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But before I go on to the next month let me tie some loose ends:
An addressed set of envelopes with stamps for the teachers of Sofia and Hannah. The court order needs to be given to the school.
Sofia and Hannah should be told that they are not just my children, they are also LL’s children.
Keep the homework of learning German going.
Get the children to do their homework during CEP.
Continue to act in the same manner about the Laskys with the children. I love the Laskys and this is not dependent on how they are towards me. This means that I must love them. Learn to forgive them for their foolish ways have opened new and wild possibilities in my life… for example, I have bought a house and have $1000 coming in above and beyond the cost of that house per month!

February 1, 2008: I got the following email from the Girl Scouts leader.


Here is some information for a Father - Daughter Dance, if you are interested you can just pay at the door.

Thanks,
Kelly


Kelly had obtained this information from Elizabeth.

Kelly,

Katherine and her dad have gone to this dance before and really enjoyed themselves. I know it's short notice, but maybe some of the girl scouts would be interested. Katherine and her dad will be going.

-Elizabeth B

Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana Calendar
12th Annual Me & My Guy Valentines Dance
Father/Daughter event
by Terri Sanders
Cost includes patch for girl, professional photo of couple, crafts, games, snacks, drinks, and all the dancing you can handle. Come with your troop and fathers or as couples. No registration required; just pay at the door.
Event Details
Service Center: Metro Service Center

Event Type: Calendar Event
Age Group: Adults/Volunteers
Daisies
Brownies
Juniors
Ages 11-13
Ages 13-15
Ages 15-17
Cadettes
Seniors

Date(s): 2/12/2008 - 2/12/2008
Event Time: 6:30 PM - 8:30 PM
Cost: $12.00 per couple/family
Location: Camden Station Elementary School, 6401 W Hwy 146 at bypass Hwy 329 - Crestwood
Contact Info: For more information, call Terri at 222-0646 or 435-4853.

2nd exit
Hway 329
Rt
Do not take 3329 little
Left at light and then left into shool.
329 and 146



I also got an email from LL:

That is good. They will like it.

Now, I have a rather late request. I have to work one Saturday a year at a job fair. That is coming up on February 9th. Since I have to be gone several hours, I wonder if you can switch days. You would take them Feb 9th and I would on Sunday the 10th. Lorena

And I write:
Dear Lorena,
When you say, “that is good, they will like it,” I understand you are talking about Sunday. Please confirm your thoughts on this week end. The email from Kelly Wallace was about an event that is taking place on Saturday – tomorrow – your day with the children. If you are saying that I am invited to that event, then I will make it. But just to be sure we are on the same page, I have not agreed to exchanging Tomorrow (Saturday) for the day after tomorrow (Sunday) yet. But I am very serious about trying to find some way for you and me to raise the children in synch.

I am trying to invite Sofia and Hannah to learn a musical instrument. They have both had two experiences with the violin teacher. . I think that Sofia might be interested in taking violin classes. Hannah however might be more interested in learning the guitar – the electric guitar.
I will send you an email soon about your new request to exchange the 9th and the 10th of February.
Thank you,
Allan.

I write to LL:

Dear Lorena,
Below is a Father - Daughter dance that Sofia, Hannah and I AND YOU are invited to come to. Can you please make arrangements so that we can attend the event more fully?
Thank you,
Allan

LL writes back:

What does that last sentence mean? Lorena
And I write to LL again, in more explicit sentences:
Dear Lorena,
The amount of overlap between the interval when I have the children and the event is only half an hour. The last sentence means that at present we can attend only for half an hour and I am asking you if there is a way that we can make the overlap time greater. The last sentence reads "Can you please make arrangements so that we can attend the event more fully?" and what this would entail is that you either agree to expand the time that I am with the children or you shift the time a little bit. Does my last sentence make sense to you now? Can you pick the children up at the event? Would you please attend the event with us?
Sincerely,
Allan
Cookie Kick-off is this Saturday 10:30-12:30 pm at Skate World on Preston Hwy., we will meet at Skate World. (Try to be about 10 mins early so I can get everyone there ticket) That is LL’s day with the children.
I write to Paraguay:
Querido Francy,
Perdoname por no haberte escrito en tanto tiempo. Te quiero escribir para ponerte al tiempo con las vidas de mis hijas y la mía.
Estoy en proceso de comprar una casa aqui en la ciudad donde vive Lorena. Me ha sido muy dificil llegar hasta este punto pero me parece que no tengo la opcion de llevar a Sofia y Hannah a mi casa en Texas.
He vendido mi casa en Texas y con el dinero estoy comprando la casa en Louisville. Mis hijas ahora tiened 7 y 9 años de edad. Sofia y Hannah ahora saben como esquiar, patinar sobre hielo, andar en caballo, y tantas cosas mas.
Sigo soñando de visitarte en Paraguay. He estado communicando me mucho com Fatima. Ella sigue trabajando para la misma familia en Barcelona, España, y parece estar bastante contenta. Lo único que le falta es enamorarse. Es dificil para ella encontrar un hombre porque hay tanto odio hacia los extranjeros en Europa– especialmente aquellos que vienen de países pobres. La vida es muy bonita pero no es justa.
Hace también mucho tiempo que no me comunico con Mabel.
Entonces, quisiera saber ¿como estan ustedes? ¿Aldo?¿ Cinthia? ¿Como andan los estudios?

And then I send an email to Mabel,
Querida Mabel,
Perdoname por no haberte escrito en tanto tiempo. Te quiero escribir para ponerte al tiempo con las vidas de mis hijas y la mía.
Estoy en proceso de comprar una casa aqui en la ciudad donde vive Lorena. Me ha sido muy dificil llegar hasta este punto pero me parece que no tengo la opcion de llevar a Sofia y Hannah a mi casa en Texas.
I think of you and now that so much time has transpired since I last communicated with you, I feel guilt. I had the thought, that when I close on the house (finish buying it) I will paint images on the walls – images that are made using the many Photos I took when I was with you.
I love you as I always have, no change, nothing different or new in that sense. I am merely fully occupied with trying to raise my daughters,
Tons of petal scented rainbow arching love,
Allan


And finally I sent LL a response to her email from this morning about exchanging the interval I am with my children:

Dear Lorena,
I am sorry that it took me until late this evening to write back to your email early today... and I still do not have a definite answer for you about exchanging Saturday the 9th for Sunday the 10th. My dilemma is that I have been interviewed for a second job that will certainly require me to work on Saturdays. I had thought that I might hear from the company today, but they did not call me so I am still in hanging in limbo.

I was told that I would be called whether I got the job or not so I believe now that they are waiting until next week to call me. I will let you know as soon as I find out if I got the job. But, of course, if I do not get the job then I will certainly be glad to help you out by exchanging Saturday for Sunday. And please note Lorena, that normally I do work on Saturday - for the Penguin Co. but that is a sacrifice I would make for you.

I don't know what to recommend, but maybe it would be better if you did not yet count on us being able to exchange Saturday and Sunday. I am very sorry.

Would you be OK with having Sofia and Hannah's time with me overlap more of the Girl Scouts Father - Daughter dance on February 12, 2008?

Thank you very much and I hope you are happy,
Allan

Subir and a new friend, from the state of Kerala, in India --- we had picked this fellow up at the Indian Supermarket on Bardstown road… and were driving to take our new friend to his home…. and the path led us very close to LL’s house. It was about 10:00PM and we drove past LL’s place and saw that the lights were on and that LL’s car was parked on the street in front. I called LL but she did not pick up the phone. I did not call her cell phone. But this new friend is remarkable. His name is Sunil and he has been places in the world of recent historical interest. He worked for the Red Cross in Iraq after the first invasion, He lived for three years in Saudi Arabia and experienced the American’s using Saudi Arabia as a base for the invasion of Kuwait. He talked about SCUD missiles. He was in New York City when the twin towers fell. He was five blocks away when the first building came down.

February 2, 2008
9:50AM I call and the phone is probably picked up and hung up. 9:53AM I call again and Hannah says “Hello!!!!!!!!!!!” in an irritated voice.
“Oh heypodey good morning how are you?” I ask and then the phone goes click.
10:15AM I call again. No one picks up the phone. I call LL’s cell phone and leave the following message: “Heypodey Rena, good morning! I had tried calling this morning a couple of times but was not really able to get though. Do you think that you could call me so that it is more likely that Sofia and I as well as Hannah and I are able to communicate? I am sure the children and I know that I would certainly appreciate that. OK, well I hope that you are having a beautiful Saturday.
OK, so I have to set myself up in this crazy (in a bad way) city. The job at the Penguin Ice Cream Company is a wonderful job for me because it is so versatile and renders me with a good chunk of money and a place to live for free… But I need a second job that is going to make me economically powerful enough to furnish my house (I am in the process of buying a house) and put the kind of technological artifacts that I need for my children. Finding a job is not easy. I want a job that involves social work and as you can imagine, with the KGB blackmailing me, this is very tough. I keep going. I have the thought that maybe I could apply to all the YMCA’s in Louisville? There is the YMCA on Bardstown road that is between the Buechel loop, so I stay on the left side as I go south and then I make a right.


Dear Lorena,
I have been going to many job fairs and when you wrote to me that you were going to be involved in a job fair I was a little surprised because I was not aware of a job fair on Saturday the 9th of this month. Today I looked on line and was not able to find any job fairs in Louisville on that day. So, I suppose it is possible that I did not look enough and I will look some more, but if you could give me some guidelines, I might appreciate that.
Sincerely,
Allan

6:00PM I call the ‘linea baja’ but no one picks up the phone.
6:00PM I call LL’s cell phone and leave the following message: “Heypodey Rena, I hope you are doing well and that there is a great deal of happiness in your life and that the children are also well. I am, as I am apt, calling to speak with Sofia and Hannah and I am asking you, as I am apt, to facilitate them calling me. I understand that tomorrow there is a Girl Scouts event and I would like to go to that so maybe you should email me if you want to tell me not to go.
OK thanks, bye bye.

Around 1:00PM I sent LL the following email:
Dear Lorena,
This morning at around 10:00AM I tried to call my children. I also would have been glad to speak with you because there are millions of unresolved issues but it was not possible to speak with anyone. Would you please be so kind as to provide me with an explanation as to why it is so dificult to communicate with any one in your family? If I have ever hurt or been unkind to anyone in your family, I would like to know of the event. I have done an insurmountable ammount of soul searching and am truly at an absolute loss as to what I may have done to case you to act in this manner. I would very much appreciate a telelphone call from you and what is important for the children - a telephone call from each of them.
Sincerely,
Allan
1:20 I try to call my children again. No luck on the ‘linea baja,’ no luck on LL’s cell phone and I did not leave a message.
7:00PM I have a long and very nice conversation with Sofia that started with her telling me that she was bored and then we found many great topics to converse about that included doing a good chunk of math and a good dose of creative thinking about potions and what they can do.
9:00PM LL calls me and tells me that she had left a message informing me that I was going to have to pick the children up near Nancy’s house. I told her that I was glad to pick up the children at Nancy’s house but that to have me pick them up near there (at the convenience store) was not a game I wanted to continue to play: I would pick the children up at Nancy’s. However, Hannah wanted to spend the night at the house of a friend and I said that I would be glad to pick Hannah up at her friends house.
The problem was that LL was so upset about my picking the children up at Nancy’s house – she wants to protect her mother’s lies – remember that Nancy is the architect for the destruction of my relationship with my children, so LL said that she was not going to let Hannah spend the night at her friends house and I would pick up both children at the convenience store. I said “NO.” I added that I was acting with a kindness that she should be appreciative of, but LL hung up the phone on me.
So then I called Nancy and told her that I would (according to LL) be picking up the children at her house and proposed that we might drink tea together. Nancy said “I will have the children ready.” Then she hung up on me.
And then I checked my phone messages to see what kind of a message LL had left me.
LL had left me the following message at 6:38PM Hey Allan I totally forgot to tell you that the kids will be sleeping over at Moms house and I will not be able to and so she will bring them to I think it is a thorntons right at the corner , she will bring them down to the Thorntons at the corner of Highway 22, and Barbour Manor lane and Sofia will have her girl scout stuff and I have not checked my email yet so I do not know if you can switch the days next week end so let me know about that. Thank you bye.
And then at about 11:00PM I called LL to remind her that she should also make sure Sofia had her swimming gear.

February 3, 2008

It is close to 8:00AM and I am getting ready to pick my children up at their grandmother’s house. I am taking Ginger and her nephew Mathew who is nine years old. I would like to take them to the YMCA. Nancy managed to lead the children out the door without saying a word to me. Both Sofia and Hannah were distant and managed to not laugh at all or think anything could be positively looked upon until they were in the car and then the laughter and the happiness started for real. After all, they were in the car with Ginger and her nine year old nephew and there was plenty to explore socially. At first Hannah said things like “Daddy likes Ginger,” and the children tried for a long time to tease Ginger and me about this but it eventually subsided because we told the children in no uncertain terms that Ginger is married to Tony. But that took a long time, and it did not stop without Hannah having blurted out some statement about people showering together.
And then we arrived at the YMCA on Bardstown road only to find that it was closed. We continued to Tony and Ginger’s house where the children mostly watched TV (The nature channel) and then we went back to the YMCA and this proved to be very unsuccessful because they would not let me swim in my basket ball shorts, Ginger swim in her shorts or her nephew, Mathew, swim in his shorts…. So we went to the YMCA down town.
This was a great success. I took a lot of pictures.
And we ate lunch there.
And then we took our guests to their home and went to Girl Scouts.
I asked Sofia to either eat something or drink something before she went to Girl Scouts and she became obstinate about not complying. I told her why she needed to get just a little bit on energy in herself but she refused. She decided to call LL. LL said hat I should allow Sofia to go to Girl Scouts without eating or drinking anything.
I took Sofia to a convenience store and gave her an option to choose anything she wanted – just so long as she put something, anything inside her belly. She was psychologically stuck in her determination to not eat anything (and she had her mother’s support.) So, with half the time at Girl Scouts now lost, we returned to Girl Scouts and everything was OK.
I recorded the last part of this as I was parking and the children were going into Girl Scouts and LL was talking with me on the speaker phone and the children were actually now refusing to speak with their mother and at the end of it I managed to get Hannah to speak with LL but I do not think Sofia did….
Anyway, you can listen to it – it’s there.
And then we went to Café 360 and now Sofia was so hungry she could hardly wait to eat.
We drove to the Chevron near LL’s house.
On the way Hannah accused me of keeping her from spending the night at her friend’s house. I said “I told Mommy I would be glad to pick you up at your friends house,”
“You don’t know where my friend lives!”
“On Broadway and 35th,” I said and then I added “and I said I would pick up Sofia at Grammy’s house. But that upset Mommy because she wanted me to pick you up at a gas station near Grammy’s so she arranged things as they happened – except I picked you up at Grammy’s.”
The children want to believe their mother. That is OK and I respected it.
Then we walked back to the home of the violin teacher and listened to him for a minute or so. This was a fortuitous moment because he was accompanied by a mandolin and a guitar.
And then we walked to LL’s.
And all this was fun as can be. At LL’s it came out that the children were going to Emily’s. To spend the night?
I called LL and she agreed that she and I can speak with one another about the children tomorrow at 8:45PM. This is a momentous occasion. LL has basically almost never agreed to anything like this.
Feel free to guess why she might have been so amenable?
Feel free to guess whether it will happen?

(Monday) February 4, 2008
I got two wonderful emails, the first from Yanhong:
Hi, Allan,
Thanks for the info.
It's always nice to talk to you. You are a good listener and talker. Since my English is getting better, I could understand more than before. I really want to have your best part brain, then I do not have to study so hard and can pass the National Board Test easily, right? He, he, he... This is my dream!
Anyway, if you come to Austin next time, we can meet together and talk more.
Take care!

So, that was her response to my email and I write to her:

Dear Yanhong,
It was a really nice surprise to get a call from you today. (Feb 1, 2008) There are lucid and funny moments in our conversations like for example when you suggested it would be good for you to have the good part of my brain or when I promised you that I would call you when I get a "C" and we could have a party to celebrate my accomplishment.
I am however concerned about your situation with your lawyer. My lawyer, called Brian Walters, did a great deal of research and was very good but he was extremely expensive. I think he charged $250 per hour.
I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.
Allan

And the second email I got is from my lover in Paraguay:
Mi querido Allan:
Tambièn siento mucho que nuestra correspondencia sea tan esporádica pero igual es mucha alegría recibir tus cartas
Yo tuve vacaciones muy agitadas. Acompane al padre Roberto, mi amigo, a visitar a su familia a california. El ya no puede viajar solo. No se si sabes que tiene Alzheimer. Fue muy triste pues su familia decidió que él debe ser internado en una clínica especial para gente con éste problema y eso será en Julio de éste anho. Cuando regresé fuimos con juancho a visitar a mi hermano a Rio y luego me fui a Francia y Espanha. Era un viaje que habíamos planeado hace muchotiempo con el padre, pues el deseaba conocer el santuario de Santiago de Compostela. Lástimosamente él no pudo ir por su enfermedad y como ya todo estaba pago terminé viajando yo sola. Fue muy triste pero dentro de mi pena supe gozar las cosas hermosas que medió la vida. Visité Paris, el centro de Francia con los castillos y luego fui a Carcassonne. Finalmente me maravillé con Barcelona. Llegué sola a Santiago de Compostela para encontrar la espada de la felicidad y descubrí que hace mucho la tenía y que ella me ha acompanhado hace muchos anhos, y que ella es el gran amor de todos los que me rodean y de todos los que amo. Me sentí feliz y bendecida por ser capaz de darme cuenta, de reconocerlo y sobretodo de disfrutarlo. Luegué ayer de Europa y hoy para gran suerte mía abro el correo y encuentro tu hermosa carta.
Yo también te quiero muchísimo. Me alegra pensar la manera tan linda que luchas por tus hijas, pero sobretodo tu lucha porque ellas conozcan el amor de padre. Nunca las has abandonado a pesar de todos los problemas y un poco es como mi caso y el de Miki. ninguno de los dos hemos abandonado a Juancho y a pesar de nuestras diferencias sentimos que él debe ser compartido por los dos. Bueno en nuestro caso Juancho implica tanta atención como tus dos neneas que aún son pequemhas.
No te sientas culpable por no escribirme, lo más importante es tu carinho por mí y esos hermosos sentimientos hacia mí. Yo los tengo igual por tí y me alegraría mucho poder verte algún día nuevamente. Deseo que encuentres en todo lo que haces la felicidad y que sigas amando a tus hijas como siempre lo has hecho. Te quiero de verdad muuucho y extranho las cosas locas que hacíamos juntos. Besos por montones. Recibe el aroma de las guayabas del patio de mi casa. Se caen por montones al piso. mabel
mabel avila
ars longa vita brevis


I called the KGB and left the following message: “Hello, good morning this is Allan Lasky-Headrick. I am calling for two reasons, I think, this time... I want you to know that the enmity and sociologically unacceptable behavior that you have supported in the Lasky family, which involves rejecting, repudiating, maligning and vitiating me as the father of Sofia and Hannah continues. I want you to know that I swear this is the only present you have given Sofia and Hannah.
Yesterday, picking the children up at the place of Nancy Lasky was pure hell for my children. As soon as they got in the car and the car started moving they became happy.
And so it occurred to me, as I look through the reports you have given me, that I see no single copy of any home visit. However, I also know that home visits are in the instances that my children have lived, categorical according to your own doctrines. For example, a home visit was prescribed by your own institution when I was in Louisville during the summer time and Hannah was going to the Western Day Care Center that Kimberley Dial, after having group sex abuse therapy with Hannah, appointed for Hannah – by the way, the group sex abuse was both wrong of Kim Dial and very detrimental to Hannah. I am sorry if you do not enjoy the truth, but to tell me, that my telling you the truth is an excuse for cutting me short or obliterating discourse with me, is unethical. But I am sorry that the truth is not nice to you and I beg of you that you embrace the idea of wanting to recognize what you have done to Sofia and Hannah. I want, and of course need, copies of ALL home visits. That is where the truth of this case is found. I want an explanation as to why I was not provided with any of these. I was not given a single one.
Also, David Weatherspeak, you told me that you would do a follow up call with Lorena Lasky. I want a written statement from you detailing how many times you called. How long it took for you to get a response. And what is the response.
David, because of Louisville (that is a metaphor!) my children need non-maligned therapy. Non-maligned therapy is therapy that is in line with reality. Lorena and I need to meet in the presence of mediators. None of this is happening and my children are, as they have been since you all became involved in the family, swimming in a sea of ‘how about you fill the word since it is your work.’ I have already labeled it. It is extremely painful for Sofia and Hannah. The counselor at the Bloom elementary school describes Sofia as a child on the verge of exploding.
And then the message machine refused to accept more message so I called again and this time I asked the receptionist why she was always connecting me with David Weatherspeak and not with Kim Dial or Ginger Crumbo and she said that it was because she was ordered to do so. She reconnected me with David Weatherspeak’s voice mail and I left the following continuation of my message:

So, get people in on this case. Move in on the entire family and that includes me. Do something to cap the intolerable hate that my children have to survive in the ambience that they inhabit. Send me reports of home visits and explain why none of these were included, let me know of follow up calls to Rena about continuing therapy.
(I had labeled it maligned.)

