hannah a present. Sofia also got a present but she promised to share it with Hannah. Hannah’s present was a little art kit. Sofia’s preset was a roll of paper for making long drawings!
We stopped by the Chevron gas station and bought Hannah mints for her throat (and Sofia got a Hershey’s Chocolate bar.) When we came out of the gas station it was raining! We were going to walk to LL’s but we ended up driving.
At LL’s home I asked LL if it would be alright for me to come in and give Hannah her get well present. It was clear that she really did not want to do this. After a pause she said “okay.” Hannah was on the couch in the living room. She was very happy to see me. I gave her the presents and kissed her on the head. This was a very important moment.
Lorena hates my having access to the children as always. But now the children are fully cognizant of the trick that she and much more her mother played on the children and me and is forced to not manifest the hatefulness that is inside her.
The email that she last sent me “I think you need psychotic medication,” or what ever it was – probably written in response to my request for her desisting from maintaining her stresses (something that is consequent to her continuing to maintain that her family has not coached Sofia and Hannah) is her hatefulness. The problem that the KGB have created for my children is that they have given LL the leeway to be hateful for so long. What my children need – have needed desperately – is for the law and the social workers to maintain fair access to the children so that this bloody mindedness that has become intrinsic to the Lasky family would not have a chance to develop such deep roots. Tomorrow is the deposition of the KGB the terrible “professionals” in the lives of my children.
Dear Lorena,

You are invited to a cordial get together at any coffee shop of your choice and at any time of your choice to talk about the future of Sofia and Hannah in both of our lives.
Would you please respond to this?
Thank you,
Allan


Allan,
And here is from LL:
Hannah has Brownies tomorrow to do cookie stuff but she can miss it, I guess. But, i will need to drop them at Highland at 4:45. Does that time adjustment work for you? Lorena Lasky



January 9, 2008
Archana called me at 9:30Am to tell me that she had just seen Hannah and LL at Starbucks. She told me that Hannah did not seem to be particularly sick though Hannah had said that she was.
I called LL and asked her if I could spend some time with Hannah – since I was not able to yesterday. LL said “NO.” I asked her why not? LL said “because it is not good.” I asked her if I could meet her and Hannah at the Doctor’s office and she said “why don’t you go to work?” (I said “I am at work.”) and she then said “NO, for you to quit your work is stupid.” She went on to explain that one of the virtues of being divorced is that both parents do not need to be with the children all the time at the end of which she said “Gotta go,” click.
So, I reckon probably LL is taking Hannah to the doctor, then to Nancy, her mothers house?
At 11:30AM John Helmers called. I asked him, what are you going to ask? He said “I don’t know.” He also said that his partner, Troy DeMuth was going to do the depositions. I called back to his office to get in touch with Troy and troy said that he would call me in a bit.
And he did, but he called me to tell me that he had cancelled the deposition. I said “NO!” please reverse that. I will attend the deposition on my own.
Well, I stopped by the office and Troy DeMuth came out to see me and wanted rhetorically to put me in my place and so I listened to his crap and then explained that “postponing the depositions was bad for the case.” Troy disagreed. What else could we do at that point but agree to disagree?
I left all the documents from the KGB with the secretary.
I called LL and since she did not pick up the phone, I left a message asking to be able to spend some time with my ‘sick’ Hannah.
LL never responded.
Now I am back at the Penguin Ice Cream Co. at work.
Dear John,
I hope that you are doing alright. I heard that you are subjected to a difficult phase - possibly you are sick, but in any case, I hope you are doing well or that incredible improvement is close to you. Of course this may be irrelevant but just in case it is, there you have it.
The last I heard, the deposition was postponed and a new date had not been set. I am, of course, looking to put this behind us and I am hoping that it can be scheduled for next week (as Troy suggested.) Please let me know.
Thank you very much,
Allan

And look, Roly Poly sent my children an email.
Hello Sofia , hello Hannah,
How are y’all? How is Kentucky these days? I bet you’re freezing your butts off. I can go swim in the lake here and get dry in the sun afterwards. No lies.
I have to go put a ladder rack on my truck now. See you later.
Roland

And a good email from Lionsharecology put me in very high spirits… good enough to actually make a bold and good suggestion to LL in the email below:
Dear Lorena,
Sounds good. I will be there today at quarter to five. I would like to take Hannah to Brownies too but then I will need more information. Where and when?
Thank you,
Allan




Hannah’s birthday is in 102 days.
Sofia’s birthday 241 days.
Mommy’s birthday 228 days.
My birthday is in 213 days.

I spoke with Sofia for a good long time this evening. I spoke quite a bit in German.
January 10, 2008:
I write LL two emails in quick succession:
Dear Lorena,
I will be going to my storage unit later this week. Can you please remind me what the
signed framed print looks like? What is the image? That way I would be better able to locate it. You remember that in an email that you sent several months ago you wrote about Nancy Drew books and a frame?
I will see you in a couple of hours and maybe you can tell me then too.
Thank you,
Allan
Dear Lorena,
Oh and before I forget, I would like to make copies of the scrap books of the children. How could we do that?
Thank you,
Allan

I am at the Penguin Ice Cream place. It is fascinating to speak with Subir and Charlie about the USA. We banter back and forth about its economy, the mores of international affairs and the responsibility of the US President to the people of America and the world at large. We talk while we weld, sand, paint or rebuild the engines of trucks.
Oh look! LL responded to my email in less than an hour – she addressed her concern but not mine.
The print is by Paul Sawyer, a Kentucky artist. It is professionally framed & matted. It is an outdoor scene of Kentucky--trees. The frame is gold & the matting is kind-of teal blue. I believe there is a label on the back telling about the artist or the print.
I respond right away:
Dear Lorena,
I will look for a gold framed kind of teal blue matted Kentucky tree print by Paul Sawyer and I will let you know before the Saturday night (that will be the latest that I will get to my storage unit) and can you please find a way to get me copies of the scrap books?
Thank you
Allan
But what this shows is that LL reads the emails much more than her response rate implies. She responds only to the bits that she cares about.
4:00PM Lorena calls me to tell me that she does not want me to pick up the children today. Her reason is that Hannah is sick and is contagious for 48hours. She has strep. I said “I can take Hannah to my house, where she can pet dogs and watch cartoons in a continued recovery from her strep.” LL said “no you can’t.” and I said “Yes I can and you are beautiful” but LL sounded adamant and upset.
So, then I sent her another email:
Dear Lorena,
My car has an excellent heater. She can ride in my Lincoln Mark VII to my house where she can pet Roxy and Gipsy (a miniature pincher and another bigger doggie) and watch the Disney Channel. You said that she is contagious for 48 hours but she will not be around people other than her family and she got her first dose of antibiotics yesterday morning so by this evening 75% of the so called ‘contagious’ phase will be done with. There is no reason why she can not be in my care anyway.
Sincerely,
Allan

So I arrived at LL’s place and told her that I wanted to take Hannah (we talked by phone so as to keep the children out of the entire conversation) but I suspect she said that Hannah could not come with me within earshot of Hannah… I told LL that I wanted to take my children to my home. She said “where do you live?” I said “5405 Georgia Lane” and she said “No, I have information from people who tell me that is not true.” “I live there,” was all I said and the last thing I told her was that I was walking up to the door and I would be knocking on it and she said “Ok.”
Now, there is a bit of truth to what LL is saying – I spend only two or three nights a week at my current residence… the rest of the time I am either at the Taylor Boulevard home, the Blue lick home, Peter’s home, …. I did not feel the need to tell her this. I also did not feel the need to tell her that I am looking to buy a house.
I knocked on the door and for about five minutes no one answered. And finally Sofia came out alone and LL closed the door behind her.
I knocked on the door and no one came to the door. Sofia was now with me. I explained to Sofia that I needed to see Hannah for a minute. She suggested that if I go to the side of the house I can see her through the window. Great! I did that and I saw Hannah and Lorena and I knocked on the window and called through the window “I need to give Hannah a kiss.”
Now, Hannah, poor girl is very much a Momma’s girl and this will take a while but when it finally breaks – wow! But for now, Hannah prefers to pretend that she would rather be with LL and that is OK. But LL felt forced to let me kiss Hannah so she escorted Hannah to the front door and I said to Hannah “Hannah, are you sure you do not want to come to my house and pet dogs and watch the Disney Channel?” Hannah looked at her mother and then said “No.” Then she asked me, “you do not have two houses, Daddy?” and I said “You know how Mommy wants to buy a house? Well, so do I.” But THIS is again a coached concept.
Ok, it was raining. Sofia carried her homework inside her jacket. She was super glad to be with me and would not have cared for Hannah because now she had me completely to herself. She accused me of not switching languages “Daddy you said that you were going to start speaking in Spanish after the new year?”
“Oh Ja, du hast recht! Ich habe gesagt dass ich Spanisch dann Spreche.” And then I added “¡Oh si! Tienes razón. Yo había dicho que hablaré Español.” And Sofia laughed…. And then later when I spoke in both languages to both the waitress and Sofia she thought that was hilarious because she understood BOTH languages and the waitress understood only the Spanish. Sofia told me of a moment in school when someone had asked her “Do you speak English, ¿Hablas Español? Sprichst du Deutsch?” and she answered “Yes, no, nein” and the person asking her these questions had said “gotcha!” (because she had answered in the self same languages.)
Dear John,
Today again I was not able to be with Hannah -- this is the second time in a row. I think we need a contempt of court motion. The dates are January 8, 2008 (Tuesday) and January 10, 2008 (Thursday).
Allan

January 11, 2008: I get a response from John Helmers.
I will fax a letter to Mason first.

If we get no response, we will file a Motion.

John.
And I sent an email to LL:
Dear Lorena,
It is a good example to set the children to speak. Would you please meet me someplace/ sometime? Or at least would you please call me?
Thank you
Allan

I am considering taking my children the the ski resort in Paoli, IN (812) 723- 4696. Yes there is skiing on Sunday. Lucky for us. I note that I will have to take them about four times for them to get used to the concept of skiing.
I note also that this is not going to be an overtly important event for Sofia. She will probably get a taste of what it is about. We will see about Hannah. I expect my children to express resistance of the form “Daddy is taking us on another crazy adventure!” LL has never skied in her life (she is not interested in bicycling, hiking or motorcycling – she is interested in yoga, belly dancing and dancing in general, Tai-chi (although she has probably never done this…) and Sofia is much more like LL in this regard.
7:00PM I called the ‘linea baja,’ got no response so I called LL’s cell phone and as I was about to leave a message, I saw that LL was calling. I answered her call and I asked LL to be sure that the children would be wearing clothes that would be appropriate for snow. I was explaining that two pairs of mittens would ne better than one and that boots… when LL passed the phone to Hannah and I was still talking about the clothing that the children may need to go skiing without knowing that I was speaking with Hannah until Hannah finally said that she was Hannah and I had to ask Hannah to let me finish telling Mommy about Sunday. Hannah gave the phone back to LL and LL did (I believe) listen to me – at least enough to say “the children will be appropriately dressed for the weather.” LL then offered to let me speak with Sofia but I explained that Hannah and I had not really spoken. LL then put Hannah on the phone.
I started by asking Hannah some math questions: “What is 17 + 17?” “What is 15 + 15” I asked her the second question because she guessed the first question wrong. And then I went on to explain that the sum of the last two digits indicates the last digit in the whole sum… I showed her how I can know that an answer is wrong without actually knowing the true answer.
And then I asked her what she would like to do in the snow that we will experience on Sunday. She never made any suggestions but she did say that she would email me and give me a list of wishes.
I asked her if she had heard anything about Sofia’s time with me on Thursday and she said “no. Then when I described the Bass Pro Shop to her, she told me she wanted to go as well.
And then something very strange happened. Hannah told me that Sofia was asleep. Is that likely? I suppose it is possible but I have my doubts at a base level because (1) she is at Grammy’s house – she is not in her own house and there are guests there like Aunt Lara and the new baby, and (2) I have NEVER experienced Sofia asleep around 7:00PM. As if that was not enough, Hannah explained to me that no one would speak with me and that she was tired and wanted to hang up. I asked to speak with “Mommy,” and was told “not right now.” I asked to speak with Lara and was told “no,” I asked to speak with “Grammy” and again “no,” so I was not able to have any adult confirm that I could not speak with Sofia.
So what is Sofia doing? Is she there? And if, in fact, Sofia is not asleep and Hannah knows this, what psycho warp crap is taking place? I just hope…

January 12, 2008
10:00AM I attempt calling my children. To attempt means to do every possible motion and each and every time be rewarded with either an answering machine or no answer. Ok, so, since I was told yesterday evening that Hannah was at Nancy Lasky-U’s house and that Lara was visiting here are the numbers I called at 10AM:
1. LL’s ‘linea baja,’ the home phone.
2. LL’s cell phone. I left a message asking to speak with my children.
3. Nancy’s ‘linea baja,’ or the home phone.
4. Lara’s cell phone.
And no, I did not call Nancy’s cell phone number – didn’t see the point. I had been able to leave messages (asking for the adult to facilitate my talking with my children) at three different numbers. That is certainly enough.
11:30AM or thereabouts: I call LL’s ‘linea baja’ which only rings interminably and I call LL’s cell phone which is not answered. I do not leave a message since I had just left a message an hour and a half ago.
Then I sent LL an email:
Dear Lorena,
Please make it possible for me to speak with our children today. Also, please see to it that the children are dressed for winter weather tomorrow when I come to pick them up. Today is a beautiful day and I hope you and the children are enjoying it.
Thank you,
Allan
At around 6 or 7 in the evening I tried to call my children but every time the telephone was picked up it was hung up again. At first I though it might be because I was in a moving car, but then I stopped, check that the signal was good and called again and my child just hung up on me (?). Later when I tried to call the phone was not picked up.

