Dear Mr. Lasky-Headrick
We would be happy to phone conference with you.
Bloom's number is 485-8211
The times we are available are the following:
Mrs. Davis/Mrs Odgen's plan time is 10:10-10:55
Mrs. Baldwin' s plan time is 2:45-3:30.
OR
If you send a number we can try to reach you!

Our counselor's name is Brenda Crawford and you can contact her at the same number.

The two envelopes are for February's and May' s report cards.

Also, we will send a copy of Sofia's Young Author's book.

Thank you,
Mrs. Baldwin/Mrs. Davis/ Mrs. Odgen

March 1, 2007
Dear Teachers of Sofia and Hannah,
Thank you for everything in your email. I will call soon. And should you ever need or want to call me, my telephone is (502) 457 - 0062.
Sincerely, Allan

March 1, 2007
Dear Sofia,
The last email I sent to you had tail questions and fraction questions. This email will have sky questions and word questions. Ok, now I have to think of them. Ok here goes:
1. Why does the sky look like a hemisphere? (A hemi sphere is half a ball.)
2. When is there black or brown in the sky?
3. When is there yellow or orange in the sky?
4. What is an aurora borealis?
5. Why is the sun always round but the moon becomes a sliver?

By the way, question 4 is a word and sky question.
6. What does "Te amo" mean?
7. How many syllables are there in the word Hershey’s?
8. Why are the words made in elephant language so deep but in dolphin language so squeaky?

Lots of Love,
Your Daddy.

March 1, 2007
I called Richard and told him that I want to talk with him before the next meeting in order to eliminate the possibility of shitty work.

March 1, 2007
Dear Lorena,
According to Sofia she has not read any of the emails I have sent her in the last two weeks. Can you set her up so that we can communicate by emails?
Thank you,
Allan


March 2, 2007
Dear John,
Richard Nassr states that it is important for Hannah and Sofia to see me on a weekly basis. That is not negotiable. Indeed, the frequency of the parenting times is now, more than ever before, of paramount importance. You are hereby commanded to unerringly exclusively increase the weekly-frequency. I am so sorry that this is not clear. Let me say it again, so that it is certain to be better impregnated into your consciousness. You may ONLY increase the frequency because I am to play an increasing role in the lives of my children and not become a Disney Dad. I want to raise my children.
Also, I do not have enough friends in Louisville to hang out with me and the children for four hours a week on average. You MUST at a minimum, include Lorena and my family in that role or better: get rid of supervision. You can try to do this with Richard's help.
Please make sure that my children and I can meet this week end, this is now very much threatened.
Again, sections (a) and (d) of the attached agreement is not acceptable to me. Also, since Richard has now agreed to Sunday parenting time, my children are better off with a Monday, Tuesday or Thursday call instead of Sunday. I will work with my dad on an agreement that we can handle.
Thanks for trying,
Allan

March 2, 2007
Allan, Please review my letter to Helmers, which I will send after w e have discussed it. It reads as follows:

March 2, 2007

John H. Helmers, Jr., Esq.
Helmers DeMuth & Walton

Re: Allan Lasky-Headrick

Dear John:

I heard from Allan yesterday that the temporary relief hearing on the subject of supervision, which you had set for February 19, did not take place. A later hearing was to deal with the amount of child support payments. I have no information about the outcome of that hearing, if indeed such a hearing took place.

I urge you to schedule a hearing for temporary relief on both these matters as soon as possible. One of these times, Mr. Trenaman’s dilatory tactics will run out of steam and the judge will ask that he be replaced by another attorney, if he is unable to attend a hearing in person. The hearing which I ask you to schedule should deal with the following points:


1) That Allan is allowed to be with his children each week-end for four hours. The hours could be from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m., unless the parents agree otherwise. (Later, in the June hearing, Allan will ask that this amount of time be further extended, but we are moving gradually.)

2) That these visitations or parenting times will be without supervision. For the judge to be able to rule on this point, Richard Nassr must attend court and testify on his assessment of Allan’s behavior as a parent.

3) That during the week, Allan will be allowed three telephone conversations with each of the children, on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, lasting approximately 20 minutes with each child. The conversations would take place between 7:00 and 7:30 p.m., unless the parents agreed on a different time.

4) That Allan is given possession of his children during one half of their Spring Break.

5) That the amount of child support which Allan is required to pay will be determined in light of his income and that of Lorena.

When you have prepared the motion, as you send it to Allan please also copy me, so that he and I can discuss it. My address is williamheadrick@yahoo.com.


Thank you very much for your assistance.

Sincerely yours, William C. Headrick

March 2, 2007
Dear Daddy,
Good.
Lots of Love,
Allan
March 2, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Would you please be so kind as to confirm our meeting with "therapist" LeeAnn Gardner on this coming Monday at 1:00PM --- that is to say in three days. That would be very kind of you.
Sincerely,
Allan
March 2, 2007
It is confirmed.
Lorena Lasky

March 2, 2007
Dear Lorena,
According to Sofia she has not read any of the emails I have sent her in the last two weeks. Can you set her up so that we can communicate by emails? Also, we need to speak about Hannah and her biological parents.
Thank you,
Allan
March 2, 2007
Allan,
You just sent an email saying Sofia had not read your messages you sent over the last two weeks. This is the first email I have from you to them since valentine's day. That was just this past weekend--not 2 weeks ago. Were there others you sent? They will have a chance to write emails this weekend. They have been too busy with schoolwork & delivering GS cookies & delivering cat & ballet to do it on weeknights.
Lorena Lasky
March 2, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Very strange??? How do you suppose the emails get lost? I have now re-sent you the three emails that I have sent Sofia and Hannah (all of which they state they have not read) since Valentines Day. They acknowledge getting the SNOOPY email only. (I did not re-send the SNOOPY email.)
I will see you on Sunday at 1PM at the Karma Cafe.
Sincerely,
Allan

March 2, 2007
Dear John,
I am concerned that there will be no parenting time this week end. (I had told you that this issue needs to be concluded by this week end.)

Could you please do what ever it takes to keep the weekly parenting that is in place going?
Thank you,
Allan

March 2, 2007
Dear John,
I am sorry, it is not good. The most important issues have not been improved upon. Richard would approve my father and mother etc,, and... Richard wants weekly parenting... and that is nothing compared to what I want.
Thank you for trying to negotiate, we need a judge and my children need Richard at the court house.
Allan

March 2007
Allan; please remit $510.

P.O. Box 4161
Louisville, KY 40204

Current balance- $102.00
March (in advance) 8 hours = $408.00

When counsel finally agrees that your hours are to increase, we will adjust
accordingly.

Thanks, Richard

March 2, 2007
Allan; there is no attempt to isolate myself from this matter. I am just very busy these days with what is turning to out to be two full-time jobs.
We can talk before the next visit for about 20 minutes. Enough time?
Richard

March 2, 2007
Allan, I noticed in one of your recent emails that you said we were to meet at Karma Cafe at 1:00p on Sunday. Your appointments are pre-scheduled for 3:30pm every week until I hear otherwise from counsel. I had a conference call with both of them today and as yet, nothing is changed. See you both at 3:30pm. Richard
March 2, 2007
Oh I had a great conversation with my children but as you can tell from the email I sent LL I was a bit concerned about the way the telephone conversation ended. It turns out that the battery in the mobile phone at LL’s is a bit weak according to Sofia in tomorrow’s conversation.
But first I spoke with Hannah. LL was, according to Hannah, driving her and Sofia to Rebecca’s house. It was a short conversation which leads me to think that Rebecca does not live too far from LL’s place. Hannah was therefore fast off the phone, but the time I was with her was great. Then, Sofia got on the phone.
Sofia asked me questions: Who is your favorite famous American? (Rosa Parks) Who is your favorite famous American who is famous for more than half their lives? (Hellen Keller.) and many other such questions.
Sofia has been studying Daniel Boone and she told me about him.
Sofia told me that it was Dr. Seuz day. I asked her to list at least five books he had authored and she promptly did so.
Then at 7:24PM the phone was cut out. But then a while later (five minutes) I called back and Sofia answered the phone. We talked until 8:45PM. And Sofia told me that LL was asleep. She was taking a nap and probably did not know that Sofia was on the phone. We spent most of the time playing word games on the computer.

March 3, 2007
Sofia tried to call me a great many times today between 4:14PM and 4:46PM:
“Hello, daddy Lasky-Headrick, please call me back my Daddy. Sings a funny song that has only the syllables daddy in it, bye bye.”
“Hello this is Sofia daddy and we were tying to talk to you since we didn’t get to talk with you yesterday so lease call me back, thank you.”
“Hello, DADDY LASKY HEADRICK, CALL ME BACK BEFORE I CALL YOU!”
LL called me and left the following message: Sofia wanted to call you today so we wanted to call. It makes more sense than Sunday. We are basically going to be here the rest of the day unless we decide to go out for dinner, so if you want to call you can call 625 1218
The Sofia left another message: “Hello Daddy Lasky-Headrick call me back right now!”
And another: “Hello, we were just trying to call you because we know that Saturday would be better than Sunday because we don’t want to call right after we see you, so please call us back. Thank you.”
And finally Sofia left this short message: “Call me back.”
Oh I had a great conversation with Sofia. She called me spontaneously at around 5:00PM. She explained that LL had told her that since tomorrow she will be with me, that she was calling me today. We started talking about fractions and then we got on the computer and played word games together. LL cut us off. But we were in the middle of a difficult math question (what is a half plus a third) when LL cut us off, so Sofia called me back about five minutes later and said 5 sixths! Wow! (I had given her a hint, to cut a cake into six pieces, before the phone was hung up.) I left her with the challenge of adding a third and a quarter.

Sofia tried to call me six times !!!!!!

March 4, 2007

Dear Lorena,
It is nice to get a response to something for which you are needed so that one feels that it is really going to happen. One example is that you will bring the children to the Karma Cafe today at 3:30PM. I note that there is the non-example of you confirming that we will meet at LeeAnn's the day after tomorrow at 1:00PM.
Have a nice day,
Allan

March 4, 2007
Richard was sick: We did not have anything like the time needed for us to process what was about to happen. I actually said pretty much the following to Richard and he in fact also read it:

Hi there Richard, I am meeting with you for this ‘pep-talk’ of great importance because as you by now should have gathered, the case is not progressing and by now, it has been drug out by stupid idiots for so long that the concept of justice has been shot to hell – all I am looking for is, the best well-being for my children. Do you understand? (Richard probably understands but he is somewhat, but he is quite spineless and incapable of having a feeling about what he should say or be.) Either way, whether he understands and says ‘yes,’ or doesn’t and says ‘no,’ or lies and says ‘yes/no,’ I continue… certainly you have not shown understanding. For example, when I told my children that they should not lie to their therapists, you went off the deep end and discontinued my children spending any time with me for a third of a year, when you were the case coordinator and were called upon to instantiate unsupervised visits you declined, when you stand before the KGB (Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo) you defer to them in spite of what you know to be true. You are fundamentally an incompetent social worker and incapable of judicious action. In any case, you are invited to spend some time with Sofia, Hannah and myself as we consider the lives they have been forced to lead, but you are not allowed to use in direct form any of the information you may accrue in that meeting. This is necessary because the children must be safe. Do you understand? (Richard probably does not understand this because he is too ignorant about the case. I do not know if Richard ever told the KGB or the Lasky-Ungaros about the children stating they had lied to the therapists. If he did then I have not heard that the children suffered any consequences. Of course I have spent very little time with them and have a miniscule window on their lives.) In any case, I continue to explain to Richard why I do not think he understands and illustrate why I feel he is blind, incompetent, scant, superficial, and worse than worthless. Richard, do you remember in the Wallmart parking lot you asked the children about the allegations and they denied them. They also stated that they lied to their social workers. Later, when I was with you, I asked you whether you had inquired as to the reason for their lying to the social workers and you shrugged your shoulders and walked away from me. You were pleased with your work and I was glad that you had done as much as you had, but I wondered about the loose screws in your head. If the children, both, with separate social workers are telling them lies, does it not make sense to ask why they are lying? Why did you not inquire as to the source of the lies? The answer is mostly because you are an idiot. It is also possible that you are afraid to undermine the work of the KGB. What were you thinking when the children told you that they lie to the therapists? Do you think that children lie for fun? For kicks? For no reason? You are a blithering idiot.

What I am going to be doing with my children is to undermine the work of the KGB. In order to do this, and because you, Richard, have been such a sloth, the children will need a very special format for the discourse that will provide them with the complete safety they need.

That special format consists in first place of the absolute assurance that nothing said will ever leak beyond us. Do you understand? Richard most certainly does not understand this because his job is to remove children from unsafe situations and that means that if the children explain that they have been coached that he will want to use this information to remove them from the Lasky-Ungaros. What Richard does not understand is that the KGB and himself have made that an extremely dangerous thing to do. Quite apart that at this point, to upset the entire structure of the children’s lives is not a good idea, the children have been placed in time out confinement, have been psychologically demeaned and destroyed, have been tortured when ever the Lasky-Ungaro Grandmother felt that it was necessary to rein them in.. It is, now that Richard and the KGB have been such atrocious social workers, better is to put things on a definite track of improvement than it is to re-define reality. The case has not progressed for so long and has been drug out by stupid idiots for so long that the concept of justice has been shot to hell – all I am looking for is, the best possible well-being for my children given the shitty circumstances.

That special format consists in second place of there being no pressure to say anything. If nothing comes of the conversation, that is OK.

I am sorry to insult your intelligence by repeating myself. The most important thing for you to remember is this: Your behavior will never directly reflect any of the truth that comes out today. You may never mention that this conversation happened. You may never quote the utterances of this conversation. You may not write any of this conversation down. Sofia and Hannah are scared to talk about their grandmother. They stab themselves with pencils and have nightmares when they try to find a way around this hell that the KGB and you have created.

What are you allowed to do? You are only allowed to speak from your own self. You can say “I am certain that the children were coached to lie to their therapists,” but you may not say “Sofia said that she was coached.” Although this parameter is to hold true until Sofia, Hannah and I tell you otherwise, this future potential opening will not be disclosed in the conversation today. As far as today is concerned, you a sworn to secrecy. If you fail us (again,) god help you.

