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March 1, 2008 (Saturday)
I went skiing with Subir and his son Michael. We skied all day until eight o’clock at night. I tried to call my children about half a dozen times. I left messages asking to be called but no one ever called and my children and I did not talk today.
March 2, 2008 (Sunday)
A very eventful day and I would bet, an excellent day for the children. It started in a sad manner, with Hannah at 8-55AM when I called, telling me “Mommy wants the bikes and the swim suits back.” I almost said “NO,” but then I said “Let me talk to Mommy so that we can work out what we need to do about the bikes,” and Hannah tried to pass the phone to LL but LL was apparently on the computer and too busy to talk with me….
And then at 9:00AM exactly Hannah came out the front door and accused me of having been in jail. “And because of lies!” she added. “I didn’t lie…” I said and then Sofia emanated thorough the door and interrupted by saying “I think what Daddy is saying is that he didn’t lie, other people lied, and he went to jail.” Then Hannah said “I’m going to ask Mommy.” Hannah went inside LL’s house and asked her. Sofia and I talked about photosynthesis and green leaves in the front porch and then Hannah came out saying that Mommy had said something about money which she did not understand.
I tried to explain to the children that they should not be go betweens, in the middle of “Mommy and I” but I do not know that they understood but I do know that they will understand soon enough.
And then I drive them to Krispi Kreme Donuts on Bardstown road. They likes this very much and were fascinated by the factory that could be seen through the glass. I do not think this was their first time, but I do think this was the first time they were able to look a the processes taking place on the other side and realize in conversation with one another what was taking place.
Hannah said “Look at how the machine flips them over,” and Sofia said “yes, that way they get cooked on both sides.” “But they only get rained on with the glaze on one side,” added Hannah.
And then we went to the Girl Scout Cookie sales at Krogers. Again, it was the same lady, Kelly, with her daughter but there was also another lady there with a daughter called Jazmin who knew Mark Duke and actually spoke well of him but her body language implied everything else.
I left Sofia to sell the girl scout cookies quite a bit today. Hannah only wanted to ride the horse an steal more money from the coin compartment. Eventually that faed and I was able to take Hannah to the Friends meeting house. This did not work very well. Hannah was an absolute embarrassment and she unzipped my coveralls in front of the Quakers after refusing for a long time to come in the meeting plae. The meeting place was full of refugees from Burundi. But Hannah promised to be a well behaved girl next week.
And then we returned to Krogers. When Sofia was finished selling Girl Scout Cookies we bought Sushi and other fancy foods – all of which was fun. There was no time constraint. I did not have to worry about anything and the children were having a wonderful time in the cart, selecting the food and being with one another.
We had just finished purchasing the food when they suddenly realized they really wanted to go to the candy section and choose two candies for themselves. After deliberating about the order of events it was agreed that first the sushi would be eaten and then we would get candy.
So, with full bellies we went to the Jewish Community Center where we
1. Frolicked in the play ground for a good long time.
2. We went inside and played in the Globo Loco (and Hannah still calls it that from Paraguay!)
3. Went swimming and played some competitive games.
4. Played in the Globo Loco again.
5. Played in the played ground outside this time with the same kids they had played with in the Globo Loco.
And then I took them home. On the way home I spoke with LL and told her that we needed to sort out the issue of the bikes. We agreed to speak about it later.
Hannah climbed the tree again and is obviously completely comfortable with the tree again.
5:
Sofia discovered the garage and all the things inside it.
Sofia discovered the back yard as an excellent place to play.
Hannah discovered the fun of jamming on a guitar.
Hannah watched Sprit in Spanish.
Sofia learned how to cook toast on the stove top, melt butter in a spoon and add honey for a wonderful flavored bread. This was Sofia’s highlight. But she also loved using the microwave to make tea.
And we went bike riding and played in the park near my house.
And then we watched a Tim und Struppi movie until LL came to get the children.
I put one bike (Hannah’s) in the car but I kept Sofia’s bike and explained that it was the bike that Papo had given. LL did not agree to this.
At the following times I called LL:
4:32PM – no answer
4:33PM—agreed to call again to speak about the bikes.
5:31PM – left a message to come pick up the children.
6:39PM – left a message to come pick up the children.
6:53PM – no answer.
6:57PM – spoke with LL and she said that she would pick up the children, “But not on a week day.”
7:09PM — LL speaks with Sofia.
Hannah said “She’s not going to obey you!” talking about LL. I had just told her that LL was coming to pick her and Sofia up.
8:18PM I called LL and since she did not answer her phone I left a message asking her to confirm that Sofia had taken her Girl Scout shoulder band with her.
LL approached the house from the West. I guess she was doing some research? Seeing what the neighborhood looks like?

March 3, 2008
I had some amazing dreams last night – not just nice ones: In my dreams I was being persecuted by LL’s brother(s) and it was not just in Louisville, but across the world: Fiji islands and Samoa, Tuva in Mongolia, Bangalore in India,… At times my dreams were utterly comic and at other times they were horrifyingly existentialist: after all, they were trying to murder me.

LL called me in the early afternoon to tell me about a John Roberts Powers school to which Hannah might want to be sent? Hum? I looked it up on the internet. Image image image.
I could tell that LL was excited and she thought this was a good thing for Hannah. LL must have known that this is exactly what I call “crap,” because she was afraid I would say “no,” and let’s face it – she called me! Just the very fact that she called me indicated that this was something important in LL’s mind.
LL did not want me to be a part of it. It took her a long time to tell me when and where we meet. It was crazy – and then she gave me very scant directions.
I continued to push my motorcycle (which had ceased functioning) to a gas station and evaluated the rest of my evening.
I had to go home, get my computer and go to a place where I could pick up an internet wifi signal, find the webb page of this company: It is a modeling and acting agency…
Just as I thought: EXACTLY the opposite of what I think is important in life.
And that meant I had to put on a suit and tie. LL had already told me so.
Well, I checked my email and discovered the advertisements about this company at the ice cream parlor. I had a suit in the van. I was ready to go.
It was impossible for me to find this without help. Sofia helped me because LL refused to speak with me on the pone.
And there was all the superficiality about this place. It was exactly a con-company. Luring people with hopes and ambitions that they will never realize.
Here, look:
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Red Rock Agency, Saturday, April 19, 2008.
Red Rock Agency is a full service modeling and acting agency. Call for an appointment.
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Harriet Greenspan Casting, Sat. March 15, 2008.
Harriet is one of Hollywoods most popular kids casting directors. She has casted for such shows as: iCarly, The suite life of Zack and Cody, Zoey 101 and Hannah Montana. Call 502-339-2925.
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iPOP! International Presentation of Performers auditions are coming!!!
iPOP! is an international convention that will be held in Las Vegas the month of July. Performers audition for hundreds of leading talent managers, modeling agencies, music producers and casting directors from all over the world. iPOP! is by invitation only and you must audition call 502-339-2925 to set up your time. Space is limited to the first 200 callers.
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Mavrick Artist Agency, Sat. March 29, 2008
Mavrick Artist Agency is a full service agency, Talent has appeared on projects such as: Volkswagen, AAA, Kellogg's, Sears, Little Tykes, Walgreens, Dell and VH-1. Call 502-339-2925.
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And so, you see, this is pure crap.
But OK, it is probably good for Hannah so I paid 4/5ths of it with my Credit card.
March 4, 2008
I think LL sent this email yesterday and Farfar responded to it and copied me in on it:
William, Inga, Allan:

We heard back and were not able to get the retreat facility for either date. Therefore, it is open as to which weekend. Do you have a preference? If not, I would chose the second weekend simply because I cant to go camping and I might wager it could be warmer later in the month. (Then again, April is rainy season so it is hard to tell!).

Regarding the summer, Sofia's camp was full noth of those weeks. They said I can put her on a waiting list, but it is not looking hopeful. The only other week open was the week of day camp. I may have to let them chose one or the other.

Matthew invited the girls to the wedding, but I do not know if you were plannign on taking them since it would be two added airfares. I have no other set plans yet. I would like to get Hannah in the drumming camp again, but I have not gotten the dates on that yet. They are usually behiond the other camps on getting their schedules out.
Lorena Lasky

And here is Farfar’s response:
Hello, Rena,

Since you give us the choice, we would take the girls beginning Friday, April 4, after school. We would bring them to your house for them to leave their books and change clothes. We would return them to you on Tuesday, April 8, in the evening. You could then go camping with them for the rest of the week. I hope you will have good weather on your camping trip, but if it rains and camping is no fun, you could come home on Saturday, and Allan could have his usual parenting time on Sunday, April 13.

I am not planning to take the girls to Matthew's wedding. The cost, not only of the air fare, but also of the hotel room and meals, would be too much, especially since Inga and I will be seeing the girls at some other time during the summer.

As far as the summer is concerned, I am sorry to read that you are unable to get the girls into Girl Scout Camp this year, but that gives us more flexibility in setting the dates for Allan's parenting time and our visit with the girls. We need to take Allan's schedule into account here. I will revert to you when it gets clarified.

Kind regards,

William
And to Paraguay
Mi querida Mabel,
Bueno, todo es muy complicado pero tambien es delicioso Te quiero mucho
Your Allan

And to LL’s best friend in Paraguay
Dear Martha,
I thought you might like to know that Hannah has decided she wants to be an actress.
Lots of love to all of you and we want to know about Alec.
Allan
And to Paraguay
Querido Francy,
Bueno, yo no se que esta pasando pero me parece que la vida es un encanto
Un gran abrazo,
Allan
At 5:35 I got my children. LL had called me at 5PM and told me to go out front and see if the kids were there but they were not so I had to wait till LL got here to get them out of CEP They wanted a brownie and a lemon bar (cake) and Sofia said that she had a stomach ache
LL told me on the phone at the start that Hannah had no homework and that I should have her read a book.
The children stated that I had “stolen the bikes,” and I have no doubt that that was LL’s term. I told them that I had taken “Munchkin’s bike” and that I was going to take another bike tonight. They were scared.
Hannah asked for a brownie from the Highland Coffee house It was fun buying her this item since I got to speak German and Spanish with her and the attendants The same goes for Sofia but Sofia wanted to hang in my arms while I purchased her Lemon bar I suspect that the reason for Sofia’s stomach ache was hunger
I decided to take my children home It is becoming a better place as the weeks go on I think the children enjoy it They do not mind the situation with the water Today Sofia helped me get water an poured the bucket in the toilet to flush it.
Sofia is sometimes truly gregarious She had learned how to make toast on the stove and how to melt the butter in a spoon and today did more of the same Hannah thought this was dangerous and refused to participate except as an observer.
Hannah read the first pages of the red ballonn I loved listening to her read because she reads with interest and her voice moves into tones appropriate to the nature of the sentence.
But Hannah was much more interested in playing with her make believe castle and in particular with the boat that floats in the cookie pan to which I had added water.
Sofia did all her homework.
Sofia and Hannah like to sit on the heat vents in my house.
Hannah played with the electric toy and the Disney toys.
At the end of their time here, Sofia wanted to make an atomic explosion. She asked me for a hammer and a nail. Then she hammered a small hole into the top of a soda bottle…
Each child had one of these bombs and they squirted them outside with glee.
The children sang songs in the car to LL’s.
I parked in the back of LL’sw house and took another bike, this time it was one of the one’s I had brought from Texas.

On my way home I tried to call LL but she did not pick up the phone so I left a message asking her to enable the children to call me tomorrow.