Then I called 911: They told me the abuse hotline is 581 6184. 1-800- 752- 6200
I was with my children yesterday and they told me that their mother had accused me of forcing Hannah to spend the night at Grammy’s. LL had told them that Hannah was having to spend the night at their grandmother’s house because of me – which is certainly not true. My Hannah stabs herself with a pencil, maims kids, threatens adults. My older daughter Sofia tells me that she sometimes does not want to live any more when she is in her mother’s family. They have told me that their mother and grandmother have made them lie to therapists and have repeatedly stated that the things they told their therapists are lies. Now that the judge has ordered that I can spend a day and a week with my children, my children are suffering the madness of the hatred of the family they live with. My children need therapy like a fish needs water and, of course the mother who has custody is refusing that service. I am calling you to ask you to help save my children from the psychological ambience that my children inhabit and to provide some modicum of sanity therein.

But what is most interesting is that I was told that I can just go to the family court and file motions. I guess I will do that.
I recorded this conversation.

And I got a nice email from LL: Good! This calls for me to respond in a positive way and I want to do this. I can see that she is wanting to exchange Saturday for Sunday. The fact that I do not believe that she is providing me with a real reason for exchanging those dates need not deter me from exchanging those two dates. Let me be clear about this: I do not have any real reason for believing that there will be a job fair that she is to work at on Saturday – this is because I have searched the internet on two separate occasions for any hint of such an event taking place and have fund NOTHING. So what? She can ask to have Saturday and Sunday exchanged without providing any reason, right? And that I have had the children on Sundays for many months is sufficient reason for me to say “OK,” without taking any of her reasons into consideration – especially if I have reason to believe they are lies. Right? And in her email, LL has suggested that I can be with the children for an extra half hour on Thursday.
Why did LL send me this email? Has she realized that there are forces at stake that she needs to begin to reckon with? I will try to find out this evening when I call her. Do you think we will actually speak?
And here is LL’s email:
Allan:

i got your explanation about Saturday. Do you have any news yet as to whether or not you got the job and will be working on the 9th?

You said this is a second job. I did not know you had another one. The kids said you had 3 jobs--or so they thought. They mentioned a teaching job--are you teaching somewhere?

Regarding the father/daughter dance. I think it is a good idea to take them. It is on Tuesday the 12th. they would have to come home and get dressed up for the dance after school, so we can just adjust the time you normally get them. What time in the dance again? is it 6:30-8:00? Lorena Lasky

And then a second email:
Allan:

I think you should pick them up at my house at 6pm so they have time to get dressed up at home and eat something. Then, you can arrive on time, stay an hour at the dance & get home at 8pm. Lorena Lasky.

So I write back:
Dear Lorena,
Yesterday you said that we would be able to talk tonight at 8:45PM, so I will call you then and we can talk about this. Thank you very much for this email and it is alright with me so please tell the children about the event because I am saying 'yes' to this.
Sincerely,
Allan


7:00PM I called the ‘linea baja,’ but no one answered the phone so I called LL’s cell phone and asked her to ‘facilitate the children calling me.”
7:30PM I got Sofia on the phone but her mother told her that she had to hang up and do her homework so we were barely able to exchange any utterances. I reminded LL that I would be call at 8:45PM and she said “whatever.”
8:45PM No answer.
8:51PM NO answer.
9:00PM No answer.
10:00PM No answer.
10:30PM No answer.
And I mean no answer to either the ‘linea baja’ or her cell phone and she never called me either even though I left messages two times.

Dear Lorena,
Yesterday you promised me that we would be able to speak on the telephone between 8:30 and 9:00 and I called you many times in an attempt to reach you but it was in vain. I will try again tomorrow. I will call you at 8:45PM.
Thank you,
Allan

And my friend in Australia, Lionsharecology:

Hello Allan,

Hope you are well and just checking in to see you are going OK with your kids and in your family issues. Lets me know.

Cheers

Lionsharecology

To which I respond:
Dear Lionsharecology,
Yes, all is good here in the United States for us. Progress is a slow and tedious process with the legal system and with my x-wife -- inertia is everything -- but I am doing well and my children and I have a good place in the world... what I mean is that we are happy. I am buying a house near the Churchil Downs Horse race track and will probably be a home owner in a week or so. I used the money from the sale of the house in Texas to buy this house. The great thing for me is that the house in Louisville cost me only a fraction of what my house in Austin sold for.

I have now shown my children how to ski. That was fun! I wish there was more snow in Louisville. It is possible you have never gone skiing -- I enjoy skiing like a Gray hound enjoys running.

My parents will be coming to Louisville in a couple of months to celebrate Spring break with my children. It is also possible that my brother will come. These are nice things to look forward to.

And in the mean time I am teaching my children German.
Wie geht’s?
Your brother,
Allan

My conversation with LL this evening did not happen. I think she just blew me off and I think she did so “mit Absicht.” She did this deliberately and we will see if there is at least an excuse.

February 5, 2008
I call the KGB again. Here is what I said to David Weatherspeak:

Hello David, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick. I recognize that you are in a difficult predicament because I am on a moral quest. So we may have a common denominator since you portray yourself as Christian. You should imagine that the force that drives me to correct the wrong, in the correct manner, is even more vehement than any person’s religious convictions can be because my children are real. They exist on this planet and I can see them. I can observe their behavior and I am sorry but you can not observe God’s behavior because God is everywhere and you can not see what is on the other side of the moon. And so, I am telling you that my convictions are concrete, cemented in reality and as real as it is that you have studied divinity. One of those convictions is that a person is unethical if they practice the art of trivializing a parent/ trivializing children, marginalizing a parent/ sequestering children, ostracizing a parent/ facilitating coached derogatory statements in children to make, psychologically terrorizing a parent/ psychosocially laying waste the lives of children…. And all without doing a stroke of investigative work. Please pay attention to what you do by doing nothing, by not responding to my pleas for communication, open dialogue, reasonable discourse, honest exchange and call me because my children need therapy. You have literally left them to rot. The therapy my children have always needed and still need today is therapy that involves their father, me. That is a therapy that is aligned with reality. Please do something about this and please call me.

And then I got the following email from LL:
Okay--I will tell them abotu the dance.

Sorry--I fell asleep with the kids. We all went ot bed at 8 yesterday. It was a long day for all of us. Lorena

OK, so at least she has responded – but she did not confirm that we would speak today. And she responded only to the email that she wanted to respond to: she did not respond to the emails that involve interacting with me. It is, of course, a game.
So I send her the following email:

Dear Lorena,
Thanks for your email. It is good to get a response that provides an explanation about what happened yesterday. I am assuming that you are deeply interested in speaking with me about the children but that the children needed to spend time with you and indeed to fall asleep with you. That is good. So, let’s talk this evening. Please confirm this in an email.
Thank you,
Allan

And then another:
Dear Lorena,
Please answer my emails. Not just one here and one there.
Thank you,
Allan


LL needs to learn how to interact with me in a civil manner. It is very detrimental to the children when she is as she is. I am very unhappy about having no other recourse than the court to get LL to make any civil attempts. I think I have waited enough. I know I have been abused in excess. I went to the court house and filed a five part motion.
The motion involves the following issues:
1. LL and I need to communicate – at least in the presence of a professional like LeeAnn Gardner.
2. My children need access to KUMON after school care instead of CEP (which is a waste of time since they do not even do their homework.)
3. The right to have my children stay over in my house over spring break.
4. The children receive therapeutic services.
5. My children and I need to be able to communicate by telephone.
I did not include a motion of contempt of court for depriving Hannah from her time with me when she had Strep. Next time, I will, because there is no reason why I should not be able to care for Hannah

5:02PM I do not see LL’s car or my children. I call LL. She says “Hey, listen I can never make it at 5:00PM because of my job so adjust accordingly. Ok, bye!” Yes, that is the LL I have come to know for a decade now.
I wrote a letter to LL on the motion that I had filed in court today. It went as follows:

Dear Lorena,
Finally, after all this time I gave you one last opportunity to call me last night (as you had promised) nd you didn’t. Much more important is that your email made no alternative suggestions.
So I went to the court house and filed this motion.
I am very sorry to have gone to the court house and I WANT more than anything you can imagine to resolve llour issues on our own.
S please call me and lets see if we can’t find a solution.
Most respectfully and with unmitigated sincerity,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
(502) 714 – 8577
My cell phone is free after 7:00PM.

And I gave LL the court documents. I said “This is a letter for you and it is very pretty, but we can make it even prettier if you call me tonight. Do you think we could speak tonight at quarter till nine?”
And she said “Probably….”
And then Hannah, who understands that LL hates me (?) got between us and told LL to drive away.
Now Hannah did not have a homework so I made it clear to Hannah that I was going to give her a homework. The children said that they wanted to eat something Chinese or spicy. So, we clambered into the car and drove to the Greek restaurant only to find it closed. The children were very happy and indeed giddy with enthusiasm for the wonder of being in my midst. Hannah wanted to play catch with ‘starfish’ – a stuffed animal and Sofia wanted to discuss with me the properties of light, (reflection, refraction and straight line propagation.)
Since the Greek restaurant was closed we walked to Café 360. It was warm and we ate outside. I generated a German Language homework for Hannah while I worked with Sofia on her science project.
The children were very excited and it was a hard stretch for me without completing their homework, there would be no bike riding.
So they finished their homework.
We drove to LL’s. The children sang songs in the back seat and practiced their German.
And we got the bikes. Sofia is fairly picky about things and since her bike did not have much air in the tires, she opted to push it to the gas station. This frustrated Hannah quite a bit but there was no explosion. Hannah found a way to weave circles and keep herself entertained on her bike.
And then, once we had air in the tires, life became exhilarating. We rode along the alley ways parallel to Bardstown Road to Karma Café (where we discovered they had no spring rolls) and then back to the Lemon Grass where we ate spring rolls and drank hot tea. And then, the bike ride to LL’s was more fun.
I reckon today was a very successful day for my children.
But Lorena has become a blunt element, icy cold with indifference and rank with venom in her infrequent act of kindness – if you can call an email an act of kindness?
8:45PM I tried to call LL but was not able to communicate with anyone since LL did not pick up the phone. I called her cell phone and left a message begging her to call me.

February 6, 2008
Last night there were some tornados and strong winds which made many computer systems in the city of Louisville defunct. When I went to the bank to deposit money for the purchase of the house on Lillian I was told that I could not do so. Imagine that! In 1970 that would never have happened. What is becoming of this world?

I got a call today that the closing of the purchase of my second house (remember I also have a house on Zane street?) will take place on Valentines Day at 10 AM.

I sent LL the following email:
Dear Lorena,
Don’t you agree that for you and I not to find a way to communicate is bad for Sofia and Hannah? I am still trying to find some way that you and I can talk. Do you have any suggestions as to how we might be able to do this?
Sincerely,
Allan

I called LeeAnn Gardner and left a message on her answering machine telling her that I had filed a motion to have LL and I meet with her. “If Rena calls, would you please set up a meeting as soon as possible? Thank you.”

Notice that I did not get a message from Helmers. The good thing about this is that he is costing me absolutely nothing. Remember that I filed the motion on my own yesterday. I left a copy of the motion for Helmers and gave a copy to LL.
5:35PM I called LL’s cell phone in the hope of being able to speak with my children. She does not pick up the phone and I leave a message saying something like “Hello Rena this is Allan and I am calling to ask you to please engender the children with the idea of calling me and then facilitate them actually doing as much. And you too, Rena. Thank you.”

And then I sent LL one more email:

Dear Lorena,
Do you think it would be possible for you and I to speak with the teachers of Sofia and Hannah during the parent teacher conference day together? Teachers appreciate not having to say things twice.... and it would be a good thing for us to do. Please let me know.
Thank you,
Allan

6:18PM I try to call my children again. Hello, and it was LL:
I did manage to ask her a few questions. From the list below and I tried to record the conversation but it was not easy since I was in a restaurant and it was all impromptu, but I remember that at first LL did not think that there was anything to talk about but then she got on a roll. Listen to the recording…. LL told me that she I was not allowed to file a motion in court without consulting Helmers, so I assured her that I had consulted with Helmers both minutes before and minutes after filing the motion. “Is Helmers still your lawyer?” she asked me and I said “Yes.”
Lorena complained about her not having the presents that Sarah had given Hannah. That is because I have them. I told her that I can make copies and give her the copies.
Lorena complained again about the book from Western Day care – the institution Hannah was referred to by Kim Dial. Again, I told her that I can make a copy for her.
What about the scrap books? Can I have a copy?
If only my recording had been better. Oh well.
But it is good that LL and I spoke. Can you imagine it took this long? How crazy? Well, that’s what LL wants. And the court has been so damnably good to her that she wants to continue to use it. But you know, it was good for LL to vent. Poor person, all pent up in her paradigm... That has to suck.


And then Hannah called and we spoke for just a few minutes before I believe LL cut us off… It was strange the way Hannah said that she had to go. It was like for no reason the phone was going bad and she could not hear me… but I could hear her perfectly well.

February 7, 2008
I call the KGB and leave a message on David Weatherspeak’s voice mail. Hello David, this is Allan Lasky-Hearick. I hope you are not like Kim Dial and Lorena Lasky and Dr. Ginger Crumbo. Kim Dial, Dr. Ginger Crumbo are people who without investigating anything say terrible things and then hide from the person you have attacked by not answering the phone, not speaking, not communicating. I am calling you to ask you for help. It is extremely unchristian not to respond but that is not why I ask that you respond. I ask that you respond first and foremost because my children are living in a difficult situation. Second because you are professionals, third because it is a moral duty to respond to pleas for help.
I am submitting a motion in court to see if the judge can order that my children be seen by therapists.

Querida Mabel,
The words in your email are stars on the dew drops of olive trees. Thank you!
If only I had known that you were going to be in Barcelona! My house keeper in Asunción has lived there the last three years and you are one of very few people for whom ‘class’ is not an issue, so I would have given you her phone number.
If only I had known that you were in Paris! I dream of Brie Cheese, green olives, apples and crackers underneath Le Pont Neuf sur la Seine. And of a cup of ‘café au lait’ with a ‘Croissant au beurre’ in the Cartier Latin, an afternoon at the Orangerie and the Palace des Jardins and dinner Au Pied du Cochon… ¡Ay Dios Mio! Que Romántico.
Yes, I know that Padre has Alzheimers. I have some photos of him and Juancho which are more precious than the bible. You know that I am not saying that to reduce the value of the bible but to escalate the wonder of Padre and Juancho.
As for ‘la espada de la felicidad,’ that term cuts like an oxymoron but I am glad as can be that you are happy and surrounded with love. The joy that is yours seems to me well deserved. But you are modest and humble.
As it happens I will be in California in July. My cousin is getting married to a Russian girl and I believe their wedding will be in Berkeley, CA on the fourth of July = the day the white American people proclaimed their independence from the British Empire… You did not indicate that you are coming with Padre to California but if you are, I would love to see you.

When elephants weep,
humanity sleeps,
Only Juancho and Padre,
they storm the Bastille,
and let them free.

Lots of Love,
Allan

Dear Papole, Farmor and Farfar,
I will be closing on the house on Valentines day. I do not need any Valentines day wishes because I am loved already so dearly. But I hope that you have at least as beautiful a Valentines day as I will.
Lots of Love,
Fripe.

Papole writes back:

don't
forget
to
bring
your
valentine
a
bone...

To which I respond:
Dear Papole,
There are three canine loves in my life that kiss me all over my bald head. They are all prone to bones and unlike some humans, they have a great deal more moral back bone. the words dome, home, some and zome should all have the first letter replaced with the letter 'B.' And if you are wondering what the word 'zome' means, it is a skeletal delicacy that can only be purchased at select stores like Au Pied du Cochon sur la seine in Paris.
Lots of love,
Allan

And Farfar writes back:
Dear Allan,
The fact that the signing will take place on Valentine's Day augurs well for your love life. Do you want to send me a copy of the deed?

Your Dad

To which I respond:
Dear Farfar,
Yes, yes, my love life is a bundle of what have yous but I do not think that it will escalate into anything much more magnificent until I get a job second job so that I can pay for water and electricity in that house.
Do you think that the deed will be provided at the closing? Or is that something that needs to be signed by lawyers, a judge and filed in the court house first?
What specifically am I to look for at the closing?
Lots of Love,
Allan

I got an email from Girl Scouts:

Don't forget about the Service Opportunity this weekend, it is open mostly to the Junior's but the Brownie's are welcome to come too.

Polar Bear Clean-Up
Sat 2/9/08
9-12 pm
Mid-City Mall


Pre-registered:
Alicia, Alexis, Emma, and Jasmine

I forwarded the above email to LL and added the following message:
Dear Lorena,
I wish I knew about my new job, but if I hear that it is not going to happen, then I am assuming that we are exchanging the week-end days and then I would like to take the children to do the clean up. Would that be possible, pending things falling into place?
Sincerely,
Allan
And LL responded:
Allan,

per our conversation last night, I am assuming you are taking the kids Saturday now. Since the Polar Bear clean-up at the zoo starts at 9:00am, you should get them earlier. I also have to be at the job fair by 9:30am, so can you get them at 8:00 or 8:30?
So I write back to her (and I got her email almost the minute she sent it because I happened to be on line when she sent it, so her email and my response both happened before 1:10PM and within minutes of each other.
Dear Lorena,
I am sorry: I did NOT say that we would exchange this Saturday for this Sunday in our conversation last night. Please do not yet assume that I will pick the children up the day after tomorrow. I am very sorry Lorena because I sure wish I had heard from my possible employer, but I do not want to shoot myself in the foot and so I am not agreeing yet to exchanging Saturday and Sunday. Maybe I will get a call today and then I will be able to tell you exactly. I hope so very much. And if I do not get a call today, I will call you tomorrow and then I will email and I will call you.
If I do not work on Saturday then I am happy to pick the children up at any time before nine that you like.
I do not know of a clean up at the zoo. Where did you read that?
Would it be alright if I pet the kids past 9PM so that they can attend the clean up a the Mid City Mall? That way we could go horse back riding and to Girl Scouts.
Your email is confusing because you write about the 'zoo' and a time, '9AM,' that I have no knowledge of and of a day, 'Saturday,' that you and I have not agreed on yet... Your email indicates that you did not read the email from Girl Scouts.
Sincerely,
Allan

And then LL sent me the following email:
Allan.