So, now I must get ready for the next time I am with my children. I will want to talk with them about their grandmother but there are some rules that I want to lay down:
1. The children must be safe. That means that there can be no repercussions from them speaking about their lives with the Lasky-Ungaros. The only way to guarantee that is to promise them that anything that they say will never be said to anyone. Richard and I will not tell LL, not tell Nancy, not tell anyone in the Lasky family and we will not tell Kim Dial, not tell Ginger Crumbo and we will not tell the Judge. We will tell nobody. It will be as if nothing had ever been said.
2. The children should be happy. I want to come up with fun things for them to do while we are talking. I think it might be more fun if we drive somewhere and then I make a video of them singing like they did for the ghost buster movie.
3. I must get Richard to swear that he will tell no one. Fuck him if he wants to change the world – he has lost that chance. All he can do is make it better.
4. We must not try in any way to blame LL. We will focus exclusively on the behaviors of Nancy.
And here are some of the questions I want to ask.
1. Did you send Grammy my love?
2. Do you remember going to the school near Grammy’s house?
3. Do you remember when I came to visit you then and Mommy and I took you to see Peter Pan?
4. Do you remember when there was tapping on the window at Grammy’s house and it was the wind?
5. What do you remember about Paraguay? Motorcycle, Fatima, Francy, Mommy’s apartment with the swimming pool, Hannah’s Montesori school, Sofia’s German school, Concordia, learning to swim, the fire on the back seat of my VW bug? Mommy’s red jeep?
6. Do you remember when I recorded the conversation that I had with you, Sofia and then Ginger Crumbo found out? Tell me about that.
7. Who was the second girl to say something bad about Daddy? What made you change your mind?
8. And then I had to go to Texas because that was where my house is, and you lived with Grammy. Was Grammy nice to you?
9. Was Grammy nice to you about me, your Daddy?
10. Like what would Grammy do? Or say to you about me?

Oh what a time with Sofia and Hannah. Right after spending time with my children I sent Richard the following summary of the salient points.
Hannah told me that Grammy says that “I peed in her mouth.”
Sofia told Richard that he “is there to say everything to the Judge.”
Sofia and Hannah told me that Grammy says that I am “a mean person and that I am a liar.”
Sofia refused to tell Richard what she could tell him that he could tell the judge.
Both children were squirmy but Sofia was much more so. I had hoped to eliminate the squirm by making the children safe – nothing said would have any repercussions, but Richard’s presence made this not possible.
The children were in the middle. This can not happen again. The children need to process reality in their own way and at their own speed and under a joint custody situation this will happen.

There was a time when Hannah and I were playing chess and Richard pulled Sofia aside to see if she could tell him what I would otherwise tell the judge. It did not work. Sofia was decided about the path she was going to follow. I think that irritated him.

Sofia knew exactly what Richard’s purpose is as a supervisor. Sofia said that LL had told her. This undermines Richard’s purpose. Why the fuck is he there if the children know what he is about? It made it very difficult to get through to the children.

Hannah took full responsibility for being the first one to make the allegations. I hope she was able to read from my body language that it was not she, but the coacher! Poor girl.

And there is another salient point which is that Hannah spoke with her biological father for the first time in her life today. I asked her if she wanted to speak with him (I had arranged this with him while chatting on the internet this last week). She asked “where is he?” I told her “In North Carolina.” When I dialed his number on the cell phone she saw that the cell phone screen showed “Scottie Hannah, North Carolina.” When Scottie answered the phone I introduced myself and told him that I was sitting next to his biological daughter, Hannah. Hannah was excited. I told Scottie “I love you man,” and passed the phone onto Hannah. She did not speak for long but it looked like there was a huge wall that had burst when she handed me back the phone.

After Hannah and Sofia had been returned to LL, I called Scottie and described Hannah and thanked him for speaking with her. He was very grateful to me. In essence, we were grateful to one another.

Now the question arises, what to do about Lorena? I asked Farfar, who feels that this is rather unusual and that the Judge, if involved would not be friendly to me about this. Oh well, I did what I feel is right.

It is such a tough situation that my children are in. When LL came to pick them up I went to both when they were already in the car and kissed them. I kissed them and hugged them greatly.

This is the email I wanted to send LL but did not.
Dear Lorena,
I have been in touch with Hannah's biological father for three years. He called me the first time in early of 2004 (March?). I had just arrived in Texas! We have been mostly in email communication since he does a considerable amount of traveling. We have spoken close to a dozen times but the emails and chatting oer the internet have been frequent.

I have been showing Hannah pictures of her biological father for over a year and Hannah communicated with her biological father today, for the first time, on the telephone.

May I give him your telephone number? He would like to call you.

Hannah's biological father put me in touch with Hannah's biological mother. There was a time when I was not able to communicate with her because she was not available, but that ended about a year ago. She has not asked to speak with Hannah but she will ask (one of these days.)
Sincerely,
Allan

Why not? Because I am in such a precarious situation with LL in the court and NOT because I am afraid. Let me make this clear. I believe this is the right thing to do. I believe that if Hannah knows that Scottie and I are aligned that she will be happier (? Is that the fear that other people might have?) and I believe that it is good for Hannah to understand where she comes from. At least slowly but surely and this is slow as can be. This sentiment is compounded by my appreciation of Scottie who has been a great human being in all his interactions with me for the last three years.

Now, I have not told Hannah about Scotties reality: He never knew that Sarah was pregnant. He found out that his child had been given up for adoption only several months after the adoption process had been finished. In other words, he had made love with Sarah and had never been let in on the consequences. This might have legal implications? He could, I suppose, put a motion in a court. Scottie seems to me very unlikely to do this. He is only appreciative that LL and I adopted Hannah. He has children of his own and he is happy that we are helping him with Hannah. The same can be said of Sarah, although I have interacted with Sarah a fraction of what I have interacted with Scottie.

Scottie tried to find Sarah last week, or so he told me. He said that he had gone by Sarah’s mother’s work place but that Sarah’s mother had not been there then.

And so now, what I am curious to know is whether the children will tell LL? They haven’t so far, or if they have, I have not heard any of the repercussions. That is to say, just last week we tried to call Scottie and Hannah left a message on his answering machine but I never heard any of this consequences in the Lasky home.

I am very concerned about Hannah because she is taking most of the brunt for this order. She said to me that she was the first to say anything and the Lasky-Ungaros are reinforcing that belief in her absolutely. She was three years old and does not remember any more who that Grammy and or LL were the ones who coached her make allegations. She said “I was the first.” She believes this now. At some point or other I must ask her to think more about her interactions with Nancy. She knows that there is a lot of enmity coming from Nancy and she can still be relieved of the burden of being the one who started this crap. In a sense, it is my word against Nancy’s (and the Lasky-Ungaros, and in the end, I know that she will realize that a trick was played on her. After she comes to this realization, I will do what ever it takes to re-equilibriate her relationship with LL.

I told the children, right after Sofia had said that Richard was present to say “everything that is said to the judge,” that “I love Richard, he has a really good personality.” I assured the children that if either of us said anything that they said, that we would cut the other’s tongues out.

Later I remarked that Richard had not brought his water bottle in a long time. I asked “do you think that Richard only brings his water bottle in the summer?”

March 5, 2007 I think is when we go to LeeAnn’s at 1PM.
Dear Sofia,
According to a legend, a Chinese Emperor's wife once said "I notice that our Mulberry trees are becoming damaged and I want to find out why." (An emperor is like a president.)

The empress discovered that a small, drab-colored moth was laying eggs on the leaves. The tiny eggs would hatch into little worms that, after a few days, would spin cocoons and damage the leaves. (This is very much like butterflies.)

Wondering what would happen if she tried to destroy the cocoons, she dropped one of them into a pot of hot water. (I don't think the water was boiling, but it was very hot.)

To her surprise, the cocoon started to unwind into a long silvery thread.

That is how silk was discovered! Silk is the softest, wonderfullest, prettiest and most comfortable cloth in the world. Ask Mommy or Grammy if they have something made of silk so that you can feel it.

I had a wonderful time with you on Sunday -- Yesterday. I want to play chess with you.

Have you discovered what a third plus a quarter is? (This is a very hard question and so I will give you a clue: You have to cut the pie into twelve pieces -- where did I get the number 12?)

I do not know what a thrid plus a quarter is, but I will find out today.

I LOVE YOU,
Your Daddy.

March 5, 2007
Dear Hannah,
I am sitting with a big dog on my lap called Mellow. "Mellow is a yellow fellow!" you had said. I have my lap-top-computer on top of Mellow's back and I am trying to tell Mellow about you. Mellow wants to meet you again.
Ooops, Mellow moved.
Mellow kissed me.
I have no hair on my head and it feels nice when Mellow comes and gives me kisses. I love dog kisses. Not all people like dog kisses. Some people think that dog kisses are yucky, but not me! Dog kisses make me happy.
Now my computer is on the floor and I am writing to you to tell you that I LOVE YOU.
I want to see you soon,
Your Daddy

March 5, 2007
I got a call from Richard Nassr. He wanted to know more about what happened with Alicia. I told him everything except for one thing that escaped my mind which is that “I need a doctor.” He told me that he had gotten a call from Kim Dial. Kim Dial says that Hannah had told her that I had denied the allegations and that I had spoken with Hannah about Lorena having a boy friend. Nothing of the sort happened, ever. This is a total 100% case of coaching.

Now I am at LeeAnn’s and I am waiting for LL. LL is late.

March 5, 2007
This is the story of what happened today with LeeAnn Gardner. After reading it, it is worth evaluating whether LeeAnn is a friend of the KGB. I myself, am personally bewildered about whether LeeAnn has any understanding of what to say or how to act. It's funny how she does the same thing that the mediator did in the mediation meeting. Keep us apart. Both she and the mediation guy, put words into her mouth so that she could easily stand her ground.

I arrived a few minutes early and LeeAnn came out and said "I only see one of you. Have you heard anything about Lorena?" I told her that I had, and that as late as yesterday, she had confirmed that she would be coming. I was working on my laptop, writing down things about my conversation with Richard. LeeAnn said something about the painting on my laptop computer that seems utterly stupid to me: "I didn't know you could do that, paint a lap top." I simply let it slide.

Just then Lorena came in.
"I thought I heard your voices she said," as she entered the room. She sounded like she was in a good mood. She was laughing and speaking about trivial things. LeeAnn Gardner said that since the last meeting "there had been a lot and a lot of nothing." She went on to describe how there had been a lot of nothing. "You have been to mediation and that did not result in anything," she said. I asked her what she had meant by "as lot," and it turned out that she had not meant anything by it. Lorena was happy to talk about the mediations. After all nothing had happened. LL is sitting in the comfortable lounge chair and she is just playing along.

I ask LL to please reconsider what she is doing for the sake of Sofia and Hannah. I tell her that the children are much more important than she or I and that there is a way out for all of us. It would entail us puttting the blame (to the children) on some of the social workers, but if we, as parents, could become aligned and stop this madness, then it will be better for the children. I also tell her that she will feel better if she admits to what has happened. That I will nopt take the children away from her. That I understand that she is important to the children. I am in the middle of explaining how we could save money and anguish, when LeeAnn interjects:

"You guys have always been at opposite ends, Allan. What do you think you are doing here?"

I was shocked. LL had not even responded to me and LeeAnn had butted in and made a statement tht went in exactly the opposite direction for progress. Where as I had tried to do something to mittigate our differences, she had cememted out differences.

"What are you doing? LeeAnn!" I said

And then the topic of conversation was changedd to what our roles are. I noted that LeeAnn refused to state what her role was. I stated that my role was to try and help LL and I overcome our differences as I had just been doing, but if there was any chance that LL would have worked this ethical scar from her psyche with me, now, because of LeeAnn butting in, it was gone.

Lorena claims that she has not spoken with the children about Richard and if she ever did it was many years ago. LL said that "the children are fond of Richard."

LeeAnn asked Lorena to check and see if she has gotten the three emails that I have sent the children between Valentines day and last week.

I pointed out that Sofia had drawn a picture of the allegation at Nancy's house (LeeAnn confirmed that with LL,) and then a year and a half later, Hannah had drawn the allegations and I pointed out that this was highly indicative of coaching.
"What? Do you mean to tell me that you believe we are teaching the children how to draw?" Lorena put on a pugnacious air.
"Yes, and every time there is an allegation made, I believe the children were primed."

I note that in the main scheme of things, LeeAnn is pandering to the game.

Lorena talked about how busy she is, and that for this reason she claims that she dials my number and then passes the telephone onto Sofia or Hannah. She said that one time she is in the car, driving and she did that. Obviously then, Lorena is not concerned about supervision. The fact that Sofia can call my number any time she can snag Lorena's telephone is also an indicator that Lorena knows that there is no "real" need to supervise. The fact that Lorena tells her daughter that she is taking a nap and lets her talk to me for one hour indicates that Lorena knows that there is no "real" need flor supervision. After all, Lorena is just seeing how much mileage she can get from the trick that her mother, Nancy, played on the children.

At the end of the meeting, Lorena pulled out her keys and there were pictures of the children on the keys. LeeAnn wanted to look at them . I asked LL for the opportunity to get pictures like that as well from the school. LL agreed to do that.

I learned that my children go to Tae Kwon Do on Mondays.

I asked about the report cards: LL said that she would get me the report cards as well.

LeeAnn asked LL to send me copies of any of the handouts that the school provides.

We agreed to meet again on March 20, 2007 at 3:30PM. I understand that is a Tuesday.

March 5, 2007
Oh my goodness, LL is za terrible person. I was really trying to make it possible for her to safely (without loosing her face and relationship with her children) to find a way out of the hell hole that she has gotten herself into and she did not have the strength to admit what she has done. My heart is now very hard and I am not interested in any negotiations.
Lorena told me that she has never, or if ever, not in years, spoken about the purpose of Richard Nassr. She said that if she did say anything to the children, she would have said "so that the children feel safe." I said "Is that appropriate?"
Lorena did agree to doubling the number of hours that the children and I can spend each week from 2 to 4. God, it's like pulling teeth.

March 5, 2007
Right after the meeting I had called Richard and told him that probably Nancy had told the children what his purpose wqas supposed to be.
It's funny that Richard admitted what his purpose is to the children in the Wallmart parking lot, but he has forgotten.
But now I remember again that Sofia said that it was her mother who had told her what Richard is supposed to be doing.
So, at 7:00PM I called Richard and told him that I regret feeling that LL is a deception artist.