January 13, 2008
It was not an easy start. Hannah put on a show for LL that included saying things like “leave me alone,” and then Sofia… (I really can not remember what was her catalyst but I reckon it was Hannah) was not interested in doing anything towards making the situation leave the Lasky premises. In my standard way, I said “OK, we stay here,” and just sat down on the porch. LL then asked the kids to leave. And it was only when the kids were in the car that things became better – because then the Lasky family was gone and they were able to breath.
It had been my intention to take them to breakfast first but I could not find a restaurant --- I learned for next time! I drove all the way to Paoli peaks and only when we reached the ski lodge was it possible for us to buy some food. Of course, I had food in the car that the children ate, but my children need a good social and deeply nutritious breakfast… and they were not able to get that until we got to the ski lodge.
I bought tickets for each of us, I got Sofia and Hannah an instructor and I got them more clothes (LL had not provided us with the apparel we needed inspite of what I had written and told her.) So, for example, Hannah did not have mittens or gloves.
But getting the children to want to try to ski was not exactly easy. First Sofia denied any attempt at wanting to ski. I approached the information booth and they listened as I asked about provisions available for kids who had never skied before.
Fortunately for me, it turned out that skiing was easier to learn on the first day than snow boarding….
And then the kids learned how to deal with getting the ski equipment…. And that was fun – at least it was a learning experience. And the lady who selected their ski boots was a charming person who was well tuned to the psychological needs of kids who had never before gone skiing.
There was a time – lasted about an hour, when the children had fully succeeded in overcoming their fear about taking the ski lift and flying straight down. They were laughing and playing together on the ski lifts and then they were skiing together like it was the most natural wonder in the world and I knew that bringing them skiing had been a fantastic success.
I forwarded the children an email Farmor had sent that had Polar Bears….

January 14, 2008
No news from any one. I checked my email at around noon but there was nothing.
I am somewhat perplexed about what to do tomorrow. Should I call LL and cancel my parenting time in order to go to the training function to go on school field trips? Should I call Helmers and ask him about the motion against LL for contempt of court?
But today I went and looked at a cute home that is a little too expensive for my liking. I ate a wonderful lunch at the Indian Restaurant, Shalimar.

Dear Lorena,
I am writing to you to tell you a few things about tomorrow and to tell you many more things about next Sunday. Tomorrow is the last day that I can take the classes that I need to take in order to be eligible to go on field trips with Sofia’s class. Unfortunately, the class is exactly at the same time as my parenting with my children. So, since, in the long run I will be able to spend considerably more time with my children if I sacrifice tomorrow, my choice is to ask you if you do not mind taking care of the children after school tomorrow? (I will, of course call you and I will leave a message on your answering machine if you do not pick up the phone asking you the same.)
Then there is KIDS SKI camp on Sunday. As you and I already determined (in front of the children) it is alright for me to pick the children up at 8:00AM and return them at 6:00PM on Sunday. It is important that the children be well dressed – this is VERY important. We were able to ski successfully because there was very little snow, it was warm, and we were able to access the ski lodge from the little slopes easily. We took several brakes to eat and get warm and to do art. But next time the children will be mostly in the care of ski instructors. (they can do the pizza wedge stop but they do not know how to parallel ski and they will be learning this as well as a million other nuances because, skiing is an art….) By the way, while Sofia has picked up on the idea that skiing is about handling the slope with beauty, Hannah careens downhill and only wants to go as fast as possible. Thus, they both need ski lessons to accrue an art to the feeling of skiing, but for very different reasons.
The issue that arose yesterday morning is probably due to two things (1)The children not having eaten breakfast by 9:00AM and (2) the children had gone to bed at midnight or later. Neither of these is good for a smooth transition from one parent to the other and neither of these is good for skiing because skiing is exhausting (as well as exhilarating) and so the children need full bellies and plenty of sleep.
Sincerely, Allan
And at 8:45PM I called and no one picked up either telephone so I left a message asking LL if she would be so kind as to care for the children tomorrow during the time that I am supposed to be with them so that I can go to the Training class for chaperones on Bloom Elementary School field trips.
Of course she will probably say “NO,” so I must count on not being able to go to the chaperoner classes…. But then again, she might say “yes,” and then I will be in a hard bind because I think I would rather spend the evening with my children. However, if she does say “yes,” that then I will forsake my evening today in the hope of seeing more of my children on field trips.
And then to Papole:
Dear Papo,
Ok, so I got called today by the real estate agent who told me that the offer I made was declined. Now, here is what I want to know: Why can I not have access to the response from the Government?
La vie est belle et elle continue qui sait oú.
Allan

And then an email to Sofia:
Dear Sofia,
Would you please ask Hannah the following questions and send me an email telling me the answers Hannah gives. The questions are – what do you think of:
1. Puzzles? (I love them, I like them, don’t know, I don’t like them, I hate them.)
2. Aquariums?
3. The Science museum?
4. Making cookies?
5. Video games?
6. Watching TV?
7. Finger painting?
8. Basket ball?
9. Rap music?
10. Oat meal?
11. and hand sanitizing lotion?
Lots of love,
Your Daddy.

January 15, 2008
Dear Lorena,
I am having a hard time getting through to my children on the telephone. I believe they are busy with a million things.....? In any case, maybe you could make it so that when they are in your car with you -- that would be a good time to call "Daddy?" So, for example, they could call me every school morning on the way to school?
That would be great!
Thank you
Allan

Today I can see my children again…. (if I do not go to the JA field trip seminar…) and then I have two ideas to do with them. The first is that I can take them to the Bass Pro Shop in Indiana and the second is that I can take them to my house at 5405 Georgia Lane. By far, the Bass Pro shop is more interesting. There is a whole section of it that Sofia has still not explored (the part that has to do with target practice,) and Hannah has never been there.
But look, I got an email about this from LL.
I got your message about today. That is fine that you want to cancel--I can keep the kids.

You may not realize that if you volunteer for the field trip to JA, they do not let you be assigned to your child's work group. Each volunteer monitors a mini-business & it is their policy that you cannot work with your own child's group. I say this only because you said you were trading two hours for more time with your kids.
And I responded immediately since she gave me a way out even though she said “yes”!
Dear Lorena,
Ok, then I will see the kids today. Thank you for letting me know about the policy of the supervisory roles. I will not go to the field trip seminar and instead will take the children for the evening. I will pick them up at 5:00PM. Also, Lorena, would it be possible for the kids to call me in the mornings on the way to school?
Thank you again,
Sincerely,
Allan
Notice that she simply did not respond to the issue of telephone calls but she did respond to the issue of my NOT seeing the children today. ¡Así es ella! Did she shoot herself in the foot? Does she know what I want?
And then I called her and left a message on her answering machine with the same information.
And soon enough, she responded to my email without mentioning anything addressed in my email: probably an hour after I sent it, she wrote:
Regarding thursday, can you see the children from 6-8 instead of 5-7? Lorena Lasky
And so I wrote back right away:
Dear Lorena,
I will be at Highland Coffee House to pick up my/our children at 5:00PM. I saw that you responded to my email because it is just below yours. Remember my email said "....I will see the kids today....I will not go to the field trip seminar and instead will take the children for the evening. I will pick them up at 5:00PM." You did not confirm this in your email but since you must have read my email, I am going to assume that you know now that I am picking up the children today.

As far as picking the children up on Thursday, that will work.... I need to buy snow suits or bibs for them for Sunday (unless you have some) , they need to be waterproof: not cloth but Gortex and that may cut into our time doing homework a bit.... So, where will you be on Thursday with the children just before six o'clock -- maybe there is a store like Dick's or Wallmart or Sears where I could quickly and easily purchase these items for a full day of uninterrupted skiing on Sunday, near to where you are at that time?

When you drop off the children with me today at 5PM I will ask you if the children have waterproof snow suits for Sunday and I will ask you about calling on the way to school. I will re-confirm that on Thursday I will care for the children from 6 till 8PM.

(Do you want to tell me why you want me to take the children at 6PM?)

I wish you the most beautiful day in the Universe.
Allan
And so my guess is that she did shoot herself in the foot so to speak. She thought that my mind was already made up and that she could be free to say anything. But the truth is, of course, that I was more tempting the water than anything else. Am I worried about not going to the seminar? No, not really. Maybe I can make the seminar up later? Maybe I can not volunteer but still go?
And at 4:58 I again called LL to make sure she was on track about me getting the children today but she did not answer the phone. Ok, so that’s three telephone messages that I leave with her as well as an email that she has responded to…
At 5PM I go to see if my children are at CEP and I see Hannah. Hannah is trying to interact with other children but is being dismissed by them and she is sucking her arm and then wanders off alone in the room and distracts herself with a toy on the floor for a little while. I feel sad for Hannah.
LL does not arrive until 5:20PM. I speak with her at about 5:07 and she pretends at first that the phone is breaking up. She then pretends that she does not know that I was going to care for the kids. “So you responded to my email without reading it.” I could totally tell that it was a sham.
This conversation is recorded. LL did not want me to pick up the children at CEP. It’s funny how I know this. I know her too well.
And then at 5:22 PM she brought me the children.
“Daddy, are you taking us skiing now?” Hannah asked.
While the children were dropping off their back packs with LL I spoke to (not with) LL. I explained that the children need water proof ski suits. Then I asked her if she could make it a habit to instigate the children to call me while she is driving them to school. She said “NO.” She explained that she was Ok with them calling me while she was driving them to school but that this was not going to happen every day. To my remark “I would do that for you,” she remained quiet in her seat.
We went to the Bass Pro Shop.
Hannah was not easy at first. She refused to get out of the car. I said to Sofia, Ok we will let her stay in the car for a while and walked with her to the entrance of the Bass Pro shop and back. By the time we came back Hannah was ready to come out.
And as soon as we were in the store, all was good again. The children marveled at the stuffed animals and the fishes and the 100 pound turtle and then we looked for cover alls for them to ski in but could not find any.. so we went to dinner. Hannah did her entire homework on a piece of scrap paper. Sofia hardly did her homework because she did not have a pencil. However, Sofia did the activities on the placemat and I appreciated that.
The last time I was here (Hannah was according to LL sick and so she was not with me) I ate octopus. Today I ate alligator and the children were intrigued by all this.
And then, we wanted to play with the target practices but were not able to since I did not have any quarters.
They would not give me a cash advance with a purchase at the store.
The atm machine was not working.
So we went to Dick’s sporting goods next door and there we bought the ski outfits the children needed.
Sofia refused to try hers on and I decided not to fight that battle with her. But I was not pleased that she was as such though I did not let her know.
When I was helping Hannah get in her outfit, I remarked that I liked that these outfits were black. “It will be hard to see if they are dirty,” I said “My x-wife won’t know if the children got dirty.” Then Hannah said “Mommy hates you.” I objected to this even though I know that it is kind of true. What is really true is that Nancy is a stubborn self adulating sociopath who has a strong influence over LL. LL wants to hate me – I think desperately badly. (In Nancy’s case, Richard actually slept around on her, but I have been totally fair and faithful and kind to LL – certainly until we were divorced…) I said “Hate is a very strong word.” The saleslady was also a bit upset and said something. Hannah then retracted her statement and said “Mommy doesn’t like you.” The sad thing is that LL is a natural hater – and her hate has become immense because of the work of the KGB et al. Nancy’s hatefulness is extraordinary.
And the children were perfectly entertained watching a good movie in the car and when we got to LL’s we were actually a quarter of an hour late. I called LL at exactly the time she was expecting us and told her that I had bought jump suits for the children to ski. If she read my email then she would have understood. She seemed to understand because she was good about it. And when I arrived, Hannah, who was thrilled to have been with me, begged me to wait to see the cat.
I waited and waited and waited and called both numbers,.. and finally when I was just leaving I heard the door open and Hannah brought the baby kitten in her arms for me to greet. I petted the baby kitten on the head and lightly rubbed its ears and then I kissed Hannah on the head. Hannah needed to let me know that she loves me. I believe she fought hard to do so this evening.
After dropping the children off at LL’s I thought to call LeeAnn and this is the message I left her: “Hey LeeAnn this is Allan Lasky-Headrick, I am the x-husband of Lorena Lasky and the father of Sofia and Hannah, I do not know if you remember me, and I am calling to tell you that I have a new phone number and it is (502) 714 – 8577 and any time Rena wants to meet, I want to as well. Thanks, bye.”
I have a phenomenal amount of work to do to create again a working – functioning decent x-wife out of LL. (This is the curse of Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo.)
In November of 2003 my children spoke three languages. Because of the interference of the KGB in my family they lost two of those languages. They are now re-learning German but this is truly a hard battle for me since I have very little in my environment with Germanic culture.
In November of 2003 my children learned how to swim with me.
In June of 2007 my children learned how to ride bicycles with me.
In January of 2008 my children learned how to ski with me.

(Wednesday)January 16, 2007
I was expecting a call from the children this morning but it never came. Sometime after 9:00AM I called LL and left a message asking her to instigate telephone conversations between me and my children in the mornings and in the evenings.
Arts are important because being an artistic type, art is the main way that I learn. I think Sofia is a little like me in this regard.
Secret intelligence in a democracy, the tyranny of government, the connectedness that increases our productivity and progress is threatened by barriers. Democracy is a terrible form of government, it is just the best thing we have.
5:40PM I called LL’s cell phone and left a message about being able to communicate with my children this evening no matter where they may be over-nighting. (I have a suspicion they are not staying at their mothers home most nights this week.)
At 7:00PM no one responds to the ‘linea baja.’ I then called LL’s cell phone and left a message about being able to have the children interact with me on the telephone.