I do not have time to read a million emails & I skim very quickly. Also--I am at work taking a quick break & don't have time to do personal stuff on the clock. If you really want information from me, I suggest you prioritize and send me only the most important questions on your mind. It is similar to the boy who cried wolf--If you send me 15 "important" emails a week, I start to get tired and I do a quick perusal. You sent 3 emails yesterday!!!!

Remember when Craig Hansenm, the GAL, in Texas was copied in on all of our communications. remember how we sat in the park with him & came to an agreement that, barring emergencies and schjeduling issues that connot wait, you would send one email per week asking wbout the girls. You would list the 5 or so burning things on your mind & I would agree, barring emergencies, to answeer one and only one email per week. So, from now on, I am goign to randomly pick on eof your emails and answer that one per week. So, I suggest you consolidate your thoughts.

I cannot afford to wait on an answer. I have found a sitter for when I am at the job fair Saturday. I will expect you to get them Sunday at the regular time.

And I respond:

Dear Lorena,
I have a recording of that conversation at the park. It was a cheap conversation because we were not allowed to speak about the allegations so I did not agree to anything you proposed. I remember you proposing something like what you wrote but I remember thinking that it was not acceptable and it is certainly not acceptable now. If you want to make something like that acceptable, then allow me to raise the children.
I have consolidated millions of thoughts and I can not consolidate my thoughts any more than I already do. As far as Saturday is concerned, I think you are wise to accommodate in advance since I am not able to promise caring for the children on Saturday yet. However, if I do not get the job I will call you and email you and then, if you like, you can cancel the sitter’s appointment to save the cost.
Sincerely,
Allan

And I write to Craig Hansen:
Dear Craig,
Lorena still enjoys the things you did. She mentioned you as a witness in a conversation we had in the park where she claims you stated that she need not respond but to some 4 emails per month. My phone number is now (502) 714 - 8577. Please call me so that we can work out how I can get hold of the documents you have associated with Sofia and Hannah.
Thank you,
Allan

In preparation for being with my children, I retrieved the two bikes that were left in LL’s back yard from LL’s back yard – and I admit that I did this without her permission packed them in my car and drove with them to the Highland coffee house.
Again, as is the norm, I got my children about fifteen minutes late. I don’t actually mind this since I then deliver the children as late to LL and she does not complain about my bringing the children as late to her so I, reckon we are in agreement. But this time, Hannah entered the Highland Coffee House and found me buying coffee and so I bought the coffee (I bought some for Peter too) and then when I came out I confirmed that Hannah had already done all her homework with Lorena. It was good that Lorena and I were able to talk about the homework in front of the children.
And then the children wanted to know where we were going to eat dinner and do homework. I decided to take them somewhere they had never been with me before. As we rode out bikes Sofia was on the phone with a friend of hers. She was very proud to tell her friend that she was riding her bike and speaking on the phone and she was with her Dad.
I took them to the restaurant right next to Carmichael’s book store – forget the name, anyways, it was fun. It is a novel place. The children liked the food. They got some kind of middle eastern spaghetti dish and chicken finger type thing with home made French fries. We also got hot ‘Tchai’ tea. Now, Hannah did not have a homework, so I set her with the homework of doing German on the computer. She was to read with me one of the Tim und Struppi comics. The problem was that Sofia needed my help and it was a little complicated for me to read to Hannah with Sofia continuously interrupting me . And moreover, Sofia wanted to do the Tim un Struppi…
Anyways, it was fun to be at the restaurant with them, and then it was fun to ride the bikes back to LL’s. We rode the alley way on the eastern side of Bardstown road. And then, we stopped at the Chevron and bought chocolate and what have-you’s and then took the long way to LL’s so as to really max out on the down hill….
It was such a good time that the children were not glad to get back to LL’s and Hannah promised she would call me. I asked LL to call me and LL said that she would not because she had to go to her mother’s house… does that mean that the children would be spending the night at her mothers? Don’t know. Maybe LL has a baby sitter lined up? Don’t know. But it sure is stupid that she gets a sitter instead of me. Stupid is a misnomer – it is truly awful.
Oh, and there was an important incident that took place while we were at the restaurant where in which Sofia said “Mommy hates you so much that she stole us from you.” I happened when we were talking about the president of the United States invading Iraq without cause. I looked at Sofia but did not say anything. I looked in her eyes and she was full of anguish but I dissolved her anguish and she understood that I was not going to use her anguish in a manner that made things worse. It was Ok, it was as it was and there will be no changes. And then Hannah said to me “Daddy, I’m going to tell you something but don’t tell anyone that I told you. Mommy sneaked a kiss from her boy friend yesterday.” I said “Oh that is good!” and Hannah asked me why I thought that was good and I said “because Mommy needs to be loved.”
Hannah is now very interested in the concept of kissing. When we were riding our bikes we passed a couple in deep kiss in the parking lot and Hannah was very fascinated. Sofia pretended not to care.
By the way, in my conversation with David Weatherspeak I told him that to provide my children with a safe environment for them to speak freely, they would now have to tell my children that no matter how much they spoke about the psychological terror that they have gotten from their grandmother against their father, that they would never use that in court to take their mother or their grandmother away from them. What I am saying is that the social workers have so botched things up, that now they can not be trusted by my children. To gain the trust of my children they need to learn to be listeners and not back stabbers.
muy querido Allan:
que suerte recibir tus emails. Este me ha llenado de alegría y sobretodo de esperanzas de pensar que alguna vez nos podemos encontrar nuevamente.
No se si em julio iré a California. Yo no me siento con coraje de llevarle al padre para que lo internen en una casa y nunca más poder verlo. Pienso muchas veces en esto y es como una nube negra sobre mi cabeza. He pensado muchas veces en como será mi despedida de él y no encuentro ninguna forma. A veces siento energía para llevarlo hasta su destino final, pero otras me siento una ingrata llevandolo y abandonándolo. Creo que la mejor forma será llevarlo al aeropuerto y despedirlo allí y que alguien lo lleve, sus familiares o sus colegas, hasta el lugar donde pasará los últimos días de su vida. El tiempo se acorte y el final está muy cerca. Mi corazón está roto porque esta temporalidad agobiadora a la cual todos estamos sujetos es muy dolorosa.
Yo se bien que te voy a ver pero aún no se cuando nidonde. Pero, eso no importa lo más importante es que si lo deseamos locamente, lo podremos realizar.
Se me olvidò contarte que Juan Godoy salió del colegio y se fue como director al colegio Saint Anne. Qué te parece?
Paris contigo hubiera sido más que perfecto. Bueno en realidad cualquier lugar contigo es divertido y hermoso.
Que pena lo de Barcelona, me hubiera encantado haberlevisto a la sra. Te cuento que Barcelona esta llna de paraguayos. Hay mucho trabajo y necesitan mucha mano de obra. Lo que yo no sé es si les pagan lo que el duro trabajo vale. Pero es preferible tener algo allá que morirse acá de hambre. Me enamoré de barcelona. Gaudí y su arte se respiran por todos los rincones. Es una ciudad muy cultural y con montones de opciones y actividades arísticas. Me encantó ir de tapas y comer paella de mariscos regada con muchísima sangría. C´est la vie!!!!
hablando de mi francés, me fue fácil defenderme aunque lo hablo muy mal.
Espero que tus hijitas estén bien. Mi juanchito está hermoso aunque un poco gordito. Ahora está de dieta pero es algo dificil hacerla estricta.
Recibe todo mi cariño y mis enormes deseos de volverte a ver. Te envío el aroma de los mangos y las piñas que se apoderan de todos los rincones. Love, Mabel

So, what is going on with LL? Nothing actually. She is still exactly the same as she ever was. Just a barrage of grudge for nothing behind a veil of pharmaceutical rhetoric.


February 8, 2008
Ok, so I went down town, made a child support payment and then dropped by Helmer’s office. “What is going on in this case? Specifically: (a) Getting professional help to enter what’s left of my family? And (b) my motion, filed a few days ago? And (c) the deposition of Kim and Ginger?
But it was fun because of Amanda:
Amanda has been observing in her own way the process of this case. She is always very polite to me and is clearly distressed when she needs to respond to me in a manner that behooves the company of lawyers she works for. Amanda gave me a cigarette and we smoked outside. She spoke about her home in some ritzy part of town and I told her that I live out of my car (which is true except on the nights before I see my children and other times when it is too cold or what ever.) She told m that her LG&E bill had been $250 and I smiled and told her that I did not have one. She was curious about the languages that I speak with Sofia and Hannah and spent a great deal of time telling me about her German heritage. She told me that she and her boy friend are staunch Louisvillians and I told her that I was far from that. But then she said “You know, I do not know what to say to you sometimes when you ask me about John Helmers.” I had just asked her if she had known John to stonewall a client in the past. “No, not that I know…..” and then when she admitted that she was effectively caught between a rock and a hard place I told her not to worry about me, but to respond in a manner that was commensurate with John’s expectations.
I sat in the lobby for a while to wait for John to come back from lunch. During this time I read about Mother Teresa in a report in the Time magazine, November 2007.

Mother Teresa wrote about a different Christ a silent one. “The silence and the emptiness for me is so great that I look and I do not see. I listen and do not hear, the tongue moves (in prayer) but does not speak.” Yep.
I called CPS. They told me to come to their office and bring evidence with which to conduct an investigation.
Then I called John Helmers to tell him that I needed the documentation from Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo in order to take it to Child Protective Services for them to do an investigation.
And then at 4:42PM I got a call from Sofia’s friend (502-548-8216). I first gave her LL’s home phone number and se tried that but no one picked up the phone so she called me again and I gave her LL’s cell phone number.
5:20PM I tried the ‘linea baja,’ but got no answer.
5:25PM, I called LL’s cell phone and left her the following message: “Hello there Lorena, this is Allan and I hope you are having a very beautiful day. Earlier today I gave a friend of Sofia’s your telephone numbers and I hope she called you and that she was able to speak with Sofia. I am calling to speak with Hannah and Sofia and to tell you that if you want me to take the children tomorrow I can do that. I will send you and email with the same information about tomorrow. Can you respond with an email about tomorrow? Alright, kiss Hannah on the top of the head from me. Thanks.”
As Subir said “shit happens! Buddy!”
Dear Lorena,
I called you with this same information - left is on your voice mail.

As you wish: You can call me and then email me about me taking care of the children tomorrow or we can go with the norm that has been established for Sunday.
Most sincerely,
Allan

7:00PM I try to call my children. There is no answer to either the cell phone of the ‘linea baja,’ – ad I left a polite message on LL’s cell phone to get the children in touch with me…. so, since I was near LL’s place, I drove by and saw that the car was not parked on the street and called Nancy Lasky. I called both her ‘linea baja’ and her cell phone number and left polite messages indicating that my children should call me.
My children did not call me.
You know I spend such a large potion of my time writing in my journal about my fruitless attempts to call my children, that I should develop a code:
TIME;PERSON;MESSAGE
TIME: 24 hour time.
Person: LLL = Lorena Lasky ‘linea baja’ NLL = Nancy Lasky (Ungaro), LLC = Lorena Lasky’s cell phone, NLC= Nancy Lasky’s cell phone, RL = Rebecca Lasky, Lal = Lara Lasky…
MESSAGE: N/A = not applicable, N = no message, Y = a message was left.! = someone picked up the phone, X = no-one picked up the phone.
And then I would write:
19:00hr;LLL + LLC:N/A + Y:X
19:15hr;NLL + NLC;Y + Y:X
And now let me add another phone call.
~20:00hr;LLC;!, and she told me that she was on her way to “her sister’s” and that she would have the children call me when she got there. She said she would be at her sister’s house in a minute.
As already mentioned, that call never happened.



February 9, 2008
11:20hr;LLC;Y;X = Please let your sister know to have the children call me.
11:30hr;RL;! picked up the phone and said “They’re (the children) not at my house. I do not know where they are but they are not here.”
And I may not have any proof, but I am prepared to bet $1000 that Lorena was at Nancy’s last night, that she dropped the children off at Nancy’s last night, that she had just left Nancy’s when I spoke with her and that she lied to me when she said the children were at her sisters….
11:31hr;LLC;Y;X = I just spoke with Rebecca who said the children were not with her so I am guessing they are at Nancy’s. Could you please call Nancy or who ever they are with and have Nancy facilitate telephone communications with me? Thank you.
11:32hr;LLL;N/A;X
15:00hr;LLL;N/A;X
17:22hr;LLL + LLC;X + X;Y = I would like to share a hot cup of tea with you and I am calling to speak w/ Sofia and Hannah. Please have them call me.
17:25hr;NL;X; Y = please have the children call me.
19:00hr I tried calling both the linea baja and LL’s cell phone but no one picked up the phone. I left a message asking to speak with Sofia and Hannah.
20:00hr again in vain.
But then at 8:30 I got through to LL. She did not want to give the phone to one of the children and tried to say that they were occupied “let me see if one of them is free to talk with you,” but then Hannah did take the phone. Hannah told me she wants to go ice skating and then she told me that she was at Aunt Rebecca’s house and that it was Aunt Rebecca’s birthday. Then Hannah told me that she needed to drink and passed the phone to Sofia. Sofia and I were doing well on the phone – talking about her friend who had called me the day before yesterday and to whom I had given Sofia’s number and also talking about Rebecca’s birthday who is now 35 years old. I asked her what she had given Aunt Rebecca for her birthday and she said “Nothing,” and I told her to make a card for Aunt Rebecca saying ‘happy birthday’ and to get Hannah to sign it… And then suddenly I heard LL holler at Sofia “It’s time to go bye bye and Sofia said “….Need to get off the phone?” and then briskly “I have to get off the phone, bye!”

February 10, 2008
Well, we could go skiing today? I pack all the ski gear into the back pack and load the car with food and art supplies (and a few toys because Hannah can not put up with too much art.) If we do not go skiing we can go ice skating (Hannah had asked to do this last night). We could go to a meeting house and celebrate life with the Quakers. We will see but I am open to suggestions.
I tried calling the friends meeting house but no one answered. I called Paoli peaks and they assured me that skiing would be good.
You know, it was a difficult day because of Lara Lasky who in mediating between Hannah (who wanted to go home on the way to ski, so she said) and me – accused me of a number of mad notions…. This was all resolved when I just drove to the police. The children did not want to talk with the police and I did not make them. But the best thing by far would be to listen to the recording….

It is so much fun to interact with Sofia on a brainy level. We stopped in Palmyra for dinner at a Mexican Restaurant and we made lists of the states in America, the countries of the world, cities of America.

February 11, 2008
I went to Helmer’s office and asked him to file the motion since my filing it did not work.
Then I went to the Child Protective Services office and spoke with a lady called Taylor. Taylor listened to me but did not express interest in taking on the case. She did not care for what I had to say. I mentioned many things including both Sofia expressing an interest in suicide and I had the reports from the KGB to make that statement official… but she did not want to read the reports. At one point she said to me that the things I was telling her did not meet the criteria for her taking on the case. I asked her what the criteria were, and she guided me to a web site: www.ky.gov and then go to ‘standards of practice’ and then to ‘CFC online manuals,’ and then to ‘CPS’ and then to ‘criteria.’ She also provided me with the ‘Open Records’ department in Frankfort KY’s telephone number (502) 564 – 9554 and their FAX number is (502) 564 – 9554.
I called for the records and was told that I need to fill out a form. I was told that I could down load the form from the ‘cabinet for health and family services ‘ and was told that the form was called CHF5305.
7:00PM I tried calling my children but no one picked up the phone.
7:35PM LL picked up the phone. This is how the conversation went:
LL: Hello?
Allan: Hello Rena, how are you?”
(There was a long pause and LL did not answer the question or say anything and I waited.)
LL: Did you call for a reason?
Allan: Yes, I called for a reason but I started by asking how you were doing.
LL: Well, Hannah is right now cleaning the bathroom and Sofia is getting ready to eat dinner. I would say that you can call them in fifteen minutes.
Allan: Can you tell them that they can call me in fifteen minutes while I am still on the phone?
LL: What did you say?
Allan: Can you tell them that I will be speaking with them now, while I am still on the phone?
LL: No.
Allan: Why would you not do that?
LL: click, the phone went dead.
7:50PM: I called again: And I was able to speak with both my children and the conversations went very well until LL made them get off the phone with me. We talked about
Snow people,
Sledding, ice skating,
Doing while speaking sink, bath tub and toilet
Name
Going down hills,
And the states of the United States of America.
I am trying to get Sofia to learn of the countries of the world.
At 11:00PM I saw the news on TV. Judge Patricia Walker Fitzgerald speak about the terrible issues associated with Kentucky CPS. She expressed concern about the names of children and families being divulged. I respect that, but my children have been terribly treated by the Child Protective services.
Then I saw on TV that there will be no school for my children tomorrow and I called LL.
The actually answered the phone but she told me that she would not let me spend more time with the children than the court already allows. She went further to say that she will never allow for any make up time.


February 12, 2008
8:45AM I try to call my children but no one answers. An ice storm has blasted through Louisville over night and my car is like an eel. I had fun. But where are my children?
12:00AM I try to call my children but not one answers the ‘linea baja’ and so I call LL’s cell phone number and I leave LL the following email: “Heypodey, Lorena, happy snow day! I was going to take the children sledding today but it is much too slushy now and I reckon if there is any snow, it will be cold and wet on dog hill and maybe it will not work. But anyway, maybe we can go bike riding today. I was calling to speak with them since it is a snow day. Could you please have them call me? Thank you.

1. Organize files.
2. Shower.
3. Shave.
4. Check Barklays.

I called 574-4115 to find out if LL was at work and confirmed that she was. I did not ask to speak with her. I had just left a message on her telephone.
She had emailed me:
This coming weekend, I would like to switch again. I would like to take Sofia to girl scouts sunday as I have not had the opportunity to take her except for once. I want to personally make sure she makes it there happy, fed, on time, etc. I think the kids are too tired Sunday when they get home and it makes them too tired Monday morning. For all of the outings you do on those long days, it would benefit the kids to have that happen on Saturday. then, they could sleep in Sunday and go to bed earlier Sinday evening--thus making them in better shape for the school week to start.

I would be amenable to switching days indefinately.

If that doesn't work for you, I would like to alternate weekends--that is alternate Saturdays and Sundays. This is somethign I asked you abotu a while ago and you could not because at the time you were working Saturdays--forst at the nursing home, then at the car place. Now that you do not work Saturdays, I would like to go back to the idea of alternating (or maybe just switch all together for awhile like I said above). In the end, alternating is probably the "most fair."

You said you usually work for the Penguin Ice Cream Co. on Saturdays, but that is mechanic work for your friend that I believe can be done on Sunday just as well, correct?

Then I emailed her:
Dear Lorena,
It is a snow day so the children are not in school. They are not at your house as far as I can tell since no one is answering the phone. Can you please have them call me? Would you please consider having me care for them this afternoon.
Now, in response to your email: You have been able to take Sofia to girl scouts every single time she has gone for half a year now and you have said "NO."
The advice I get from everyone is that I should stick with the judge's orders as far as the time that I spend with the children. I am told that if I let things go here and there, to suit you and not me, that then I do not have a good case before the judge. You have to know that I have wanted to negotiate with you and see if we can not find a more reasonable balance for both of us since December of 2003. I might suggest that if you want something, then you need to offer something. You are offering me nothing more than the judge would already dictate and it is compounded with going against the judge's orders and a mishmash of confused agreements. I called you last night to see if I could care for the children since it is a snow day and you quite simply said "NO." When I asked you if you would agree to some make up time you said "NO."
So, if you want something, generate something reasonable in exchange.