March 5, 2007
Isn't it necessarily true that LL is obviously lying, LeeAnn, when she states that she last checked her emails on Saturday and then I read to her of an email from Friday she claims that she did not get it. The whole email fiasco is just a farce. Lorena claimed that four of the last emails I have sent were not received (three were for my children.)

March 5, 2007
Dear John,
Lorena agreed to weekly parenting (with the exception of during spring break) with a doubling of the time (from 2 to 4 hours) today int he presence of LeeAnn Gardner. That is all that we have agreed. (parenting is what the "other" people call 'visits.')

Richard probably called you today. He may have told you that he is exasperated. Please ask him to hang on until unsupervised visists are ordered. He will be very unhappy about 4 hour parenting-intervals. Please convince him of the importance of these and to agree with them and do them until we have unsupervised visits.

Kim Dial called Richard and told him that Hannah had told her that I had denied the allegations and had spoken with her about LL's boyfriend (2 weeks ago.) Both of these are not true and they are coached statements. The supervisor (called Alicia) can not corroborate this because it never happened so she can not have witnessed it.

What is the next step?
Thank you,
Allan


March 6, 2007
This morning, I tried to call LeeAnn to tell her my feelings about Lorena not supervising anything or caring about anything, just using other people, but LeeAnn's answering machine is broken since the fax machine keeps coming on.

March 6, 2007
LeeAnn's telephone answering machine worked on the third call and I left a message where I pointed out htat since LL is probnably aspeep, or in the next door, or just gives the phone to the children or allows them to dial the number that LL can not feel that there si a real need for supervision. I asked LeeAnn not to allow herself to be used by LL for the purposes of keepiong me away from my children.

March 6, 2007
I called the KGB and left a message on their answering machine. I exp[lained that Richard had called me because Richard had recieved a call from Kim Dial. I stated that I am completely available to speak about any of the parenting intervals with Kim Dial and that I am also extending this offer to Ginger Crumbo. I stated that Richard had informed me that Hannah had claimed that I had denied the allegations and that I had spoken about LL's boy friend. I denied both of these and informed them that the children have always (since mid 2004) denied the allegations and that I have record after record of this. I told them that I know nothing about LL's personal life and that even if I did know anything about her personal life that I would not speak with my daughters about it because that would be inappropriate, that would be like telling the child about people who go to court and speak on their behalf.

March 6, 2007
Dear Sofia,
I love you very much. Mommy said that she and you would read and send emails to me at least every week. Tell me what is your favorite plant? Does it have a flower? Does it have leaves? Does it have roots?
Is there a plant that does not have roots?
what about a plant with out leaves? Can you think of one?
Oh, and what is one third plus one quarter? Can you think this one out? I worked it out yesterday and it took me a few minutes. .
Your loving Daddy, Daddy.

March 6, 2007
Dear Richard,
Lorena agreed to 4 hours every weekend - and was fine with 3:30PM to 7:30PM. Can you make that for next week end? I propose that we pick the children up at Lorena's place because then we can drop them off at Lorena's place since it will be close to their bed time and they will have school the next day. However, it is possible that Lorena will say "NO," and so then we can meet nearby, at the post office next to the KFC on Bardstown road or ... . Would it be too much to ask for you to please bring what ever documentation you need for Lorena and me to sign, to be able to ride with me and the children in the car?

I will send Lorena a separate email and will copy you in on it.
Thank you,
Allan

March 6, 2007: I sent the following message for Richard to Farfar for him to review.
Dear Richard,
I am writing to you from my heart. When I write to you using my intellect, I am not able to write to you as I am doing now. That is because my brain scans your actions and utterances, analyses you, and realizes what you do and do not do. You know this, because we have had many opportunities to discuss things. For example, during our last telephone conversation you used the word "contradict." Do you actually think I was contradicting my child? Where does that come from? It is these kinds of underlying misshaps that trouble my brain.

However, when I consider you with my heart, I know that you mean well. I am always trying to provide you with an opportunity to do well, not for me but for Sofia and Hannah. This means that I will never take you to court, my father will also never take you to court, no one on my side wants to take you to court. That is a promise.

Sincerely,
Allan

March 6, 2007
The first paragraph does not sound right to me. It
gives the impression that, from the standpoint of your
intellect, you are dissatisfied with his performance.
As I read it, you are saying that intellectually you
can place blame on him, although your heart forgives
him. Why not simply say that you appreciate his many
efforts to help you by making it possible for you to
see your children. Then you can end with your phrase:
This means that I will never take you to court, etc.

Your Dad

March 6, 2007
Richard Nassr clearly does not want to have anything to do with this case. He implied this very strongly when he said that he was going to call John Helmers. He has a funny way of playing with me, like a twisted psycho warping the truth to suit his purposes. He had called me yesterday and said "Now why are you threatening me with legal propositions?" I had called him the night before and warned him that Sofia had stated to him that Alicia had done a scant job (my own words) and that this same kind of statement had been used to eliminate him from the list of possible supervisors. Amazingly, even though I was warmning him that the Lasky family may use this against him, he accused ME of threatening him with legal action. What a fucking nut!

And now and entire day has gone by and I have heard nothing from him. I have also heard nothing from Helmers. I will call both tomorrow.

I admit that this is a hard time for me. I feel so utterly let down by the processes of justice and fairness and equality that are supposed to exist and I know that the people who are truly paying the price are my daughters.

March 6, 2007
I was thinking to myself that LL is on a loosing streak. She will only loose the children as the years go by. She will loose them more and more and she may become pissed off. She may think "Allan just keeps taking more and more," and I will only know that "whereas I give..... (and I even give when I have almost nothing to give. For example, I invite LL to spend time with the children while they are with me) Lorena steals."

March 6, 2007
Dear Richard,
I called Kim Dial (and Ginger Crumbo,) I left a message on their answering machine explaining that you, Richard, had called me consequent to a call from Kim Dial.

I stated that I am completely available to speak about any of the parenting intervals with Kim Dial and that I am also extending this offer to Ginger Crumbo.

I stated that you, Richard, had informed me that Hannah had claimed to Kim Dial that I had denied the allegations and that I had spoken about LL's boy friend. I denied both of these.

I informed Kim Dial that the children have chronically denied the allegations since January/March 2004. I told them that I know nothing about LL's personal life and (that even if I did know anything about her personal life) that I would NOT speak with my daughters about it because it's inappropriate,

Again, Kim Dial should at least conclude that there was possible coaching and do some inquiring to confirm this. I am repeating what I said to Lorena and LeeAnn. "Every time there is an allegation, the child was coached." The lives of my daughters in the hands of the Lasky's is dangerous for the children and has been, since December of 2003. .
Sincerely,
Allan

March 7, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I emailed Richard yesterday that you had agreed, at LeeAnn's office, to my investing four hours/week of parenting in the lives of Sofia and Hannah. You said that Sunday from 3:30PM to 7:30PM works for you. I am wondering where you think it would be best for me to pick up the children? I thought that since they will need to go to bed soon after they leave me, you might want me to pick them up (and drop them off) at the entrance to your place.

March 7, 2007
Dear Cecilia,
Daddy told me last night that you were now in the hospital and would have your operation in the morning. We have been keeping our toes and fingers crossed that everything goes smooth. Mommy had not called Daddy at the time that I called so I am guessing that Daddy is now much more up-to-date which is perfectly good.

Daddy told me that he works on his book in a part-time-job kind of way (that means at most four hours per day) and spends time with the Bone-dog --- while Mommy is with you. Hum? It seems like it is the same when Mommy is with him.

Daddy told me that he had spoken with Mark and that Mark had claimed that he had very little work. Daddy said to Mark "why don't you come visit then?" and Mark said "Naw, I'm too lazy, it's too far" (my own words) but the funny thing for me is that Daddy is in the same situation as Papo (without work) and it did NOT occurr to Daddy to visit Mark. I bet Mark didn't think of Daddy possibly visiting him either. Daddy has trained us all to not even think that he would travel to visit someone for the love of hanging out and bonding. That's our Daddy: well entrenched in his own life and likes it. That's the way we all want to end up, (happy to be stuck with out own way of being) isn't it?

Oh, Daddy and I have a new difference-in-opinion to contemplate. You are a good person to tell this to, so here goes:

I have been communicating with Hannah's biological parents, but mostly with her biological father, for over three years now... and finally, last week, I allowed Hannah to speak with her biological father. Hannah spoke for about five minutes and when she gave me the phone back, she was radiant: Like a huge wall had come crashing down and she was glad that she had been able to speak with him.

Daddy thinks that is a bad idea.

But since it has now happened, it is neither good nor bad.... it is just the way is happened. Please send Mommy my love or you can let her read this email too.
Lots of love and I hope to hear that you are doing well,
Allan

March 7, 2007

Richard Nassr clearly does not want to have anything to do with this case. He implied this very strongly when he said that he was going to call John Helmers. He has a funny way of playing with me, like a twisted psycho warping the truth to suit his purposes. He had called me yesterday and said "Now why are you threatening me with legal propositions?" I had called him the night before and warned him that Sofia had stated to him that Alicia had done a scant job (my own words) and that this same kind of statement had been used to eliminate him from the list of possible supervisors. Amazingly, even though I was warning him that the Lasky family may use this against him, he accused ME of threatening him with legal action. What a fucking nut!

And now and entire day has gone by and I have heard nothing from him. I have also heard nothing from Helmers. I will call both tomorrow.

I admit that this is a hard time for me. I feel so utterly let down by the processes of justice and fairness and equality that are supposed to exist and I know that the people who are truly paying the price are my daughters.
When I called tonight Sofia picked up the phone and LL never introduced me to her day. She did not do so either with Hannah. Sofia was sick and I talked with her about all the dirrent kinds of diseases. There was a lot of love between us. I can tell when Sofia says “Daddy,”

March 7, 2007: This is what I ended up sending Richard.
Dear Richard,
I appreciate your many efforts to help by making it possible for Sofia and Hannah to see me. This means that I will never take you to court, my father will also never take you to court, no one on my side wants to take you to court. That is a promise.
Sincerely,
Allan

March 9, 2007

Allan, I am copying you on a letter I will mail to Helmers tomorrow or Monday.


Dear Mr. Helmers:

I enclose payment of your invoice No. 36824 in the amount of $2,139.00. I also take the opportunity to bring to your attention Allan’s need for provisional relief. Last week-end I sent you an e-mail, which you should have seen on Monday, March 5th, in which I outlined the points that should be covered by a hearing for temporary relief. Please note that, in the meantime, Lorena has agreed to allow Allan to visit with his children for four hours each week-end, in lieu of the two hours she had previously allowed. That issue will therefore not be a confliclting one at the hearing, although it should be included in the judge’s ruling, in order to prevent Lorena from going back on her word. I have also heard from Allan that Richard Nassr is becoming increasingly uncomfortable about having to supervise Allan. His attitude makes it all the more important that Allan be given the right to be with his children without supervision.

Lorena has seldom listened in on the numerous telephone conversations Allan has had with his children, in order to monitor what they say to each other. She goes about her household chores while the children speak freely with their father. I am beginning to understand that Lorena’s demand for supervision is not derived from a concern that Allan might coach the children or discuss the allegations, but from a fear that, if Allan is left alone with the children, he may attempt to snatch them. Allan has attempted to reassure Lorena on that score during their last mediation.

The list of points mentioned in my e-mail of last week-end, which I suggested including in the motion to be drafted for the meeting for provisional relief, is set forth below. I have only removed the request that Allan be given possession of his children during Spring Break, as that issue will have become moot by the time the hearing takes place. The two most important issues are unsupervised visitation rights and child support payments. Allan is receiving a meager salary, which makes it impossible for him to pay to Lorena the amount determined by the criminal court and puts him in violation of the child support order issued by that court. His suspended sentence is therefore in jeopardy.

The list of points is as follows:

1) That Allan is allowed to be with his children each week-end for four hours. The hours could be from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m., unless the parents agree otherwise. (Later, in the June hearing, Allan will ask that this amount of time be further extended, but we are moving gradually.)

2) That these visitations or parenting times will be without supervision. For the judge to be able to rule on this point, Richard Nassr must attend court and testify on his assessment of Allan’s behavior as a parent.

3) That during the week, Allan will be allowed three telephone conversations with each of the children, on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, lasting approximately 20 minutes with each child. The conversations would take place between 7:00 and 7:30 p.m., unless the parents agreed on a different time.

4) [omitted]

5) That the amount of child support which Allan is required to pay will be determined in light of his income and that of Lorena.

Thank you again for your valuable assistance.

Sincerely yours,

William C. Headrick

March 6, 2007: I sent this email a while ago…. Richard did not respond until today. I have been left in a state of ignorance all week (Monday through Friday) about whether I will see my children this weekend and finally today, March 9, 2007 I called Richard and said something very accommodating like “we meet for 2 hours at the post office on Bardstown road, please!” But here is the email that I sent on the 6th and then comes Richard’s belated response.

Dear Richard,
Lorena agreed to 4 hours every weekend - and was fine with 3:30PM to 7:30PM. Can you make that for next week end? I propose that we pick the children up at Lorena's place because then we can drop them off at Lorena's place since it will be close to their bed time and they will have school the next day. However, it is possible that Lorena will say "NO," and so then we can meet nearby, at the post office next to the KFC on Bardstown road or . . Would it be too much to ask for you to please bring what ever documentation you need for Lorena and me to sign, to be able to ride with me and the children in the car?

I will send Lorena a separate email and will copy you in on it.
Thank you,
Allan

March 9, 2007
Yes, will do. I think it would be healthy for the children to see dad and mom at the 'next step' (albeit a small one)- that is, pick up and drop off at Lorena's. Lorena, are how do you feel about that? While I agree with the four hour slots, I will have 'relief' (ie: Dennis) meet us midway through the visit to take over. We will need to be within a reasonable distance of my main office downtown. Allan, we will plan to meet 15 minutes prior as usual. Thanks, Richard

March 10, 2007: I read Richard’s email and was glad but saw that he is not paying attention because this email is a response to an email I wrote where I stated that “I will send Lorena a separate email and will copy you in on it.” Now LL can surmise that the push to drive my car is coming exclusively from me and Richard does not take responsibility. Indeed, it will be as if Richard had not created this difficulty. Just for the record, the fact that I have not been able to drive anywhere with my children was a Richard idea that LL then capitalized on.