And then an email to LL:
Dear lorena,
I think the last time the children called me was 9 months ago, June 2007. Please have them call me today
Sincerely,
Allan

And then to LL’s Lawyer
Dear Mr Trenaman esq,
Please provide me via email the name and telephone number of the court reporter who recently transcribed the depositions of Ms Kim Dial and Dr Ginger Crumbo.
Kind regards,
Allan R Lasky-Headrick

March 5, 2008
I remember that I called LL, but I can not remember the time that must have been between 3 and 5 PM asking her to see to it that the children call me. They never did.
I did not have a chance to check y emails today but I did call Papo and he checked them for me Apparently there was nothing of any importance.
But amazingly I was able to get in touch with my children I called at 7:20PM and Sofia picked up the phone and we spoke well and with much amusement – including speaking about all the different rooms in Grammy’s house. We spoke for a reasonable amount of time – I am going to say we spoke for 15 minutes We were able to speak in part because LL was oing Hannah’s homework with Hannah (I bet LL was doing Hannah’s homework for her) And when LL realized that Sofia was on the phone she told her to hang up.

March 6, 2008
8:20AM LL calls me. She asks me if I have to be at work tomorrow evening and I said “NO.” And then she said “Ok, we are going to switch because Hannah has Brownies today”
“I can take Hannah to Brownies,” I responded.
“No you can’t!” she retorted.
“I take Sofia to Girl Scouts so I can take Hannah to Brownies.”
“No, because I am the scout leader”
“But that is an excellent reason, Rena, so that we can start showing that we can co-parent.”
“Listen, these are your options.” And I said that I did not want any of the options but offered to take the children on Friday if I can take them for 3 hours but she saisd “NO”
Then she accused me of being “Nasty,” and of wasting money in the court. She told me that she was going to tell the judge of the times that the children came home hungry having eaten only bread, of the fact that they “flush the toilet with water from the sewage,” and that they are brought late to her home. Then she hung up on me.
So, after work I went to the Highland C0pffee House to be sure
I got a wonderful email from Mabel:
Allan no importa si todo es difícil, lejano y complicado, recibir tus emails es una gran alegría. Besos. mabel
mabel avila
ars longa vita brevis

And the following from Mason Trenaman, LL’s lawyer
Mason L. Trenaman
Attorney at Law
600 West Main Street, Suite 300
Louisville, Kentucky 40202
(502) 589-6190 (office)
(502) 584-1744 (fax)

March 6, 2008

VIA E-MAIL ONLY


Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
egonbegone@yahoo.com

RE: Lasky-Headrick vs. Lasky

Dear Mr. Lasky-Headrick:

The Court Reporter’s contact information is:

Wendy McLaughlin
101 North Seventh Street
Louisville, Kentucky 40202
(502) 561-3467

To date, I have not heard from her as to when the transcripts will be ready. I believe she estimated 10-14 days from the date of the depositions.

You and I both need to assure that any contact we may initiate with her will be appropriate and respectful. Thank you.

Sincerely,
Mason L. Trenaman

cc: L. Lasky
Case File No. 06 CI 501203

MLT/glk

Here is my proposed response to Mason Trenaman, but of course, since it serves no actual purpose I will not send it:
Dear Mr. Mason Trenaman Esq.,
Anything other than cordial, decent, moral, ethical correct and sociologically acceptable behavior from any person should be trounced upon. Thank you for the advice, and if you would please direct such advice to the appropriate persons, I think that would be best.
With all due respect and kind regards,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick

So I send a quick email to my parents
Dear Farfar and Farmor,
Well, I got a pay check for $75 and I spent half of that on some supplies to see if I can get water in my house. So far I like my job just fine. I am about 10% of the way along to get Health insurance In the mean time the economy in Louisville is taking a big hit: FORD Co. is going 'bancarota,' -- you know they have a big factory here. In fact, the Ford factory is across the street from the UPS place where I work and so it is often that the workers compare their respective situations.
Lots of Love,
Allan

Well, I was supposed to see my children this evening and they never came
Dear Mr Trenaman esq,.
Please advise your client that John Helmers or myself may be filing a 'contempt of court' motion for not allowing my parenting today, Tuesday March 6, 2008.
Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
Dear John,
I hope you are doing well. My children require a great deal of help already. How do you wish to proceed - let me know by Friday. Below is an email I just sent Mason Trenaman.
Sincerely,
Allan

Dear Mr Trenaman esq,.
Please advise your client that John Helmers or myself may be filing a 'contempt of court' motion for not allowing my parenting today, Tuesday March 6, 2008.
Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
And of course I tried to call my children:
I left messages on two calls separated by an hour or more and the times I called are:
5:22PM
6:37PM
6:43PM
7:10PM
7:19PM
7:25PM
7:35PM
7:37PM
Finally at 8:45PM someone picked up the phone. Sofia picked up the phone and this is how it went:
Sofia: Hello?
Allan: Hello this is Daddy. I was calling to wish you a good night and to tell you that even thought there are clouds that are shaped like bunny rabbits in the sky…..
Sofia: I know Daddy.
Allan: Did you and Hannah go to Brownies?
Sofia: Yes.
Allan: Well that seems fair, because Hannah gets to go to your girl scouts so you should get to go to Hannah’s brownies. Do you think that’s Fair?
Sofia: No, I don’t know why, but I am tired. I’m too tired and I’ve gotta go to bed.
Allan: I love you, bye.
Sofia: I love you Daddy!
Allan: I love you so much.
(And now, I am not even sure that I was speaking with Sofia, I may have been speaking with Hannah?)
March 7, 2008
I went to the L and M building to inquire about the progress made by Neighborhood place with my family and found that they were not at all involved, that it had been superseded by the work of Misty Rowan…
So I returned home and called Misty Rowan at 595 -5158. I left a message informing her that my parenting time yesterday had been denied, that LL seems to be trying to prevent her from doing her work (the depositions of the KGB and LeeAnn paved the way for her discontinuing her work…) and that Christi Atkins at Child Protective services had told me that only she (Misti) could respond to my questions about the last work done by CPS.
Then I called David Weatherspeak of the KGB and left the following message.
I spoke with the secretary and asked her if I had called thirty times in one day. That’s once every 10 minutes for eight hours.
“How do you know it was me? There are several people who answer the phone.”
And then I asked to be allowed to leave a message with David Weatherspeak: I left a message asking him to call me back and telling him that things with my family are as awful as they could be, that I was denied parenting yesterday.
5:15PM Sofia calls me on behalf of LL asking me about ‘make up time.’ I tell Sofia that this is something that LL and I must work out and ask her to give the phone to LL. However refuses to speak with me.
7:00PM I called Rebecca and she told me that Sofia and Hannah had been earlier with her but that now they were at their ‘home.’
7:00P I called both the ‘linea baja’ and the cell phone but got no answer.
8:20PM or so I called and was able to speak with Sofia again for a little time. She told me that she was with her cousins.

March 8, 2008 (Saturday)
8:35AM I called and LL picked up the phone.
LL: He---low (Sounded like she had just woken up.)
Allan: Hi Rena, have you looked outside?
LL: Stop being such a creep, you sound like a three year old. Here, you can talk to Hannah.

Hannah confirmed that she had heard what LL had said to me. I spoke with Joey and Leah as well, but then, since they were watching “the Lord of the Rings,” I bid them all good bye. Hannah refused to “send my love to Sofia and all others” I agreed with her and said I would do it myself.
10:20AM The ‘linea baja,’ yielded no response. I called LL and left a message on her cell phone to have the children, especially Sofia ‘with whom I have not spoken today,’ call me.


March 9, 2008 (Sunday)
I was driving to pick up my children when I found the following message on my cell phone -- a text message from LL: “The agency left me a message. All classes will be held Sunday from 12:30 – 2:00PM. She has to be dressed up too.” I called LL and told her that I had no counted on this occurrence and needed to return home to get some items that includes better clothes. I asked LL if she wanted to take Hannah and she said “No, I am meeting some people in Bullet County.” (I think she is buying a house.) I asked LL why she had only sent me a text message instead of calling me, and she replied that she had gotten the message at midnight. “So?” I said. “When there are last minute things like this you should make sure I know about them.” LL said “OK.” (Placating me.)
And so I was half an hour late in picking the children up – but what I did not realize, and neither id LL, was that the hour had changed at midnight last night and so I was in fact an hour and a half late.
And so it goes.
We went to Krispi Kreme Donuts.
Then to Borders Books.
Then to Hannah’s acting class, and while this happened, Sofia and I went to Starbucks and melted wax in hot water to make lip balm – this was a kit we had bought at borders.
Just as we were picking up Hannah, Archana called and told us that her son, Christopher was in the hospital with a fractured skull.
We played in the snow: Made a snow person, wrote with water in the snow, climbed piles of snow etc…
Then we visited Christopher in the hospital. Christopher’s father was there and he was a great one to talk with.
Then we went home and did a variety of things that include empty out boxes from Texas (with pictures of them as babies and of LL and I together…) listen to Hannah’s biological mother, Sarah, speak -- not live, but from a recording.
We played with candles and melted wax onto paper surfaces and glued a mosaic using the molten wax.
Played ball.
Watched the Pirates of Penzance.
And then LL refused to pick them up, so I naturally took them back an hour later but not without making it very clear to her that if she had come to pick them up then she could have gotten them at 7:00PM. Remember that there was an hour shift that caused a bit of misunderstanding regarding the pick up time. So I took them home, but not without having them do some cleaning up.


Hey Everyone----

We are down to 148 boxes of cookies....we will have a booth sale this Thurs and this weekend please let over the times and sign up ASAP, this is the last weekend so we need to get these boxes sold.

I need 4 girls and 4 adults for each time slot so we can have a table at booth door.

Thurs 3/13 6-8 Kroger's -- Katie B and Alicia (Would like two more girls so we can be at both doors)

Sat 3/15
Kroger's 10-12 pm -- Emma, Alexis, Olivia

Walgreen/Starbucks 12-2 and 2-4 pm (Need girls)

Sun 3/16
Kroger's 10-12 pm --
Kroger's 12-2 pm -- Katie B and Alicia

Thanks for everyone's help.

Kelly

And I see that LL has responded to this but I do not understand the response. It seems like she meant to write that she can not do Saturday because of Hannah’s class?

Can you do the booth sales on Sunday? I can do Saturday because of Hannah's class. Lorena Lasky
So I write to LL
Dear Lorena,
You can do Saturday? What are you writing?
Allan
And then to Kelly:
Hello Kelly,
I was not able to discern really if Lorena (Sofia's mother) really meant that she could do Saturday because of the way she wrote to me, but Sofia, Hannah and I can be there Sunday after Church which would be right after 12PM.
Allan
And I got a fast response from Kelly:
OK Thanks!

Dear Lorena,
I think it is only fair to tell you that I will be filing a motion in court if you do not provide a make up time. This is because you kept the children when I should have had them on Thursday. I think it is reasonable to require you to bring and take the children from my home on the make up day for I have been very good to you about picking the children up and delivering them to your house.
Sincerely,
Allan

And look, an email from Martha!
Wow. Hannah, an actress! Now that I can imagine. Alec is ok. He's been having some difficulty lately and is being investigated for OCD/depression. It's something in his genes, I'm afraid. It's just really sad when it appears so early.

