The rendering of uncontained hatred that the therapists of the children have allowed to flourish was totally obvious today.
I called at about 9:00AM and said “Heypodey Rena. How are you?”
“Make it quick. I’m working.”
“OK, Rena, I’ll be there in 6 point 3 minutes.
I had come on the motorcycle, parked it at the gas station. As I walked to LL’s place I found Hannah outside playing with ants.
I played with Hannah for a little while, pointing out and ant that had wings and making comments about worker ants, potential queen ants…
I told Hannah that was going to get Sofia.
“You can’t go inside.” She was matter of fact.
“Sure I can. Mommy can go inside my house.”
“Yeah, that’s because you love her.”
“True but it’s really because you are my children and when you are with me, I want Mommy to be free to come to you.”
Hannah continued to argue: “No, it’s because you love her.”
I entered the house and asked LL “Hey Rena, how did things evolve about Samantha’s birthday party? After you and I hung up?”
“I did not speak about this with anyone.”
But as soon as I was outside again and by the ant heap, Hannah said “Mommy and Sofia said I can not go to Samantha’s birthday party. Can I go?”
“Yes, Sam and her mother invited you.”
So know I knew that LL had lied to me.
As we walked to the gas station I told the children that I was on the motorcycle. The8ir reaction was not off-putting. However, when we got to the motorcycle, Sofia went ballistic.
“No, I am not going to ride on the motorcycle.” Her brain was working at break neck speed to find some way to not get on the motorcycle.
And then we called LL and LL supported Sofia and so in the end, the only thing that happened was that the children walked back to LL’s.
This was good for the children because they were together in their handling the situation and I was proud of them. I did not resist them. I simply drove the motorcycle to LL’s place and parked it in front of her house.
And now something really incredible happened. Hannah discovered that her friend Miles was around and went to him, took his hand, and they walked together along the sidewalk back to LL’s house. Hannah likes Miles. Miles likes Hannah very much. They have somewhat similar personalities. Mile’s Dad told me that he had heard Hannah “howling like a coyote one night,’ and that is ‘exactly what Miles would do.’
Miles was very fascinated by the motorcycle and side carr. It did not take much for me to ask Mile’s Dad if I could take them along the alley way.
We drove around the park.
LL saw us.
When we came back, LL called Hannah and told her “You can not get on that motorcycle.”
LL was totally against the children riding in the side car.
I decided that there was nothing really to do, then but to keep talking and hang out at LL’s.
Sofia and I played a game of Monopoly.
Hannah watched a movie.
“I will never stop my quest for the children riding on the motorcycle,” I said. “If they don’t ride today, then they may ride on Tuesday or Thursday, or next Sunday, or Tuesday etc…”
LL was not doing too well with us at her place because she needed to work on the computer.
She did not speak with me. She spoke with Hannah and Sofia and gave them her car keys told them to tell me that I should but $10.00 of gas in the car.
I refused.
Finally she gave up on the $10.00 and so I took the children in LL’s car to the YMCA.
LL did not tell me that I needed to be back by 5:00PM.
We were swimming.
She left two messages on the cell phone.
The pool closed at 5:30PM.
We got out of there and made our way to the McDonalds by 6:00PM.
She called just after we had started eating out food and bitched me out about not having brought the car back to her. “I will bring it to you in 7 point six seven minutes,” I said. We picked up the food and drove back to LL’s.
She immediately took the car from us and took off.
Hannah found a way to break into the house.
She opened the door for me and Sofia.
I called LL to tell her that we were in the house. I told her that it was my fault that we were in the house because I did not want Hannah to be responsible for letting me in. By the way, Hannah was very nice when she opened the door. She said “come on in Daddy.”
And so LL got all riled up and asked to speak with Sofia so I let her do that and Sofia told her how we had gotten in.
LL then spoke with Hannah and told her that she did not want me in her bed room. “We have to watch the movie in the living room,” said Hannah.
LL wanted to know if I was rummaging through her stuff. Hannah told me that I was not.
LL pointed out to Hannah that I had rummaged through the recycle bin and found the art work from the children.
“Yeah but you had thrown that away,” Hannah stood up for me.
So we watched “Raiders of the Lost Arc” in the living room. I made tea for myself with Sofia’s help.
LL returned at 7:10PM and as soon as she arrived she ordered the children to bring in the groceries.
And then she drove off with them to the new house.
She refused to give me the address of the new house.
So it was an Ok day. I mean, I did not win in the sense that I did not get my children to ride in the side car, but I did take Hannah and I had a great time with my children – playing in the swimming pool with both of them, watching a movie with Hannah, playing Monopoly with Sofia….and there will be another time when they can ride the motorcycle with me. As for LL, I guess she suffered having us disturb her work, the insult of lending me her car, the uncomfortable anguish of hearing that we had broken into the house, the anguish of wondering when I would bring the car back,… and none of this would have happened, of course, if the she had instigated the children to ride in the side car.
Yeah, the Lasky’s and their lies taking root in the social matrix now seems to make it possible for ridiculing of my parenting with a motorcycle.
I sent LL and email asking her to let me know about the supposed court date tomorrow and inquiring whether we could deal with her issues and my issues at the same time on the ninth of June.
Dear Lorena,
I scheduled a court date for 9 June, and think the court might appreciate dealing with both our issues together.
Sincerely,
Allan.

June 2, 2008
Well, another day of hell due to hatred and vilifying misconduct on LL’s behalf (exclusively.) Need I say that?
I went to the Art at the Beach at 8:30AM and saw Sofia sit down at her first class: working the loom.
LL was there the entire time. She had two people that she knew and I think they are related to her work place because of the nature of their conversations and the fact that when LL’s phone rang, it was a work related call (it seemed to me) and she passed the phone on to the other lady… The first lady had already stated that she could not help with what ever it was…
How did Sofia handle all this? She is always tense when her mother is present. But I said to her “I am proud of you and you are a very cool kid,” and with that she seemed quite good.
LL refused to speak with me. I followed her to her car and asked her if we would meet in court. She said “Yes.”
Her friends were escorting her – like I was a dangerous man.
I asked LL is she had gone to the court house (I had been to the bottom floor at the clerks office and been told that the Judge probably remanded the petitions if we had not appeared…) and LL admitted that this is what must have happened.
I got a call from Art at the Beach and they wanted to speak with LL so I gave them her number.
I returned to the Art at the Beach at about the same time as LL. I signed the sign out book. Oooh, this created a commotion. The lady who runs the show told me that I did not have custody of Sofia and that LL had told her that I was not allowed to pick up Sofia. I asked for documentation to show that and she said “Look, if you want a full refund, you can have it because this is not worth my time.”
“That is not fair to Sofia.”
“I understand.”
“I respect that it is not worth your time.”
Sofia was in a one of her Lasky moods (is it not fair that I write that?) What other environment could have taught her this mood? She refused to follow LL.
LL blamed me for this. She said “it’s because of you.”
Sofia stated that the people in Art at the Beach are liars. That is interesting. LL said that she would talk about it with Sofia in the car but not at the school. Then Sofia caught LL in a lie about the next week end. LL told Sofia that she could go to Samantha’s birthday party. It was one of those “why didn’t you tell me that Mommy?” and LL responds “I did!” and Sofia knows that LL never told her this. Sofia argues back and she is fierce.
But you know how LL managed to get Sofia to go with her? She said, “Ok, I am leaving now and if you don’t come with me then you will have to stay with your dad.”
That trick still works, but it will not work for long.
As LL was leaving I asked LL if she would tell me about her image of what is a good way to arrange for the children to come into my possession tomorrow. She refused to answer me. Instead she called me ‘disrespectful,’ and did so in front of Sofia. I told her that I am very respectful.
So I spent a good portion of my evening trying to remember to call LL about tomorrow.
I called at 7:00PM, at 7:30PM, 8:17PM, 9:24PM, I said “we will meet at Days Coffee Shop since I was not able to actually speak with her.
I do not believe that LL spends any appreciable time with the children. Not like I do: I spend total quality real one-on-one time with them when ever I am around them. LL stole the children from me in order to (1) satisfy her mother (2) gain social sympathy (3) appear to actualize as a mother…. but the truth is that she has almost nothing to do with Sofia and Hannah. Our methods of being parts of the children’s lives have not changed since Paraguay. LL in Paraguay was so distant from the children that their primary language was German (that was the language they spoke with one another.) Recently Hannah said that “Mommy takes them places but then she leaves them alone.” I believe this is a paradigm.
I do leave the children alone some times. For example when there is Girl Scouts then they are to themselves. I like it when they connect with other children and I just sit back, but I am available when they are alone.

This is why good jobs are so hard to find these days:

A study by Forrester Research predicts that U.S. companies will transfer 3.3 million service jobs overseas by 2015, compared with just 102,000 jobs shifted in 2000. The job exports are predominantly in the areas of information technology (including software and product development), customer service, back-office accounting and sales.(33) On 10 August 2003, USA Today warned that white collar workers are going to experience the devastating job losses that occurred in manufacturing in the previous thirty years. Almost any professional job that can be done long distance is suddenly up for grabs. Jobs done by financial analysts, architectural drafters, telemarketers, accountants, claims adjusters, home loan processors and others at higher levels of the labour food chain are being farmed out to workers in other countries. "We're not just talking about call-center jobs, but all kinds of jobs," says Deloitte Consulting analyst Christopher Gentle. "It doesn't leave any part of the corporation untouched." Major U.S. companies, including such giants as IBM, Microsoft and Procter & Gamble, are leading the pack. Tens of thousands of jobs already have been shipped out, and analysts project that millions more will go -- just as the fragile economy attempts a rebound. "We see it as a threat to America's middle-class work force, in terms of wages and benefits," says Marcus Courtney, president of Washington Alliance of Technology Workers in Seattle. "The service sector is not immune to the forces of globalization. We're talking about highly skilled, best-paying jobs. It's raising the concern of workers."

Former German Foreign Minister Joschka Fischer says Israel is planning to attack Iran in the near future over its nuclear program.

He wrote a piece that appeared in today's Daily Star, an English-language Lebanese newspaper, arguing that President Bush's recent visit to the Middle East was a precursor to a war against Iran.

"The Middle East is drifting toward a new great confrontation in 2008. Iran must understand that without a diplomatic solution in the coming months, a dangerous military conflict is very likely to erupt. It is high time for serious negotiations to begin," he said.

Fischer said Bush's speech during his address to the Israeli Knesset, or parliament, this month indicated a coming Israeli-US attack on Iran's nuclear program.

"He (Bush) seemed to be planning, together with Israel, to end the Iranian nuclear program -- and to do so by military, rather than by diplomatic, means.... Although it is acknowledged in Israel that an attack on Iran's nuclear facilities would involve grave and hard-to-assess risks, the choice between acceptance of a nuclear Iran and an attempt at its military destruction, with all the attendant consequences, is clear. Israel won't stand by and wait for matters to take their course," Fischer said.

Fischer was German's top diplomat from 1998 to 2005 and is a visiting scholar at the Woodrow Wilson International Center for Scholars in Washington, D.C.
And the above two articles are two very good reasons why unless LL has a good economic plan, to buy a house right now is precarious. Of course I wish her the best.
Bush is like the child protective services industry here in Louisville.
Bush is like the god awful therapists of the children, called Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo, who condemned them to the Lasky psycho-crap which they are still suffering under.


May 3, 2008
The torrential rain soaked into every layer – right through the rain coat.
I arrived at the Art at the Beach school a few minutes before Sofia and LL. I spoke with the director of the program. She was very brusque, succinct and her sentences cut me up.
“Do you happen to know if Sofia has arrived?”
“No!” She starts. “I am in charge of one hundred and twenty children!” and then she blurts out “You are not capable of understanding my function here.”
“Ok.”
And then LL and Sofia arrive and LL puts on one of those fake smiles. She passes us by and I follow to sign in sheet which is on a nearby table.
She does not say anything to me. Sofia does not either.
“Heypodey,” I say in a casual manner. Lorena guides Sofia away from me and Sofia obeys and walks away without interacting with me.
Obviously we were being observed and it was very embarrassing since Sofia was acting very much like a child who had been abused.
I followed Lorena out of the building and into the rain. She said “Yeah, Day’s café is fine.” I asked “Why do I have to force it out of you? Why can’t you just normally respond?” (If I had not come to the Art at the Beach I do not believe I would ever have heard anything about where we are to meet.)
“What ever,” she said.
“Why are you such a mean person?”
I had been happy as I rode my motorcycle in the rain but now I was sad. I had been thinking “I care about my children greatly – certainly enough to get soaked.” That had caused me to smile. But now I had only gotten a dose of Lasky hate. It is the same kind of hate that Nancy displays to Richard: a sort of cold calculated vicious social game.
At 5:00PM I was sitting at the Days Café talking with Steve when LL called. She said “We are out here.” I said “well, come on in.” She said “No, you come out here.” And I said “Ok, but I need to wash my hands and powder my nose first.”
I found my children all in a good mood but with a vehement anti-motorcycling disposition. (I know why.)
So, as usual, I said things like “You are not allowed to motorcycle unless you love motorcycles.”
Now, in order to avoid motorcycling the children went on all kinds of adventures. They did not remember how to walk back to LL’s and this was a little interesting to me because I could have sworn that by now they had learned how to do that, so they went in circles around the Bloom school. I kept track of them at a distance. At one point I lost them and then I asked a lady if she had seen “two girls” and she indicated where they were. When I got close to them I said that if I loose them that I will “call the police.”
But it was really not an easy day for any of us. Sofia fell to tears on two occasions. One time it was because Hannah had hit her and then to make things worse, lied about it.
It was hard to do interesting things with them since we were so limited by time and could not go anywhere on the motorcycle. We made it to the park and we drew a couple of pictures. That was all we did of any real interest. The rest of the time it was a psychological struggle to get them to ride in the side car.
As we were waiting for LL to come pick up the children Sofia told me the address of the new house. Hannah remarked that this was not something Mommy wanted to know. Sofia repeated it three times to be sure that I got it. Of course I got it but I pretended not to get it. And to be sure that the children understood that they had not taught me something that LL did not want me to know, I called LL and asked her to please let me know her new address.
Of course LL never picked up the phone and she never called me back. LL came to pick up the children in Nancy’s car. I saw Nancy too and I greeted Nancy and she pretended that I did not exist.

Later in the evening I did a little internet research about LL’s new house. It is very close to routes 60 and 264 and if I get on New Lagrange road and then take the fourth (or so) street to the left then that is Washburn and LL lives at #612 (I think.)
From the internet I estimate that LL’s house is worth/ cost $128,000.00. That means that her payments are now at least $1,280.00/ mo which is double what it was when she was renting.
The US economy is going to hell. Already one can estimate that the income from real estate taxes accrued by the county has declined by about 20%. That is huge! This is the money that finances schools. LL works for a school system. There is a chance (5%?) that she will loose one of her two jobs. That will jeopardize her home…
It will not take long before the loan that LL has on the house is more than the value of the house.
Maybe 8 months.
I bet LL bought this house on impulse.
Damned!
LL’s house is about 15 miles from my house. That is a 1.3 hour bike ride.


June 4, 2008
Dear Rena and Allan,

For Farmor and me, the best time to visit Allan and the girls this summer would be July 18-20 or July 25-27. Allan would bring the girls to the Old Bridge Inn on Friday afternoon and we would return them to you on Sunday evening. We don't have definite plans for how we will spend the time, but one thought would be to go horseback riding on Saturday and visit the
Mammoth Caves on Sunday. Since those two places are close to one another, we might spend Saturday night at a local motel.

Which of the two week-ends would be preferable from the standpoint of the activities the girls will be undertaking this summer?

Best wishes,

Farfar




Hola querida Mirta,
Fue una bonita sorpresa ver tu nombre en mi lista de emials. Como estas? Estoy trabajando para una compania que se llama UPS y haciendo todo lo possible para criar mis hijas. En este hemisferio hace verano y las lluvias son grandes.
Tu amigo,
Allan

Oh good, look an email from Paraguay!

Holaaaa!!!!!!
Que gusto que me te acuerdes de mi, que estes bien y que te esmeres por tus niñas. Pues te comento que muy por el contrario de donde vos estas,pues por aca, hace mucho,mucho frio, por dicha sin niebes ni nada de eso ,pero vientos del sur y las temperatura no son mas que 13º y en ocasiones la sensaciones son de menos 1º que para nosotros ya es demasiado, es que mi paìs, Paraguay en un pais tropical, por lo general hace calor, mas calor que frio a decir verdad, y ahora estamos en otoño y ya hace frio no nos queremos imaginar lo que sera en invierno que aun no entra.

En fin, la vida por aca tampoco es facil como en todos lados al parecer, es luchar, luchar y luchar, lo bueno es tener amigos como vos que no se olvida de una no?

Te envio mi cariño, te ofrezco mi amistad sincera y espero que todo sea para bien contigo y con tus niñas

Cariños

Mirti


And my response:

Mirta Querida Amiga, ayá en Paraguay,
Es phenomenal conseguir algo de ti. Te conozco – en verdad poquíssimo pero me encanta poder crear emociones bonitas contigo. Reconozco como siempre que en Paraguay la gente tiene que luchar, y luchar sin fin hasta el último suspiro. Mis experiencias en Africa, America Central, Asia y otros países en America del Sur me hacen saber que es algo mundial. Eso fue lo que tu escribiste: “Como por todos lados.” Te quiero decir que el mundo se mejorará pero tengo el presentimiento que la questión de la energia (petroleo) es terminal. Al agotarse la energía mundial tendremos destrucción económica mas o menos mundial. Paraguay es un buen país por ahora. La gente no esta hambrienta – estan muriendo a cantaras en Ethiopia! Los paise como Haití que no tienen ni comida van a hundir. El précio de la comida depende mucho de el valor del petróleo porque la insecticida es hecha de petrleo, y el transporte…

Que hacer? En la India recommiendo comprar arroz y lentejas ahora que los precios no son tan terribles, y amar al mundo. Que comprarias en Paraguay que no se daña y aún es barato? Y te quiero como el agua las nubes,
Allan

10:00 AM or so, I called the KGB and left a message for David Weathersby. I called the Child Enrichment Program and got the phone number of Mr. Elgin who told me NEVER to call him back at that number after I asked hin to please make an appointment to speak with him.
I also called LL and asked her about tomorrow (where do I pick u the children?) and about her new address.
6:00PM I called the KGB again and this time a new voice answered the phone. I introduced myself and asked to leave a voicemail with Dr. Ginger Crumbo and she put me through to her voice mail. I was exact in my statements to this ‘therapist.’ I quoted what she had said in the court room in Austin Texas and indicated that the reason she had failed in her ‘therapy’ was because it was utterly maligned. I described the Lasky hatred. I asked her to call me back so that we could invite some progress to take place in this case.
Then, at 7:00PM I called my children and one of them picked up the phone and then disconnected it. I called right back and the answering machine came on. I left a message asking for three things:
1. That I be able to communicate by phone with my children.
2. That I be told the new address of LL.
3. That I be informed of a place to pick up the children at 5:00PM tomorrow.


The End of Year Meeting will be June 22 @ 4pm @ Deer Park.

If you can not make it please let me know and I will either bring your daughter's incentives to your house or will hold it until next scout year.

If you still owe badge work or service hours let me know what you have done prior to the meeting so I can have the badge or leadership pin available on that day.

If you have any questions please let me know.