Dear Richard,
I just called my boss and cancelled work on Sunday so that I can be sure to meet you at 3:15PM. I will be at the meeting place at 3:15 which I understand is the Lasky place.
Thank you,
Allan

I stopped by to make a child support payment in the later afternoon and so see if Helmers would respond to my plea for some improvement in the case. I saw Helmers through the glass but I went to the secretary, handed by payment coupon to her and asked her to please tell Helmers that I want an update on the case. She did not respond like she thought he would. Hummm? She said “I will tell him you came by.” Not a good sign.

Helmers did not call and he did not email either.

Hello all:
If you get a chance, check out this column by nationally-syndicated writer Leonard Pitts profiling the program I manage here in Austin. We're hoping for a spot on Oprah. Hope this finds you well. Much love, Mike Hurewitz


http://www.miamiherald.com/285/story/24296.html

XY-Zone gets A's for helping at-risk kids
BY LEONARD PITTS Jr.
lpitts@MiamiHerald.com

AUSTIN, Texas -- Mr. Harris has a way of putting things.

That's what the young men say if you ask how he was able to get through to them when nobody else -- teachers, mothers, cops -- was able to. He has a way of breaking things down so you can understand.

For instance? ``I tell them to stay in the ruts. What's the story behind stay in the ruts? My grandfather drove a wagon and one day he was going through a marshy field. And there was another guy behind him that had a wagon. This guy decided, that's too long. I'm going to take a short cut.''

Moments later, that guy found himself bogged down and yelled for help. Harris' grandfather told him he should have stayed in the ruts. ''You don't always have to cut new tracks,'' he said.

''So what I tell these guys,'' says Harris, ``is that we've cut ruts for them to have some of the opportunities and some of the things they can do. You don't have to make a short cut. If you'll just follow my tracks, you won't bog.''

Wilton Harris is not trying to lead his guys across a muddy field. He's trying to lead them to adulthood across a minefield of drugs, crime, poverty and academic failure. Harris is the case manager for the XY-Zone at John H. Reagan High School. The program operates on 48 campuses in Central Texas under the auspices of Communities in Schools, a national dropout prevention program.

HIGH DROPOUT RATE

Reagan is a tough school in a state where one in three high school freshmen never graduates. I'm here as part of a yearlong series of columns seeking to discern What Works to improve the lives of black kids. The XY-Zone, according to its young participants, works.

Ronald Falkquay, 17, says that before the XY-Zone, his life was about drinking, smoking, skipping school, chasing girls and trouble. But now, he says, his grades are up, his attendance has improved and he hasn't been in a single fight this semester. It's an assessment echoed by other young men in the program and by an independent audit which found that 84 percent of participants improve their grades, attendance or behavior.

The XY-Zone offers services from tutoring to conflict mediation. The young men take field trips; they've spent a day training with the fire department, they've gone camping, they've met the chief justice of the state Supreme Court -- and volunteer for community service projects. Harris teaches his boys (the program is geared toward guys) fundamentals like how to write a résumé or shake hands with a potential employer.

The pillars of the program are what they call ''working the five R's,'' which are: reaching out, relationships, role models, respect and responsibility.

ROLE MODELS

''Not only being responsible for yourself,'' explains Harris, ``but your community, your surroundings your family. Being a role model to your younger brothers and your sisters. Being respectful of not only yourself, but family, those around you, your instructors.''

For all that, though, it seems obvious the young men at Reagan feel the XY-Zone's primary attraction is that in Harris they have an advocate who cares, who has expectations of them, and who has a way of making things plain. Such as when it was reported that lawmakers were preparing to add thousands of new beds to the state prison system.

He told one young man, ``They're waiting for you. They're making a bed for you. ... The alternative is, you can bypass that state prison on your way to state college.''

The message resonates. Asked if his new outlook causes him grief with his old friends, Falkquay says, ''If you don't want to change your life -- and I do -- something wrong with that. I want to live a successful life. I want to be known ... as a good man. Not just no nobody, no unknown, one of them people you just shrug off and say, ``Whatever.'' I want to be somebody kids and people can look up to.''

So he's staying in the ruts.


7:00PM Called LL and no one answered.
7:30PM Called again for nothing.
7:30PM Called LeeAnn. I was not exactly polite to her. I told her that I was not going to stoop as low as others in my rhetoric and that I wish her a good week end.
8:00PM Called and this time LL picked up the phone and she told me that Sofia was sick and that Hannah had been to the zoo. I asked Hannah what she had seen and she told me that she had seen “elephants, zebras, lions, monkeys, goats, giraffs
Play ground,
“Did you see any animals in the water?” I asked. “No.”
In the air?” and again the answer was “no.”,
Insects – NO.
One minute, I’m gonna read you a story, said Hannah and she does and I took the following notes:
Ill gona go ahead and read how it goes with June. When june came I wasn not born yet that’s why I do not know this part of the story.
June came inside the coat of a man looking for a job. There were none but he opened his coat and he said “you would want his would you and the regular kitten. June was all fur and he was scared and opens his moth and stares because he looks scary too.
Businesss. June was only 3 or four weeks old and smelled of other animals and especially was scared in the night, and the grass waiting for his mother to come from hunting cheetah, care of the babies, june’s mom was cool. At first the mother feeds the babies when the mother enemies, jackal, lions and hyenas, brush fires, lions kill the mother who has small teeth. Muscles weak so they run and sometimes the mothers abandon their babies, so june didn’t know either so scared, and that was when he became a part. June stayed inside for the first three months of his life for shots. Careful care to keep from diseases worms in the grass. june drank cow’s milk with water and egg. This is because cheetah’s mike is thinner and this mixture results in a shinny coat. .
Then Hannah describes the picture,
And then she continued reading – but she wanted to skip a few pages and I said that was ok. “I want to read you a page,” she says “where is it?” and “Oh, here it is….”
“Ok, good” says Hannah. “I’m asking my mom for something. I am going to put a CD in and then there will be a song.” A moment later Hannah comes back and says “she doesn’t want me to bother her right now…. but I want that belly dancing music.” I hear Hannah and LL discussing something indistinctly and then Hannah comes back to the phone saying “ actually she didn’t say ‘don’t bug me.’”
But then Hannah finds a way to put the CD in (I believe with LL’s help) and Hannah tells me:
“Don’t hang up ok?” to which I respond “No, Hannah, I will not hang up.”
“Good,” she says. “Now we can listen to belly dance music.” In a little while I hear her say” Its playing” and then “It’s time for you to hear it” and “can you hear it?” It was beautiful Arabic music and I told Hannah. Then Hannah said that “it is time to switch” and she told me that Sofia “is sick and maybe she will speak to me and maybe she will not.” Sofia did speak to me. She told me that she was sick and I asked her if she has “a sore throat?” She responded that she did not. “Oh, then you do not have strep throat.” She said “No, because I already had that.” And I agreed with her that the immune system is one that does not forget. And then I told her a story off the top of my head about a dog called Napoleon who meets two other dogs called Tinkerbel and Amber on a sledding trip in the Yukon. Unfortunately I had to cut this call short because I was borrowing Subir Chowdhuri’s phone and he needed it back.

So, now, how does the story of the three dogs continue?
Well, remember that they come from Virginia, Michigan and Mexico but they are very good friends who had decided in the dead of winter to leave the human who was feeding them and respond to the call of the wild.
They learn how wolves live: how to prey on deer. Wolf is a very social animal, They hunt in a pack , eat moose, elk and they hunt in a pack with strong social bonds between them . No dog could survive the winter alone, it needs a pack of similar minded creatures.

And then they meet a little girl.. who takes them back to Virginia







I keep bantering with myself about Richard. I swear the guy is a piece of shit social worker. This is very unfortunate for my children. (Oh, and his shittyness is negligible compared to the KGB.) But I keep mulling this over in my head, how he said to me on the telephone that “I had contradicted Hannah and that this was the reason he suspended the parenting intervals for four months,” to which I say:

“Richard, I did not contradict Hannah! I contradicted the therapists.”

I should note however, that in spite of the last parenting interval where we were esoteric in our true therapy with Sofia and Hannah, Richard is pushing for 4 hours per week and for me to pick the children up at the Lasky-Ungaro place. (Remember that last week we had an umbrella over us that protected all utterances: anything that Sofia and Hannah said could never be reiterated and this allowed Hannah to say that Nancy had coached her to say that I had done peepee in her mouth.)

My children keep secretes from the Lasky-Ungaros: The reality about Hannah and her biological father, Scottie, for example.

Sofia called twice after I hung up. Once at 9:03 and once at 9:04PM. The second time she left me the following message.
“Daddy, Hello daddy call me back bye.”
And then she called me again and said: “Hello Daddy this is Sofia don’t call me back because its gonna be too late but I wanted to call you back when you…. I couldn’t get it in time and now it is gonna be too late because I gotta go to bed. But you can finish the story another time if you just call me and bye.”


March 10, 2007
2:00PM I called Richard to ask him to please confirm the reunion with my children tomorrow soon as I have not received any confirmation from LL.

8:00PM: I called to see if I could speak with my children today as I had been able to last week because it makes more sense for me to speak with them on a day other than the day I am seeing them, but LL told me that they were not at home. LL let me know (by surmising) that she had not read any emails in a while. She inquired about where she was to bring the children for me to see them tomorrow and I said that “at her house.” She thought I was kidding. She said Richard was not coming to her home tomorrow and her has never been there before. She seemed certain that it must be at Days Café. I offered to help fix her car to which she responded that “that’s not necessary.” I invited LL to be with me and the children tomorrow. I was just beginning to presume that she can not check her email from her own home and was saying that she could call up Nancy and have her check her email for her (like Farfar or Papo check my email for me when I am on the road and traveling makes it impossible for me to check) when she cut me off. I got the distinct feeling that she does not want to talk about her mother. Then she hung up one me.

8:10PM or so, I called Richard to warn him that LL is not aware of the meeting place tomorrow – which means that she also does not know that I am to have them for four hours either.

March 11, 2007
I wait and I wait to hear confirmation from someone about the place where we are to meet and I hear nothing from none. Finally I send Richard the following email:
Dear Richard,
I have not yet recieved confirmation from Lorena about today, Sunday at 3:30PM and it is already Sunday, 12PM. This is not acceptable to me. I am asking if you could please concern yourself with this issue and Thank you very much,
Allan

I should add that Richard has stated on numerous occasions that this issue needs to have been settled by 48 hours prior to my and my daughters meeting. I expect that any intelligent person would hold this in my favor, but Richard is such a schlump that he might forget.

12:30PM Richard calls me. He starts off by saying “I just spoke with Lorena…” Wow! Look at the time. Things falls into place three hours before they need to. I was, of course, going to call him at 1PM, but he beat me to the punch line. I was going to ask:
1 Where are we meeting to discuss issues – the pep talk.
2 Has LL confirmed that the meeting place is in the front of her place?
3 To tell him that LL had not yet read the emails by last night at 8PM and that LL had said that she would call Richard this morning (and that I hope that she has.)
4 To tell him that I sent him an email which he may interpret to also have relevance to himself, since, afterall, he should keep my updated about how out of the loop LL maintains him.
5 To hope for the best.

But I did not need to say most of these things since he divulged them on his own: the pep talk will take place at Gillians, the we are to pick up and deliver the children to LL’s place. He said he had just spoken with LL – would you not consider that to be a little late? The fact that we are to have the pep talk away from LL’s may seem reasonable to an ignorant outsider, but the fact of the matter is that it intimates enmity from LL to me. I suppose that the circumstances are so fucking shitty that the hope for the best was realized. I told him that I had just sent him an email but I did not say that he has acted unprofessionally by keep me hanging. I understand that Richard Hangs too, but he could tell me so that I am not double-hanging out in limbo. However, since he called me before I called him, it seemed inappropriate for me to point out that my concern with LL is also a concern that I have with him.

Richard’s inability to say anything to stand against the shit from the KGB is terrible for my children.

Well, I went to the meeting place fifteen mnutes early and it is closed and it is cold outside and I want to ype on my computer and so I went to pinelli’s on Baxter and called Richard and he did not call me back so I am somewhat lost as to what to d and I guess I will go back to the original meeting place I call Richard and tell him so.
By the way, Richard is going to make the claim that I have to make the pep talk time at 3:15PM. He will disregard the fact that I gave notice that I could not make it before 3:30PM.
At 3:08PM I still don’t have a call from Richard.

March 11, 2007
I had a great time with my children and a rough time alone with Richard. I delimited to Richard that the children must not be placed in the middle. He wanted to counter that I had placed the children in the middle during the last parenting time by asking them questions about their grandmother, but I told him that it was a combination of negligence from the professionals involved, malpractice from the therapists and a general despicable handling of the case that has placed the children in the middle. We agreed to not place the children in the middle in any sense at all, and met the children at the entrance to Lorena’s place. Sofia was a little sick and did not want to do anything too strenuous. Richard spent the first two hours with us and then Dennis spent the second two hours with us. I believe that they were both completely comfortable with everything that they experienced and I would even say that they had fun. With Richard we went to the Oxmoor Mall and then to a gas station (to fillup and to buy chap stick for Sofia. With Dennis we went to the Penguin Ice cream company and to dinner at a Chinese restaurant. Dennis was completely laid back. We drove to the ice cream company in the industrial sector of town and met found the ice creams in the back of a truck that was parked in the back amidst people who were working on trucks with cans of oil, power tools and jacks. There is a very loving giant dog called Pistol who with great enthusiasm greeted the children. I petted this great dog who then rolled on his back and reveled in the attention like a baby. Then we sat in the sun and, while eating ice cream, we made wallets with duck tape. We found a Chinese restaurant on Poplar Avenue and there we ate dinner. The children wanted the spaghetti that Dennis had ordered. Dennis was obliged and acted with a proper and wonderful manner. He helped me a great deal at the end of the meal because we were running late. I called to tell LL that we would be late and Nancy answered the phone. She said “bring the children here right away. You are a crazy nut who needs therapy. Go see a doctor!” And then she hung up on me. I was very polite with her.
It is interesting that Nancy was there to receive the children and how the children reacted to this. Hannah was afraid to display any love for me in her presence. She only wanted me to kiss her on the top of her head and resisted hugging me. Sofia was the same way, but she was more concealed from Nancy by the car. I got Dennis’s telephone number and promised that I would call him in a few minutes. I left him to talk with Nancy. I called him when I had driven a couple of blocks but he was on the phone. I am guessing he was on the phone with Richard.
You wanna bet that Nancy was a shit to my children?

