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May 1, 2008
I tried to call the KGB and I was told that the person I needed to speak with was David Weathersby and he was not there. I asked for a better time to call and was told that I should call tomorrow and I was not given a time to call.
Somalia is a breeding ground for terrorist thinking.
Americans are spending their money now more on food and gasoline than ever before.
The stressed economy and financial malady in the US is forcing building suppliers like Home Depot and Lowes to close many stores. There is no money to build with. \
My children are still in the same atrocious family environment.
But there are some who are doing well: Exxon Mobil is doing very well. The price of oil is now twice as high as it was half a year ago. The world market is reeling. LL is buying a house?
And so, after work I came to pick up my children and LL was 48 minutes late.
My BS is good as can be!
I need a bit of help – I wanted to give Peter five bucks in exchange for a check but he did not have his check book with him… so I emailed Farfar:
Dear Farfar,
Can you please help me out again with transcripts? I need another transcript from Swarthmore and I do not have a checking account… and so I was wondering if you could please send a letter to the Registrars office, Swarthmore College, 500 College Avenue Swarthmore, PA 19081 and ask them to send a transcript to JCC, 109 E. Broadway, Louisville, KY 40202. They need a check for $5.00.
Lots of love,
Allan

And hopefully I can be a student….
And then I sent LL an email:
Dear Lorena,
Farfar sent Hannah a birthday card with a little money. Can you please tell me what you did with the money and the card?
Thank you,
Allan

And then when I finally caught up with LL and the children I asked about Farfar’s letter and LL said that she had it but had not yet given it to Hannah “because (she) forgot.” Yeah right! See, it is now eight days ago that it was Hannah’s birthday and neither Hannah nor Sofia have any knowledge of Farfar’s birthday present.
OK, forget that… It was a spectacularly good day for the children. There was the Pegasus Parade going on. We met Heather and Miles (who live close to LL) and joined with them and that was perfectly entertaining and good and then we met Paul (who works at UPS with me) and he was good with the children too. The Pegasus Parade was a fun show for the children, even for Sofia (who is a little shy and admitted that she was not really interested in the event) and when we returned to LL’s it was 7:50PM but LL was not there, so I asked her where she was and she told me that she was still running errands so I told her that we were going to my house to play in the park. LL did not want that, but it has been a week since she came to my house to pick the children up. It was a good thing that we went to my house. Sofia and I drew some quick sketches while Hannah and Miles went to the park. Heather, Miles’s mother went to the park as well.
And then LL strolls in the house. She see’s a picture of Grammy on the wall and says that she wants to take it. I ask her not to pick any fights with me in front of Sofia. She pulls out her camera and wants to take a picture of it. I ask her not to tale a picture – because all she wants to do with the picture is pick a fight with me. She tries to take one picture, then another, then another and I am asking her to stop this. Finally I take the camera from her. I did not touch her. I took the camera and the strap that was wrapped around her wrist snapped. I do it with a minimal amount of physical contact – but hey, what can you do. “If you want to, email me, LL. Do not do this kind of thing in front of the children.”
Hannah was not there. She was at the park when this happened. That was good. I gave Hannah a great kiss on the head.
I am glad that Heather and Miles were in the car with LL as she drove to her place.
Yes, it was a good time for the children and in a way it was good because there was Miles and his mother to add to the experience. I think it was a better time for Hannah than it was for Sofia. There really was no great high point for Sofia, it was all a good time but no distinctive high point. However for Hannah, being with Miles was a high point. They sat together in the back seats of both my car and LL’s and it was cute.
I asked L if I could see the children tomorrow in order to start making up for the time in Florida and she said “NO.”
According to the children, they are moving on May 9, into the house LL is buying.
President Bush is asking congress for ¾ of a billion dollars. What for? World food aid. Much of the world is starving. There is not much food (in part because of food being diverted to produce Biofuels, human overpopulation etc,…) and it is much more expensive…. Irony! Bush caused this crisis. Doom and gloom is the image of the world economic situation. Credit squeeze, gold is high, inflation, prices of food increased, high price for gasoline, the doing of the Wall Street incentive system. Now it is pessimism galore!
And this while my children are young.
I am predicting that life and the world economy will be very difficult for the next ten years and then what people remain will acclimate to the lack of energy and the reduced food.
I do not want this to squash their dreams.

Dear Lorena,
Please, when you come to my house, do not pick a fight with me in front of the children.
You told me that you would email me about make-up time since you are intending to break with the legal agreement: you want to take the children to Florida? But you have not emailed me about this. Lorena, you may not break with the agreement without our agreeing to a reasonable counter-offer. I will try to the best of my ability to work with you, but please understand that the way things currently stand you will break with the Judge’s Order.
Sincerely,
Allan
10:00AM, I called LL and left a message telling her that “Hey Rena, today the children are not in school so today is a good day for making up for the time you want to keep the children from me this summer. I am totally compliant with wanting to work with you to find something that we can do to suit both of us – which includes you, so please send me an email with your suggestions. (I translated the message into Spanish as well, so she got it in two languages.) ¡Que tengas un buen día!”
7:00PM I called my children but no one picked up the phone. So I called LL’s cell phone. I left a message on L’s cell phone to ask her to let me speak with the children.
7:10PM I called again and left a message for my children: “Should you run or walk in the rain? Should you run or walk when you cross the street without an umbrella? Running means spending less time in the rain
7:20PM I called and left a message for my children. I left a message that has a science tone to it.
7:30PM I called again and this time Hannah got on the phone. She accused me of taking the camera from LL. Then she hung op on me.
Now this is bad because because the sacrilegious act of using the children, placing them in the middle, is the Lasky manner and there is no mechanism in place to prevent this.
I called the KGB and left a message reminding them of the hate and enmity that they have cultivated in the Lasky lives of my children.

Dear Lorena,
¿Que haces? ¿Como estás? Es importante que tengamos alguna communicación sobre este verano porque si no, entonces vamos a tener que arreglarlo todo sin nuestro control. Es mucho mejor si tenemos manera de arreglar cosas propiamente. It is much better if we can realize changes and accommodate needs ourselves, so please give me a call and email me.
Thank you,
Allan


Muy querido Allan: por dónde estarás entre el 15 y el 23 de Julio? Sería posible verte aunque fuera un fin de semana. Ire a USA para llevar a mi amigo el padre, que será internado definitivamente en una casa de cuidados especiales. Está muy enfermo. Es muy triste para mi éste mometno pero no hay ya alternativas. Mándame aun que sea tu teléfono para hablarte. Te quiero mucho y te extraño. Besos. mabel
mabel avila


Oh my very dear and precious Mabel,
The sadness that befalls a person who has Alzheimer’s is much greater than the people whom they interact with. It is the ultimate existential nightmare to loose your mind and there is no way around not realizing this. I think it is truly important that you accompany el Padre to his final home. You will act as a kind of bridge from PY to the USA. It will be an awful bridge for him to cross. It will be like a premature death.
I love you very much.
My phone number is (502) 714 - 8577
My address is 1329 Lillian Ave, Louisville, KY 40204
Like a seagull,
Allan

May 3, 2008
9:00AM I called the ‘linea baja,’ and no one answered so I called LL’s cell phone and left a message in English and German for my children. I asked them a question about driving a car on icy roads and about balancing tires I asked Hannah to bring her skate board tomorrow.
I also called Misty Roan (Child Protective Services lady who refused to help me with my claim that the children were psychologically abused in the Lasky family) and Shannon Fife (who had accused me of being a pedophile, of wiping Hannah’s bottom with my bare hand last year – yet another of Lasky Family coaching situations) and left messages for both of them to call me back.
11:30AM I again tried to call my children. I left a message on LL’s cell phone to please call me back. The ‘linea baja’ was of no use.
6:30PM I tried again to call my children and left the same message on LL’s answering machine.
8:00PM I tried again to call my children and left the same message on LL’s answering machine. No one answered the ‘linea baja.’
A few minutes later I got a call from Sofia. She told me that she had been at Grammy’s house all day, that was all she said, then she hung up on me. I called again and she hung up on me again. The third time I called I left a message on the answering machine about the treasure ship that had sunk about 500 years ago that was just found.
Geologists hunting for diamonds made a surprising find: a 500-year-old shipwreck loaded with coins and other valuables.
And then the phone rang again and I asked Sofia a series of questions about Pitsburgh PA (and soot in the atmosphere), San Francisco (and earth quakes), a giant squid (the size of its eyes) and then Hannah got on the phone and she told me that she did not want to talk to me because “I stole Grammy’s picture.”
“I love you Hannah,” that was all I said.

Dear Lorena,
Happy mothers’ day in a week! Part of being a good mother is sharing the children with the father. Sharing is not just a matter of agreeing to times when it is easier for you to have me be with the children, sharing is about agreeing to have the children be with me when you can not care for them also and sharing is about literally sharing the children together and many other things. Sharing is about sharing pictures, scrapbooks.
Lorena, the job market is lousy, the fed is worried about inflation and more jobs are lost than are being created. GDP is in decline, homes are not selling, so construction companies have nothing to do, as do bed and TV companies. The Fed’s cutting rates to liquidate cash but the unemployment rate’s in the sky as consumers just say no, and the foreclosure mess takes root.
You said that you were closing on a house on Monday and will be moving into your new house on Friday.
Sunday is Mother’s day. I hope you will have a wonderful Mother’s day.
So, what do you say we try harder to be nice to one another?
Sincerely,
Allan


April 4, 2008
It was a good day until the very end.
LL was a mean person to me. She told me to get out of her house when I entered to throw some garbage in the house and told me that the children should be the ones to enter the house.
The children did not want to eat Donuts so we went to the McDonalds near the University of Louisville which is adjoined by a fun play ground. Yes, the children had a good time and the high point was when I was pressing their bellies as they looked at the pictures they had taken.
Then we went to pick up Jerome. We went to the St. Rita Church by way of an other McDonalds.
I spoke to the congregation and I have no idea what my children thought of that. I asked the congregation to vote.
Then Sofia and Hannah helped me pass out fliers for Barack Obama.
Then we went to the Obama center.
Then we went to Walmart.
Then we stopped by Jerome’s house and took him to the park near his place. Again we played. My camera broke so the images are now blurry.
LL called me and told me that she wants the picture of Grammy. I told her I want the scrapbooks.
We ate dinner at Karma Café.
Right now the children are playing with the pool balls. It does not work exactly the way Sofia says “No Hannah!” she exclaims and then Hannah says “sorry,” and many of the balls that Sofia has set up go all over.
At 6:56PM I got an angry call from LL. “Where are the children?”
They are at the Karma Café.
“OK, well bring them to Emily’s house.”
“Ok. But I will not bring them by 7:00PM since I got them at 9:25PM.”
“I want to talk to Sofia” in the tenuous and obligation endowing voice:
“OK.”

And then LL called me again at 7:30PM.
“Where the hell are you?”
“Grammy is waiting for the children.”
“You care only about yourself.”
“You are a selfish bastard.”
Etc…
“No, Rena, I love Sofia and Hannah and I care about them very much.”

I was at this point about 30 seconds away from Emily’s house.
Then we arrived at Emily’s house.
I saw Nancy waiting for them.
She immediately came to the car and escorted the children away from me. I asked to kiss the children and she said No. The pushed the children into Emily’s yard. I entered the yard right behind her and ran around Nancy and the children and blew kisses at the children.
“You too!” and I blew a kiss at Nancy as well.

Liebe Sofia und Liebe Hannah,
I just finished petting a very small baby dog who was very hungry. She was too young to eat solid food and needed her mother so I went looking for her mother. I found her mother with many other babies behind a fence. The puppy had crawled out.
I put a brick in the hole in the fence so now IT HAS TO STAY WITH ITS MOMMY.
Lots of Love,
Daddy

Interesting email? It does and it does not reinforce the status qui (my children live with their mother.)
Querida Lorena,
Yo sé que tu familia hizo las ninas mentir para tratar de destruir mi connección con ellas y con ustedes. Yo lo sé porque es óbvio, es la manera de tu mamá que tu haz co-optado. Ella me lo dijo en su manera muchas veces - no solo después de nuestro divorcio, también antes de eso. Yo entiendo esta realidad como conozco a mi nombre. El comportamiento de Nancy esta tarde fue algo extremo y horrible para Sofia y Hannah. Que sigues pensando que puedes descomunicarme es desgustante. Mandame un email con información sobre este verano por favor.
Con mucha attención y deseandote un buen día,
Allan
I am amazed at my creative genius: I am dealing with a bunch of shits and there is no more powerful a method to deal with them than to be sweet.