Dear Lorena,
A week ago (or so) I asked for us to get together at a coffee shop for a cordial interaction about the children. We need to speak with one another about their lives both at present and in the future.
I just ate a dish with blue cheese and it reminded me of one of your dishes – the shepherds pie with blue cheese. (Lorena, I loved and still love that food) Have you made it for Sofia and Hannah? If I compliment Sofia and Hannah on your dish….?
I am having a hard time getting tn through to my children on the telephone. I believe they are busy with a million things.....? In any case, maybe you could make it so that when they are in your car with you -- that would be a good time to call "Daddy?" So, for example, they could call me every school morning on the way to school? You told me two days ago (on January 15th) that the children would be able to speak with me by telephone on their way to school. However, it has not yet happened. Could we start this habit? Please? Pretty please?
Lorena, I respect your right to smoke. Can you please hide this from the children.
Nancy also ,most probably, smokes and this is also not good for the children if they see it.
May I invite you and the children to tea or coffee and yummies at Starbucks or to falafel, humus and babaganoush at the Marakesh restaurant next to Starbucks?
Do you remember that I facilitated your seeing the children for ten or fifteen minutes on the 22nd of January. Do you think I could see my children for a similar time one of the evenings when you have them. How about this coming Friday or Saturday? Just to say hello or good night to the children?
Could you please give Hannah a kiss on the top of the head and tell her it is from me through you to her?
I looked for a gold framed kind of teal blue matted Kentucky tree print by Paul Sawyer and on Saturday night no one picked up the phone so I was not able to tell you that I had not found it. On Sunday morning I wanted to tell you but somehow transferring the children from you to me was not easy and then on Tuesday I had a list of things to say to you and that was one of the ones I admitted to not remembering, but now I remember… so here is the state of the case: I reckon it is still possible that it is in my shed but it is in the back and not easily accessible so it will take some time until it get unearthed, if it is in the shed. In any case, can you please find a way to get me copies of the scrap books?
Can you please show the children how to receive and send emails to me?
Can you please agree with me that Hannah should be able to communicate with Sarah and Scottie (that does not mean that she will, only that she can.) If Hannah asks, I would like to tell Hannah that you told me it was something that can happen. If it is something that can not happen, then you must tell her because I cannot take responsibility for cutting her connection to Sarah and Scottie.
I am wondering where is the telephone that I gave the children because no one has responded to it in many weeks. It is important that the children have this telephone on Sunday when they take to the ski slopes. Last week end I asked them to take a cell phone with them on the ski slopes and they told me that they did not have one. This was not a big concern because the three of us skied together – but I have little reason to believe that we will do this next time we go skiing.
Hannah skis straight down-hill and does not want to slow down or to slalom. Sofia wants to tame the slope and is interested in learning the art of parallel skiing. This means that the children will probably not be together and at least one cell phone will be a very good thing to have. Please have the children ensure that the telephone is fully charged on Sunday morning (8AM) when I come to pick them up.
Last semester (toward the end) Hannah was present at a meeting that sounds to me like it was an IEP meeting but was not labeled that way by you. Please update me on that meeting and please provide me with all the documents that you got at that meeting. Also please tell me who her counselor is, who were the people at that meeting?

And today, Lorena, you want me to take the children from 6 to 8PM. I am OK with that but it would be better if you told me why?

Oh, and now I will respond to your email that I just got today: I am supposed to care for my children between 5 and 7 PM on Tuesdays and Thursdays. The problem arose because you denied me access to Hannah at your place. (When the children are in your house I have zero access to them.) If you had said “Allan, Hannah is sick so you can stay here too,” then there would have been no problem. Alternatively, Lorena, my home is warm, it has cable TV, it has two great dogs, it has food and a good place for the children to do homework or art. My car is a Lincoln Mark VII which is also very warm and comfortable for transporting children. There is no reason I could not have taken Hannah to my house. I told you and emailed you this information at the time…… Then there is the issue that you that you were seen at Starbucks with Hannah on Wednesday, a day after you had denied me time with Hannah……. and still, the next time, on Thursday, you did not let me take Hannah.

In general Lorena, the reason I MUST take you to court is because you are not reasonable, you do not consider alternatives, you do not invite discourse on issues, you do not engage in conversations…..

Can we make up one of those days? If I can have Sofia during that make-up day, then my hours with the children would total the correct amount for that week. (Then we avoid those legal fees.)

Oh, there is one more thing. As well as the crocheting classes, I believe it is an excellent idea for the children to take music classes. I have already arranged for an instrument (violin) and a corresponding teacher. Can you please get back to me about how we can have Sofia (and Hannah) take classes…. Piano, violin, guitar are the only possibilities I have right now. The teachers are people who already know Sofia and Hannah and they charge $15.00/hr which is cheap. Let’s please not pass this up.
Thank you,
Allan

And then another email:

Dear Lorena,
Taking Sofia skiing on Sunday conflicts with her Girl Scouts. If you like, I can take the children skiing on Saturday and take Sofia to Girl Scouts on Sunday. Then, while Sofia is at Girl Scouts, I can spend time with Hannah and we would have resolved our issues with the motion of contempt regarding last week. Please let me know as soon as you can because if I am taking the children skiing on Saturday, I have a lot to prepare tomorrow.
Thank you very much,
Allan

And then I chatted on the internet with Scottie, Hannah’s biological father:

Scottie: hello allan how are you
Allan: oh it so good to get in touch with you again!A lot has happened in the last year with Hannah.
Scottie: i got your message but i have really been busy -- work work
Allan: As you know she met Sarah! It was a very good meeting for Hannah... and I think it was for Sarah too....
Allan: I will be with Hannah this evening and I would like to let her know that I am in touch with you.
Scottie: yes please
Allan: But, I have to update you on the legal crap that has taken place.
Scottie: oh ok
Allan: After Sarah and Hannah met, y x-wife got a judge to sign an order prohibiting Hannah from interacting with you and Sarah.
Scottie: oh really why is that
Allan: I am totally sorry about that. I think this is wrong.
Allan: I think my x-wife did it becuase she wants to hurt ME -- not Hannah.
Scottie: oh ok
Allan: But the crazy thing is that she is really hurting Hannah -- she is blind and does not see the light.
Scottie: well yea that is true
Allan: Anyways, I can send you emails with pictures of Hannah and I can tell Hannah that I am in touch with you and I can relay anything that she wants me to relay to you.
Scottie: yes all of that sounds good to me i have been working so much seeing her would be so great
Allan: And I can talk with you on the telephone and my telephone number is (502) 714 - 8577 so write it down.
Scottie: ok i will
Allan: I am going to court in a week and a half about Hannah interacting with you and Sarah. I will let you know if the Judge changes the order.
Allan: Where are you?
Scottie: my new num is 704-787-0542
Scottie: still at ft bragg
Allan: Oh thank you for your new number, I will write it down.
Scottie: Ok
Allan: Good! I am glad you are at Fort Bragg. Will you be going to the middle east any time soon?
Scottie: no i will be here for the next year or two
Allan: And can you tell me anything about Sarah? She has not responded to her telephone in two months!
Allan: That is great that you will be in the USA for a long time. YES, I want to meet you and I want Hannah to meet you too!!
Allan: What are you doing in Ft. Bragg?
Scottie: i have not seen or talked to her i have been working like crazy here and have not had a chance to get home i use to see her online a long time ago but i have not seen her online in a long time
Scottie: i train reserve and national gaurd units that are going to iraq and Afgahnistan.
Allan: I will tell Hannah.
Allan: Let me tell you that Hannah is doing very well in school. She understands two languages. (she used to speak three but she has lost one since she came to the USA)
Allan: I took Hannah skiing for the first time in her life last week end and she loves it. But to be honest with you, she wants the SPEED. She does not want to learn how to stop. After she was taught how to stand on her skiis, she looked down the mountain and said, I will try this and I will go straight down.
Scottie: haha
Scottie: now thats funny
Allan: Indeed she went straight down and she stopped at the bottom (just barely) by putting her skiis in a pizzaq wedge shape -- if you know what I mean.
Allan: Hannah is not afraid of trying athletic feats. She climbs, skiis, rides her bike without any fear.
Scottie: well i know for sure that came from me
Allan: Hey Scottie, my telephone is free after 7PM and so I would like to call you. Is there a time after 7PM (Louisville time = EST) when I am more likely to get hold of you?
Scottie: mine is free after 9
Allan: Yes, Hannah's fearlessness has to come from you.... and I will call you tonight sometime between 9 and 12?
Scottie ok sounds good to me
Allan: But I am impressed with Hannah's athletic ability. She is OLYMPIC!
Allan: Can you imagine being able to ski after 10 minutes and being able to ski down the first slope after 15 minutes and then being able to take the long steep slopes after 25 minutes?
Allan: I learned to ski in Montana when I was her age and I remember needing to take ski classes for at least a week before I could handle ski lift?
Scottie: i have never done it
Allan: Hannah was taking the ski lift like she had learned it form you.
Allan: You must have excellent genes.
Scottie: I would hope so but I have always been adventurous and athletic
Scottie: and just out there doing wild and crazy stuff
Allan: Do any of your other children have or have any of your children been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD? My x-wife thinks Hannah is adventurous because she has ADD but I think it is because of you....
Scottie: yes my older son
Allan: Yeah, Hannah loves to do way out there and crazy stuff!
Scottie: and sometimes i think my younger son has it he is smart as a button but just like Hannah
Allan: Oh my god Hannah is so smart it is incredible! She is not just smart with athletic stuff, she is smart with math and reading.
Scottie: yea that’s my son Nick the one Hannah looks like
Allan: Hey, do you still have the same email address and I will send you a video of Hannah.
Scottie: yes, scottiekelly@yahoo.com
Allan: I will send it today (except if I do not have time becuase I've got to go get Hannah and Sofia) and then I will send it tomorrow.
Scottie: ok well i am looking foward to seeing them
Allan: tell me a few things about you that I can tell Hannah?How far from Louisville are you? How far is Ft. Bragg?
Scottie: about 8 or 9 hours
Allan: Do you own a house?
Scottie: no i am in a apt
Allan: Who lives with you in the apt?
Scottie: just me
Allan: Oh then it would be easy to visit you?
Scottie: yes
Allan: In what state is Ft. Bragg?
Scottie: nc
Allan: Then it would be easy to visit my parents, you and Sarah?
Scottie: yep, but you know i still plain on driving up there i have a few army buddies there
Allan: If you drive up here I will do EVERYTHING I can to arrange for you to see Hannah. If Hannah meets you without the judge changing the order or without my x-wife agreeing then I might go to jail. I am prepared to go to jail........
Scottie: No we don’t want that I would rather do things legal we don’t need you going to jail
Allan: thank you
Scottie: yw (you’re welcome)
Scottie: its cool i just want things to be right
Allan: ok, so what else can I tell Hannah before you and I split up? I gotta go soon.
Scottie: yea I gotta go in a few myself but so far just been working alot and teaching army classes
Allan: I think I am going to send you an email for you to send to Lorena, my x-wife -- if you want.... but it is more powerful if you ask her if you ask to see Hannah.,,, Ok, Scottie we will do things right and keep everything cool. And I definitely want to meet you if Hannah can't when ever you get here.
Scottie: ok it sounds good to me i will let you know when i come your way
Allan: I will call you. I gotta go.

At 4:54PM LL called to confirm that I would get the children from 6PM to 8PM. And the evolution of that conversation let me know that she wanted to pick up the children from school and take them home at 5:00PM rather than let me be with them from 5:00PM to 8:00PM. The reason she needs someone to care for the children until 8:00PM tonight is because she ‘has a girl scouts meeting’ or so she said. I told her that I had sent her a long email and asked her to please read it today. She said “I’ll try to read it today.” I asked her if she could bring the children to the Karma café at 6PM and she did not answer me. Instead she hung up on me.

So I went to the Bloom Elementary School and found her picking up the children at 5:20PM. Again I asked her if she could bring the children to the Karma Café and this time she agreed that she would do that. I again asked her to please read my email today and again she said the same thing “I’ll try.”

A few minutes later I called to let LL know that I can order food at the Karma Café if she opts not to feed them at home. LL did not pick up the phone so I was only able to leave a message.

Now, this is important: The children are very concerned about the enmity that they understand their mother has towards me. The children were in a terrible state when I saw them with LL for that one minute. I walked along the alley way and waved to them as LL drove with them past me and the children did not wave to me. This can only be because waving at me upsets LL.

LL probably besets the children with the understanding that the enmity is because I irk her or something like that.

It is 6:05PM and the children are not here yet. I will go outside and wait on the curb.

At 6:10PM as I was trying to call, LL pulled up. LL was
angry but I controlled. I said “please read the email I just sent you and she again said “I will try. But the way “I will try” is code for “I will not.”
I asked LL if the children had eaten and she said “NO.” I asked if the children had their homework and she said “they did that at home.” Hannah was happy that she did not have to do homework with me and she was a bit proud of herself too. I feigned surprise that the children were not doing homework with me. It’s all good.
I escorted my children into the Karma Café. The food arrived soom after. The waitress was fantastic to my children…. She tuned into their needs very quickly. I had ordered the food already and had told the waitress they would be coming so she was ready. She had arranged for a table for three.
Hannah wanted to play billiards and I was ready for this too. Hannah and I played billiards while Sofia played with her dog-tendo game. This was the present that she had gotten from the Lasky’s for the post Christmas-Xmas. You remember the children had been at Christmas at Farmor and Farfar’s and then at a second Christmas starting on the 27th at the Lasky’s. During this second Christmas the Laskys had psychologically (miss-altered? = the word that exactly describes the truth I know for sure happened but am not allowed to implement sociologically) altered in such a manner as to cause Sofia to ask me why she had gotten less Christmas presents this year than she had last year and so on (and on and on) but anyway, the dog tendo game was a good distraction for Sofia while Hannah and I played pool, but the best part of it all was when Sofia joined us and without using the pool queues, we created a game that involved pushing the balls into so and so many walls before pocketing them.
We ate dinner and this was again a great experience.
Hannah scooped the whipped cream onto her plate with her hand. Again, this is because of the Lasky job of raising the children. I will not stand for this and I tell Hannah how she is supposed to act in a restaurant.
And then we walked to LL’s: A very good experience for the girls. Wrapping then up in their jackets --- Walking along the alley ways that we had before followed only with our bikes –-- carrying Hannah on my shoulders --- buying chocolate and sour stuff at the convenience store --- speaking German --- but there was one interesting moment that made the evening absolutely worth anything and everything that makes my children better. In other words we had a moment when my children were able to grapple with what they have been through for the last four years. Hannah said “Daddy you took the graduation book and it is mine and I want it now.”
“I can’t give it to you right now Hannah because it is in my storage unit.”
“It is mine and you can not take it away from me.”
“You are right that it is yours and I will give it to you….”
Sofia was quiet on the side.
“It was bad of you to steal it from me.”
(There was a long pause.)
“Hannah, that graduation was from the school to which Kim Dial sent you.”
“That has nothing to do with me.”
“Hannah, she made it very difficult for me to see you.”
And then Sofia came in. She took my arm and pulled lightly and said “But Daddy, we are with you now.”
“Yes, but it has been very hard to be with you…. There were times when more than a hundred days went by and I was not able to see you.”
And the children built on that as you will read in a little.
We arrived at LL’s before LL arrived.
And then when LL arrived in her car, the firs thing that Hannah said was “Mommy, Daddy said that the “graduation book” is from the school to which Kim sent me.