March 11, 2007
Dear Richard,
Dennis works with the children and me. No problems what so ever.

While you may have witnessed Lorena toward me (I note you were stressed about me being at Lorena's place when we picked up the children), Dennis may have witnessed Nancy and me with the children. I hope he saw how hard it was for Hannah to manifest her good relationship with me in front of Nancy. I do not know what Dennis and Nancy spoke about when I left, but Nancy was an impossible person to me and I have let Dennis know.

Again, I felt that the children acclimated to being with Dennis to the point that their interactions with me did not skip a beat with Dennis being present.

By the way, the same goes for Alicia.
Sincerely,
Allan
March 12, 2007
I made a child support payment and then waited outside of Helmers office until he came out to speak with him. He told me that Judge Walker-fitzgerald will give him fifteen minutes this week. He said he would contact me about this. I said “thank you.”

I still think Helmers is a worthless lawyer. When I went to his secretary to give her the receipt for the child support payment, she seemed thoroughly embarrassed that Helmers had still not made contact with me. She set up a telephone conference for tomorrow at 11AM, and I agreed to that, but then I added that I would be downstairs and that I Helmers wanted, he could simply speak to me on his way out.

March 12, 2007
7:00PM. I called LL and she answered the phone.
Allan: Hello Rena, how are you?
LL: (after a pause) Why are you calling?
Allan: I am calling because the Sunday telephone call did not happen.
LL: That’s because you saw the kids on Sunday.
Allan: So, I was hoping to speak with them on Saturday, the day before but you told me they were not available and so I am calling now.
LL: The calling days have changed. You can call Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday.
Allan: So I can call tomorrow, but that does not then make up the lost day from last week.
Click.
LL hung up on me.

March 12, 2007: I sent the above telephone conversation to Helmers.
Dear John,
Something needs to be done. Here is the last telephone call with Lorena Lasky (LL)
7:00PM. I called LL and she answered the phone.
Allan: Hello Rena, how are you?
LL: (after a pause) Why are you calling?
Allan: I am calling because the Sunday telephone call did not happen.
LL: That’s because you saw the kids on Sunday.
Allan: So, I was hoping to speak with them on Saturday, the day before but you told me they were not available and so I am calling now.
LL: The calling days have changed. You can call Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday.
Allan: So I can call tomorrow, but that does not then make up the lost day from last week.
Click.
LL hung up on me.

The only good news is that Richard (and Dennis) are pushing (HARD) to improve the situation and has forced Lorena to agree to four hours per week. However, Richard feels very alone and needs your help and wants the judge's support. He wants supervision to be eliminated. .
Thank you,
Allan


March 12, 2007 – not yet sent!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dear Lorena,
On Saturday I called to speak with Sofia and Hannah and you told me that the children were not at home. On Sunday I was not able to call because I was with them. When do you plan to make up the lost phone call? (Note: Tomorrow's call is not a make up but one of the three calls for this week - as you stated tofay, on the telephone.)
Thank you,
Allan

March 12, 2007
Dear Richard,
It appears that John Helmers will get fifteen minutes with the judge this week. Can you please communicate with John … see what you can get for Sofia and Hannah. .
Thank you,
Allan

March 13, 2007
Dear Lorena,
The last time I spoke with Sofia, she indicated that she had not seen any emails. Would you please be so kind as to let her and Hannah read the emails that I send her -- as you had said you would in the presence of LeeAnn Gardner. Furthermore, if you would also be so kind as to let both Hannah and Sofia, respond to the emails as you agreed you would (again in the presence of LeeAnn Gardner,) that would be very much appreciated. .
Thank you very much,
Allan


Dear Hannah and Dear Sofia,
The name of the dog is Pistol. I thought it was Crystal, but it is called Pistol. Now, this makes no sense to me and I am going to tell the guy who own the ice cream company to change the dog’s name to Crystal. I think that Crystal is a nice name.

I am sure you remember that we made a wallet out of Duck tape (or is it called Duct Tape? Is it DUCK or DUCT?) Anyway, I am now using that wallet. It has four dollar bills in the bills-compartment and three quarters, a dime and two nickels and seven pennies in the coin-compartment. How much money is that?

I hope that you had a wonderful time with Grammy after I dropped you off at Mommy’s place. I hope that she tucked you in and gave you both good night kisses.

I went to a place near my house called The Rudyard Kipling and drank coffee and am writing you this email. There is music here and there are a lot of people but I am thinking of you and I am looking forward to next Sunday when I we will be together.

Lots of Love,
Your Daddy.

7PM called. LL was as uninformative as anyone can be, “yeah the kids were in school and then they came home and they have been playing.”
Hannah was still playing when I got on the phone with her
And Sofia got short changed – had to give the phone to Hannah

March 14, 2007
Dear LL,
When is our next meeting with LeeAnn? Could you please email me the date and time, I would very much appreciate that.
Thank you,
Allan


March 14, 2007: Finally some news that might indicate the chance for change – although to be honest, I did not get this email until after the hearing had already happened! It was in my junk email box!

Allan,
I am writing to let you know that we have scheduled a hearing on interim
visitation for March 30, 2007 at 9:00 a.m. This is the earliest the Court
could schedule this matter. Please call if you have any questions or
concerns relating to this hearing.

Thanks!!

Jill Nicole Bowman
Legal Secretary
Helmers, DeMuth and Walton, PLC
429 West Muhammad Ali Blvd.
200 Republic Building
Louisville, Kentucky 40202
Phone (502) 581-0077
Fax (502) 581-0078

March 14, 2007
Dear People,
We meet Sunday, 3:30PM, at Lorena's place.
(But I will also consider meeting at the Steak and Waffle house on exit 1 of I- 65 in Indianna. )
Sincerely,
Allan

March 14, 2007 Telephone call started at 7:05PM.
LL said,” they went to school and Tae Kwon Do.”
Hannah got back to playing star wars and then put the phone down which is when Sofia picked it up.
I told Sofia thefollowing story
A good long time ago, by that I means like sixty years ago, there was a dog who was born in a state called Virginia (do you know where Virginia is?) and this puppy loved the green fields and the barns and the animals and the horses and pigs. He lived ina wonderful house that was on the top of a little hill overlooking an archard and he could really feel like he was in a good spot every morning when he woke up. He lived there for only a little while because one day, as he was sauntering and sniffing around in a distant field he was suddenly ambushed and out in a sac and carried bu a man for a long time. This young hound did not know how long he was in the sac but he knoew that it was a very long time and he was very undfortable. At first she screeched and yelped and howled but then he only groaned and gasped. He felt the sac be placed on the ground. He heard humans talking. He was lifted again and carried onto some kind of carriage. It was in fact a train. This young puppy had never been o a train. He was in the luggage compartment of the train for many days. Every now and then someone would come a give him food and water. Finally the train stopped at a place where he smelled something he had never smelled before. It was the smell of fish and of the ocean. He could smell the rotting wood and the oil and other wares. He was then put on a boat. He was led with a strong leash on the boat. They needed a strong leash because at this point the dog was angry and did not want to live like he had been forced to for the last few days. He wanted to go back to Virginia. They led him with a strong leash so that he would not run away and they took him deep into the belly of the ship. After a few days of travel they arrived in a town called Skagway, Alaska. Here he was taken to shore and he watched how people haggled about him. There were other dogs too who had come out of the belly of the ship and the people haggled about those dogs as well. They would look at the dogs and sometimes touch them with tough gloves, but they did not dare to pat them because all the dogs were angry. Why were they angry Sofia?
A tall and strange man ended up leading our puppy from Virginia with two other dogs away. The man attached the dogs to a sled that already had dogs, and then said ‘whaoa’ and the dogs lunged forward. The new dogs had to learn what to do and it did not take them long to do so. But this was hard work. They had to pull the sled up the Kyber Pass and over the Rocky mountains, and down onto a very clod valley floor in the land of the Yukon. They pulled the sled for many days. The dog from Virginia proved to be a strong dog and they called him Sled. The friends of sled were called Tinkerbelle and Amber. Tinkerbelle was from Mexico, Amber was from California. Sled, Amber and Tinkerbelle became good friends. Sled noticed that the other dogs would dig holes in the snow when it was time to sleep . He did the same thing and noticed that he could sleep fairly warm in the snow hole. He showed his friends how to do this. The man would give them dog food at the end of the day and then they would curl up in the holes they had made in the snow. It was an interesting life for a few days because it was all new, but it was a hard life. And it must be said that Sled, Amber and Tinkerbelle were not happy. One night they heard the call of the wild. It went (make the sound. It was the sound of a wolf in the distant cold blue yonder

I go through spells where I curse at Richard Nassr in my conversations with myself for his being such a floozie.

Then Sofia read to “Secret Garden” by
Sofia said that mommy is too busy and will not be able to deal with emails.
Desolation

March 15, 2007
Dear John,
You had indicated to me on your way out of your office building that there would be a fifteen minute hearing this week in the court of Judge Patti Walker-Fitzgerald and I am now supposing that the hearing is to take place next week.

Please email me the date and time of this hearing.

Thank you,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick

March 15, 2007
They had already read this one
(LL)

She is referring to >Dear Sofia, Hannah and Mommy,
>When I was a little boy, I think I was seven years old, I remember I dropped a big wrench into the sink and the wrench broke the ceramic and it was valentines day. My Mommy and Daddy shared their Valentines Day with me even though I had broken the sink (by accident). That is true love. Sofia and Hannah, I (and I think I can speak for Mommy) will always love you what ever happens for ever and infinitely.
>Your Daddy

March 15, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Not according to Sofia.....
Sincerely,
Allan



March 16, 2007
I called Helmers and his secretary told me that a hearing had been set for March 30 at 9:00AM. I immediately told my employer.
Two more weeks. I guess I have waited three years, so what’s two weeks?The answer is ‘it is still a terribly long time.’

March 16, 2007
I called LeeAnn asking her to confirm that LL and I are to meet on the 20th at 3:30PM.
I did this because LL did not respond to my inquiry.

Well, I suppose I can handle yet another time with Richard or Dennis. I don’t mind them being there, I mind them having to be there. Richard has such a terrible self image, the guy is so devastated, he is so poor inside, such a mess, he is not only obviously disturbed but has a disturbed self image. Only with someone like that could LL have had so much time.

Hum, it is all a fascinating a most crazy existential boondoggle. LL responded to some of my emails and allowed Sofia to respond… or at least that is what I think happened, though I am not sure and I will show you why in a little. But why do you think that today, three days before we are to meet with LeeAnn, LL responds? Well, obviously because she wants to be as disgusting as she can be without having to pay for it.

To the following email, LL responds as follows after:

From: Allan lasky
To: lorena
Subject: Rv: Valentines day
Date: Fri, 2 Mar 2007 14:53:15 -0800 (PST)
>----- Mensaje reenviado ----
>De: Allan lasky
>Para: lorena ; richard nassr
>Enviado: martes 13 de febrero de 2007, 21:40:35
>Asunto: Valentines day
>
>
>Dear Sofia, Hannah and Mommy,
>When I was a little boy, I think I was seven years old, I remember I dropped a big wrench into the sink and the wrench broke the ceramic and it was valentines day. My Mommy and Daddy shared their Valentines Day with me even though I had broken the sink (by accident). That is true love. Sofia and Hannah, I (and I think I can speak for Mommy) will always love you what ever happens for ever and infinitely.
>Your Daddy

March 16, 2007
They had already read this one
Lorena Lasky


March 16, 2007
Allan,
Last week you spoke to the children on three days. This week, you are speakign to them on Tues., Wed. & Friday per our agreement. You were calling Saturday to make up for not being able to call on the Sunday upcoming. I explained that Tuesday would replace Sunday & you agreed that was fine. There is nto a missing call. In fact you have spoken to them well over 1 1/2 hours per week for the last 3 weeks. tonight, for example, you spoke for 50 minutes. On last Friday night (March 9) I let you speak an hour and a half just that one night. You are getting all of your calls & then some & your comp-laints are unfounded & tiresome.
Lorena Lasky
This email does not ricochet with the truth or the chords of my heart at all. I responded in a manner that indicated this:
March 15, 2007
Dear Lorena,

My children and I should have always had a good relationship without interference and as if that were not enough, you are complaining that I would be complaining. You and your mother have played a trick on the children (coached them to lie to Kim and Ginger) to force residing in KY and other issues. Please cut this out.

Last week I spoke by phone with my children two times only and NOT three! (What you wrote is false.)

I did NOT agree to calls "on Tues., Wed. & Friday" (What you write is false.) Instead you forced the telephone calls for those days. The transcript of our telephone call NEVER indicates any agreement on my behalf to replacing Sunday with Tuesday or agreement that Tuesday is an OK call day.....

It shows that you did not want to or agree to make up the lost day (Sunday) from last week.

You also state that I talk to my children for "well over" one and a half hours per week... That is not true. Very rarely you forget to cut my telephone call with Sofia and we are able to talk for longer. It happened last week, when you fell asleep.

And you fail to mention that I have hardly spoken with Hannah because you have her either watch TV or play Star Wars. And so on.

Please stop the lies. In my last telephone conversation with Sofia she told me that you are "too busy to let (Sofia) read her emails." Please allow email communication.