May 5, 2008: AKA cinco de mayo!
Before going to work I called my lawyer, Amanda Hartley, 589- 2822 and left a message on her answering machine asking her to get Judge Patricia Walker-Fitzgerald to sign the order with the attached agreement from June of 2007.
She called me back and let a message on my answering machine stating that she had spoken with John Helmers today and had gotten the requisite form to propel the Judge to sign such order and that she wanted me to call her and or to meet her tomorrow.
This was a big improvement over the last message I had gotten from her which indicated that she did not believe anything had been filed in the court.

May 7, 2008
I went to the L&M building to speak with Christi Atkins about the effect they have had on the lives of my children. Christi was not there so I speak instead with a certain Mary Williamson. I told her in exact detail the nature of CPS’s work in the lives of my children. I was generally polite with her but I was also clean with my statements – which of course do not make CPS look good. I told her that Lasky Family members are associated with CPS.
She gave me state rep info for me to get in touch with.
She gave me the following numbers:
Jennifer Curry: 595 – 5180 Open records request.
Ombudsmans office 800 372 – 2973 and 502 – 564 – 5497

Misty Ronau: 595 5158
Laura Johnson, her supervisor 595 – 5410
Shannon Fife: 574 – 2462
Brenda Clark, her supervisor 574 – 7014


Here is my email to LL:

Querida Lorena,
Yo se que tu familia hizo las ninas mentir para tratar de destruir mi conneccion con ellas y con ustedes. Yo lo se porque es obvio, es la manera de tu mama que tu haz co-optado. Ella me lo dijo en su manera muchas veces - no solo despues de nuestro divorcio, tambien antes de eso. Yo entiendo esta realidad como conozco a mi nombre. El comportamiento de Nancy esta tarde fue algo extremo y horrible para Sofia y Hannah. Que sigues pensando que puedes descomunicarme es desgustante. Mandame un email con informacion sobre este verano por favor.
Con mucha attencion y deseandote un buen dia,
Allan

And here is her response:

I will not tread any letters in Spanish. If you want to communicate, pick English.

I am writing to confirm our conversation abotu the girls going to Florida from May 18 to 24th and to firm up our plans for you to have some rescheduled time for missed visits.

You will see the children on Saturday May 17th, as previously agreed, to make up for not seeing them on Sunday May 18th.

Let me know which of the following dates work for you to make up the other time (4 hours which you would normally see them on Tuesday & Thursday).

A combination of two of these dates:
Wednesday May 7, 4-6pm
Wednesday May 14, 4-6pm
Monday May 12, 5-7pm
Monday May 26, 5-7pm

OR Friday May 16, 4:30-8:30pm

Which of these works best for your schedule?


Lorena Lasky



And here is my response:
Querida Lorena,
Gracias por tu email. Es siempre un encanto corresponder contigo. Como seguramente puedes apreciar, yo estoy interesado en encontrar un buen mechanismo para compartir nuestras hijas en una manera que considera a las niñas en primer lugar y una harmonía entre todos nosotros. Te quiero decir que espero que todos ustedes tendrán un tiempo fantástico en la Florida. Los días que yo selecciono para recubrir mi tiempo con ellas son los primeros dos días: estos son el miércoles, 7 de mayo entre las 4 y las 6PM, y el lunes, 12 de Mayo entre las 5 y las 7PM.
Manda mis mejores recados a tu familia entera,
Allan
In English: I choose Wednesday May 7, 4-6pm and Monday May 12, 5-7pm.


And the children arrived at the Highland Coffee thirty minutes late. I was sitting with Peter and asked “Hey Peter, do you know where my children are?” and he laughed and told me that in America there is a joke(?) about a person who would ask on the TV and the radio “it is 10PM do you know where your children are?” And just as I was calling LL the children arrived. I was in the process of leaving a message for LL when I saw the car arrive.
I did not speak with LL. She lef the children out of the car and they came to me. It was a pretty moment at the Highland Coffee House. I picked up Sofia and offered her to Hannah but Hannah was hanging on the railing and refused to take Sofia and of course this resulted in a lot of fun.
Then the children came into the coffee House and ate a brownie and a key lime pie.
And then we piled into the car, the little yellow Toyota Corolla… and the children were still hungry so I took them to the Moby Dick restaurant and there they ate more. We practiced the multiplication tables. Hannah has learned all the squares: 1X1, 2X2, 3X3…. 10X10. She has also learned 6X8 = 48.
And then we came to my house, where the children decided they wanted to build a tree house.
Gosh, I pulled out the saw and they took all my wood and we started the project. But Sofia did notice that I had painted a world map on the wall and was fascinated.
And Hannah built a swing.
And then I called LL to find out why she was not yet at my house to pick the children up and she gave me this spiel that it was my responsibility to take the to her house every time and I disagreed with her and told her that we need to share all responsibilities 50/50 and she said “NO,” but she agreed to pick up the children on Thursday. So I told the children to pack it in and they did not want to but they did so anyway and they watched Tim und Struppi on the way to LL’s.
LL told me that she had not closed on the house. I told her that if she needed help that she should ask me. “I do not need your help,” she said.

Later that night, I called LL and she actually picked up the [hone and I told her that I would be picking up the children tomorrow at 4:00PM and she said “OK.”

May 7, 2008
I started out my day by calling some of the numbers I had gotten from Mary Williamson of the child protective services.
Laura Johnson, Misty Ronao’s supervisor 595 – 5410. I spoke with her and explained that I wanted to meet with her and speak about methodology and also non-response from Misty. She said she would call me back.
Shannon Fife: 574 – 2462, left a message explaining that I had spoken with Mary Williamson who had urged me to call her again.
Brenda Clark, her supervisor 574 – 7014, asking for the same as I had asked of Laura Johnson.
None of these people called me back today.
At 4:00PM I was at the Highland coffee house but LL was late. She arrived at 4:20PM.
It was obvious that the children did not understand that they were going to be with me. “Daddy, why are you here? It is Wednesday!” said Sofia and then LL explained to the children that this was make up time for when they are in Florida.
I took them to the Barack Obama HQ. There they ate food and then we went to the ice cream and Pie shop which is very close the Ballet. They played for a little while and ate their ice creams and then went to Ballet.
I watched them at Ballet.
Hannah and Sofia have a hard time learning the dance to perfection but for different reasons. Sofia is a perfectionist and also to some extent does not care. This creates an irreconcilable dialectic within her that brings her down. She shuts down. Hannah does not pay attention and trusts that she can learn the steps without concentrating. She fumbles and bumbles through, improvising as needed. But I agree with LL that dance is very good for the children.
Now, LL was supposed to pick up the children from dance. I called to confirm that she would do this. I also asked if I could bring the children home. She said “NO.” I asked if we could spend time with the children together. She said “NO.” I said “that is why you coached the children to lie about me.” She got stupid and said things like “oh not that again, why don’t you just shut up?”
So I told Hannah that Mommy was going to pick her up and to tell Sofia and went to my car. I had just driven away when LL called and said “I’m going to be late, can you bring them to my house?”
So I returned to the dance studio.
I found that the children were very happy to see me. It was raining and I think they enjoyed getting a little wet on the way to my car. We drove to McDonalds for ice cream and then to LL’s.
The children’s behavior in my car is really quite special. They explore life and learn from one another. Sofia taught Hannah the word “f-u-c-k,” and Hannah pretends to get really upset when ever Sofia says anything that involves the syllable “hell,” as in “Hello!” or “Helen!” At these times Hannah says “Daddy! Sofia said a bad word.”
They also play a sleeping game which is actually a kissing game. They pretend to be boyfriend and girl friend or Mommy and Daddy and act out some parts of the kissing experience.
This is a recurring theme in my car that may have started a few months ago and keeps being realized.
And the Lasky hate is strong in Hannah. She reacts very strongly to my hugs. Sofia does not. Today I told Hannah that I think her reactions are not normal or called for. I told her that if she is being told to react to me in that manner that this is wrong. Interestingly however, Hannah asks to be kissed on the head when I am saying good bye to her where as Sofia refuses to be kissed at all. Hannah did say that there were two people who do not hate me. “Who are those two people?” I asked, “Me and Sofia!”
“Of course!”

May 8, 2008
I call the ombudsman, to issue a complaint against Child Protective Services here I Louisville and leave a message: “They are not communicating with me and please call me back.” And a lady called Kendrick called me back from the ombudsman’s office. We spoke for about thirty minutes. I was quite strong in my rhetoric with her and I also let her know that I did not really believe that she could help me. But I managed to let her know of the following issues that I have with child protective services:
Conflict of interest. Nancy Lasky works for Neighborhood place, Lara Lasky was involved in the mental health industry, Rebecca Lasky is a doctor.
I was not called back by Shannon Fife.
I was not called to speak of by Misty Rouan.
Lorena used CPS for the purposes of framing my custody of the children in a bad light.
She asked me to write a letter to Jackie Stamps 595 4732, the boss of CPS.
She said that she would email me but I did not get her email today. So, I called her, after parenting my children, and gave her my email address again. Ombudsmans office (800) 372 – 2973 and (502) 564 – 5497
I also called, Misty Ronau: 595 5158 but her phone number indicated that her message bin was full and I was automatically transferred to Mary Williamson’s voice mail where I left a message “communication is not working.” I called Laura Johnson who is Misty’s supervisor 595 – 5410 and Shannon Fife’s supervisor Brenda Clark, 574 – 7014…

But, let me tell you about my children today! As is the norm with LL, she came late. The children were quite happy. She did not want to speak with me but I went to her and asked her about homework for the children. Hannah said “I have not homework Daddy!” and I pretended to be upset.
And Sofia was hungry – or so she said, so I took them to the Chinese restaurant near the Walgreens on Taylor Blvd. There I came across my neighbors, the Mexicans. Hannah and Sofia actually had a really good time, but it was a bit crazy. Aer they ate as much as I could get them to eat (Hannah spent most of the time watching a German movie on my laptop) we went outside where we fond large puddles from the rain a few hours ago and this caused for a great deal of play. They found all kids of things to put in the water and pretend that these were boats, including the box of left over food!
Then they re-discovered the wonder of push-starting the car.Yes, the starter on the yellow Toyota is not working so it needs to be push started. The children love to push start the car. Then, the jumped on the back of it and crawled into the car through the windows. They noticed that it is fun to sit on the window ledge…
And then we came to my house and there the play continued. On the way Hannah remarked that she wished that we all lived together (LL and I and the children) and I said that I have always wished for that. Hannah repeated this twice. And then, when we were at my house Hannah asked me about her biological father. “Does my Dad have really strong muscles?”
“Yes, Hannah, I think he does and he is younger than I am so I have no doubt he is much stronger than me. He can saw much faster than I can.” I was sawing a two by four for them to make a tree house… and I asked Hannah if she wanted to see a picture of her biological dad and she said “no,” and I know that the only reason she said that was because she is afraid of the Lasky family so I said “Ok, Hannah, when ever you want to, just tell me and I will help you with your biological parents.”
And of course, LL came rather later than she was supposed to , to pick them up. She did not get out of her car, she just sat there and b’tzxed about the time it took the children to get in the car and “bring your brown jacket that you left at Daddy’s house!”
“Hannah did not leave her jacket with me Rena.” I came to the car and Hannah wanted another kiss from me.
But let me say something nice about LL. She actually offered to pick up the children from my house today when I got them! Wonder why? The children were shocked by how late she was in picking them up. Have they not learned yet this feature of LL’s personality? (Sorry, I probably should not have written that, but it is definitely a characterizing feature that I have of her since 1995.) I can not deny that I think LL may have offered to pick the children up from my home because it suits her – but do not know why it suited her today: a meeting at the L&M building? (Where the child protective services building is located.)
I did not have my camera, so I did not take any pictures today. I called both of Hannah’s biological parents today and left messages for them to call me back.