Again, I can find ways to exchange Saturday for Sunday -- but they come with a sacrifice: I can not work on Sunday at the shop. If you give me a good reason then I am prepared to make that sacrifice (as I did last week end - as you can read in the email if you scroll below where it also states that I called you to let you know that we could do that then.) So, please give me a good reason and I will consider it strongly.

We went skiing last week end, and except for your sister Lara, everything went well. Please tell your sister that she needs to behave appropriately when she speaks with Sofia, Hannah and me.
I am not surprised that the children are tired when they return to you after a day of skiing, bike riding, horseback riding, ice skating, roller skating, learning a new language as well as math and science. But I am, as usual, flabbergasted that you would make an issue of it with me since the children are allowed to go to bed after midnight, the evening before I get them (according to several accounts.)

If anything Lorena, we need to find a way to communicate. That way, issues that reside in one another can have the opportunity to find themselves counter balanced.

I have signed a contract to buy a house in Louisville. As you can imagine, it is a dream Allan house: cheap and old..... and as I work on it, for it is a handyman's challenge, it will take on the flavors that you had once known to be mine.
Please call me about the children's time with me today or I will pick the children up at 5PM at the highland coffee house.
Thank you,
Allan

What this means is that LL does not want to let me have the children even though she herself can not care for them. That is hate that has been nourished and embalmed by the KGB.
I looked up the criteria for CPS to become involved in investigating the Lasky family and this is what I found:

NEGLECT: EMOTIONAL INJURY

GENERAL PROVISIONS:
A report may be accepted as suspected emotional injury when the reporting source has reason to believe that:
o A child’s mental or emotional well-being, has been harmed or is at risk of harm; This is certainly the case.
o The harm to a child’s mental or emotional well-being is evidenced by a substantial and observable impairment in the child’s ability to function within a normal range of performance and behavior with regard to his age, development, culture, and environment; and
o The parent or other caretaker inflicted the harm to the child’s mental or emotional well-being by non-accidental means.

CRITERIA:
1. In determining whether a child may be emotionally injured, the SSW and FSOS considers the following emotionally abusive behaviors that will, or are likely to cause emotional injury to a child, or may put the child at risk of an emotional injury.
(a) Spurning – repeated or pervasive actions that lead to the deprecation, belittling, or other humiliation of the child, including verbal and non-verbal caregiver acts that reject and degrade a child. These behaviors may include, but are not limited to:
(1) Repetitive verbal harassment;
(2) Scapegoating;
(3) Speaking to/about a child in depreciating, resentful or angry way;
(4) Inappropriate withholding of affection from one child while giving to another;
(5) Name calling;
(6) Use of profanity toward the child;
(7) Public humiliation; or
(8) Insulting or disparaging remarks.
(b) Terrorizing – any act that exposes a child to intense fear or anxiety of:
(1) Physical or sexual assault or harm to themselves or his/her loved ones;
(2) Prolonged exposure to domestic violence;
(3) Being placed in a chaotic, unpredictable, dangerous environment likely to create extreme stress; or
(4) Verbal threatening in a manner that creates fear of bodily harm or death to self or others.
(c) Exploitation/corruption– any act that uses a child to meet the emotional, psychological, or other needs of another person. Any caregiver acts that encourage or allow the child to develop inappropriate behaviors (self-destructive, antisocial, criminal, deviant or other maladaptive behaviors). These acts include, but are not limited to:
(1) Repeated, negative communication to a child about one or either parent or other caregiver;
(2) Use of a child to communicate negative, inappropriate, or adult information between two adults or one adult and another person;
(3) Use of a child for the personal financial gain of a parent/guardian or other adult;
(4) Use of drugs or alcohol with a child, providing the same to a child, or allowing a child to access and/or consume drugs or alcohol;
(5) Encourages or allows a child to steal, be truant from school, break curfew, misrepresent a medical condition for personal gain, or perform any other illegal act; or
(6) Encourages or allows a child to be involved with a sexual partner.
(d) Isolating – any act that results in the prolonged confinement of a child or the restriction of contact with others including appropriate peer relations. These acts include, but are not limited to:
(1) Prolonged periods of confinement;
(2) Restriction of reasonable peer contact to allow normal development of peer relationships;
(3) Confinement to a limited group with bizarre or highly controversial beliefs/values and not allowing exposure to other ideas and views; or
(4) Confinement of a child or placing unreasonable limitations on the child’s freedom of movement within his or her environment.
(e) Denying emotional responsiveness – actions that cause a child’s need for emotional support/nurturing to not be met. These acts include, but are not limited to:
(1) Denial of appropriate/socially acceptable physical contact necessary for a child’s well-being;
(2) Declines nurturing to a child;
(3) Failure to demonstrate appropriate affection to ensure the development of healthy psychological attachments; or
(4) Failure to express reasonable affection for a child.

I went returned to the Child Protective Services Place and asked to speak with Taylor but was told that she was not there. Instead I spoke with another woman called Christi Atkins. Later I found out that she was the boss of the place. She ordered two officers to be present at our meeting. Although this was insulting as anything, I put up with it. She denied knowing that the sexual abuse allegations had been dismissed. I worked my way through the list above of criteria for CPS to take on the case but she kept saying “that does not meet the criteria,” and at one point she said “coming in every day is not going to make me take you seriously,” so I told her that she had no choice but to take me seriously and in the end she sent me away telling me that she would look at the records and call me back.
Again, I found myself describing the environment that my children live in and the ONLY thing she cared about was when I told her that LL was in the car and had made Hannah say that I had abused her when she was “a little girl.”
I believe she is just going to dismiss me if and when she calls me. It was a way to get rid of me. Just like saying that she would get me the form (half way through our talking together) was also a way for her to try to get rid of me. But in any event, I gave her my telephone number and she said she would call me, so if she does not call me then, I will call her and I will consider her to have lied to me even though, of course, I will not tell her that.
I filled out the forms for requesting the documents associated with the CPS involvement and the guards gave them to her and then I left.
LL called me at about 4:14PM and it was clear that she had forgotten that I was taking the children to the dance. I do not know what she told the children, but Hannah got on the phone and screamed at me that she could not be forced to go to the dance. I decided that I would let the evening evolve in a natural way. I drove by LL’s home at 5PM and saw she was not home yet.
At 5:15 I called LL and told her that we needn’t go to the dance.
At 5:20 I called her again and told her that we could go to the dance, but we should leave it up to the children. LL went on to describe the psychological states of the children. She said that they had calmed down. I thanked her for this because this was the first time in four years that she had done this. As soon as I thanked her she matter of factly agreed that I should used “input from the children” and put both children on the phone and both told me that they did not want to go to the dance. So, I said “Ok, then come out because I am right outside.”
I asked LL if I could come inside. I explained that it was very cold – there is an ice storm. She said “NO.”
The children came out ten minutes later. LL explained that the children had complained about being hungry so she had heated up some food.
So, it turned out that rather than sharing the children with me today, a day of no school, LL had taken them to work with her.
We had just gotten out of ear shot of LL and Sofia said “Daddy, do you think we are toys?”
I said “No, you are not at all toys. I will tell you Sofia that there is no such thing as a human being who is a toy and it is even bigger than that. There is no living thing that is a toy.”
“But you want Mommy to share us with you!” Sofia defiantly expressed.
“What?” I was somewhat incredulous. This was of course true, but I had never said this to Sofia. I mumbled and fumbled for words. I probably looked like an idiot to Sofia who had me cornered. By the way, this is a new found attribute of Sofia’s. She uses ‘logic’ and presents her arguments in air tight ways.
“You can ask Muntschkin, gold fish and gold watches are both the same color but they are not the same thing. Children and toys both need to be shared but they are not the same thing.”
And later in the car I wonderd, is LL talking with the children about my wanting to share the children? I do not know, but of this I am certain: LL does not share, she steals. So, if she does speak with the children about sharing it is with not-sharing in mind.
Again, with the children in the car, I asked them if they wanted to go dancing and Hannah said “NOOOOOOOOOOOOO,” Sofia usually tends to defer to Hannah so I let it go.
“Where shall we eat?” I asked.
“Wall*Mart!” They both exclaimed.
“YUK.”
But I thought that was alright and took them to Wall*Mart. There they came across two of their teachers and teased them about dating. “People should not be teased when they date because they feel vulnerable,” I said to Hannah. But Hannah did not listen to me and sang out to them “You are day -tin’”
And we ate dinner at the Subway.
And we walked around the store but only bought socks for Hannah, whose feet were soaked because she had gotten snow in her boots.
But, of course, on the way back out to the car, the children again played in the piles of snow pushed to the side by the snow plow.
And they watched a German Disney movie “Der Tapfere Toaster,” and Sofia claimed that this was her favorite Disney movie.
They watched it all the way back to LL’s.
Now, if we had gone to the dance, then I would have had the children from 6:30PM to 8:30PM and it was now 7:20PM (I was 20 minutes late because LL had given me the children 30 minutes late) and so I called LL and asked her if it would be OK for the children to watch the movie for a while longer in the car. She said “NO, they need to go to bed.”
So, at 7:30 I ushered them into LL’s house. LL did not come to the door.
7:40PM, just a little time after dropping off my children, then phone alarm went off. Sofia had set the alarm at Wal*Mart and asked me to call her. I tried calling the ’linea baja’ but no one picked up the phone. I called LL’s cell phone and LL picked it up and I told her that I did not think Sofia needed to speak with me…”OK, because she is in the bath tub right now” (LL said)… but that I was supposed to call her at 7:40PM. “Oh, said LL, “Yes, I know why, it is because of the computer game that we are playing.”
A really interesting day in terms of LL pretending to be fair with me while not being fair or in any way decent at all. This is a new phenomenon. It is also a little different that LL called while the children were with me. LL really wanted to stay on the phone with the children and kept the conversation going for maybe twenty minutes. I did not object to that. I said to Sofia when she returned the phone to me “good, I am glad that you and Mommy talk lots on the phone.”
But I was able to overhear some of LL’s conversation with Sofia and it reminded me of Nancy (a kind of nagging manipulative guilt trippy way to keep Sofia on the phone “I love you Sofia and you love me too,” “Yes Mommy.”)
I shouldn’t be critical.

February 13, 2008 (Wednesday.)
Well, tomorrow is Valentines day. I bought some art supplies for the children and I to be creative during our time together tomorrow. I applied for a job at UPS today. They immediately responded to my application and so I went for a drug test.
Note for my children:
Spiderman ist ein unauffalender Kind der sheu ist mit Mädchen, sogar, wurde ich sagen daβ er ein beangste Katze ist mit Mädchen und er geht so weit als zu sagen daβ mit groβe Macht kommt groβe Verantwortung.
Spiderman is a humble kid who is modest, shy with girls, in fact, I would say he is a scardy cat with girls and he goes so far as to say things like “with great power comes great responsibility” which sounds cool but it is also an excuse for not spending time with his girl friend.
Cat woman ist eine Künstlerin und ihre künstlerische Eigenschaft ist eine Erweiterung von Marc Chagall. Spiderman ist eigentlich noch nichts – Man könnte behaupten daβ er eine Ausrede ist um keine Zeit mit seine Freundin zu verbringen.
Cat woman is an artist and her artistic flair is an off shoot of Marc Chagall. Spiderman is really nothing yet – you could argue that he is a photographer but the artistic quality is subdued to the news worthiness of his images. Cat woman works in an art studio and Spiderman works for a news agency. Both their bosses are despicable people. Cat woman is also poor like Spider man (and unlike Batman) and she looses her job because she has backbone (for once) and she is shy with boys too and she plays basket ball and kids love watching her do so. She drives a motorcycle (so does Batman.)
Cat woman ist eine Künstlerin und ihre künstlerische verschoenerung ist eine abzweigung von Marc Chagall,
February 14, 2008
Valentine’s day, Thursday, and today I am buying a house in Louisville.
Buying the house:
Regional first title group 200 meridian ave Louisville 40207
Certified check for 23 251.86
Valid id
Payable to Allan
Endorse at the closing
11:00 AM WATERSON EAST TO BRECKENRIDGE LANE ROAD, THEN GO DOWN BRECKINRIDGE GO PASS THE PHOSPITALS AND AT DAYTON, AND GO RIGHT (EVEN THOUGH THE STREET SIGN IS ON THE LEFT) AND THEN GO ONE BLOCK. Regional first title group 200 Meridian Ave Louisville 40207

Ok, I have now bought a house. I have a huge amount of work to do. I bought paint.
Dear Lorena,
First of all, I hope you and your lover have a wonderful Valentines day. I make this wish with absolutely no reservation. It is a complete hope that you establish and have a beautiful relationship with another person.
Sincerely,
Allan

I got three emails from LL. I will list them all and then email all of them in one email:
Allan:

Regarding switching Sundays and Saturdays:

First, you are not following through with your commitment to Sofia to take her to Girl Scouts. This was the only troop with openings and one of two troops with Bloom students in it. The day and time are beyond my control. What Sofia said to me last week was, " Mommy why did you pick a troop with Sunday meetings so daddy had to take me?" She was making the whole thing my fault. I do not wish to push blame around but I do need to illustrate that you have neglected to take Sofia to scouts for three meetings. That you took her last week for the last 15 minutes to me does not count as making the meeting. Girl Scouts is important to Sofia and to me. Every meeting they work on badge work. Every missed time is a box that is not checked off for Sofia, so-to-speak. Absenses should be very rare. You had her miss 3 of 4 meetings since December. The troop leader could tell her she cannot continue if she wanted to based on these absenses. I bet her dues ($2.00 per meeting) are not paid up either. I paid her ahead ($20.00) but I bet that has been used up by now.

For the sake of Sofia, I would like to take you off of Girl Scout duty. Last week you said yourself that you took her swimming for a long time in the afternoon when she had eaten little lunch and delivered her to the meeting tired and underfed. This is your responsibility Allan. You should have planned ahead so Sofia would not be in this tired, underfed, thus temper-tantrum-prone state.

For the sake of Sofia, it is important that she have the next meetings go smoothly and that she arrive on-time (10 minutes before meeting starts). If you do not agree to the switch, then we can bring it up with the Judge. It sure is a waste of money.

Again, the reason you got Sundays in the order was because of your job schedule at that time. You no longer have that job, so there is no reason you cannot alternate other than obstinance.

But for this weekend, until we work out any alternative, I will plan on you getting them on Sunday. Lorena
And here is the second email:
This Sunday there is a meeting 3-4:30. Please do not do a strenuous activity for the hour or hour and a half before the meeting so she will feel good when she gets there.
And here is the third email:
Allan:

Just a reminder that the meeting is this Sunday at 3pm. Please arrive early with Sofia. I will come there with my calender so I can write down the times of the booth sales & see which ones I can commit to.

If there is a booth sale on a Sunday or a Tues or Thurs, do you want to volunteer to do it with Sofia? Or do you prefer I sign her up for times when I take her? Lorena

And here is my response to all the emails she sent me:
Dear Lorena,
Wow! I got three emails from you. Thank you for that. I appreciate that very much. I already sent you a Valentine’s day email. That sentiment, expressed in the last email, is unabated.
Now, as for your emails: You claim that it is my commitment to take Sofia to Girl Scouts. That has not been the case. Nevertheless, I am prepared to take Sofia to Girl Scouts except on those days when we go skiing or horseback riding or if anything that is more important comes up. As you must know, I have an acute interest in Sofia participating in Girl Scouts. By the way, Sofia met a troop of Girl Scouts while skiing last Sunday. I saw her have a very good time with them.
I would tell you that what Sofia said to you also pitted you and me against one another. It is important that neither you nor I fall for that. This is why we need to communicate. The day she blamed you for having chosen Girl Scouts on Sunday, we were in Louisville and she was taken to Girl Scouts on time. You may remember that at that point I was trying to get her to eat something and she called you and again, she managed to put us at odds because you did not agree with me that she should eat something. Maybe it would be good if you agreed that when the children are with me, what I determine is in the best interests of the children, you automatically agree. And Sofia did not have a temper tantrum, she cooly called you to see if she could get you to side with her so that she could get what she was pretending to want. I agree with you that she was hungry but it was not because she had not eaten substantially that day, rather it was the because she had been involved in a lot of activities between 9AM and 3PM.
You can bring it up with the Judge if you like.
As for the reason for Sunday being the day that I have the children, this has not changed. It will become even more important as the summer rolls around and I will be even more needed on Saturdays. Children buy ice cream on Saturdays during the warmer seasons.
I am in no way obstinate. I am so far from ‘obstinate,’ I can not even imagine the applicability of the word to me.
If you are coming to the Girl Scouts on Sunday I would like to request that you and I act in a manner that is orthogonal to anything during the last four years. I am asking that you be glad that we are all there. I am asking that you speak with me. I am asking that you indicate to me, in front of the children, that you want to and will communicate with me at that time and in the future about the children. I am asking that we be together when either one of us addresses the leaders of the Girl Scouts. I am asking that we consult with one another in a kind and positive manner about how we might best serve Sofia and the sale of Girl Scout cookies and so on. Are you in agreement? Remember Lorena, you are always invited to be with the children and I.
Yes, If there is a booth sale on any day of the week, I want to volunteer to do it with Sofia. Of course, Lorena.
Sincerely,
Allan
Now I know why LL is more reasonable with me: We are under the microscope. This is good!
LL delivered the children to me at 5:00PM for the first time in a very long time. I can say I was actually surprised. And it was warm. The children and I rode our bikes to the mid city mall and there we ate at the Asian Buffet. Hannah had a tough homework. She had to write, for the first time, in cursive. It took a great deal of psychological work to get her to complete her homework. I wanted her to do it on her own steam. I agreed with her that she could go to a separate place from me and Sofia to do the homework on her own. She worked hard. It takes her a long time to write the letters in cursive. LL called me to tell me that she would not be home until 7:15PM which was lucky for us since Hannah was talking a long time. However, at 7:10PM Hannah was still not finished and it was clear that she would be going home without having finished her homework unless LL okayed us staying out later. I called LL and more or less got her Ok. When Hannah had finished her homework I took it to the supermarket and made two copies: One for me and one for LL. I told Hannah to “give Mommy a copy for Valentine’s day.” I was really proud of Hannah and I know that Hannah felt truly good inside herself for what she had achieved. Hannah needs this kind of positive reinforcement. Sofia always does well in school and Hannah is a little insecure.
I taught Sofia some algebra. She has, of course, never had to learn algebra. But Sofia can solve for X in questions of the form “3/X = 6/12, what is X?” The way she does this is to find the multiplier that converts between the numerators, then she applies that to the denominators. In very little time I had Sofia solving problems like 2X - 5 = X.
Hannah was doing her homework and made a mistake for which she needed to borrow Sofia’s eraser. Unfortunately, Sofia did not want this. At one point Hannah took Sofia’s eraser and Sofia jumped to Hannah with an angry scream. I intercepted and held Sofia back from Hannah. Sofia became angry with me. I repeated the same sentence some five times “please let Hannah borrow your eraser.” Sofia said “I did!!!!” and I responded “No you did not. I did!” and then she calmed down and went to get some food from the buffet.
That worked once, but it will not work again. Next time Sofia will tell me that I have no right to lend Hannah an eraser that does not belong to me. I know this because Sofia is like me.
I love Sofia’s mind. She is sharp. I wish I could spend more time with her because I would trigger her thinking.
We arrived at LL’s at 7:30PM. LL was not happy. She needed to go to the supermarket and ushered the children into her car. It was just while I was giving the children their homework, when Hannah asked me:
“Daddy, what does ‘abuse’ mean?”
“It is when a person is terrible to another person,” I responded.
“A lady today was asking me about you today questions about you and it went on and on and blah blah blah.”
A few minutes later I suddenly noticed LL’s car on Broadway and honked my horn. The children recognized me and we waved.
LL went through a yellow light, but I stopped.
A few minutes later Hannah called me.
“Daddy, I have something that I want to give you. Can you please wait for me when we come back to Mommy’s house?”
“Let me ask Mommy if it might be better another day,” I said to Hannah, but then Hannah asked LL herself.
“Mommy, is it OK if I give something to Daddy when we get back home?”
“Sure,” said LL.
“Mommy said ‘sure,’” Hannah informed me.
“Ok Hannah,” I said “I will wait for you.”
And then I pulled into a gas station with the intention of buying some fuel, a cup of coffee and hanging out for a while before driving back to LL’s.
I had just finished purchasing my items when LL pulled into the gas station. Had she already been to the supermarket? In any case, I went and kissed my children, wished them happy Valentine’s days and Hannah gave me a photocopy of her first cursive written homework. I said “Happy Valentine’s day to LL. Hannah noticed the polite character of our interaction and complimented LL on it: “Mommy, you are being polite to Daddy,” she said.
Something is going on, to make LL behave in a reasonable manner. The family is under some scope. That is good.
A few minutes later I called LL. She did not pick up the phone. I left a message on her voice mail: “Hello Rena, this is Allan. Who is the person interviewing my children about my relationship with them?”
So, what is going on? Who is that person interviewing the children? I am guessing, from the way that Hannah phrased the question to me that the person is against me. It may be a person from the CPS? From the KGB? But what ever the case, the person is probably trying to build a case against me. That is better than nothing for two reasons. The first is that I am the decent parent my children have and the second is that when LL is aware that she is under the microscope, she has to behave better.