Other than that, he is enjoying his Pokemon and his baby brother, Javier. Javier is trying to do everything as fast as he can..he has three teeth cutting through (he's 5 months). Oops, now he's crying. better write more later.
Martha
And she is a very important connection with what was going on in Paraguay. Remember that she was LL’s best friend.
Dear Martha,
Oh it is good to hear from you. I am truly sorry that it seems that one might think that there is something silly in the gene pool. Personally I find that preposterous but then who am I? But it is sad when young people are chronically unhappy. But doesn't Javier have a good effect on Alec? Hannah has a very good effect on Sofia but I do not know that I can say the same for me and my brother... hum? Life is just a ver complicated mish mash and mostly there is nothing we can do about human nature.
Kindest regards,
Allan
Oh look, an email from Fatima – also a Paraguayan connection:

queeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee contenta que estoy,,,,,,,,,,,,,,gracias milllllllllll gracias por desearme asi los quiero un monton dile que les mando a todos mil besos,,,,,,,,,,,creo que la suerte esta de mi lado,,porque las coasas me salen como yo esperabas los quieros un monton...........te cuidas

And Farfar adds this email:
Hello, Allan and Rena,

I have made reservations at the Old Bridge Inn, where we stayed last year, for myself and Farmor. We will arrive there by car in the afternoon of April 4, probably after 3 o'clock. My suggestion would be for Allan to bring the girls over to our place, either directly after school or after passing by the house to lay down their school bags and change clothes.

The girls will be returned to you on April 8 in the evening.

Best wishes, Farfar
And from Farmor:
Dear Allan,
I am sorry about the Louisville economy. Hope your company will not be affected.
How many days a week do you work?
I had an eye check up today, and the dr. was pleased with the condition of my eyes. On the way I had stopped at the Sarah P. Duke Gardens, where a friend works on Thursdays, and had had a very good time with her. People are very friendly at that place. When I came home (late), Daddy had prepared dinner. Maybe I am being spoiled...
Anyway, I like it. Who would not?
Love, mamma

Allan: Mi querida Fatima.
Fatima: Holaaaaaaaaaa.
Fatima: ¿Como estamos?
Allan: Andamos bien, jugamos mucho en la nieve
Fatima: ¿Como estan tus preciosas chicas?
Allan: Ellas estan tan contentas es inimaginable. Ayer esturvimos practicando actuaciones, y visitamos un amigo y jugamos mucho.
Fatima: ¡Que gustoooooooooo!
Allan: ¿Y tu, dime que hay en tu vida?
Fatima: Yo estoy super mejor
Allan: ¿Porque?
Fatima: Estuve bien bajoneada para ya se me paso
Allan: ¿Porque te bajas?
Fatima: tenia tanta ganas de ver a mi mama y no va poder ser
Allan: ¿Porque no puedes visitar a tu mama?
Fatima: Por mi papel tengo que esperar hasta dicienbre que me salga acá
Allan: Ay Dios mio -- es super difícil emigrar a otro país. Tu nuevo país no respecta tus origenes para nada.
Fatima: Para nadaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Allan: Es lo mismo aqui en eeuu. Tengo una amiga que se murieron sus padres e la India) y nunca pudo verlos porque estaba en transmite de conseguir sus papeles.
Fatima: Hoy cumplo tres años
Allan: Hoy cumples ANOS? Tienes 30 de verdad? Te felicito Fatima, qiero que sepas que te queremos como las ranitas quieren a la naturaleza.
Fatima: Allan, y Lorena ¿como anda?
Fatima: Es muy duro que fallese tu gente y uno pueda verle
Allan: Ella anda bien pero me trata muy mal. Si te olvidas de que ella me trata mal, ella es una mujer fantástica. (Bueno, casi, porque eso affecta a Sofia y a Hannah.)
Fatima: Seguro allan lo siento,,,,me gustaria tanto que estuvieran juntos con su dos hijas como tiene que ser una familia y lleno amor.
Allan: Asi es la vida. Pero me divierto sin ella bastante bien.
Allan: Fatima, que me cuentas de Paraguay?
Fatima: aaaaaaaaaaaaaa… De paraguay solo Dios sabe, pero estoy tratando que mi mami venga de visita
Allan: Fatima, tu Mamá siempre me ha parecido una mujer muy especial. Ella tiene su propia vida que es su trabajo con sus hijas e hijos. Ella sabe lo que hace, y su vida no es algo vacío: está lleno de muchas cosas. A veces la cosas no son bonitas. Pero ella sabe como actuar en esas situaciones. Tu eres como ella.
Allan: Yo entiendo que tu quieres verla para ti -- ella te quiere ver también, pero ella mucho mas prefiere saber que estas bien, que tú te sacrifices para ella: eso pienso yo.
Fatima: A lo mejor tienes razón
Allan: Cuando seas madre, sabrás que es así para ti.
Allan: Esa es una de las razones por tu ser una persona tan bella.
Fatima: quiesiera
Fatima: Allan sabes tu que te quiero increibleeeeeeeeeeee pero de corazón tu eres la persona que sabe de vidaaaaaaaaaaaa
Allan: Gracias Fatima.
Allan: Que me puedes contar de tus hermanas y hermanos que aún estan en Paraguay?
Fatima: Pedro, cada día mas malo
Allan: ¿Y tus hermanitas?
Fatima: Estan tremendas, sabes.
Allan: ¿Que hacen ellas? ¿Cuales estudian y cuales trabajan?
Fatima: Todos estudian y quien trabaja es chichi y julio
Fatima: chichi es el papá de la casa
Allan: Bueno, te lo digo porque tu ya lo sabes, pero es bueno que Chichi sea una persona mayor en la casa, pero no es justo.
Allan: ¿Cuantos años tiene Chichi ahora?
Fatima: 16 años, es verdad, eso ya lo sé.
Fatima: Allan me tengo que ir estoy muy cansada
Fatima: ven acá chauuuuuuuuuuu besosssssssss
Allan: Te quiero y te admiro completamente, que tengas una buena decada entrante - ahora que tienes treinta años espero que te realizes con mucha alegría.

March 11, 2008
Well, it was a decidedly tough concept picking up my children. First I must say that LL called me while I was at work at UPS and left a message telling me that she had provided the children with letters saying that I may pick up my children. She wanted me to call her back and leave a message confirming that I would be in the front of the school at 5:00PM.
I did not get the message until 3:00PM and called her and left a message telling her that I would pick the children up on time. LL had called me twice and the second time she called at 2:55PM.
But I as I arrived at the Bloom elementary school I could not see my children. Then a few minutes later Sofia arrived. She was in a sullen. Hannah would not come out.
Then Elgin, who works at CEP spotted Sofia. He called out to her. “Sofia, come here!” Sofia would not budge, and as he became more and more stern with her, she shook her head.
I told Sofia to do as she was being commanded to do.
Mr. Elgin walked past me in a brusque manner and I said to him, “I am caring for her,” but he responded, “She is supposed to be at CEP.”
I allowed him to approach Sofia who would not do as he said.
Then I explained to him that LL had sent the children with a letter stating that I would be picking up the children and backed off.
But where was Hannah?
I was unable to get Hannah.
A few minutes later Elgin came back and explained that he had spoken with his boss and had been told that Sofia had to go with him.
I said “OK.”
Sofia would not go with him so he called someone who was inside the school.
A lady came out and spoke with Sofia. She told Sofia that she had tried to call her mother but had been unable to make contact. However she had made contact with her Aunt Rebecca who would be arriving soon. She asked Sofia to come inside the school and wait with her.
I asked if I could stay with Sofia, but Mr. Elgin said “No.” Then he added It is a matter of her safety and her mother’s concerns.”
I told Mr. Elgin that his rhetoric was unacceptable.
I went to The Highland Coffee House and waited there.
At 5:30PM Rebecca arrived in her car with all her children and my children too She beckoned me to approach the car and get my children. She was not in a good mood. LL called at that moment. I offered to let Rebecca speak with LL but Rebecca said “No thank you.” I said to LL “Rebecca is not able o speak on the phone with you right now but she said ‘thank you.’ And then I passed the phone onto Sofia. I do not know what L said to Sofia but moments later Sofia returned the phone to me.
“Did you notice anything about Rebecca?” Hannah asked.
“Sie ist schwanger, sie wird ein Baby Kriegen.”
“And guess if it’s going to be a boy or a girl.”
“Ein Mädchen.”
“No, it’s a boy!”
LL called. She said that Sofia had hung up the phone on her. Oooh that was a interesting moment for me. You have no idea how many times she, Nancy, Lara, and Rebecca (and now also the KGB) have hung up the phone on me, and so I was really caught in a very trigger easy state. I found myself responding by saying “you have never hung up on anyone, have you Rena?” and she said “Not on my mother!” I did not respond to that. Sofia did not hear what LL said and I knew that I had said enough. I passed the phone to Sofia who accidentally pressed the talk button which disconnected her from LL. I truly believe this was an accident.
A couple of minutes later I called LL and told her that Sofia had accidentally pushed the talk button and that she had not meant to hang up on her.
And then in the car. Sofia wanted to know where Hannah had been: you see, if Hannah had come out, none of the havoc with CEP, LL and Rebecca would have happened (but I did not tell this to Hannah, and Sofia did not have the insight to realize this) and Hannah said “Oh, I thought I was supposed to go to CEP after chess.” She was indifferent and completely OK with what she had done. I was OK with her and it was in fact, totally good of her to go to CEP. It is not her fault that CEP and LL and Rebecca are as they are.
I brought the children to my house. They watched a German Movie in the car and then were reluctant to come into the house – being content to watch the movie in the car. After about ten minutes I made them come in the house.
I had a movie in the DVD player going in Spanish – and Hannah watched this for a while but then she decided that she wanted to watch a different movie and chose to watch a silly adolescent movie about the importance of being pretty…
And Sofia became involved in solving a complex 3-D puzzle and then made pancakes. Both of these experiences were top quality for Sofia.
And LL arrived at 7:00PM.
But the children did not want to leave just then. I explained that I had not gotten the children until half an hour later and so I welcomed LL into the house.
LL scanned the place. She looked for things that she claimed were hers.
I told her she could not take anything.
I told her that I do not go to her house and make claims to things that she has and asked her not to act in such a manner in my house.
She listed things that she wanted: Nancy Drew books and a painting.
I said “I do not behave like this at your house.”
“I do not have anything that you can pretend belongs to you.”
“Yes, the scrap books.”
“They are not at my house.”
I left that alone. Who cares where they are? If they are at Nancy’s house, then they are in LL’s possession.
LL left at 7:20PM.
Just as Hannah was getting in the car, Hannah asked for her booklet from the Western Day Care. I told her that it is in my house but that she can not take it with her. It is something that I am caring for “in my house.” This caused Hannah to curse at me.
I walked over to LL’s car and LL opened the window a crack.
I said to Hannah “I love you,” in a serious voice, and LL said that she had reprimanded Hannah. (So, even if she hadn’t, she at least made it clear by admitting that she had, that that was not acceptable behavior.) I assured Hannah that I am very good about keeping things. LL agreed.
Then LL called me and she railed on me for not having fed the children. She said that she had stopped at a fast food restaurant because the children were hungry. That is crazy because I offered the children food all evening and Sofia was “the expert chef,’ in the kitchen. Even as the children were with me and LL I was pushing oat meal cookies on them.
So, the children are playing LL. That’s a problem that the catastrophic lack of intelligence in the development of this case have allowed now to make probable.
LL went on to call my place unhygienic – no clean cups, no dishes, no dishwasher. She said that I had to take the children to a restaurant. I assured LL that since she had not only said that to me, but also to the children, that I would not be doing that.
So now, I am thinking we will eat peanut butter sandwiches with olives on the side and we will also drink milk and juices. If the children refuse? Then they will not eat until they are back with their mother. Does that work? It works on Tuesdays and Thursdays a little bit.