May 9, 2008
The situation that my children are in are like that of the citizens of Burma. One hundred thousand people have died in the wake of a cyclone, (the cyclone is Nancy Lasky) and the government of Burma (that is Lorena) is preventing any help being given to the people (those are Sofia and Hannah.) There are over a million people who are in a terrible situation.
In Zimbabwe, Mugabe is exercising his might with impunity. Youngsters play with a soccer ball made with string and plastic bag while their parents are brutalized if they oppose the ruling class. The children sing of a need for change.
When I look to the people of Zimbabwe, Burma, Uganda, Somalia, Iraq, Lebanon, Haiti… my family is very lucky.
I tried to call my children today as usual at 7:00PM but no one picked up the phone. I called the ‘linea baja’ and then called the cell phone number where I left a message asking to have the children call me. Actually it was an amusing message (to me) because I said something like “hello Rena you pretty or frisky or what ever adjective you like, house mouse or what ever noun you want, I am calling to speak with our children.” It makes me smile for two reasons. The first is that it is a cute message to leave her. The fact that I can leave a cute message on LL’s answering machine is an indication that I am above the fray of the shit that she has created. The other reason it makes me smile has to do with imagining LL’s response to my message: disdain.
And so here I go again:
Dear Lorena,
Hope you are doing well. I just wanted to tell you that if ever you need a place to stay you are of course welcome to move into my house.
Sincerely,
Allan

Now, this is funny for the following reasons.
First of all, in spite of the amount of money that LL makes I do not think that she is that well to do. She is working two jobs and has very little time for herself. There are two reasons I do not think she is doing that well financially. The first is that she lost her lawyer. The second is that she did not close on the house she was interested in buying at the beginning of this month.
The second reason that this is funny is because I have already invited Sarah, Hannah’s biological mother to move in with her husband and child. I have not received a response from Sarah and I did that a couple of weeks ago.
The third is that I am in a terrible shape financially. I just learned that my credit card had been stolen and that several thousand dollars was put on it. I have absolutely nothing but a love for living, and in the wake of having nothing to really offer it is funny that I am offering anything at all to LL.
The third is that LL is a terrible mother. I think that there is nothing meaner that can be done to a person than to steal their children but the effect that is realized on the children is much more important. So, I am inviting the worst kind of mother to my house and that is funny because that is precisely the purpose of my life right now – maybe, in general, my purpose in life is to convince bad people to be good.
Yes, the oxymoronic approach to my interactions with LL are funny like it would be if Anne Frank invited Adolf Hitler to tea (assuming of course, that Hitler could not hurt Anne, which is how I think of LL.)
“So now Adolf, do you take sweet and low in your tea or would you prefer Maalox?”
“Ich hasse nette Leute! Gib mir mein täglicher Cocktail!”
“Bitte? You should be polite, and if it would come naturally to you that would be best.” Anne Frank pours neatly.


“One war that was a war of choice which I believe should never have been authorized is the war in Iraq” is what Barack Obama said about George Bush’s bellicose manner towards Iraq. LL’s war is also a war which should never have been authorized.

10:00AM I called the ‘linea baja,’ but there was no response so I called LL’s cell phone number and she did not pick up the phone so I left a message. I can’t remember what I said, but I know that it was something cute again. Oh, that’s right! I reminded her of a present that her father had given me for Xmas many years back.
4:00PM I called the KGB and asked them to call me back. I was very matter of fact in the message I left.
4:05PM I called the ‘linea baja,’ and again no one picked up the phone and so I called the cell phone and left the following message: “Hello Rena, this is your x-hubby Allan who is, as you can very well imagine, is wondering ‘can I speak with my children?’ or ‘what is going on?’ ‘why am I excluded from knowing what is going on?’ and ‘would you please print out the art at the beach application that needs to be sent for Sofia to got to that prestigious magnet school and also write out a check for that program for what ever the maximum amount that you can do, but not more than half of the cost. I will then generate the difference (within reason: I think that 1/3 of the price is barely within reason for you to pay. Oh, and let’s get that going on Sunday morning when I come by your place. I hope you are having a very beautiful Saturday – it sure is nice out! Oh please call me back and let the kids speak with me.”
6:45PM I tried calling my children again. The ‘linea baja’ yielded no response so I called the cell phone. LL answered it! She said “Hello?” and I said “Hello Rena…” and then she hung up on me. When I called again she did not pick up the phone. I was about to leave a message but then Subir called me so I spoke with him instead. After that conversation came to an end I called LL back and I left the following message: “Hey Rena, I’ve been walking around the streets of Louisville, talking with all kinds of people and the weather was sublime --- sunny and cool. I hope you and the children are having a good time. I am calling to speak with them so I would appreciate it if you would facilitate such. And I want to wish you a really actualized, pleasant, fulfilled and exquisite evening.”
I had been canvassing for the Obama Campaign.

May 11, 2008
A strong wind, coercing leaves and branches to stream from elastic trunks while the sun shines and the radio effuses warnings of severe weather.
I roll my little yellow car off the front lawn, down the curb, at which point I jump in the car and push on the clutch, stick it in second, let the clutch out and vroom!
Today is mothers’ day. I went to LL’s and no one answered the door. I called the police and they knocked on the door. A person opened the door and said that LL was not in town. Later I got a text message from LL stating that it was mothers’ day.
I tried to call my children but was not able to get through. I tried many times today, the last time being 8:00PM.
I spent the day campaigning for Obama.

May 12, 2008
I go to the court house and file a motion of contempt of court for LL not having me be with my children yesterday, Sunday. I drive past LL’s house and see that her car is now in use so I deduce that she is back in Louisville. I leave the court document in her mail box.
At about 4:30PM she calls to confirm that I will be having a “make-up” parenting time – they are going to Florida next week – today. I say yes.
Barack Obama is in town but I would rather be with my children.
The children want to go to the Asian Buffet. I tell them that if we do that, then we will never go back there. They kind of agree. Actually Hannah agrees without hesitation but Sofia ponders the issue for a long time and never really agrees to this.
We go to the Asian Buffet.
Hannah has no psychological problem getting a zero for her homework. I set her on my lap and she does it anyway.
Sofia loves holding hands with me today as we walk. And indeed as we were walking back to LL’s, LL called me and while Sofia held my hand, I spoke with LL on the phone and LL wanted to know where we were? “right by Vera’s house,” I said and then LL cursed and I said “we love you too,” and Sofia chimed in “and so do the animals and plants.” We had walked from the Asian Buffet to LL’s place and Hannah had led the way: she knows the path! Of course we stopped at the “Hunde Park” and there I did some gardening with the gardening club….
Sofia came to me after we had been there a while and said “Daddy, is it time to go to Mommy’s?” and I said “Yeah, I think it is close to that time.” But the point is that Sofia takes it upon herself to reduce friction between LL and me. That is sad. She should not find herself doing that.


May 13, 2008
Hey here are some important numbers for the purposes of diabetes:
Dr. Simone Scumpia 512 467 2727
Fax for Dr. Krisna 502 587 4146, 201 Abrham elenor way, suite 1001 tenth floor, next to the heart and lung center or is it he same building? But anyway it is a black building and it is op the Jewish hospital.
I saw my new endocrinologist today and that was good. I called Farfar and Farmor to let them know that all went well.
I got a pretty email from Peter, he has invited me and the children to his ranch. We will be visiting sometime after Sofia and Hannah come back from Florida.
And now, . . . the quote of the day (paraphrased I'm sure and I'm not sure who the author is).

The absolute absence of humor in the bible is the most singular thing in all of literature.

Now, Allan, I'm so sorry I misspelled your name yesterday. Will you ever find it in your heart and mind to forgive me?

I will interview for a .5 arts and humanities position this afternoon. My application to grad school is on hold as the world waits for my transcripts.

Your children's voices sounded lovely, something like a woodwind instrument, not the double reeds, or perhaps a blend between the brass, winds, and strings . . . or bells, tubes of water gently tapped.
Peter



Mr. Lasky-Headrick,

Thank you for your interest in a position with Ohio County Schools.

I have downloaded your application from KYREAP, but I need some additional information in order to consider your application complete. Please forward the following:

1. A photo ID – May be mailed or e-mailed.

2. A copy of your Kentucky Teaching Certificate – May be mailed or e-mailed.

Please feel free to e-mail or call if you have any questions.

Thank you!


Tony R. Minton
Director of Human Resources
Ohio County Schools
315 East Union Street
Hartford, KY 42347
270-298-3249

I stopped by my lawyer’s office and was sorely disappointed. She admitted to me that she had not filed the AOC with the court. As I understand, the AOC form is a request to have the Judge, Patricia Walker Fitzgerald, sign the order that has been in the system for almost a year. She said that she had delegated the job to another person whose father was sick. I bet she did nothing of the sort. I told her to please call me or email me when she accomplished this feat. She agreed to do this.

Dear Lorena,
Que tal? Te puedo decir que mi vida se ha mejorado bastante ya que ahora tengo un buen eguro medico trabajando para el UPS. Las ninas etan de buen humor lo cual e algo fantastico. Espero que esto te alegra. Cuando mire en el documento que e nuestro arreglo no vi lo que me habias escrito en tu menaje telephonico - eria bueno si me podrias mostrar el arreglo que tu tienes. Te deseo como siempre lo mejor y que seas una mujer alegre con toda la alegria que la vida pude brindar.
Con los mejores sentimientos,
Allan



I had a wonderful time. Truly a great time with my children. First we went to the supermarket and bought stuff for a picnic and then we went to Tyler Park. Finally, we returned to LL’. LL wa pissy to me (I it not right for me to write that?) She was psychologically in a bad mood because Sofia had to do a science poster and I had not helped her with that. She felt that it was not right that I had left the homework for Sofia to do at LL’s place. I told LL that I would be glad to help Sofia with her poster at her place but LL refused to let me in.


And now I have found two tenants for the house. They are a married couple and nothing like me but I will have a bit more income.


May 14, 2008 (Wednesday)
I called the ‘linea baja’ and no one picked up the phone – that was at 7:00PM. Then I called LL’s cell phone and left the following message: “Heypodey LORena, soy Allan espero que estás bien y que todas las cosas que te encantan te rodean. Estoy llamando para hablar con Sofia y Hannah así que si prodrias tener la disposición de entregralas el teléfono para que nosotros podamos hablar, eso seria ético, correcto y bien. Y otra cosa que me parece ser importante es el asunto de Sofia ir al “art at the beach.” Como te dije, necesito una copia de la applicación. También quiero que pagues por la mitad. Si no lo puedes hacer, entonces,¿ cuanto puedes pagar?
Espero tu llamada.

And then I sent her exactly the same information in an email:

“Heypodey LORena, soy Allan espero que estás bien y que todas las cosas que te encantan te rodean. Estoy llamando para hablar con Sofia y Hannah así que si prodrias tener la disposición de entregralas el teléfono para que nosotros podamos hablar, eso seria ético, correcto y bien. Y otra cosa que me parece ser importante es el asunto de Sofia ir al “art at the beach.” Como te dije, necesito una copia de la applicación. También quiero que pagues por la mitad. Si no lo puedes hacer, entonces,¿ cuanto puedes pagar?
Espero tu llamada.

I called again at 7:30 PM and LL picked up the phone. I said “Hello Rena, how are you?” There was no answer so I said “Rena, I hipe that you are surrounded by love and that the universe is bestowing you with gifts and wonders….” Nd then she interrupted me and said :
Allan do you want to talk to Hannah here she is. “

And so I was able to talk with Hannah but not with Sofia. I asked Hannah what she had eaten today and she said: “Freetos raisins grapes muffins, “
What games did you play? “Hopscotch.”
Then suddenly Hannah said “Daddy I have to do something so call me back.” I asked Hannah to call me instead and she said she would.

And she did! She called me a few minutes later and explained that her Mother had needed help and she had “Untied something that was mom’s from Paraguay, its one of those baby things made with like stoner glass.” Hannah asked me “Do you think its yours.” And I said “I am not like that Hannah, I think we should share everything.” Hannah said “I know I know I know.” We spoke for a little about moving. Hannah said they would be moving “in a week.” And then she realized she would be in Florida and that after coming back from Florida she was going to perform ballet. Suddenly she said that she had to hang up. I have no doubt that LL was forcing her to hang up on me.
“Ok well I love you very much Hannah. “
“Oh Daddy, I love you as much as a blossom. “
“Oh Thank you, I love you like the universe, oK bye. And also Hannah you are very intelligent and very beautiful.”
Hannah was obviously very happy to hear these words but she said bye.


May 15, 2008 (Thursday)
Oh what a day! I loved the rain and so did my children – it took a bit of convincing but in the end they were super happy to walk to LL’s place with umbrellas… Let me back up and explain how this all happened.

At 5:20PM I called LL to inquire where she was and she did not pick up the phone so I left a pretty message in Spanish that asked about the children and wished for her to have a beautiful life and so on. LL called me back soon after explaining that she had just left her work place and that she was going to be another fifteen minutes.
And, in fact, at 5:45PM I got my children. LL had told them that they had to be at her place by 7:15PM and because the children so hate enmity they really wanted to be back by the time their mother had told them and so I missed out on the full two hours.