February 15, 2008
1. Call the electric co. between 2 and 4pm.
2. Fill the car.
3. Go to the shed empty it out.(lamps!)
4. Secure the house.
5. Paint the house.
6. Plant a tree in the yard.
7. Call UPS 359 – 1813, 359 - 1816
8. Call Bloom elementary about parent teacher conference, getting the judge’s orders, about the stamped self addressed envelopes.
9.




February 15, 2008
I called the Bloom Elementary School and left a message for the school counselor to call me back.
I called Child Protective Services: “I am wanting to speak with Christi Atkins because she took on the case of my children when I was there, but that failing, could you connect me please with someone by the name of Taylor.”
“Hello Ms Atkins, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick, how are you?” She said “fine, how are you?” and I responded that I appreciated she was trying to be kind but her asking me that question is analogous to Adolf Hitler asking Anne Franc how she is. Then I stated the following:
“You may recall that your organization was used by the family of my former wife to destroy my fair and reasonable chances of custody, to remove our children from their correct state of residency which was Texas and to endorse the hatred that my children have been availed since you came into their lives…. and I have come to you in order to beg you to rectify the damage incurred.”
And she told me that she had read the records and had referred the case to Mary Williamson, 595 3632.
But take note: Christi Atkins told me she would review the records, decide whether to take action and then call me. She did not call me. I think this is how they work. Christi Atkins set the game in motion, based on what Hannah told me, the perspective taken is most likely negative towards me. Certainly it is OK for CPS to set traps and that includes lying to me. Christi Atkins lied and that is fine but it has of course, demolished any moral authority I might have deemed her.
“Alright and thank you” I said, “You’re welcome,” she responded.

So I called Mary Williamson and found out that she was on vacation and spoke with her secretary who told that the organization for which she works is CPS community based services, investigations team and Mary is the boss of this aspect of CPS and she is now on vacation – now it is still possible that the case was delegated(?) to someone else? But it is looking less likely. I left my phone number.
Brenda Crawford, the counselor at the Bloom Elementary School called me back and told me that indeed BOTH children were taken out of their class rooms by a CPS worker. This happened either yesterday or the day before yesterday.
No emails from LL today.
I am not able to communicate with my children despite repeated attempts to reach them by phone and leaving a message at 7:15PM asking LL to please have the children call me.
Dear Lorena,
I am not able to communicate with my children despite repeated attempts to reach them by phone and leaving a message at 7:15PM asking you to please have the children call me.
Sincerely,
Allan




At 9:00PM I wanted to drive by LL’s place to see if her car is parked near the house, but then I said to myself “That would not change the place where the children are,” so I did not and I went to my new house and I started to paint it.
Now, in painting the kitchen, I drew the outlines for a street on the Mercado Quatro in Paraguay. I drew a huge tree that will merge into the ceiling and the limbs may crawl across the ceiling (to indicate the dissolution of the bipartisanship in LL and my relationship.) On the distant wall I sketched out the images of Fatima’s mother and one of her sisters. (Fatima was a person who helped in Paraguay.) I thought of painting images of Fatima herself, or of my children, but then I decided that if I paint images of people that are not so close, then it is sociologically easier.

February 16, 2008
9:45AM I call the two numbers. The ‘linea baja’ does not respond and on the cell phone number I leave the following message. “Hepodey Lorena, you big hippo you, I am trying to get in touch with our children, Sofia and Hannah so if you could call me back that would be right on target.
10:10AM I call Nancy. “Hepodey, this is Allan and I was wondering do you know where Sofia or Hannah are so that I may call them. I think Rebecca answered the phone and she told me that LL’s car is still outside so she thinks they just went somewhere. She said that she would tell them that I called and I said “No, wait, ask them to call me.” She said “OK.”
12:00AM I called LL’s cell phone but no one answered and so instead I just left a message asking her to have the children call me and try and make the communication between the children and the parents more symmetrical – since the children can always speak with their mother when they are with me.
2:00PM I called LL and left a message asking her to have the children call me.
4:00PM I called again and left the same kind of message.
7:00PM I called to no avail. (Both numbers.)
~8:00PM I again call both numbers to no avail.
9:30PM I try to call LL but she does not pick up the phone.
I continue to paint.

February 17, 2008
I am about an hour early and have come t the highland Coffeehouse to check my emails: I have none from LL.
Dear Lorena,
What happened yesterday that I never was able to speak with Hannah and Sofia on the phone?
Allan
Well, Ok so what is going on? LL probably knows that CPS is on her. This is the reason why she is always very kind to me in person and on the phone but avoids meeting me or speaking with me like a criminal avoids the law. The last time I saw her was Thursday (today is Sunday) and that was the same day CPS interviewed the children. It was pure fluke that I found out about it. Hannah told me that she had been grilled about my supposed abuse of her just as she was rejoining LL.
The children were with Nancy yesterday and probably the night before. The Lasky’s huddle before they set a bomb. Remember that they are an Italian bunch.
There are three things I am planning for today: go see some baby cows and go to church or vice versa and then go to Girl Scouts.
But I did get the children. I, of course acted in a totally natural way. First I bought them two muscal instruments (a recorder and a harmonica), we played for a while at Toys R Us, then we headed for the ranch of my BMW motorcycle friend in Shelbyville. That was awesome. A calf had just been born, it was still covered in blood, the mother licked it and we watched it learn how to stand up. It suckled and my children were able to watch this. They were not grossed out by the blood. There was a piece of afterbirth on the floor and blood was still coming from the cow’s vagina.
Mark was a great person with the children.
They watched Tim und Struppi movies on the way back to Louisville: Girl Scouts.
Sofia asked me to escort her to the door – I do not know why but it may have had to do with the fact that she and I thought that LL might be there?
Hannah and I watched Tim und Struppi and then rejoined Sofia at Girl Scouts.
Then I took my children to my new home. They liked the kitchen. We rode out bikes from my house to LL’s place.
I asked LL if I could see the children tomorrow and she said “NO.”
.

February 18, 2008
8:00AM Called Helmers to find out about the motion.
A little while later I got this email from Helmer’s secretary:
Mr. Lasky-Headrick,
John is out today, however, I spoke with him this morning on the phone. He said that the motion will not be filed today, however, he will give you a call tomorrow when he returns to the office and let you know of the status
of the motion.

Thanks,
Amanda
John Helmers: you are wasting my children.
10:00AM called ‘linea baja,’ then LL’s cell; just calling to speak with Sofia and Hannah so please call ne back.
11:00AM I call David Weatherspeak of the KGB. I told him about the hatred that the Laskys continue to manifest and asked him to call me back.
1:30PM I went to the parent teacher conference at the Bloom Elementary school and saw that Mark Duke was at the Byck school. I thought to go. I spoke with Ms. Schartzer who praised Sofia’s reading and writing. I asked her “is Sofia more of an artist or more of a scientist?” and she said that she thought Sofia was more of an artist.
And then, as I was walking down the steps I came across Sofia, Hannah and LL. LL put on a good show. I followed them back Ms. Schartzer’s room at which point LL told the children to wait outside with me, but then she changed her mind and told Sofia to come in – thereby separating the children. That left Hannah with me and this pissed Hannah off so she went and hid in the bathroom.
When Sofia and LL came back out, Hannah came to me and gave me a hug. I kissed her on the head. I walked out with them to their car. Hannah said that my breath smelled like dog poop. I told Hannah that I like dogs. Hannah responded that I kiss them on the lips. I said “No, they kiss me on the lips and then I suck their tongues.” LL laughed. (How much do you want to bet she thinks I shot myself in the foot?) But I looked at Hannah and I saw that she was smiling.
Just as they were piling in the car I asked them to call me. They agreed to call at 7:00PM. I note that LL said “but not much after seven since they are having an early bed time tonight.”
I went to CPS again since I have not heard a word about what is going on and this time, without having to speak with anyone there, I simply went and asked for the name of the social worker, I was given the name and number. Her name is Misti Ronau and her phone number is 595 -5158 and her supervisor is called Laura Johnson and her number is 595 – 5410.
7:00PM. I called and after many rings, about six or seven, Sofia picked up the phone. We were talking well about school and this tht and the other (Did Ms. Schartzer say anything that surprised you today? To which Sofia responded that she had been surprised that Ms. Schartzer had not commented on her reading ability, to which I responded that she had told me a lot about her reading. Or what is bigger 4/5 or 7/8? And so on. Suddenly the telephone was cut off. It went ‘click.’ And it was dead.
I tried calling it back again and it only rang. It rang about twenty times.
I called LL’s cell phone and Sofia picked it up. I told her that I had called the other phone and that it had rang twenty times. Sofia said “I never heard it ring.”
I think, but of course I can not prove this, that LL can turn the ringer off on the telephone in the house.
Sofia accused me of not having made an appointment to speak with Ms. Schartzer…
And Sofia and I were able to talk on the phone for a considerably longer period of time. I also spoke for a little while with Hannah while she was playing Nintendo
7:30 or so, I called the social worker who was involved in this case, a certain Miswti Ronou. She was not at work of course but I left a message with my name and phone number

February 19, 2008
I Call the kGB. The secretary or receptionist told me that David had said he would call me back later this week so I was again forced to leave a message on his answering machine: “Hello David, I was just told that you would call me later this week in spite of this continuing to be an urgent emergency, this is Allan Lasky Headrick… Please when you call me back, just apologize for not having called me yesterday. Last time you called me you asked me not to think that you are not calling me back and that is no longer a fair option. David, it is because of you plural that I do not have custody of my children. This concerns me very much. It concerns me for two reasons, one local and one global. The first then is my children Sofia and Hannah who have been unlawfully treated. I do not mean just the law of the land, but I mean the law of god.. It is quite simply impossible to justify your behavior. It has been terrible and it has been wrong. But the second reason has to do with all the other children you come across and I am determined to change your procedural methods, the processes and pathways that you currently follow to make sure that the travesty that you incurred upon my children is never repeated. So, David, you may consider yourselves married to the responsible social caring facet of my personality. But you see, it is not a standard marriage. If you want a divorce, you must help my children. You must make sure that they are not left out in the shit hole you have provided them, you must work to make sure that they get their father back and that means some kind of custody and we must work together to guarantee that what you did to Sofia and Hannah is never repeated to any other child. So, you said that you would do a follow up call. You also said that you felt (and I disagree with you, but that is beside the point because your role has been god or devil like in determining anything in the lives of my children) you said that a one or two week wait was quote reasonable and that interval has transpired, so please call me and let me know what you have actually done, and what you are doing and what you will do. I am very sorry if you feel that I am against you. I am not. I am begging for you to do what you should always have done: provide real therapy for my children and not be in the way of them receiving such therapy. If you had not been adverse to real therapy or even therapy from another professional both of which you have repeatedly been, you would not be in this situation. In any case, I look upon things with a positive disposition and am looking for you to do intelligent, proactive, decent work.”
David called me back shortly later. He started out by telling me that he does return my calls. I listened to this and responded “I acknowledge your having said that and will etch it in my brain.” I did not agree with him though, it is not possible to agree with him.
And I told David that my children were hurt by the work performed. This upset David and he said “OK, this conversation is over.” I said “What do you want me to say? Do you want me to lie to you?” and he stayed on the phone. But it did not take long for him to then say “You are playing the victim.” I denied this. “My children are the real victims and you are the cause.” It was not an easy conversation for him. He tried to put up with it but it was not exactly smooth for him. Finally David told me that he had spoken with LL (today!) and that she had told him that she was “alright with things the way they are and did not want the children to get any more therapy.” I said “Of course not, because the children have learned the hard way that they have been used to play a nasty trick on their relationship with me.” I told him that I was going to stop by the office and he responded that if I did that he would call the police. I was shocked and told him so.
I thought about this.
I am not a normal person, way cooler, way deeper, way more complex.
I decided to go make the child support payment to make sure I am up to date and then go to the KGB office.
I left a note with John Helmers to let me rot in jail if I end up there.
I called David and left a message informing him of what I was doing. I wanted to be sure that I was honest and up front with him. I gave him the option of calling me back to try and dissuade me.
I was driving to the KGB when David called me. He asked me why I was coming to his office and I said “because I need a friend.” I am sure he had no idea how to respond to that, but then he came up with the idea that I should hire a therapist. “I do not need a therapist, I need to speak with you guys since you guys are the issue.” David promised that he and I would be able to talk once a week. I told him that I would not come by his office.

1. Call Mark Duke.
2. Go to Tony and Ginger’s and see if I can shower there and if they are still living there or where they are?
3. To t the storage unit and fill the car up with stuff.
4. Go to the bank.
5. Go to the shop and check my email.
6. Go to the Chip Support payment place.
7. Empty the car here.
8. Go pick up my children.

And I got the following email from LL and a response from Farfar:

Allan--Both girls went to this last year & loved it so I am signing them up again. Also--I need to know ASAP about which two weeks you and your parents want to do vacation this year because I need to plan the girls summer camps and my own vacation time. Last year we ran into problems because I had already paid for some camps & I want to avoid that same issue this year. Priority for GS summer camps was February 15th & the deadline in March 15th. By March 15th, I have to pick their overnight camp & pay a deposit for it is they are to go as they did last year. So, please get back with me soon. I prefer by the end of February. Lorena Lasky


Hello, Rena,

You are doing the right thing by planning in advance for the summer vacation. I take note of the fact that you will register the girls for the Area 9/12 Day Camp, which lasts from June 16 to June 20. I will coordinate with Farmor and Allan and give you the dates for the two weeks during which we would like to take vacation with the girls.

I have also been thinking about Spring Break. Farmor and I are planning to go to Louisville, as we did last year. Could you find out and let me know when Spring Break will be this year? Allan has parenting time during half of it. As we approach Spring Break, please let me know if you have any preferences as far as his parenting days are concerned. Farmor and I will need an answer at least two weeks in advance, for the sake of our own arrangements.

Best wishes,

William

I called the KGB just before picking up my children – it was a few minutes before 5:00PM, and left the following message: “David, this is Allan. Today I got notice again of the depositions of your colleages Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo. And you said to me that you believe the systemic aspect of the work they undertook was good and I disagree with you and infact would like to provide you with procedural methodologies that are non-systemic. But for now I will let those be and am asking you to work with Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo to rectify the incredulous imbalance in their previous disposition. I am absolutely certain that my children feel terrible for the role they have unwantingly given to their therapists. I am certain that Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo know that my children have missed my parenting and want things to become normal. It has been a terrible struggle to be the father of my children, I have no doubt that they have learned that my children want me to be in their lives. So, I am asking you point blank to ask them to state in the depositions that they believe I should be in the lives of my children as a custodial parent. I am asking you to ask Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo to volunteer this information. I am asking you to ask Kim Dial and Ginger Crubo to volunteer that they are not investigators and can not address the truth of the allegations. They could be coached. I am asking you to ask Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo to volunteer that they are in no position to not recommend custody of Sofia and Hannah to their Father, Allan. I will call you back in a week. Thank you.”

And then I chat with Claire real fast:
Allan: Hola Claire, que tal estan ustedes? Yo sigo aqui en Louisville, criando mis hijas Sofia y Hannah.
Claire: what?
Allan: Thank you for answering to my message. It asks how you are all doing and tells that I am in Louisville raising my two daughters.
Claire: i mean how did you get on messenger? and I'm psyched to hear from you
Allan: I had no idea that I was on messenger, it just came up on my computer. My daughter Sofia may have planted that seed.
Claire: oh, great!
Allan: But I am glad to hear from you! I do miss both you and Harald.
Claire: r u ok?
Allan: Yes, I am doing quite well. I just bought a house. It was a much less expensive house than the little house in Texas.
Claire: did u sell the TX one?
Allan: Yes, I got rid of it since I was spending very little time there.
Allan: But there were many aspects of that house that remind me of Harald - starting with the roof.
Claire: are the girls living with you? the roof?
Allan: No the girls do not live with me - maybe at the end of this month? I spend three days a week with them though but then I take them to Rena's house in before bed time.
Allan: The roof on the house in Texas was put on with Harald's help and we used Tony's truck!
Claire : i really want to catch up with you. Now is not a good time. I have a girl and her mother coming at 4 who are Spanish speakers I'm tutoring in English.
Allan: Claire, I do not know how fragile things are about me at your place and I do not want to make any more mistakes. But I want you to know that I have a new phone number and if you want to call me it is 502 714 8577. Yes, I have to pick uo my girls in a few minutes too so I gotta go.
Claire: gracias!
And just as Claire and I disconnected, the phone rang and LL informed me that she had arrived.
Lorena arrived at 5:06, apparently Sofia was in art after school and so as not to go to CEP, LL came at exactly 5:00PM and I got the children five minutes later.
I took the children to Denny’s and then to my house. They were in a very good mood at both places. Hannah just loved the fact that she could get me to kiss her as a punishment for her teasing me. And Sofia did a good job on her science homework. And then I took the children to my house and now the fun became incredible. The children helped me paint the house. I called LL as we were leaving Dennis and told her that we would be at my house and asked her to come to my house to pick up the children. She agreed but it was not easy.
And the painting at my house lasted for a long time. I had a movie playing on the DVD (Avatar) which Hannah enjoyed. The kids stuck their hands in the paint and put their hand prints on the walls. Hannah in the kitchen and Sofia on the wall in the kitchen near the back door and in the basement.
It was a really cook experience. I kissed my children and they were super glad to have come to my home.
When LL came (half an hour late) she refused to come in the house and the children were covered in paint. Oooopps.
LL did not call to complain. I know that she wants to. I know that it is just brewing inside her. But she knows that the depositions of Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo is in about a week --- well, I do not know for sure that she knows, but I bet she finds out before I do, after all, they are on her team.