Sincerely,
Allan



And to the following email LL responds as follows:

From: Allan lasky
To: lorena , richard
Subject: sunday 3:30PM
Date: Wed, 14 Mar 2007 15:08:35 -0700 (PDT)
>Dear People,
>We meet Sunday, 3:30PM, at Lorena's place.
>(But I will also consider meeting at the Steak and Waffle house on exit 1 of I- 65 in Indianna. )
>Sincerely,
>Allan
March 16, 2007
I'd rather you pick them up here
Lorena Lasky
March 16, 2007: So I respond with the following email:
Dear Lorena,
Very good, then I will pick up the children at your place.
Allan


March 16, 2007
no problem

Lorena Lasky


From: Allan lasky
To: lorena , richard nassr , john Helmers
Subject: emails for Sofia and Hannah
Date: Tue, 13 Mar 2007 13:36:58 -0700 (PDT)
>Dear Lorena,
>The last time I spoke with Sofia, she indicated that she had not seen any emails. Would you please be so kind as to let her and Hannah read the emails that I send her -- as you had said you would in the presence of LeeAnn Gardner. Furthermore, if you would also be so kind as to let both Hannah and Sogfia, respond to the emails as you agreed you would (again in the presence of LeeAnn Gardner,) that would be very much appreciated. .
>Thank you very much,
>Allan


March 16, 2007
Dear Daddy,
I don't know what my favorite plant is. All plants have roots.
I don't want to do that math problem.
Love Sofia


From: Allan lasky
To: lorena
Date: Tue, 6 Mar 2007 05:49:03 -0800 (PST)
>Dear Sofia,
>I love you very much. Mommy said that she and you would read and send emails to me at least every week. Tell me what is your favorite plant? Does it have a flower? Does it have leaves? Does it have roots?
>Is there a plant that does not have roots?
>what about a plant with out leaves? Can you think of one?
>Oh, and what is one third plus one quarter? Can you think this one out? I worked it out yesterday and it took me a few minutes. .
>Your loving Daddy, Daddy.

March 16, 2007

From: Allan lasky
To: lorena
Subject: Rv: Sofia
Date: Fri, 2 Mar 2007 14:47:52 -0800 (PST)
>----- Mensaje reenviado ----
>De: Allan lasky
>Para: lorena ; richard nassr
>Enviado: jueves 1 de marzo de 2007, 6:33:59
>Asunto: Sofia
>
>
>Dear Sofia,
>The last email I sent to you had tail questions and fraction questions. This email will have sky questions and word questions. Ok, now I have to think of them. Ok here goes:
>1. Why does the sky look like a hemisphere? (A hemi sphere is half a ball.)
I don't know.
>2. When is there black or brown in the sky?
When it is about to rain.
>3. When is there yellow or orange in the sky?
At the sunset
>4. What is an aurora borealis?
I don't know.
>5. Why is the sun always round but the moon becomes a sliver?
I don't know.
>
>By the way, question 4 is a word and sky question.
>6. What does "Te amo" mean?
i love you
>7. How many sylables are there in the word Hersheys?
two
>8. Why are the words made in elehant language so deep but in dolphin language so squeeky?
I don't know
>
>Lots of Love,
>Your Daddy.
March 16, 2007: Sofia’s responses are embedded in my email.

From: Allan lasky
To: lorena , richard nassr
Subject: Sofia and Hannah
Date: Mon, 26 Feb 2007 17:56:20 -0800 (PST)
>Dear Sofia and Hannah,
>Yesterday you sent Mommy emails from my computer and I hope that you get this email on Mommy’s computer so that you can write to me. Please send Mommy and Grammy my love. Now I have some questions for Sofia:
>First draw a picture of a circle, then, using scissors, cut it in half, and then cut it in quarters. You should now have four quarter pieces of the circle. Now:
>1. How many quarters is a half?
2
>2. How many quarters is a half and a quarter?
3
>Now cut it into eighths by cutting each quarter into half their size.
>3. How many eighths in a full circle?
8
>4. How many eighths in 3 quarters?
6
>5. Is one half the same as four eighths?
yes
>6. How many eighths is a half plus a quarter plus an eighth?
7
>And now for the last tough question: What is an eighth times 2, times 2, times 2, times 2, times 2, times 2, times 2??????
I don't know
>
>And I also have some questions for Hannah:
>1. What is a tail good for?
>2. Why do you think fish tails go up and down, but whales have flat tails?
>3. Do you think there are mermaids in the ocean?
>4. If you could be an animal for five minutes, what animal would you like to be?
>5. What is a sea horse? Do they have tails?
>6. Do you think that airplanes have tails for the same reason birds have tails? Do you think these tails are important for flying?
>Lots of Love, your Daddy


7:25PM LL calls and tells me that now Hannah has soccer practice and that therefore the telephone call is taking place a bit later. I told her that I had already tried calling and that no one had picked up the phone. The phone was on speaker phone and the telephone was eventually placed in the car between the two girls, but with LL in the car I was able to hear her as well and took advantage of the moment to confirm with LL that we are meeting at LeeAnn’s at 3:30PM on the 20th. Is that a Tuesday? (That is what LL said she thought it was.) The entire time that I was speaking with my daughters I did not understand that they were driving to Nancy’s. When they arrived at Nancy’s, 20 minutes later, Sofia had to hang up the phone. Sofia was very unhappy about this and made this very clear. The phone was (I believe) taken from her and disconnected. I can not imagine that Sofia does not understand that there is hatred. Sofia was unhappy that she was not going to be able to read me more of her story that she had read to me last time we spoke “The Secret Garden,” about a girl from India….

I learned that Hannah has soccer practice at Atherton High School on Fridays
Sofia is at soccer practice, (probably from 6:00 – 7:00PM.)

Ok, so this was not an easy telephone call because of the Lasky-Ungaro enmity.

March 16, 2007
8:00PM I called Richard to tell him that my children were spending the night with Nancy and that the next parenting time might be interesting. I actually do not care if Richard is not there, it makes no difference if Dennis is there, but I told him that I hoped he would be there. Sofia and Hannah do not need a schleim skag to be with us.

March 17, 2007
Ok, so there will be a “a Dios le Pido” hearing (not this, but next) Friday. Do you think the Lasky-Ungaro Faction will find a way to postpone the hearing again?


1. Do you think the world will end? If so, when?
2. What would you do if you saw your friend stealing from a store?
3. You notice that your mom had a lot of money in her purse. Would take some of it if you knew that she wouldn't know that a few dollars were missing?
4.

March 16, 2007
Dear Lorena,
It s 7PM and I just now tried to call my children and the telephone rang interminably with no one picking it up.
Would you please be so kind as to call me back as soon as you can and explain to me the reason for this mishap. If the children are available for me to speak with them, please debrief me about their day and any important issues that are transpiring in their lives.
Thankyou,
Allan

Dear Daddy,
Here are some questions for my daughters you might ask if you want, but you can ask anything you want and you do not have to ask these questions. They call you Farfar and Mommy is Farmor.

Questions for Sofia:
1. Is it cold enough for it to snow in Louisville?
2. How cold does it have to be to snow?
3. Do you have a watch?
4. Can you tell the time on a watch that has hands?
5. What time do you wake up?
6. What time do you go to sleep?
7. How many hours are you awake?
8. How many hours are you asleep?
9.

Questions for Hannah?
1. Do you have hiking shoes?
2. Do you have a warm jacket?
3. Do you have ear muffs?
4. Why does walking barefoot make people feel cold but they do not feel cold with bare hands?
5. What is a grand father? Grandmother?

Lots of Love,
Allan

March 17, 2007
Dear Richard,
I have not heard from you and do not know how you may or may not be involved today. Will you be there? Will some one else be there? Will there be a pep talk? Will someone else also engage in the pep talk? Did you get my message? Where did you want the pep talk to take place? I would like to suggest that we meet at Spinelli's Pizza on Baxter Ave. I think the address is 614 Baxter Ave. Telephone reception is not very good in that part of town (at least not with my telephone) but I will keep looking for a signal and I will call you in the hope that I may speak with you --- when the reception is good and I am approaching. I look forward to today,
Sincerely,
Allan

March 18, 2007
The pizza place will work for me at 3:15p.

March 18, 2007
Dear Richard,
Very good, see you there then!
Allan

March 18, 2007
Allan; thank you for your payment of $510.00. The number of hours that we book on your (and your children's) behalf has recently doubled. We discussed paying for your time one month in advance. There remains one Sunday slot in March and 5 Sunday slots in April available to you. Your account has already balanced to zero (ie: the number of hours you paid in advance are 'used up'). Therefore, please remit in the amount of $1326 by March 30th to secure future appointments. Thank you.

Well, what do you think? Is he shameless? I reckon so. The entire email is tasteless (especially in as much as it is unapologetic) and moreover it undermines his truth and our relationship. He writes that we “discussed paying monthly” when in fact he simply laid down that payment scheme as a law in the manner of an authoritarian dictator.

March 18, 2007
Dear Daddy,
This is what Richard wants. Sorry.
Did you get my last email? I will try to call you today but you can also call us any time you want between 3:30 and 7:30PM. If you call at 3:30, you can talk with LL (Lorena Lasky) as well.
Lots of Love,
Allan

March 18, 2007
A great time with my children. I was not nice to Richard at the pep talk. I will never be kind to an adult who endorses crap. I was kind to my children. They should not have to suffer the buffet I provide the adults. First we went to the park on the river, then to the Waffle House and then to the park behind LL’s house. It was a wonderful time. The children were, I am sure, tired by the time they were back home. Hannah is a very fragile child. Cries easily when she is demeaned and treated badly by Sofia.

Hannah has been forced to carry the burden of the responsibility for the destruction of my relationship with her and my relationship with Sofia for being the primary and most outspoken child to make allegations. She is also adopted. All it takes is for Sofia to say “you’re my adopted sister and Hannah is destroyed.” It happened today and it happened last time.

Hannah wrote this in my computer:
Hannahs folder is varey spesholl to her. And also it is varey spesholl to daddy . and to mommy. And to richerd.

Lorena was late to pick up the children. So what’s new? I am glad for the extra fifteen minutes.
OK, so now I have six more days to wait to see my children again.

March 18, 2006
I called Richard and told him that there will be a hearing on March 30, 2007. He said he will call Helmers and find out how he can help Helmers.

March 18, 2007: Farfar copied me in on this email to Richard.
To Richard Nassr:

Allan was told by Jill, Mr. Helmer's associate, that a hearing for temporary relief has been scheduled for Friday, March 30, at 9:00 a.m. at the Family Court, which will deal with two subjects: whether there is still a need for supervision and what amount Allan must pay to Lorena for child support in light of his present economic position. Later, in June, there will be a full custody hearing which will go into more details, such as sharing the children during vacations, the possibility that my wife and I could invite them to visit us in Durham, Allan's telephone calls with his children, a review of parenting time and child support, etc.

There is the possibility, or at least the hope, that at the hearing on March 30, the judge will decide that Allan may have parenting time with his children without supervision, at least until June, when the matter will be reviewed. If that hope materializes, it will be unnecessary to pay your fees for the month of April. On the other hand, your testimony will most certainly be required at the March 30 hearing, as you are in a better position than anyone else to testify about Allan's interaction with his children. The judge has said, so I was told, that she needs to talk with you before making a decision on the need for continued supervision.

What I propose, therefore, is that you send Allan another statement of your fees for the extra time you spend with him and his children during March, but not including the week-end of March 31, plus an estimate of the time you anticipate the hearing will require of you as a witness. That estimate can be adjusted after the hearing, in light of the actual time you will have been in attendance at court.

As soon as you have sent Allan this new statement of your fees, he will forward it to me for payment, and I will mail you a check within a day or two. On the other hand, if the judge rules that supervision must continue or if, as has already happened twice, the hearing is postponed, then you could send Allan a statement for your anticipated fees for April, which I will promptly pay.
With kind regards,

William C. Headrick

March 18, 2007: and Richard copied me in on his response.
Mr. Headrick; I was not aware of the hearing on March 30th. Your plan is reasonable. I will contact Allan's attorney regarding the upcoming hearing. Thanks, Richard

March 18, 2007: I did not send this because Richard is too incompetent. I need to tell a competent professional.
Dear Richard,
Hannah is a very fragile child. Is it necessary for me to tell you that she has been psychologically destroyed by her therapist and the Lasky family?

She cries easily when she is demeaned / treated badly by Sofia. She does this during the times that she is with you and Dennis and she cries easily when I am speaking with her on the telephone and Lorena says to her things that are awful. And she has been falling apart like this since it became apparent to the Lasky's that I am going to fight for my children in Kentucky.
.
Hannah has been forced to carry the burden of the responsibility for the destruction of my relationship with her for much too long. "I said it and that's the truth!" my poor child can not remember that when she was a three year old, Nancy COACHED her. . Hannah has been forced to carry the burden of the responsibility for the destruction of my relationship with Sofia, for the destruction of my relationship with Lorena, for the destruction of everything that makes any sense.

When I say to Hannah "I love you," it makes her so very happy you can not imagine.

Hannah has turned into the natural scapegoat for the Lasky-U's. She is the younger child and can be psycho-warped more easily than Sofia.

She is also adopted and the Lasky's are anything but outspoken, honest, clear, real, decent, fair, about this with Hannah. And all it takes is for Sofia to say “you’re adopted" and Hannah is destroyed. Silent tears run down her face. It happened today and it happened last time with Dennis in the car.
.
And finally, the psyhiatrist has put Hannah on such slew of drugs that she is barely herself.

Sincerely,
Allan

Tomorrow will be an interesting day. I have work from 7 – 3:00, and then school from 4:00- 8. the day after tomorrow I have leeann after work.

March 19, 2007
Recalculation yields a balance of $306.00 to cover parenting time through
March 25. I will call John Helmers today. Please remit by 3/24. Thanks,
Richard


March 19, 2007
Dear Sofia and Hannah,
I have your roller blades, Hannah. I would like to bring them to you. I will find a way.
I will call both of you in the evening time.
I love you very much,
Your Daddy

March 20, 2007
Oh my god, what a time at LeeAnn’s. Lorena looks like such the nice one. I exploded with LeeAnn, spoke about slander, libel, fraud, malpractice, negligence etc… And I did not let up with LL arrived and LeeAnn liked imagining that she was proving her point by exacerbating the difference between me and LL. She spread her arms out to indicate how different we are.

7:00PM no one picks up the phone when I call my children.
I called LeeAnn to tell her this. She is a worthless social worker.

March 22, 2007

March 23, 2007
7:00PM I called my daughters even though I knew that Hannah would not be there. Sofia and I had a wonderful conversation but when Nancy Lasky-U brought Hannah home from soccer practice LL forced Sofia to hang up. But Sofia did most of the talking and she did not want to hang up. A minute later Sofia called me back and told me that Hannah was going to say “hello goodbye” to me. Then she put Hannah on the phone and Hannah said exactly what I had been warned she would say and then she added “and I love you.”