January 18, 2008
Allan,

You can take the children Saturday and I can do Girl Scouts Sunday. But, what about the children's clinic Sunday that you told e abotu? Wasn't that the whole purpose of taking them again? Is there one Saturday, as well?
Lorena Lasky
And the answer to this email is forthcoming:
Dear Lorena,
Well, thank you for offering me Saturday but the only incentive for going on Saturday is that YOU want the children on Sundays- which is important to me as well and maybe we can do that next week end if you still want… but it seems to me that it is your turn to make an offer? and yes, there is Kids Ski Camp on Saturday as well, but it is easier to work today, Friday.... and devote myself on Saturday to preparing for the big ski day. I had thought you might have considered mitigating the impetus of my latest motion by offering to do something, anything... to ameliorate the craziness that Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo have given Hannah and Sofia.
Would you like to go skiing with us? Would you like to share Hannah on Sunday while Sofia is at Girl scouts? Can you make any kind of arrangement for Hannah’s loss?
(By the way, I got an email from Kelly Wallace where she wrote that it is OK for Sofia to miss out on Girl Scouts on Sunday… )
So, would you mind emailing me? (I am at work right now and for the rest of today and that will not change unless you call me and we reach an agreement.) Regretfully I left my phone at home so I can not call you and vice versa. I might go home for lunch and then I will call you so that you know that I have my phone.
Lorena, of course you have a story to tell the court – you always generate something. It is my hope that the court will tell you that you must NOT keep a child because she is sick. It is my hope that the court will recognize that this is a kind of abuse – but it is something that needs to be settled if not between us, in court, because I fear that if you can get away with this without me standing up for the Judge’s Orders then you will continue to incur all and any cuts that you can make into my time with one or both of our children.


In general, my current concern is that you do not engage in dialogue, discourse, conversation or attempt to find any kind of middle ground. Of course, my concerns in the past have been very much greater.

So, the way things are right now, I want to keep to the Orders and have the children on Sunday.

Now, would you please respond to the other items I included in my email to you. They are all important items to me. Please do not restrict yourself to the items that you consider important. Please write me about issues that are important to you.

And please email me and or later maybe call me so that we can resolve the issue of Hannah last week.
Sincerely,
Allan

And then another email:
Allan,

Your email is extrememly long and although I will not respond to every item, I will respond to what seem the most urgent ones:

You saw Hannah Tuesday in the car & I told you that I had been told by CEP that she has fever. You agreed that she should go home and that you should take Sofia only with you. You kissed Hannah & told her you hoped she woudl feel better.

Hannah awoke in the morning with no fever and it had been 10 hours since she last had tylenol. Nonetheless, I scheduled her a doctor's appointment & kept her home from school. After we dropped Sofia at school, we went to Starbuck's because she wanted hot chocolate and I wanted coffee and she had no fever. We did not stay there, but drank it in the car. Had I known she had strep, I would have never taken her in the public place. Were she still hot with fever, I would have never taken her. When we arrived at the doctor 1 1/2 hours later, she had 99 fever--it was just starting to creep up again. When I took her to the pharmacy, we stayed in the car at the drive-through because she had fever rising and strep is highly contagious. Her early symptoms were not usual of strep so I thought she had the flu. She did not even complain of a sore throat. So, while it is convenient for you to try to paint me galavanting around town with Hannah at Starbucks, you are quite wrong.

The truth is exposed in your following statements when you say that you are unhappy with what transpired Thursday. The doctor told me Wednesday that Hannah was contagious for the next 48 hours and that she could not return to school on Thursday. She had permission to return Friday if she had marked improvement. I worked very diligently to keep Hannah and Sofia separated so that Sofia would nto catch this. Thursday, you called asking how Hannah was. I remarked that she had some improvement and seemed to have an apetite returning. You proceeded to insist she come with you from 5-7pm. WHen I said that she should not because she is still contagious uncer doctor's orders, you proceeded to argue. When you came over, you came inside my living room to see Hannah. You probably noticed how the whole couch was covered in sheets to keep germs from the couch and a "sick-bed" was made up for Hannah. You wanted to stay and have your visit there with Sofia. Like I said, Sofia was not allowed to be in the room with Hannah. Instead of wanting to help keep the girls separated to minimize the risk of Hannah spreading to Sofia, you wanted to make it more likely that Sofia would get strep. You were unreasonable. and confrontative. To my knowledge there is no provision for make-up time in the Court order for when children are legitimately sick. Do I get to make up the time I lost with Hannah while she slept on the couch for 2 days?

Finally, I think it is fine if you pay for music lessons for the children & you can schedule them Tuesday, Thursday or Sunday.

A while back, I asked you to alternate Saturdays and Sundays on the weekend. That still remains my preference. So, if you want to have lessons on Saturday one wweek and on Sunday the next, that is fine. I do need to know the name of the music teacher who already knows the children, please. Is this someone I have met?

I encourage you to teach email skills during you time with the kids if that is important to you. If they try to do email & have questions, I will assist them.

While calling in the mornigns seems like a good idea to you, it is not very feasible on my end. I did say we would try, but you know we live less than 5 minutes. By the time we are settled in, we are half way there, so it is not very feasible at all.

You tend to call every Wednesday when you know the children are in ballet class (5:30-6:30). From about 5:00 to 6:45, we are occupied and cannot answer. Then, we rush home, eat dinner and do homework. You call off the hook when we are in Brownie meetings. I will not answer the phone durign Brownie meetings. If I called and talked to the kids on the phone 30 minutes while you were with them, would that give you time to finish their homework?
Lorena Lasky

Dear Lorena,
Thank you for this long email. I appreciate this very much. I will generate responses to this email and if I have to get back to the truck that I am painting then I will keep coming back to your email so that you get a complete response from me.
So let me start out by commenting that it probably is not good communication for you to only address issues that you deem important or as you write “the most urgent.” The reason is that you are not the only parent. Items that are important to me and you must therefore be considered by you and me.
Your summary of what took place on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday is your story and enough elements that comprise it can fit fairly closely into my version of the truth, but it is not at all complete and basically it paints a picture that is imprecise and suits your purposes only. If you had sat down and contemplated what I might think and what the paradigm of the children or children might be, then you would have seen room for a much better way to handle this. We could have resolved this much better. I think we should still try and I would like to find a way to resolve this as well as any other issues that come up in the future without involving the court. So, please call me because now I have my cell phone and let's see if we can not put an end to this.
Thank you,
Allan

Dear Lorena,
And then you write about music lessons: “I think it is fine if you pay…you can schedule them Tuesday, Thursday or Sunday.” Which means that it is 100% on me (both financially and in terms of time with the children.) How about we split this 50:50? How about we split at least the time 50:50?
The music teacher is a waiter at the Karma Café. I have not presented you to him and so I do not know if you know him.
Because of the Orders, I have arranged to be able to work on Saturdays. However, in principle I do not mind changing Saturday for Sunday every now and then. If you need a Sunday with the children let me know 2 days in advance --- and communicate this to me by telephone and email so that I am sure to get it. It is easier to say "OK" to you if you explain why you would like a particular Sunday with the children.
I think you are flimsy (this is a metaphor) in your commitment to helping the children communicate with me by email and telephone. I am not going to argue with you about when is a good time to call. Instead I will tell you that every time I try to find a time that might work, you find fault with it. Would you please find a time that works? This is not a trivial issue to me – it has always been very important. Your trick hinges on chronic ostracizing and it must stop.
Sincerely,
Allan

I am moved by what Archana says about her talk with Hannah. “I feel that she is a Girl w. problems  fantasy world.”



And Lorena is fighting me in court. Here are excerpts of the claims made by LL to the court. Attempts to take the children away from me: In a letter actually a letter written by LL’s lawyer it says:
“Ms. Lasky informed Mr. Lasky-Headrick that Hannah would not be attending visitation because of this illness.” (LL told me at 4:45PM. I do not think that counts.)
“Ms. Lasky-Headrick does not even know where Mr. Lasky-Headrick lives. At various times in the past he has advised the court that he was homeless or living in a campground.” (That is nuts!)
“Finally when picking up the children and on Sunday, Mr. Lasky-Headrick once again went off on Ms. Lasky in front of both the children. Mr. Lasky-Headrick spoke about the allegations and once again said that he thought that Ms. Lasky had taught the children to lie and say that he had sexually abused them.” (Essentially completely untrue. What is true is that I feel that I have the right to defend myself when LL accuses me of abusing the children in front of the children and I DO THAT – or at least I had to do that twice. I do NOT speak about the allegations when I am alone with my children because my children know the truth. I have no need to address the issue. However, with LL it is a different matter. She is an adult who knows the truth and thinks she can get away with it.

Saturday, January 19, 2008
I got two emails from LL: They must have been sent this morning because I had not gotten them when I went to bed at around midnight.
No way Allan. The childern are dressed up right now ready to ski. We are not doing this tomorrow again. I am angry because I have rearranged both my schedule and the children's schedule to accommodate them going with you on Satruday. Now, we are stood up & you won't answer your phone! I came in to check my email to find that this message. You decided to changwe your mind because "YOU want the children on Sunday." No--I did not want to change around my whole weekend. I had to re-arraqnge two plans I had with two different people so the kids could go Saturday. Now, you think yuou can send an email Friday afternoon changing it back again. I guess we have to negotiate another day because now the kids have a frined staying over Sat night (rearranged to accommodate Saturday warly skiing). They will be up late with the sleepover & working on girl scout badge requirements for the Subnday meeting. So, you can't reschedule & then change your mind with an email. Besides, you know I don't read this hotmail account every day. How rude. Mayeb you can do it next Saturday but you blew this weekend unless you hurry up and get here. The friend is coming over at 6pm (sonce you were suppossed to be gone 8-6)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lorena Lasky


And then another:
Cannot do that. I already do dancing on Wednesday & brownies on Monday & I pay 100% of both of those. There is no other night to do this & I won't give up my one free evening---Friday. I cannot afford more extra-curricular charges. If you paid your half (now changed to 30%) of the medical bills, I might. But you do not choose to support your children. If you have money for lessons and skiing, you shoul dpay your support obligations.
Lorena Lasky.
And so I called LL. It was 9:25AM. LL picked up the phone. She admitted that she was angry. I let her speak her mind. Then she said “what about taking the children skiing on Monday?” I had planned to go skiing with the Chowdhuri family…. I told her I would ask them if they can rearrange their plans. LL explained that she had arranged for a sleep-over tonight with Vera for the children. That would mean that the children will be tired when I get them on Sunday. I told her I would call back in a couple of hours after asking the Chowdhuri family. I asked to speak with Sofia and Hannah but LL said that the children were occupied and so the conversation was ended with her saying “call me back when you have consulted with your ski-friends.”
I consulted with The Chowdhuri’s and they were peeved about changing the day to Monday.
When I called again and spoke with LL I told her that it was not likely to happen. The children would go skiing tomorrow.
(Sunday) January 20, 2008
LL was a little late in bringing the kids out but she did meet the Chowhuri’s and that was good. Sofia and Hannah sat on the back seat with Angela and watched a movie about birds as we drove to the Paoli Ski Resort.
We skied all day. The children are accomplished skiers. Hannah was a little lackadaisical about skiing and spent a lot of time in the ski lodge. Sofia and I did a lot of skiing together.
There was one tender moment between Hannah and I when Hannah said that she had a warm present for me and she gave me a great hug.
It was a really interesting day for the children. I had a much better time since the Chowdhuri’s came with me. They were a fantastic source of support.
And then, when I was driving the children home, LL called to say she was not home so I stopped by the Chevron Gas station and bought something sour and something chocolaty for each of the children – (Chocolate for Sofia and sour item for Hannah) and we walked to LL’s. The children were happy as larks on that walk.
The transition to LL’s was easy today. The children wee smooth with letting me kiss them and LL did not say anything too bad: she asked for some things in a bag that Sofia had taken with her (which I had forgotten at home) and she said “OK, leave it on the front porch.” That may even be a good thing, for her to have said? You know, when people are so god dammed awful for so long, anything half way decent can be considered to be good even if it is actually only half good.