March 12, 2008
I called the KGB and left David with the following message: “Hello David, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick and the last time we spoke you said that you would consider calling me on your own steam – that was in person. The time before that, you assured me that you were calling me in response to my calls. I would very much appreciate hearing from you. My telephone number is 714 – 8577. Thank you.”
Then I called The Court Reporter whose contact information is Wendy McLaughlin, 101 North 7th Street, Louisville, Kentucky 40202. Tel.(502) 561-3467 and left a message asking to call me about the status of the depositions of the KGB.
Then I called LeeAnn Gardner and left another message “Hello LeeAnn, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick I hope you are doing well. I am calling to ask you to please call Lorena and ask her to please me us at your office and preferably sooner rather than later. Thank you.”
I called the Bloom elementary school to speak with the CEP. They transferred me to Debbie Lee who is in charge of CEP at Bloom and who apparently knows Sofia and Hannah. We agreed to meet with Mr. Elgin today at 5:00PM.
At 3:00PM I received a message from LL that I was to pick up the children at 5:00PM (that is when I am to meet the people from CEP)
At around 4:00PM the CEP lady, Debbie Lee, called to cancel our meeting. She said that since I was not allowed to pick up my children from CEP hat we would not be able to meet at the school. I said that I did not mind meeting somewhere else but that this is important. She apologized on Elgin’s behalf about his behavior yesterday. She added that she would find a time when we could meet.
The problem with the people at CEP is that they treat me with disdain or indifference. They are always very short with me.

Dear Lorena,
I got your message asking me to pick up the girls at 5:00PM and take them to Ballet. I will do that.
Thank you,
Sincerely,
Allan
I also called LL to make double sure that she know that I was on the same page as her about taking the children to Ballet.
Yes, the way the world runs has nothing to do with fairness or truth or ethics, rather it has to do with power.
I am powerless, pretty much. I am armed with nothing but my own vision.
I arrived a quarter of an hour early at the Highland Coffee House and am now waiting for my children.
It is a beautiful day! Spring is in the air.
LL brought the children after I called and she called me back and I got them at about 5:15PM – we arrived at the Ballet studio with one minute to spare. The children did not eat before dancing. I offered them a chocolate bar that we could buy at a gas station on he way, but Sofia said “no,” while Hannah said “Yes, let’s do it, I am hungry…” but then Sofia got on the phone with LL and told her that I wanted to stop and buy them chocolate and LL told me that the children should wait until they have finished dancing.
And so now they are dancing upstairs and I am on the computer down stairs.
Hannah and Sofia are hard at work – learning how to dance.
“Arm up Sofia.“
“Where are you going?”
“Use the bar.“
“Don’t try to hop away from it.“
“Left foot in front, right foot in front.”
“I have lots of dancers I would rather have a girl who tries rather than be lazy. Hard work pays off. Keep your body where it should be.”
“Ok, pull up, don’t lean a bit formward, not even a smidgeon, -- Barbie elbows!”
“One more time. Here keep that thumb down, keep goin up, don’t drop your shoulders Nora.”
“Debbie at this age you should all know that the work look how my head is in my arms.”
“Bottom shoulders arms, elbow, elbow finger, Nora you lost you position.”
“Back you go.“
“All you do is try harder.”
“Up, up, up.”
“Five, six, seven, eight, point your toe.”
So, do I think that Sofia is paying attention to her teacher? Yes and not really. It may be because she has seen that I am there.
They just finished doing chaise right and chaise left and then they kneel on one knee, drop to the floor and sit on their bottoms and pull their knees together and keep their heads tucked under. Arms in a cradle, one two three four.. eight (two times)
There are about ten girls in this class. It is not so bad, I mean and the children are doing more or less what is expected of them, but I can not deny that I denote in Sofia some semblance of indifference to what is going on.
However, I do think that there is some learning going on here and that is good.
No, it is not that Sofia is lazy at all. It is something else. It is her intrinsic ability. She is right on the mark with timing and performance moves, where as Hannah just floats or like water, flows through the scenes.
Hannah was completely happy with me there, she waved to me a couple of times.
Then we went down stairs to eat pie. The children heard the dancing upstairs and I admitted that I had been where we now were (down stairs) but had not known from which part of the ceiling their feet sounds came from.
We sat outside. Hannah soon made another friend but Sofia stayed with me and we spoke about her friend Samantha.
Then Sofia joined Hannah and Hannah’s new friend and they played and it was really good.
I spoke with the father of the new friend of my children. I called LL in order to find out how I was supposed to do the homework with the children and she told me that she had taken their back packs and that I was not able to do the homework with them. Lorena was a pissy person when I asked her if I could do homework with the children. She started out saying “I do not need for you to do homework with them,” and I said “That has nothing to do with anything…” and then she said “No,” and I did not let the children know this.
By the way 2,000,000 Iraqis have been killed, 4,000 US soldiers killed and who knows how large the numbers of maimed and wounded during the same yeas that my children have been in the state of Kentucky.
We hopped in the car and were heading down Bardstown road and the traffic was moving very slowly when LL called and I told her that we were on our way home. The children knew that I was speaking with LL. Hannah said that “Mommy told me that you are not supposed to speak about sexual abuse.” I said “hum? Complicated… first of all we don’t. Second of all, Mommy wants everything to be a secret, secret, secret.”
The children were happy. Hannah asked me for a kiss on the head.

March 13, 2008
I called Misty Rowan again since she has not called me back in a couple of days. I left a message on her answering machine asking her to call me back and I let her know that I had gotten the CPS collection of documents (except for the one that she was working on.)
LeeAnn Gardner called me and left a message stating that she was not going to “chase” after Lorena. I called her back and left a message telling her that meeting her was “court ordered. Please call me back and tell me what I should do?”
LL Text messaged me and told me that she would be bringing the children to the Highland Coffee House at 5:15PM.
I found Peter at the coffee house and he had his two precious dogs with him, so, we all decided to go to dog hill.
Sofia was hard to convince to play along. She resisted most things: getting out of the car, going for a walk with the dogs, walking – it was getting late and she started walking at a snails pace. Finally I let her know that I was going to take her book from her if she did not walk back. Five minutes later I actually did that and walked ahead and then sat down to read the book. It did not take Sofia and Hannah long to come to me, get the book and run ahead.
They held hands as they climbed dog hill.
By the way, Peter is really good with them because he is dramatic.
And then we drove home. Hannah saw that I had red eyes (from running?) and she asked if I had been crying and I denied this, but the children became very concerned. Hannah told me that she loves me and that she believes that I have been crying for four years. I told her that I did not cry all the time that I was in Paraguay but that I did miss my children very much. The children wanted to know what “child support means” and “why that means that I had to go to jail.” Hum? That is a tough cookie for me to answer.
Here is what I wanted to answer: “The reason I do not have a good job like Mommy is because I have been accused of sexual abuse, Sex abusers can not be teachers.”
Here is what I answered: “Remember what Mommy told you? I am supposed to pay Mommy to care for you. When I can not pay, then I go to jail.”
“How long? Three days?”
(This guess is something that the children must have gotten from LL.)
“Next time it is supposed to be a year.”
The children said that they would visit me if I go back to jail and they claim that they did not know in past times when I was in jail or otherwise they would have visited me.

March 14, 2008
I called the KGB and left a message on David Weathersby’s voice mail. “Hello David this is Allan Lasky-Headrick and there is no need for hatred or enmity or walls or barriers and there never has been so please, please call me. Thank you.”

Dear Mommy, Daddy and Papo,
It occurs to me that it might be a good idea if you have some phone numbers just in case:
Important things:
(502) 593 – 4128 Lorena L’s cell phone number:
(502) 299 – 4061 My friend Peter
(502) 584 – 0044 The KGB, David Weathersby and the forlorn therapists of my children.
(502) 247 – 1816 UPS – my job!
And I got a number of emails from the Girlscouts:
Great News... they have extended the cookie sales, so if we can't get everything sold this weekend we will still have one more week!!!!
And this one:
Just a Reminder-----

This Sunday March 16we will have a meeting from 3-4:30 pm at Deer Park Baptist.
Snack: Rubin's

If you still owe dues please bring that with you:
$8.00 -- Rami, Katie E.
$6.00 -- Jamine
$4.00 -- Sofia
$2.00 -- Katie A., Lindsey, Katie B., Zoe

Missing cookie money from: Jasmine (please bring this to the meeting)

If you have not signed up for booth slots this weekend please do so ASAP, I still need girls:
Thurs Kroger's 6-8 -- Alicia and Katie B

Sat Kroger's 10-Noon -- Olivia, Emma, and Alexis
Sat Walgreens/Starbucks Noon-2 -- Alicia (Still need one girl)
Sat Walgreens/Starbucks 2-4 -- Alicia (Still need one girl), Lindsey (?)

Sun Kroger's 10-Noon -- Alicia
Sun Kroger's Noon-2 -- Katie B., Sofia, and Katie A.

(If we sell out of cookies on Sat, we will not have a booth on Sunday, or if we are down to 15 boxes we will not have a booth but will just have the parents buy some of the extra boxes)

Thanks again for everyone's help:

Kelly
And
Also Junior's----

Please bring your $15 for the Sign of the Sun WS to this week's meeting. These girls are the ones registered to attend the WS.

Alexis, Emma, Zoe, Alicia, Jasmine, Katie B, Katie E, Sofia

Thanks,
Kelly
And from LL:
Don't forget--GS meeting this Sunday! Lorena Lasky
And then again:
Sofia will be very upset if she misses again. We already had to do three make-up activities to catch up from the meetings she missed becuase of other activities planned during your parenting time. They are working on Sign of the SUn--a lengthy award that requires her to participate (and, as you can see--she is to bring $15). I will provide the $15.

If she misses, I fear she will be too behind & feel disconnected. It will be detrimental.

Can't you ride horses 10-2 and still make it to the meeting by 3?
And then again:
It appears she is selling cookies Sunday 12-2, as well. Perhaps the horseback riding needs to happen the following weekend. This is you year to get Easter which is the following weekend, so you can do something that Sunday. Lorena Lasky

And I respond:
Hello Dear Lorena,
Thank you for your two emails: Yes, you are right that I have signed up Sofia for Girl Scout Cookies on Sunday, I had it in my schedule in the computer but not in my head when I was dreaming about taking the children horseback riding. So, yes, maybe will go horse back riding next week end – and not this one. I can take them to the science museum this week end. But you may remember that last year, we tried to do both Girl Scouts and horseback riding on the same day and it did not work too well. So, no, it is not possible to “ride horses 10-2 and still make it to the meeting by 3.” Last week end you said that you would go to Girl Scouts and then you did not. You are again invited to coma to Girl Scouts. You wrote that you would pay the fee of $15 and you should feel completely free to come to Girl scouts, not just to make that payment, but to spend time with Sofia and Hannah as well. What are the three make up activities that Sofia had to do in order to catch up with the alleged missed times when I was parenting? In fact, on what days are you saying that I did not bring Sofia to Girl Scouts? If I did not take Sofia to Girl Scouts it is because you or you and Sofia told me not to and I have always believed that was because there was no Girl Scouts on that day since that is what I was told. But I do still have a number of questions that I am still trying to get answers for: “May I invite you and the children to tea or coffee and yummies at Starbucks or to falafel, humus and babaganoush at the Marakesh restaurant next to Starbucks?” or maybe may I come by for ten minutes and say hello to the children? I also some things that the children left in North Carolina that I would like to return…. And would you please give Hannah a kiss on the top of the head and tell her it is from me through you to her?” May I speak with Hannah and Sofia on the telephone with some freedom?” It appears that we need to communicate – at least in the presence of a professional like LeeAnn Gardner – don’t you agree? I got a message from LeeAnn saying that you need to call her for us to meet. It seems to me that our children need access to KUMON after school care instead of CEP (which is a waste of time since they do not even do their homework.) Can you allow this? It seems to me that the children must receive therapeutic services to deal with the past and the present. Are you adverse to them getting therapy? (I was told that you did not want Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo to be their therapists.)
All right, have a nice day Lorena!
Allan





9:00AM I tried to call my children. I think the first time one of my children picked up the phone but it might have been one of Rebecca’s kids. The second time Joey picked up the phone and told me that I had marked the wrong number. The third time the phone was immediately hung up again and the fourth time it had been disconnected. So, I believe there is an adult in the midst of the Lasky telephone. This all happened on the linea baja.
So then I called LL’s cell phone. I left the following message: “Heypodey Rena I would like to speak with Sofia and Hannah today so if you would be so kind as to facilitate telephone conversations between me and Sofia and Hannah and me, that would be truly beautiful and truly good of you. Alright, have a beautiful Saturday.”