It was raining. Sofia jumped out of Lorena Lasky’s car without a jacket or a rain coat and was cold. She ran into the Highland coffee house saying that she did not want to be outside. I quickly returned to LL and asked her about Sofia’s clothing – it was in the fifties (Fahrenheit) and a T-shirt was not enough for the long walk to Lorena Lasky’s place. As it happened, Hannah had a spare jacket in the back of Lorena Lasky’s car so I took that. Of course, Sofia refused to wear it but once we were inside the Highland coffee house, I presented the children with the following options:
Hannah lend Sofia the jacket she was wearing and put on the jacket that I had gotten from Lorena Lasky’s car, or
Sofia wear my jacket.
The children agreed to option #1.
Then I got the two umbrellas and gave one to each child. Sofia shared the large umbrella with me. Hannah twirled her umbrellas so that the rain drops spun about. As we walked to TacoBell, the children were happy as larks. Sofia described some antics that Helen had contrived ad Hannah stopped at every puddle and inverted her umbrella in it and spun it. It floated of course!
And the children sang songs. I sang too, but all the songs that I sang were in German. A lady passed us by and sang together with the children.
At Taco Bell I gave Hannah some money and asked her to get the food. This was a challenge she enjoyed.
We talked about the rain:
“Why does it rain?” Both Hannah and Sofia described the cycling of water in the ecosystem.
“What is 6X8?”
“What is 6X6?”
“What else is 36?” (9X4) and Sofia realized that (12X3) too.
And then we walked in the rain to the convenience store near LL’s house. Sofia got on my shoulders for a short stretch of this.
Just as we were leaving the convenience store Hannah asked me the time. I gave her my cell phone and she saw that it was 7:01PM. That made the children happy, I believe because they knew that they would not have to listen to their mother complain about me.
Just as I was saying good by to the children Sofia asked me if I could bring the Hop on Pop stuffed animal?
“Yes, I can bring it in about thirty minutes!”
“Thank you Daddy.”
As I was walking back to the car Sofia called me and told me that I should bring Hop on Pop to the back of the house and fill out the form for the art at the beach. “Yes, I will do that.”
So I retuned to LL’s. I knocked on the back door. LL gave me two motions for the court. She also gave me a check payable to ‘art at the beach,’ to the effect of $50. The total cost is $120 so I must contribute $170. I promised Sofia that I would do so.

Hannah said that she did not want to go to the art at the beach summer program.

LL said that it was important for Sofia to go because she would be able to create her portfolio so as to get accepted at that school later on.

LL agreed that it would be alright for me to take Sofia to the art at the beach sessions.

LL reminded me that Hannah has to go to the John Powers seminar on Saturday when I have her and that Hannah will be spending the night with her friend Alexia. LL promised that she would call me and give me Alexia’s telephone number later tonight.

She did that… but I lost it so had to call her and left a message telling her so.

As I left LL’s house I saw that the birthday present I had given Hannah was in the rian. I took the skate board and when I got home I called LL and told her what I had done. I told her to tell Hannah that I will bring the skateboard on Saturday. Again, the message I left her was very loving.

And then I read the legal documents LL had given me: I had to put them out to dry first!

I saw that she is her own lawyer so I sent her two emails:

Querida Lorena,
Ooops! Can you believe it? Now I am at your mercy and humbly am asking you to help me out: I acknowledge that you gave me a copy of the motions but still, if it is not too much trouble to you, would you please email me the response to the motion that I put in place on Monday with the document that you label “AGEED ORDER” As well as the other motion to have Sofia and Hannah come testify in court. My car leaks and the floor is covered in an inch of rainwater and the documents got pretty much destroyed.
Sincerely,
Allan

And the second email is a response also to an email that she had sent me earlier today which went:

I can pay $50 for each child toward the camp. Lorena Lasky

So my email is:

Querida Lorena,
Y bueno, conseguí una respuesta al asunto de 'art at the beach' pero no me llamaste ni dejaste que las niñas me llamen.
I got a check from you today, payable to 'art a the beach' for Sofia to the effect of $50.00.
The total cost for this summer program is $220.00 as far as we know.
This means that I will have to pay $170.00.
Hannah will be going to CEP during this time.
También me dijiste que queras hablar conmigo sobre el ‘hearing’ que vamos a tener el 28 de Mayo. Creo que es importante que hablemos porque nos ayudará parecer más acceptables a la Jueza, Patrica Walker-Fitzgerald. No queremos repetir lo que pasó la última vez.
Sinceramente, y deseandote lo mejor,
Allan aka Frippe.

But here is the stuff LL wrote for the court in condensed form.
She is presenting a version of the agreement where the summer time is cut from 9 days to 7 days, where she can have the children on mother’s days exclusively, where the time she brings the children is not 5:00PM but approximately at that time and so on. Her version is not the same as the version in June 2007.
She asks that the Judge interview the children and provides the following reasons: my home is “not safe”, the house” lacks running water” and” the toilets are flushed with buckets of water obtained from a stream in the back yard”, that” the house is filthy”, that” the children are unhappy in my house”, that “I do not supervise the children” much, that I “take the children on motorcycle rides with out helmets”, that I ‘talk to the children about the allegations” and about the “therapists”, Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo, that I offer my children soup cooked” in the can,” on the stove for dinner, etc…
And so now I look back on the time I had with my children and I realize that they have been under the weather with the Laskys. Hannah was making eye contact with me at the Taco Bell and Sofia was literally hanging on my arm. The trip to Florida will be bad for them… Hannah wants me to go to Florida with them and is proposing that I stay in the house next to the one they will be staying at.

May 16, 2008
God, what should I do about my children?
I got a letter from the Ombudsman who stated that there were a couple of complaints that I need to make about CPS. I filled out the forms and mailed them.
I bought a money order to pay for Sofia to go to the Art at the Beach summer program.
Dear Lorena,
It is my opinion that we really need to talk. This is clear to me from the documents you gave me yesterday – the motions you are making to the court. May I suggest we get together at a coffee shop like Days?
Sincerely,
Allan
My x-wife is a terrible woman.
Lorena did call but she did not speak with me --- she said she was at a graduation with Sofia and could not talk. She gave me Alexia’s telephone number – Hannah is staying with Alexia tonight.
And look! I got an email from Francy in Paraguay:
hola mi gran amigo tanto tiempo, te cuento que aqui en paraguay estamos super bien tengo mucho que contarte, en otro mail, te cuento mas detalle de mi vida, y contigo como va todo como estan sofia y Hannah?? mucho saludos a ellas te envio un gran afrazo!!!!!
muchos saludos
tu gran amigo Francy
So I respond:
Mi querido Francy!
Mabel me ha escrito sobre la nueva presidencia que tienen. Ella ha estado contenta con la disolución del partido Colorado. Y tu? Y tu familia? Aqui en los eeuu, lo que leemos sobre la internet es que va a ser muy dificil para el ex-obispo por que los viejos en poder todavía estan armados contra grandes cambios. Pero yo tengo esperanza, ya que sin ella, la vida no vale.
Mañana lo pasaré con Sofia y Hannah y les daré un abrazo de parte tuya. Ellas andan bien. Ellas no hablan Español, pero siguen con Aleman. Uno de estos dias me encontré con una mujer de habla Español y entonces empezaré con ese idioma.
Mi vida no es mala, pero no es facil. Lorena me hace la vida dificil. ¿Será por haberme casado con ella?
Te quiero mucho Francy,
Allan

And I called Hannah who is staying at her friend Alexia’s house tonight and we spoke in German. It was not just I who was speaking in German it was Hannah too and this is the first time in four years that this happens.
And I called Lorena Lasky in order to speak with Sofia but no one picked up either telephone and I left a message for LL to please have me and Sofia speak by telephone tonight.


May 17, 2008
I called LL a little before 8:00AM to see what time she was expecting me to pick up Sofia. She was not kind on the telephone. “Are you picking up Sofia first or Hannah first?” she bloated. I had spoken with Alexia’s mother last night and agreed to bring Sofia to eat breakfast at their home… So I told LL that I intended to pick Sofia up first and that I would be there in about an hour and she said “Ok,” and then hung the phone up.

It’s the tone of her voice. The method of her interactions. She is a combination of manipulative and matter of factish.


May 17, 2008
Well, I picked up Sofia from LL’s place and that is recorded just in case you want to hear it, and we walked first to the gas station nearby and that was good, and then I gave Sofia the hand drawn map of how to get to Alexia’s house and she took it upon herself to guide me along as I drove. We found Hannah bouncing in the trampoline. Sofia played for a while with the children but that did not last too long – they were all younger than her. At one point she fell and pretended to cry. It did not take long for me to whisk Sofia and Hannah away from Alexia’s house. But before I left I spoke with Alexia’s mother and she was very kind and super nice to me. I told her what LL had done to me and my relationship with the children. I also told her that Hannah had met her biological daughter. I am, it seems to me, fearless.

Then we had to get Hannah to the John Powers place. I did not know where it was so I called LL and she finally – with five minutes to spare called me back with their number.
We made it just on time.
Now, Sofia and I had a chance to be by ourselves. Sofia wanted to find the new house where she will be living. So I tried to find the gas station near the Oxmoor mall that she was familiar with but had not luck. We ended up at the Oxmoor mall and tried to skateboard in the parking lot but an officer came and told us that we were not allowed to. I said “That you sir for doing your job with a perfection and an acuity and without failing in accounting for the minute details that make your performance as it is, notwithstanding, an excellent one.”

We left the skateboard in the car and explored the mall. We found two places which Sofia deemed would be of interest to Hannah.

Then we went to pick up our Hannah. Actually we arrived early so we got a smoothie first.

Hannah was happy about her time with the John Powers group. I think she likes it.

I took my children over to my house.
On the way I got two earfuls: One from LL and the other from Nancy. They called me everything that can be listed under the sun (and that is bad) and then some. At one point I said “and look who’s talking!” but the rest of the time I said things like “I love you very much and I am so pleased to speak with you… etc. I did not want to take the children to the Karma Café for Nancy to pick them up there. There are several reasons for this:

I have brought the children to LL’s place now for the last three times and it sure is their turn to pick the children up from my house.
I do not have the money to splurge on the Karma Café.
I want to make a nice dinner for my children at my own house with rice, peas, tomatoes and thin slices of beef.
I got cussed out on the phone, not even before I had had a chance to speak, already I was barraged with “So don’t tell me you want to change the plans you self centered pain in the you know where.” I was accused of the following terms and this list is not exhaustive:
By LL: being selfish, being a prick, being a jerk (at least three times), being an asshole, and the word “fuck” or “fucking” came naturally intertwined in her utterances.
By Nancy: Being a pain in the you know what, being manipulative, and being obnoxious.
Both LL and Nancy hung the phone up on me. In the case of LL I continued my sentence so that the children would not note that she had done this.

And at my house Sofia wanted to build a tree house. That was too much for me but I tried to play along…. It was doomed from the outset but I could not tell her that, I just kept hoping that she would stop wanting to do that, but it was not going to happen. Hannah has been a somewhat distant child today. I tried to spend a little time with her on the roof of the car while she was playing the guitar for the neighbors but really she was something else. She was very scared that things were going to be bad if I was not nice to Grammy and tried to put a lot of pressure on me to bring her and Sofia to the Karma Café. Hannah was scared. Sofia was the go-between and that was terrible. Sofia spent a great deal of time on the phone. She would go outside so that I was not privy to her conversations with Nancy and LL. At one point Sofia came in and asked me “why will (I) not take her and Hannah to the Karma Café?” and I told her that I had brought her to her mother’s place many times in a row now and also I had only a couple of dollars in my pocket and so we would not be able to eat dinner there… Then Sofia went outside and reported this to either Nancy or LL. When she came back she was calm. Maybe the money excuse eased the tension? Hannah and Sofia were worried. Sofia went to Hannah and told her that I was not taking them to the Karma Café. Hannah became agitated and said “Grammy is never going to come here!”
“That is not what Grammy said to me,” I said “but if she does not come to get you at 7:00PM then I will take you to where ever Grammy is.”

That calmed Sofia and thereby also calmed Hannah.

Sofia made pancakes – all on her own. At one point they got too hot so she took the pan and cooled it off under a stream of water. She made all kinds of pancakes including:
Normal
Scrambled
Mini
Letter shaped.