Thanks,
Kelly

June 5, 2008
If any thing bad happens to me, I am prepared to bet that the Lasky family did that: anything from burning down my house to murder. I already believe they have been involved in stealing a moped from me. In retrospect it is easy to feel that they may have been involved in forcing my loss of the Ford station wagon from Texas because it was last parked near Rebecca Cohen’s friends Michelle (Justice is her son’s name) and Kelly (her last name was Kenne (something) who did a homebirth with Rebecca’s help.
4,093 American Soldiers have died in Iraq.
I have no idea where I am to pick up my children today.
10:00AM I call LL to ask her about this. She picked up the phone and said that she would bring the girls are 5:30PM to the Karma Café. She admitted that she lives at 610 Washburn Ave. She knew that Sofia had told me. I told her that I do not use the children as vehicle for my gaining knowledge “I am not like you.” And then she said that she had to work, at a meeting 6 to 7:30PM or 8:00PM so she wanted me to take care of the children from 5:30PM to 8:00PM.
LL does not listen to the messages I leave on her answering machine.
4:30PM I am at “Art at the Beach,” Sofia shirks away from me and I ask her not to be means to me and add “I love you.” Then Grammy finds us and whisks Sofia away, but as she is signing the book (you have to sign that you are taking the child) I go to her and speak with her saying things like “How are you Nancy?” She bristles with Hate so I say “Oh Nancy.”
5:00PM I am at the Karma Café and there is no sign of my children.
At 5:45PM I notice my children walking into the Karma Café. They had been brought there and dropped off a side street by Nancy. Our entire time was pretty much an excercize in trying to get them to ride on the motorcycle. I called up LL and told her that I was going to force them to ride in the side car.
They ran away. I looked for them for five minutes and could not find them so I borrowed a phone and called the police. Just as the police arrived I found them. Sofia was very stressed out.
I told her not to worry. I am not afraid about anything. Hannah told the policeman that I wanted to take them on the motorcycle. That was cute. That was the reason why they had run away. The police man asked them “Did you ask for ermission to go away?” and they said “no.”
It is interesting that that I actually followed through with this because last time we were together and the children had gone away from me to avoid the motorcycle I had told them that if I could not find them that I would call the police. So, now they know that I mean what I say… maybe.
In the end I forced them to sit in the side car for five minutes. They screamed and yelled and kicked and bit me. They were very violent. I held them in the side car for five minutes. It was truly a terrible situation – but, I decided to follow through and there was really nothing I could do without loosing a basic right: the right to love showing my children the wonder of motorcycling. Sofia had dropped my telephone in the toilet when she had tried to call LL and this had broken it. A concerned man came and lent them his cell phone so that they could call LL and Hannah left a whimpering message.
But I did not give in.
I told them that they had to sit in the side car without my holding them in there for five minutes on their own.
Hannah explained that she was a “tough girl and that she could defend herself.” I know this is part of the Lasky hate. I told them this.
But this time the girls sat in the sidecar for five minutes (while it was parked.)
And then I asked them to take the next step which is to sit in the side car with the engine running… but I agreed that they could first eat dinner at the Karma Café.
LL came by just as they were eating their dinner and so they never took this next step. That was OK. LL presented me with two motions that she is presenting the court.
LL said “I called you many times and you did not pick up the phone?” and I said “I accidentally dropped m phone in the toilet and it broke. Of course, the truth is that Sofia had dropped it in the toilet.
In fact, this was true. The phone would attempt t ring and when we tried to answer it, we could not.
When I came hme I read the two motions LL is presenting the curt.
LL’s MOTIONS

June 6, 2008
Well, it is now 8:27AM and I am at the ‘Art at the Beach,’ waiting to see if Sofia is brought here by the Lasky’s.
The hate was out of this world. Lornea kissed and hugged Sofia and when I tried to give her a gentle touch she reacted like she was being murdered. It was truly disgusting. As LL and I were leaving I asked LL “did you like that?” and “she did that for you.” LL said “what ever.” And I said “You are a psychological nightmare.”
“And what plans do you have for Sunday?” I asked her.
“What do you mean?”
“Where are we exchanging the children?”
“I will call you.”
“My phone is broken.”
“Oh…” and then she said “well, I guess then you must come to my house.”
There are some advantages and some disadvantages to this. But all in all, it is at least a plan.
LL has probably capitalized on the incident yesterday with the side car to solidify her position against me. Of course, I wish I had some leeway. For me to back out at this point would take a very long time to recover from: I can not back out. I will drive the motorcycle and sidecar to her house. I have already established some rules: I have established that they will sit in the side car every time they see me. But that is, I firmly believe, a large part of the explanation as to Sofia’s behavior today.

Dear Sofia,
There are some things about which you have a choice. You can choose to go to ‘Art at the Beach,’ or you can choose to go to ‘CEP.’ You can choose to eat chocolate ice cream or you can choose to eat green tea marshmallows. You can choose to draw or write or run or read or swim or sun or a friend.
But you can not choose your mother or your father, you can not choose the vehicle your parent drives you in, you can not choose your house….
But you can choose to be kind. You can choose to be intelligent. You can choose to soak your pancakes in syrup – which is some thing that Hannah sure does.
I love you just the way you were are and believe it or not, will be!
Your
Daddy





I called Nancy and left the following message:
“Heypodey Nancy, this is Allan and God loves you very much and she/he or it deigns the obliteration of all enmity and strife so in an attempt instigate the realization thereof please feel ever so free to call me and I promise you that I will, as always, be honest, frank and fair. Thank you very much.”

I should check out pattimedleys.com

Jackie Stamps 595 4732
Here are Tel to call:

Debbie Lee, CEP lady and Elgin 637 – 1575
KGB
Wendy McLaughlin, 101 North 7th Street, Louisville, Kentucky 40202. Tel.(502) 561-3467





Flag vet memorial blah blah blah is open to all girls but Junior's if you are still short some service hours, I would recommend doing this on Sat May 24 for a few hours. Let me know if you are interested.

Thanks,
Kelly







]]>I tried to call the KGB and I was told that the person I needed to speak with was David Weathersby and he was not there. I asked for a better time to call and was told that I should call tomorrow and I was not given a time to call.
Somalia is a breeding ground for terrorist thinking.
Americans are spending their money now more on food and gasoline than ever before.
The stressed economy and financial malady in the US is forcing building suppliers like Home Depot and Lowes to close many stores. There is no money to build with. \
My children are still in the same atrocious family environment.
But there are some who are doing well: Exxon Mobil is doing very well. The price of oil is now twice as high as it was half a year ago. The world market is reeling. LL is buying a house?
And so, after work I came to pick up my children and LL was 48 minutes late.
My BS is good as can be!
I need a bit of help – I wanted to give Peter five bucks in exchange for a check but he did not have his check book with him… so I emailed Farfar:
Dear Farfar,
Can you please help me out again with transcripts? I need another transcript from Swarthmore and I do not have a checking account… and so I was wondering if you could please send a letter to the Registrars office, Swarthmore College, 500 College Avenue Swarthmore, PA 19081 and ask them to send a transcript to JCC, 109 E. Broadway, Louisville, KY 40202. They need a check for $5.00.
Lots of love,
Allan

And hopefully I can be a student….
And then I sent LL an email:
Dear Lorena,
Farfar sent Hannah a birthday card with a little money. Can you please tell me what you did with the money and the card?
Thank you,
Allan

And then when I finally caught up with LL and the children I asked about Farfar’s letter and LL said that she had it but had not yet given it to Hannah “because (she) forgot.” Yeah right! See, it is now eight days ago that it was Hannah’s birthday and neither Hannah nor Sofia have any knowledge of Farfar’s birthday present.
OK, forget that… It was a spectacularly good day for the children. There was the Pegasus Parade going on. We met Heather and Miles (who live close to LL) and joined with them and that was perfectly entertaining and good and then we met Paul (who works at UPS with me) and he was good with the children too. The Pegasus Parade was a fun show for the children, even for Sofia (who is a little shy and admitted that she was not really interested in the event) and when we returned to LL’s it was 7:50PM but LL was not there, so I asked her where she was and she told me that she was still running errands so I told her that we were going to my house to play in the park. LL did not want that, but it has been a week since she came to my house to pick the children up. It was a good thing that we went to my house. Sofia and I drew some quick sketches while Hannah and Miles went to the park. Heather, Miles’s mother went to the park as well.
And then LL strolls in the house. She see’s a picture of Grammy on the wall and says that she wants to take it. I ask her not to pick any fights with me in front of Sofia. She pulls out her camera and wants to take a picture of it. I ask her not to tale a picture – because all she wants to do with the picture is pick a fight with me. She tries to take one picture, then another, then another and I am asking her to stop this. Finally I take the camera from her. I did not touch her. I took the camera and the strap that was wrapped around her wrist snapped. I do it with a minimal amount of physical contact – but hey, what can you do. “If you want to, email me, LL. Do not do this kind of thing in front of the children.”
Hannah was not there. She was at the park when this happened. That was good. I gave Hannah a great kiss on the head.
I am glad that Heather and Miles were in the car with LL as she drove to her place.
Yes, it was a good time for the children and in a way it was good because there was Miles and his mother to add to the experience. I think it was a better time for Hannah than it was for Sofia. There really was no great high point for Sofia, it was all a good time but no distinctive high point. However for Hannah, being with Miles was a high point. They sat together in the back seats of both my car and LL’s and it was cute.
I asked L if I could see the children tomorrow in order to start making up for the time in Florida and she said “NO.”
According to the children, they are moving on May 9, into the house LL is buying.
President Bush is asking congress for ¾ of a billion dollars. What for? World food aid. Much of the world is starving. There is not much food (in part because of food being diverted to produce Biofuels, human overpopulation etc,…) and it is much more expensive…. Irony! Bush caused this crisis. Doom and gloom is the image of the world economic situation. Credit squeeze, gold is high, inflation, prices of food increased, high price for gasoline, the doing of the Wall Street incentive system. Now it is pessimism galore!
And this while my children are young.
I am predicting that life and the world economy will be very difficult for the next ten years and then what people remain will acclimate to the lack of energy and the reduced food.
I do not want this to squash their dreams.

Dear Lorena,
Please, when you come to my house, do not pick a fight with me in front of the children.
You told me that you would email me about make-up time since you are intending to break with the legal agreement: you want to take the children to Florida? But you have not emailed me about this. Lorena, you may not break with the agreement without our agreeing to a reasonable counter-offer. I will try to the best of my ability to work with you, but please understand that the way things currently stand you will break with the Judge’s Order.
Sincerely,
Allan
10:00AM, I called LL and left a message telling her that “Hey Rena, today the children are not in school so today is a good day for making up for the time you want to keep the children from me this summer. I am totally compliant with wanting to work with you to find something that we can do to suit both of us – which includes you, so please send me an email with your suggestions. (I translated the message into Spanish as well, so she got it in two languages.) ¡Que tengas un buen día!”
7:00PM I called my children but no one picked up the phone. So I called LL’s cell phone. I left a message on L’s cell phone to ask her to let me speak with the children.
7:10PM I called again and left a message for my children: “Should you run or walk in the rain? Should you run or walk when you cross the street without an umbrella? Running means spending less time in the rain
7:20PM I called and left a message for my children. I left a message that has a science tone to it.
7:30PM I called again and this time Hannah got on the phone. She accused me of taking the camera from LL. Then she hung op on me.
Now this is bad because because the sacrilegious act of using the children, placing them in the middle, is the Lasky manner and there is no mechanism in place to prevent this.
I called the KGB and left a message reminding them of the hate and enmity that they have cultivated in the Lasky lives of my children.

Dear Lorena,
¿Que haces? ¿Como estás? Es importante que tengamos alguna communicación sobre este verano porque si no, entonces vamos a tener que arreglarlo todo sin nuestro control. Es mucho mejor si tenemos manera de arreglar cosas propiamente. It is much better if we can realize changes and accommodate needs ourselves, so please give me a call and email me.
Thank you,
Allan


Muy querido Allan: por dónde estarás entre el 15 y el 23 de Julio? Sería posible verte aunque fuera un fin de semana. Ire a USA para llevar a mi amigo el padre, que será internado definitivamente en una casa de cuidados especiales. Está muy enfermo. Es muy triste para mi éste mometno pero no hay ya alternativas. Mándame aun que sea tu teléfono para hablarte. Te quiero mucho y te extraño. Besos. mabel
mabel avila


Oh my very dear and precious Mabel,
The sadness that befalls a person who has Alzheimer’s is much greater than the people whom they interact with. It is the ultimate existential nightmare to loose your mind and there is no way around not realizing this. I think it is truly important that you accompany el Padre to his final home. You will act as a kind of bridge from PY to the USA. It will be an awful bridge for him to cross. It will be like a premature death.
I love you very much.
My phone number is (502) 714 - 8577
My address is 1329 Lillian Ave, Louisville, KY 40204
Like a seagull,
Allan

May 3, 2008
9:00AM I called the ‘linea baja,’ and no one answered so I called LL’s cell phone and left a message in English and German for my children. I asked them a question about driving a car on icy roads and about balancing tires I asked Hannah to bring her skate board tomorrow.
I also called Misty Roan (Child Protective Services lady who refused to help me with my claim that the children were psychologically abused in the Lasky family) and Shannon Fife (who had accused me of being a pedophile, of wiping Hannah’s bottom with my bare hand last year – yet another of Lasky Family coaching situations) and left messages for both of them to call me back.
11:30AM I again tried to call my children. I left a message on LL’s cell phone to please call me back. The ‘linea baja’ was of no use.
6:30PM I tried again to call my children and left the same message on LL’s answering machine.
8:00PM I tried again to call my children and left the same message on LL’s answering machine. No one answered the ‘linea baja.’
A few minutes later I got a call from Sofia. She told me that she had been at Grammy’s house all day, that was all she said, then she hung up on me. I called again and she hung up on me again. The third time I called I left a message on the answering machine about the treasure ship that had sunk about 500 years ago that was just found.
Geologists hunting for diamonds made a surprising find: a 500-year-old shipwreck loaded with coins and other valuables.
And then the phone rang again and I asked Sofia a series of questions about Pitsburgh PA (and soot in the atmosphere), San Francisco (and earth quakes), a giant squid (the size of its eyes) and then Hannah got on the phone and she told me that she did not want to talk to me because “I stole Grammy’s picture.”
“I love you Hannah,” that was all I said.

Dear Lorena,
Happy mothers’ day in a week! Part of being a good mother is sharing the children with the father. Sharing is not just a matter of agreeing to times when it is easier for you to have me be with the children, sharing is about agreeing to have the children be with me when you can not care for them also and sharing is about literally sharing the children together and many other things. Sharing is about sharing pictures, scrapbooks.
Lorena, the job market is lousy, the fed is worried about inflation and more jobs are lost than are being created. GDP is in decline, homes are not selling, so construction companies have nothing to do, as do bed and TV companies. The Fed’s cutting rates to liquidate cash but the unemployment rate’s in the sky as consumers just say no, and the foreclosure mess takes root.
You said that you were closing on a house on Monday and will be moving into your new house on Friday.
Sunday is Mother’s day. I hope you will have a wonderful Mother’s day.
So, what do you say we try harder to be nice to one another?
Sincerely,
Allan


April 4, 2008
It was a good day until the very end.
LL was a mean person to me. She told me to get out of her house when I entered to throw some garbage in the house and told me that the children should be the ones to enter the house.
The children did not want to eat Donuts so we went to the McDonalds near the University of Louisville which is adjoined by a fun play ground. Yes, the children had a good time and the high point was when I was pressing their bellies as they looked at the pictures they had taken.
Then we went to pick up Jerome. We went to the St. Rita Church by way of an other McDonalds.
I spoke to the congregation and I have no idea what my children thought of that. I asked the congregation to vote.
Then Sofia and Hannah helped me pass out fliers for Barack Obama.
Then we went to the Obama center.
Then we went to Walmart.
Then we stopped by Jerome’s house and took him to the park near his place. Again we played. My camera broke so the images are now blurry.
LL called me and told me that she wants the picture of Grammy. I told her I want the scrapbooks.
We ate dinner at Karma Café.
Right now the children are playing with the pool balls. It does not work exactly the way Sofia says “No Hannah!” she exclaims and then Hannah says “sorry,” and many of the balls that Sofia has set up go all over.
At 6:56PM I got an angry call from LL. “Where are the children?”
They are at the Karma Café.
“OK, well bring them to Emily’s house.”
“Ok. But I will not bring them by 7:00PM since I got them at 9:25PM.”
“I want to talk to Sofia” in the tenuous and obligation endowing voice:
“OK.”

And then LL called me again at 7:30PM.
“Where the hell are you?”
“Grammy is waiting for the children.”
“You care only about yourself.”
“You are a selfish bastard.”
Etc…
“No, Rena, I love Sofia and Hannah and I care about them very much.”

I was at this point about 30 seconds away from Emily’s house.
Then we arrived at Emily’s house.
I saw Nancy waiting for them.
She immediately came to the car and escorted the children away from me. I asked to kiss the children and she said No. The pushed the children into Emily’s yard. I entered the yard right behind her and ran around Nancy and the children and blew kisses at the children.
“You too!” and I blew a kiss at Nancy as well.

Liebe Sofia und Liebe Hannah,
I just finished petting a very small baby dog who was very hungry. She was too young to eat solid food and needed her mother so I went looking for her mother. I found her mother with many other babies behind a fence. The puppy had crawled out.
I put a brick in the hole in the fence so now IT HAS TO STAY WITH ITS MOMMY.
Lots of Love,
Daddy

Interesting email? It does and it does not reinforce the status qui (my children live with their mother.)
Querida Lorena,
Yo sé que tu familia hizo las ninas mentir para tratar de destruir mi connección con ellas y con ustedes. Yo lo sé porque es óbvio, es la manera de tu mamá que tu haz co-optado. Ella me lo dijo en su manera muchas veces - no solo después de nuestro divorcio, también antes de eso. Yo entiendo esta realidad como conozco a mi nombre. El comportamiento de Nancy esta tarde fue algo extremo y horrible para Sofia y Hannah. Que sigues pensando que puedes descomunicarme es desgustante. Mandame un email con información sobre este verano por favor.
Con mucha attención y deseandote un buen día,
Allan
I am amazed at my creative genius: I am dealing with a bunch of shits and there is no more powerful a method to deal with them than to be sweet.


May 5, 2008: AKA cinco de mayo!
Before going to work I called my lawyer, Amanda Hartley, 589- 2822 and left a message on her answering machine asking her to get Judge Patricia Walker-Fitzgerald to sign the order with the attached agreement from June of 2007.
She called me back and let a message on my answering machine stating that she had spoken with John Helmers today and had gotten the requisite form to propel the Judge to sign such order and that she wanted me to call her and or to meet her tomorrow.
This was a big improvement over the last message I had gotten from her which indicated that she did not believe anything had been filed in the court.

May 7, 2008
I went to the L&M building to speak with Christi Atkins about the effect they have had on the lives of my children. Christi was not there so I speak instead with a certain Mary Williamson. I told her in exact detail the nature of CPS’s work in the lives of my children. I was generally polite with her but I was also clean with my statements – which of course do not make CPS look good. I told her that Lasky Family members are associated with CPS.
She gave me state rep info for me to get in touch with.
She gave me the following numbers:
Jennifer Curry: 595 – 5180 Open records request.
Ombudsmans office 800 372 – 2973 and 502 – 564 – 5497

Misty Ronau: 595 5158
Laura Johnson, her supervisor 595 – 5410
Shannon Fife: 574 – 2462
Brenda Clark, her supervisor 574 – 7014


Here is my email to LL:

Querida Lorena,
Yo se que tu familia hizo las ninas mentir para tratar de destruir mi conneccion con ellas y con ustedes. Yo lo se porque es obvio, es la manera de tu mama que tu haz co-optado. Ella me lo dijo en su manera muchas veces - no solo despues de nuestro divorcio, tambien antes de eso. Yo entiendo esta realidad como conozco a mi nombre. El comportamiento de Nancy esta tarde fue algo extremo y horrible para Sofia y Hannah. Que sigues pensando que puedes descomunicarme es desgustante. Mandame un email con informacion sobre este verano por favor.
Con mucha attencion y deseandote un buen dia,
Allan

And here is her response:

I will not tread any letters in Spanish. If you want to communicate, pick English.

I am writing to confirm our conversation abotu the girls going to Florida from May 18 to 24th and to firm up our plans for you to have some rescheduled time for missed visits.

You will see the children on Saturday May 17th, as previously agreed, to make up for not seeing them on Sunday May 18th.

Let me know which of the following dates work for you to make up the other time (4 hours which you would normally see them on Tuesday & Thursday).

A combination of two of these dates:
Wednesday May 7, 4-6pm
Wednesday May 14, 4-6pm
Monday May 12, 5-7pm
Monday May 26, 5-7pm

OR Friday May 16, 4:30-8:30pm

Which of these works best for your schedule?