12:00 noon: called LL’s cell phone and left the following message: “Heypodey Rena I would like to speak with Sofia and Hannah today so if you would be so kind as to facilitate telephone conversations between Sofia, Hannah and me, that would be truly awesome, beautiful and truly good of you. Alright, I hope you are having a beautiful Saturday.”
I must admit that it is the craziest thing that I do things like leave polite and kind messages on LL’s cell phone. Although a pretty good, if not excellent argument can be made that I have been forced to act in this manner, I am also glad to recognize that I choose to act in this manner. Let me explain something in terms of incidences that pertain to LL.
Rape is a terrible experience. I have no knowledge of it because I have never been raped and I have certainly never raped anyone. However, if I am to believe L, she has been raped. But I can empathize and in my attempts to fathom the hell of being raped, I believe that to have your children stolen is worse – in fact, it is a zillionfold worse.
LL stole my children. I know this even if society does not recognize this truth. The monstrous experience LL has created for me and my children is chronic and in my face every day. The hell is an all pervasive quality in my life.
So, how do I manage to be kind to that person? Well, I think I tower over her: morally, ethically, socially, in terms of any positive quality a human can have.
So yeah, LL, go ahead: have a nice day.
1:30PM I tried calling but no one picked up the phone. I did not leave a message because I already had this morning.
Late in the afternoon Hannah called me to tell me to stop calling and that they were very busy.

March 16, 2008 (Sunday.)
Sofia did not seem happy this morning and there was nothing I could do to assuage this condition. In fact, she became impossible to work with so I had to take certain a definite actions to accomplish any thing happening. So, for example, when it was time to go to Friends meeting, and Sofia was saying that she would not go, I lifted her and her chair and carried her out of the house.
I introduced my children to the folks at the Friends meeting house and Sofia rolled her eyes.
And then I brought them back to my house and then we went to Girl Scouts. This is particularly good with faces, ears and hands and later with Christopher, feet. And my goodness that was good for Sofia. While Sofia was at Girl Scouts I took Hannah to Wallmart where she bought (mostly with her own money) a toy that consists of many prongs which when pressed against and object are displaced by the shape of the object to recreate the form of the pbject and finally for dinner I took the children to Archana and Christopher’s house where they ate pizza and watched a movie about Krishna. We walked to LL’s from there. And there were many lucid and incredible moments during this time. Archana and I drew analogies between Jesus and Krishna which may have been absorbed by the children. Christopher was happy. He was in his element and had no problem just being himself. The children were children and they played both with and against each other and this was “all good.” For example I watched Sofia hitting Christopher with a red get well heart filled with helium. And Sofia was happy as she walked to LL’s with me. We spoke about her friends.
Hannah and Sofia ran ahead when they realized hey were on Rubel street. By the time I got to LL’s house, the house was closed and , I knocked on the door. Hannah answered the door and offered me her head for me to kiss. It was cold outside so I entered the house and that caused Hannah much concern. She had been taught b her mother that I am on no circumstances to be allowed in the house. (What madness) and she pushed me out. Then she said wait Daddy, I want to give you a note and on a piece of paper she wrote “I am sorry. I love you Daddy.”
Later on in a telephone conversation with Archana we commented on Sofia – that she has desisted from manifesting empathy, she is sometimes hard to get along with (Sofia had refused to enter Archana’s home…) and Sofia is much more on a psychological edge than Hannah. “It is a defense mechanism as well as a phase,” was the best I could come up with. I know of course, that Sofia is torn by the Lasky way of being.
Oh by the way, we did not sell Girl Scout Cookies because I got an email from the troop leader stating that “The booth sales have been cancelled for Sunday 3/16/08 due to only having 20 boxes of cookies left.

Thanks,
Kelly”
March 17, 2008
Today I go to court. Present my motion to the judge: contempt of court for not allowing the children to be with me on March 6th, 2008.
The Judge sent a delegate person to me and Mason Trenaman (LL’s lawyer) and we agreed to meet tomorrow to deal with the motion.
Now, in a sense that was a good thing. I had met John Helmers who had told me that he was no longer representing me, that he believes the hearing tomorrow was going to be rejected.
“You are pretty hairy!” John commented on my beard.
“That is evidence that we are descendents from the apes.”
“There are no bald apes!” John answered. It was funny. The Judge read out the names of the people and this time LL and my names would have been the last to be called out, but a delegate came to me and Trenaman and we agreed to deal with the motion today.
On my way to work I stopped by John Helmers office to pick up his “massive” folder of documents and was told that I could not get them then….

March 18, 2008
I was not able to speak with my children in spite of my calling. I called Papo and asked him to sent LL the following email. He got into my account and sent this email for me.
Dear Lorena,
The happy happy phone call today between my children and me did not materialize. Would you please have the children call me this morning.
Thank you,
Allan

And so it goes.
I was talking to Mark and he said that according to zillo, Sweeney lane is worth $136,000. So, I lost $46,000 in selling it. However I bought this house for $23,500 and it is worth $74,500 and so I made a profit of $51,000 and so in the balance I made a $5000 profit in exchanging houses.

March 18, 2008
I called John Helmers but his secretary told me that I can pick up the folder anytime I want.
I called the KGB and left the following message. “Hello David this is Allan Lasky-Headrick. Well, yes, it is obvious that I would very much appreciate the opportunity to speak with you. Would you please be so kind as to call me? My telephone number is 714 8577. Thank you.”
And then I called Misty Rowan and left the same message for Misty.
“Haven’t you lived my life and me haven’t I lived your life?” a nice person at Highland coffee house asked me and I said “No, very few people have lived my life!”
So, here I am at the Coffee shop waiting for my children and I have a ton to write because I was just in court with LL, Mason, her lawyer and Judge Patricia Walker Fitzgerald.
I have recorded my time in court and will transcribe that later on, but for now let me say that I think neither LL nor I won anything and it was a waste of the time. I had filed a motion against LL for not allowing me to be with the children on March 6th 2008 and she had filed a motion against me for speaking with the children about the allegations.
The judge I think will decide that neither LL nor I are good about the allegations with the children and will dismiss the children
LL appears with the phone in her hand saying “I am talking with Jenny from the agency at the John Powers School of Modelling and acting.” She continues to tell me that “Hannah had an audition on Saturday with Harriet Greenspan with and she got an honorable mention and that means that he will get an invitation and she needs a professional headshot and that is really good that means that she likes her and she wants Hannah to get a new mention. The number is 339 – 7483 ask for Jenny.”
“I will.” I say and add “thank you Rena.“
And then the children asked to stay at the Highland Coffee house and so here we are…
Hannah said something interesting and so did I
I said “Thank you Rena for meeting with me today and thatnk you for being so nice and cordial.”
Hannah said “Mommy said that she wants you to bring us to Mommies house because she has picked us up fro your house two times in a row.”
I called Jenny.
And then I did homework with my children. I did not help Hannah very much. She was involved with spelling while Sofia did math: Statistics!
And then we walked form the Highland Coffee House to LL’s place. It was a fabulous walk for me and Sofia and Sofia was very talkative but Hannah felt and seemed distant and then as we rounded the gas station near LL’s Hannah said to me that she wanted to be on my shoulders and I put her on my shoulders and carried her and this made her very happy and she offered her head to me as I put her back down again in front of LL’s house so that I could kiss it which I did.
And as I bid my children good bye I asked LL to call me and she said “sure,” but she never called me.
Oh, one more thing. On the way to LL’s Jenny called me and pushed hard for me to spend money on Hannah’s photoshoot: $800.00.
I asked her “What can you tell me about Hannah? – Let me tell you first what I have just gleamed from Rena, her mother: Hannah had an audition on Saturday with Harriet Greenspan with and she got an honorable mention and that means that he will get an invitation and she needs a professional headshot and that is really good that means that she likes her and she wants Hannah to get a new mention. So what ca you add to that?
Where is the photo shoot to take place? Sghe said that in May.

I need to speak with my financial advisor who is H’s grandfather called Farfar… I will call you back well before the dead line --- when is that?
I walked back to the coffee shop to write and speak with David and Steve. I checked my emails: The first email was from LL:

Allan:

We had communication abotu hilidays before Thanksgiving of last year. Perhaps you can find that email?

We started our holiday schedule as outlined in the new Court Order with Thanksgiving. We are to alternate Thanksgiving, Easter, Labor Day & Memorial day & X-mas.

In 2007, I had Thanksgiving & you had X-mas.

That stands to reason that in 2008 that will be flip-flopped. I believe we said that if one had T-Giving one year, the other had Easter--then it flip-flopped the next year.

What about mapping it out farther in advance so there is no confusion......

2008: Easter--Lorena; Memorial Day--Allan; Labor Day--Lorena; Thanksgiving--Allan; X-mas--Lorena
2009: Easter--Allan; Memorial Day--Lorena; Labor Day--Allan; Thanksgiving--Lorena; Xmas--Allan


That being said (since we said back in November or October that I would do Easter this year...)---Easter has snuck up on us. I kept thinking it was your day this year, but that is incorrect. That is not what we had discussed back in the Fall. The four smaller holidays alternate in the same year and the big one holiday (Xmas) alternates year after year with you getting odd years and me getting even years.

So, I had made a mistake earlier last week when I thought it was your year for Easter and I emailed you the same. As you can see from the schedule above, that is not the case that you could get Easter and Thanksgiving in the same year. This is your year for Thanksgiving because I had it last year.

Since I figured this out at the last minute (I mistakenly told you last week this was your year for Easter), I am offering you to see the kids Saturday so as to not interfere with you getting some parenting time this weekend. Are you available Saturday?
And then another email from LL:
Allan:

We are plannign the annual trip to Florida with my sisters and it has to be earlier this year due to Rebecca's baby coming. We plan to leave Sunday May 18 and return Sunday May 25th as it is the only time everyone can all get together. Can you pencil this on your calender? Please pencil in that you would see the kids on Saturday May 17th instead of Sunday May 18th. Hopefully that is more than enough time to adjust your schedule. The rest of the week, I would like to count as one of the two weeks of summer vacation that I get.

Have you heard from your parents yet about when they want to do the two weeks? I am holding off planning my second week for now. If they will be in California the week of July 4th, I think that might be a good week for me to take vacation time since I get the 4th as a holiday & my center is closed that week. In other words, I am proposing that my second week by the week of May 31st. Lorena Lasky

And then I got a little email from Farmor:
Allan, does Hannah have rollerscates, a scateboard?
Mamma
And I write back:
Dear Mommy,
Hannah and Sofia both have rollerscates… I think… If they have a skateboard it is very small and utterly cheap. And yes, I would love to teach my kids how to skateboard.
Lots of love,
Allan


Understanding this reality requires a reminder of how we arrived at this point. As William Faulkner once wrote, “The past isn’t dead and buried. In fact, it isn’t even past.” I do not need to recite here the history of social injustice in the legal and social workers interplaying to fixate my family. I do need to remind myself that so many of the disparities that exist between LL and myself today can be directly traced to inequalities passed on from an earlier year of shit that suffered under the brutal legacy of allegations and carelessness.
Anger is not (always) productive; indeed, all too often it distracts attention from solving real problems; it keeps us from squarely facing our own complicity in our condition, and prevents LL from forging the alliances she needs to bring about real change. But the anger is real; it is powerful; and to simply wish it away, to condemn it without understanding its roots, only serves to widen the chasm of misunderstanding that exists between us. Does this explain why my emails to LL are layered with kindness?
But I have asserted a firm conviction – a conviction rooted in my faith in life – that working with kindness – god if only it could be together! we can move beyond some wounds, and that in fact we have no choice is we are to continue on the path to be better parents for Sofia and Hannah.