Monday 21, January, 2008
9:00AM,
Hello
Yes, heipodey, this is daddy and this morning I was listening to a speech by Dr. Martin Luther King. Do you know who that was or what he did?
(no answer, click: disconnected.)
9:01AM, again I was disconnected.
9:07AM, it simply rings interminably.
The three calls detailed above were all to the ‘linea baja,’ so then I called LL’s cell phone and since no one picked up the phone I left the following message.
“Good morning Rena, heipodey, this is Allan and I am trying to speak with my daughters who are also your daughters, Hannah and Sofia. Would you please be so kind as to facilitate Sofia and Hannah calling me – that would be an appropriate and correct behavior for you to implement. If you think otherwise, please let me know why, today... Thank you very much.”
11:30AM I tried calling but it was to no avail. The ‘linea baja’ rang interminably and LL’s cell phone sounded like it had been turned off. In any case, since I had left a message a little over an hour ago, I did not leave a message.
3:00PM I try to call my children and it is not fruitful. The ‘linea baja’ suggests there is no one home and LL does not answer her cell phone. I believe her cell phone is off?
3:30PM or thereabouts I call Nancy and ask her if she knows where my children are. She says “no,” so then I thank her and ask her to please let the children know I want to speak with them on the telephone. She hangs up on me.
4:48PM still trying to reach out by telephone to my children.
6:00PM still trying to reach out by telephone to my children.
7:00PM still trying to reach out by telephone to my children. I call it a day after leaving one more message or LL to facilitate my speaking with the children.

January 22, 2008
At 8:59AM Hannah called me. Isn’t she supposed to e in school? Hannah said “I am mad at you Daddy!” I asked “why?” she said “because you still have my scarf and my mittens which I need this morning to go to school.”
“I can bring them to you right now,” I said but Hannah said “NO.”
“I can bring them to your school,” I said, but Hannah said “NO.”
I happened to be on Broadway and close to I-65 and it would have been a matter of minutes for me to get to LL’s house.
“You can leave it on the front porch.”
Then I said “I love you Hannah and I will see you later today.”
“Me too,” she said.

So, what do you make of this? Well, the “front porch” part of Hannah’s utterances is LL’s. I believe that the first sentence that ran “I am mad at you Daddy,” is also LL’s. The two ‘no’ responses to my suggestions come from Lasky hate…. And so the Laskyness goes on.
It was motion hour in the court house today. Helmers did not speak to me before it. The judge signed a “no bad talk” order thus preventing LL and me from addressing the allegations with the children. This does not bother me in the least. It is not I, but LL’s family that has been involved in bad talk and my children know this very well. A total waste of time. However I did impress Helmers with the need for some investigative work.
I think my children and I need another lawyer.
Dwayne, who lives very close to the house I am intending to buy, invited me to lunch at his house. Dwayne works at the BMW store where I had worked last year. I spent some time talking with John and Dwayne and then rolled over to the Highland Coffee house to wait for my children. At the Café I came across an email that Farfar had sent Papo and Papo had forwarded to me with his own email. Here is Farfar’s email to Papo:
--- William Headrick wrote:

Mark, please go ahead and deposit in total $XXXXXX from the Parents'Account into Allan's account at the UFCU. His account number according to my records is XXXXXXXXXXX. That sum is made up of a loan from you of $1,000 and a loan from Mommy and me of $XXXXXX. Allan will repay the loan in installments of $500 a month, beginning on March 1. You will get the first two payments. Please confirm to me and Allan that you have completed the transfer.

Your Dad
And here is the email I got from Papo:
Well, Allan, I made the deposit into your Austin UFCU account, XXXXX from Daddy's account, and 1000 from mine, to buy your house.
Good luck. Considering your spectacularly awful behaviour last Xmas, you should be counting your lucky stars. Make sure you write a really nice thank you letter to your parents.
Mark.

And here is the response I forwarded to Papo and copied in to Farfar:

Dear Papole,
Thank you very much for your intensely wonderful nature and good humor. Good humor is the key in the hyperbolic nature that is the Lasky family. I just got out of the court house and the only thing that happened is that the Judge has ordered for no one to speak about the allegations with the children. What a fantastic waste of time. "oh how sweet."
Now I am at my favorite coffee shop -- the one that is next to Sofia and Hannah's school. LL will bring the children here in a couple of hours -- she will probably be late (she is never on time) and she will probably be her usual self.
The world economy is taking a turn.
My behavior is always spectacular. I am spectacularly wonderful in that I am intent on Hannah having access to her biological parents. That you would call that 'awfu'l is sad for Hannah. I do not recommend this to you. As for your behavior this Christmas, it was exactly as your history has scripted. No surprises there. The reality that you are a wonderful brother is spectacularly evident in your email. Thank you.
Lots of love,
Allan

And then:
Dear Farfar,
The offer has been accepted by the HUD agency. It is now ten minutes before 5PM.
I will get the statements of my financial solvency to the agent by tomorrow and I think that means that by the end of the week I will be a home owner again.
Lots of Love,
Allan
By the way, if you are curious to know what is going on in the world….The headlines in the New York Times are “WORLD MARKETS PLUNGE…” and “Fears that the United States may be in a recession, reverberated around the world on Monday (Martin Luther King day the NYSE was closed) sending stock markets from Mumbai to Frankfurt into a tail spin.
It was a little after 5:00PM, when LL pulled up in the parking lot of the Highland Coffee House. As is the norm, my children put on some show for LL that involved closing the door as I walked past and pretending not to want to be with me. I am used to this now and pay no attention to it at all. I went to the driver’s door of LL’s car and spoke with LL. I said “Hannah does not seem to have any homework?” and LL said “No, she did it during CEP.” And I saw that Sofia was holding her homework in her hand.
Now, I had intended to take the children to visit Archana, but she called to cancel our meeting. We went to Days Café and watched a movie in German.
Sofia spilled some hot chocolate on her homework but she adjusted to the incident saying “I will get another copy from my teacher.”
And then we went to the Karma Café and arranged for the first music lesson with the Violin teacher for Sunday at 6:00PM.
And there we played billiards.
There was one interesting moment when Sofia asked me if I had called Grammy. I said “yes… I called to see if I could find out how to call you because I was trying to call you.
And I brought the children home exactly on time. We would have stopped at the Chevron and bought some goodies on the way home but it was 6:58PM so we just drove on to LL’s place.
I asked LL about calling the children tomorrow. I pointed out that she had stated that the children are at Brownies tomorrow and that means that they must remember to call me while in the car on the way there – or we can not communicate. LL agreed to remind the children that they must call me when in the car.
After my time with Sofia and Hannah, which went very nicely, I sent the following email to LL:
Dear Lorena,
Today, in front of Sofia and Hannah, you said that you would ask the children to call me on the way to Brownies. This is a happy reminder.
I hope you have a good time,
Sincerely, Allan

Tomorrow I buy a house.

January 23, 2008
Hi Allan,

I am so glad you had the Skiing with your girls you must be very proud of them and the thing is that now they can skii they will have this as a skill for the rest of their lives and sooner or later (hopefully sooner) you guys can do this on a regular basis together. I really hope you can win custody and if there is any justice in this world this will happen. I think when you buy a house and settle right in as this will help your case for custody.

My feeling on the economy so that in spite of the problems the US is rebound for getting its act together and be flying high by the time the rest of the world are starting to flounder. But this was historical and the global economy has changed so lets see.

Let me know how you are going my very good friend as I truly wish you the full justice that you deserve as this would be the best for you and your daughters!

Lionsharecology
And I write him back-
Dear Lionsharecology,
The US economy has been founded on hope and wishful thinking for too long. …..
Lionsharecology, I am rambling, let me get back on track. Let me tell you a few facts:
(1) The American Automotive industry is going down fast! The Ford factory is going to close in a year or two. This is not an official statement yet but I can not see how Ford can survive. That will translate into a massive economic down turn in Louisville. The reason it will be massive is because so many subsidiary companies depend on Ford for their business. When that is gone, they will vanish too.
(2) The other two big companies in Louisville ate General Electric and UPS. They will both suffer but not as much as Ford. GE will almost go bankrupt.
(3) There are currently over 5,500 houses in Louisville that are in foreclosure.
(4) When the Federal Reserve prevented global collapse of the markets by reducing interest rates, the US economy rebounded alright but the entire rest of the world did NOT. It is my opinion that the US economy is founded on false hopes. These hopes will shatter in 6 to 12 months. …

Your brother,
Allan






Dear Lorena,
Here is almost the same sentence I sent to you last week: Two weeks ago (or so) I asked for us to get together at a coffee shop for a cordial interaction about the children. We need to speak with one another about their lives both at present and in the future.
And this too, you have seen before but not responded to: I just ate a dish with blue cheese and it reminded me of one of your dishes – the shepherds pie with blue cheese. (Lorena, I loved and still love that food) Have you made it for Sofia and Hannah? If I compliment Sofia and Hannah on your dish….? I did not compliment our children on your food on Tuesday, but maybe I can on Thursday?
I am having a hard time getting through to my children on the telephone. Yesterday you agreed that you would have them call me today. I hope that happens.
Lorena, I respect your right to smoke. Can you please hide this from the children. Please respond to this request.
Nancy also ,most probably, smokes and this is also not good for the children if they see it. Please respond to this too.
May I invite you and the children to tea or coffee and yummies at Starbucks or to falafel, humus and babaganoush at the Marakesh restaurant next to Starbucks? Please let me know.
Do you remember that I facilitated your seeing the children for ten or fifteen minutes on the 22nd of January. Do you think I could see my children for a similar time one of the evenings when you have them. How about this coming Friday or Saturday? Just to say hello or good night to the children?
Could you please give Hannah a kiss on the top of the head and tell her it is from me through you to her?
Can you please find a way to get me copies of the scrap books?
Can you please show the children how to receive and send emails to me? I do this also, but I can not show them in your house and that is where they need to practice the endeavor.
Can you please agree with me that Hannah should be able to communicate with Sarah and Scottie (that does not mean that she will, only that she can.) If Hannah asks, I would like to tell Hannah that you told me it was something that can happen. If it is something that can not happen, then you must tell her because I cannot take responsibility for cutting her connection to Sarah and Scottie.
I am wondering where is the telephone that I gave the children because no one has responded to it in many weeks. It is important that the children have this telephone on Sunday when they take to the ski slopes. Last week end I asked them to take a cell phone with them on the ski slopes and they told me that they did not have one. This was not a big concern because the three of us skied together – and last Sunday, when we were skiing again, you did not leave the children with a cell phone. This was NOT good,
Last semester (toward the end) Hannah was present at a meeting that sounds to me like it was an IEP meeting but was not labeled that way by you. Please update me on that meeting and please provide me with all the documents that you got at that meeting. Also please tell me who her counselor is, who were the people at that meeting?



Can we make up one of the days that Hannah was sick or any of the many other days?

Oh, there is one more thing. The children will take violin lessons on Sunday.
Sincerely,
Allan

And it was close to 7:00Pm when Sofia called me. She was in the car. She and Hannah had just finished Ballet and they were passing by Long John Silvers for dinner. I spoke with Sofia until LL told Sofia she had to stop talking – this was not long (maybe ten minutes?) because LL herself needed to get on the phone. I did manage to speak with Hannah for a little. Hannah said that LL had the phone I had given my children. Sofia told me she does not know where it is.
I called Bloom to speak with the counselor of Sofia and Hannah. She was not available so I left a message.
Then I called the KGB and left a message stating that my children need real therapy. I asked them to call me back.
Brenda Crawford, the counselor at the Bloom Elementary school called me this morning at 9:50AM and scheduled a meeting with me for Tuesday the 29th at 3:00PM.
Again I called the KGB. This time I left a message for David Weathersby because I was forced to by the receptionist: I said “There is a phenomenal – and by that I mean fantastic in the literary sense of being… extreme and inordinate – one of the dimensions of that label (fantastic) is the chronic nature of it and the ever-pending continuity of the madness… anyway, my children need to be served by therapists. It is my knowledge that Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo have negatively served my children but I am indirectly concerned with the past, but the future and it is your past responsibility to look to the future and help. I am asking for your help. My telephone number has changed. It is now (502) 714 – 8577. I ask that you call me so that we can arrange for my children being helped with the current crisis which is the same one that has been going on for four years. Thank you.”
Then I wrote to LL:

Dear Lorena,
I have an appointment to meet with the counselor at the Bloom elementary school at 3PM on Tuesday (I think it is a Tuesday) January 29th, and I am inviting you to come as well.
Sincerely,
Allan