Lorena Lasky



And here is my response:
Querida Lorena,
Gracias por tu email. Es siempre un encanto corresponder contigo. Como seguramente puedes apreciar, yo estoy interesado en encontrar un buen mechanismo para compartir nuestras hijas en una manera que considera a las niñas en primer lugar y una harmonía entre todos nosotros. Te quiero decir que espero que todos ustedes tendrán un tiempo fantástico en la Florida. Los días que yo selecciono para recubrir mi tiempo con ellas son los primeros dos días: estos son el miércoles, 7 de mayo entre las 4 y las 6PM, y el lunes, 12 de Mayo entre las 5 y las 7PM.
Manda mis mejores recados a tu familia entera,
Allan
In English: I choose Wednesday May 7, 4-6pm and Monday May 12, 5-7pm.


And the children arrived at the Highland Coffee thirty minutes late. I was sitting with Peter and asked “Hey Peter, do you know where my children are?” and he laughed and told me that in America there is a joke(?) about a person who would ask on the TV and the radio “it is 10PM do you know where your children are?” And just as I was calling LL the children arrived. I was in the process of leaving a message for LL when I saw the car arrive.
I did not speak with LL. She lef the children out of the car and they came to me. It was a pretty moment at the Highland Coffee House. I picked up Sofia and offered her to Hannah but Hannah was hanging on the railing and refused to take Sofia and of course this resulted in a lot of fun.
Then the children came into the coffee House and ate a brownie and a key lime pie.
And then we piled into the car, the little yellow Toyota Corolla… and the children were still hungry so I took them to the Moby Dick restaurant and there they ate more. We practiced the multiplication tables. Hannah has learned all the squares: 1X1, 2X2, 3X3…. 10X10. She has also learned 6X8 = 48.
And then we came to my house, where the children decided they wanted to build a tree house.
Gosh, I pulled out the saw and they took all my wood and we started the project. But Sofia did notice that I had painted a world map on the wall and was fascinated.
And Hannah built a swing.
And then I called LL to find out why she was not yet at my house to pick the children up and she gave me this spiel that it was my responsibility to take the to her house every time and I disagreed with her and told her that we need to share all responsibilities 50/50 and she said “NO,” but she agreed to pick up the children on Thursday. So I told the children to pack it in and they did not want to but they did so anyway and they watched Tim und Struppi on the way to LL’s.
LL told me that she had not closed on the house. I told her that if she needed help that she should ask me. “I do not need your help,” she said.

Later that night, I called LL and she actually picked up the [hone and I told her that I would be picking up the children tomorrow at 4:00PM and she said “OK.”

May 7, 2008
I started out my day by calling some of the numbers I had gotten from Mary Williamson of the child protective services.
Laura Johnson, Misty Ronao’s supervisor 595 – 5410. I spoke with her and explained that I wanted to meet with her and speak about methodology and also non-response from Misty. She said she would call me back.
Shannon Fife: 574 – 2462, left a message explaining that I had spoken with Mary Williamson who had urged me to call her again.
Brenda Clark, her supervisor 574 – 7014, asking for the same as I had asked of Laura Johnson.
None of these people called me back today.
At 4:00PM I was at the Highland coffee house but LL was late. She arrived at 4:20PM.
It was obvious that the children did not understand that they were going to be with me. “Daddy, why are you here? It is Wednesday!” said Sofia and then LL explained to the children that this was make up time for when they are in Florida.
I took them to the Barack Obama HQ. There they ate food and then we went to the ice cream and Pie shop which is very close the Ballet. They played for a little while and ate their ice creams and then went to Ballet.
I watched them at Ballet.
Hannah and Sofia have a hard time learning the dance to perfection but for different reasons. Sofia is a perfectionist and also to some extent does not care. This creates an irreconcilable dialectic within her that brings her down. She shuts down. Hannah does not pay attention and trusts that she can learn the steps without concentrating. She fumbles and bumbles through, improvising as needed. But I agree with LL that dance is very good for the children.
Now, LL was supposed to pick up the children from dance. I called to confirm that she would do this. I also asked if I could bring the children home. She said “NO.” I asked if we could spend time with the children together. She said “NO.” I said “that is why you coached the children to lie about me.” She got stupid and said things like “oh not that again, why don’t you just shut up?”
So I told Hannah that Mommy was going to pick her up and to tell Sofia and went to my car. I had just driven away when LL called and said “I’m going to be late, can you bring them to my house?”
So I returned to the dance studio.
I found that the children were very happy to see me. It was raining and I think they enjoyed getting a little wet on the way to my car. We drove to McDonalds for ice cream and then to LL’s.
The children’s behavior in my car is really quite special. They explore life and learn from one another. Sofia taught Hannah the word “f-u-c-k,” and Hannah pretends to get really upset when ever Sofia says anything that involves the syllable “hell,” as in “Hello!” or “Helen!” At these times Hannah says “Daddy! Sofia said a bad word.”
They also play a sleeping game which is actually a kissing game. They pretend to be boyfriend and girl friend or Mommy and Daddy and act out some parts of the kissing experience.
This is a recurring theme in my car that may have started a few months ago and keeps being realized.
And the Lasky hate is strong in Hannah. She reacts very strongly to my hugs. Sofia does not. Today I told Hannah that I think her reactions are not normal or called for. I told her that if she is being told to react to me in that manner that this is wrong. Interestingly however, Hannah asks to be kissed on the head when I am saying good bye to her where as Sofia refuses to be kissed at all. Hannah did say that there were two people who do not hate me. “Who are those two people?” I asked, “Me and Sofia!”
“Of course!”

May 8, 2008
I call the ombudsman, to issue a complaint against Child Protective Services here I Louisville and leave a message: “They are not communicating with me and please call me back.” And a lady called Kendrick called me back from the ombudsman’s office. We spoke for about thirty minutes. I was quite strong in my rhetoric with her and I also let her know that I did not really believe that she could help me. But I managed to let her know of the following issues that I have with child protective services:
Conflict of interest. Nancy Lasky works for Neighborhood place, Lara Lasky was involved in the mental health industry, Rebecca Lasky is a doctor.
I was not called back by Shannon Fife.
I was not called to speak of by Misty Rouan.
Lorena used CPS for the purposes of framing my custody of the children in a bad light.
She asked me to write a letter to Jackie Stamps 595 4732, the boss of CPS.
She said that she would email me but I did not get her email today. So, I called her, after parenting my children, and gave her my email address again. Ombudsmans office (800) 372 – 2973 and (502) 564 – 5497
I also called, Misty Ronau: 595 5158 but her phone number indicated that her message bin was full and I was automatically transferred to Mary Williamson’s voice mail where I left a message “communication is not working.” I called Laura Johnson who is Misty’s supervisor 595 – 5410 and Shannon Fife’s supervisor Brenda Clark, 574 – 7014…

But, let me tell you about my children today! As is the norm with LL, she came late. The children were quite happy. She did not want to speak with me but I went to her and asked her about homework for the children. Hannah said “I have not homework Daddy!” and I pretended to be upset.
And Sofia was hungry – or so she said, so I took them to the Chinese restaurant near the Walgreens on Taylor Blvd. There I came across my neighbors, the Mexicans. Hannah and Sofia actually had a really good time, but it was a bit crazy. Aer they ate as much as I could get them to eat (Hannah spent most of the time watching a German movie on my laptop) we went outside where we fond large puddles from the rain a few hours ago and this caused for a great deal of play. They found all kids of things to put in the water and pretend that these were boats, including the box of left over food!
Then they re-discovered the wonder of push-starting the car.Yes, the starter on the yellow Toyota is not working so it needs to be push started. The children love to push start the car. Then, the jumped on the back of it and crawled into the car through the windows. They noticed that it is fun to sit on the window ledge…
And then we came to my house and there the play continued. On the way Hannah remarked that she wished that we all lived together (LL and I and the children) and I said that I have always wished for that. Hannah repeated this twice. And then, when we were at my house Hannah asked me about her biological father. “Does my Dad have really strong muscles?”
“Yes, Hannah, I think he does and he is younger than I am so I have no doubt he is much stronger than me. He can saw much faster than I can.” I was sawing a two by four for them to make a tree house… and I asked Hannah if she wanted to see a picture of her biological dad and she said “no,” and I know that the only reason she said that was because she is afraid of the Lasky family so I said “Ok, Hannah, when ever you want to, just tell me and I will help you with your biological parents.”
And of course, LL came rather later than she was supposed to , to pick them up. She did not get out of her car, she just sat there and b’tzxed about the time it took the children to get in the car and “bring your brown jacket that you left at Daddy’s house!”
“Hannah did not leave her jacket with me Rena.” I came to the car and Hannah wanted another kiss from me.
But let me say something nice about LL. She actually offered to pick up the children from my house today when I got them! Wonder why? The children were shocked by how late she was in picking them up. Have they not learned yet this feature of LL’s personality? (Sorry, I probably should not have written that, but it is definitely a characterizing feature that I have of her since 1995.) I can not deny that I think LL may have offered to pick the children up from my home because it suits her – but do not know why it suited her today: a meeting at the L&M building? (Where the child protective services building is located.)
I did not have my camera, so I did not take any pictures today. I called both of Hannah’s biological parents today and left messages for them to call me back.

May 9, 2008
The situation that my children are in are like that of the citizens of Burma. One hundred thousand people have died in the wake of a cyclone, (the cyclone is Nancy Lasky) and the government of Burma (that is Lorena) is preventing any help being given to the people (those are Sofia and Hannah.) There are over a million people who are in a terrible situation.
In Zimbabwe, Mugabe is exercising his might with impunity. Youngsters play with a soccer ball made with string and plastic bag while their parents are brutalized if they oppose the ruling class. The children sing of a need for change.
When I look to the people of Zimbabwe, Burma, Uganda, Somalia, Iraq, Lebanon, Haiti… my family is very lucky.
I tried to call my children today as usual at 7:00PM but no one picked up the phone. I called the ‘linea baja’ and then called the cell phone number where I left a message asking to have the children call me. Actually it was an amusing message (to me) because I said something like “hello Rena you pretty or frisky or what ever adjective you like, house mouse or what ever noun you want, I am calling to speak with our children.” It makes me smile for two reasons. The first is that it is a cute message to leave her. The fact that I can leave a cute message on LL’s answering machine is an indication that I am above the fray of the shit that she has created. The other reason it makes me smile has to do with imagining LL’s response to my message: disdain.
And so here I go again:
Dear Lorena,
Hope you are doing well. I just wanted to tell you that if ever you need a place to stay you are of course welcome to move into my house.
Sincerely,
Allan

Now, this is funny for the following reasons.
First of all, in spite of the amount of money that LL makes I do not think that she is that well to do. She is working two jobs and has very little time for herself. There are two reasons I do not think she is doing that well financially. The first is that she lost her lawyer. The second is that she did not close on the house she was interested in buying at the beginning of this month.
The second reason that this is funny is because I have already invited Sarah, Hannah’s biological mother to move in with her husband and child. I have not received a response from Sarah and I did that a couple of weeks ago.
The third is that I am in a terrible shape financially. I just learned that my credit card had been stolen and that several thousand dollars was put on it. I have absolutely nothing but a love for living, and in the wake of having nothing to really offer it is funny that I am offering anything at all to LL.
The third is that LL is a terrible mother. I think that there is nothing meaner that can be done to a person than to steal their children but the effect that is realized on the children is much more important. So, I am inviting the worst kind of mother to my house and that is funny because that is precisely the purpose of my life right now – maybe, in general, my purpose in life is to convince bad people to be good.
Yes, the oxymoronic approach to my interactions with LL are funny like it would be if Anne Frank invited Adolf Hitler to tea (assuming of course, that Hitler could not hurt Anne, which is how I think of LL.)
“So now Adolf, do you take sweet and low in your tea or would you prefer Maalox?”
“Ich hasse nette Leute! Gib mir mein täglicher Cocktail!”
“Bitte? You should be polite, and if it would come naturally to you that would be best.” Anne Frank pours neatly.


“One war that was a war of choice which I believe should never have been authorized is the war in Iraq” is what Barack Obama said about George Bush’s bellicose manner towards Iraq. LL’s war is also a war which should never have been authorized.

10:00AM I called the ‘linea baja,’ but there was no response so I called LL’s cell phone number and she did not pick up the phone so I left a message. I can’t remember what I said, but I know that it was something cute again. Oh, that’s right! I reminded her of a present that her father had given me for Xmas many years back.
4:00PM I called the KGB and asked them to call me back. I was very matter of fact in the message I left.
4:05PM I called the ‘linea baja,’ and again no one picked up the phone and so I called the cell phone and left the following message: “Hello Rena, this is your x-hubby Allan who is, as you can very well imagine, is wondering ‘can I speak with my children?’ or ‘what is going on?’ ‘why am I excluded from knowing what is going on?’ and ‘would you please print out the art at the beach application that needs to be sent for Sofia to got to that prestigious magnet school and also write out a check for that program for what ever the maximum amount that you can do, but not more than half of the cost. I will then generate the difference (within reason: I think that 1/3 of the price is barely within reason for you to pay. Oh, and let’s get that going on Sunday morning when I come by your place. I hope you are having a very beautiful Saturday – it sure is nice out! Oh please call me back and let the kids speak with me.”
6:45PM I tried calling my children again. The ‘linea baja’ yielded no response so I called the cell phone. LL answered it! She said “Hello?” and I said “Hello Rena…” and then she hung up on me. When I called again she did not pick up the phone. I was about to leave a message but then Subir called me so I spoke with him instead. After that conversation came to an end I called LL back and I left the following message: “Hey Rena, I’ve been walking around the streets of Louisville, talking with all kinds of people and the weather was sublime --- sunny and cool. I hope you and the children are having a good time. I am calling to speak with them so I would appreciate it if you would facilitate such. And I want to wish you a really actualized, pleasant, fulfilled and exquisite evening.”
I had been canvassing for the Obama Campaign.

May 11, 2008
A strong wind, coercing leaves and branches to stream from elastic trunks while the sun shines and the radio effuses warnings of severe weather.
I roll my little yellow car off the front lawn, down the curb, at which point I jump in the car and push on the clutch, stick it in second, let the clutch out and vroom!
Today is mothers’ day. I went to LL’s and no one answered the door. I called the police and they knocked on the door. A person opened the door and said that LL was not in town. Later I got a text message from LL stating that it was mothers’ day.
I tried to call my children but was not able to get through. I tried many times today, the last time being 8:00PM.
I spent the day campaigning for Obama.

May 12, 2008
I go to the court house and file a motion of contempt of court for LL not having me be with my children yesterday, Sunday. I drive past LL’s house and see that her car is now in use so I deduce that she is back in Louisville. I leave the court document in her mail box.
At about 4:30PM she calls to confirm that I will be having a “make-up” parenting time – they are going to Florida next week – today. I say yes.
Barack Obama is in town but I would rather be with my children.
The children want to go to the Asian Buffet. I tell them that if we do that, then we will never go back there. They kind of agree. Actually Hannah agrees without hesitation but Sofia ponders the issue for a long time and never really agrees to this.
We go to the Asian Buffet.
Hannah has no psychological problem getting a zero for her homework. I set her on my lap and she does it anyway.
Sofia loves holding hands with me today as we walk. And indeed as we were walking back to LL’s, LL called me and while Sofia held my hand, I spoke with LL on the phone and LL wanted to know where we were? “right by Vera’s house,” I said and then LL cursed and I said “we love you too,” and Sofia chimed in “and so do the animals and plants.” We had walked from the Asian Buffet to LL’s place and Hannah had led the way: she knows the path! Of course we stopped at the “Hunde Park” and there I did some gardening with the gardening club….
Sofia came to me after we had been there a while and said “Daddy, is it time to go to Mommy’s?” and I said “Yeah, I think it is close to that time.” But the point is that Sofia takes it upon herself to reduce friction between LL and me. That is sad. She should not find herself doing that.


May 13, 2008
Hey here are some important numbers for the purposes of diabetes:
Dr. Simone Scumpia 512 467 2727
Fax for Dr. Krisna 502 587 4146, 201 Abrham elenor way, suite 1001 tenth floor, next to the heart and lung center or is it he same building? But anyway it is a black building and it is op the Jewish hospital.
I saw my new endocrinologist today and that was good. I called Farfar and Farmor to let them know that all went well.
I got a pretty email from Peter, he has invited me and the children to his ranch. We will be visiting sometime after Sofia and Hannah come back from Florida.
And now, . . . the quote of the day (paraphrased I'm sure and I'm not sure who the author is).

The absolute absence of humor in the bible is the most singular thing in all of literature.

Now, Allan, I'm so sorry I misspelled your name yesterday. Will you ever find it in your heart and mind to forgive me?

I will interview for a .5 arts and humanities position this afternoon. My application to grad school is on hold as the world waits for my transcripts.

Your children's voices sounded lovely, something like a woodwind instrument, not the double reeds, or perhaps a blend between the brass, winds, and strings . . . or bells, tubes of water gently tapped.
Peter



Mr. Lasky-Headrick,

Thank you for your interest in a position with Ohio County Schools.

I have downloaded your application from KYREAP, but I need some additional information in order to consider your application complete. Please forward the following:

1. A photo ID – May be mailed or e-mailed.

2. A copy of your Kentucky Teaching Certificate – May be mailed or e-mailed.

Please feel free to e-mail or call if you have any questions.

Thank you!


Tony R. Minton
Director of Human Resources
Ohio County Schools
315 East Union Street
Hartford, KY 42347
270-298-3249

I stopped by my lawyer’s office and was sorely disappointed. She admitted to me that she had not filed the AOC with the court. As I understand, the AOC form is a request to have the Judge, Patricia Walker Fitzgerald, sign the order that has been in the system for almost a year. She said that she had delegated the job to another person whose father was sick. I bet she did nothing of the sort. I told her to please call me or email me when she accomplished this feat. She agreed to do this.

Dear Lorena,
Que tal? Te puedo decir que mi vida se ha mejorado bastante ya que ahora tengo un buen eguro medico trabajando para el UPS. Las ninas etan de buen humor lo cual e algo fantastico. Espero que esto te alegra. Cuando mire en el documento que e nuestro arreglo no vi lo que me habias escrito en tu menaje telephonico - eria bueno si me podrias mostrar el arreglo que tu tienes. Te deseo como siempre lo mejor y que seas una mujer alegre con toda la alegria que la vida pude brindar.
Con los mejores sentimientos,
Allan



I had a wonderful time. Truly a great time with my children. First we went to the supermarket and bought stuff for a picnic and then we went to Tyler Park. Finally, we returned to LL’. LL wa pissy to me (I it not right for me to write that?) She was psychologically in a bad mood because Sofia had to do a science poster and I had not helped her with that. She felt that it was not right that I had left the homework for Sofia to do at LL’s place. I told LL that I would be glad to help Sofia with her poster at her place but LL refused to let me in.


And now I have found two tenants for the house. They are a married couple and nothing like me but I will have a bit more income.


May 14, 2008 (Wednesday)
I called the ‘linea baja’ and no one picked up the phone – that was at 7:00PM. Then I called LL’s cell phone and left the following message: “Heypodey LORena, soy Allan espero que estás bien y que todas las cosas que te encantan te rodean. Estoy llamando para hablar con Sofia y Hannah así que si prodrias tener la disposición de entregralas el teléfono para que nosotros podamos hablar, eso seria ético, correcto y bien. Y otra cosa que me parece ser importante es el asunto de Sofia ir al “art at the beach.” Como te dije, necesito una copia de la applicación. También quiero que pagues por la mitad. Si no lo puedes hacer, entonces,¿ cuanto puedes pagar?
Espero tu llamada.

And then I sent her exactly the same information in an email:

“Heypodey LORena, soy Allan espero que estás bien y que todas las cosas que te encantan te rodean. Estoy llamando para hablar con Sofia y Hannah así que si prodrias tener la disposición de entregralas el teléfono para que nosotros podamos hablar, eso seria ético, correcto y bien. Y otra cosa que me parece ser importante es el asunto de Sofia ir al “art at the beach.” Como te dije, necesito una copia de la applicación. También quiero que pagues por la mitad. Si no lo puedes hacer, entonces,¿ cuanto puedes pagar?
Espero tu llamada.

I called again at 7:30 PM and LL picked up the phone. I said “Hello Rena, how are you?” There was no answer so I said “Rena, I hipe that you are surrounded by love and that the universe is bestowing you with gifts and wonders….” Nd then she interrupted me and said :
Allan do you want to talk to Hannah here she is. “

And so I was able to talk with Hannah but not with Sofia. I asked Hannah what she had eaten today and she said: “Freetos raisins grapes muffins, “
What games did you play? “Hopscotch.”
Then suddenly Hannah said “Daddy I have to do something so call me back.” I asked Hannah to call me instead and she said she would.