February 20, 2008
1. 8:00AM Call CPS Misti Ronau at 595 -5158 and her supervisor is called Laura Johnson and her number is 595 – 5410. I did this an neither number picked up the phone. Also the supervisor is on vacation until February 26th (the day of the deposition of the KGB.) I call Misti again at 9:00AM, 10:00AM, 12:00AM…

2. My finances:
I owe my credit card $1500 by the end of this month.
I owe LL $600 for the next month and this one still.
I owe Papole $500 for the loan on this house.
I owe Papole $220 for the financial help just administered.
I must spend say $500 on food.
I must spend say $500 on moving in here.
That adds up to $5000 by the end of next month and the only thing to curb it is $100 from Sweeney and if I get a job about $500.
I owe Subir $30 for YMCA.
And that is really bad news: Imagine $3500 in debt in one month! That says nothing about Helmers. And it include my making half a grand net in a month. If I got another job and made another $1000 and add to that the food stamp money then I will still be $2000 in debt at best!
So, I gotta make more money… any ideas?

And here is an email for LL:
Dear Lorena,


I spoke with the people at Seven Counties and they said that you did not want the children to receive therapy.
They said that you had said “things are alright as they are.” So now the next step is to establish fair and just custody. How do you propose we move in that direction?


Sincerely,


Allan

Ok, David.


Hum? John Helmers did not call me. Wonder what is going on with him?
At 7:00PM I called the ‘linea baja’ but no one answered that phone so I called LL’s cell phone and Sofia picked up the phone. She told me that she was eating dinner. I asked her to call me back when she was finished and she said she would. We said “Love you,” to one another.
Sofia never called me back.
I, of course do not blame Sofia for this. It is hard for Sofia to pick up the phone and call me in the Lasky environment.

February 21, 2008
Alright, I got a second job today that will start in about a week, on February 27, 2008 but it is only a little part time job at UPS.
But there is a mild snow storm going on. I saw that JCPS, the school district, had closed and called LL to see if she would be OK with me spending some time with the children today. I left a message. That happened around noon time. One hour later, at 1:00PM I called LL again to see if I could speak with my children on the phone.
I called Misti, the CPS social worker involved in the lives of my children again today. She has not contacted me and in fact, she has made no attempt to call me as evidenced by my cell phone. I asked her to call me. I said “The fact that I am not calling the CPS hotline does not mean that this is not an emergency. This is a chronic emergency.”
I called LL and here are the times: 11:51AM, 12:56PM, 2:43PM, 4:46PM, 5:01PM, 6:10PM, 6:36PM, 6:46PM and 9:51PM. LL actually picked up the phone at 4:46 which was the fourth time I had called her today. She was not happy that I was picking the children up at 5:0PM and complained that the roads were not safe. She accused me of not calling her sooner and arranging for me to get the children on another day. I, of course told her that I had called her many times already and she had not picked up the phone. Apparently she had not even listened to my voice messages. My voice messages had pleaded with her to let me care for the children for a part of the day since there was no school. I believe she had listened to her voice messages and decided to pretend that her phone did not work today. It is the way this game is played by LL: She pretends some kind of tangential behavior that excuses her failures and at the same time tries to blame me. It is a blatant contradiction to accuse me of not having called her earlier and then to try to get me not to pick the children up and then to use the weather as an excuse…
I assured her that the road were good, that I had been driving quite a bit today and that the roads were not slick. She prepared the children for their time with me.
She had Sofia call me before I picked up the children to ask me if they should bring food and I said “yes,” why not? That would save me from having to take the children to a restaurant.
At 5:01 I called to say that I was on the front porch, I did not speak with anyone.
I drove my children to my home. They watched a movie called “Bear with me,” and Hannah painted the wall. I called LL to make sure she was going to pick the children up from my house and she said she would not. “Ok,” I said “I will take them when I feel like it which will be when the movie is finished.” This upset LL but I said “come get them then.” That was at 6:10PM. LL called me back and asked to speak with the children. I explained to LL that the children were watching a movie, but that in a few minutes I would place it on pause and call her back. This upset her too.
So then, in a few minutes I told the children that they needed to speak with their mother and I put the movie on pause.
LL spoke with the children and told them to come home. They are to stop watching the movie and they are to get in my car an come home.” The children did not want to do that. I promised the children that if Mommy did not come get them, that I would take them home.

We watched the movie a few minutes more and then LL called again and I told her what we were doing and that I would have the children speak with her in a bit.
Again, I had the children speak with their mother. This time the children were not on speaker phone with them and I do not know what they were told but I am sure it was more of the same. Hannah told me to take her home and I said “NO, not now but soon.”
Hannah and I agreed that I would take them home when the movie ended. Sofia did not play any role in t5he game LL was instigating. She let Hannah be the pawn that LL was tooling around with.
The last call I made to LL was at 9:51PM. I asked her if I could spend some time with the children the net morning since I had seen on TV that the school district might delay the opening time for schools. Ll argued that it was very unlikely and did not want to consider hypothetical situations. I asked her to call me the next day if there was a delay.


February 22, 2008
I saw on TV that the schools were delayed by two hours. I tried to call LL but no one picked up the phone.
Misty called me and told me that the weather was her reason for not calling me sooner. Misty told me that she had interviewed Sofia and Hannah and she had not resolved any abuse. She told me that she had only wanted to resolve that Hannah was coached to make an abuse allegation and that she had been threatened with “or I’ll kill you.” A metaphor from Hannah. And so, she went and spoke with the kids at their school and saw nothing worth pursuing. This, of course disappointed me. I accused her of having no moral authority, of being a cog in a social machine that was flawed. She agreed to meet with me to look at the work from the therapists but would not commit to a time or date. She said she had to first speak with LL. She also said that she had to speak with her supervisor. “This is something that will take years of work,” I told her. She said that she would call me back in a couple of days. We were on the phone for at least half an hour. I told her that my children had been coached to lie about their father and specifically about ‘sexual abuse.’ I told her that it was not just LL, it was her family. I told her that the grandmother of the children works for ‘Neighborhood Place,’ and understands how to use the system for her own unethical means. I told her a lot of things but Misty was pretty bored by it all – she told me that “none of the things you say meet the criteria.” She told me that she wanted me to call her back after Judge Patricia Walker Fitzgerald makes a ruling because that may give her direction. I wanted her to do investigative work independent of anything the Judge might order, but she is a ‘cog in a flawed machine.’ “I understand your frustration…” blah blah blah. I informed her that I was intent on making the system better. I expressed severe disappointment that I had not been called and the case had not been investigated, when LL last forced Hannah to make sex-abuse allegations (three months ago.)
Then I called Helmers and he said that Trenaman was filing a motion to have the depositions done by telephone because “I call Seven Counties twenty times per day.” I said “I call them about once a week.” These are the games people play. Helmers said he would email me the motion. I asked Helmers to speak with David Weatherspeak the boss of Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo.
So, now I guess I have to read Helmer’s email.
Ok, so I go to Sunergos, my new favorite coffee shop in Louisville and by the way, a better place than either the Highland Coffee House or Heinebrothers. I read the motion that LL’s lawyer, Mason Trenaman is presenting to the court:
It says: That on the 25th of February, which is Monday’s lawyer will project the following (all lies to the Judge):
“The parties agreed that they would supplement the agreement with depositions from Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo.” It is more like I was forced to do this.
“The depositions had been scheduled but needed to be rescheduled due to reasons out of control of the parties.” That is not true. The last time the depositions were scheduled to take place, Helmers dropped the case. I wanted the depositions to take place without Helmers.
“The depositions are scheduled to start at 9:15 AM” and this is the first I hear this. The remaining statements in the motion are incredibly untrue and I write to John:
Dear John,
“Ms. Dial stated that Mr. Lasky-Headrick was taking inappropriate actions that caused her fear appearing at the depositions.” This is NOT true.
“Per Ms. Dial, Mr. Lasky is now calling Seven Counties twenty or thirty times a day.” Pure crap and this is the kind of back stabbing that makes her a great enemy.
“Additionally, during the last week or so Mr. Lasky has been parking at the Seven Counties Parking lot for up to an hour and staring into the building.” Pure lies. NEVER and the last time I went or drove to Seven Counties was many months ago.
Sorry, my behavior continues and always has been impeccable.
Sincerely,
Allan Lasky-Headrick
I also call John and leave him with a message not to agree with the proposed motion, that the depositions need to take place with everyone present as per norm.
But this is how people in powerful positions (like, Lorena, Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo) cultivate a wrong and terrible image of me. The Judge will be tainted and it will be much harder for me to gain custody of my children.
I wanted to call David Weatherspeak but now that he has become expressly my enemy, I can not. Still, let me write the kind of thing I would have otherwise told David, have you read the motion that Lorena has presented?” This is not true. I am morally outraged that you (plural) would lie. And now, because, you have dropped my children asunder and God knows I should have been able to could to count on you to know better than to act as megaphone for coached statements, I have called CPS and asked them to look into the crime called coaching children to lie about their father to then gain custody of them across several states. CPS does not want to be involved because quote my allegations of coaching does not meet criteria. They interviewed the children one time. I will continue to work with CPS and Seven Counties to change the structure of these so that the travesty that has been committed by these entities is never repeated on other children. Success makes success and the success that has been remorselessly given on Lorena’s side of my terribly distraught marriage has been terrible for Sofia and Hannah. I am asking you to please on moral and ethical grounds put a stop to the destruction of my children’s relationship with me. What I am asking is that you, David, go to Kim Dial and remind her that my children miss me and want me. I use the word remind because she has got to know that. Even if she was blind, and could not resolve the children’s body language, she would still have to know that. But David that is not enough. You need to step up to the plate because my children do not have a soul in this godless place called Louisville, who will speak to discount the previous work of those therapists, it is, as it always had been, exactly and solely your responsibility to place Sofia and Hannah back on track which, god knows is at least joint custody. Do not argue that Richard Nassr can do that. He is a nothing in the eyes of the court compared to the therapists. You are responsible. The success of the Lasky family to coach my children and lead you to destroy my children and me is tragic. There is nothing to mitigate that statement. And David, I am not trying to persuade you to help my children. I have gone that path before and been ridiculed, slandered like a decent old lady during the inquisition called a witch. When I say that I am not interested in persuading you, I mean this: It must ALL come from your own heart, from your selves, based on mores. You are to speak exclusively well of me and when not, then under the god awful cloud of not being investigators. You are to do this implementing decent ethics.”
But the fact is that now, Seven Counties has pre-empted being sued by me (is that what they think I am going to do?) and the game they are playing is unabashed. This is unethical and I think it is so to very high order, because it demeans my quest from custody and impacts Sofia and Hannah. It is an attack against me that may then tangent to strike my chances for being a father of my children.
“Remember that Nancy is a friend of the therapists,” said Papo.
Amazing. My poor children.
I sent LL the following email:
Dear Lorena,
School was delayed by two hours this morning and I had asked you, last night, to consider allowing me to spend a little time with the children (Sofia needs help with her science homework) if this happened. Why didn’t you call me?
Please call me.
Thank you,
Allan


Alright, here is an email from Girl Scouts:
Just a Reminder----

This Saturday Feb 23 is the Thinking Day activity 10-12:30 pm at Slugger Field; we will meet at Deer Park between 9:15 and 9:30 am.

Here is the list of girls and adults that are pre-registered and already paid for:
Girls: 13
Alexis, Emma, Jasmine, Alicia, Lindsey, Katie B, Katie E, Sofia, Zoe, Maggie, Helen, Olivia, and Vera

Adults: 6
BethAnn, Kelly, Barb, Lori, Elizabeth, and Carolyn Cassella

Remember to bring 5-10 dollars in quarters. (Put in a sandwich bag with your name and troop # 1071 on it)

Bizianes -- I know you are coming late, just call me once you get there I will have your tickets 905-2288.

If Mae would like to come we just need to pay for her at the door.
___________________________________________________________________________

Also we will have cookie pick-up this Saturday after the Thinking Day Activity, which will be around 1:30 pm, at my parents house 848 Fetter Ave, you can mapquest the address or call me for directions.

Thanks,
Kelly
905-2288
And then to top it off, Helmers wants to stop representing me. I got the motion to withdraw at 5:00PM. This is when Helmers closes his office. Today is Friday so I will be unable to contact Helmers until Monday morning which is when the motion will be presented in court. Hum? What caused this? Well, I reckon Helmers realized that he was getting nothing accomplished to help my children. He has, after all done nothing for a very long time --- six months? More? This may be a way to save face. But let’s not trivialize recent events. The motion from Trenaman about Kim Dial and her outrageous lies may have broken Helmers. And then there is the fact that tomorrow is the deposition of Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo (Please do not forget that I write ‘Dr.’ in front of Ginger Crumbo’s name with the same outrage as a person writes things like “Dr. Mengele or Dr. Bitch”) and John Helmers has done nothing in preparation for those depositions. Indeed he has not even requested the documents from the therapists and has no idea what they are capable of saying. Then there is the strange possibility that if I represent myself, that the issue of deposing in my absence becomes obscured? I don’t know what is going on, but I do know this: Louisville is a terrible place for my children.
At 7:00PM I try to call my children. No one answers either telephone number and so on the cell phone number which has a voice mail I leave the following message: “Heypodey Rena, would you please have Sofia and Hannah call me. That would be correct, that would be good and that would be sociologically decent.”
7:20 I try calling both numbers again but it is in vain.
7:30 again same thing so I call Nancy and leave the following message: “Hello Nancy, this is Allan and I hope you are having a nice evening. I was calling to speak with Sofia and Hannah so if you could get in touch with them and ask them to call me that would be wonderful. Thank you.”
7:40PM I call Rebecca and leave a very similar message.
I call Farfar and tell him that Helmers is withdrawing from the case. I think Farfar was surprised. He said “Are you going to be there when he makes the motion in court?” and I said “Yes, because I do not want him to leave me.”
Then Farfar said “Helmers has no excuse if you are not behind in making payments of legal fees and beginning with another lawyer would be a very great expense. Say that to the Judge.”
I have made all payments that Helmers requested and moreover the motion that he sent me does not make any mention of delinquent payments. So I am just in the lurch. Que pasa? What is really going on here?
Delayed Gratification? When has that paid off in this case? (That remark is what the concentration camp victims call ‘humor.’)

February 23, 2008
I called at 8:45AM and Vera picked up the phone and then transferred it to Sofia and I was barely able to say anything to Sofia when she told me she had to get off the phone. I told Sofia “Ok, tell Mommy I would like to go to Girl Scouts.” And she said “I’ll give the phone to Mommy.” As soon as I presume LL had the phone it got disconnected. But then it rang and this time LL was on the phone and she said “If you got to Girl Scouts today then you will loose two and a half hours with your chidren tomorrow.” And to this, I of course responded “That’s fine,’ but then she took it back and said that I would be breaking the “court order,” so I changed the topic of conversation and asked her when I could speak with the children on the phone and she said “Not now,” and then she hung up on me.
I sent LL the following email:
Dear Lorena,
Here is almost the same email I sent to you last month: One month ago (or so) I asked for us to get together at a coffee shop for a cordial interaction about the children. We need to speak with one another about their lives both at present and in the future.

And this too, you have seen before but not responded to: I just ate a dish with blue cheese and it reminded me of one of your dishes – the shepherds pie with blue cheese. (Lorena, I loved and still love that food) Have you made it for Sofia and Hannah? If I compliment Sofia and Hannah on your dish….?

I am having a hard time getting through to my children on the telephone. Today you agreed that you would have them call me today. You and I spoke as you were getting ready to go to the Girl Scouts event -- that you forbade me from attending and I asked you to have the children call me.

Lorena, I respect your right to smoke. Can you please hide this from the children. Please respond to this request.
Nancy also ,most probably, smokes and this is also not good for the children if they see it. Please respond to this too.
May I invite you and the children to tea or coffee and yummies at Starbucks or to falafel, humus and babaganoush at the Mediterranean restaurant next to Starbucks? Please let me know.
Do you remember that I facilitated your seeing the children for ten or fifteen minutes on the 22nd of January. Do you think I could see my children for a similar time one of the evenings when you have them. How about this coming Friday or Saturday? Just to say hello or good night to the children?

Could you please give Hannah a kiss on the top of the head and tell her it is from me through you to her?
Can you please find a way to get me copies of the scrap books?
Can you please show the children how to receive and send emails to me? I do this also, but I can not show them in your house and that is where they need to practice the endeavor.
Can you please agree with me that Hannah should be able to communicate with Sarah and Scottie (that does not mean that she will, only that she can.) If Hannah asks, I would like to tell Hannah that you told me it was something that can happen. If it is something that can not happen, then you must tell her because I cannot take responsibility for cutting her connection to Sarah and Scottie.
Last semester (toward the end) Hannah was present at a meeting that sounds to me like it was an IEP meeting but was not labeled that way by you. Please update me on that meeting and please provide me with all the documents that you got at that meeting. Also please tell me who her counselor is, who were the people at that meeting?

Can we make up one of the days that Hannah was sick or any of the many other days?

Sincerely,
Allan

February 24 (Sunday) 2008
Well, it is about an hour before I go to pick up my children. I will take them to a new restaurant for breakfast (I think my children enjoy the variety) and then we may go to the Unitarian Church (?) and then we may go to the YMCA? We can come to my home and paint or draw or watch a movie.
For most of us the wonder of life comes to us through with sight, but we look at life with such unseeing eyes. We feel for life with such unfeeling touch. God help LL, if there is one.
Back of the house, Hannah comes down and says she is preparing her head,
Lie about the swim suit.
Haggle about going to gattiland.
They get the swim suits.