And then I went to make a child support payment and to pick up my children. I stopped by John Helmer’s office and asked him to send me an email with a progress report and a plan of action.
5:00PM My children are not here so I call LL and leave a message asking her to call me and let me know when the children will be here.
5:10PM LL calls me to tell me that she is far away (at some house) and will be an hour late. She wants me to postpone being with the children for tomorrow but I tell her that it is better for us if we try to keep things as normal as possible and since I have the right to see my children today that we should keep it that way.
5:20PM I got by CEP and leave a letter asking the children to do their homework and that their Mommy is on her way.
5:30PM LL calls me to tell me that she is on her way.
6:00PM LL calls me to tell me that she has the children outside the Highland Coffee House. I go out and find two children who have not gotten my letter. They have not done their homework. I ask LL if she has the letter and she says “NO.” Hannah’s hair is soaking wet – she was a “bad girl” during CEP. Hannah and Sofia are very relieved to be with me and listen to me as I tell them that we will be doing homework before we eat.
Since the children did not have pencils we bought pencils at the Dollar Store. And there we came across the lady who works at CEP. I asked her about the letter for Sofia and Hannah and she said that it had been given to LL.
I call LL and leave a message on her answering machine asking her to have the letter ready to show the children when I bring them to her place.
We go to the Asian Buffet and I seat the children at a booth and have them begin their homework and only after they have each done about a third of their homework do I allow them to get food from the buffet.
As Hannah finishes her homework she starts making mistakes and I tell her that she has to redo it. She is very stern and tells me “NO.” I am smooth as I respond by telling her that my feelings about her and my wishes for her will never depend on how she treats me. Then I invite her to watch a Tim und Struppi movie in exchange for re-writing her homework. In the interim I am helping Sofia with her homework. I can tell that Sofia is frustrated that I am not telling her the answers and I tell her that I do not know the answers exactly, just have ideas about the answers which I am telling her.
Sofia was vey proud that she knew all 50 States and proceeds then to list them on paper.
And then it is time to go home. The children have been, in my estimation, very productive and I am proud of them.
We drive to LL’s. LL does not have the letter ready so I ask her to get it so that I can give it to the children. She ushers the children inside while I wait outside. I am very glad when she comes to the door a minute later with the children. I give the letter to Hannah who reads it out loud to all of us. The letter was well crafted. In it I had asked for the children to do their homework but I had also written that if they had not finished it that this was OK because I love (and there were several images of hearts) homework. I assured them that I would give them homework of my own as needed. There were three German words in the letter: “Hausaufgaben auf Deutsch.”
“P.S. Beware of large groups of sunflowers dancing with ketchup bottles.” That was at the very end of the letter and the children laughed – especially Sofia.
8:05PM LL calls m to tell me that “Hannah is crying and I still have their homework.” I tell LL that I will be there in a minute and bring the homework.
I return to LL’s and leave the homework inside LL’s house in a plastic bag and on the floor just inside the front door – which was not locked.
9:30PM LL calls me with a tirade: “Why is that the homework is on the floor in my bed room and it has not been done? Hannah hasn’t done her homework at all and Sofia has several open ended questions that she has not even attempted? There are two pages of her homework that she has not looked at. So they’re going to go to school without having done their homeworks. You know that Hannah will get a zero for having done the homework from December and Hannah gets a zero on a chart on the wall in her class. She can’t afford not to. And Sofia can not afford that either because she is wanting to get all A’s. So what is it?
Hannah comes home with messy homework and if you want the responsibility and you need to purchase pencils and you need to have stuff ready for them when you take them two days of the week. And you want some kind of joint custody, do you think you can take care of the children if you can’t even do second grade homework? Hannah has to redo it because it wasn’t done. Period. And you can not take them on a week day and feed them hot chocolate and chocolate cake! So that I found out that this was what had happened when they were in the tub. That is unacceptable and pathetic! You know what Allan? You can’t do second grade homework. You have to read the assignment….
“I’ve never done it for Hannah.” I say.
“Well then you have been very lucky because Hannah does not understand calendars and time tables. No. She does not understand homeworks and 35% of the time that she brings a homework from you it has to be redone.
Ok, I heard what you said, are you going to hang up one me? Please don’t. ‘click’

25 January 2008
12:00AM I call the KGB and leave a message:”Hello, good morning, or as I usually say ‘heypodey’ that is a Sweedish greeting meaning the same thing. I am calling again to let you know that my children are, as they always have been, living in a harrowing psychological environment. I am calling to ask you to HEP my children. While I acknowledge exactly that you have not helped my children, I also know that effective therapy happens best through dialogue and discourse between the participants. As you know and have probably always known, my children understand the truth of their familiar environment. They need external help to be able to cope with the stresses and strains (moral, ethical, psychological and emotional) that they have been encumbered with as well as those they are currently barraged with. My telephone number is area code (502) 714 – 8577 and I am again asking you to call me and see how we can help Hannah and Sofia.”
7:00PM I try to call my children but there is no answer….
9:30PM I call LL and have to leave a message on her answering machine that I may be taking the children skiing on Sunday.

January 26, 2008
9:00AM I try to call my children but no one picks up the phone. I leave a message for LL that I am trying to call my children.
I send LL an email around 11:30AM
Dear Lorena,
I hope you are having a pretty Saturday and that the children are having one as well. Again this week end I have been asked to take people skiing and it is possible that I will do that with Sofia and Hannah tomorrow. I reckon this time, the kids are so self sufficient on skis as to not need any kind of instruction, just my accompaniment. With this in mind, I will be picking up Sofia and Hannah (and if you would like to learn to ski you may also come with us....) at 9AM tomorrow as is normal.
Also, please have the children call me today. It was sad that we were not able to speak on the phone yesterday.
Thank you very much,
Allan
12:30 I again try to get in touch with my children and Sofia picks up the phone. She tells me that she is with Grammy and her cousins (Joey, Leah and Anna) at Grammy’s house. The way she was speaking, the tone of her voice, baby talk let me understand that she was uncomfortable. I asked her several times if she would prefer to call me back. Do you want that? She refused to answer me She said “I watch a movie,” and I let her know that I wanted her to be happy at Grammy’s. I asked her what she was watching and she said “Cinderella.” And then I said “Can I say hello to Hannah?” but the next voice I heard was LL’s. Before LL could hang up on me lI said that I was taking the girls skiing tomorrow and asked her to make sure they would be warmly dressed for that event. I added that we will be leaving at 9AM and that it is important that they take their cell phone with them. There was a commotion in the back ground and I believe it was Hannah who I heard screaming. The phone went dead.
I spent the afternoon pant balling wit the Chowdhuri boys.
And then on the internet (dreaming, and this is a serious dream) with Fatima:
Fatima: Hola Allan… perdona lo de la ves pasada es que se cayó el internet.
Allan: Hola querida Fatima, manana voy a esquiar con Sofia y Hannah.
Fatima: Que bueno Allan yo también quiero. Eso si que es vida. Manda mis recados a Lorena y a las nenas.
Allan: Que me puedes contar sobre tu mamá?
Fatima: ayer estaba hablando con ella,,,tiene muchas ganas de verme sabes?
Allan: Yo quiero verla a ella también. Tu mamá siempre me impresionó como una persona amable, decente, buena...
Allan: Y estoy seguro que ella te quiere ver.
Fatima: si yo tambien y muchisiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiimo
Allan: Que hace ella? Tiene algun trabajo?
Fatima: no como siempre en casa
Allan: O vive ella de dinero que tu la mandas?
Fatima: si
Allan: Y como estan las criaturas que viven ahi en Espana?
Fatima: ahora mi hermano ramon vino a visitarme esta aca en mi casa con su niña presiosa, y pablo que es un principe
Allan: Yo estoy comprando una casa y por eso no he podido visitarte. Pero te quiero ver. Y quiero que Sofia y Hannah te vean tambien.
Fatima: siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii mucho
Allan: Como se llama la nina de Pablo?
Allan: Que digo, la nina de Ramon?
Fatima: no,,,,,,,,,pablo es hijo de la julia ,,y noelia es hija de ramon
Allan: Gracias, ahora me recordare! I tu, has podido encontrar un hombre bueno para hacer una familia?
Fatima: si ahora solo falta yo y mi hijo
Allan: ¿Tienes un novio?
Fatima: ¡Que vaaaaaaaaaaaa no tengo suerte!
Allan: No te apures que no tienes novio. En general los hombres son despreciables.. Ay algunos por aqui y por aya que valen pero son pocos.
Allan: Mi novia en Paraguay me hace muchissima falta. Pronto será un año que no la he visto pero hablamos por la internet mucho.
Fatima: es verdad el dia que me llege a enbarasar me gustaria ser madre soltera,,,,,,,,
Fatima: de verdad
Allan: Eso seria un poco mas facil, no tener al padre. Pero si me permites, yo quisiera ayudarte con la crianza. No quiero ser tu esposo, pero si quiero otra criatura.
Fatima: vale con milllllllllllllllllllllll gustos serías el padre perfecto
Allan: Claro, que si entonces encuentras un buen hombre y quieres convivir con el, entonces podemos arreglar esos assuntos.
Fatima: ¿Hombre bueno? ¿exciste eso? Allan, ¿aparte de ti?
Allan: Entonces falta solo que te embarrasses... para mi, porque mis hijas están aqui en los eeuu tendrias que venir aqui??? No se si eso es possible para ti, pero bueno, una vez que te embarrases, escribeme y hacemos todo lo que podamos. .
Fatima: Vale. Serás el primero que sepa. ,,estoy muy ilucionada con un bebé. Tengo dos sobrinos presiosos. Es muy lindo ser mamá
Allan: Tu hermano Ramon, ¿él es bueno?
Fatima: Siiiiiiiiii, un poco irresponsable, como mi papa, siempre esta dependiendo de otra persona
Allan: Los hombres son irresponsables, en general, con respeto a sus mujeres y a las familias hasta que tengan unos 30 anos por ahíi.
Allan: ¿Donde trabajas tu ahora?
Fatima: En el mismo de siempre estoy muy contenta ahi, estoy muy orgullosa de mi, sabes
Allan: Fatima, tengo que hacer un trabajo, porque aqui debería estar trabajando... Pero te quero prometer lo que ya te dije otra vez:
Fatima: Vale besosssssssssssssssssssss
Allan: Que si no te casas, Y si tu bebé no tiene un papa bueno, entonces, yo te ayudaré por los proximos 18 anos.
Fatima: Graciassssssssssssss. Te quieroooooooooooooo
Allan: Y te quiero mucho, mis hijas te quieren mucho, y nos haces falta.
Fatima: Yo, a ustedes los quiero un montón
Allan: Adiós Fatima, gracias por ser así mismo como eres.

Ok, so now let me keep this in line: In the last two months I have proposed to Yanhong (in the sense that if she still has not married in a decade, that I will then marry her – note that I am assuming that I will not marry…) and I have offered to adopt Fatima’s child (if the father is a nincompoop.)
In the last year I have taught my children how to ride bicycles, how to ride horses, how to ice skate, how to ski and tomorrow I will give them a taste for music.
And just in case you missed what Fatima said about me: Fatima: “vale, con milllllllllllllllllllllll gustos. Serías el padre perfecto.”
I have sold a house, bought a house, worked many jobs….
And my x-wife, LL is no less off her rocker than she has ever been.
7:00PM I tried calling my children and I got through! Wow! At first Sofia was difficult to keep on the phone, but I took her through a fun story about scuba diving along an underwater river (what would you see in an underwater river?) and soon enough she was laughing… but then she suddenly said “I have to go.” I bet LL was forcing her to get off the phone with me. I bid her goodbye in a kind manner.
I send LL an email:
Dear Lorena,
Fatima sends you and the children her best regards.
Sincerely,
Allan

And then another:
Dear Lorena,
I am trying to find therapists for the children. I have even asked Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo to help. I did this even though they have been god awful therapists. I think that if they can actually pay attention to the children there is still hope that they might be of use. I do not know that they will help our children - they never have but... Would you please join me in working to find therapists for the children?
Thank you,
Allan

January 27, 2008
I picked up my children at about 9:05AM. LL had given them a cursory breakfast but she told me that the children need to eat a wholesome breakfast. I told LL that we might go swimming at the YMCA and after a great deal of prompting she went looking for the children’s swim suits and came back saying “The swim suits were left in North Carolina.” She gave me one spare swimsuit. Just as I was leaving I asked LL to help me find therapists for the children. She smirked loudly and said “whatever, go on and leave my house and then we can talk.” I did not know what that meant. At first I thought she would call me on the phone, but she followed all of us down the steps and she said “this is important.” The children were getting in the car and I was ushering them to get into the back seat, and then I asked LL “Do you want to talk with me here? Now? Is this a conversation for adults?” and she responded “The children have something they want to say to you.” I said “well, then let’s all be together and you should sit in the car with us.”
LL got in the car.
LL said “Hannah, tell Daddy what you believe.”
Hannah looked like a complete mess. She is African American but she was white as snow.
Sofia cowered in the corner of her seat.
“Daddy, you abused me when I was a little girl,” said Hannah.
I did not respond for what seemed like an eternity to me and must have seemed like years to Hannah and Sofia.
Lorena looked at me and I looked back at her. I looked straight at her and felt her hate.
And LL left the car.
LL waved good bye to the children.
Normally, I would have waved good bye to LL, but I was not able to do so this time.
I put on a CD of Juan Luis Guerra, which the children ended up hating – but that was good – because they were able desecrate, take their emotions out on the music and they said all kinds of hellish crap that was inside of them and I let them take it out on the music. And I did not speak with them about this because I did not need to. The relief that my children experienced when their mother was gone was so obvious. They were literally speaking about the music saying things like “This music is worse than the dead bumble bee in the back of the car,” “This music is so bad, I want to vomit,” “the music is baaaaaaad!”
I took the children to the Waffle House.
A lot of German was learned today. I had bought two work books at Books a Million last night and these proved to be excellent for the children. They each devoured a couple of chapters. They watched DVD’s in German. We met a woman at the Karma Café who spoke German with them. Yes, today was a very successful day as far as German is concerned.
Anyway, we went to the YMCA and swam – that too was good.
Then we went to the Golden Corral for Lunch and that too was good.
Then we went to the Bass Pro Shop and the children shot some of the guns and that too was good (even though I am a pacifist.)
And we almost lost our cell phone there, we had to return and found it at the lost and found.
And then we ended up at the Karma Café where we ate a wonderful lentil dinner. Sofia had her first violin lesson.
Now there were three incidents of interest. The first was that Sofia asked me if it was true that I had not paid anything for her braces. I responded that there were two possible answers and I wanted to know which one she wanted me to say. One is that Mommy is a acting inappropriately and the other is to not answer. Both children, in chorus said, choose not to answer. I agreed.
And the other is that Hannah said that being gay is disgusting and the violin teacher and I both let her know that gay is beautiful.
And the third is that Hannah said “Daddy, Mommy made me say that or else she was going to kill me.” I said “Mommy will never kill you Hannah,” and I looked at her in the eyes and let her know that she is totally OK.
I brought the children to LL’s place and was out of there at 7:05PM. Hannah bent her head toward me for a kiss. Sofia however wanted to play, she said “Kiss by behutchie!” and I had to pick her up and topple her around and in the end, I kissed them both on the top of the head.