And she did! She called me a few minutes later and explained that her Mother had needed help and she had “Untied something that was mom’s from Paraguay, its one of those baby things made with like stoner glass.” Hannah asked me “Do you think its yours.” And I said “I am not like that Hannah, I think we should share everything.” Hannah said “I know I know I know.” We spoke for a little about moving. Hannah said they would be moving “in a week.” And then she realized she would be in Florida and that after coming back from Florida she was going to perform ballet. Suddenly she said that she had to hang up. I have no doubt that LL was forcing her to hang up on me.
“Ok well I love you very much Hannah. “
“Oh Daddy, I love you as much as a blossom. “
“Oh Thank you, I love you like the universe, oK bye. And also Hannah you are very intelligent and very beautiful.”
Hannah was obviously very happy to hear these words but she said bye.


May 15, 2008 (Thursday)
Oh what a day! I loved the rain and so did my children – it took a bit of convincing but in the end they were super happy to walk to LL’s place with umbrellas… Let me back up and explain how this all happened.

At 5:20PM I called LL to inquire where she was and she did not pick up the phone so I left a pretty message in Spanish that asked about the children and wished for her to have a beautiful life and so on. LL called me back soon after explaining that she had just left her work place and that she was going to be another fifteen minutes.
And, in fact, at 5:45PM I got my children. LL had told them that they had to be at her place by 7:15PM and because the children so hate enmity they really wanted to be back by the time their mother had told them and so I missed out on the full two hours.

It was raining. Sofia jumped out of Lorena Lasky’s car without a jacket or a rain coat and was cold. She ran into the Highland coffee house saying that she did not want to be outside. I quickly returned to LL and asked her about Sofia’s clothing – it was in the fifties (Fahrenheit) and a T-shirt was not enough for the long walk to Lorena Lasky’s place. As it happened, Hannah had a spare jacket in the back of Lorena Lasky’s car so I took that. Of course, Sofia refused to wear it but once we were inside the Highland coffee house, I presented the children with the following options:
Hannah lend Sofia the jacket she was wearing and put on the jacket that I had gotten from Lorena Lasky’s car, or
Sofia wear my jacket.
The children agreed to option #1.
Then I got the two umbrellas and gave one to each child. Sofia shared the large umbrella with me. Hannah twirled her umbrellas so that the rain drops spun about. As we walked to TacoBell, the children were happy as larks. Sofia described some antics that Helen had contrived ad Hannah stopped at every puddle and inverted her umbrella in it and spun it. It floated of course!
And the children sang songs. I sang too, but all the songs that I sang were in German. A lady passed us by and sang together with the children.
At Taco Bell I gave Hannah some money and asked her to get the food. This was a challenge she enjoyed.
We talked about the rain:
“Why does it rain?” Both Hannah and Sofia described the cycling of water in the ecosystem.
“What is 6X8?”
“What is 6X6?”
“What else is 36?” (9X4) and Sofia realized that (12X3) too.
And then we walked in the rain to the convenience store near LL’s house. Sofia got on my shoulders for a short stretch of this.
Just as we were leaving the convenience store Hannah asked me the time. I gave her my cell phone and she saw that it was 7:01PM. That made the children happy, I believe because they knew that they would not have to listen to their mother complain about me.
Just as I was saying good by to the children Sofia asked me if I could bring the Hop on Pop stuffed animal?
“Yes, I can bring it in about thirty minutes!”
“Thank you Daddy.”
As I was walking back to the car Sofia called me and told me that I should bring Hop on Pop to the back of the house and fill out the form for the art at the beach. “Yes, I will do that.”
So I retuned to LL’s. I knocked on the back door. LL gave me two motions for the court. She also gave me a check payable to ‘art at the beach,’ to the effect of $50. The total cost is $120 so I must contribute $170. I promised Sofia that I would do so.

Hannah said that she did not want to go to the art at the beach summer program.

LL said that it was important for Sofia to go because she would be able to create her portfolio so as to get accepted at that school later on.

LL agreed that it would be alright for me to take Sofia to the art at the beach sessions.

LL reminded me that Hannah has to go to the John Powers seminar on Saturday when I have her and that Hannah will be spending the night with her friend Alexia. LL promised that she would call me and give me Alexia’s telephone number later tonight.

She did that… but I lost it so had to call her and left a message telling her so.

As I left LL’s house I saw that the birthday present I had given Hannah was in the rian. I took the skate board and when I got home I called LL and told her what I had done. I told her to tell Hannah that I will bring the skateboard on Saturday. Again, the message I left her was very loving.

And then I read the legal documents LL had given me: I had to put them out to dry first!

I saw that she is her own lawyer so I sent her two emails:

Querida Lorena,
Ooops! Can you believe it? Now I am at your mercy and humbly am asking you to help me out: I acknowledge that you gave me a copy of the motions but still, if it is not too much trouble to you, would you please email me the response to the motion that I put in place on Monday with the document that you label “AGEED ORDER” As well as the other motion to have Sofia and Hannah come testify in court. My car leaks and the floor is covered in an inch of rainwater and the documents got pretty much destroyed.
Sincerely,
Allan

And the second email is a response also to an email that she had sent me earlier today which went:

I can pay $50 for each child toward the camp. Lorena Lasky

So my email is:

Querida Lorena,
Y bueno, conseguí una respuesta al asunto de 'art at the beach' pero no me llamaste ni dejaste que las niñas me llamen.
I got a check from you today, payable to 'art a the beach' for Sofia to the effect of $50.00.
The total cost for this summer program is $220.00 as far as we know.
This means that I will have to pay $170.00.
Hannah will be going to CEP during this time.
También me dijiste que queras hablar conmigo sobre el ‘hearing’ que vamos a tener el 28 de Mayo. Creo que es importante que hablemos porque nos ayudará parecer más acceptables a la Jueza, Patrica Walker-Fitzgerald. No queremos repetir lo que pasó la última vez.
Sinceramente, y deseandote lo mejor,
Allan aka Frippe.

But here is the stuff LL wrote for the court in condensed form.
She is presenting a version of the agreement where the summer time is cut from 9 days to 7 days, where she can have the children on mother’s days exclusively, where the time she brings the children is not 5:00PM but approximately at that time and so on. Her version is not the same as the version in June 2007.
She asks that the Judge interview the children and provides the following reasons: my home is “not safe”, the house” lacks running water” and” the toilets are flushed with buckets of water obtained from a stream in the back yard”, that” the house is filthy”, that” the children are unhappy in my house”, that “I do not supervise the children” much, that I “take the children on motorcycle rides with out helmets”, that I ‘talk to the children about the allegations” and about the “therapists”, Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo, that I offer my children soup cooked” in the can,” on the stove for dinner, etc…
And so now I look back on the time I had with my children and I realize that they have been under the weather with the Laskys. Hannah was making eye contact with me at the Taco Bell and Sofia was literally hanging on my arm. The trip to Florida will be bad for them… Hannah wants me to go to Florida with them and is proposing that I stay in the house next to the one they will be staying at.

May 16, 2008
God, what should I do about my children?
I got a letter from the Ombudsman who stated that there were a couple of complaints that I need to make about CPS. I filled out the forms and mailed them.
I bought a money order to pay for Sofia to go to the Art at the Beach summer program.
Dear Lorena,
It is my opinion that we really need to talk. This is clear to me from the documents you gave me yesterday – the motions you are making to the court. May I suggest we get together at a coffee shop like Days?
Sincerely,
Allan
My x-wife is a terrible woman.
Lorena did call but she did not speak with me --- she said she was at a graduation with Sofia and could not talk. She gave me Alexia’s telephone number – Hannah is staying with Alexia tonight.
And look! I got an email from Francy in Paraguay:
hola mi gran amigo tanto tiempo, te cuento que aqui en paraguay estamos super bien tengo mucho que contarte, en otro mail, te cuento mas detalle de mi vida, y contigo como va todo como estan sofia y Hannah?? mucho saludos a ellas te envio un gran afrazo!!!!!
muchos saludos
tu gran amigo Francy
So I respond:
Mi querido Francy!
Mabel me ha escrito sobre la nueva presidencia que tienen. Ella ha estado contenta con la disolución del partido Colorado. Y tu? Y tu familia? Aqui en los eeuu, lo que leemos sobre la internet es que va a ser muy dificil para el ex-obispo por que los viejos en poder todavía estan armados contra grandes cambios. Pero yo tengo esperanza, ya que sin ella, la vida no vale.
Mañana lo pasaré con Sofia y Hannah y les daré un abrazo de parte tuya. Ellas andan bien. Ellas no hablan Español, pero siguen con Aleman. Uno de estos dias me encontré con una mujer de habla Español y entonces empezaré con ese idioma.
Mi vida no es mala, pero no es facil. Lorena me hace la vida dificil. ¿Será por haberme casado con ella?
Te quiero mucho Francy,
Allan

And I called Hannah who is staying at her friend Alexia’s house tonight and we spoke in German. It was not just I who was speaking in German it was Hannah too and this is the first time in four years that this happens.
And I called Lorena Lasky in order to speak with Sofia but no one picked up either telephone and I left a message for LL to please have me and Sofia speak by telephone tonight.


May 17, 2008
I called LL a little before 8:00AM to see what time she was expecting me to pick up Sofia. She was not kind on the telephone. “Are you picking up Sofia first or Hannah first?” she bloated. I had spoken with Alexia’s mother last night and agreed to bring Sofia to eat breakfast at their home… So I told LL that I intended to pick Sofia up first and that I would be there in about an hour and she said “Ok,” and then hung the phone up.

It’s the tone of her voice. The method of her interactions. She is a combination of manipulative and matter of factish.


May 17, 2008
Well, I picked up Sofia from LL’s place and that is recorded just in case you want to hear it, and we walked first to the gas station nearby and that was good, and then I gave Sofia the hand drawn map of how to get to Alexia’s house and she took it upon herself to guide me along as I drove. We found Hannah bouncing in the trampoline. Sofia played for a while with the children but that did not last too long – they were all younger than her. At one point she fell and pretended to cry. It did not take long for me to whisk Sofia and Hannah away from Alexia’s house. But before I left I spoke with Alexia’s mother and she was very kind and super nice to me. I told her what LL had done to me and my relationship with the children. I also told her that Hannah had met her biological daughter. I am, it seems to me, fearless.

Then we had to get Hannah to the John Powers place. I did not know where it was so I called LL and she finally – with five minutes to spare called me back with their number.
We made it just on time.
Now, Sofia and I had a chance to be by ourselves. Sofia wanted to find the new house where she will be living. So I tried to find the gas station near the Oxmoor mall that she was familiar with but had not luck. We ended up at the Oxmoor mall and tried to skateboard in the parking lot but an officer came and told us that we were not allowed to. I said “That you sir for doing your job with a perfection and an acuity and without failing in accounting for the minute details that make your performance as it is, notwithstanding, an excellent one.”

We left the skateboard in the car and explored the mall. We found two places which Sofia deemed would be of interest to Hannah.

Then we went to pick up our Hannah. Actually we arrived early so we got a smoothie first.

Hannah was happy about her time with the John Powers group. I think she likes it.

I took my children over to my house.
On the way I got two earfuls: One from LL and the other from Nancy. They called me everything that can be listed under the sun (and that is bad) and then some. At one point I said “and look who’s talking!” but the rest of the time I said things like “I love you very much and I am so pleased to speak with you… etc. I did not want to take the children to the Karma Café for Nancy to pick them up there. There are several reasons for this:

I have brought the children to LL’s place now for the last three times and it sure is their turn to pick the children up from my house.
I do not have the money to splurge on the Karma Café.
I want to make a nice dinner for my children at my own house with rice, peas, tomatoes and thin slices of beef.
I got cussed out on the phone, not even before I had had a chance to speak, already I was barraged with “So don’t tell me you want to change the plans you self centered pain in the you know where.” I was accused of the following terms and this list is not exhaustive:
By LL: being selfish, being a prick, being a jerk (at least three times), being an asshole, and the word “fuck” or “fucking” came naturally intertwined in her utterances.
By Nancy: Being a pain in the you know what, being manipulative, and being obnoxious.
Both LL and Nancy hung the phone up on me. In the case of LL I continued my sentence so that the children would not note that she had done this.

And at my house Sofia wanted to build a tree house. That was too much for me but I tried to play along…. It was doomed from the outset but I could not tell her that, I just kept hoping that she would stop wanting to do that, but it was not going to happen. Hannah has been a somewhat distant child today. I tried to spend a little time with her on the roof of the car while she was playing the guitar for the neighbors but really she was something else. She was very scared that things were going to be bad if I was not nice to Grammy and tried to put a lot of pressure on me to bring her and Sofia to the Karma Café. Hannah was scared. Sofia was the go-between and that was terrible. Sofia spent a great deal of time on the phone. She would go outside so that I was not privy to her conversations with Nancy and LL. At one point Sofia came in and asked me “why will (I) not take her and Hannah to the Karma Café?” and I told her that I had brought her to her mother’s place many times in a row now and also I had only a couple of dollars in my pocket and so we would not be able to eat dinner there… Then Sofia went outside and reported this to either Nancy or LL. When she came back she was calm. Maybe the money excuse eased the tension? Hannah and Sofia were worried. Sofia went to Hannah and told her that I was not taking them to the Karma Café. Hannah became agitated and said “Grammy is never going to come here!”
“That is not what Grammy said to me,” I said “but if she does not come to get you at 7:00PM then I will take you to where ever Grammy is.”

That calmed Sofia and thereby also calmed Hannah.

Sofia made pancakes – all on her own. At one point they got too hot so she took the pan and cooled it off under a stream of water. She made all kinds of pancakes including:
Normal
Scrambled
Mini
Letter shaped.

Sofia called and was called several times and in the end she said that “Grammy will come here to get us.” Sofia and I cooked a great dinner and we all ate together. Hannah had just been painting the wall in my living room and did not want to stop but I convinced her that it was necessary for her to eat. She chose the rice without soy sauce. Hum? She is not like most people.

And then Grammy came. It was cool that we were all eating together on the steps to the house when Nancy arrived. However, she was terse and nigh on impossible with me. At first it looked like she was not going to talk to me but I stood by the window and spoke to her, at first thanking her for coming by and then asking her about a means of communicating with Sofia and Hannah while they are in Florida.
“I do not believe you will be able to speak with your children while they are in Florida because cell phone use is not a possibility.”
“Where in Florida is that?” I asked.
“I do not know! I just know that I am going with my daughter and I will be following her and she has done all the arrangements.”

(I believe that both of these are lies.) I said a few sentences to the children in German and I saw Nancy skin turn tight like a skull cap.

As she was driving off I said “Thank you Grammy.” Nancy responded by closing the car window. The children were quiet in the back seat.

There was one event that I think may have been good for Hannah to experience. She asked for a bowl to eat Cocoa Crisps. She asked me if there was a clean bowl. I showed her where all the clean things were and I saw that she took a special note of this. She got a clean spoon and clean cup. This would seem trivial to most people, but LL has written to the court house that my house is “filthy.”
I had also moved a lot of things down stairs. The entire house has today a new organization.

Hannah watched two movies in German here today. She did not say anything to me in German – however Sofia did! This was the first time. We were at the Kroger supermarket buying food just before taking Hannah to the John Powers School and Sofia had managed a complex skateboard trick (climbing up a ledge) and realized that she had actually won against Hannah in many ways. Sofia said “Ich habe wunderschön Heute gespielt und Ich habe gegen Hannah gewonnen!” She laughed and was giddy.

I called Pachelle (sp?) the mother of Hannah’s friend, Alexia, to thank her for her contribution to Hannah’s life… and to mine and Sofia’s this morning.

And with that, finally, the wrath of the storm with Nancy had ceased and I experienced relief about the terrible weight I lug; my children going to Florida with Nancy.

In the mean time I can deal with LL who wrote to Judge Patricia Walker-Fitzgerald, “I (LL) continue to very strongly believe that if Mr. Lasky-Headrick is allowed to have the children unsupervised for any overnight or extended periods of time, that serious harm will come to them AND the court should order that ALL periods of parenting time be supervised so as to protect the children.” My x-wife is not insane, she is evil. She pushes the vile puss of her and her families coaching our children, to permeate the life of our legal relationship.

Supervision? Well, it need not be court ordered! LL just has to volunteer to hang out with us. But it is ironic as can be since the ones who need to be supervised are the Laskys.


May 18, 2008
8:20AM: Called Nancy’s cell phone and left a message asking her to please facilitate my talking with my children and wishing her a good time in Florida.

Dear Lorena,
You promised that you would give me phone number so that I may call my children while they are in Florida and I still have not gotten that. Would you please let me know how I can get in touch with our children while they are in Florida?
Thank you,
Allan

8:30AM I call LL and leave a message asking her to please give me a hone number to call our children in Florida.

At 9:09AM I got a Text message from LL:

Rebecca’s cell is (502) 640 – 9796

9:20AM: I called Rebecca’s cell phone and left the following message: “Heypodey Rebecca, I want to thank you deeply for taking my children to Florida and contributing to their lives with the beauty of such an experience. So again, Thank you very much. I am also calling to speak with my children so if you can facilitate that interaction that would be kindly appreciated.

Well, LL has a lot of work to do this week – especially since she is going to professional development and is moving into a new house near the Oxmoor mall. .

It is terrible that LL has not told me where she is moving.

I am trying to piece together how the children managed to fly, let alone go to Florida: Here is what I think happened, it is based on comments from LL, Nancy (last night) and the children (over the last few weeks.) Originally, there was discourse among the Lasky people about when they were going to Florida – they considered school (the children are supposed to be in school for one more week), they considered Rebecca’s pregnancy (she is close to giving birth), they considered finances… And it was decided that it would be best for them to go at this time. But then there was a conflict because Lorena had already agreed that Nancy would baby sit the children while she was at her professional development conference which was at the same time that the trip to Florida was planned.
And that meant that Nancy had to care for the children in Florida.
And that meant that Sofia and Hannah would be flying rather than driving in a car since a car was now not going…
It was quite a bit of last minute organizing for them.

3:10PM I again tried to reach my children by calling Nancy and Rebecca’s cell phones without anyone picking up the phone.

I’ve been thinking quite a bit about my mechanic friend in Paraguay called Fidel. My last memories of him are not easy ones since he had lost a leg in a motorcycle accident with a bus. He helped me build the two R25 BMW motorcycles I had in Paraguay. I wonder what that means that he has been in my thoughts?

Oh good, a email from Fatima, my and my children’s Paraguayan friend:

¡Hola Allan!
Tanto tiempo,,,,,,,perdoname por no contestar pero me da mucha peresa ir en un locutorio,,,,,,,,trabajo mucho y estoy muy agotada por eso solo quiero mi habitación mi siquiera hablo com mi mama. Mi hermana o hermano hablan con ella por eso estoy tranquilaaaaaa por que sé que está bien.
Te quiero,

On my way home, late at night, I drove by LL’s house and saw that her car was parked in the front and it was full of boxes.

May 19, 2008 (Monday)
Dear Lorena,
Maybe it would help if you called your sister Rebecca, and asked her to facilitate my children telephoning me. I was not able to speak with my children yesterday.
It looks like you are moving while the children are in Florida: would you please be so kind as to update me regarding the address?
Thank you very much and hoping all goes smoothly and beautifully for you,
Allan

I called Nancy, Rebecca and Lorena trying to get in touch with my children today at 8:00AM and then again at 4PM. I left nice messages because not one picked up the phone.
7:40PM I call Rebecca and leave the following message: “Heyodey Rebecca and john, I am calling to speak with my children Sofia and Hannah, so if you could call me back that would be great, thank you.”

Then I called LL and told her that I was not able to reach my children with the phone number that she had text messaged me (supposedly this is Rebecca’s cell phone number) and I asked her to find another way for the children and I to communicate. I also wished her much prosperity in the wake of the professional development training she is receiving.

Then I called Nancy and left the following message: “Heypodey Nancy, this is a message for Sofia and Hannah – Meine lieben kinder, ich liebe euch natürlich und ich vermiβe euch, und ich weiβ daβ wenn ich da in Florida mit euch sein könnte das Ich sehr viel mehr Spaβ haben würde, aber na ya, das Leben ist so- wie-so fantastisch.”