Sofia called and was called several times and in the end she said that “Grammy will come here to get us.” Sofia and I cooked a great dinner and we all ate together. Hannah had just been painting the wall in my living room and did not want to stop but I convinced her that it was necessary for her to eat. She chose the rice without soy sauce. Hum? She is not like most people.

And then Grammy came. It was cool that we were all eating together on the steps to the house when Nancy arrived. However, she was terse and nigh on impossible with me. At first it looked like she was not going to talk to me but I stood by the window and spoke to her, at first thanking her for coming by and then asking her about a means of communicating with Sofia and Hannah while they are in Florida.
“I do not believe you will be able to speak with your children while they are in Florida because cell phone use is not a possibility.”
“Where in Florida is that?” I asked.
“I do not know! I just know that I am going with my daughter and I will be following her and she has done all the arrangements.”

(I believe that both of these are lies.) I said a few sentences to the children in German and I saw Nancy skin turn tight like a skull cap.

As she was driving off I said “Thank you Grammy.” Nancy responded by closing the car window. The children were quiet in the back seat.

There was one event that I think may have been good for Hannah to experience. She asked for a bowl to eat Cocoa Crisps. She asked me if there was a clean bowl. I showed her where all the clean things were and I saw that she took a special note of this. She got a clean spoon and clean cup. This would seem trivial to most people, but LL has written to the court house that my house is “filthy.”
I had also moved a lot of things down stairs. The entire house has today a new organization.

Hannah watched two movies in German here today. She did not say anything to me in German – however Sofia did! This was the first time. We were at the Kroger supermarket buying food just before taking Hannah to the John Powers School and Sofia had managed a complex skateboard trick (climbing up a ledge) and realized that she had actually won against Hannah in many ways. Sofia said “Ich habe wunderschön Heute gespielt und Ich habe gegen Hannah gewonnen!” She laughed and was giddy.

I called Pachelle (sp?) the mother of Hannah’s friend, Alexia, to thank her for her contribution to Hannah’s life… and to mine and Sofia’s this morning.

And with that, finally, the wrath of the storm with Nancy had ceased and I experienced relief about the terrible weight I lug; my children going to Florida with Nancy.

In the mean time I can deal with LL who wrote to Judge Patricia Walker-Fitzgerald, “I (LL) continue to very strongly believe that if Mr. Lasky-Headrick is allowed to have the children unsupervised for any overnight or extended periods of time, that serious harm will come to them AND the court should order that ALL periods of parenting time be supervised so as to protect the children.” My x-wife is not insane, she is evil. She pushes the vile puss of her and her families coaching our children, to permeate the life of our legal relationship.

Supervision? Well, it need not be court ordered! LL just has to volunteer to hang out with us. But it is ironic as can be since the ones who need to be supervised are the Laskys.


May 18, 2008
8:20AM: Called Nancy’s cell phone and left a message asking her to please facilitate my talking with my children and wishing her a good time in Florida.

Dear Lorena,
You promised that you would give me phone number so that I may call my children while they are in Florida and I still have not gotten that. Would you please let me know how I can get in touch with our children while they are in Florida?
Thank you,
Allan

8:30AM I call LL and leave a message asking her to please give me a hone number to call our children in Florida.

At 9:09AM I got a Text message from LL:

Rebecca’s cell is (502) 640 – 9796

9:20AM: I called Rebecca’s cell phone and left the following message: “Heypodey Rebecca, I want to thank you deeply for taking my children to Florida and contributing to their lives with the beauty of such an experience. So again, Thank you very much. I am also calling to speak with my children so if you can facilitate that interaction that would be kindly appreciated.

Well, LL has a lot of work to do this week – especially since she is going to professional development and is moving into a new house near the Oxmoor mall. .

It is terrible that LL has not told me where she is moving.

I am trying to piece together how the children managed to fly, let alone go to Florida: Here is what I think happened, it is based on comments from LL, Nancy (last night) and the children (over the last few weeks.) Originally, there was discourse among the Lasky people about when they were going to Florida – they considered school (the children are supposed to be in school for one more week), they considered Rebecca’s pregnancy (she is close to giving birth), they considered finances… And it was decided that it would be best for them to go at this time. But then there was a conflict because Lorena had already agreed that Nancy would baby sit the children while she was at her professional development conference which was at the same time that the trip to Florida was planned.
And that meant that Nancy had to care for the children in Florida.
And that meant that Sofia and Hannah would be flying rather than driving in a car since a car was now not going…
It was quite a bit of last minute organizing for them.

3:10PM I again tried to reach my children by calling Nancy and Rebecca’s cell phones without anyone picking up the phone.

I’ve been thinking quite a bit about my mechanic friend in Paraguay called Fidel. My last memories of him are not easy ones since he had lost a leg in a motorcycle accident with a bus. He helped me build the two R25 BMW motorcycles I had in Paraguay. I wonder what that means that he has been in my thoughts?

Oh good, a email from Fatima, my and my children’s Paraguayan friend:

¡Hola Allan!
Tanto tiempo,,,,,,,perdoname por no contestar pero me da mucha peresa ir en un locutorio,,,,,,,,trabajo mucho y estoy muy agotada por eso solo quiero mi habitación mi siquiera hablo com mi mama. Mi hermana o hermano hablan con ella por eso estoy tranquilaaaaaa por que sé que está bien.
Te quiero,

On my way home, late at night, I drove by LL’s house and saw that her car was parked in the front and it was full of boxes.

May 19, 2008 (Monday)
Dear Lorena,
Maybe it would help if you called your sister Rebecca, and asked her to facilitate my children telephoning me. I was not able to speak with my children yesterday.
It looks like you are moving while the children are in Florida: would you please be so kind as to update me regarding the address?
Thank you very much and hoping all goes smoothly and beautifully for you,
Allan

I called Nancy, Rebecca and Lorena trying to get in touch with my children today at 8:00AM and then again at 4PM. I left nice messages because not one picked up the phone.
7:40PM I call Rebecca and leave the following message: “Heyodey Rebecca and john, I am calling to speak with my children Sofia and Hannah, so if you could call me back that would be great, thank you.”

Then I called LL and told her that I was not able to reach my children with the phone number that she had text messaged me (supposedly this is Rebecca’s cell phone number) and I asked her to find another way for the children and I to communicate. I also wished her much prosperity in the wake of the professional development training she is receiving.

Then I called Nancy and left the following message: “Heypodey Nancy, this is a message for Sofia and Hannah – Meine lieben kinder, ich liebe euch natürlich und ich vermiβe euch, und ich weiβ daβ wenn ich da in Florida mit euch sein könnte das Ich sehr viel mehr Spaβ haben würde, aber na ya, das Leben ist so- wie-so fantastisch.”

I left a similar message on Nancy’s cell phone.

Then I called the KGB and left a message for them to call me.

And I emailed LL:
Dear Lorena,
Would you please call your sister Rebecca, and asked her to facilitate my children telephoning me. I have not been able to speak with Sofia and Hannah on Sunday or today, Monday.
Would you please be so kind as to update me regarding the address?
Thank you very much and hoping your professional development seminars are interesting and beguiling,
Allan

And an email from Francy in Pargauay:

hola mi gran amigo!! que bueno tener noticias tuyas, el tema del cambio de gobierno aqui en Paraguay es bien visto por todo, renacieron las esperanza de tener un mejor gobierno!!!
Mis padres estan super bien como siempre en Rojas Silva,Aldo y yo estamos siempre viviendo en el mismo lugar,ahora estoy levantando el escarabajo,le mande rectificar el motor, hoy retiro del taller,con un motor nuevo,va esdtar ok, voy a quitar una foto de la fuisca y te la envio ok!! Ahhh mi relacion con cinthia no tuvo mayor progreso, pero bueno la vida continua!!! Actualmente estoy trabajando en Travato cisa una importadora renombrado en el mercado, estoy super en mi lugar de trabajo, aqui estoy como Ejecutivo de ventas de Vinos Porta,me encargo de todas las negociaciones de la marca a nivel pais!!
Mi herno esta siempre trabajando en Ecomipa, estamos estudiando ambos en la facultad!! en sintesis todo esta muy dulce x aqui como tu lo dirias jajajajaa
Un afrazo

Excellent! Francy is doing well and he has the personality. I am glad as can be. Lucky.

Here is my response:

Querido Francy,
¡Me haces sonreir! Gracias por ese mensaje tuyo tan bonito. Si llegas a realizarte una vida económicamente prolifica, siempre me recordaré de enseñarte algunas palabras en Inglés en Rojas Silva hace una docena de años.

Otros países en el mundo están sufriendo mucho: Etiopía (hambre), China (terremoto), Myanamar (Cyclón) mientras Paraguay tiene esperanza. ¡Quisiera vivir en Paraguay!

Sofia y Hannah están ahora en la Florida – nadando en la playa. Esto es algo bueno…. Pero están con su abuela, una mujer que quizas conociste… ella es algo muy difícil para mi. Pero bueno, la vida continua… Ellas volverán en unos días y me contarán los cuentos.

Fatima no está tan contenta como tú. Ella trabaja mucho y no gana sufficient dinero. Ella esta bastante sola en España y no puede hacer relaciones con personas en Europa. Me preocupo por ella un poco.

No te olvides de Cynthia: Ella te ayudó mucho a llegar a ser el hombre que ahora eres.

Te quiero mucho Francy, Manda mis mejores sentimientos a todos en tu familia.
Allan



Dear John Helmers,
Thank you for your bill. I understand it is a re-iteration of the last same bill. I am currently in severe financial dire straights, but as soon as my economic situation picks up, I will think of you and of paying you first and foremost.
Thank you for all you have done,
Happy fathers day – in about three weeks.
Allan

I laughed to myself when I wrote ‘happy father’s day,’ to my x-lawyer. I laughed because he has been a consistent nincompoop about establishing any relationship between me and my children and so to wish him this is ironic though it is also sincerely intended.
May 20, 2008
Today, my children and I are working on our third day of non-communication. I called Nancy and Rebecca this morning (at 8:00AM) I left my cell phone number (for fun because it appears on their cell phone) nd asked them to call me back.

It is sad that LL has so little to do with the children. This is her fault: by allowing her family to do her dirty work for her, she relinquishes her time with Sofia and Hannah.

I sent LL the following email:

Dear Lorena Bobeena,
Please help my children communicate with me and please do so today.
Thank you,
Allan

Around 10AM, I got a call from Child Protective Services, I believe the lady’s name is Laura Johnson – and she asked for my address in order to send me a complaint form for me to fill out.

I did not ask for this form. She must have received the order to call me from elsewhere. The phone number form which she called that registered on my cell phone is (502) 595 -5410.

I got a call from the cabinet for open records of Health and Family Services of Jefferson County (Their number is 502 – 564 – 3834) and I spoke with Carry Hall (not sure about the spelling) who needed to know what I needed. I told her that I needed a copy of the work of Misty Roane.

I got a call at 7:10PM and it was Sofia but she did not sound happy. She told me that it was too cold. She sounded dank and sad. I asked her all kinds of questions like “did you go to the beach? Did you play with Hannah? Did you find any sand dollars? Have you seen any wild like?” and to all of these questions her answers were indifferent, uncommitted and mechanical. I offered to read her a story like “Rupp Rupel, das grausigste Gespenst aus Smaland” but she said that would take for ever and did not want that. (This is an indication that she is not free to speak on the phone with me but for a short time with the Laskys.) She suggested that I speak with Hannah. Hannah was short with me. She said that she did not know if she loves me, but she assured me that she “loves Grammy and Aunt Rebecca and Mommy.” Then she hung up on me but she called me back and this time she pretended to be someone else – she spoke with me in a deep voice and told me that she was “grandpa,” and I asked her “Oh Grandpa, could you please keep an eye on Hannah for me?” “No!” she responded “I do not do things like that!” And soon thereafter she hung up on me.
This may seem like a distant interaction between me and Hannah but it was not. It was close and Hannah was telling me, by calling me back and pretending that she was Grandpa that she loves me very much and that she can not show it. Sofia, however, does not have the creative play that Hannah has to transcend the Lasky emotional parametrizations and she acts like a broken record – thereby letting me know that she really wants this enmity to stop.
No pierdas la esperanza! Sofia, se que Llegaras!
The Lasky’s would not hve allowed the children to call me if there were not fear of the consequences in their minds.
May 21, 2008
I called the KGB this morning and the lady who answered the phone told me that I could not speak with either Kim Dial or Ginger Crumbo. I asked to speak with David Weathersby but then she put me on hold. I remained on hold for 8 minutes and then gave up.
I called back about an hour later and asked to speak with David Weathersby but she simply put me with his voice mail so I left a message asking him to call me back.
I then called Misty Roane and left a message asking her to call me back as well.
I then called Shannon Fife. She told me that John Helmers had told her she was not allowed to speak with me. I told her that I did not believe her and informed her that I has specifically asked John to make sure that we would get in touch. I told her that I had also been calling her boss and that she boss was not returning my calls. She told me that she was not allowed to speak about the case with me since it was closed.
I called LL and she picked up the phone. She said that she was “on the bus and going to the airport.” I asked her if this was an OK time to talk and she said “No.” I asked her if we could talk sometime about “life and the universe,” and she said that she would call me tonight. I am guessing that she is returning to Louisville from her professional development/ conference.
LL did NOT call me. I called her at 10:00PM and left a message.
Another LL lie. The security officer at the CPS building said to me “dead dogs lie,” but LL is not a dog. He also said “there is no point in beating a dead horse,” but LL is not a horse. LL is also not dead. LL is mean, well, actually she is vitriolic and evil.