March 23, 2007
Dear Sofia,
Congratulations on getting a perfect score in your Math test after our telephone conversation. Yes, I really want to show you how to ‘long divide.’ Maybe we can do that on Sunday? That’s the day after tomorrow, but I was really interested in going to a new place called Henry’s Arc. Have you been there? I was told by the man by the river that there are animals from all over the world at Henry’s Arc. I would like to see large mammals – mammals are animals that do not lay eggs, they give live births (where the babies come from inside their bellies), they all have some hair, they all drink milk from their mothers and they all have two eyes. Most of the mammals that live on the ground have wet noses. If the mammals live in the water they have flat tail flippers (which is different from fishes and sharks.) There are some exceptions: humans do not have wet noses and neither do gorillas, duck billed platypuses lay eggs and kangaroos give birth to the tiniest iddy biddy babies in the world so they have to keep them in special pouches on their mothers’ belly.
Lots of Love,
Your Daddy.

March 23, 2007
hola mi gran amigo!!! como estas????
Que tal la vida contigo? Yo ya empeze otaves la facu, tengo muchas materias nuevas,por ejemplo, economia, algebra, marketing, recursos humanos, y asi x suerte me va todo bien asta ahora, siempre sigo con cinthia, te envia muchos saludos, aldo tambien ya enpezó la facultad, esta siguiendo la carrera de administracion empresarial,y que sabes de tus hijas?? como estan???
ok muchos saludos, Francy
March 24, 2007
Querido Francy,
Que delicia conseguir un email de ti – y sobre todo uno que tiene tantas buenas noticias. Mi vida sigue mas o menos sin muchos cambios en terminos de mis hijas. El 30 de este mes vamos a ver al juez y yo espero que las cosas se mejorarán. Vamos a ver. Es horrible que una mujer pueda dañar a sus hijas tanto como Lorena lo ha hecho a mis dos niñas.
Bingo.
Te escribiré la próxima semana si tengo buenas noticias.
Me encanta lo que escribiste.
Te quiero mucho,
Manda mis mejores recados a todos en Paraguay,
Allan

March 24, 2007
Dear Daddy (Farfar)
I am scheduled to be with Sofia and Hannah between 3:30Pm and 7:30PM. If you call at 3:30PM then you might be able to speak with LL as well. However, we are going (I think) to a park where there are animals – it’s a kind of open air zoo called Henry’s Arc. This means that if you call around 5PM or so then you can ask them zoo type questions:
1. What animals have you seen today?
2. Is there such a thing as a mammal with feathers?
3. Did you see a mammal that lives in the water? That can fly?
4. Do you know of a mammal that lives in the water? That can fly?
5. Are you a mammal? Is that why you are in the zoo?
6. Do you have hiking boots? A compass? Can you use a compass? A canteen or water bottle?
7.
Love,
Allan

I called Richard Nassr to confirm that we will meet at the Pizza place for the pep talk and that we will pick up the children from LL’s place. I also asked him to call Farfar and let hm know of his interactions with Helmers. Farfar had called me and asked me about this since he had not heard anything yet from Richard who had stated that he would keep Farfar informed.

I called LeeAnn to tell her that I had not been able to speak with Hannah even though LL had said I should call today (she had been playing soccer yesterday.)
Hum.

March 25, 2007
I am at Spinelli’s Pizza, waiting for Richard Nassr. I need to breath, relax, gather my non-local feelings and add them to the mix because otherwise I will fucking plaster that idiot fuck-wad, with my rhetoric. On my way, I passed by LL’s place and saw that the car was not before the house, that the house looked empty of persons. So, with an hour to spare, the children are somewhere else. Hum? Where do you think they are? Do you think they are getting “training,” coaching from Nancy Lasky-U? (It would be a bad idea to do that to Sofia and Hannah, because it will back fire.)

I will ask Richard: “What do you think is more likely? (a) I pissed in my daughter’s mouths (b) LL allowed Nancy to coach my children to say that I pissed in their mouths?” I will report on his answer in due course.

DURA VIRUM NUTRIX

2:12PM Richard called to say that he has not gotten any confirmation from LL vis a vis my children and I spending the afternoon together. It sounded like he wants an out? Looser nincompoop! I told him that I am waiting for him at the arranged meeting place and that was that.

3:15PM Richard arrives and I lay into him like a bull. I asked him the question that I decided I was going to ask him and he admitted that he thought it was more likely that the children had been coached by Nancy. I asked him to say that to the judge. Time will tell whether he will. I cursed at him, swore at him, laid into him like nothing anybody in his professional service has ever had to endure. He said “I can just walk out and charge you for this visit,” and I responded “if you sacrifice my children’s time with me because of an interaction between adults then you can go to Hell.” I was not sure he would be at LL’s place as I walked towards her place from the Pizza parlor. I was relieved to see him there.

And there was LL. I walked up to her and smiled. My best smile. I asked her how she was doing. She did not respond, simply walked away to get Sofia and Hannah from inside the house.

Hannah came out first, and then Sofia. As we walked to the car, the children were happy as could be to spend the afternoon with me – that was clear. They need time with me like a fish needs water. Sofia told me that she had not read my emails and then I said that this was OK, because they had their tennis shoes on and this was basically what I had asked of them in my email. We walked to my car which was parked around the block. Then I drove in the quest of Henry’s Arc – somewhere near Nancy’s house, but could not find it so we simply returned to the Ohio State Park in Indiana. We stopped at three gas stations on the way for entertainment. The children again had a great time at the park. Farfar called to speak with them but they were in the trees so he was not able to speak with them then. Then we had dinner at the Karma Café before returning to LL’s.

Now, there were two incidents of value. The first is that Hannah cried about a frog that I would not buy for her at one of the gas stations – wanted to throw a tantrum but I assuaged her feelings and soon enough she was doing well. Richard was impressed. He asked “Do you think they behave like this with their Mother?” and I responded “they certainly speak about plenty of tantrums.”

And the second is that Sofia vomited as soon as she arrived at LL’s. Poor girl, she hates returning home. She was not happy about having to go back to LL’s already at the Karma Café.

Richard thinks that I am “unique”,”intelligent” and an “odd person” but “not in a bad way.” He thinks that my intelligence makes Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo afraid to talk with me.

When I brought the children back to LL, the children were taking their time getting out of the car and I approached LL with a big smile on my face and again asked her how she was doing. I saw that she was smoking cigarettes and told her that she should hide those from Nassr. She did not. LL was very tense.

A few minutes later when I realized that I had forgotten to let the children speak with Farfar I asked Richard to allow me to give LL the telephone number. Richard carried the piece of paper to the porch and left the number in the cigarette box.

I called Helmers and left a message that he should try to confirm that Richard is prepared to testify that the children are more likely to have been coached.

Farfar had sent this to Richard a few days ago:
>From: William Headrick
>To: Richard nassr
>Subject: Re: Rv: Account
>Date: Mon, 19 Mar 2007 16:46:55 -0700 (PDT)
>
>I will put a check for that amount in the mail
>tomorrow. Additionally, you should feel free to send
>me a statement for your time at the hearing, if indeed
>it takes place. You are entitled to professional fees
>as an expert witness.
>
>After you have spoken to Mr. Helmers, please let me
>know what he has told you.
>
>Regards,
>
>William C. Headrick

Here is Richard’s response-

March 25, 2007
Mr. Headrick; John and I have missed each other's calls numerous times this
week. His receptionist scheduled a return call from him 3/26 at 10:30a. I
will discuss the hearing with him then and advise Allan and yourself.
Thanks for your patience. Richard


Well, March 26 came and went and no one heard anything from anyone.
Querido Francy,
Que delicia conseguir un email de ti – y sobre todo uno que tiene tantas buenas noticias. Mi vida sigue mas o mensos sin muchos cambios en terminus de mis hijas. El 30 de este mes vamos a ver al juez y yo espero que las cosas se mejoraran. Vamos a ver. Es horrible que una mujer pueda danar a sus hijas tanto como Lorena lo ha hecho a mis dos ninas.
Bingo.
Te escribire la proxima semana si tengo buenas noticias.
Me encanta lo que escribiste.
Te quiero mucho,
Manda mis mejores recados a todos en Paraguay ,
Allan

March 28, 2007
Dear Daddy (Farfar)
I am scheduled to be with Sofia and Hannah between 3:30Pm and 7:30PM. If you call at 3:30PM then you might be able to speak with LL as well. However, we are going (I think) to a park where there are animals – it’s a kind of open air zoo called Henry’s Arc. This means that if you call around 5PM or so then you can ask them zoo type questions:
1. What animals have you seen today?
2. Is there such a thing as a mammal with feathers?
3. Did you see a mammal that lives in the water? That can fly?
4. Do you know of a mammal that lives in the water? That can fly?
5. Are you a mammal? Is that why you are in the zoo?
6. Do you have hiking boots? A compass? Can you use a compass? A canteen or water bottle?

These questions will work better with Sofia, Hannah might like simpler questions like
1. Which is the biggest/ smallest animal that you have seen today?

Love,
Allan

March 27, 2007
Dear Hannah,
Soon it will be your birthday and I would like to get you something nice. I know that you want the frog that is at the gas station near Grammy's house but that is a little frog and I want to give you something bigger.

It was wonderful to be with you on Sunday. I miss you very much during the week and I look forward to next Sunday all the time. You are very intelligent and fun. I see your great mind at work when I am with you. For example, you gave Sofia a math problem (that she did not finish int he car) and you and Sofia found a way to share the colors of yarn. You also made it possible for me to be included.

Can you please tell Mommy that Farfar would like to speak with you and Sofia on the telephone? Farfar's telephone number is 1- (919) 401 - 8688.
I hope you have a beautiful day today.
Lots of Love,
Your Daddy

March 27, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Last week, 2/3 of the calls between my children and me were realized. What do you suggest would work for a make-up call?
Also, Sofia and Hannah should read my emails. Can you please make them available to them? It would be great to get responses from them.
Finally, I was hoping that you could bring the children to the Steak and Waffle house in Indianna next weekend -- the one where we have met many times before that is near Exit 1 on I-65. I want to take them to Deans Lake State Park and will be coming to Louisville from visiting my Uncle Daniel and Aunt Kate who live in Chicago. Can we please meet there?
Thank you,
Allan

March 27, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Last week only 2 out of the 3 calls between our children and I were realized. How would you like to make-up the missing call?
Also, I have sent two emails -- one to each child in the last few days and am wondering when you might have them access these emails and give them the opportunity to respond to them.
Finally, if the Judge continues with the supervision (which I hope does not happen) could we please meet at the Waffle and Steak House on I-65 -- Exit 1, Indianna? Thank you,
Sincerely,
Allan

7:00PM I tried to call my children but the phone just rang.
7:03PM I called LeeAnn to let her know that the call had not worked.
7:10PM I got a message from Sofia:
She called many many times.
7:30PM I called and Hannah answered the phone. She was at that time playing a game of chess with Sofia. I did not speak with LL. She did not give me the introduction to the day of the children that I have asked for. In the end, I simply gave advice to my children about how the chess pieces can move. I could tell that Sofia did not want to get off the phone when LL told her she had to go to bed. Both my children said “we love you, Daddy

March 28, 2007
Allan,
Last week, you spoke to the children on Wednesday, Friday & Saturday. You said there were only 2 calls, but there were 3.
They will respond ot the emails by Friday.
Are you sayign you do not want ot pick up the children at my house next Sunday, but want me to drive them to Indiana at 3:30 instead?
Lorena

March 28, 2007
Dear Lorena,
Thank you for responding to my email.
We will sort the telephone issue in court.
I hope the children's emails are responded to on Friday. Why not before?
My email is very clear: I would appreciate it very much if you to meet me with the children at the Steak and Waffle House.
Thank you,
Allan

March 28, 2007
Yes, I will copy the transcipts. I have set them aside to do so, just not been to copy them yet.
I do not have a copy of Sofia's story. It is at school & I have not seen it yet.
Lorena Lasky

March 28, 2007: Look, I got an email from Hannah. I received this just a few hours after asking”why not before Friday.” I bet LL realized that if she allowed at least one child to email me before the hearing on Friday that then this would be less of an issue.

daer daddy. when will we get to go to the park? because. I whant to go down the
slide.and I love you. to daddy.

There are two reasons I believe this email is from Hannah. One is that it is a response to an email that I sent Hannah and the other is the writing style.

March 28, 2007
Dear Lorena,
How would you like to make-up the telephone call that was supposed to have happened between our children and me, tonight at 7:00PM? I tried to call (a little late) and no one picked up the phone. I see that you made no attempt to call me.
Sincerely,
Allan

March 29, 2007
I called Helmers this morning and was told that he would call at 2:30PM. 2:30Pm came and went. At 3:15 I called back and then was told that Helmers was sorry that he had not called me. I was told that he would call me as soon as he was free from his client. He called me when I was in the middle of class. I left the classroom and spoke for a few minutes.

Finally I spoke with Helmers. He is laid back. He says that being on the attack will not work tomorrow. We need to get LL to be bellicose. Then we may get what we want. Hum? Nassr and Helmers spoke today. Helmers had not spoken with LeeAnn. It seems that Helmers is not asking much of Nassr, just that he be lame. I guess that is the strategy then for tomorrow.

I tried calling my children at 7:00PM but no one picked up the phone. Today is not a standard calling day so I was not surprised.

I called Farfar and invited him to be on speaker conference with me and Helmers tomorrow when we strategize before the hearing. My telephone conversation with Helmers had been short so many issues had been left out. But one very important one is that a further hearing will need to be established as soon as possible.

I wonder what Helmers and. Richard’s conversation was like? Richard is sick and tired of me disparaging his work and is therefore unlikely to be too helpfull. He may get better if the tide starts to turn. Richard does not have a back bone. His mores are much more a function of other people than of his own cognitive processes. Thus, if the tide starts to turn he will go with the new flow.

Tomorrow will be almost the end of the month and it will be a full moon. Also, the Leo horoscope was nice: “Ever atom in your body is about 10 billion years old, every atom of Oxygen in the entire atmosphere has been breathed by every person several times…”

Peter: “You just take an empty toilet paper roll, stab a hole in the top, and then you put a little piece of aluminum foil into that little hole. This is very funny. I haven’t done one of these in a long time… See there is the pipe!” he said with a grin.

Then we went to The Rudyard Kipling for dinner, a nice way to spend the evening before tomorrow.