I left a similar message on Nancy’s cell phone.

Then I called the KGB and left a message for them to call me.

And I emailed LL:
Dear Lorena,
Would you please call your sister Rebecca, and asked her to facilitate my children telephoning me. I have not been able to speak with Sofia and Hannah on Sunday or today, Monday.
Would you please be so kind as to update me regarding the address?
Thank you very much and hoping your professional development seminars are interesting and beguiling,
Allan

And an email from Francy in Pargauay:

hola mi gran amigo!! que bueno tener noticias tuyas, el tema del cambio de gobierno aqui en Paraguay es bien visto por todo, renacieron las esperanza de tener un mejor gobierno!!!
Mis padres estan super bien como siempre en Rojas Silva,Aldo y yo estamos siempre viviendo en el mismo lugar,ahora estoy levantando el escarabajo,le mande rectificar el motor, hoy retiro del taller,con un motor nuevo,va esdtar ok, voy a quitar una foto de la fuisca y te la envio ok!! Ahhh mi relacion con cinthia no tuvo mayor progreso, pero bueno la vida continua!!! Actualmente estoy trabajando en Travato cisa una importadora renombrado en el mercado, estoy super en mi lugar de trabajo, aqui estoy como Ejecutivo de ventas de Vinos Porta,me encargo de todas las negociaciones de la marca a nivel pais!!
Mi herno esta siempre trabajando en Ecomipa, estamos estudiando ambos en la facultad!! en sintesis todo esta muy dulce x aqui como tu lo dirias jajajajaa
Un afrazo

Excellent! Francy is doing well and he has the personality. I am glad as can be. Lucky.

Here is my response:

Querido Francy,
¡Me haces sonreir! Gracias por ese mensaje tuyo tan bonito. Si llegas a realizarte una vida económicamente prolifica, siempre me recordaré de enseñarte algunas palabras en Inglés en Rojas Silva hace una docena de años.

Otros países en el mundo están sufriendo mucho: Etiopía (hambre), China (terremoto), Myanamar (Cyclón) mientras Paraguay tiene esperanza. ¡Quisiera vivir en Paraguay!

Sofia y Hannah están ahora en la Florida – nadando en la playa. Esto es algo bueno…. Pero están con su abuela, una mujer que quizas conociste… ella es algo muy difícil para mi. Pero bueno, la vida continua… Ellas volverán en unos días y me contarán los cuentos.

Fatima no está tan contenta como tú. Ella trabaja mucho y no gana sufficient dinero. Ella esta bastante sola en España y no puede hacer relaciones con personas en Europa. Me preocupo por ella un poco.

No te olvides de Cynthia: Ella te ayudó mucho a llegar a ser el hombre que ahora eres.

Te quiero mucho Francy, Manda mis mejores sentimientos a todos en tu familia.
Allan



Dear John Helmers,
Thank you for your bill. I understand it is a re-iteration of the last same bill. I am currently in severe financial dire straights, but as soon as my economic situation picks up, I will think of you and of paying you first and foremost.
Thank you for all you have done,
Happy fathers day – in about three weeks.
Allan

I laughed to myself when I wrote ‘happy father’s day,’ to my x-lawyer. I laughed because he has been a consistent nincompoop about establishing any relationship between me and my children and so to wish him this is ironic though it is also sincerely intended.
May 20, 2008
Today, my children and I are working on our third day of non-communication. I called Nancy and Rebecca this morning (at 8:00AM) I left my cell phone number (for fun because it appears on their cell phone) nd asked them to call me back.

It is sad that LL has so little to do with the children. This is her fault: by allowing her family to do her dirty work for her, she relinquishes her time with Sofia and Hannah.

I sent LL the following email:

Dear Lorena Bobeena,
Please help my children communicate with me and please do so today.
Thank you,
Allan

Around 10AM, I got a call from Child Protective Services, I believe the lady’s name is Laura Johnson – and she asked for my address in order to send me a complaint form for me to fill out.

I did not ask for this form. She must have received the order to call me from elsewhere. The phone number form which she called that registered on my cell phone is (502) 595 -5410.

I got a call from the cabinet for open records of Health and Family Services of Jefferson County (Their number is 502 – 564 – 3834) and I spoke with Carry Hall (not sure about the spelling) who needed to know what I needed. I told her that I needed a copy of the work of Misty Roane.

I got a call at 7:10PM and it was Sofia but she did not sound happy. She told me that it was too cold. She sounded dank and sad. I asked her all kinds of questions like “did you go to the beach? Did you play with Hannah? Did you find any sand dollars? Have you seen any wild like?” and to all of these questions her answers were indifferent, uncommitted and mechanical. I offered to read her a story like “Rupp Rupel, das grausigste Gespenst aus Smaland” but she said that would take for ever and did not want that. (This is an indication that she is not free to speak on the phone with me but for a short time with the Laskys.) She suggested that I speak with Hannah. Hannah was short with me. She said that she did not know if she loves me, but she assured me that she “loves Grammy and Aunt Rebecca and Mommy.” Then she hung up on me but she called me back and this time she pretended to be someone else – she spoke with me in a deep voice and told me that she was “grandpa,” and I asked her “Oh Grandpa, could you please keep an eye on Hannah for me?” “No!” she responded “I do not do things like that!” And soon thereafter she hung up on me.
This may seem like a distant interaction between me and Hannah but it was not. It was close and Hannah was telling me, by calling me back and pretending that she was Grandpa that she loves me very much and that she can not show it. Sofia, however, does not have the creative play that Hannah has to transcend the Lasky emotional parametrizations and she acts like a broken record – thereby letting me know that she really wants this enmity to stop.
No pierdas la esperanza! Sofia, se que Llegaras!
The Lasky’s would not hve allowed the children to call me if there were not fear of the consequences in their minds.
May 21, 2008
I called the KGB this morning and the lady who answered the phone told me that I could not speak with either Kim Dial or Ginger Crumbo. I asked to speak with David Weathersby but then she put me on hold. I remained on hold for 8 minutes and then gave up.
I called back about an hour later and asked to speak with David Weathersby but she simply put me with his voice mail so I left a message asking him to call me back.
I then called Misty Roane and left a message asking her to call me back as well.
I then called Shannon Fife. She told me that John Helmers had told her she was not allowed to speak with me. I told her that I did not believe her and informed her that I has specifically asked John to make sure that we would get in touch. I told her that I had also been calling her boss and that she boss was not returning my calls. She told me that she was not allowed to speak about the case with me since it was closed.
I called LL and she picked up the phone. She said that she was “on the bus and going to the airport.” I asked her if this was an OK time to talk and she said “No.” I asked her if we could talk sometime about “life and the universe,” and she said that she would call me tonight. I am guessing that she is returning to Louisville from her professional development/ conference.
LL did NOT call me. I called her at 10:00PM and left a message.
Another LL lie. The security officer at the CPS building said to me “dead dogs lie,” but LL is not a dog. He also said “there is no point in beating a dead horse,” but LL is not a horse. LL is also not dead. LL is mean, well, actually she is vitriolic and evil.

May 22, 2008 (Thursday)
I called the KGB. Was put through in a rather fastidious manner by the secretary with the voice mail of David Weathersby. I left a message asking him t call me back.

I called LL and left a message asking her to call me back.
7:15PM I called Rebecca’s cell phone and left a pretty message: something about making mini deltas in the sand when it rains (I had seen on the TV that it was ‘storming in Florida) and asked her to have the children call me.
They did! And Hannah spoke Spanish and I took them up on this new language. I did most of the speaking and then suddenly Sofia was on the phone and she listened to me but did not say anything for a long time. Finally she said “what?” and she continued to say this until the very end. I tried to ask her some mathematically challenging questions but she refused to play. Then she said that she would hang up on me if I asked another question and indeed, of course, I was asking her a questions about weather patterns (high atmospheric pressure and impending thunderstorms…) and she hung up on me.
It is impossible to have any kind of natural interaction with my children while they are with the Laskys.
10:00PM I called LL. She said that we could speak for “a few minutes.” I said “that is better than zero minutes.” Then I asked her, “is there anything yu would like to speak about?” and she responded that she had gotten a “letter in the mail from an attorney” and she wanted to know what the letter was about. I told her that it was probably my new attorney and that she was requesting that the Judge sign the original order. Lorena pretended that the order she had appended in her statement to the Judge earlier this month was the original order and I said “no, it is not.” Then she wanted to know what was different and I said “it is exactly from 5 till 7PM” and “there is no mention of Fathers day or Mothers day.”
So, at first LL said things like “did the wording get changed?” but then LL agreed that this was proabably not the original order “since there was a series of back and forth between our lawyers” and said that I could have the children on the Saturday preceding Fathers day. I asked her to email me that. “I asked that this be put in the agreement,” she said.
Then LL told me that I would not see the children on Sunday. They would not be arriving until Sunday night.
I told her that I would file a motion in the court.
LL accused me of adding to her stress and of costing the children a great deal. I denied this because “I did not start any of this.” Then she said that if I wanted to speak with her again that I need to return the picture of her mother.” I wanted to speak about this but she cut me off – I wanted to tell her that she had stolen the children, so I suppose you can not battle shit with shit and this was ok.
But it was hard to keep her on the phone. It was like she really wanted to pick a fight with me in order to justify herself and her hanging up on me.
I asked her about her plans to move into a new home. She told me that she had not closed on the house. I was not able to resolve her own thoughts on the likelyhood of the closing happening for real.
I told her that “I still love you, Rena.” I went on to explain that I understand that it is almost impossible for her to have any reasonable relationship with me because of her family. She reacted (reasonably) in support of her family and asked me not to defame her family. I told her that I could not side with her family after what they have done.
There was an interesting moment in our conversation where LL spoke about “being tricked,” and I caught on that reverse psychological trick by responding “that is not fair!”
There was a standard moment in my interactions with LL when she explained to me that her attorney, Mason Trenaman had recommended that she make the motion to have the children testify in court. This is standard because LL’s method is to surround herself with people who do the dirty work for her and she then looks innocent. She is blaming her attorney when in fact, it is NOT Trenaman.
She is the driving force behind this whole game.
After LL hung up on me I thought about her. I remembered that our conversations in Asuncion had been meaningless. Any decent moment that had ever transpired between us, she had either utterly forgotten or rebuked. I had invited her on a few occasions in Asuncion to try and assuage our incredibly strained relationship. Absolutely, each and every attempt was in vain and in fact, was in the end a secret attempt on her behalf to judge me harshly.
So, I called her and left a message on her answering machine that I did not know where the picture of her mother was located – and this is true. I added that as soon as I find it, I will let her know. It was strange for me o realize that I was feeling fortunate that I had this stupid fact to rely on: I did not know where that picture was located. While I had been talking with her on the phone, I was understanding that I would find the picture and all would be good. When she hung up on me, I realized she was not a reasonable person. Why can she not give me the scrap books? Probably because she has thrown them away.


May 22, 2008
And an email from LL followed our telephone conversation:

The children spoke to me yesterday & told me they had talked to you, so I assume this got resolved.

We just got off the phone & I am emailing you per our conversation.

You have made up time for visits missed so far this week while the kids are in Florida. There is one day left: this upcoming Sunday. I have oe of two suggestions for the last make-up day: (1) See them on Saturday May 31st 9-7 or 8-6. (2) See them on Memorial Day May 26th AND Labor Day. (It was to be that we split those two Monday holidays. The alternative I suggest is you see them both of those days.) Do either of those options work for you? 1 or 2?

Regardign our conversation regarding Mnther's day and Father's day. You have no objection to me seeing them on Mother's day each year as long as you don't feel that causes you to lose a Sunday with the kids. I do not object to you havign extra time somewhere else to compensate for Mother's day. My suggestion is that you see them on Saturday & Sunday on Father's day weekend. This evens out the time and allows each of us to have a more "full" weekend with the children for those two holidays. Is that acceptable to you?


I called LL to ask if instead of options (1) and (2) I could see them on May 27th (Tuesday)) from 9AM till 7PM and also from 5PM till 7PM on Saturday May 31.
I am not able to take you up on the suggestion of seeing them on Monday the May 26th because I work that day. Although I could have them for two hours that afternoon and then all day Tuesday if you prefer.
Then I email LL:
Dear Lorena,
Here is an email the repeats what I stated in my last two (2) messages that are on your voice mail.
In your email you invert the natural (chronological sequence) in which the Sundays should be addressed. In this email I will deal with the Sunday, you have already failed to allow my parenting the children first. Then, later, I will address the up-coming Sunday, you told me yesterday on the phone, you would again fail to allow my parenting.
I can not be with the children on Memorial Day during the day:
Here is something that could work for me (with a caveat) and is close to what you suggest:
Monday, Memorial day, from 5PM to 7PM
Tuesday, May 27 from 9AM to 7PM (remember that I parent the children o Tuesdays from 5 to 7 which is ‘justifies’ my parenting on Monday during that time.)
Alternatively:
Tuesday, May 27 from 9AM to 7PM and
Saturday, May 31 from 5PM to 7PM.
But these suggestions could work for me only if you state that I parent the children on Wednesday 4, 10 or 16 for two extra hours (from 5 to 7PM) to compensate for the waste of my email offering to share the children with you on Mother’s day and my Sunday morning on Mother’s day.
This email in no way indicates, that I agree with your behavior on Mother’s day. From my vantage point, you broke with the agreement and did so without warning.
I do not agree with your/ your mother’s behavior this coming Sunday. Again, from my vantage point you broke the law. That is something that still remains to be dealt with. I will email you about what we can do regarding this coming Sunday after you respond to this email about the previous missed Sunday.
Sincerely,
Allan

PS. The interactions with my children on the telephone while in Florida are so scant that they do not count.

I called LL to ask if instead of options (1) and (2) I could see them on May 27th (Tuesday)) from 9AM till 7PM and also from 5PM till 7PM on Saturday May 31.
I am not able to take you up on the suggestion of seeing them on Monday the May 26th because I work that day.
I then called her again to tell her that I want to see the children for two extra hours to compensate me for the “turmoil” she has put me through.

May 24, 2008
This is LL’s response:
Tuesday May 27th is fine, but I need you to get them earlier due to my work hours. What about 8-6pm?

Saturday may 31 for 2 hours is fine. Does it have to be 5-7pm?
Lorena Lasky
So, clearly she did not read my email completely. Hum? What do I do now? I think I need to take her to court for compensation for the stupidity. Bu first let me deal with some other things and then I will come back to responding to her email:

I called Rebecca’s cell phone and left a message: to have my children call me.
I called LL and left a message asking her to instigate her sister, Rebecca to facilitate a telephone conversation between my children and I.
I called Lara to see if she was in Florida – but she said she was not. She was super surprised to get a call from me. In her surprise she tried to be polite and I could almost hear her brain whirling in an attempt to find a manner to respond.
Mr. Duke sent me Hannah’s transcript and it was full of S’s and S+’s (S = Satisfactory) and he wished her good progress in the third grade.
In the early afternoon I called LL and left a message asking her to call me back.
I went to the lumber place near LL’s place and drove back by way of LL’s place only to see that her car was not there. The furniture is on the front porch which indicates that she is not moving just yet.
It is a fascinating endeavor to deal with thoughts about LL. She has managed to circum-whirl an aura of lies about me, she used the children to actualize her and her family’s wishes (she and her family coached them – a process which has destroyed a large part of the children) she and her mother are evil and yet she has my children and I MUST now negotiate from an incredibly fragile position for anything to do with Hannah and Sofia.
It must be “Hasta la Victoria Siempre.” Now that I have experienced the savagery with which Mental Health agencies act, I would not be surprised if I have become hardened in my determination to fight for social justice
It is naturally interesting that the therapists of the children, Kim Dial and a certain Doctor… Ginger Crumbo are not returning, and in fact have rarely returned my calls. They were most apt to return my calls when they thought they were going to put me in jail and that was four years ago. At that time they returned my calls in order foster more to embellish their hellacious stance. But now, they hide..
Actually, they do more than hide. They act out of fear. They lie and ask to be deposed telephonically. They lie about me – they say that I park my car in their parking lot. Then they huddle away.
And Sofia and Hannah were referred to Kim and Ginger by the company for which Nancy Lasky works: Neighborhood place!
The only passion which guides me is for the truth… I look at everything from this point of view. I do not mimic entirely my internal state because sometimes I am with my children, but with all others I am certain to be nothing other than brutally honest.
I am no more than an element in the proletariat.

And in the end, this is what I emailed LL:
Dear Lorena Lasky (used to be Lasky-Headrick)
At what time is the family flying in, tomorrow, on Sunday? I would like to welcome them to Louisville at the airport – after all that is a day I am by agreement supposed to parent Sofia and Hannah.
And Monday, would it be possible for us to get together then as well? How about in the afternoon?
And Tuesday works fine as you have proposed (looking myopically at just that day.)
Let’s talk on Tuesday about Saturday and all other aspects of my email that you did NOT address.
I am truly delighted in the new found canvas that is my house! I have now added a creature of non-earthly wonder with bulbous eye-balls and a capito-frontal prong, possibly part horse/part dragon, being escorted through the maze by a determined person who is assessing the quagmire.
Do you want to come in and see it? You are, of course, invited.
I will play the song “and even though we ain’t got money,” and we can drink mate.
Sincerely,
Allan

May 25, 2008 (Sunday)
9:30AM I call LL and leave a message that she should call me.
Indeed today I am supposed to be with my children but I am not. I think I should do a number of things. If I were paranoid then I would think that the lasky’s were up to something. They have had the children now for a week and have done their best to brainwash them. It is hard to brainwash 8 and 9 year old children but still… and they may be up to something on Monday? The only thing that would suggest otherwise is that LL’s email allows me to choose Monday as a day with my children. In any case, I am utterly fearless for my own self of that awful Lasky family: The ones who always suffer are Sofia and Hannah.
I note that the president of the United States of America, a certain George Doubleya Bush, while the leader of the greatest nation in the world, is a liar. Every justification for invading Iraq given in his State of the Union speech, is false. Similarly Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo have made false statements and ‘justified’ the destruction of my children’s and my relationship. (I know that she wishes to be referred to as “Dr.” but her behavior is so utterly disgusting as to merit the distinction of being “non-researched, superficial, scant, trite, worthless and BIASSED. It is not the work of a professional with a Ph.D.
The work of these people is a kind of Imperialism. They rule and in their role as rulers they play games that undermine reasonable dictates. For example, they state that for telling my children not to lie to them, that I should be ex-communicated from my children – something that lasted a third of a year. They were able to play this trick by conniving Richard Nassr to abdicate from his role in causing the family to progress.