May 22, 2008 (Thursday)
I called the KGB. Was put through in a rather fastidious manner by the secretary with the voice mail of David Weathersby. I left a message asking him t call me back.

I called LL and left a message asking her to call me back.
7:15PM I called Rebecca’s cell phone and left a pretty message: something about making mini deltas in the sand when it rains (I had seen on the TV that it was ‘storming in Florida) and asked her to have the children call me.
They did! And Hannah spoke Spanish and I took them up on this new language. I did most of the speaking and then suddenly Sofia was on the phone and she listened to me but did not say anything for a long time. Finally she said “what?” and she continued to say this until the very end. I tried to ask her some mathematically challenging questions but she refused to play. Then she said that she would hang up on me if I asked another question and indeed, of course, I was asking her a questions about weather patterns (high atmospheric pressure and impending thunderstorms…) and she hung up on me.
It is impossible to have any kind of natural interaction with my children while they are with the Laskys.
10:00PM I called LL. She said that we could speak for “a few minutes.” I said “that is better than zero minutes.” Then I asked her, “is there anything yu would like to speak about?” and she responded that she had gotten a “letter in the mail from an attorney” and she wanted to know what the letter was about. I told her that it was probably my new attorney and that she was requesting that the Judge sign the original order. Lorena pretended that the order she had appended in her statement to the Judge earlier this month was the original order and I said “no, it is not.” Then she wanted to know what was different and I said “it is exactly from 5 till 7PM” and “there is no mention of Fathers day or Mothers day.”
So, at first LL said things like “did the wording get changed?” but then LL agreed that this was proabably not the original order “since there was a series of back and forth between our lawyers” and said that I could have the children on the Saturday preceding Fathers day. I asked her to email me that. “I asked that this be put in the agreement,” she said.
Then LL told me that I would not see the children on Sunday. They would not be arriving until Sunday night.
I told her that I would file a motion in the court.
LL accused me of adding to her stress and of costing the children a great deal. I denied this because “I did not start any of this.” Then she said that if I wanted to speak with her again that I need to return the picture of her mother.” I wanted to speak about this but she cut me off – I wanted to tell her that she had stolen the children, so I suppose you can not battle shit with shit and this was ok.
But it was hard to keep her on the phone. It was like she really wanted to pick a fight with me in order to justify herself and her hanging up on me.
I asked her about her plans to move into a new home. She told me that she had not closed on the house. I was not able to resolve her own thoughts on the likelyhood of the closing happening for real.
I told her that “I still love you, Rena.” I went on to explain that I understand that it is almost impossible for her to have any reasonable relationship with me because of her family. She reacted (reasonably) in support of her family and asked me not to defame her family. I told her that I could not side with her family after what they have done.
There was an interesting moment in our conversation where LL spoke about “being tricked,” and I caught on that reverse psychological trick by responding “that is not fair!”
There was a standard moment in my interactions with LL when she explained to me that her attorney, Mason Trenaman had recommended that she make the motion to have the children testify in court. This is standard because LL’s method is to surround herself with people who do the dirty work for her and she then looks innocent. She is blaming her attorney when in fact, it is NOT Trenaman.
She is the driving force behind this whole game.
After LL hung up on me I thought about her. I remembered that our conversations in Asuncion had been meaningless. Any decent moment that had ever transpired between us, she had either utterly forgotten or rebuked. I had invited her on a few occasions in Asuncion to try and assuage our incredibly strained relationship. Absolutely, each and every attempt was in vain and in fact, was in the end a secret attempt on her behalf to judge me harshly.
So, I called her and left a message on her answering machine that I did not know where the picture of her mother was located – and this is true. I added that as soon as I find it, I will let her know. It was strange for me o realize that I was feeling fortunate that I had this stupid fact to rely on: I did not know where that picture was located. While I had been talking with her on the phone, I was understanding that I would find the picture and all would be good. When she hung up on me, I realized she was not a reasonable person. Why can she not give me the scrap books? Probably because she has thrown them away.


May 22, 2008
And an email from LL followed our telephone conversation:

The children spoke to me yesterday & told me they had talked to you, so I assume this got resolved.

We just got off the phone & I am emailing you per our conversation.

You have made up time for visits missed so far this week while the kids are in Florida. There is one day left: this upcoming Sunday. I have oe of two suggestions for the last make-up day: (1) See them on Saturday May 31st 9-7 or 8-6. (2) See them on Memorial Day May 26th AND Labor Day. (It was to be that we split those two Monday holidays. The alternative I suggest is you see them both of those days.) Do either of those options work for you? 1 or 2?

Regardign our conversation regarding Mnther's day and Father's day. You have no objection to me seeing them on Mother's day each year as long as you don't feel that causes you to lose a Sunday with the kids. I do not object to you havign extra time somewhere else to compensate for Mother's day. My suggestion is that you see them on Saturday & Sunday on Father's day weekend. This evens out the time and allows each of us to have a more "full" weekend with the children for those two holidays. Is that acceptable to you?


I called LL to ask if instead of options (1) and (2) I could see them on May 27th (Tuesday)) from 9AM till 7PM and also from 5PM till 7PM on Saturday May 31.
I am not able to take you up on the suggestion of seeing them on Monday the May 26th because I work that day. Although I could have them for two hours that afternoon and then all day Tuesday if you prefer.
Then I email LL:
Dear Lorena,
Here is an email the repeats what I stated in my last two (2) messages that are on your voice mail.
In your email you invert the natural (chronological sequence) in which the Sundays should be addressed. In this email I will deal with the Sunday, you have already failed to allow my parenting the children first. Then, later, I will address the up-coming Sunday, you told me yesterday on the phone, you would again fail to allow my parenting.
I can not be with the children on Memorial Day during the day:
Here is something that could work for me (with a caveat) and is close to what you suggest:
Monday, Memorial day, from 5PM to 7PM
Tuesday, May 27 from 9AM to 7PM (remember that I parent the children o Tuesdays from 5 to 7 which is ‘justifies’ my parenting on Monday during that time.)
Alternatively:
Tuesday, May 27 from 9AM to 7PM and
Saturday, May 31 from 5PM to 7PM.
But these suggestions could work for me only if you state that I parent the children on Wednesday 4, 10 or 16 for two extra hours (from 5 to 7PM) to compensate for the waste of my email offering to share the children with you on Mother’s day and my Sunday morning on Mother’s day.
This email in no way indicates, that I agree with your behavior on Mother’s day. From my vantage point, you broke with the agreement and did so without warning.
I do not agree with your/ your mother’s behavior this coming Sunday. Again, from my vantage point you broke the law. That is something that still remains to be dealt with. I will email you about what we can do regarding this coming Sunday after you respond to this email about the previous missed Sunday.
Sincerely,
Allan

PS. The interactions with my children on the telephone while in Florida are so scant that they do not count.

I called LL to ask if instead of options (1) and (2) I could see them on May 27th (Tuesday)) from 9AM till 7PM and also from 5PM till 7PM on Saturday May 31.
I am not able to take you up on the suggestion of seeing them on Monday the May 26th because I work that day.
I then called her again to tell her that I want to see the children for two extra hours to compensate me for the “turmoil” she has put me through.

May 24, 2008
This is LL’s response:
Tuesday May 27th is fine, but I need you to get them earlier due to my work hours. What about 8-6pm?

Saturday may 31 for 2 hours is fine. Does it have to be 5-7pm?
Lorena Lasky
So, clearly she did not read my email completely. Hum? What do I do now? I think I need to take her to court for compensation for the stupidity. Bu first let me deal with some other things and then I will come back to responding to her email:

I called Rebecca’s cell phone and left a message: to have my children call me.
I called LL and left a message asking her to instigate her sister, Rebecca to facilitate a telephone conversation between my children and I.
I called Lara to see if she was in Florida – but she said she was not. She was super surprised to get a call from me. In her surprise she tried to be polite and I could almost hear her brain whirling in an attempt to find a manner to respond.
Mr. Duke sent me Hannah’s transcript and it was full of S’s and S+’s (S = Satisfactory) and he wished her good progress in the third grade.
In the early afternoon I called LL and left a message asking her to call me back.
I went to the lumber place near LL’s place and drove back by way of LL’s place only to see that her car was not there. The furniture is on the front porch which indicates that she is not moving just yet.
It is a fascinating endeavor to deal with thoughts about LL. She has managed to circum-whirl an aura of lies about me, she used the children to actualize her and her family’s wishes (she and her family coached them – a process which has destroyed a large part of the children) she and her mother are evil and yet she has my children and I MUST now negotiate from an incredibly fragile position for anything to do with Hannah and Sofia.
It must be “Hasta la Victoria Siempre.” Now that I have experienced the savagery with which Mental Health agencies act, I would not be surprised if I have become hardened in my determination to fight for social justice
It is naturally interesting that the therapists of the children, Kim Dial and a certain Doctor… Ginger Crumbo are not returning, and in fact have rarely returned my calls. They were most apt to return my calls when they thought they were going to put me in jail and that was four years ago. At that time they returned my calls in order foster more to embellish their hellacious stance. But now, they hide..
Actually, they do more than hide. They act out of fear. They lie and ask to be deposed telephonically. They lie about me – they say that I park my car in their parking lot. Then they huddle away.
And Sofia and Hannah were referred to Kim and Ginger by the company for which Nancy Lasky works: Neighborhood place!
The only passion which guides me is for the truth… I look at everything from this point of view. I do not mimic entirely my internal state because sometimes I am with my children, but with all others I am certain to be nothing other than brutally honest.
I am no more than an element in the proletariat.

And in the end, this is what I emailed LL:
Dear Lorena Lasky (used to be Lasky-Headrick)
At what time is the family flying in, tomorrow, on Sunday? I would like to welcome them to Louisville at the airport – after all that is a day I am by agreement supposed to parent Sofia and Hannah.
And Monday, would it be possible for us to get together then as well? How about in the afternoon?
And Tuesday works fine as you have proposed (looking myopically at just that day.)
Let’s talk on Tuesday about Saturday and all other aspects of my email that you did NOT address.
I am truly delighted in the new found canvas that is my house! I have now added a creature of non-earthly wonder with bulbous eye-balls and a capito-frontal prong, possibly part horse/part dragon, being escorted through the maze by a determined person who is assessing the quagmire.
Do you want to come in and see it? You are, of course, invited.
I will play the song “and even though we ain’t got money,” and we can drink mate.
Sincerely,
Allan

May 25, 2008 (Sunday)
9:30AM I call LL and leave a message that she should call me.
Indeed today I am supposed to be with my children but I am not. I think I should do a number of things. If I were paranoid then I would think that the lasky’s were up to something. They have had the children now for a week and have done their best to brainwash them. It is hard to brainwash 8 and 9 year old children but still… and they may be up to something on Monday? The only thing that would suggest otherwise is that LL’s email allows me to choose Monday as a day with my children. In any case, I am utterly fearless for my own self of that awful Lasky family: The ones who always suffer are Sofia and Hannah.
I note that the president of the United States of America, a certain George Doubleya Bush, while the leader of the greatest nation in the world, is a liar. Every justification for invading Iraq given in his State of the Union speech, is false. Similarly Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo have made false statements and ‘justified’ the destruction of my children’s and my relationship. (I know that she wishes to be referred to as “Dr.” but her behavior is so utterly disgusting as to merit the distinction of being “non-researched, superficial, scant, trite, worthless and BIASSED. It is not the work of a professional with a Ph.D.
The work of these people is a kind of Imperialism. They rule and in their role as rulers they play games that undermine reasonable dictates. For example, they state that for telling my children not to lie to them, that I should be ex-communicated from my children – something that lasted a third of a year. They were able to play this trick by conniving Richard Nassr to abdicate from his role in causing the family to progress.