For me that path means embracing the burdens of an imposed past without becoming victims of that past. It means continuing to insist on a full measure of justice in every aspect of my life. But it also means binding my particular grievances – to the larger aspirations of my children -- And it means taking full responsibility for own lives (which I always have done) – by demanding more from myself, and spending more time with our children, and reading to them, and teaching them that while they may face challenges and discrimination in their own lives, they must never succumb to despair or cynicism; they must always believe that they can write their own destiny.
Ok.
I sent LL this email:
Dear Lorena,
Today in court you wanted to present the Judge with an utterance or more of my behavior in the presence of the children. I did not get anything from Trenaman and you did not tell me until a few minutes before the court proceeding started. So, as you should have gleamed from the court proceedings I had no idea what the court proceeding was about today. Would you please be so kind as to email me the recording so that I can understand what you were concerned about? And I would also like to talk with you about it later.
Thank you,
Allan

I did not actually respond to LL’s request to spend Easter with the children because I already had said that I was not working on Saturday and could spend Saturday with them instead of Easter Sunday with them. I said this in court with LL… I also want to think a little more today about how to handle this with her. Let me respond to that now:
Dear Lorena,
As far as Easter is concerned: You are suggesting in your email “Since I figured this out at the last minute (I mistakenly told you last week this was your year for Easter), I am offering you to see the kids Saturday so as to not interfere with you getting some parenting time this weekend. Are you available Saturday?” and the answer is Yes, I can spend Saturday with the children. But… Is there any chance that I could be invited to spend Easter with your family this year? That would be the best of all worlds! Please answer to this suggestion. If you tell me that Grammy refuses to invite me to spend Easter at her place with the children then I can consider exchanging Sunday for Saturday but that is a much lesser option. Please let me know if this is the case.
Sincerely,
Allan

March 19, 2008
Sadly I did not speak with my children on the telephone today. Archana told me that she had seen Sofia at school and that Sofia had been happy, giggling with a friend of hers. Archana said that she would help paint my house.

March 20, 2007
LL was early! In the end I discovered it was because Sofia had been to the orthodontist. Sofia called me at 4:50PM asking me where I was and I told her that I would be there at 5:00PM.
LL hugged the children and then the children and I entered into the Highland coffee house but we did not stay there. We decided to go to the Mimosa Vietnamese restaurant near by.
Sofia had learned a silly story about a very dumb family of bunnies that allow the baby to drive, picnic at the carwash etc…
This indicates the sense of humor that Sofia has attained. A humor that draws on juxtaposition with social norms.
And then we walked home. We stopped at the park and played hide and seek and who knows what else. It was fun as can be. We also stopped at the gas station and bought a few nice things.
But the highlight today for me was when I was pushing my bike up the hill, Hannah called out to me and said “Daddy, I LOVE YOU!!!!”
“Ich liebe dich AUCH!” I called back.
Then I checked my email. The first one is from LL:
The children are already looking forward to seeing you on Saturday. It works best keeping it this way. Also --I was going to work Sunday & I switched it to Saturday when I realized I was supposed to do Easter this year.

Hannah will need you to take her to acting class Saturday.

Did you sign her up for a picture shoot? If so, what is the date?

FYI--There will be a conflict with one of your parenting times in May. The girls have either a dress rehearsal or actual recital on a Thursday. Are you going to file a contempt motion for that, too? Are you going to file every time they have an activity or illness that requires switching for another day? And, do you feel good about yourself for lying in Court and presenting that you were denied a visit when in fact you had already made up the time?
Lorena Lasky

And I answer:

Dear Lorena,
It is true that the girls are looking forward to seeing me on Saturday but that is not because I told them that they would see me on Saturday. Today Sofia told me that she was going to see me “on Saturday and not Sunday because last year she spent Easter with me.” This is something that you told her. She does not remember what happened last year.

No, I have not signed Hannah up for a picture date because I do not understand what the return on the investment may be. I spoke with Jenny and she did not convince me. However, I will inquire on Saturday when I take Hannah in person and possibly then I will understand what is at stake.

I am glad to take the children to a recital or a dress rehearsal on Thursday next month. If you are needed, you are welcome.

Your sentence that runs “And, do you feel good about yourself for lying in Court and presenting that you were denied a visit when in fact you had already made up the time? “is very interesting. It is an amazing sentence. Literally, it comes from the world of the fantastic! When I say ‘fantastic’ I do not mean to impart anything like ‘heavenly,’ it could be ‘infernal.’ Both those are notions that for me are in the real of the fantastic. Here are some ground based answers:

(1) In the hearts of my children and in mine as well, we are owed four years. Therefore , I can not have lied.
(2) You said to me in a telephone conversation on Saturday that you would not make up the forlorn date and I have that recorded in my computer.
(3) If you had called me, emailed me, Communicated with me, then I doubt VERY much that I would have had the pretext to present the motion in court. Communication Lorena is KEY. For example, today you hardly said anything to me. Getting any information about Sofia’s visit to the orthodontist was like pulling teeth. And when I brought the children to your place, you were as scant in your speech to me as a slug is to the arctic caps, or an elephant is to a grain of sand. This is causes the children pain. Compounded to that pain is the reality that you and your family coached them to lie in order to get custody of them, in order not to have to live in Austin, Texas, in order to bolster your position on being able to treat me as you have. This is even worse for the children.
Most sincerely,
Allan

LL’s response arrives:
What I said on teh phone Saturday was that I would not drive them to your house in the snow and that you could choose Monay or Wednesday to do the two hours. You kept insisting that I bring them Saturday and that I had to drive them to your house. You started to raise your voice and I said "no." I never said you could not make up the time. I refused to drive in what I perceived as unsafe conditions. You refused to drive to my house, as well. You also know clear as day that you gace the the motion AFTER I INITIATED (you did not initiate) a conversation with you about seeing them Wednesday for make-up time. Your reply, if you don't remember,, was "well, maybe you want to see this before you schedule that time" and you handed me the motion. An ethical person would have remanded the motion after taking the make-up time. In fact, Allan , it is you who either misunderstood or misconstrued what I said Saturday. Had you been trying to communicate, you would have asked me again about what I said before you jumped to conclusions. Communication is the key Allan & the first and most important trait of good communication is LISTENING. Lorena Lasky

And I write
Oh my goodness, dear Lorena,
There was never an issue with snow in Louisville on any of the days I was to have the children. Thus, snow can not be an excuse for my children not getting parenting from me. As for the other days, they were days that you "perceived as being unsafe," and they were not days that I considered unsafe. There was one morning when I would not have driven the car or motorcycle (with side car) but by noon that day, the driving conditions were safe. I know that they were safe because I was out there driving the white car and the motorcycle with the side car.. That would have been a fine afternoon for a makeup.

On the telephone call that happened on March 6th when you told me that I could not see the children, I did not raise my voice, but I was, as I have always been, clear about your infraction.

Goodness, What do you mean when you write that YOU "initiated" dialog about make up time? On March 6, 2008 you called to tell me that I could not see the children in spite to the Judge's orders and you challenged me to take you to court about it. You said "Go ahead, take me to court!"

And I asked you then about make up time but when I asked that it happen sooner rather than later, you took the offer away from me, saying you will not agree to making up the time.

Several days went by....

And in front of the children, in my house, you spoke with me about make up time. That was when I discretely gave you the court motion. I was discrete because, when I invited you into my house, the children were present and that was certainly not an acceptable place for us to talk about make up time. Still, that is what you did.

And now:

You write that an "ethical person would have remanded the motion after taking the make-up time," and I agree that it slightly weakens my position, but in addition to what I wrote in a recent email You may not decide that I can not have the children because you are the Brownies leader,
or because there is snow on the road,
or because the sun shine on your porch is yellower than Vincent van Gogh's floor
or because the US economy is falling like a house of cards.

And finally you write my favorite sentence: "Communication is the key Allan & the first and most important trait of good communication is LISTENING." Back at you Lorena!!!
Sincerely,
Allan

Farfar also wrote to LL today:

Dear Rena,

Just to be on the safe side, I thought I would confirm the plans for Spring Break.

Farmor and I will arrive in Louisville on Friday, April 4, and take in at the Old Bridge Inn, where we stayed last year. We will arrive there some time after three o'clock. Allan will bring the girls to us. Please prepare a bag or suitcase for each one, as you did last year, containing their pajamas, tooth brushes, combs, etc., and a change of clothes for four days. They would need their blue jeans for bike riding and in case we decide to go horseback riding.

If Hannah still has her rat and Sofia still has her duck, they can bring them along, but the animals must be told that they have to be quiet. We don't want a lot of grunting and quacking disturbing the peace and quiet of the hotel.

You won't have to let the girls have their nice dresses, because, as an advance against Hannah's birthday, Farmor has found some very pretty clothes for both girls, which they can wear when they go out for dinner. (Please keep this secret.)

At the hotel, the girls will sleep in one room, and Farmor and I will sleep in another room. I have already made the reservations. Allan would sleep in his house. On days when he has to work, which would be Monday and Tuesday, Allan would join us for breakfast, then be at work at 10 o'clock. Farmor and I would spend some time with the girls and have lunch with them, and be joined by Allan after he comes out of work at 2 o'clock.

We will return the girls to you on Tuesday in the
early evening.

Best wishes,

William

And LL answered affirming in a single three or four word email that sounded like “That is fine.”

And Farfar sent me an email with a proposed email that he is thinking of sending to LL: So, here is a potential letter from Farfar to LL:

Allan, here is a letter I would like to send to Rena.
What do you think of it?


Hello, Rena,

I'm taking note of your schedule for the summer vacation. You are assuming that both you and Allan
are entitled to two weeks of exclusive parenting time during the childrens' summer vacation, although the Agreed Order says only that Allan has two weeks, and says nothing about you.

Still, I like your suggestion. I think it is fair that you should have two full weeks of exclusive time with the children, just as Allan has two exclusive weeks. You also propose that those two weeks need not be taken in one stretch, but can be divided into two separate weeks, taken at different times. That also makes sense, and Allan could do the same, if he wanted to take his two weeks separately.

During the rest of the summer vacation, when neither one of you has exclusive possession of the children, you would have the children on Saturdays and Allan would have them on Sundays. The rest of Allan's parenting time, namely from 5 to 7 on Tuesdays and Thursdays, is meant for the school year. We need to fill this gap by providing some parenting time for the summer. Taking into account Allan's present job, which lets him out at 2:00 p.m., my suggestion is that he should be able to be with his children on Tuesdays and Thursdays from 3 to 8. The next week, he can care for the children on Monday, Wednesday and Friday again from 3 to 8.
If the Judge rules that he can care for his children overnight at his home then he can bring them to you after breakfast …

In this way, we fill two gaps in the Agreement in relation to the summer vacation: you have two weeks of exclusive parenting time during the summer, to be taken together or separately, and Allan has more hours of parenting time on Tuesdays and Thursdays, for so long as his job permits.

Now, in answer to your concrete proposal, there would be no objection to your taking one of your two weeks from May 18 to May 25.
For your second exclusive week, you are thinking of the week of the 4th of July. That would be the week beginning on June 30 and ending on July 5. Since Allan only recently began his job at UPS, he will not yet be entitled to vacation. You can therefore set that week aside for yourself.