11:10AM Sofia and Hannah called me. I missed their call and they left the following message: “Hi this is Sofia and I won’t be able to call you all day because I am going to be in the airplane. Uhm and I’ll see you tomorrow. Here is Hannah: (She passes the phone to Hannah who is a passé manner says to Sofia) thanks, thanks (and then into the phone she adds) and I want to roar you with a lion’s speech that says good luck ‘roar.”
You have to really work hard to resolve that my children care about their relationship with me when they are with the Lasky’s. I can resolve it from the tone of their voices, especially Sofia’s.
Of course, it is not true that my children will be in an airplane all day. When they are at the airports they can certainly use the cell phones. It is also not true that they could not have tried calling again.
That my children called is a good sign. It means that the Lasky family found that it was not possible to coach my children to the extent they would have liked.
I am sure that my children can only call me when they let them.
11:52AM, 12:25PM, 1:00PM I called Rebecca’s cell phone and when I realized that I was being transferred to a voice message machine I hung up.
12:00 noon, I called LL’s ‘linea baja’ and that was to no avail so then I left a message on her answering machine asking her to call me back for the third time appended with a “thank you Rena!” because people who are unkind and act in terrible manners, hate it when the “objects” of their maltreatment are kind to them.
So then I called Nancy’s home phone and left the following message. “Heypodey Nancy, this is Allan. I am almost 100% certain that you know that this is me because of my dear greeting. Anyway, I am calling to thank you for taking my children to Florida. Of course I hope very much that you were able to behave yourselves but that is not to detract from the message that says ‘thank you.’ Thank you Nancy, Thank you.”
Farfar called to tell me that he and Farmor want to come visit Sofia, Hannah and me again. I told them that they are invited when ever they please to come.
1:05PM I called Nancy and asked her to have the children call me when they fly into the airport in Louisville.
2:05PM Nancy’s phone calls me back while I am mowing the lawn and so once again I missed the call. My child was being coached and told what to say. She said “Hello, again, if you wanted to talk to me and you were calling (probably Nancy telling my child what to say in the back ground) we just called you back, (probably Nancy telling my child what to say) we are about to go to a kids museum and no more calls, bye.” The entire message was matter of fact and it was clear that my daughter was being coached and the tone of her voice was consequent to the person coaching her. I believe that person was Nancy. There are two reasons: The first is that it was Nancy’s cell phone. The second is that it sounded like Nancy.
Both the Louisville Science Museum and the Speed Art Museum are closed. There is a chance that the person coaching my child was inventing the part about the museum. I might or might not find out when I next see my children.
2:38PM I called Rebecca but her cell phone is still turned off. I left a message that went “hey you guys this is Allan and I am calling to thank you for taking my children to Florida. I hope that you had a wonderful time.”
2:41PM I called LL and left the following message: “Hey Rena, this is Allan and I am still waiting for your call so if you could please call me back that would be really cool.”
I believe that my children are now in Louisville. I believe that the Lasky’s are keeping us apart with deliberate intent.
6:00PM I tried calling my children but neither LL’s ‘linea baja’ nor her cell phone were answered.
7:00PM, I called LL and left a message about a book that includes games for cleaning up your room (which might be a good tool for getting Sofia and Hannah to clean up their room.) I also asked LL to facilitate the children calling me.
8:50PM, I called LL’s ‘linea baja,’ but got no response. I called her cell phone but did not leave a message.
And so another day goes by and my children continue to be deprived of the only parent who has not harmed them.
That is in and of itself harmful to them.

May 26, 2008
Well, it’s 9:15AM and I am on my way to the court house. It is memorial day and I suspect that there is nothing going on today. Tomorrow however, there is something for real. I am supposed to spend the day with my children!
Yep, everything is closed on Memorial Day.
3:00PM, I call LL and leave a message since she does not pick up her phone: “Hey Rena, the girls told me that I would be meeting them today, so I am going on the assumption that I will see them from 5 till 7 today and I will come to pick them up at 5PM. Also, please call me back. Thanks.”
4:00PM I call LL again and this time Hannah answers the phone. I am not able to speak for a long time with Hannah but it was a good exchange. Then Hannah passed the phone to Sofia with whom I spoke until LL said “I am ready to speak with your dad.” That took a few minutes. Sofia and I spoke about cooking spaghetti (which I was then doing) to feeding oats to the rabbit in my back yard, to climates in different states of the USA. Then I told LL that I did not have a manner to care for the children if we are going to court tomorrow. She said “get a baby sitter.” So I called the following people:
Peter – but he will be teaching.
Dawn Michelle – I left a message.
Archana
Hznnah’s friend Alexia’s mother.
Jeromes’s mother, Lorena,
Michelle and Justice.
Stephanie Guevara
Dear Lorena,
I wrote in my last email that “Tuesday works just fine if I look at that day myopically.” But my decision to agree to Tuesday is contingent on other facets of my suggestion being agreed upon. You seem to forget that there is more. I just spoke with you on the phone and you refused to indicate any attempt to reconcile the difference in our opinion. Thus, as of now, and it is 4:17 – just a few minutes after our telephone call, I am not agreeing with you. It is not because I do not want to see the children. I very much want to parent the children. It is because you are not fair, ethical, straight forward, honest, trust worthy and decent about sharing the children. You told me (for the first time in my life) that I am supposed to go to court tomorrow. So, Ok, I will see you in court tomorrow. I will call you to tell you the same thing again – or to leave it on your cell phone answering machine.
Sincerely,
Allan

And so I called her and stated word for word what is in this email.
And then she called me back. It was 7:30PM. Just to get this on record, she has not called me since before the children went to Florida. The last time she called me I was with the children and she called to speak with the children and not actually with me. That my telephone has not received a telephone call from her number(s) since May 17th should be on the telephone company’s records. And in fact, I must say that she has not called me but maybe once in the last twelve months?
So, it was s surprise to look at the incoming telephone number on my cell phone and see that it was LL’s and that LL was actually on the phone! The reason she called is because of my email – or because of my last message. She suddenly realized that I was NOT going to pick up the children tomorrow at 8:00AM. In our telephone conversation she agreed to the following terms in exchange for me relinquishing my want to take her to court for not letting me have the children on the Sunday that was Mother’s day. The terms are in the email I sent to LL right after the call:

Dear Lorena,
In exchange for my being alright with NOT having been parenting on Sunday May 11, 2008, and issue not covered by the June 2007 agreement, you and I re-agree to the agreement made in June 2007 as well as to the following:
We will not go to court tomorrow, Tuesday, May 27, 2008. We will both call the court house and tell the court that we can not make it to the court date on Tuesday,
That I will have the children tomorrow from 8:00AM until they finish their dance rehearsal.
That you will pick them up from the dance rehearsal.
That I will parent the children on Saturday, May 31, 2008 for two hours. Unless otherwise agreed, I will parent the children from 5:00PM till 7:00PM on that day. (To make up for the fact that I am to parent the children for two of the hours on Tuesday anyway as agreed in June of 2007.)
That I will parent the children on Wednesday, June 10th, 2008 from 5:00Pm till 7:00PM.
That you will respond to this email at the very latest by 6AM tomorrow, May 27th. If you respond positively, it makes the entire agreement in this email, a legal document.

If you do not respond to this email by 6AM, then you and I will take the issue of my NOT parenting on Sunday May 11, to the court. I will urge the court to consider this issue tomorrow, May 27.

Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
It’s emailed. Now I must think of things to do with my children.
Check my emails, leave the bikes at Dennys.
Pick them up early.
Go to breakfast at Dennys with toys/games?
Go to the bank nearby on the bikes.
Go home.
Take the bus back to get the car.
Bring the car home.
Paint the house.
Skateboard.



So, I tink of all kinds of ideas that cause me to pack the car with my computer, the bicycles, art supplies, a couple of art books, a book about motorcycles into the yellow car. It Brings a smile to my face that the car is covered in graffiti from my children: ‘I love earth,’ Hannah has written in red paint on the side of the car.
I park the car at the gas station because I like walking with my children for a bit – we get to acclimate to one another and there is a coherence among us by the tine we scramble in the car…
LL had told me that it is fine if I arrive at 7:45AM and I am arriving at 7:54AM. As soon as I arrive I see Hannah and she announces “Daddy is here!”
But I need to use the rest room so I call out to LL (who, has a propensity to avoid me) if I may use the rest room and she says ‘yes,’ and so I walk through the house, but I have never been to the rest room before so I ask my children and Sofia gives me a verbal explanation of where it is located.. and as I am walking through the house I am seeing that there are a lot of things in boxes and the house is really a mess – not filthy but messy for being in the midst of a move.
I notice that in the mail box there are two outgoing letters. One of these is to the drumming summer camp experience and the other is to the Girl Scouts Camp. LL is non-challant about this. As uninformative as she possibly could be.
As we are walking to the car, Sofia remarks that there are more girls in the advanced placement classes. She notes that both her teacher and LL had taken note; though LL had gone further and said that “girls are smarter!”
So, I said to Sofia that I have observe that girls get better grades in school. I did not bother to defend boys.
As we passed Mile’s house, Hannah asked me if she could invite Miles to spend the ay with us. I agree that this would be fine although Sofia did not seem interested. Sofia remarked that Hannah had invited Miles for a “glass of milk last night.”
The children do not know at what time I am to take them to the dance rehearsal so I call LL. I leave a message on the answering machine and ask Hannah to add to the message by saying “I love you Mommy,” but Hannah refused to do this. (This does not mean anything.)
Ok, so we get in the car and it rolls down a hill and it starts in second gear and Hannah says “Ich hasse den Auto,” and I respond “Oh, ich liebe den Auto…” and I went on to explain that I have a history with the car blah blah blah and you know what? I reminded myself of Cecil. Next time something like this Happens, maybe all I need to say is “Hannah du bist meine Tochter, egal was du denkst.”
And then we buy gas.
And the children notice that there is a paper bag scrutched nt the opening to the gas tank.
And then I am not sure what to do, but I end up following Breckinridge, park the car at the BMW motorcycle shop and we walk to Mr. Z’s for breakfast.
This was the first time I take the children here. I think they liked it alright. The lady who owns the restaurant is from Bosnia and it was nice to point that out to the children.
And then it was noce to be with friends just for a little bit at the BMW store. Dwayne gave us a push start.
And then we drove to the bank, cashed the pay check ($19.00)
And then to the park near my house. It is nice to park the ca there since there is a hill and that means that it is easy to start the car. I pulled the bikes out of the car and we rode on them home. I set Sofia up at home while my neighbors watched Hannah.
Sofia wanted to read her Nancy Drew book.
But soon Hannah came and Hannah wanted to paint. So I got Hannah to paint in the living room. It is really cool what she drew!
Earlier when Hannah was painting she had remarked that she had learned how to paint from a movie called the “Karate Kid”: “Stroke up, stroke down,” she said.
Sofia was more difficult because she wanted to mix the paints first before she even started painting and then all she had the patience to accomplish was to paint green on the wall…
Hannah watched more Tim und Struppi movies on the computer. Later she became interested in watching movies on the DVD player down stairs…
Now Hannah asked me to light a candle and went down starits. Sofia is reading a Nancy Drew book and I ma deliberating letting her know of the Nancy Drew books that I have in the basement when she finishes.
Hannah has arranged a bunch of toys around the candle and is watching the movie now in the basement. “Ich möchte the und dann komme ich runter den ich möchte den Film mit dir, sehen,” I say to Hannah and do some cleaning in the kitchen.
Hannah has just watched Avatar and the other movie she likes t watch is drop-dead gorgeous.
“Oh Sofia, du hast nur noch Fünfzehn Seiten zu lessen, dass sind Dreisig Minuten.” I tell her. Sofia has been reading her book the whole time that Hannah and I have been watching the movie. She was glad when I told her that it was only three o’clock because that means that she has time to finish reading the book.
And then we cooked dinner. Sofia cooked the Rahmen noodles on her own (completely). I added sauerkraut, Bratwurst, greens and we all ate on the back porch.
But the children were not very respectful of the food and started throwing the bratwurst pieces around. I picked the pieces up and told them that they need to be respectful of food.
The children got involved in making cards for Farmor and Farfar which I sent right away.
And then we went to the dance rehearsal.
Sofia becomes very stressed out when things that have to do with her mother do not turn out exactly like she was told. We arrived a few minutes early but LL was late.
The children were super happy to see LL.
I enjoyed the performance very much.
I told the children that I was proud of them.
“Wann Tanzt ihr für echt?” I asked Sofia and she said “Tomorrow!” I give Sofia a nod of approval.
When the children were dancing I was alone with LL. She spent much time on the phone. I asked her if she had called the court house and admitted that I had not done so. She said she had.
When Hannah came back, I pointed out a very good dancer by telling her that she was small. Hannah said that the dancer was her friend and that I should not say that she was small. Why was she like this? It’s because LL was next to her.
I noticed that the children got trophies. I wanted to look at Hannah’s but Hannah would bare let me. LL took the trophy and put it in Hannah’s bag.
The bags of the children were placed between me and them. I was sitting as the distant father on the periphery
However, all that was overshadowed by the ugly nature of LL. She was always as distant from me as possible and each time I spoke with her all I felt was that I was intruding.
That awful person.
As we were leaving she said to me that I stink. I responded “you smell very pretty Rena.”
Several comments like “You don’t need a man,” and “That’s a woman’s thing,” lead me to suspect that Hannah thinks that a man is entirely un-necessary for procreation. I have not corrected her.
But Hannah is very interested in all this stuff. I think much of it has to do with her experiences at the John Powers School. The rest has to do with society. Enshrining all her misunderstandings are the Laskys.
Sofia has known the theory (penis inserted in the vagina) since her mother told her in Paraguay in her ploy to then accuse me of abusing the children when we came to the USA.

May 28, 2008
6:00PM I come home from the lawyer, more about her later, and call LL’s ‘linea baja,’ only to find it busy. I call twice and it is busy both times. I am not able to get through.
I arrive at the theater, where the children will be doing the ballet recital at 6:15PM with two books. One of them I had given Sofia – it was a Nancy Drew book. The other one, Sofia had lend me and I was in the process of reading.
I think that LL is a great problem because the entire Lasky family is unbelievably ugly towards me and they play hard so this is a real shame for the sake of the children.
So, earlier today I went to see a lawyer, a lady called Denis Brown and it is possible that she willhelp me out. She said that she would go to the court house and see what the state of the case was from their perspective.
She read LL’s psychological profile and said “shit,” when she read that it was recommended that LL stay away from relationships for five years.
I was with Denise Brown for about 25 minutes, She made arrangements for us to meet tomorrow again at 4:00PM. There are two things I am asking for help in accomplishing. The first is to deal with the motion that LL is presenting the Judge about my house having no running water and me not being a fit parent (whom she is afraid to leave the children with because she says (and she is deliberately lying) I am a pedophile.) The second is to get the order signed by the judge.
But where are my children? Or anyone for that matter? I look around but can not see them. The performance starts on time, at 7:00PM and I have not located anyone.
7:03PM I try to call LL but she does not answer the telephone.
Just before the first dance I suddenly notice my children run by. Hannah saw me but did not stop. My children know I am here. I saw where they went and followed slowly. Then I saw where the Laskys are sitting: Uncle Rich, Grammy and LL.
The dances my children are participating in are called
“Everybody rejoice,” and
“Hit the road Jack.”

I think that probably Uncle Rich is there to provide a fear factor from the Lasky psyche. They want a strongman to protect them from the truth that is me. I am, of course, utterly unafraid. Do you think a person who has travelled with Berbers on Camels, or with the son of Juan Bosch in the Dominican Republic is afraid of Laskys? So I go and sit on the same row.
Again Sofia and Hannah note that I am there.
Then they suddenly sprang up and left. They considered moving out of the row by way of me but then decided that they would go in the other direction (a consequence of the Lasky psycho-crap.)
And then came their first dance.
I saw that my daughters are on the sidelines because I am sitting at the very edge of the theater. Hannah is one of the first girls to come out and I can see that she is very excited.
Hannah is dancing right in front of me and Sofia is a little more in the midst of the group. The way Hannah moves her head is phonomena’. Sofia dances with poise and dexterously. Sofia is now at the center of the stage and is performing perfectly. She moves to music fluidly and then Hannah comes on stage and she too, perfect, beautiful, unafraid, she just does it. My children move calmly gently and without repose. The music is in their blood and they are manifesting it’s wonder with their bodies. It is a luxury to watch.
My children danced in front of some five hundred people in good synchronicity with the music and they moves their banners in tempo with the beat and I was impressed with their ability to dance. They have it inside them. The are able to dance, they can dance and I think that Grammy and Rena and their uncle is here and that probably adds some stress to their performance and they danced beautifully.
The Lasky’s are an unbelievable bunch. I can not win my children back by having the children make choices. It is something hthat will have to happen from the outside. Social workers need to come in from the outside and the judge needs to intervene.
I was in the hallway, waiting for my kids to fly by, and Nancy suddenly appeared. I said “hello Nancy,” but she continued with stone faced countenance so I repeated the same a little louder “Hello Nancy.” She did not respond, she just walked on.
My children danced again like the greatest. They are both very good. It is amazing. I think they love the second dance a like the second dance a little more because they are flawless this time. This is called “Hit the road Jack.” They hold their hats, they clap their hands, they fold their arms over, they tap their way to the stars without an iota issue. Very impressive.
I caught up with them as they were running back to the Lasky’s from back stage and kissed each of them on the hand. I told them how proud I was of them.
Then I left the premises.

May 29, 2008
Ok, there are a few things to try and recall today when I see my children.
The first is that I have their rain coats and I will return them.
The second is that it would be good to buy chocolate for Sofia for next time we meet. This is because she had wanted some and I had promised her some but then we had forgotten. “Sofia, ich hatte dir versprochen daβ wir Schokolade kaufen würden nach dem Frühstuck am Dienstag, wir waren an der Tankstelle und du wolltest das kaufen, und ich habe dir gesagt daβ wir nicht mall die Schokolade dann kaufen könnten für später nach dem Frühstuck….und dann haben wir vergessen.”
The third is to positively reinforce how great my daughters performance last night was: “Ihr wart sehr schon, habt guten Rytmus erzeugt, gute Bewegung, schön zusammen geblieben und synchronisiert, es sah professional aus!”
The fourth is Math. I have to create a Math game for the kids to learn how to multiply. How about this?
Hannah, what is 2X2? 3X3? 5X5? 10X10?
Sofia, what is 5 X 5 X 5? 3X3X3? 5X5X5? And 10X10X10?
Then I can go through the multiplication table.
The fifth is dinner:
And now that I am back home and it is way late in the day, I can say that I did all the things on my list!
But ldet me recount the story of my time with my children:
I called LL at 4:45PM to inquire if I was to find my children at the Highland coffee house. She did not respond so I left a message inquiring as much. She did not call me back so I went to her place and there I found my children watching TV. As soon as I arrived, the baby sitter, a lady called Saphire closed he door on me. I knocked on the door and she then opened it.
What effect do you think that had on the children? Probably pretty shitty.
“I was wondering if you could call Rena and ask her if I may get my children at the Highland coffee house?”
She said that she would do that for me and I waited outside.
She tried for several minutes to get in touch with LL.
Finally she did get LL and after a few minutes she declared that LL had said it was OK for me to take the children then and there.
So, the kids put on their shoes and out they came and we walked to the Falafel house.
It was fun walking with my children.
You know that they like to be kissed. They do all kinds of things to get kissed. They hit my back pack with a stick and then I wrap my arms around them and tell them that they must not do things like that to my back pack and kiss them. They squirm and pretend that they are being punished but they sure love to be kissed. \
Of course, I bought chocolate at the gas station.
We stopped for a while at the ‘Park fur den Hunden” and they played with one another while I was with the dogs.
The Felafel restaurant was actually a success although it may not have been obvious at all times. There was the art books which Hannah looked at (she was most interested in looking at the pictures of naked women by Delacroix)but Sofia was not interested at all in the art books. I tried to read them a story in German but neither child listened to me. I tried to feed them falafel and cheese sticks and bread and babaganoush but it was an uphill battle. I barely got Hannah to drink some sweet tea and then she realized that she was hungry and ate some bread.
However, out time at the Felafel place was a smashing success because it was interesting. There was a TV with Arabic news in the back ground. The children became interested in making art project with paper and tape: they made paper chains. Hannah drew a sketch of me and a sketch of Sofia. Both are very good. And we remained a this restaurant for a long time.
Then we walked to the highland coffee house for desert. Sofia was the only one to eat desert: a lemon pie.
And then we started walking back to LL’s place. At 7:00PM I called her to tell her that if she wanted to pick up the children she was welcome to do so. I left a message (of course since she almost never picks up the phone.)
I called two more times as we were walking back to her place.
So, I dare say that after having been locked up in their home for the entire day, the children were probably super well served by getting out and spending a couple of hours with me.
Oh, by the way, I had stopped by my new lawyer’s office on my way to pick up the children and she told me that the legal plan that UPS has does not cover the legal work I need. She asked for a $3000 retainer. I told her I would have to hold on that.
LL sent me the following email:
Did you sign Sofia up for the Art in the Beach camp next week? If so, have you confirmed that she is on the list?
I respond:

I sent the money, I hope all is well, .... hope, hope, hope.... has your check been cashed?
Ally Pall
And another email:
Allan,

You ahve not responded abotu Girl Scout camp yet. This starts in less than 2 weeks.