Oh and late in the night I checked my emails and got this from Richard:

I spoke with John today. He advised that the motion tomorrow is to decide if I am to have the discretion to screen another social worker who may provide this same service less expensively. I believe he may also argue that supervision is not needed. I do not have a subpoena and this is required to leave my regular post. I will be available by telephone during this time-limited (15 minute) hearing. All parties (include Judge Walker-Fitzgerald) are very familiar with my voice and John indicated that this would not likely be a point of contention (ie: telephonic testimony will be sufficient). With the Judge's order, I can be present at court within 20 minutes.

Richard

March 30, 2007
I am dressed: suit and tie. I think about Richard Nassr. I am recalling that the last time we met and I had told him about the hearing today he had said “yes, that’s good, and we will look to find other supervisors.” I was shocked. I said “No, we will get rid of them.” But the issue here is his mind: the mind of a slug. I guess it was just bad luck that my children had to be mired by people with evil intent (like the KGB) and worthless stupidithons like Richard and Craig. The likeliest chances are that LL will want to go on and on in the court about Richard having dropped the case for a third of a year. She will argue that he did this for a reason. The reason? That my children should not be allowed to see me. It will be interesting to see what Richard does with this. He has not responded well in the past – because I have accused him of professional malpractice of the highest order, but there is nothing I can do now. On the other hand, Helmers has not read any of the recent reports from Richard. This means in particular that the day we spent talking about the mother and grandmother (where we promised the children that we would not tell anybody) is still good. Hannah had told us that “Grammy believes that (I) pissed in her mouth” and Sofia and Hannah understand that “Grammy hates” me etc. Now this is a good question for Richard. What will he do in court? Will he deceive the children and admit to esoteric professional conduct in an attempt to save the children from their plight? Or will he be lame?

March 30, 2007
Well, Richard was not present at the court as predicted but the Judge truly must have wanted to be kind to me and Sofia and Hannah. Helmers was as disorganized as anyone could be. Apparently he had not even submitted a motion for non-supervision! I already knew that he had not subpoenaed Richard Nassr – the key witness! Esto es el colmo!

On my way to Helmers office, walking, thinking about the atrocious professionals -- and involved in conversations with them in my mind. I rehearsed teaching the KGB about the law (what you can and can not do) and ethics (what you should and should not do.)

Jill immediately provided me with coffee – she is gentle soulish. John, on the other hand, let me wait ten minutes.

I imagined Farfar asking if I was dressed appropriately and my responding “Oh, I am a bit shabby because I have no respect for the judicial system.

I feel the need to rehearse how to handle Richard Nassr’s mistake – to drop the case for a third of a year on the basis of the KGB.
a. Can we get him to agree that the issue at hand was at the forefront of the children’s minds? I had gone through a series of stories that illustrate the difference between truth and lies.
b. Can we get him to agree that the children had denied the allegations before hand and had stated specifically that they had lied to the therapists (KGB.)

Helmers said “I’m not stressed out about this case.”

The next hearing will be on June 12, 4 days before my parent’s birthday.

Helmers said that Richard has nothing bad to report.
That Richard will not be present at the hearing but that he can come if the Judge orders it.

This is scheduled to be a one hour hearing.

Helmers warned me that Trenaman is going to try to get e to rant and rave.

Well, it’s 9:10AM and no one is here. I haven’t seen Trenaman or LL. I have no idea what is up. Why can’t Helmers at least tell me what is going on?

9:20AM, Trenaman and Helmers appear. Treneaman asks me if I have seen LL. I say “no” and he calls her on his cell phone.
9:27AM Helmers tells me that the Judge is on a conference call.

And where is LL?

The universe takes care of LL.

By 9:30AM I decide to start studying for my exam on Monday.

By 9:45AM I get called into the court room.
Helmers starts by explaining what the motions are. He repeats that the next hearing is set for June 12.
Farfar spoke for a long time about the issues at hand.

“The key thing is to get the unsupervised time.”

Helmers is kind of thinking that the lasky’s are so stupid as to make an other mistake. That would clinch it for us.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
After the hearing I sent LL this email:
Dear Lorena,
Subject to the judge's orders today, March 30th, 2007, I may be with our children for six hours on Sunday, starting at 130 pm and ending at 730 pm. Please bring the children to the Steak and Waffle House on I65 in Indiana.
Thanks,
Allan

After the hearing I sent Richard this email:
Dear Richard,
When you called me today I was hard at work and may not have been the nicest guy in the Universe. After all, I described the improvement in this case as "crumbs."

Yes, I understand that the crumbs are great.

Sorry that I may have sounded like I was complaining.

Thank you also for your statements to the court. Any changes in the case are entirely and totally attributable to what you said. There was NOT a single other source of nice information. Lorena's lawyer did his best to dig up statements from 3 years of Craig and Kim and Ginger and the Texas Judge.

So, thank you very much. You are now invited to spend (free of charge) six hours with Sofia, Hannah and myself for the next many Sundays.

Again, I truly appreciate what you did for my children today. Judge Walker-Fitzgerlad truly wanted to help me and was glad for assurance from you, to do what she did today.
Sincerely,
Allan

After the hearing Farfar sends LL this email:

Hello, Rena:

My wife and I have been looking for the best way to carry out the part of the judge’s ruling, which has to do with our chance to be with our grandchildren during Spring Break. According to Allan, the Judge has allowed us to be with our grandchildren for three days. Despite the small amount of time, our preference would be for the children to visit us here in Durham. My wife is taking a strong medication against the recurrence of cancer. It has side effects which make her weak and sleepy and give her a back pain. She would like to see the children here, so as to avoid having to travel.

Tentatively, subject to the availability of space on the airlines during this peak travel time, my wife and I have come up with the following schedule:

Wednesday, April 11: I travel to Louisville

Thursday, April 12: Allan and I pick up the children at your house and the four of us fly to Durham. We arrive in the afternoon and spend the evening together.

Friday, April 13: We spend all day together.

Saturday, April 14: Allan returns to Louisville with the children. He takes them to your house unless you prefer to meet them at the airport.

As soon as I have spoken to my travel agent and made the reservations, I will let you have the exact times of departure and arrival.

An alternative plan would be to move the visit forward by a couple of days. I would travel to Louisville on Monday, the 9th, return to Durham with Allan and the kids on Tuesday, spend all of Wednesday together, and Allan the the kids would return to Louisville on Thursday.

Please let me know whether either one of these proposals causes you any inconvenience. You can reply to this e-mail or call me at (919) 401-8688.

Best regards,

William

March 30, 2007
Today I am supposed to be able to call my children and I called to no avail at 7:0PM, at 7:15PM, at 7:30PM and at 7:45PM and no one answers the phone. I am scared for my children.

March 30, 2007
Dear Richard,
Please confirm Sunday's parenting time in an email for me.

Allan; this bit of progress must indeed seem like "crumbs" to a father who has been advocating so strongly for so long on behalf of his children. I am happy that things are moving along (albeit slowly). As much as I enjoy observing your children benefit from spending time with you, I regret that I am not able to do so 'free of charge'. I will post a "partial" fee (the lowest my contract allows) which will reduce your costs significantly. I must have a written court order that specifies "partial supervision". John assures me that this is en route. That said, I will be at Waffle House, 1:30p Sunday. Let's talk briefly beforehand as usual. For 30 hours of partial supervision in the month of April, please remit $1026 by April 15,
2007. Thanks very much. Richard

March 30, 2007
Dear Lorena, (Mason, and John.)
Today in court, your Lawyer, Mason Trenaman, said that telephone calls were to take place on Wednesday, Friday and Saturday. I am assuming that you said this is what you wanted to your lawyer. This is also what you said to LeeAnn Gardener. This is also what you have stated to me in person. This is also.... But anyway, today is Friday. I called tonight at the right time and several times thereafter and no one picked up the phone. Could you please let me know what is going on and also, could you please provide for a make up time for Sofia and Hannah and I to speak.

Thank you,
Allan

March 30, 2007
Allan,
You did not call at the right time. The right time, as agreed to in an email exchange is 8:00pm due to Hannah's soccer schedule. You called at 7pm. You were called back at 7:55pm and talked until 8:40pm. If you are going to send out emails accusing me of violating the court order minutes after the call was suppossedly due without waiting to see if perhaps you were wrong or if you received a return call, the least you can do is write back to all of those same people you bothered & tell them you were in error.
As we confirmed on the phone--yes 1:30 at Waffle house in Indiana is fine.
I had plans to take the kids to the big Healthy Kids day sponsored at the YMCA this Sunday. It is from 2-5pm at Papa Johns & has lots of free activities & free T-shirts. I was going to take them 2-3pm, but since now I cannot--I think you should. they may have forgotten but we have talked about it more than once this week & Hannah, especially, was very excited.
Lorena Lasky

March 30, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I would much more strongly consider your Big Healthy Kids proposition if you come with us. Would you please come with us?
Allan

March 30, 2007
I just re-read your email--The days are wrong & not what I agreed upon. I never said Saturday was okay for calls. The calls are Tuesday, Wednesday & Friday. You called this Tuesday , as scheduled--and I would like to keep it that way.
I will not agree to calls on Saturday. It is the one day of the entire week I have no set schedule for me and/or the kids & I prefer to keep that one day scared. You already have 4 days a week contact, as I explained in LeeAnn's office & two of the other three evenings, there are night activities (ballet, brownies--as I already explained) AND on top of that I am suppossed to find time to sit at a computer & facilitate emails (EVERY 3 DAYS??!!!!). Now you want to schedule something for the one free day I have the whole week--My reply is NO. No person can live life sanely having appointments 7 days a week. I will agree to occasional calls on Saturday only if the other calls had to be missed due to extenuating circumstances & that will be on a case-by-case & communicated by & agreed upon in email.
I answered the other issues in the last email (about how you forgot the call was at 8pm because of Hannah's soccer practice & how you talked 40 minutes tonight.)
Lorena Lasky
March 30, 2007
Dear Lorena,
I have my notes right next to me and just looked at them again. They clearly indicate your Lawyer saying in court that the telephone days are Wednesday, Friday and Saturday. As far as what you said in the presence of LeeAnn Gardner, we can ask her on April 2nd or 3rd, when ever we meet her next. That's all I have to say about that.
As for your sanity, I hope you nurture it and make yourself into a self actualized person. I hope that you are able to spend a great portion of your time maximizing your potential and in particular that you can do this in an ethical, moral and fair manner to society and to our children in particular.
The telephone call issue can be discussed with LeeAnn.
I have been nice to you and will always be so in spite what Kentucky has been to our children and keep yearning for a better future for you and the children.
Sincerely,
Allan



_________________________________________________________________
The following is the collection of all the messages left by my daughters on my phone during the month of March. They called many times without leaving messages, so they said, and I was able to confirm that this was true on my cell phone. – I believe because they did not want LL to know?

March 2, 2007-- Hello, Daddy Lasky Headrick this is Sofia and I want to tell you to call me back this instant, before I call you. That’ll be in five seconds. OK bye.(very playful and dramatic.)

March 3, LL calls the tell me that Sofia wanted to call me today and that it makes more sense than Sunday anyhow if they are gonna have a visit tomorrow.(LL sounds professional.)

March 3, 2007 -- Daddy Lasky Headrick call me back right this instant. Now! (a message from Sofia.)
March 3, 2007 -- Uhm, we were just trying to call you because we know that Saturday would be better than Sunday since (breaths) we don’t want to call right after we see you. So please call us back daddy thank you. (I can hear the sound of Sofia going down stairs.)
March 3, 2007 -- Call me back…… says sofia
March 4, 2007 -- Hello, Daddy Lasky-Headrick, I’d like for you to please now call me back bye bye sings Sofia..

March 5, 2007 Richard calls to say, Allan I need you to call me today, Thank you.(sounds like hell.) He had just gotten a call from Kim Dial.
March 9, 2007 8:20PM -- Hello Daddy call me back bye (sad.)
March 9, 2007 9:05PM -- Hello Daddy, this s Sofia… You didn’t call me back and now you can not call says Mommy because because this is going to be too late. You tried to call me back but I couldn’t get it in time and now its going to be too late because I gotta go to bed. If you just could call me. Bye. (OH SO SAD)
March 21, 2007 -- Hi this is Hannah daddy call beck because I want to ask you if I can play on the computer at the same time talk on the phone because I know how to do it and Mommy hurt my feelings and mommy made me get off the computer and I don’t like it. Bye. Hannah Lasky.
March 27, 2007 -- Hi Daddy, Please call us back. Bye.
March 27, 2007 -- Hi Daddy I have called you like seventeen hundred times so please call me back and this is the seventeen-hundred-and-oneth time I have called you. Now can you please pick up the phone or call me back. Thank you, bye bye.
March 30, 2007 – Now this is a very difficult message to interpret because it is very fuzzed up… but it was received at 8:41PM and I do not believe LL was aware of this. It starts “Hi Daddy, this is Sofia…. I wanted to explain this game to you ……this is
Because of and I don’t really understand it and so I will show it to you on Sunday…. I and then we can say good its called and then in the circles are the numbers ok what you do is like a line and then until you get to the… multiply and roll the dice if you have a dice and … and if not, you… three plus six is nine so you go to the number nine and then go on like that until you get to number 17
If you ever get to the eighteen you go zoom all the way back two spaces and roll again and the whole board looks like a --------
If all of your checker pieces get zoomed then it is called a …..
that one doesn’t make it then…. and your favorite that is two boards and they turn their back and put their circles on the two 18 and there are two 18s and then if you get to seventeen then you get on if you put a check in the circle to the right then you go to six and you to got the start because you got it wrong. You might not understand but then I can explain it to you more on Sunday in two days, wait wait wait, is that how you play the game and then if you try to call me back I might be able to talk. Bye.

I called my daughters at 8:00PM and indeed as the emails show, was able to speak with them. My telephone talk with Hannah was stunningly beautiful. She told me many of the differences between a duck and a hippopotamus, for example. My telephone call with Sofia was interestingly creative. We were in the process of inventing a game that no one has ever played before. Sofia called me after the telephone was hung up (at 8:41PM) to continue to describe the game to me. (See above.)


Steak on i65 yes,
Field trp,
Transcripts,
More emails yeah

“God hates divorce” according to Shakr, my Iraqi friend.