January 28, 2008
Around 8:15AM, I called John Helmers to find out what ever I can about the depositions that are to take place today or tomorrow. I was told that Helmers is trying to get in touch with Trenaman and they have not gotten a response yet. They promised they would call me and let me know the details of the happening of the depositions of the KGB.
I got an email from LL:
Forward that message from Fatima, Lorena.
And I answer
Dear Lorena,
I was chatting ont he internet with Fatima, it was at the very start of the conversation by internet. Here is how it went (this was copied into my journal and the copied from my journal into your email)
Fatima: Hola Allan,,,perdona lo de la ves pasada es que se cayó el internet.
Allan: Hola querida Fatima, manana voy a esquiar con Sofia y Hannah.
Fatima: Que bueno Allan yo también quiero. Eso si que es vida. Manda mis recados a Lorena y a las nenas.
Allan: Que me puedes contar sobre tu mamá?
Fatima: ayer estaba hablando con ella,,,tiene muchas ganas de verme sabes?

Sincerely,
Allan
And another:
Allan,

for what purpose do you think Hannah needs therapy? For what purpose do you think Sofia needs therapy? Lorena
To which I respond:
Dear Lorena,
Sofia and Hannah are deeply wounded, have a lot of hurt... as is evident from the behaviors they manifest consequent to the last four years. The therapy they need is on-going. For example, Sofia said to me yesterday that YOU had said that I had not paid for something that you said I should have paid for. Lorena, that is just THE TIP OF THE ICEBERG. That is one incident in hundreds and hundreds of things that they say to me. You and I can not provide them therapy like a third party would be able to because you are always accusing me in front of the children, both in front of me and behind my back, and , not that I have any interest in stooping to such a level, but I have been gagged by you and the court.
Sincerely,
Allan


And then I send one more email that says:
Dear Lorena,
I have sent you some very long emails and I am again asking you to please respond to the issues therein. Do you want me to send you the long email again?
Sincerely,
Allan

OK, so now my children and I are in the incredible predicament of a tremendous amount of hate and I do not know how to get out of it because there is nothing in place to reduce it. The incidents I have had trying to put something into place (like therapists) has not worked. I have tried on my own to get the KGB to take my children back and have not gotten a response. I have tried over the course of the last month on at least six occasions, both asking LL and the KGB to invite a third party to become involved in our family, so far to no avail.
7:00PM. I called the ‘linea baja’ and Sofia answered the phone. It was an excellent conversation. She had a game of Mancala and she instructed me how to crate my own board on a piece of paper and how to play. I had never played this famous ancient game before, but I got on the internet and learned the rules:
Mancala is an ancient family of board games, and there are numerous variants. This is a version of the basic game, known as two-rank Mancala.
Here's How:
1. The Mancala 'board' is made up of two rows of six holes each. An empty egg carton is perfect.
2. Three pieces -- marbles or stones -- are placed in each of the 12 holes. The color of the pieces is irrelevant.
3. Each player has a 'store' to the right side of the Mancala board. Cereal bowls work well.
4. The game begins with one player picking up all of the pieces in any one of the holes on his side.
5. Moving counter-clockwise, the player deposits one of the stones in each hole until the stones run out.
6. If you run into your own store, deposit one piece in it. If you run into your opponent's store, skip it.
7. If the last piece you drop is in your own store, you get a free turn.
8. If the last piece you drop is in an empty hole on your side, you capture that piece and any pieces in the hole directly opposite.
9. Always place all captured pieces in your store.
10. The game ends when all six spaces on one side of the Mancala board are empty.
11. The player who still has pieces on his side of the board when the game ends captures all of those pieces.
12. Count all the pieces in each store. The winner is the player with the most pieces.
And so we played by phone. Then LL was ready to serve the food and Sofia was ready to hang the phone up but she wanted to tell me one more thing: “Daddy, you remember last time you did homework with us?” I said “Yes, Mommy called me and told me that you had missed two pages and the Hannah had done the wrong homework.”
“Mommy though I had missed out on two pages. I came down the stairs and I heard what she said to you and I told her that I had completed my homework because it was a different paper.”
I told Sofia that I had just let Mommy say what she wanted to say and that it had not worried me. I told her that she does not need to worry about what Mommy says to me. Then we said “I love you,” and “good night to one another.” Oh one more thing, I asked Sofia to blow a kiss to Hannah which she did. “Does Hannah know that it is coming from me?”
“Yes,” said Sofia.

But remember the tirade I was subjected to by LL? I was accused of leaving the homework on her bed room floor. Then I was accused of not having gotten Sofia to do her homework to completion and of Hannah not having done her homework at all. LL then went on to say that this was the norm with me. She came up with some percent amount of times that the children return to her with incomplete homework. She delimited rules that I am to obey to be an effective parent during homework which include always having pencils. She described Hannah’s homework as “messy.” She accused me of not giving them appropriate food for dinner. She accused me of not having the intelligence to do second grade homework. She said I was pathetic. Finally, she hung up on me. In other words, I just got railed on.
Now, what Sofia tells me is that LL discovered that she had degraded wrongfully.
What is much worse than anything else associated with this event is that LL never called me back to put the record straight. That is much worse than getting hammered rhetorically.
And, by the way, just to get my end of the record straight, Hannah worked hard on what she thought was her homework. She wrote neatly (in part because I was with her and asked her to please write “prettily.”) Sofia worked assiduously on her homework and then continued to do school work by listing the States. Sofia was happy and Hannah was proud.

January 29, 2008
I called The KGB. However, as is usual, when I call, I automatically get put on David’s voice mail and so this is the message I left him today: “Hello David, This is Allan Lasky Headrick and I am calling on behalf of your clients, or rather the clients whom you have eliminated from you attention a month or two ago by closing the case with the custodial parent whom you put in the position of becoming the custodial parent which means, as far as I am concerned, by closing the case on your own steam and without paying attention to issues, needs and realities. I am assuming that you were gone last week since you did not respond to my urgent plea and I am hoping that you are back and are able to call me and respond to the very important, indeed I would say, categorically urgent need to administer real therapy to my children Sofia and Hannah. As you must know, they are still, as they have been now for four years, living with the Lasky family. The psychological ambience, the emotional milieu, the circumstances they inhabit need to be psychologically dealt with by my children themselves so that my children can grow past this phase of their lives. Please call me at (502) 714- 8577. Thank you very much. Oh, one more item that you might care to know is that I, of course, have asked Lorena Lasky to call you as well, to urge you to help my children. I have done this through email, by leaving messages on her telephone, in conversation by phone... She has not responded in a positive manner yet, but if you help her, maybe she will.
By the way, the deposition of the KGB is supposed to happen this week or possibly on Wednesday of next week.
Let me just tangent metaphorically! And draw from literature an analogy with my family.
In Auguries of Innocence William Blake wrote:
A dog starv’d at his Master’s gate
Predicts the ruin of the state.
That imaginative incisiveness, that understanding crowded into metaphor that Max Planck had! And the imagery is as factual, as exact in observation as that on which Plank built. The poetry would be meaningless if Blake used words like “dog,” “master” and “state” less robustly than he does. Why does Blake say “dog” and not “cat?” Why does he say “master” and not “mistress?” It’s because the picture he is creating depends on our factual grasp of the relation between dog and master. Blake is saying that when the master’s conscience no longer urges him to respect his dog, the whole society is in decay. Morality expresses itself in the minute particulars. The moral detail is what characterizes a society. As for the emotional power of the couplet, it may come in part because of the change of scale between the metaphor and its application.
Lorena’s conscience (in part because of and also due to Nancy’s reign of terror and the endorsement of the KGB) no longer urges her to respect her children.
$22,753.65 + $25.00 + $1000.00 = $23,778.65
And so, if I get the money from Sweeney Lane and if I do not close on the house in the next three days and if I can survive on $750 for a month or so…. I can still buy the house And man I need a job!
At around noon I called John Helmers to inquire about the depositions and was told “we are still trying to reschedule and haven’t gotten a date yet.” I said “Good god (aghast) and then added “Thank you.”
2:45PM David from the KGB called me: I recorded the second two thirds of that conversation as well, so if I have time, I will type it up – but if not, then you should know that it is in the folder. I do recall saying some very hard things. I remember agreeing with the counselor that Sofia is about to explode. I remember telling the KGB that LL only will bring the children to therapy if she feels safe that they will not spill the beans on her. I remember telling the counselor that Sofia has been coerced to keep things to herself.
January 29th, at 3:00PM meeting with Brenda Crawford of the Bloom Elementary School. She is the counselor. Here is what I told her:

The rain is good for the horses and cows and chickens….
I think that academically the children are doing fairly well, I think that Sofia is doing extremely well and Hannah is doing well. So it doesn’t have anything to do with their propensity to endeavor in matters academia, it has to do with the ambience in which they live and the school as a catalyst or a tool for perpetuating certain negative factors.
They are both to me very different.
Yes, they are very different and they need each other. To take one away from the other is excrutiating. But they are different and the fact that they are different inculcates a great deal of learning in each. Sofia learns to be a little more kinesthetic and Hannah a little more artistic. So I wecome that. I think that is great.
The problem that I have is that do you know what it is?
No, other than that you have been to court several times, no.
Well, I thought you would have worked that out after all this time. I am truly incredulous that you have not worked it out. I invited Rena to come to this meeting and I am sorry that she did not come.
Sofia would not say anything to me.
Yes, Sofia has been taught not to divulge anything about her family life. And Hannah is learning that too in the ambience which they inhabit.
Alright. I never get to see my children unless they have passed through the hands of their mother. Which means that I never get anything from school. Well, except if the children tell me and they are not always precise. So I need an avenue about communication regarding my children with the school.
I speak well about Mark Duke.
She is extremely bright and is off the charts with the AP program.
I want to know about every and anything that involves parents concerning both my children.
Bring an envelope with your address and stamps.
(Regarding custody) I do not have custody. It’s so disgusting it is beyond description in English. I can provide you with the Judge’s orders that say I can have access to school events etc…
I tell her about Hannah meeting and having a relationship with her adopted parents and the trick that LL pulled on Hannah and me.
And then it is time for me to pick up my children. And just in case you are wondering how that that went, I have the whole thing recorded! Two and a half hours of continuous recording.
It is raining.
I tried to call my children and LL and at 5:12PM there was still no sign of them but then they do show up – say at about 5:15PM. I walk towards LL’s car and then LL pulls up to the side. She does not open the window for me to speak with her. She ignores me and pretends that I do not exist. She speaks only with the children – telling them to get their homework organized so that they can do it with me. When the children emanate from the car I ask LL if she is doing great and tell her that I hope she is doing beautifully great. Then I ask her if she is buying a house and she shakes her head. The children are very happy. Sofia tells me that she wants popcorn and at first I do not understand why but then it becomes clear that it is because of a school project.
Sofia and Hannah want to go to the Asian Buffet where we had gone last time but I tell them that we must do something new. They want to ride bikes and I tell them that maybe we can do that on Sunday.
Sofia tells me that she has taken a test in Social Studies and in fact has not learned anything today.
We walk to the Pita Restuarrant on Grinstead Avenue (close to Bardstown road.) Both Sofia and Hannah are super happy and very glad to explore where we are going to eat. First we walk into the Karma Café and look for Josh who is Sofia and Hannah’s violin teacher. The children are resisting learning how to play the violin. Hannah said “we are not learning violin!” I said “Oh, are you learning how to jump with elephants?” And then we left the Karma Café and then Sofia and Hannah started playing a whispering game that involved me closing my ears so that I can not hear them while they say things to one another. This is fun because then I can not hear them when they are telling me to take my fingers out of my ears.
“Ich habe grosse Ohren, wie ein Elephant!”
“Hey meine Kinder, Kann ich meine Ohren wieder frei machen?”
And then we do a little sign language like “I love you,”
And then I find out what the children are whispering about. They are whispering about an RV that I admitted I wanted to buy.
We walk into the Pita restaurant. And the children are trying to guess what is the culture of the food at the restaurant.
I tell the waiter that I want to eat dinner and do homework and the waiter is very polite.
The children choose a table by the window.
I order hot tea for all of us. This is now becoming a habit with me and the children.
The children are in a good mood together – sitting together. Hannah asks me to rip out a page from her not book pad and then Sofia does this for her.
I read Sofia’s homework. And generate the answers which I them write on a piece of paper and place in my wallet.
Now Sofia faces the challenge of having to do the homework herself and see if she can get the answers as well.
Hannah is doing a beautiful job with her homework. She is writing neatly and in beautiful cursive until… she has to write a sentence with the word Bear in it. She changes it to Bears to make the sentence grammatically correct but I tell her that she is not allowed to do that. It is a bit of a struggle before Hannah finally concedes to doing her homework correctly.
Sofia asks me about New Zealand and I tell her that in New Zealand they celebrate Christmas in the Summer time.
The children tell the waiter that I speak several languages. Then Hannah accuses me of teaching them German so that Mommy can not understand what we are saying and I deny this absolutely. I tell the children that I speak Spanish with Mommy so that they can not understand me and Sofia tells me that one time I was asking Mommy in Spanish if I could borrow her bicycle – thereby letting me know that she often understands what I say in Spanish.
The children love the Felafel, pita bread, olives, Greek Salad etc… Sofia eats the black olive and likes it. Sofia and Hannah spend much time just talking with one another and I respect the fact that they need this time. It is a safe place for them to speak with one another about matters that take place in the Lasky home. I do not intervene, I do not even pay attention to what they are saying. It is mostly innocuous anyways.
I compliment Hannah on her homework several times.
And then the issue of popcorn comes up again and I ask her whether she can make popcorn at home or whether we have to buy some ready made popcorn and realize that I am asking the wrong person so I call Rena and say “Hey Rena this is Allan and Sofia needs popcorn so I was wondering what kind of pop corn I should get for her?” and then I pass the phone over to Sofia.
Now what is important about this incident is that the transition from me to Lorena to Sofia was very smooth and there was tension in the children the moment that I was calling LL but then when they heard my voice and they heard what I was saying and when I passed the phone to Sofia they were both happy.
Sofia told me to get the microwavable popcorn.
Hannah calls me stupid and I ask her to apologize and to take it back.
Sofia wants me to tell her which of her homework questions are wrong and I tell her that I will only tell her how many she got wrong but not point out the ones that were wrong to her.
Hannah is doing a beautiful job with her homework. She is writing neatly and in beautiful cursive until… she has to write a sentence with the word Bear in it. She changes it to Bears to make the sentence grammatically correct but I tell her that she is not allowed to do that. It is a bit of a struggle before Hannah finally concedes to doing her homework correctly. Hannah tells me that she has a substitute teacher and that the teacher will not notice. She comes up with all kinds of excuses, including that other children do that.
“I do it all the time.”
“Don’t! Don’t do it ever at all.”
“If you are nice to homework then I know that you will be nice to your friends.”
Then I am accused of not being nice to the lettuce that I am eating. I tell them that I say thank you to the food that I eat. “I do it with my mind,” I say this in a low tone and with a benevolent hand gesture.
Then the chicken arrives and the children love this too.
And then Hannah does her homework in a correct manner.
And we speak about carnivorous whales that love eating squid and I tell them I like squid too. We speak about vegetarian whales and how they sift the algae from the water with their teeth. I show them with my fingers.
Hannah tells me that I am disgusting for eating squid and I say to Hannah, “You have not been nice to me today. You said I am stupid and you said I am disgusting and stop that!” and I can tell that Hannah was hurt, but then I laugh a little and let her know that I always love her.
The children inquire from the waiter where the food comes from and I guess that it is Mediterranean and mention some of the countries that border the Mediterranean “Egypt, Jordan, Israel, Tunisia, Morocco, Algeria, Greece..” ad the waiter says that the food is a mixture of Israeli and Jordanian food.
Sofia points out that there is only one state between North Carolina and Kentucky and that is Tennessee.
And then we speak about languages and I am again accused to speaking German with the children in order to have a secret language with them that LL does not understand. I deny this absolutely.
I have not yet told them that this is in fact what LL, Nancy and the KGB came up with as an excuse for preventing me from having un-supervised visits with my children. I think I will tell them if this comes up again.
Hannah is learning words that start with the letter S. Sofia wants to know if Hannah knows how to spell ‘scarcity,’ which she does and I suggest words like ‘surreptitious’ and ‘sagatious.’
I tell Hannah that she needs to write sentences with more than six words in them. Hannah does this.
And then Sofia spells supercalafragilisticexpialidotious.
Hannah tells the waiter that it is good he is not a Felafel because otherwise Sofia would kiss him or eat him! We all agree.
And then the children become very happy at some kind of kiss-play.
I ask Hannah to write the date on her homework.
Then the children return to their kissing game.
Sofia says something rather to the point to me. She says that she knows of an acronym that has only the letter P in it. It is PPP which stands for ‘private protected part.’
Hannah tells me that I never find people who speak German and I point out that I had found someone on Sunday at the Karma Café.
On Friday Hannah has a spelling test.
“Was ist die nächste Antwort in deine Hausaufgabe Sofia?”
Then Sonny called me and I told him that I am at the Pita restaurant with my children. Sofia picks up on this and asks why I call them my children and not also Mommy’s children.
And then the children become involved in another kissing game. I move around the table and get between them, but they love this and the kissing game does not stop – it is merely altered, but then finally the children are ready to go home.
I describe arteries and veins to the children.
Hannah describes why feet can ‘fall asleep.’
The kissing game continues and I tell them that they may not continue to behave in that manner in the restaurant. I warn them that if the kissing game continues that I will have one child sit next to me. That puts a temporary stop to the kissing game.
I ask my children to do their homework at CEP and Sofia counters that then she would not have time to play with her friends. I tell her that if she does her homework fast that she will play better with her friends.
I have to wrestle with Sofia finishing the last homework question, and with some guidance she eventually has thought about it enough (I think) that when ever she may have time to finish the homework, she will choose the right answer (it is multiple choice.)
Hannah wants a straw because she has an idea. I did not guess what the idea was until it was too late.
And when the children have finished their homework and eaten another plate of Felafel, which they note is one of Mommy’s favorite foods and I agree that Mommy also loves Babaganough.
We walk back to the car with Hannah using the straw to deliver spit balls. This is phenomenally fun for the children. The words for daughter and doctor sound similar in German and Hannah tells me that she is not my doctor and I tell her that my medicine is not spit balls….
We use the rest rooms in the Highland Coffee house.
And then we drive to the convenience store and buy popcorn for Sofia.
And the walk to LL’s place is fun and wonderful.
And I made sure that I gave Hannah a great hug and kissed her several times on her head, and then I gave Sofia a kiss.
I told LL to make sure the children had done a good job with their homework within earshot of the children.