To which I respond:
Dear Lorena,
Your work keeps you tied up until about 5:15PM. I want to be able to be with the children from the moment I get out of work until 5:15PM on all days of the week as well as the times arranged by agreement. It would also be nice to be able to be with the children in the morning from 7:45AM until about 10:00AM since that too is a time when you are at work. This then is my response to your suggestion that Sofia and Hannah go to Girl Scouts: Note that my response does not detract from any TIME the children are with you.
Sincerely,
Allan

May 30, 2008
It seems to me that the most important thing I have to do is go to court and file a motion for not being able to be with my children on Sunday May 25. Then there is CEP – an institution that needs to be ordered by the Judge to be open to communication with me and finally there is JCC. I did all those three (well, except that all I did was to file a motion for CEP to change it’s ways.)
6:00PM I called to speak with my children but no one picked up the phone.
8:00PM I called again and this time I also called LL’s cell phone and left a message asking to speak with my children . I remember that I called Lorena a ‘smooosh frog hippo’ in the message.
May 31, 2008
I was at peter’s house when Sofia called me. She wanted to know if she could go to Samantha’s sleep over/ birthday party on Sunday and I, of course, said ‘yes.’ I asked Sofia if Hannah had been invited and she said ‘no.’ It was obvious that Sofia wanted Hannah to be invited too and she felt bad for Hannah. I told her that I would call Samantha’s mother and ask about the details. Sofia was very exited. This conversation took place entirely (on my half) in German.
I called Samantha’s mother and she told me that certainly Hannah could come – she was only concerned about the children being able to swim and I assured her that both my children are proficient swimmers. I asked if Hannah could also attend the party and assured her that it was alright if not. Sharon, Samantha’s mother asked Sam and Sam said ‘yes.’
As I was talking with Sharon, LL called and left a message. I did not take her call since I was involved in an important telephone conversation. I was told that the children should bring swim gear and that Sofia should bring all her needs for a sleep over (sleeping bag and pillow.) We agreed to ‘play it by ear.”
Then I listened to LL’s message. It went as follows:
10:49AM Allan call me Back! Sofia told me hat you were going to call Samantha’s parents and ask if Hannah can come and that is absolutely not appropriate, that IS Sofia’s friend and that is absolutely inappropriate. H does not need there even if the say ‘yes.’ So call me back so I can make sure you’re not doing something dumb like that.
Well I called LL back and she railed on me. She told me that Sofia needs to have her own set of friends and that Hannah hads been getting all this attention like going to the John Powers school and that Hannah does not know how to behave and that Hannah is not going to be with people her own age and that it was wrong of me to push the parents of Samantha to also invite Sofia…
I listened to her and said “no, I am going to stay with my current plan. Hannah is not invited to the sleep over. But Hannah is invited to the birthday party.” LL tried to make me change my disposition but I did not. I said “I promise you that I am going to take both Hannah and Sofia to the birthday party.”
“You are an idiot!” said LL.
“If you can’t speak to me in an appropriate manner then call me back later.”
“You are acting immature!”
“And now you just called me immature. If you can’t speak to me in an appropriate manner then call me back later.”
Clic. LL hung up on me.

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I called Debbie Lee about meeting with Elgin and she said that she had spoken with Elgin and asked him to call me. She tried to invite me to realize that Elgin does not have to talk with me. “I said yes he does, maybe not legally, but morally, ethically and sociologically and in the eyes of God.”

I called Shannon Fife again: “Hello Shannon, this is Allan Lasky Headrick. I am calling you because Misty Roano told me that your report caused her to be concerned. She quoted you, Shannon Fife. So I am led to you by you yourself. Would you please call me? I am wanting to set up an appointment to meet with you. My telephone number is 714 – 8577. Thank you.

I called Misty Roanao and left a message – I let her know that I was not pleased that neithet she nor Shannon Fife had called me back and let her know that the hate andenmity from the Lasky contingency continues unabated.

I left LL with a message asking her about the two hours that I missed ten days ago.

I sent LL the following email:
Heypodey Lorena,
Let me know when the place that you are interested in buying comes through.
Let me know the name of your boy friend.
Let me know what we can do about Hannah interacting with Scottie and Sarah.
Let me know what we can do about arranging for you to get two weeks with the children in Florida.
And so on andonandon.
Most sincerely,
Allan

And then Farfar and Farmor:
Dear Farfar and Farmor,
I HAVE now started to speak in Spanish with my children so please come prepared to speak in German and SPANISH,
Lots of love,
Allan

At 5:15PM I called LL and Sofia answered the phone. She said she was in the car waiting for LL and Hannah to come out of CEP. I walked to CEP and arrived at LL’s car to find Sofia inside. She told me that she did not know why it was taking LL so long. I think it might be because I am trying to get in touch with Elgin at CEP. I will call CEP tomorrow to see what is going on.

When LL came out she said that she wanted to drop the children off at the Highland Coffee House. This makes sense since she has just been talking with CEP people about me (telling them lies) and does not want these same people to see her hand the children over to me. Moreover Hannah was in a belicose mood towards me saying “Daddy, you are not supposed to ne here!” and “get away from the car!” and “Sofia is scared of you.” And so they all got in the car and I followed them the 40m to the Highland Coffee House. I asked LL if she could call me and she said that she could not do so today because she was busy. Hannah again intervened and tried to prevent my making contact with LL. She said “Mommy does not want to have anything to do with you!” From there we walked to the Lemon Grass restaurant where we ate mostly noodles and spring rolls. We played catch as we walked. We read Tin Tin in Spanish as we ate. And then, when we were finished the children went outside and played catch together while I paid the bill.

Then we visited the video store next door and saw that there are lots of German and Spanish Videos.

We stopped by the ice cream parlor on our way to LL’s place. I carried both my children at different times on my shoulders. They love being brought back down because it is such fun to be maneuvered from way up high in my arms back to the ground.

And then I walked back to the Highland Coffee House. I looked for my cell phone without success. I drove back to LL’s. I knocked on the door but no one came. I knocked three times and no one came. I walked around the house and saw Hannah in the Kitchen. I called out to her through the window and asked to her to see if Sofia had my cell phone. She did this but there was no knowledge of my cell phone with my children.

So I went back to my car and then I found it. Gosh! I called the home phone number and Hannah picked up the phone and I told her that I had found my cell phone and that everything was OK. I felt bad for the commotion.


April 2, 2008

I called Debbie Lee of CEP and asked her what developments have taken place.

I called Sarah and left a message on her answering machine:
“Hello Sarah, I have no idea what your life is like since you have completely ex-communicated me from your life. But I have bought a house in Louisville and I am upset that there is a legal order preventing you from interacting with Hannah and it occurred to me that there is no reason why I should not also include you in the advertising that I am doing. I am renting my house and for you and Carlos and Madeleine, I would be glad to lease it to you for a very inexpensive price -- like $200 including utilities, if you want to move here and deal with the court house in terms of Hannah. And yes, Hannah is doing well. Great in fact!”

I called the Bloom School and they acknowledged receipt of the self addressed stamped envelopes I had left under the door yesterday and Mr. Duke and Ms. Schartzer each had of these. They will send me copies of Hannah’s and Sofia’s academic reports from last month.

I called at 7:00PM and at 7:45PM. The second time I called I left a message that ran along the following lines: Hello Rena this is Allan and I am of course calling to speak with my children but since I got the answering machine let me tell you that there is a world of difference between stealing an object and stealing children. Please do not accuse me of stealing anything in front of the children. Thank you.

(Yesterday LL accused me of stealing a ring I was wearing when I was picking up the children.)


April 3, 2008
It was early in the morning and the phone rang. I looked and saw that it was LL’s phone number. I answered it but all I could hear was the sound of the car. I hung up and called again.
This time LL answered. I asked “May I speak with our children?” and she passed the phone back. Of course when the children are in the presence of their mother they are unable to act in a natural manner so Hannah tried to push the phone onto Sofia and Sofia refused to take the phone and I got disconnected. When I called back, Hannah said that Sofia was in one of her moods so to speak and I tried to get her to blow a kiss to Sofia but Hannah refused to do this. So, I asked her to blow LL a kiss and she refused to do this as well. Suddenly I was disconnected.

April 3, 2008

Look at this email that Farfar sent Helmers!
John, upon reviewing your firm's invoice of this morning, I noticed that there were two items which were not properly chargeable to me nor to Allan, namely the time of 2/22 to draft your motion to withdraw and the court appearance of 2/25, in which you presented your motion to the judge and obtained her consent to withdraw.

Would you prefer to send me another invoice or would you rather I paid this one less the disputed amounts, which you will later cancel?

Concerning the substance of your decision to withdraw rather than the fees, I believe that you did the right thing. After the hearing of June of last year, when an Agreed Order had been hammered out, I was under the impression that the dispute between Allan and Lorena had been resolved, and that we could look forward to a year or more of peaceful co-existence. To my disappointment, both parties kept on fighting, Allan in an attempt to hold Lorena in contempt for not allowing him to have his children at all scheduled parenting times, and Lorena by attempting to have Allan imprisoned for non-payment of child support and by coming up with new sexual abuse allegations. Mounting legal fees were consuming funds which could have been used for the benefit of the children. My refusal to pay for legal services which Allan brought upon himself was an attempt to cool the legal battle. It was evidently not enough, as your latest invoice attests. Your decision to withdraw was another step in the same direction.

On the other hand, I also appreciate your informal advice to Allan, given after your resignation, on how to handle the deposition. When you feel that he needs guidance, you should feel free to give it to him (and to send me the corresponding invoice), but you should avoid letting him abuse of your kindness. If he goes too far in asking for advice, you should tell him that he is now his own lawyer and should stand on his own two feet.

Regards,

William C. Headrick

I responded to Farfar as follows:

Dear Farfar,
You wrote to John Helmers: “Concerning the substance of your decision to withdraw rather than the fees, I believe that you did the right thing.” Please stop undermining me. It is extremely wrong of you.
And you wrote: “After an Agreed Order had been hammered out, I was under the impression that the dispute between Allan and Lorena had been resolved…” have you checked out of reality?
Etc…
Most sincerely and with a great deal of love,
Allan



I sent LL the following message:

Dear Lorena,
How are you doing? I have just finished painting a bunch of stripes in the living room of my house and it looks like a circus. The image of the market square in the kitchen is slowly evolving. It's funny, it evolves sometimes in the most imperceptible ways. I will just add a color here or there to get rid of the paint from the brush after working with it in the living room... and I like it.
I hope to see you soon because it is 5:20 PM and I am at the Highland Coffee House. I guess I will call you,
Sincerely,
Allan

A minute later LL actually called me and told me that she was just then leaving work and that she would be bringing the children to me in another ten minutes.
Ok, so I was finally with my children half an hour late. I explained that we needed to clean the house for Farfar and Farmor. They decided that cleaning the house was going to be their homework. Hannah and Sofia painted the floor and cooked tortillas and burritos for dinner. Hannah was the main cook today.

There were two incidents of importance today:
1. Hannah asked me if I had been to Florida. I told her that I had and that I love Florida. Hannah said that she wants me to go with the Lasky Family. I told her that last year I was in jail when she went to Florida with LL and Grammy. I explained that this was a trick.
2. I told Hannah that if she ever wanted to look a the book that Sarah gave her, to let me know. She said that she does not want to talk about it because it just makes her cry. I waited a couple of minutes and then I told Hannah that it makes me cry too.

Dear Allan,

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April 4, 2008
Farmor and Farfar arrived. I first took them to my house and then to pick up Hannah and Sofia. LL was half an hour late.
LL did enter to speak with Farmor which I thought was funny. So good, Farmor spoke with LL. I was my usual self. I asked LL about her boy friend and about the property she is buying and she denied interest in either topic.
We drove to the Old Bridge Inn and there Farmor presented the children with a collection of presents, some of which include clothes. They got dressed for dinner and then we went to a restaurant on the river. When we returned to the hotel, Hannah showed her singing abilities when presented with a cat book of songs. There was CD with the book and Hannah sang along. I noticed also that Hannah has a sense for rhythm and loves syncopation.
Things went very well, Sofia and I were busy and Hannah woke up saying that and then we did a little crocheting in her bed room and then I explained to Sofia that she needed to get up and lock the door her eyes were glittering.

April 5, 2008
I appeared at the hotel just before the children had woken up. We went to the Falls of the Ohio State Park, collected rocks and things like that and watched the movie, visited the museum… and then Farfara nd I walked with the kids along the path – the water level was too lhigh for us to complete the loop.
And then we went to lunch. Sofia, Hannah and I walked back from the restaurant on the river side. Then the children wanted to have some down time it seemed and they opted to watch the Disney Channel on TV. Farfar and I went to Sears and purchased a few things including a camera.
And when we came back, I joined my children a little while watching TV but we eventually managed to lure them away from the room (It was much harder to lure Sofia) s and on route to the park… Sofia threw an tantrum: decided that she wlould not follow us since she had lost her pink quarz rocks in a bottle that Farmor had bought for her yesterday at the Ohiop State Park…. OK, so I escorted Farfara nd Hannah to the park and when I got back to the Bed and Breakfast, I saw Farmor taking Sofia in the car. I joined them and we went to get ice cream…. Oh that was nice and then we returned to Farfar and Hannah.
I never knew if Farfar and Hannah were jealous that we had gotten ice cream? They certainly did not seem to care. But Sofia joined us and the play was excellent.
Oh Farfar and I modeled how to play Frisbee to the girls. Hannah had tried throwing the Frisbee while Sofia and I were with Farmor getting ice cream…
And then it was dinner time. We wondered what would be a good place to eat dinner and finally I decided to take us all to the Bass Pro Shop where there is a restaurant on the top floor. This was also a hit.
When we finally came back to the bed and breakfast it was very late. I remeinded the children to call their mother in the car.
Oh there was an interesting moment in the car. Hannah had asked me “what is wrong with Farmor?” when she was being fairly impossible to be with because we could not find a restaurant that would suit her and I said “she is picky.”
But there was something else… what was that? Sofia was on the phone with LL…. Hannah asked me about ???? Gosh I can not remember..
Anyways, the children watched Charlie and the Chocolate Factory and so they must have gone to bed super duper late.

April 6, 2008
Alright, got there before anyone had woken up. Farmor wanted the children to bathe before breakfast so it happened that way. The children are trying hard to keep their room clean. I saw Hannah make the bed and so on.
And then we had the whole rigmarole of convincing Sofia to go with us horse back riding.
But in the end we did it.
But we had to come back to the hotel because we could not find my insulin.
Oh dear.
And so then we finally hit the road. It was a tough psychological battle with time to get there but we did and when we got there we ate at a nice restaurant (Farfar said he liked it) and then the horse back riding experience was really good. Sofia’s horse was much more wild than Hannah;’s and Sofia on several occasions had to wrrrestle with keeping it along the path and from eating grasses. But she did a very good job.
And then the children went along on the ski lift – sledding. Farfar and I tried to catch up with them but it was not possible, Ok. We took the ski lift.
And then Hannah went back to the trampoline and Sofia took to the rick climbing. Hannah wanted to use up the last ticket but I am afraid that it was Sofia’s so I arranged for Hannah to give it to Sofia. Farfar complimented Hannah for being so kind. And then Sofia got all the way to the top of the wall and rang the bell. WOW!
Hannah was jealous and made up stories like that she had already gone up to the top and rang the bell while we were on the ski lift.
“I believe that you were up there as much as I believe in Santa Clause.”
And then we ate ice cream and drive back.
And Farmor was in a slightly funny mood and blamed me and Farfar for forcing the children to do what we wanted to do : go horse back riding.
Then we went to dinner at the Asian Buffet.
We went to Wallgreens to buy chap stick for Farmor. Farfar bought some markers for Sofia and Hanah.
Hannah said “Bitte Farfar,” and Farfars melted (sort of) and said “Ja Hannah mein Kind.”
And then we azrgued in the car. I had provided the children with paer for them to try out their markes in the car and Farmor had said that the children were not to draw in the car and I wanted to know why and was told that it was because she had said so and so you can imagine where that went.
Detrimental to all of us.
And then we came back to the bed and breakfast, Farfar had nothing to do with anyone any more – he read his book and Farmor tried to stay with the children a bit but was bored by the story of Spiderman and then stormed out of the room. Again, the kids did not know what to make of her but they decided that it had nothing to so with them, that it was a psychological problem that Farmor had and that was that. I put them to bed and kissed them.

April 7, 2008
When I got to the Hotel, at about 8:00AM, Hannah and Sofia were already awake and they were watching Spiderman. I joined them for a little while but was soon able to convince them to put their clothes on for breakfast. I think they like breakfasts at the bed and breakfast. Then I went down stars
Funny that, then Farfar knocked on their door and asked them to get ready for breakfast. That is positive reinforcement. I was at that point down stairs with this machine.
“My goodness, what another beautiful day,” Linda exclaims. And Yes, the sun is shining splendidly. What are we going to do this morning?
“Do you need help?” I ask Linda.
“Maybe in an insane asylum?”
“Oh, I can only help you actualize your deepest and prettiest tinsaniies,” I tell her. It is good.
Farfar comes down with a book.
“Man, he is lucky that he but only when we are together alone. They do not like it in public. At least Sofia does not. More on this later.
reads!” I need t do that too.
But I want to add that my children have taken a fancy to the idea that I am different. They understand this and in fact love it
And so it was that we went for a walk to the place where they make keys. A good idea. I was all for it. The children experienced a hardware store. This is good for them. They did not care for it but still.
Then we walked back to the hotel and I went to work.
When I came back from work I found them in the café. Sofia was throwing a a kind of temper tantrum and Hannah was cashing in on the Karma. I sat with Hannah for a little and then went and joined Sofia. It took me a little time to convince her to return to the table with us but eventually I was able to do that.
And then we decided to go to the speed art museum. It was closed because today is Monday.
So we went to Frankfort avenue. which was also mostly closed. But it was not a traumatizing situation for the children. They enjoyed walking along the rail road tracks and collecting rocks.
And then we came to my house. It was a perfectly crazy experience. But there were some good things that happened:
(1) Hannah played Frisbee with Farfar.
(2) Hannah rode on the moped. (on the gas tank)
(3) Hannah rode on the motorcycle in the side car.
(4) Sofia watched Farmor cook rice.
(5) Farfar rode the moped and the motorcycle and side car.
(6)
By the way, this week should be when I mark my seniority at the UPS. That means that in a month I will have health insurance for my children and me.

April 8, 2008
I arrived again just as the children were waking up. They came down to breakfast and again that was a real good experience. I took my children for a walk to the Thornton’s gas station and we bought sour things and then it was time for me to got to work. Work took a long time. I left at 10:15AM and was not back until 3:30PM.
And when I came back, I found Farfar and Farmor in their room and Sofia and Hannah in their room. Now it as a trick to convince Sofia to get out of her doldrums. She locked herself in her room and I patiently tried to coax her out but in the end, when I discovered that Hannah had the key I was able to get in.
Then it still took a couple of hours for us to get out of there. And with this psycho-what-have-you we were not able to go to the Speed Art Museum. Nobody complained to Sofia about this, we just accepted that she had destroyed that hope.
And then Sofia, Hannah and I went to the gas station to try call LL, but LL did not pick up the phone.
Hannah invited me to watch Thunder over Louisville from her house and this disturbed Sofia a great deal. She said to Hannah “Mommy will hate you,” “Mommy will throw a fit if she hears that you did that,” and so on.
We had dinner at the Bristol and dropped off the children with LL. That was a good moment. Farfar spoke with LL for a good long time and just kept her going and recounted some of the stories of the last couple of days and I played with Hannah and Sofia.
Well, my dear children, the USA is in an economic recession and at war without provocation, massive and growing federal deficit. The USA has been at war for as long as LL has been hell to my children and me. And what does that mean? It means literally that for the impoverished of America, the future of the children is dependent on creative parents. My children do not have any knowledge of social or political concerns. I believe that LL no longer listens to NPR or the BBC. At least I doubt that LL listens to these programs in the presence of the children. Certainly Nancy never listened to the news when I visited.
And so my children did not know of the three presidential candidates except that Rebecca likes Obama.
Email for LL:
Dear Lorena,
I am sending you this email to let you know that unless you agree to having me spend two hours with Sofia and Hannah over Spring Break that I will be taking you to court. I intend to ask for custody of the children as well because, of course, I should always have had custody of our children. . Also, please pick up your phone.
Sincerely,
Allan

Dear Farfar and Farmor,
I understand, after overhearing Farfar speaking with Lorena, that Farfar was not pleased with some of the things that transpired over spring break with Sofia and Hannah – although he did add that it was in total average more good than bad.
I think I have very little control over my children. I will loose control over them completely as they become teenagers. The ages between 4 and 9 are VERY important and I have lost access to my children during this time. But you know all that. However, there are some consequences. One of these is that BOTH my children are psychologically screwed – in different ways and to different extents. The cure? More interactions with them wherein which you manifest several traits: Love, understanding, empathy, chronic emotional support of their good natures, guidance here and there, and moral authority. Authority is not just something that you get for being older, but rather something that you get for acting in assertive and correct manner: In our case it means being sweet to Lorena in the presence of the children, telling the children that Lorena is always welcome, calling Lorena and Nancy in the presence of the children as much as possible, being willing to take the children to Lorena at all times, emailing and calling the children and so on. Farfar, I am not jealous of Lorena having a boy friend. She is a cold blood-psychopath-hell bitch. But the most powerful tool that can be used against such a shit is to be pretty and I hope she gets herself a boy friend because it stabilizes her pathological nature. Farfar, you are very able to be pretty and I see you doing that often. Just every now and then you say things that are shocking, like for example to suggest that I am wanting to reconcile with Lorena. My niceness with Lorena is only when the children are in the vicinity. Otherwise I am honest with her: she is a criminal and so is her mother. Farmor, I have no interest in irking Lorena, I am nice about her in the presence of my children because it is the right way to be – I have no choice anyway.
So, even though it may not have been always a happy spring break for you, it was a very good time for the children and very important as well. Thank you very much. I also had a good time – really good. I was able to play with my children like I have never been able to do so before.
Lots of love,
Allan
P.S. You brought good weather too! And you are taking it with you because it is raining now.