To decide about Allan's exclusive two weeks during the summer, first we need the Judge's ruling on whether he can have the children without being with his parents. If he is granted that right, since he would have to work each week-day from 10 to 2, he would have to place the children in a day care center or a day camp during those hours. If he is not granted that right, he would pick up the children from your house each week day around 2:30 and bring them back at 7, and would also have them all day on Saturday and Sunday without the overnights.

Inga and I will also want to see our grandchildren some time during the summer. Could we have them for a week that interferes neither with your exclusive time nor with Allan's? We might again take them to the beach or to some other resort. That would allow us to establish a close relationship with them, which is impossible when they are with Allan, because they relate only to him, and regard us as grand parents.

With kind regards,

William

Not bad. I thought about it and spoke with Farfar. I believe that LL will not negotiate with us. She will argue in the court, but that does not mean that we should not try. So, I assume that Farfar will probably send an email to LL that is fairly close to this one. Farfar and I are very closely connected.


Some how LL tried to call me. I picked up the phone but she would not connect with me. She did not leave a message. A few minutes later she called again and this time she asked me if I had tried to call. I said that I had but in response to her call. She then explained that she might have accidentally called me. She put Hannah on the phone. Hannah said “I love you Daddy,” and I told Sofia that I would see her tomorrow.

March 21, 2008
Today is a Friday and I have negligible chance of interacting with my children today. I called in vain several times but then I was lucky. I spoke with both my children and told them that I would be seeing them tomorrow.
March 22, 2008
A cold dreary day – hardly worth taking the bikes out. That meant that I had to improvise otherwise. I picked the children up at 9AM and my goodness were they tired.
I took them to the donut shop that is next to Sunergos even though they had already eaten breakfast – so they said. And then we did art at Sunergos and that was really cool.
Hannah said “Mommy hates you (that’s me) in the car.”
I took the children to my house where Sofia ‘taught’ me how to make pancakes using powdered creamer and water instead of water. The pancakes were delicious.
Hannah watched a movie about dogs.
Then we took Hannah to John Powers acting class but it was cancelled because of Easter. LL should have told me this.
Then I took the children to the movie theater. We watched “Horton hears a who.” It was good but I think Sofia was too sophisticated for it.
At this point Sofia could not stay awake and she fell asleep in the car. It was about 3:00PM. I brought the children home and Hannah and I painted the walls a bit.
Sofia was still asleep tow hours later. I had given her a blanket to stay warm…
Finally t 5:00PM I took my children to LL’s. LL wrote a note saying that I can have the children for two hours on some other day. LL said that Sofia and Hannah had slept over at Vera’s and knew that Sofia had gone very late to bed the night before.
When I came home I saw a figure skating competition on TV and wanted to call my children to have them watch it as well. There was one competitor who fell on the ice, got back up and performed some of the most sophisticated tricks on record. The skater did them all in a row and it was an incredible rush when the Judges awarded her the first place even though she had fallen.
Of course I tried to call my children but no one picked up the phone.

March 23, 2008 (Sunday)
Ok, so usually I have the children today but LL asked for me to exchange yesterday for today because she said “I had the children on Easter Sunday last year” which is not really true – I had them only for two hours in the evening (as I remember), but who cares. Saturday for me is as good a day as Sunday so I let her have them today and sure enough they went over to Grammy’s house and when I called at 10:00AM I was barely able to speak with Hannah (and not at all with Sofia) and I let Hannah go. Hannah agreed to call me back but I can not hold it against her if she does not because she is in the Lasky environment.
I remember that one fifth of the world’s population of humans have a hard time getting water. Global water use has trippleded since 1950. Drought, high oil prices and uthe use of land to feed to bio fuel industry and millions of the world most vulnerable people face starvation.
High economic growth has made people richer so people eat a lot and so there is more demand for food and then then there is the bioenergy agriculture that has causen the prices of foods to go up. So we are tip toeing into a crisis.
The world is now a limited place with lack of land and lack of water an 6.5 billion people.
6:00PM I tried calling my children. I left a message for LL on her cell phone that said “Hey Rena this is Allan and if you could have the children call me back that would be quite fantastic of you.”

March 24, 2008
I called six numbers this Monday morning:
1. Debbie Lee, CEP lady and Elgin 637 – 1575
2. KGB, I called David Weatherspeak of the KGB and asked him to please call me.
3. I called Misty Roano asking her to call me back, that I wanted to make contact with Shannon Pfeif and that my children had said that their mother and grandmother hate me.
4. Wendy McLaughlin, 101 North 7th Street, Louisville, Kentucky 40202. Tel.(502) 561-3467 (the court transcriber) and asked her to call me back about the depositions of the KGB.
5. Rose Macarty 595 – 5636
6. LL: Would you please be so kind as to call me? I would appreciate that. I would like to speak with you about Sarah and Scottie and Hannah.
Farfar wrote to LL:

Hello, Rena,

I take note of your schedule for the summer vacation. I also take the opportunity to make some suggestions which, I hope, will create a framework for you and Allan to work out the issues which are likely to arise this summer. There are two sets of issues: 1) how to deal with the two weeks of full parenting time, and 2) how to deal with the rest of the summer vacation.

You are assuming that both you and Allan are entitled to two weeks of parenting time during the childrens' summer vacation, although the Agreed Order says only that Allan has two weeks, and says nothing about you. Still, it is fair that you should also have two full weeks of time with the children.

You also propose that those two weeks need not be taken in one stretch, but can be divided into two separate weeks, taken at different times. That also makes sense, and Allan could do the same, if he wanted to take his two weeks separately.

In answer to your concrete proposal, Allan tells me that he would have no objection to your taking one of your two weeks from May 18 to May 25. For your second week, you are thinking of the week of the 4th of July, when your office is closed. That would be the week beginning on June 30 and ending on July 5. I see no reason why you should not set that week aside for yourself.

Allan has not yet decided on which two weeks he would like to have full possession of the children. He could take any two weeks, in one stretch or separately, other than the two weeks you were first to select.

To decide how Allan would spend his two weeks of full parenting time, first we need the Judge's ruling on whether he can have possession of the children overnight without being with his parents. If he is granted the right to have the children alone, since he would have to work each week-day from 10 to 2, he would have to place the children in the Day Care Center during those hours. After work, he would pick them up and spend the rest of the day with them, and they could spend the nights at his house.

On the other hand, if the judge orders that he must be with his parents when he has possession of the children overnight, or if the judge has not ruled on this question, the arrangement would have to be different. On week-days, Allan could pick up the children at your house around 7:30 in the morning, take them to the Waffle House or elsewhere for breakfast, then take them to the Day Care Center while he is working, then spend the afternoons with them, and take them to your house before 8 p.m. for the overnight. For Saturdays and Sundays there are various possibilities. For example, Allan could take the children on Saturday morning and have parenting time, without overnights, until Friday evening two weeks later, then have them again the following Sunday. There are other possibilities that could be worked out.

2) During the rest of the summer vacation, neither one of you would have complete possession of the children. You would have the children on Saturdays and Allan would have them on Sundays, as provided in the Agreed Order. The rest of Allan's parenting time, namely from 5 to 7 on Tuesdays and Thursdays, is meant for the school year. We need to provide some parenting time for the summer.

I suggest an equal sharing, except for the overnights, which would always be at your house, regardless of what the judge may order in relation to the two weeks of full parenting. You and Allan could alternate having the children in the afternoons after work. Taking into account Allan's present job, on regular weeks he should be with his children on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and on alternate weeks he could have them on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. On days when he has the children, he would pick them up at the Day Care Center whenever he is finished working, usually between 2:30 and 3:00 p.m., and bring them home to you before 8:00 o’clock, after dinner and ready for bed. Normally, each morning, before going to work, you would take the children to the Day Care Center, but on some days it might be convenient to have Allan pick them up at your house and take them to the Day Care Center. He would normally have time for this, since he does not start working until 10:00 o’clock. If he picks the children up before 8:00 a.m., he could have breakfast with them at the Waffle House before
dropping them off at the Day Care Center. If that becomes too expensive, he could invest in a waffle
iron and make waffles at home.

With kind regards,

William

And I wrote:

Dear Lorena,
I see that Farfar likes the idea that you should have two weeks with the children over the summer vacation. I suppose that might be alright if I get three (or four) weeks. The reason for this is that you have had them for four years and my children need something to balance. I am very hopeful that you and I can talk about how we might share the children over the summer. If we can not, then we will have to take it to the Judge, but I want you and I to be on speaking terms about this issue before we resort to such extremes. I also want for you and I to be on speaking terms about the issue of Hannah and Scottie.
Sincerely,
Allan

Then I write to my x-lawyer:
Dear John,
What conditions need to be met for you to get back on board?
Sincerely,
Allan
5:00PM, 6:45PM I try calling my children but no one picks up the phone. My children and I were not able to speak today.

March 25, 2008
Where as yesterday I had called in the morning, today I decided to call people in the afternoon:
I called six numbers this Tuesday:
1. Debbie Lee, CEP lady and Elgin 637 – 1575 and childcare services center and she agreed to call Elgin and see if he might not call me.
2. KGB, I tried calling David Weatherspeak of the KGB to ask him to please call me but no one picked up the phone and no answering machine came on.
3. I called Misty Roano asking her to call me back, that I wanted to make contact with Shannon Pfeif and that I would call her again to let her know how my parenting time with my children transpired.
4. Wendy McLaughlin, 101 North 7th Street, Louisville, Kentucky 40202. Tel.(502) 561-3467 (the court transcriber) and asked her to call me back about the depositions of the KGB.
5. Rose Macarty 595 – 5636
6. LL: Would you please be so kind as to call me? I would appreciate that. I would like to speak with you about Sarah and Scottie and Hannah.
I sent LL one short email:
Dear Lorena,
When do you intend to start helping my children make telephone calls to me?
Sincerely,
Allan
And now it is 5:01 and I am waiting for my children at the Highland Coffee house. A few minutes later LL arrives and she spends some time telling me about the homework situation with the children. I asked her if she coauld call me and she said “not right now.” So then I said “well, no but how about later?” and she muttered “maybe.” I saw that Sofia had a beautiful art project that I presumed she had made in her school. I asked Sofia if I could look at it and she did not respond. She pretended that I did not exist. Then she left the car and I asked her again if I could please look at ther tile art and she said “NO.” I did not understand why she was acting in this manner, but it is something that I presumed had to do with LL being there. I looked at it through the car window. Sofia came and locked the door in an act of defiance. Hannah screamed “Daddy NO!”
Why not Hannah?
Because it is hers.
But all I want to do is look at it?
So?
I did not understand why Hannah and Sofia were being like that. Later when I was writing this down Hannah said “I hate what you are doing?”
“Would you quit?”
And then I stopped writing.
The children are doing a great job of their homeworks.
But the children were having a great time outside rolling around the lamp post. Then it took me a bit to convince them to go to my car to find a pencil.
When we found a pen, Sofia said that her teacher would accept it done in a pen. We came to the coffee house and ordered yummy food.
And the children wanted ice cream and juice as well and I said that we would get this next time.
I had asked to look at Sofia’s homework but she has refused to let me see it. She continued to refuse in the car.
When we came to my house, Sofia refused to come into my house. I took her homework and without looking at it, extracted it from the car and put it on my front porch. When Sofia came out of the car to get her homework I locked the car.
Then I worked on painting my house.
Sofia and Hannah explored the back yard and the garage and when they came back, they came disguised inclothes they had found. They knocked on the front door and pretended to be beggars.
“Oh, dear, gentlemen, I can not give you money because I am afraid you might spend it on bad food, like French fries at McDonald or even beer.”
Sofia and Hannah laughed like nuts.
Then they joined me in painting the living room.
I cooked a chicken rice dinner which we then ate at the park.
LL called me and she seemed to me to be very angry because she did not want to pick the children up at my home. She said that I did not have the right to make her come to my house. I pointed out that I have both picked the children up and delivered them to her place the last two or three times. When I said I wanted to split the responsibility 50:50 she said “That’s funny after your refusal to pay for their medical bills.” I was trying to explain to her that my debt to the children is four years of raising them but LL hung up on me. I saw LL’ car pull onto Lillian Ave about ten minutes later so I called her again and reminded her that we were at the park. (The park is a block away.) She railed on me for not having the children ready to hop in her car.
“I love you all,” I said to the children as they got in the car.