January 30, 2008
One job interview and four job applications done today. Let’s see what happens.
7:00PM I tried to call my children but LL answered the phone and told me that I could not speak with Hannah because she waa in time out (LL refused to tell me why) and she told me that Sofia would call me after she finished eating but Sofia did not call me.
8:00PM I again tried to call my children but no one answered any phone. I left a message on LL’s cell phone reminding her that she had told me that she would ask the children to call me and asking her to have them call me. If not tonight (due to it being too late) then tomorrow morning on the way to school.


January 31, 2008
Ok, so LL got the following email from the Girl Scouts leader:
Just a Reminder------

Cookie Kick-off is this Saturday 10:30-12:30 pm at Skate World on Preston Hwy., we will meet at Skate World. (Try to be about 10 mins early so I can get everyone there ticket)

I have six girls that have pre-registered for the event:
Alicia, Alexis, Emma, Olivia, Zoe, and Jasmine

If anyone else would like to go just join us at Skate World, bring $5 for admission.

Also we are having a meeting this Sunday 3-4:30 pm at Deer Park.
Snack: Olivia (bring enough for 17 girls)

Remember to keep selling cookies!!!!

Thanks,
Kelly
And LL writes to me about the above email:

Both girls would like to do this & they would each get a patch. I did not pre-register since it was your day. If you decide to take them, let me know so I can send their uniforms to wear.


And I respond:
Dear Lorena,
Thank you for sending me an email. I appreciate that very much. You know that every time you send me an email my heart jumps a bit and YES I think we should and certainly can do this.
Sincerely,
Allan

But that still leaves several things out. For one, the cookie kick-off is on Saturday and I am not with the children on Saturday. I have not agreed to being with them on Saturday? I am not sure what she means by “I did not pre-register them since it was (my) day”? But there are two possibilities:
1. LL is confused and does not resolve between the week end days. Coupled to that would be an innate (well cultivated by the KGB) negative disposition or enmity that causes her to accuse me of failing in my responsibility to pre-register them.
2. LL thinks that the Cookie kick-off is on Sunday.
I suppose I should consider this to be some kind of combination of the above possibilities, however:
3. There is another possibility but I do not want to consider it even though it is the most likely and true picture of what happened. That possibility is this: On January 8, 2008, I got an email from Kelly, Wallace, the Girl Scouts leader (LL got a copy of the same) asking if Sofia should be pre-registered. Here it is:

Hey Everyone-----

We forgot to decide on the Area 13 Thinking Day Feb 23, 10-12:30 pm at Louisville Slugger Field.

For any girl who wants to go please respond by Friday Jan 11 so I can get the registration in by the 15th.

It sounds like it will be alot of fun, there will be booths featuring countries around the world which will include a craft, dance, song, story,etc.

I will cover the registration, patches, and passport costs from the troop acct, you will need to bring some change to spend for the activities at the booth, there will be 25 booths with each booth charging 25 cents per activity ($5-10 dollars).

Also you will be picking up the cookie orders from my parents house on this date as well, probably around 3 pm, so I have time to sort everyone's order.

Thanks again,
Kelly

I responded ‘yes’ but LL responded ‘NO?’ so I was overwritten? Now the issue has come up and LL is blaming me.

5:05PM I call LL and she tells me she will be there in 30seconds.
Again, LL did not make any attempt to interact with me. When the children were stepping out of the car I addressed her, asking about the children’s homework.
The children were giddy. Hannah was a little bellicose. The idea of learning how to play the violin came up and Hannah got into a screaming fanfare. It was not that she was against learning how to play the violin, it was that she was enjoying saying “Nooooooo,” and Sofia had heard in school today that the violin is one of the hardest musical instruments to learn. So Hannah made a loud song that consisted of a series of “No’s” and I listened to her and commented on anything ranging from the number of strings on a violin to the size and carryability of a violin as opposed to a piano…. And finally, we were parked and had been sitting in the car for a few minutes, Hannah conceded to considering the option in exchange for getting out of the car. Sofia was mostly quiet this entire time, just letting Hannah do the work of trying to wear me out. (I was not out-wearable because I was respectful of Hannah’s right to voice her wishes and glad that she was exercising that right – although I was not explicit about this.)
And then we ate dinner at the Lemon Grass Restaurant. I coached both children with their homework and they did this very quickly and very well.
And then we walked to the home of the violin teacher. Oooh what an adventure that was. We had to walk along a dark alley between two tall houses and climb a long flight of dark steps. The steps were old and creaked and the banisters were falling and the wood was worn and when we came to the top, we found a single room with three students, hanging out in a bed – two females and the violin teacher, one of the youngsters was doing a homework and Josh, the violin teacher got up and played the violin. At first he started playing something somber but them it got faster and more thrilling and I looked up at Sofia who smiled at me, while Hannah sat in my lap and covered her ears. But there were some really cool things going on here. First of all it was totally obvious that the people living there were poor. They had almost no furniture and the place was an absolute mess. The children asked about this and I told them that this life style was beautiful. Hannah asked if they were poor and they said that they were.
And they had a cat that was very affectionate and it came and kissed me on the nose.
And they had a snake in a glass cage that fascinated Hannah.
And then I borrowed Josh’s violin and played a simple tune, twinkle, twinkle little star and then Josh played the same tune.
And then we left. The children had done very well. It was a very brief introduction to the violin and I think that it was really laid back, smooth, and the children were taken by the experience even though they were also shocked by the poverty that they saw.
And we arrived at LL’s at exactly 7:00PM but she was not there, so I drove them a couple of blocks to a parking lot where there was a lot of lights and we played with a stuffed starfish…. Yes, I know it sounds strange, but I had found a starfish shaped toy full of something like sand that made for an excellent toy for throwing and catching. Running around in the parking lot and playing catch with this toy was a great hit. LL came at 7:12PM (I had called her to tell her where we were) and the children got in her car and as they did so I told LL that “in my humble opinion, both Sofia and Hannah had done excellent homework but that she should check it to make sure.”
A minute later it started raining. If had been just a tiny bit colder it would have been snow!
And that concludes the end of the month.
But before I go on to the next month let me tie some loose ends:
1. An addressed set of envelopes with stamps for the teachers of Sofia and Hannah.
2. The court order needs to be given to the school.
3. Sofia and Hannah should be told that they are not just my children, they are also LL’s children.
4. Keep the homework of learning German going.
5. Get the children to do their homework during CEP.
6. Continue to act in the same manner about the Lasky’s with the children. I love the Lasky’s and this is not dependent on how they are towards me. This means that I must love them. Learn to forgive them for their foolish ways have opened new and wild possibilities in my life… for example, I have bought a house and have $1000 coming in above and beyond the cost of that house per month!
Here is an email from Girl Scouts:
Cookie Kick-off is this Saturday 10:30-12:30 pm at Skate World on Preston Hwy., we will meet at Skate World. (Try to be about 10 mins early so I can get everyone there ticket)
And here is an email to Paraguay!
Querido Francy,
Perdoname por no haberte escrito en tanto tiempo. Te quiero escribir para ponerte al tiempo con las vidas de mis hijas y la mía.
Estoy en proceso de comprar una casa aqui en la ciudad donde vive Lorena. Me ha sido muy dificil llagar hasta este punto pero me parece que no tengo la opcion de llevar a Sofia y Hannah a mi casa en Texas.
He vendido mi casa en Texas y con el dinero estoy comprando la casa en Louisville. Mis hijas ahora tiened 7 y 9 años de edad. Sofia y Hannah ahora saben como esquiar, patinar sobre hielo, andar en caballo, y tantas cosas mas.
Sigo soñando de visitarte en Paraguay. He estado communicando me mucho com Fatima. Ella sigue trabajando para la misma familia en Barcelona, España, y parece estar bastante contenta. Lo único que le falta es enamorarse. Es dificil para ella encontrar un hombre porque hay tanto odio hacia los extranjeros en Europa– especialmente aquellos que vienen de países pobres. La vida es muy bonita pero no es justa.
Hace también mucho tiempo que no me comunico con Mabel.
Entonces, quisiera saber ¿como estan ustedes? ¿Aldo?¿ Cinthia? ¿ ¿Como andan los estudios?

Quote Spiderman: ”With great power, comes great responsibility.”
A few Questions for the KGB:
On March 30 or thereabouts you met me for the first time. Was that your wish? Did you call for that meeting?
Why do you think I called for that meeting?
I gave you a page from my journal for you to photocopy. Did you look at that page? What did you learn from that page? (So you did not learn that before my children were taken away from me, Nancy and other family members came to Paraguay and hatched the plan to coach the children.) Where is that photocopy of the document now? How or why did that happen?
Do you remember telling me at that meeting that you were not investigators and telling me that I needed to speak with Mr. Chris Ryan? Can you explain to the court what that means – not investigators?
So, is the court to conclude that you can not testify whether the statements the children made to you were coached or not.
So is it possible that the statements were all coached?
What is worse – to accuse an innocent man of child abuse, cause the destruction of his relationship with his children for almost half a decade or to be a child abuser?
So is it possible that you are worse than a child abuser?
Sofia had never before meeting you made an allegation against me. Did you know that?
Describe for the court what you told LL when she came to you. Did you tell LL what conditions needed to be met for you to continue to provide your services?
Do you know where I was living at the time?
What do you think of the term holistic therapy? Have you ever called me? Have you never felt the need to call me?