11:10AM Sofia and Hannah called me. I missed their call and they left the following message: “Hi this is Sofia and I won’t be able to call you all day because I am going to be in the airplane. Uhm and I’ll see you tomorrow. Here is Hannah: (She passes the phone to Hannah who is a passé manner says to Sofia) thanks, thanks (and then into the phone she adds) and I want to roar you with a lion’s speech that says good luck ‘roar.”
You have to really work hard to resolve that my children care about their relationship with me when they are with the Lasky’s. I can resolve it from the tone of their voices, especially Sofia’s.
Of course, it is not true that my children will be in an airplane all day. When they are at the airports they can certainly use the cell phones. It is also not true that they could not have tried calling again.
That my children called is a good sign. It means that the Lasky family found that it was not possible to coach my children to the extent they would have liked.
I am sure that my children can only call me when they let them.
11:52AM, 12:25PM, 1:00PM I called Rebecca’s cell phone and when I realized that I was being transferred to a voice message machine I hung up.
12:00 noon, I called LL’s ‘linea baja’ and that was to no avail so then I left a message on her answering machine asking her to call me back for the third time appended with a “thank you Rena!” because people who are unkind and act in terrible manners, hate it when the “objects” of their maltreatment are kind to them.
So then I called Nancy’s home phone and left the following message. “Heypodey Nancy, this is Allan. I am almost 100% certain that you know that this is me because of my dear greeting. Anyway, I am calling to thank you for taking my children to Florida. Of course I hope very much that you were able to behave yourselves but that is not to detract from the message that says ‘thank you.’ Thank you Nancy, Thank you.”
Farfar called to tell me that he and Farmor want to come visit Sofia, Hannah and me again. I told them that they are invited when ever they please to come.
1:05PM I called Nancy and asked her to have the children call me when they fly into the airport in Louisville.
2:05PM Nancy’s phone calls me back while I am mowing the lawn and so once again I missed the call. My child was being coached and told what to say. She said “Hello, again, if you wanted to talk to me and you were calling (probably Nancy telling my child what to say in the back ground) we just called you back, (probably Nancy telling my child what to say) we are about to go to a kids museum and no more calls, bye.” The entire message was matter of fact and it was clear that my daughter was being coached and the tone of her voice was consequent to the person coaching her. I believe that person was Nancy. There are two reasons: The first is that it was Nancy’s cell phone. The second is that it sounded like Nancy.
Both the Louisville Science Museum and the Speed Art Museum are closed. There is a chance that the person coaching my child was inventing the part about the museum. I might or might not find out when I next see my children.
2:38PM I called Rebecca but her cell phone is still turned off. I left a message that went “hey you guys this is Allan and I am calling to thank you for taking my children to Florida. I hope that you had a wonderful time.”
2:41PM I called LL and left the following message: “Hey Rena, this is Allan and I am still waiting for your call so if you could please call me back that would be really cool.”
I believe that my children are now in Louisville. I believe that the Lasky’s are keeping us apart with deliberate intent.
6:00PM I tried calling my children but neither LL’s ‘linea baja’ nor her cell phone were answered.
7:00PM, I called LL and left a message about a book that includes games for cleaning up your room (which might be a good tool for getting Sofia and Hannah to clean up their room.) I also asked LL to facilitate the children calling me.
8:50PM, I called LL’s ‘linea baja,’ but got no response. I called her cell phone but did not leave a message.
And so another day goes by and my children continue to be deprived of the only parent who has not harmed them.
That is in and of itself harmful to them.

May 26, 2008
Well, it’s 9:15AM and I am on my way to the court house. It is memorial day and I suspect that there is nothing going on today. Tomorrow however, there is something for real. I am supposed to spend the day with my children!
Yep, everything is closed on Memorial Day.
3:00PM, I call LL and leave a message since she does not pick up her phone: “Hey Rena, the girls told me that I would be meeting them today, so I am going on the assumption that I will see them from 5 till 7 today and I will come to pick them up at 5PM. Also, please call me back. Thanks.”
4:00PM I call LL again and this time Hannah answers the phone. I am not able to speak for a long time with Hannah but it was a good exchange. Then Hannah passed the phone to Sofia with whom I spoke until LL said “I am ready to speak with your dad.” That took a few minutes. Sofia and I spoke about cooking spaghetti (which I was then doing) to feeding oats to the rabbit in my back yard, to climates in different states of the USA. Then I told LL that I did not have a manner to care for the children if we are going to court tomorrow. She said “get a baby sitter.” So I called the following people:
Peter – but he will be teaching.
Dawn Michelle – I left a message.
Archana
Hznnah’s friend Alexia’s mother.
Jeromes’s mother, Lorena,
Michelle and Justice.
Stephanie Guevara
Dear Lorena,
I wrote in my last email that “Tuesday works just fine if I look at that day myopically.” But my decision to agree to Tuesday is contingent on other facets of my suggestion being agreed upon. You seem to forget that there is more. I just spoke with you on the phone and you refused to indicate any attempt to reconcile the difference in our opinion. Thus, as of now, and it is 4:17 – just a few minutes after our telephone call, I am not agreeing with you. It is not because I do not want to see the children. I very much want to parent the children. It is because you are not fair, ethical, straight forward, honest, trust worthy and decent about sharing the children. You told me (for the first time in my life) that I am supposed to go to court tomorrow. So, Ok, I will see you in court tomorrow. I will call you to tell you the same thing again – or to leave it on your cell phone answering machine.
Sincerely,
Allan

And so I called her and stated word for word what is in this email.
And then she called me back. It was 7:30PM. Just to get this on record, she has not called me since before the children went to Florida. The last time she called me I was with the children and she called to speak with the children and not actually with me. That my telephone has not received a telephone call from her number(s) since May 17th should be on the telephone company’s records. And in fact, I must say that she has not called me but maybe once in the last twelve months?
So, it was s surprise to look at the incoming telephone number on my cell phone and see that it was LL’s and that LL was actually on the phone! The reason she called is because of my email – or because of my last message. She suddenly realized that I was NOT going to pick up the children tomorrow at 8:00AM. In our telephone conversation she agreed to the following terms in exchange for me relinquishing my want to take her to court for not letting me have the children on the Sunday that was Mother’s day. The terms are in the email I sent to LL right after the call:

Dear Lorena,
In exchange for my being alright with NOT having been parenting on Sunday May 11, 2008, and issue not covered by the June 2007 agreement, you and I re-agree to the agreement made in June 2007 as well as to the following:
We will not go to court tomorrow, Tuesday, May 27, 2008. We will both call the court house and tell the court that we can not make it to the court date on Tuesday,
That I will have the children tomorrow from 8:00AM until they finish their dance rehearsal.
That you will pick them up from the dance rehearsal.
That I will parent the children on Saturday, May 31, 2008 for two hours. Unless otherwise agreed, I will parent the children from 5:00PM till 7:00PM on that day. (To make up for the fact that I am to parent the children for two of the hours on Tuesday anyway as agreed in June of 2007.)
That I will parent the children on Wednesday, June 10th, 2008 from 5:00Pm till 7:00PM.
That you will respond to this email at the very latest by 6AM tomorrow, May 27th. If you respond positively, it makes the entire agreement in this email, a legal document.

If you do not respond to this email by 6AM, then you and I will take the issue of my NOT parenting on Sunday May 11, to the court. I will urge the court to consider this issue tomorrow, May 27.

Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
It’s emailed. Now I must think of things to do with my children.
Check my emails, leave the bikes at Dennys.
Pick them up early.
Go to breakfast at Dennys with toys/games?
Go to the bank nearby on the bikes.
Go home.
Take the bus back to get the car.
Bring the car home.
Paint the house.
Skateboard.



So, I tink of all kinds of ideas that cause me to pack the car with my computer, the bicycles, art supplies, a couple of art books, a book about motorcycles into the yellow car. It Brings a smile to my face that the car is covered in graffiti from my children: ‘I love earth,’ Hannah has written in red paint on the side of the car.
I park the car at the gas station because I like walking with my children for a bit – we get to acclimate to one another and there is a coherence among us by the tine we scramble in the car…
LL had told me that it is fine if I arrive at 7:45AM and I am arriving at 7:54AM. As soon as I arrive I see Hannah and she announces “Daddy is here!”
But I need to use the rest room so I call out to LL (who, has a propensity to avoid me) if I may use the rest room and she says ‘yes,’ and so I walk through the house, but I have never been to the rest room before so I ask my children and Sofia gives me a verbal explanation of where it is located.. and as I am walking through the house I am seeing that there are a lot of things in boxes and the house is really a mess – not filthy but messy for being in the midst of a move.
I notice that in the mail box there are two outgoing letters. One of these is to the drumming summer camp experience and the other is to the Girl Scouts Camp. LL is non-challant about this. As uninformative as she possibly could be.
As we are walking to the car, Sofia remarks that there are more girls in the advanced placement classes. She notes that both her teacher and LL had taken note; though LL had gone further and said that “girls are smarter!”
So, I said to Sofia that I have observe that girls get better grades in school. I did not bother to defend boys.
As we passed Mile’s house, Hannah asked me if she could invite Miles to spend the ay with us. I agree that this would be fine although Sofia did not seem interested. Sofia remarked that Hannah had invited Miles for a “glass of milk last night.”
The children do not know at what time I am to take them to the dance rehearsal so I call LL. I leave a message on the answering machine and ask Hannah to add to the message by saying “I love you Mommy,” but Hannah refused to do this. (This does not mean anything.)
Ok, so we get in the car and it rolls down a hill and it starts in second gear and Hannah says “Ich hasse den Auto,” and I respond “Oh, ich liebe den Auto…” and I went on to explain that I have a history with the car blah blah blah and you know what? I reminded myself of Cecil. Next time something like this Happens, maybe all I need to say is “Hannah du bist meine Tochter, egal was du denkst.”
And then we buy gas.
And the children notice that there is a paper bag scrutched nt the opening to the gas tank.
And then I am not sure what to do, but I end up following Breckinridge, park the car at the BMW motorcycle shop and we walk to Mr. Z’s for breakfast.
This was the first time I take the children here. I think they liked it alright. The lady who owns the restaurant is from Bosnia and it was nice to point that out to the children.
And then it was noce to be with friends just for a little bit at the BMW store. Dwayne gave us a push start.
And then we drove to the bank, cashed the pay check ($19.00)
And then to the park near my house. It is nice to park the ca there since there is a hill and that means that it is easy to start the car. I pulled the bikes out of the car and we rode on them home. I set Sofia up at home while my neighbors watched Hannah.
Sofia wanted to read her Nancy Drew book.
But soon Hannah came and Hannah wanted to paint. So I got Hannah to paint in the living room. It is really cool what she drew!
Earlier when Hannah was painting she had remarked that she had learned how to paint from a movie called the “Karate Kid”: “Stroke up, stroke down,” she said.
Sofia was more difficult because she wanted to mix the paints first before she even started painting and then all she had the patience to accomplish was to paint green on the wall…
Hannah watched more Tim und Struppi movies on the computer. Later she became interested in watching movies on the DVD player down stairs…
Now Hannah asked me to light a candle and went down starits. Sofia is reading a Nancy Drew book and I ma deliberating letting her know of the Nancy Drew books that I have in the basement when she finishes.
Hannah has arranged a bunch of toys around the candle and is watching the movie now in the basement. “Ich möchte the und dann komme ich runter den ich möchte den Film mit dir, sehen,” I say to Hannah and do some cleaning in the kitchen.
Hannah has just watched Avatar and the other movie she likes t watch is drop-dead gorgeous.
“Oh Sofia, du hast nur noch Fünfzehn Seiten zu lessen, dass sind Dreisig Minuten.” I tell her. Sofia has been reading her book the whole time that Hannah and I have been watching the movie. She was glad when I told her that it was only three o’clock because that means that she has time to finish reading the book.
And then we cooked dinner. Sofia cooked the Rahmen noodles on her own (completely). I added sauerkraut, Bratwurst, greens and we all ate on the back porch.
But the children were not very respectful of the food and started throwing the bratwurst pieces around. I picked the pieces up and told them that they need to be respectful of food.
The children got involved in making cards for Farmor and Farfar which I sent right away.
And then we went to the dance rehearsal.
Sofia becomes very stressed out when things that have to do with her mother do not turn out exactly like she was told. We arrived a few minutes early but LL was late.
The children were super happy to see LL.
I enjoyed the performance very much.
I told the children that I was proud of them.
“Wann Tanzt ihr für echt?” I asked Sofia and she said “Tomorrow!” I give Sofia a nod of approval.
When the children were dancing I was alone with LL. She spent much time on the phone. I asked her if she had called the court house and admitted that I had not done so. She said she had.
When Hannah came back, I pointed out a very good dancer by telling her that she was small. Hannah said that the dancer was her friend and that I should not say that she was small. Why was she like this? It’s because LL was next to her.
I noticed that the children got trophies. I wanted to look at Hannah’s but Hannah would bare let me. LL took the trophy and put it in Hannah’s bag.
The bags of the children were placed between me and them. I was sitting as the distant father on the periphery
However, all that was overshadowed by the ugly nature of LL. She was always as distant from me as possible and each time I spoke with her all I felt was that I was intruding.
That awful person.
As we were leaving she said to me that I stink. I responded “you smell very pretty Rena.”
Several comments like “You don’t need a man,” and “That’s a woman’s thing,” lead me to suspect that Hannah thinks that a man is entirely un-necessary for procreation. I have not corrected her.
But Hannah is very interested in all this stuff. I think much of it has to do with her experiences at the John Powers School. The rest has to do with society. Enshrining all her misunderstandings are the Laskys.
Sofia has known the theory (penis inserted in the vagina) since her mother told her in Paraguay in her ploy to then accuse me of abusing the children when we came to the USA.