March 26, 2008
I called six numbers this Wednesday:
1. KGB, I tried calling David Weatherspeak of the KGB to ask him to please call me but Marsha picked up the phone. She denied being the one who had allegedly told Dr. Crumbo that I had called 30 times in one day. I explained to her that Dr. Weathersby was not responding to my messages and suggested that maybe his telephone answering machine was not working so I asked her to give him a note: The note contained my name, tel. number, email address and physical address and asked him to communicate with me.
2. I called Misty Roano asking her to call me back, that I wanted to make contact with Shannon Pfeif and that I would call her again to let her know how my parenting time with my children transpired. I described the difficult communication between LL and myself yesterday.
3. Wendy McLaughlin, 101 North 7th Street, Louisville, Kentucky 40202. Tel.(502) 561-3467 (the court transcriber) and asked her to call me back about the depositions of the KGB.
4. Rose Macarty 595 – 5636.
5. LL: I left the following message:

“Yesterday you said maybe you would call me, Rena. Would you please be so kind as to call me? I would appreciate that. Among millions of things that you and I would like to speak about, I would like to speak with you about Sarah and Scottie and Hannah.”


And I got responses from Wendy McLaughlin – she said that the depositions had been finished on March 18th… So I need to send Trenaman an email that runs along the following lines:
Dear Mr. Trenaman esq,.
Wendy McLaughlin has informed me that the depositions are long ready. Please let me know that the depositions are in the hands of the court.
Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick.
But none from the KGB, Misty Roano of the CPS, or Rose McCarty (food stamps.) Also nothing from Debbie Lee, CEP lady and Elgin 637 – 1575 and childcare services center and she agreed to call Elgin and see if he might not call me.

I did speak with my children today but it was not for a long time. They experience a great deal of negative psychocrap in their home and are not able to stay on the phone with me. Hannah told me that she was eating and Sofia told me that she was reading a book.
Ph, by the way, there is some interesting news: It seems that LL is buying a house. The children told me that it was in the opposite direction of my house. They can not have known this unless they were told this by LL. Not a nice way to say things.

March 27, 2008
My children tell me that they are moving into a home that LL is buying in a month.
We walked from school to LL’s. That will be harder or impossible to do when they move…
We ate dinner at Tacobell.
Sofia did her homework and shared it with me. It was about making graphs, reflection, refraction of sound and light and about scientific instruments.
Nothing of any interest regarding the hate that LL harbours came out during the time that I was with the children. But when LL dropped the children off I indicated to LL that I wanted her to wait and speak with her and she drove off. When we arrived at her house she did not come to the door, but when Sofia stayed outside with me discussing the best way to determine who in her class had started the rumor that she speaks German, LL came out to say that Sofia needed to get ready to go. I told LL that I wanted to speak with her and she said that she could not do so. I told her that I wanted to speak with her about Scottie and Sarah and she responded that the best thing I could do was to stop bringing this up. With that I left the home. She may have recorded that conversation. But also I asked her to facilitate the children speaking on the telephone with me. She said that the children can call me when ever they want. I said that they don’t. Then Sofia jumped in and said that she wanted to call me.
Indeed Sofia did call me – many times to continue thinking about who could have started the rumor that she speaks German in her school:
5. Bailey Parrish
4.Tommy
1. Hellen
11. Mother of hellen
10.Crawford,
6.Ms Scartzer
8.Mr. Elgin and his date Rebecca who speaks German
2.Devin
3.Christopher
7. Archana
Thomas barber
Rubino
Audry
Samantha Edmonton
Ila hayes
20.Joshua
Ethan
Grass
Ryan
Bayley paris
Asia
Danielle mills
Luanier
Collin Barton
Caldwell
Arthur anao onao


Nkaya
Very suspicious Kylie walker
Hannah banana bobana
Duke
Mimi
Kim Jackson
Blake smith girl!
Ari – if he speaks another language.

Haley spears
Audry Thomas
Clay



Jack horlow

Hannahs best friend = Alexia
In short: Sofia became very interested in trying to work out how a person called Connor came to ask her whether she speaks German. She called me several times after I dropped her off and together we developed a list – this happened while LL was belly dancing. Above is the list. The numbers indicate the degree of “suspicion” with number one being the most likely person who started the “rumor.” Sofia enjoyed this sleuthing exercise. I gave her several suggestions that included:
1. Do not ask the person “did you tell anyone that I speak German?” Instead ask “who did you tell that I speak Japanese?” That way the guilty person is more likely to say “I never said that you speak Japanese, I said that you speak German!”
2. Ask adults first and get them off the suspicious list because they are less likely to tell others that you are trying to find out who started the rumor. Also, if you ask and adult they would probably admit that they started the rumor.
3. Do not ask the most suspicious person first, ask other less suspicious people who might then corroborate evidence against the most suspicious person so that when you ask Hellen (the most suspicious person) she is most likely to cave in under the weight of the accrued evidence.
But It want to add one more tidbit of information and that is that the children were on their way home in the car at 9:00PM when Sofia last called me. This means that the excuse of 8:00PM being a bed time is at least on Thursdays forsaken by LL. Let me add that LL has been going to the Belly Dancing in Indiana for what strikes me as a very long time – a year? More?

March 28, 2008
I went to the L&M building – where Child Protective Services is housed and got the number of Shannon Fife. I was forced to do this because Misty Roano has refused to call me for a week. Misty Roano is the person who is in charge of the current CPS investigation. I had been asking Misty to call me telling me of Shannon’s number for a long time. Then I called Shannon and left a message asking for an appointment.
7:00PM I called LL and left the following message
Hello there Lorena, well, I am calling to speak with our dear children Sofia and Hannah Lasky-Headrick. I sent you an email where I asked you when you are going to start facilitating the childrne’s contact with their father – that’s me. I remember the words you used to describe your mother’s method with your father. So, I hope you might think about the extreme madness of yourchana tor disposition and the incalculable harm that you have already caused the children and reverse your methods and facilitate our interacting. I, for my part just with you a nice Friday.
Archana told me that Hannah went on a field trip today so I can ask her how that went when I see her the day after tomorrow.

March 29 (Saturday) 2008
11:00AM. I call LL and leave the following message.
Hello there Lorena, the sun is shining through a cloudless sky and I expect you and Sofia and Hannah are all having a wonderful day. I hope that it remains in the highest echelons of wonder throughout the whole day. I have the note on my fridge from you that states that I have two hours of make up and am still waiting for your email suggesting a time. I am also calling to speak with Hannah and Sofia, so would you please be so kind as to pass the phone to them? And ask them to call me? Thank you.

Dear Lorena,
Today I got one call from one of my children who pretended to be 'Uncle John,' but I was not able to speak with our other child. I think that you probably got the one child to call me since I got the call right after I had called you. Can you please see to it that I am able to communicate with both my children?
Thank you very much,
Allan
I called again to see if I might be able to speak with my children but no one picked up the phone. I left a pleasant message.

March 30, 2008
OK, I am about to go pick up my children. The weather forecast indicated rain for the afternoon…. But it did not rain until after the children left!
I drove to the Thornton’s gas station near LL’s place, bought a cup of coffee and walked while jump starting my psyche with the drink to LL’s. I called when I was approaching and it was 9:00AM. LL answered the phone. She told me that the children were getting ready and would be coming out the back door with their roller blades. LL agreed that I would bring the children back to her place at 7:00PM in exchange for LL picking them up from my home on Tuesday.
(At 6:45PM LL called and told me that she wanted to pick the children up from my home after all. I said “Ok.” This means that I will drop the children off at her home on Tuesday.
So, when I appeared at the back door I found the children with heavy bags with all kinds of clothes and roller blades and who knows what else. There was a red wagon in the back yard and LL allowed us to take it with the understanding that we would bring it back today and we promised that we would.
But, on the way to the wagon, there was a plank of wood on the steps with a rock at the end of it. Hannah had been playing with it but Sofia did not understand what it was about. Hannah showed how she could step on one end of the wood and it would lift the rock with the ledge acting as the fulchrum. I showed the children (I think only Sofia understood) that the weight of the person times the distance to the fulchrum was equal to the weight of the rock times its distance from the fulchrum.
Hannah told me that she really liked the ‘John Powers book that she had gotten yesterday. I told her that I wanted to look at it but then she told me that “Mommy’s boy friend is sleeping in Mommy’s bed and the book is in Mommy’s bed room so I can not look at it.”
(I called LL later to ask her what the name of her boy friend is and she told me to ask Hannah. I of course, did not do this.)
We played in the park behing LL’s house for about an hour. This was fun. Farmor called in the middle of all this and that was good too.
We went to Quacker Meeting and that was not interesting for Sofia but it was good anyhow. There was the children section where Sofia and Hannah drew some art. I heard that there is a good Unitarian Church near the down town Library and am thinking to check it out next week end?
Then we went to McDonalds and here Sofia and I read a great deal from a Spanish book called “Tintin, El Fetiche de la Oreja Rota.”
TODAY WAS THE FIRST DAY TEACHING SPANISH TO MY CHILDREN.
LL called to confirm that Sofia was being taken to girl scouts. (LL does not trust me because she knows that she herself is not trustworthy.)
I dropped Sofia off at Girll Scouts and went with Hannah to Wallgreens where she showed me things she wanted for her birthday. Then we dropped the wagon off – and the roller blades too, at LL’s.
We returned to Girl Scouts but I parked the car a certain distance from the event and Hannah and I walked and played catch on route.
The children were hungry so we went home and Sofia cooked a wonderful rice dinner. (Last time she had cooked wonderful pancakes.)
Of course, I was always in control but I basically allowed Sofia to read the instructions on the packet and determine how to cook the food.
And then LL called but Sofia picked up the phone but when LL spoke with me she told me that she wanted to pick the chroildren up from my home.
The children played like there was no tomorrow until LL came. She came at 7:45PM – three quarters of an hour later, which means that she was probably not at home at 7:00PM and that is why she said that she would pick up the children (and be late.)

That’s OK.
When LL arrived she refused to come in the house to taste Sofia Macaroni and Cheese and play in Hannah’s gym that she had made with tape. (She had strung tape from my desk to the walls!)
Oh well.
A minute later I called LL to ask if I could speak with Sofia. I told LL that I wanted to learn the recipe for the food she had cooked and amazingly(?) (Can write like that?) I was able to speak with Sofia. She described to me how to make the Macaroni and Cheese. Then we started talking about the rumor that has spread through her school about my children speaking German. But then LL told her that she had to stop speaking with me and Sofia told me that she would call me as soon as she could. She did not call me this evening.
Playing catch with Hannah was a great high point. Reading Tin Tin in Spanish was a great high point with Sofia.
5:15PM I tried to call my children but no one picked up the phone.
6:30PM I tried the same again with same result.







(502) 593 – 4128 Lorena L’s cell phone number:

(502) 584 – 0044 KGB, David Weathersby and the forlorn therapists of my children.