Ride bikes to gas station.
Hannah walked. Put my hat on her.
She looked fragile.
Go into car and debate a breakfast place – a donut shop with wifi.
The kids are good about one, then two, then three donuts, Sofia wants a new account on yahoo. Credit card fiasco.
Go to church too early,
Sofia refuses…
Sofia is a dram.
Hannah enjoys piano, singing and then children’s time read a book: I ain’t gonna paint no more.
Minister says that Sofia became better…
Then the children make art down stairs and I was looking forward to interacting with some of the adults when suddenly the kids needed to leave
It was snowing and the children were playing when I come out and then we drove to the supermarket – the Kroger where LL usually LL shops and that was fun for the kids even though there was no sushi (which is what Sofia wanted.) and as I was finishing they run back into the store. My children are free in the supermarket.
Then we go to my house. The climb the tree. I unload bikes, swim suits and food,
Leaves on the trees are now the coupons from the supermarket.
Watch a movie “called Fly Away Home,”… the children did not like the idea of the kitchen. So they set themselves up in the living room.
I moved the TV etc…
Subliminally the children picked up o the movie for sure. This was evident several hours later.
And then I was going to take my children to the Senegalese grocery store around the corner and then go bike riding with them, when Hannah stated that she wanted to jump from the tree. However, the branch (and it was the same branch that she had swung from earlier) this time broke and she fell. She cried. She was hurt but I could not tell where. I felt to see where she was hurting but she could not assist me much. At first she said that she hurt on her nose, then she said that she hurt on her leg. I looked at her nose and I looked at her leg and they both looked OK to me. I gently picked her up and held her in my arms. “I want Mommy,” Hannah cried. I said “Yes, let’s call Mommy.” This upset Hannah because she did not want to just call Mommy, she wanted to go to Mommy, so I carried her to the car and told her that we were going to Mommy. We tried to call LL many times. I tried at least three times and then Sofia and Hannah tried several times as well but LL never picked up the phone. Hannah left a message describing that she had fallen from a tree.
Then I suggested we call “Grammy.” Sofia called Grammy and Grammy told Sofia that Mommy is at ‘home’ but if Mommy is not at ‘home’ then she (Nancy) will come to Mommy’s house and pick up Hannah. At that point I said to Sofia that I wanted to speak with “Grammy,” but Nancy refused to speak with me and hung up the phone. I called Nancy to tell her that if LL was not there, that I would bring Hannah to Nancy’s place. Hannah and Nancy agreed to this.
We were just then arriving at LL’s place when John Cohen called. He said that Nancy had spoken with him and that he was available to help in any way that we needed. He said that we should call for any reason. I told John that Hannah was getting out of the car on her own and that I thought she was pretty much OK, and I added that “we all love you very much.” He said “thank you for informing me of that.” This was a very matter of fact response and I took great pity because John is a terribly encumbered creature in the Lasky matrix.
So, we did not paint my house today. We did not go to the Senegalese grocery store and we did not ride bikes.
But I took Sofia to the Vietnamese restaurant on Bardstown Road and this was a very good experience for us. We did a lot of math. Sofia learned long division! I am incredulous that at age 9 the school has still not taught her this. By the end, Sofia was able to divide 123456789 by 3. However, when it came to dividing 135792468 by 21 she demanded my attention and although she watched me do it and saw that it was not too hard, she did not do it herself. Still, I reckon that now she is well above her classmates in the ability to do long division. And then, what was really fun was that I drew a rectangle and showed her that if the one side was three units long and the area was 123456789 units squared that she had calculated the unknown side. “Oh!” she said “let me check my work.” And she multiplied the sides of the ectangle and confirmed that the area was indeed one two three four five six seven eight nine.
At about 6:30PM LL called and said “We do not need to take Hannah to the hospital so we’re going home now.” I said “OK, I’ll see you there.”
We walked back to LL’s place. As we walked Sofia asked me about the movie she had seen at my home. She asked “Do you think Amy liked her Dad at the end of the movie?” I said “Yes, because she was really worried when he crashed the airplane and she was super happy when they were together in North Carolina.” I then explained that her dad had not been a good dad while she was in New Zealand and he only became a good Dad when he went to pick her up and brought her to Canada.
“Her mother took her away to New Zealand,” she said.
We also played some word games and word association games.
When we arrived at LL’s I asked LL if she would let me in to say good night to Hannah and she agreed. I kissed Hannah and let her know that I love her very much and that I will see her the day after tomorrow. Hannah was watching AVATAR – a comic strip on TV.
Sofia was proud of the weaving that she had made and that she had shown Hannah how to make but unfortunately she placed it on the coach side table. LL was upset because she did not want the table scratched.
That was funny for me since the material used to weave with had been thin strips of wood pulled from my front door.


Sofia, now if a wolf eats a sheep and a sheep eats a flower and you have to take a wolf, a sheep and a flower in a row boat across the river, how can you do this?
Answer. Take the wolf and the flower. leave both. Then go back for the sheep.
But what if the flower makes the wolf allergic?
Answer: take any two. Leave one. Come back for the other and bring two again to the other side.
What is 1 X 2 X 3 X 4 X 5? Ans: 120 This is called 5! (factorial) Now, if 5! = 120 what is 5!/4!

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February 25, 2008: The motion to have me be absent or to have the depositions done by telephone is considered in court.
I arrived in court at exactly 10:00AM. My name and LL’s was the first to be called. I went to the Judge and she indicated that I should sit down again since the attorneys were not present.About half an hour later Mason Trenaman came in. As he walked out of the court room he said “Mr. Headrick, John and I are next door and we will be out in a little.”
It took another ten minutes and as soon as they had had their little chat, they came out. I had not been able to speak with Helmers yet. I reckon Helmer’s wanted that.
And then the Judge brought up the motion that Trenaman had presented. Mason Trenaman stated that he did not want to put his name on a motion that was not exact and he quoted Kim Dial as having said that “it contained inconsistencies.” He asked that the court remand the motion. Of course: the motion was made of false statements. But the judge still got to read them and so they served their purpose for the Lasky camp.
And then the Judge agreed to allow John Helmers to withdraw. I asked the Judge to allow me to get another lawyer in time for the depositions and she agreed. But then Helmers asked to let us see if we can work something out. So I left with one loss and one win. I lost Helmers and I won against the KGB in superficial technical senses anyways. Now, just as the Judge was able to read the motion and that serves the Laskys a partial win, I may be able to get Helmers back into my camp.

As Helmers, Trenaman and myself were leaving the office I overheard Trenaman say to Helmers, “Thank you John.” I immediately interjected “Thank you Mason.”

Helmers asked me “what do you want?” and I told him I wanted help with the depositions. I do not think he wants to help with those but he did not say “NO.” He said he would call me later today. Helmers explained that the reason he had wanted to withdraw was because he was scared by the events that had recently transpired between Seven Counties and myself. He said that the note I left him about possibly going to jail because of possibly going to Seven Counties and the motion recently presented to Seven Counties had made him doubt me as a client. I stated that my attempt to visit Seven Counties had served the purpose of causing Seven Counties to agree to speak with me on the telephone once a week – that I had then agreed not to go there and that the statements in the motion were all false.

On my way back to the car I stopped by his office and wrote Helmers a note:

Dear John,
Please annul or destroy the motion to withdraw signed by the Judge today. Please know that I have NEVER taken my cat to 7 Counties without their permission. I have called on average about 1.1 times per week for the last 6 months and we reached an agreement to speak 1/week. Please call me today at 714 – 8577. Sincerely, Allan R. Lasky-Headrick

And so it goes:

At 1:30PM I called LL to ask her how is Hannah doing? She did not say much in answer to this question but instead asked me “are you in court?” and I responded “almost!” and then she said something that I had not known: “There is a hearing about child support and I am on my way there.”
“Ok, I will see you there and we can talk about Hannah when I see you there.”
I got in my car and headed straight for the court house. I met Helmers as I was just ascending the steps to the court house. I said “I gotta go meet Rena who is waiting in the court house.” “No, she is not there,” he said. I started walking with him back towards his office but first tried to call LL. She did not pick up the phone and I did not leave a message since I was with Helmers and I guess, I decided I had gone through enough to try and meet her anyway. Helmers told me that the issue of child support had been already addressed by him and that effectively I had won. I walked back to his office with him. “I reckon Lorena has been overbearing the courts with this concern and they may be bothered by her antics,” John said. “The issue that was brought up in court today was the exact same issue that had been brought up last time and it was rejected by the court last time for the same reason that it was rejected this time.”

So again, LL tried to get me locked up in jail: threatened my ability to parent Sofia and Hannah this week, threatened my ability to attend the depositions tomorrow, threatened my ability to establish the Judge’s orders from about a year ago – that still requires the signature of Judge Patricia Walker-Fitzgerald.

“John, I am not worried about anything associated with the case. I do not know if that helps you in terms of deciding if you want to continue to represent me, but if it does then that is good for both of us.” He did not respond. I told him that “it is more important to know if he is going to annul or destroy the motion to withdraw from the case than it is to be present at the depositions tomorrow.” He promised that he will call me today.

Helmers called me at 6:00PM. He said “Here is what I think we should do: meet before the depositions and then you can do them on your own.”
“Ok, what time should we meet?”
“Eight o’clock?
“Yes, eight o’clock is good with me, thank you John.”

So, John is helping himself to withdraw from the case by helping me with this last step a little bit.




And then I returned home to prepare for the depositions tomorrow.

Peter came to provide me with moral support.


7:00PM I call the ‘linea baja’ but no one picks up the phone. So, I called LL’s cell phone and left the following message:

“Hello Rena, this is Allan and I am calling to speak with Sofia and Hannah. Also, I am sad that I did not see you in the court house. Helmers told me that you were not there. I guess you just left? You could have called me? Anyways, can you please have Hannah and Sofia call me tonight? Thank you super duper very mega ultra hyper incredibly much.”

I called Farfar and he expressed that LL had not responded to his email about Spring Break. I suggested that it might be a better idea to send LL another email asking if the Headricks could have the children for either the first or the second half of the spring break – as ever he would like. I told him the dates of spring break.

10:00PM I called the ‘linea baja,’ but no one picked up the phone so I called LL’s cell phone and left the following message:
“Hello Rena, this is Allan. I hope you, Hannah and Sofia had a wonderful evening. I missed them this evening since they and you did not call. If it is possible, tomorrow on the way to school, would you mind having them the opportunity to call me -- while they are in the car? I would appreciate that very much. Thank you.”

And then I went to sleep. It has been a long legal day and tomorrow will be long as well.

February 26, 2008: Today is the depositions of the KGB. I know that I dreamed of deposing the KGB. I was not able to sleep and finally got out of bed at around 4:30AM.

Lorena sent me this email:
See below.

You signed her up for Thursday 6-8. I will meet there at 7pm to take over the last hour.

Lorena Lasky


________________________________________
From: k_wallace@hotmail.com
To: lmlasky@hotmail.com; alacy@humana.com
Subject: Thursday Booth Sales
Date: Mon, 25 Feb 2008 17:43:05 +0000

Just a reminder----

Alicia, Jasmine, and Sofia will be doing Booth Sales this Thursday Feb 28 from 6-8pm at Kroger's in the Highlands if for some reason you can't keep this time please let me know ASAP.

Thanks,
Kelly



And here is a quote from a President I have liked that surprised me because it made me think of what LL is like today:
"Let our position be absolutely clear: An attempt by any outside
force to gain control of the Persian Gulf region will be regarded
as an assault on the vital interests of the United States of
America, and such an assault will be repelled by any means
necessary, including military force."
President Jimmy Carter
State of the Union Address, January 23, 1980
www.jimmycarterlibrary.org/documents/speeches/su80jec.phtml


well, now the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq make sense...

"Let our position be absolutely clear: An attempt by any outside
force to gain control of the children will be regarded
as an assault on the vital interests of the children , and such an assault will be repelled by any means
necessary, including unethical means."
anonymous LL
State of the Family Address, January 23, 1980



I made it to John Helmers office at exactly 8:00AM and he was there to receive me. He basically said that the blunder performed in court yesterday discredited the testimony of the therapists. He said my situation for having the Judge order the next step of normalcy were excellent.
I asked him if he would continue to be my lawyer and he said it depends on what I want. I told him “I am like Jesus, I have come to Louisville to fix the institutions that have wrecked my children.” He said “No, I will not help you with that.”
“What about helping me get custody of my children?” I asked. “Yes, that is all I will do.” So we effectively agreed that he is still my lawyer.

And then I walked over to Mason’s office and the hell began. This entire hell is recorded buy a court reporter as well as by myself.

Ok guten Morgen. Es ist Fünf Minuten nach Neun und in Zehn Minuten fangen die Depositions an. Und das ist in dem Buro von Mason Trenaman. Gestern waren wir vor den richter, und Judge Patricia Walker Fitzgerald hat den motion von Rena anund Kim dial remanded. In deisen Motion haben sie behaubted sdass is 20 bis 30 mall angerufen habe. Das ich dad ort mein Austo parker in dem park platz von David Weatherspeak und dass ich mich unerhort benehme. Auf jedem Fall ist der Anwahlt von Rena dort gekommen und hat den Richter erzahlt dass die Sachen die in dem motion geschrieben worden sind nicht richtig sind, oder zu mindest nicht ganz richtig sind und er mochte sein name nicht damit verbundet haben und hat gefragt ob es moglich ware die Motion zu remanden.
(Tel rings.)
Hello this is _____ at UPS and I am just calling to confirm that you will be at work tomorrow….

Hey yes hello, oh yes absolutely 100%, 9:30 I know where to go thank you bye bye.
(I hang up.)
Ok das war UPS und ich muss Morgen um halb Zehn arbeiten.

OK. Ich habe mit mein Anwahlt gesprochen Heute Morgen und er hat gesagt meine Situazion sieht sehr gut aus. Er hat sich das alles vorgespielt in seinem Kopf gestern abend oder vieleicht auch heute Morgen und er hat gesagt dass dieser Fehler von 7 Counties ein grosser Fehler von ihnen gewesen ist. Sie haben ihre wörter verschmutzt dadurch da sie haben sachen gesagt die sie dann nicht mehr behaupten. Also sie haben gelogen.
Und dann hat Helmers gesagt das sehr emfält da ich wenige Fragen stelle aber er fand es lustig daβ ich ungefähr Hundert Fragen habe. Er hat mir einige Fragen gestellt die ich dan aufgeschrieben habe. Er meinte wären die richtigen Fragen zu stellen. Und yetzt bin ich auf dem Weg zu Trenemans Büro. Ich bin vieleicht ein Block entfernt? Ich bin zu weit gegangen, und sogar über die Straβe. Na ya.

Wir werden sehen wie sich das hier alles abspielt.

I enter the conference room of Mason Trenaman. LeeAnn Gardner is already there and so is the court reporter. Trenaman is on the phone with LL and indicates that she will be arriving a little late in his response to LL on the phone.

Trenaman starts by introducing some legal jargon and details who is in the room and then explains to me that in court yesterday, the Judge had stated that I could postpone the depositions and asked me if I was ready. I said “yes.”

Uhm, alright Ms. Gardner could you tell briefly your back ground and your qualifications. I find this not worth transcribing – but she said that she was involved in the mental health profession for about 25 years.

The phone rings and Mason says “she is on her way, but let’s just go ahead and get started.”

M.T.: It says here that you are a licensed mirage and family therapist?
LG: Right.
M.T.: Tell the court please what that means. Because we are in court talking about a couple of children and we are dealing with a couple of adults.
LG: We work with the system. And that makes us a little bit different in working with the system, than other licensed professional social workers. We work with the relationships and see how they are to operate within the system.
M.T.: And in this particular case is it fair to say that the system was Lorena Lasky, Allan Lasky-Headrick, Sofia and Hannah?
LG: That would be the smallest system.
M.T.: And playing into that would be the extended family members, Nancy Lasky, maybe the sister and brother in law and maybe from Allan’s side his parents.
L.G.: Yes.
M.T.: Could you tell us please what your contact was with these family members.

L.G.: I met only with Allan and Lorena. I did not meet with the children and I met with them to make an assessment on 08 of 05.
M.T.: What was the purpose of that assessment?
L.G.: To set goals.
M.T.: What were the goals that were established at that time?
L.G.: The goals that were established at that time were for Allan to have input and for agreement to be reached on the child issues – school and medical issues, those kinds of things. Secondly to negotiate the phone calls and the visits within the guidelines established by the court. And second to establish the functioning of the phone calls and emails.
M.T.: And how did you come to become involved with this case?
L.G.: I was told by the guardian ad litem in Texas, I can not remember his name.
M.T.: Craig Hansen?
L;G.: Yes, Craig Hansen.
M.T.: After that initial assessment, how often did you meet with Mr. Lasky-Headrick and Ms. Lasky?
L.G.: I met a total of 13 sessions from November to july of 07.
Why did things terminate in July of 07?
Don’t know.
Have either of the parties requested any more meetings?

L.G.: I got a phone message from Mr. Lasky-Headrick telling me his phone number and anther saying that he would like to meet again if Lorena agrees.

Right now the court order requires that any overnight parenting requires supervision.

There were no risk factors that arrased them in sesion but I was aware of the history.

What was that history?

Sexual abuse allegations.

Did you make recommendations to either of them. I made no recommendations about the contact with the children?

So that was beyond the scope of your work.

Yes very much

And you did make recommendations with coparneting.

I would get totally different stories from the parties. Ms Lasky would state that the emails and telephone calls and emails had happened and Mr. Lasky-Headrick would say that

We actually nailed down the numbers of emails and telephone calls.

The parties disagreed on who did what when and how.

I think they had very divergent goals.

What was the underlying goal of Ms. Lasky and she stated that she was concerned about the safety of the children wanted supervised contact for their health and safety and financial issues. Mr. Lasky Headrick stated several times that he wanted sole custody.

Then Leeann goes on to say that Lorena acts like a manner that guarantees her safety and that includes placating the victimizer and she thought that Lornena had at times shown this. She would very carefully choose her words and so on. With the words of Mr. Lasky Headrick I do not know if I would label it a perpetrator but I would say that he would barrel through and he would try to control conversations and make sure the conversations ha[[eme as he wanted them to.

You know that Hannah is adopted.

Can you tell me about that.
Allan was sneaky and pulled a trick and Allan had made a unilateral decision to let Hannah meet her birthmother.























At the end of the depositions I begged LL to call me so that we might talk and she played evasive saying “I will see you at 5:15PM when you get the children.”

Mein Gott dass ist echt unglaublich: Meine Ex-Frau, was fuer ein Spiel sie spielt! Sie ist knall Hart. Ich habe sie dann ganz am Ende gefragt ob sie mir telefnieren kann und ob wir dann ueber die Kinder sprechen koennen und sie hat mire

nur gesagt “um viertel nach funf werde ich dir die Kinder bringen.

Hum?

Diese ganze Situation diese ganze Lage ist echt so schlect! Ich habe beide Ginger und Kim gefragt ob es möglich ware mit ihnen su sprechen und sie haben beide ‘nein’ gesagt, und mit David Weatherspeak was macht er? Was ist dass für ein Spiel. Na ya interesant. Was würde einem man wir David dazu zwingen eine bescherte luege in diesem Betweverb zu ausern? Ist es moglich das ser dass mit klat blutig und mit absicht gesagt hat oder ist es möglich das ser sich geirrt hat? Echt unglaublich!

Hum?

Ist daβ ein Spiel? Er sah wirklich … umgehauen aus als ich ihm Heute getroffen habe und seine Hand geschutelet habe. Naja.

Ok, ich habe jetzt diese Terapisten gehört. Was solls?


5:00PM LL calls me saying “I was caught up in a meeting now they are coming out of a chess club and art club meetings so if you can go to the front of the school to get them. Now, they do not know that I am not there to pick them up.
“I will call you,” I said “so that you can tell them.”
I turned the recorder on so that the first hour with my children is sound recorded and you may listen to it. And I went to the front of the school. Sofia came running towards me and then ran past me. She was very upset that Mommy had not come. In fact, her chest was heaving! I was by now with LL on the phone and I gave the phone to Sofia. She spoke for a good bit with LL, mostly about the fact that she was wearing black pants (like she was supposed to) but other children had not come to school dressed – for the school photograph.

But Sofia was very loving and hung on my arm. I do not believe the children know that LL and I were with the KGB today. I did not tell them anything, give them any hint. It was like that was a thing of the future – nothing. But we were in the car and we were looking at license plates (and making them up) and we came across one that had KGN and Hannah said “That sounds like Kim and Ginger.”

But the children at first were worried about where we were going to go. Hannah did not want to go to my house and she indicated that it was because of the incident and her nose (she had fallen from the front tree.) The children really wanted to go to the Golden Choral – utterly out of the question financially for me – but that is OK.

So I drove them to my house and Hannah was now the first to get out and all she wanted to do was climb the tree. Sofia on the other hand decided that she was going to stay in the car. She did for quite a long time but eventually she came back in.

It turned out that Hannah did not have her ‘agenda with her homework,’ so I had to provide her with a separate homework. The homework I assigned her was to watch a movie in German.

I called LL and told her that we were at my home, that she should pick the children up here and that Hannah was unable to do her homework.

The children ate mostly chicken noodle soup and bread. They were really interested in flushing the toilet with water from a bucket – I do not have running water in the house yet.

Today the children explored the basement.

They would like to paint the whole basement.

And then Farfar called and he spoke with both children for a long time – especially since they were actually watching AVATAR on TV.

At 7:00PM I called LL and asked her when she was picking up the children. She denied having gotten my message from an hour ago. “Look Rena, I just want things to be fair, decent, ethical, moral and correct.” I pick the children up from your house and you pick the children up from my house.”

But then LL said that she had a migraine headache and so I said “OK, I’ll bring the children to you.”

But of course that took a while – half a hour. I had to convince the children that they need to go to LL’s and this was not interesting to them.