May 28, 2008
6:00PM I come home from the lawyer, more about her later, and call LL’s ‘linea baja,’ only to find it busy. I call twice and it is busy both times. I am not able to get through.
I arrive at the theater, where the children will be doing the ballet recital at 6:15PM with two books. One of them I had given Sofia – it was a Nancy Drew book. The other one, Sofia had lend me and I was in the process of reading.
I think that LL is a great problem because the entire Lasky family is unbelievably ugly towards me and they play hard so this is a real shame for the sake of the children.
So, earlier today I went to see a lawyer, a lady called Denis Brown and it is possible that she willhelp me out. She said that she would go to the court house and see what the state of the case was from their perspective.
She read LL’s psychological profile and said “shit,” when she read that it was recommended that LL stay away from relationships for five years.
I was with Denise Brown for about 25 minutes, She made arrangements for us to meet tomorrow again at 4:00PM. There are two things I am asking for help in accomplishing. The first is to deal with the motion that LL is presenting the Judge about my house having no running water and me not being a fit parent (whom she is afraid to leave the children with because she says (and she is deliberately lying) I am a pedophile.) The second is to get the order signed by the judge.
But where are my children? Or anyone for that matter? I look around but can not see them. The performance starts on time, at 7:00PM and I have not located anyone.
7:03PM I try to call LL but she does not answer the telephone.
Just before the first dance I suddenly notice my children run by. Hannah saw me but did not stop. My children know I am here. I saw where they went and followed slowly. Then I saw where the Laskys are sitting: Uncle Rich, Grammy and LL.
The dances my children are participating in are called
“Everybody rejoice,” and
“Hit the road Jack.”

I think that probably Uncle Rich is there to provide a fear factor from the Lasky psyche. They want a strongman to protect them from the truth that is me. I am, of course, utterly unafraid. Do you think a person who has travelled with Berbers on Camels, or with the son of Juan Bosch in the Dominican Republic is afraid of Laskys? So I go and sit on the same row.
Again Sofia and Hannah note that I am there.
Then they suddenly sprang up and left. They considered moving out of the row by way of me but then decided that they would go in the other direction (a consequence of the Lasky psycho-crap.)
And then came their first dance.
I saw that my daughters are on the sidelines because I am sitting at the very edge of the theater. Hannah is one of the first girls to come out and I can see that she is very excited.
Hannah is dancing right in front of me and Sofia is a little more in the midst of the group. The way Hannah moves her head is phonomena’. Sofia dances with poise and dexterously. Sofia is now at the center of the stage and is performing perfectly. She moves to music fluidly and then Hannah comes on stage and she too, perfect, beautiful, unafraid, she just does it. My children move calmly gently and without repose. The music is in their blood and they are manifesting it’s wonder with their bodies. It is a luxury to watch.
My children danced in front of some five hundred people in good synchronicity with the music and they moves their banners in tempo with the beat and I was impressed with their ability to dance. They have it inside them. The are able to dance, they can dance and I think that Grammy and Rena and their uncle is here and that probably adds some stress to their performance and they danced beautifully.
The Lasky’s are an unbelievable bunch. I can not win my children back by having the children make choices. It is something hthat will have to happen from the outside. Social workers need to come in from the outside and the judge needs to intervene.
I was in the hallway, waiting for my kids to fly by, and Nancy suddenly appeared. I said “hello Nancy,” but she continued with stone faced countenance so I repeated the same a little louder “Hello Nancy.” She did not respond, she just walked on.
My children danced again like the greatest. They are both very good. It is amazing. I think they love the second dance a like the second dance a little more because they are flawless this time. This is called “Hit the road Jack.” They hold their hats, they clap their hands, they fold their arms over, they tap their way to the stars without an iota issue. Very impressive.
I caught up with them as they were running back to the Lasky’s from back stage and kissed each of them on the hand. I told them how proud I was of them.
Then I left the premises.

May 29, 2008
Ok, there are a few things to try and recall today when I see my children.
The first is that I have their rain coats and I will return them.
The second is that it would be good to buy chocolate for Sofia for next time we meet. This is because she had wanted some and I had promised her some but then we had forgotten. “Sofia, ich hatte dir versprochen daβ wir Schokolade kaufen würden nach dem Frühstuck am Dienstag, wir waren an der Tankstelle und du wolltest das kaufen, und ich habe dir gesagt daβ wir nicht mall die Schokolade dann kaufen könnten für später nach dem Frühstuck….und dann haben wir vergessen.”
The third is to positively reinforce how great my daughters performance last night was: “Ihr wart sehr schon, habt guten Rytmus erzeugt, gute Bewegung, schön zusammen geblieben und synchronisiert, es sah professional aus!”
The fourth is Math. I have to create a Math game for the kids to learn how to multiply. How about this?
Hannah, what is 2X2? 3X3? 5X5? 10X10?
Sofia, what is 5 X 5 X 5? 3X3X3? 5X5X5? And 10X10X10?
Then I can go through the multiplication table.
The fifth is dinner:
And now that I am back home and it is way late in the day, I can say that I did all the things on my list!
But ldet me recount the story of my time with my children:
I called LL at 4:45PM to inquire if I was to find my children at the Highland coffee house. She did not respond so I left a message inquiring as much. She did not call me back so I went to her place and there I found my children watching TV. As soon as I arrived, the baby sitter, a lady called Saphire closed he door on me. I knocked on the door and she then opened it.
What effect do you think that had on the children? Probably pretty shitty.
“I was wondering if you could call Rena and ask her if I may get my children at the Highland coffee house?”
She said that she would do that for me and I waited outside.
She tried for several minutes to get in touch with LL.
Finally she did get LL and after a few minutes she declared that LL had said it was OK for me to take the children then and there.
So, the kids put on their shoes and out they came and we walked to the Falafel house.
It was fun walking with my children.
You know that they like to be kissed. They do all kinds of things to get kissed. They hit my back pack with a stick and then I wrap my arms around them and tell them that they must not do things like that to my back pack and kiss them. They squirm and pretend that they are being punished but they sure love to be kissed. \
Of course, I bought chocolate at the gas station.
We stopped for a while at the ‘Park fur den Hunden” and they played with one another while I was with the dogs.
The Felafel restaurant was actually a success although it may not have been obvious at all times. There was the art books which Hannah looked at (she was most interested in looking at the pictures of naked women by Delacroix)but Sofia was not interested at all in the art books. I tried to read them a story in German but neither child listened to me. I tried to feed them falafel and cheese sticks and bread and babaganoush but it was an uphill battle. I barely got Hannah to drink some sweet tea and then she realized that she was hungry and ate some bread.
However, out time at the Felafel place was a smashing success because it was interesting. There was a TV with Arabic news in the back ground. The children became interested in making art project with paper and tape: they made paper chains. Hannah drew a sketch of me and a sketch of Sofia. Both are very good. And we remained a this restaurant for a long time.
Then we walked to the highland coffee house for desert. Sofia was the only one to eat desert: a lemon pie.
And then we started walking back to LL’s place. At 7:00PM I called her to tell her that if she wanted to pick up the children she was welcome to do so. I left a message (of course since she almost never picks up the phone.)
I called two more times as we were walking back to her place.
So, I dare say that after having been locked up in their home for the entire day, the children were probably super well served by getting out and spending a couple of hours with me.
Oh, by the way, I had stopped by my new lawyer’s office on my way to pick up the children and she told me that the legal plan that UPS has does not cover the legal work I need. She asked for a $3000 retainer. I told her I would have to hold on that.
LL sent me the following email:
Did you sign Sofia up for the Art in the Beach camp next week? If so, have you confirmed that she is on the list?
I respond:

I sent the money, I hope all is well, .... hope, hope, hope.... has your check been cashed?
Ally Pall
And another email:
Allan,

You ahve not responded abotu Girl Scout camp yet. This starts in less than 2 weeks.

To which I respond:
Dear Lorena,
Your work keeps you tied up until about 5:15PM. I want to be able to be with the children from the moment I get out of work until 5:15PM on all days of the week as well as the times arranged by agreement. It would also be nice to be able to be with the children in the morning from 7:45AM until about 10:00AM since that too is a time when you are at work. This then is my response to your suggestion that Sofia and Hannah go to Girl Scouts: Note that my response does not detract from any TIME the children are with you.
Sincerely,
Allan

May 30, 2008
It seems to me that the most important thing I have to do is go to court and file a motion for not being able to be with my children on Sunday May 25. Then there is CEP – an institution that needs to be ordered by the Judge to be open to communication with me and finally there is JCC. I did all those three (well, except that all I did was to file a motion for CEP to change it’s ways.)
6:00PM I called to speak with my children but no one picked up the phone.
8:00PM I called again and this time I also called LL’s cell phone and left a message asking to speak with my children . I remember that I called Lorena a ‘smooosh frog hippo’ in the message.
May 31, 2008
I was at peter’s house when Sofia called me. She wanted to know if she could go to Samantha’s sleep over/ birthday party on Sunday and I, of course, said ‘yes.’ I asked Sofia if Hannah had been invited and she said ‘no.’ It was obvious that Sofia wanted Hannah to be invited too and she felt bad for Hannah. I told her that I would call Samantha’s mother and ask about the details. Sofia was very exited. This conversation took place entirely (on my half) in German.
I called Samantha’s mother and she told me that certainly Hannah could come – she was only concerned about the children being able to swim and I assured her that both my children are proficient swimmers. I asked if Hannah could also attend the party and assured her that it was alright if not. Sharon, Samantha’s mother asked Sam and Sam said ‘yes.’
As I was talking with Sharon, LL called and left a message. I did not take her call since I was involved in an important telephone conversation. I was told that the children should bring swim gear and that Sofia should bring all her needs for a sleep over (sleeping bag and pillow.) We agreed to ‘play it by ear.”
Then I listened to LL’s message. It went as follows:
10:49AM Allan call me Back! Sofia told me hat you were going to call Samantha’s parents and ask if Hannah can come and that is absolutely not appropriate, that IS Sofia’s friend and that is absolutely inappropriate. H does not need there even if the say ‘yes.’ So call me back so I can make sure you’re not doing something dumb like that.
Well I called LL back and she railed on me. She told me that Sofia needs to have her own set of friends and that Hannah hads been getting all this attention like going to the John Powers school and that Hannah does not know how to behave and that Hannah is not going to be with people her own age and that it was wrong of me to push the parents of Samantha to also invite Sofia…
I listened to her and said “no, I am going to stay with my current plan. Hannah is not invited to the sleep over. But Hannah is invited to the birthday party.” LL tried to make me change my disposition but I did not. I said “I promise you that I am going to take both Hannah and Sofia to the birthday party.”
“You are an idiot!” said LL.
“If you can’t speak to me in an appropriate manner then call me back later.”
“You are acting immature!”
“And now you just called me immature. If you can’t speak to me in an appropriate manner then call me back later.”
Clic. LL hung up on me.