And they were very happy in the car playing all kinds of crazy word games: Instead of calling Hannah’s teacher Mark Duke we called him Mark Duke Skywalker and so on.

My only words to LL when the children entered the house were “Do you think you might be able to call me in a little?” LL said “Sure.” After dropping the children off, I sent an email: Farfar wants to write a letter to LL about Spring Break so I sent him the following email:

Dear Farfar,
As of today, the Judge has everything needed to decide whether the children need to stay with you in the bed and breakfast or whether they can stay with me. Of course I do not care where they stay, but I want it to be clear that you are not cornering yourselves into being supervisors any more. I think you can not supervise because it is utterly unnecessary and your email does not make that clear. If you think the issue of supervision does not matter, then you should not pretend that it matters. Although I think it is a great idea to leave you with Hannah and Sofia for overnight slumber parties, I do not want us to be FORCED to have that be the case and so I would rather you not specify where the girls will sleep. Again, it is fine if they stay with you while you are in Louisville but you need not tell that to LL because it is better if it happens due to a normal psych. Do you understand what I am saying? Let me put it to you in other words: If you want to pretend that you will be supervising during spring break then you may not have the children at the bed and breakfast. On the other hand, if you are acting like normal people and recognizing that the kids would be with their parent but since the grand parents are visiting they end up with their grand parents that is fine.
I know that I run the risk that you will now strike a deal with LL. If I find out that you did this, I will be very upset.
Ok, so you must know that I love you very much and that I do not expect you to change any of your feeling about me and the children.
Hannah is a very difficult kid to speak on the phone with and you managed to do so for several minutes!
The depositions went as expected. The therapists and the marriage counselor said their worthless comments all over again. Helmers was not there. It lasted about three hours.
Lots of love,
Allan

LL never called.


February 27, 2008: Today report cards get given out by the Bloom elementary school, I better call again and also, Mark Duke did not call me back so I have two reasons to call him.
8:00AM I call Mark Duke and leave a message for him to call me back.
8:45AM Mark Duke called and he spoke very highly about Hannah. He described her as extremely intelligent and beautiful. We spoke for a long time and I thanked him for his influence on Hannah.
UPS at 9:30 AM
.
February 28, 2008: I need to be at UPS at 8:30AM.

Hey look! Just when farfar was going to send LL an email she sent him this – a belated response, but 9 days is a better wait than a thousand days. No, but isn’t it curious that Farfar had expressed me interest in how to plan or what can be done about Spring Break and I had sent him an email and then LL writes back – it’s as if I had caused her to write?

William,

thanks for your reply.

I am glad you are coming to visit for Spring Break again. The break is from April 5th to 13th. Regarding your question about Spring Break, I have an annual women's retreat/workshop I go to with my dance group I am a member of. They have put in a request to reserve the house where we go for the first & last week of Spring Break. I am waiting on them to tell me which of the two weekends we have the retreat. As you can guess, it would be most helpful to me & to the girls, too, I think if you can visit them the same weekend I have the retreat. They will not see me that weekend--typically my mother has babysat them. I just sent another email to the coordinator to find out if she has heard which of the two weekends we will do this. I will let you know as soon as I hear from her. What is your deadline to buy your tickets?

THe girls want to go to a residential girl scout camp as they did last year. There are only two weeks available--June 8-13 or July 27-8/1. I put the early June one as first choice on their application. I Will let you kow as soon as I hear that, too.

Do you have any idea what two weeks you would like to vacation with the girls?

Lorena

So then what do you think I should do at this juncture? I think it might be interesting to send LL an email. In the deposition of Kim Dial, Kim stated that she could not understand why I would want the children to be re-involved with them. Obviously, I am not interested in a bandaid fix ( – the American way!)

Dear Lorena,
Please make sure to send my thanks to Nancy Lasky for taking care of the children during the week end when you could not be with them because of the annual women's retreat/workshop that you go to with your dance group that you are a member of, during the spring break of past years. You write that “typically my mother has babysat them” and I, of course, do not want to deprive Nancy of the children, so please make sure to have her call the children during that time. In fact, if she expresses the wish to see the children during the Spring Break week end, I believe she can even join us for a good amount of time.
Allan

And an email from my friend Lionsharecology:

Hi Allan,

How is the new house going and when are you moving in? I think your doughters will love having a second house that they can call home or at least on a part tim ebasis for the moment. I guess they would even have their own rooms!

As for the mail issue, as always i need to ask you for a favouir and that it can I have the mail sent to your place from the post office and if so can I get your address please.

If you can not do this I understabd but if you can then that would be great.

Please let me knwo

your brother

Lionsharecology


To which I respond:

Dear Lionsharecology,
My address is
Allan Lasky-Headrick
1329 Lillian Ave,
Louisville, KY 40208
United States of America.

And this is a nice house for my children and me. It is a poor little house and the children are aware of this but they like it quite a bit. We have painted the kitchen with all the colors of the rainbow.

Your Brother,
Allan
And after a headlong rush: work at UPS, then to Angela’s house, then to the storage shed, then to the coffeeshop to pick up the jacket I had left there the night before (when hanging out with Peter) I arrived at the Highland Coffee shop a little early: 4:45PM. I checked my email. AT 5:00LL was not there but she has told me that 5:15PM is a more usual time so I wait but at 5:15 there is still no sign of her so I call her. She tells me she will be a little later.

I got the children at 5:28PM.

Hannah came into the Highland Coffee House and found me. Then I got Sofia from LL’sw car. LL told me that there was no need to do homework with the children, that they had already completed their assignments. The children concurred. I now had only thirty minutes before Girl Scouts started.

Sofia was to sell Girl Scout Cookies at the Kroger Supermarket on Bardstown road. We drove there and then ate dinner at the McDonalds on the other side of the street. Sofia calculated how many minutes it took for us to get there and determined by what time we needed to start walking back. It was not a long time and Hannah was desperate to play in the playscape and so while they played I purchased the food. I would go to the Playscape every now and then to call out “BOOOO!” into te main tunnel. Sofia determined that if she clapped her hand five times then that meant it was enough Boooing and that happened when I started crawling up the chute to get them. Oh well! (A social worker who misinterprets this is like many others.)

And then we walked back to Kroger where Sofia said that she wanted to get ‘sushi which we got and as we emanated from the supermarket we found her troop setting up and we assisted.

Hannah was not easy. She got it in her head that she wanted to sell the monsters that she and Sofia had gotten at McDonalds for ten cents. Finally a man purchased a monster for a quarter and this pleased Hannah no end. But then she had to sell the second monster for fifty cents and that just wasn’t going to happen.

The clincher happened when she discovered that she could reach with her fingers into the rocking horse machine (where the change is expelled) and pull out money. She then spent a good fifteen minutes pulling out coins and buying kicknacks with these. I said “Hannah, is this stealing?” she said “Yes,” but I had to ask her twice.

LL came at 7:28PM. She wanted me to leave right away but I told her that I had no pressing issues and if she didn’t mind I could stay and since now she was spending most of the time with Sofia at the Girl Scout Cookie sale, I was able to be with Hannah one on one. This is a rare chance. I had been able to be with Sofia when Hannah had fallen off the tree, but never been able to be with Hannah on my own. We played with all kinds of ideas about how to spend money.

At 8:00PM it was time to dismantle the cookie sales. While LL shopped with Hannah for ‘cat litter,’ I helped with the clean up. I kept asking for guidance but Kelly did not seem to want any help. Then, when LL came out, LL reprimanded me for not being more helpful and called me ‘pathetic,’ right there in front of the children – who had had a great time with me.

And so today, I was with my children from 5:30 till 8:30 and that extra hour helps LL catch up with the lost time.

Today (you were on your way to CEP) to bring the children to me I called you and you answered the phone. I asked you when we might be able to speak about Sofia and Hannah and you said that the best day would be Saturday. Sunday may work for me too - depending whether I am within earshot of the children. But we promised to one another that we would both try and call to speak about the children.

I have been invited to go skiing on Saturday. If it works for you and if you like the idea, I can pick the children up- after lunch on Saturday. I will then bring them back late - quite late. And still I might have a few extra hours then to make up on Sunday as ever you like. I am, of course, totally OK with caring for the children all day Sunday as well.....

I will let you know this again in a minute when you bring the children to Highland Coffee.
Sincerely,
Allan


February 29, 2008

I spent the whole day moving things into my new home.

6:00PM I called the KGB. I know that they are already closed down for the week, but I felt that it was important and positive for me to leave David a polite message especially after having asked him to call me on his own steam in Trenaman’s layer suite. I left a message for David Weatherspeak to call me back (But I detailed the fact that David had agreed to speak with me on a weekly basis.)

6:20PM I called the ‘linea baja,’ but there was no answer. So, I called LL’s cell phone but I called from Subir’s phone and LL actually answered it. I said “Hello there Lorena, this is Allan and I am trying to find some way to speak with our children.“ And LL responds “Well, I am with Hannah right now but not with Sofia so you can speak with Hannah.” I wanted to ask her when I might be able to speak with Sofia but I did not have a chance. I asked Hannah to give the phone back to LL. She did. I asked LL when I could speak with Sofia and LL said that I would not be able to speak with Sofia this evening. I pressed her for information that would explain this predicament and she told me that Sofia was with Grammy and I could not call Grammy’s cell phone because Grammy did not like that.

Well, you see that’s the thing: Grammy does not have to obey anybodies rules and makes up her own self serving notions… and I think it is wrong (if not outright unethical) for me to allow that to happen without resolve. So I called Nancy Lasky and left the following message on her cell phone:

“Heipodey Nancy, this is Allan and I spoke with Hannah who told me that Sofia was with you… and so did Lorena. I was able to speak with Hannah and that was a great conversation with lots of beat, rhythm and syncopation but Sofia and I have yet to speak so if you would be so kind, positive and excellent as to facilitate that happening, the entire universe will appreciate you. Thank you.”

When can I talk with Sofia? I see that Farfar is working on an email to LL:

Allan, here is a revised letter to Rena. The one I wrote yesterday was based on the premise that Spring Break would be in March. Please give me your comments before I send it out. Please do not send it directly to Rena.

Your Dad

Hello, Rena,

Until now, Inga and I have no engagements for the period of April 5 through 13. We will be pleased to accomodate you, so as to have our visit with Allan and the girls for the week-end during which you will be having your retreat. Please let me know as soon as you are informed on which of the two Spring Break week-ends the retreat will take place.

If the retreat takes place on the week-end of April 5, we would pick up the children on Friday, April 4, after school hours, and return them to you on the evening of Tuesday, the 8th, after dinner, around 9 o'clock. If the retreat takes place on the week-end of April 12-13, we would pick up the children on the morning of Wednesday, April 9th, and return them to you in the evening of Sunday, the 13th, at 7 o'clock at the latest.

Since Allan's house is too small to accomodate us, we would book two rooms at the bed and breakfast place where we stayed last year. Inga and I would use one room, and the girls would share the other room. Allan and Mark (if he comes) would sleep in Allan's house.

We would drive to Louisville rather than fly. The only reservation we would have to make would be for the rooms at the bed and breakfast place, and we still have enough time for that.

As far as the Summer is concerned, we have only one engagement, which is a wedding taking place in California on July 5. If you can't get the girls in the girls' scout camp for June 8-13, the period from July 27 to August 1 would also be a viable option.

I am glad we are planning ahead this year.

Regards,

William

And then Farfar writes me a separate explanation of the email he is suggesting sending to LL:

Allan, if the judge has made her ruling before the Spring Break, and it is favorable to you, then I won't make any mention in my letter of the fact that the girls will be sleeping at the Old Bridge Inn. If she asks me what my sleeping plans are, I will reply that, even though the girls could spend the nights at your house, we would prefer to have them with us as a way of getting some grandparenting time with them.

For the time being, I will delete any mention of the sleeping arrangements, and will send my second letter with that change.

I have a hard time hearing what the girls are saying on the telephone. If they are talking into a speaker phone, that may be the problem. Please have them hold the receiver next time we talk, to find out whether it works better.

Your Dad


I called Farfar and told him that of course I think his email is an excellent one to send LL: A few hours later he sent the email to LL.

And here is a Girl Scout email:

Kroger's:
Thurs Feb 28 6-8 pm -- Sofia, Jasmine, and Alicia (Front Door Only)
Sat March 1 10-12 pm -- Katie E, Olivia, Sofia, Jasmine, and Alicia (Front and Back Door)
Sun March 2 10-12 pm -- Rami, Mae, Katie A., Sofia, Jasmine, and Alicia (Front and Back Door)
Mon March 3 6-8 pm -- Katie B., Katie E., Jasmine, and Alicia (Front and Back Door)

Walgreens/Starbucks:
Sat March 1 12-2pm -- Helen and Maggie (Need two more girls interested in a booth time)
Sat March 1 2-4 pm -- Zoe, Emma, Lindsey, and Alexis


Also I have a couple of girls that owe dues:
$8.00 - Rami, Katie E, Alexis, and Emma
$6.00 - Katie A., Lindsey, and Zoe
$4.00 - Katie B., Jasmine, and Sofia

Let me know if you have any questions.
Thanks,
Kelly

And Farfar sent Helmers an email:

Dear John:

Your recent attendance at Allan's criminal hearing for non-payment of child support is much appreciated, as is the advice you gave him on how to handle the deposition. Feel free to send your invoice for these services directly to me.

As I understand the case, only two things remain to be done: 1) obtain a ruling from the Judge on whether or not Allan needs supervision by his parents for overnight parenting time during vacations, and 2) obtain the Judge's signature on the agreement made in court on June 12 of last year. Any assistance or advice you may give Allan on these matters is also billable to me.

Kind regards,

William C. Headrick

And here is a fantastic email:

Dear Allan,

I hope you're doing well. I'm writing to invite you to our wedding, which as I mentioned before will take place on July 5 here in the Bay Area. You can find all the details on our website: http://www.stanford.edu/~headrick/wedding
. If you have a snail-mail address, we'll send you a written invitation. You are of course welcome to bring a guest along. It's probably hoping for too much, but if you can somehow bring your daughters that would be wonderful. there will be several other girls there of similar ages. But even if not, we hope you'll be able to come.
Much love,
Matt

So, I copy LL in on the above email with the following message:

Dear Lorena,
This is a rather big event that many Headricks are going to and it would be good for Sofia and Hannah. Does it conflict with anything?
Thank you,
Allan

And then I responded to Matt:

Dear Matt,
I just went ahead and forwarded your email to Rena. Do you have any idea how many people are coming? I have been instigating making your wedding a Headrick get-together. I have spoken with all the Moryadases and all my Headrick bunch. But it is your wedding (and somewhere in the back of my real world comprehension I seem to remember that a wedding is not actually for the bride and groom but your all those who attend) and so to be a little usual, I am asking 'Is your wedding supposed to be a small event? If you were to put it on some kind of scale where zero is the value my first wedding gets (we just went to the Justice of the Peace and told no one) and 10 is like the wedding of Prince Charles and Lady Spencer, what number is your wedding supposed to be?
Your email is the prettiest of the year! Lots of love,
Allan

Archana called:
Yesterday she was outside of the computer room crying.
Archana, saw Hanna, puppet is called Princess Lilli,




April 16
May 30,






Instead of you “horrible lying bitch,” (quote Dmitri, I should tell her:
1. Other than the up-coming week end, when you want to exchange Saturday for Sunday, is there anything else that is concerning you about the children?
2. Let me respond to your email today, you asked about this week end: I occasionally teach on the side, but that is not a stable job. I work, as I have for years now, for the Penguin Ice Cream Company. I am looking for another stable job for the summer. I did not hear today from the job I am looking to maybe get. I will let you know as soon as I know what happens so that you can make plans for the week end. I do not know if the children think I am still working for BMW Louisville? I don’t think I told them that I no longer work there – but I may have – maybe I did when we drove past there once.
3. Do you think you could assure the children that your friend who told you who told the children that I am speaking German to them so as to have a secret language with you is not the case?
4. Do you have a guitar for Hannah to learn – or possibly for Sofia to learn – to play a little bit with and learn about notes and chords etc?. This is the right age.
5. What do you see for Sofia and Hannah this summer?gil scout cap by feb 15 – 2nd week in june or late july wants earlier.

6. February 18th is a parent teacher conference day. Do you think it would be possible for both of us to speak with the teachers together? Do you think it would be possible for me to catch up on some of the lost time with my children on that day – pending of course, my not having gotten a job by then?
7. Spring break is coming up. It is from the 5th through the 13th (including the first and last day.) Farfar and Farmor are interested in spending time with the children during that time. Do you prefer me picking the children up from the 5th through the 8th (including those end dates) or from the 9th through the 13th?
8. March 7th is a professional development day. Do you think it would be possible for me to spend some time on that day with the children? The same goes for May 2nd.
9. When does Hannah have Brownies? On Wednesdays the children have ballet. I have a video that I made of their performance at the cultural center down town and I would be glad to burn a copy for you or email it to you if you like.
10. Hannah must be thinking that she is forsaking interacting with her biological parents. How do you want to diffuse that sentiment? (It is a reality.)
11. Have you resolved that everything is OK with Sofia about her appearance at the Girl Scouts yesterday or have you picked up on any negative connotations?
12. The children have told me on several occasions that you are trying to quit smoking. I sent you and email a while back asking you to keep the children from seeing you indulge in cigarettes. Can you respond to that now?
13. On February 12th, when the children are going to the Valentines Day dance with me, do you think you might want to come? And do you think that they will have done their homework with you?
14. It would be much better if the children understood that you and I are on the same page regarding their behavior and what we wish for them to accomplish and achieve. For example, when I was trying to get Sofia to eat something, it seemed to me from what you said as well as what Sofia said that you wanted her to not have to do as I was saying. I guess you know that I have a deep understanding of what is right for the children and if you go against me, well, it’s not going to change my position.
15. May I offer to you that in spite of the hell of your family accusing me of child abuse, we let the past be and not accuse one another of anything and go together for joint custody?
16. May I invite you and the children to tea or coffee and yummies at Starbucks or to falafel, humus and babaganoush at the Greek restaurant next to Starbucks?
17. Do you remember that I facilitated your seeing the children for ten or fifteen minutes on the 22nd of January – on the way to NC. Do you think I could see my children for a similar time one of the evenings when you have them. How about this coming Friday or Saturday? Just to say hello or good night to the children?
18. Could you please give Hannah a kiss on the top of the head and tell her it is from me through you to her?
19. I looked for a gold framed kind of teal blue matted Kentucky tree print by Paul Sawyer and on Saturday night no one picked up the phone so I was not able to tell you that I had not found it. On Sunday morning I wanted to tell you but somehow transferring the children from you to me was not easy and then on Tuesday I had a list of things to say to you and that was one of the ones I admitted to not remembering, but now I remember… so here is the state of the case: I reckon it is still possible that it is in my shed but it is in the back and not easily accessible so it will take some time until it get unearthed, if it is in the shed. In any case, can you please find a way to get me copies of the scrap books?
20. Can you please show the children how to receive and send emails to me?
21. Can you please agree with me that Hannah should be able to communicate with Sarah and Scottie (that does not mean that she will, only that she can.) If Hannah asks, I would like to tell Hannah that you told me it was something that can happen. If it is something that can not happen, then you must tell her because I cannot take responsibility for cutting her connection to Sarah and Scottie.
22. I am wondering where is the telephone that I gave the children because no one has responded to it in many weeks. It is important that the children have this telephone on Sunday when they take to the ski slopes. Last week end I asked them to take a cell phone with them on the ski slopes and they told me that they did not have one. This was not a big concern because the three of us skied together – but I have little reason to believe that we will do this ne
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