Dear Lionsharecology,
I just spent spring break with my children! My parents, whom we call Farmor and Farfar (those are Sweedish words) brought presents, some of which include clothes and they loved these. We went to the Falls of the Ohio State Park, collected rocks and things like that and watched the movie, visited the museum… and then Farfar and I walked with the kids along the path – the river is almost at a flood level!
Anyways, the children experienced a vacation type freedom that warranted them watching Charlie and the Chocolate Factory and so they must have gone to bed super duper late. On some nights.
The horse back riding experience was really good. Sofia’s horse was much more wild than Hannah;’s and Sofia on several occasions had to wrestle with keeping it along the path and from eating grasses. But she did a very good job.
And then the children went along on the ski lift – sledding. Farfar and I tried to catch up with them but it was not possible, Ok. We took the ski lift.
And then Hannah went back to the trampoline and Sofia took to the rick climbing. Hannah wanted to use up the last ticket but I am afraid that it was Sofia’s so I arranged for Hannah to give it to Sofia. Farfar complimented Hannah for being so kind. And then Sofia got all the way to the top of the wall and rang the bell. WOW!
We ate ice cream on the way back.
I put my children to bed and kissed them.
The children enjoyed walking along the rail road tracks and collecting rocks.
We came to my new house. It was a perfectly crazy experience: Hannah played Frisbee with Farfar. Hannah rode on the moped. (on the gas tank) Hannah rode on the motorcycle in the side car. Sofia watched Farmor cook rice. Farfar rode the moped and the motorcycle and side car. Yeah, my new house is fun.
We had our last dinner at the Bristol on Bardstown road. Then we took the children to their mother, LL: Farfar spoke with LL for a good long time and just kept her going and recounted some of the stories of the last couple of days and I played with Hannah and Sofia.
The USA is in an economic recession and at war without provocation, massive and growing federal deficit. The USA has been at war for as long as LL has been hell to my children and me. And what does that mean? It means literally that for the impoverished of America, the future of the children is dependent on creative parents.
What is going on with you?
Your brother Allan.
Here is an update on telephone interactions with my children.
I called this morning while I was still with Farfar and Farmor but no one picked up the phone. Then as I drove to the Highlands I drove past the place of LL and saw that everybody was there so there had been no reason for not being able to speak with the children -- at least it was very improbable. So I drove to the Sprint Telephone Store and called my children again but there was no answer. I did not get a telephone because I was told that I would be able to get a better telephone if I wait until the end of the month (at that point I will have been a customer for 24 months!) Do you remember that 24 months ago I was working at the Kroger Supermarket in Indianna?
And that was a good thing because I was standing
And then when talking to Rob Kearn in front of my car we heard the phone ring! I found my cell phone, in my engine compartment of my car and called my kids again to no avail.
When I returned home at 7:00PM I tried calling my children again. I got no response on the ‘linea baja’, but I got Sofia on the cell phone. She told me that she had been to the new restaurant that has games like ‘Gatti Land’ and a ‘Globo Loco.’ She had been there with Hannah, and her cousins (Joey, Leah and Ana) and I believe LL and Rebecca.
I asked her to ask Hannah to call me when we got cut off – we got cut off when they arrived at Rebecca’s place. “I love you Sofia” I said “I love you too,” she said.

Ok, so I found two things in my mail box. One of them is a copy of the document that John Helmers is no longer my lawyer. I would like to visit him again soon to see what he would require to become my lawyer again.
And then I got an order from the Judge. It states that I am the petitioner and LL is the responder. This is not the case. Ok Ok. . I must fix this in time. The Judge thinks that I disparage LL in front of the children. The Judge issues some harsh words about non-compliance with the orders which are meaningless since there is no way to check on anything that LL (or I) do. The court is inclined to think that a parenting coordinator or joint counselor is a good idea. I hope she does this. The letter states that on April 4rth, 2008, the depositions had still not been filed. Anyways, the allegations of me implementing bad talk and the allegations of LL preventing me from seeing my children were both discredited for lack of concrete evidence.


April 10, 2008: Here is my first draft:
Dear Judge Patricia Walker Fitzgerald,
Thank you for the Order NO. 06-CI-501203, LASKY VRS. LASKY-HEADRICK. It states that “The court is inclined to think that a joint counselor or a parenting coordinator is appropriate…. However the parties have nearly completed depositions… and the Court will reserve ruling on Mr. Lasky’s request until all such testimony has been submitted.” Regarding this issue: The court reporter is Wendy McLaughlin
101 North Seventh Street
Louisville, Kentucky 40202
(502) 561-3467
And her court transcripts of all the deposition have been available since March 18, 2008. It appears that the respondent is dragging their feet in submitting the transcripts of the depositions. I am asking for a hearing so that a deadline by which time the depositions must have been filed or alternativly , that the court may rule on a basis that excludes such testimony.
Also, Again and very soon after the last hearing, Allan R. Headrick was not able to be with his children for a two hours. Allan has extrinsic evidence and would like to present this to the court.
Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
But in the end this is what I sent Lorena and her lawyer, Mason:
Dear Lorena and Mason,
I will be sending something similar to this to the court by this week unless you respond in an appropriate manner.

Dear Judge Patricia Walker Fitzgerald,
Thank you for the Order NO. 06-CI-501203, LASKY VRS. LASKY-HEADRICK.
All the deposition have been available since March 18, 2008. It appears that the respondent is dragging their feet in submitting the transcripts of the depositions. I am asking for a hearing so that a deadline by which time the depositions must have been filed or alternatively , that the court may rule on a basis that excludes such testimony.
Also, Again and very soon after the last hearing, I, Allan R. Lasky-Headrick, was not able to be with his Sofia and Hannah for a two hours. There is extrinsic evidence.
Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick

I got an email from LL:
Allan,

This is a reminder that you need to take Sofia to girl Scouts this Sunday. .Lorena.
I responded:
Dear Lorena,
Yes, I got that also from Kelly Walace and am OK with doing so. Have you sewn the patches on her band or would you like for me to do so?
Sincerely,
Allan

And so, unless LL changes her mind, I will see my children on Sunday, in four days.
Allan,

You can pay for copies of the seposition yourself and submit them. It is equally your fault so get in the game.

Also, if you paid back child support when you sold your house, then you would be looking very favorable in the Court's eyes. As it is, it is obvious you have no intention to take Court orders seriously so a motion such as you just wrote makes you seem at best a fool and at worst a hypocrite.
Lorena.
And I respond:
Dear Lorena,
I have already paid for the persons I have wanted deposed. They are my responsibility and the other people, like Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo are people who have not been worth anything to Sofia and Hannah. However, you asked for them to be deposed. I did not ask for them to be deposed. Consequently they are not in any sense my fault. In a more general sense, none of what has been going on in the court is my fault which means also that the so called back child support does not exist. It is a fiction of your imagination.
Sincerely, Allan

But I also got another email in response to my email where I asked of LL to “let you know that unless you agree to having me spend two hours with Sofia and Hannah over Spring Break that I will be taking you to court. …”and she responds as follows:


What kind of ridiculous email is this?!

First, the only two-hour peeriod you can say you were short on visitation hours is the SUnday in March that you brought the children home two hours early. Instead of bringing them at 7:00, you brought them around 5:10pm. Quote you, "Hannah was unsustainable." Hannah was acting up & cryign incessantly to come home. You said you "gave in" and brought her home. That was your choice. You did not say, "Can you give me two hours another time if I bring her home." You simply called & asked if I was home & if you could bring the girls home. AFTER you dropped them off, you said on the front porch, "can I make up this time?" I said, "yea, probably," That is not a promise.

You, Allan, have not mentioned this to me ONCE since then. You did not say, "can we try to m ake up those two hours?" The first time you mention this is with this threatening email, proving once again that (a) you do not want to "work things out" like you whiningly prentend in Court, and (b) you are using the Courts as a way to threaten me (not a proper use iof the Court), and finally (c) you do not have the best interest of the children in your mind.

How in your mind does sending me a threatening email during my vacation help the children?

You brought the children hom at 7:35pm on Tuesday. That was 30 minutes late.

You brought the children home at 7:40pm on Tuesday April 1. That was 30+ minutes late.

Therefore, you have already made up one of the two hours. You may keep the children an extra hour this Sunday. You can bring them home at 8:00pm. So, then this little two hour issue will be taken care of.
Lorena

Well, LL has basically called me “ridiculous,” “ a fool and at worst a hypocrite.” She calls my issue a “little two hour issue.” She is as she is.

Dear Lorena,
It is incredible to read what you write. It reminds me of Jean Paul Sartre’s fiction where surreal social forces destroy a person and that person is under siege with the notion that reality is a kind of mad theater. You are to me as you were in Paraguay. Our lack of coherence shows that we need a person to make sense of the quagmire injected into the lives of Sofia and Hannah: Frequent parenting-counseling sessions and the like. Would you please agree to do this with me?
But in any case, I have asked you to make up the two promised hours in emails (on April 1 and 8) and in person (on March 22, 27 as well as April 1 and 4rth) and so I am now glad to get a first response from you about this and this is the sixth time (not the first) that I ask you.
And also please remember that I have nearly never received Sofia and Hannah at the court agreed time which is 5PM. This is because you work until 5:00PM. I am with them for the time interval agreed in court.
You promised our children and me a two hour make up, in a WRITTEN document in March 2008. Would you mind allowing the children to be with me for two hours on Monday, after school instead of an extra hour on Sunday? As always, you are welcome to share this time with us.
Sincerely,
Allan.
7:00PM I was able to speak with both of my children. This has not happened in a very long time and has been extremely infrequent in years. With Hannah I was playful because she was playful. She pretended to be Joe (I think that is the name of LL’s boy friend) but then changed it to Jareld (?) and I said things like “I am very pleased to speak with you sir and my name is Allan,” and “Let’s meet for a cup of tea at the Highland coffee house, do you know where that is?” And then I spoke with Sofia who told me that she had cleaned up her room while Grammy baby sat them and then gone to Wall*Mart. They had purchased items for the “Thunder over Louisville party” that LL is hosting at her place.
LL refused to speak with me. I asked her “how are you?” and she passed the phone on to one of the children.

April 11, 2008
I called the KGB and left the following message: “Hello, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick and I am trying to get in touch with David Weathersby, Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo certainly at least about statements that were made during the depositions that took place in March regarding allegations you have made that say that I called and parked my car or have been in your parking lot. I am sure that you approve and applaud me advocating that people speak truthfully and denounce liars. Would all of you please contact me? My telephone number is 714 – 8577 Thank you.”
I called Misty Rowan and left the following message: “Hello Misty, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick and before I continue in my plight to save my children I wanted to speak with you. You promised me when we met that you would call me back. Please do so. I want to get a copy of your report. My telephone number is 714 -8577. Thank you.
I called John Helmers, my lost lawyer, to ask for his help. He said that I should write Judge Patricia Walker Fitzgerald a letter that goes as follows:

To the Honorable Patricia Walker-Fitzgerald
Judge, Jefferson Circuit Court
Family Court. Division Three (3)

Re: Lasky-Headrick v. Lasky
Case No. 06-CI-501302
Request for a date for a hearing

Dear Judge Patricia Walker-Fitzgerald:

This Honorable Court has reserved ruling on my request for a ruling on whether I may have possession of my children overnight during the extended parenting time given in the Agreed Order entered into by the parties at the conclusion of the hearing of June 12, 2007. The Court's ruling was reserved until the depostions of all witnesses had been submitted.

Regarding this issue: The court reporter is Wendy McLaughlin, 101 North Seventh Street, Louisville, Kentucky 40202 (502) 561-3467 Her transcripts of all the deposition have been available since March 18, 2008. In light of this situation, I respectfully request that a date be set for a hearing at which I will submit a motion requesting a deadline for the filing of such depositions or alternatively , that the court may rule on a basis that excludes such depositions.

Respectfully submitted,

Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
I stopped by the court house to write the following a letter to Judge Patricia Walker Fitzgerald. However, the clerk’s office was closed. I found out though, that the clerk’s office telephone number is (502) 595-3025. Here is the letter I had intended to submit.
Dear Judge Walker-Fitzgerald,
Thank you for the Order NO. 06-CI-501203, LASKY VRS. LASKY-HEADRICK.
All the deposition have been available since March 18, 2008. The respondent does not want to submit the transcripts of the depositions. I am asking that the court please rule on a basis of the testimony it already has.
With deepest respect,
Allan Robert Headrick
I regret to say that today I was not able to speak with my children. I called, as usual at 7:00PM but also around 5PM because I drove by LL’s house and saw that the car was there and the front door was open, and yet when I called no one answered the phone.
April 12, 2008
9:20AM I called and the phone was simply hung up? I called again. LL picked up the phone. It was a complicated connection. Finally LL admitted that the phone was not working and said that the children would call me back on the cell phone. She also said that we would be able to speak tomorrow after 6:00PM. The children were also at this time just waking up.
10:20AM or thereabouts I called again – to LL’s cell phon and this time I got to speak with Sofia and Hannah. We spoke well and joked and it was funny. We considered options for tomorrow: The zoo, the park, the science museum, the speed art museum and so on.

April 13, 2008
Oh what a day! It was a good day for the children even though they did not think so: they learned a lot of German and Science. Sofia did a homework on light, sound, heat, electricity and magnetism. We went to the Spanish church service and that was cool too (even though they hated it.) Yes, all in all it was a great day – even the Girl Scouts was great. Oh, and I actually took some videos and pictures of today.
Let me recount the day. I got the children late. The children knew that they would be with me until 8:00PM because LL had told them – even though LL had not read my email she told them this? I mean, she just went ahead and decided that they can know something about my day that she untilaterally decided. That’s LL for you.
Sofia was not in a good mood when I got her. LL put the blame .on me in front of the children. She accused me of being stupid (about parking the car at the gas station so the children have to walk there) and ‘incompetent,’ (about doing homework with Sofia. LL said “You did zero homework while she was with you and your family over spring break.” I asked LL to please email me these accusations rather than tell me in front of the children.
Sofia became happy within minutes of getting away from LL’s place.
Hannah told me that she had been advised by Mark Duke that I need to respect her personal space. I thought that was pretty strange so I will call Mark Duke, her teacher to conference with him.
We had breakfast at Day’s café and then went ot Wall*Mart, bought things that Sofia needed for her school.
Sofia said that she needed medicine so I called LL to fin out what that was but LL did not pick up the phone and she did not call back until we were gone from the store.
We went to the ice cream parlour and picked up my bike. The children ate ice creams.
We came to my house and while Hannah watched Tim und Struppi, Sofia worked on her homework with the materials we had bought at Wall*Mart.
Then we visited the neighbor, Jody, who has a collection of baby cats. Hannah loved this.
Then we went to Girl Scouts. I allowed Hannah to reamin with the girl scouts the entire time for the first time today.
Then we came back to my place and watched cPippi Langstrumpf, petted cats again, did art, worked some more on the homework….
And then we went to the Spanish church service in the catholic Iglesia on 4rth street.
LL called to tell me that she had read my email – at about 6:30PM and that she is alright with letting me have the children on Monday… but I was not able to get that message until after leaving the church which was already 7:00PM?
Will that happen? Is she afraid of court?
And then I took them home. I videotaped the last moments with them. It shows what a person LL is to me as well as lots of other stuff.

April 14, 2008
I went to the curt house and filed the motion below:
NO. 06-CI-501203 JEFFERSON CIRCUIT COURT
FAMILY DIVISION THREE (3)

ALLAN ROBERT LASKY-HEADRICK PETITIONER
v. MOTION FOR A HEARING
LORENA MARIE LASKY (FORMERLY LASKY-HEADRICK) RESPODENT

NOTICE
It is hereby noticed that on Monday, April 13, 2008, at 10:00 a.m., in the above courtroom, the undersigned will make the following Motion and tender the attached Order

MOTION
Petitioner, Allan Robert Lasky-Headrick, moves this Court to hold Respondent In non-compliance with the court for not submitting the transcripts of the depositions.

In support of this motion, Petitioner states two things:
(1) That Respondent has sent an email indicating that she is disinclined from submitting the depositions. And,
(2) The transcripts of the depositions have been available since March 18, 2008.

This Honorable Court has reserved ruling on Petitioner’s request for possession of his children overnight during the extended parenting time given in the Agreed Order entered into by the parties at the conclusion of the hearing of June 12, 2007. The Court's ruling was reserved until the depositions of all witnesses had been submitted.

Regarding this issue: The court reporter is Wendy McLaughlin, 101 North Seventh Street, Louisville, Kentucky 40202 (502) 561-3467. Her transcripts of all the deposition have been available since on or before March 18, 2008. In light of this situation, Petitioner respectfully requests that a date be set for a hearing at which Petitioner will submit a motion requesting a deadline for the filing of such depositions or alternatively that the court may rule on a basis that excludes such depositions.



NO. 06-CI-501203 JEFFERSON CIRCUIT COURT
FAMILY DIVISION THREE (3)
ALLAN ROBERT LASKY-HEADRICK, PETITIONER,
v. ORDER
LORENA MARIE LASKY (FORMERLY LASKY-HEADRICK), RESPONDENT.

Upon Motion of Petitioner, and the Court being otherwise sufficiently advised, IT IS HEREBY ORDERED the that a hearing will be held on the above matter on the ___ day of _____, 2008 at _:_ _ .m., allowing Respondent to show cause, if any, why she should not be held in non-compliance of this Court and requesting a deadline for the filing of such depositions or alternatively , that the court may rule on a basis that excludes such depositions.


Date: _________________, 2007 _____________________________

JUDGE,
JEFFERSON FAMILY COURT
FAMILY DIVISION THREE (3)


cc.
Allan R. Lasky Headrick Mason Trenaman, Esq.
1329 Lillian Ave 600 W. Main Street
Louisville, Ky 40208 Suite 200
Louisville, Ky 40202




 




CERTIFICATE OF SERVICE
It is hereby certified that a true and correct copy of the foregoing was served, via email and hand delivered at 8:00AM this April 13, 2008, upon:

Mason Trenaman, Esq.
600 W. Main Street
Suite 200
Louisville, Kentucky 40202
Fax-584-1744
Counsel for Respondent.
 
And there, at the court house I found out from the Clerk that Helmers had not filed the deposition of Richard Nassr. So I went to Helmers office and got his secretary to promise me that she would call me with a response about this issue. She seemed very stressed out but I was very polite.
Of course, Helmers did not call me today.
I called LL at about 4:00PM and told her that I would be at the Highland Coffee House at 5:15PM and she agreed to let me be with them for an hour and a half today “because I brought them at 7:30PM and so half an hour of the two hour make up has already been used up.”
April 14, 2008: LL had told me that she had sent this email yesterday and we had agreed on the phone – in a kind of relaxed and not too sure way, that if I brought the children right after church that I could have them today, Monday…
Allan:
I am just now reading this email at 6:45pm on SUnday. I did not read my email on Saturday and, as I told you this morning, I was in a workshop all day today until 6pm.

It is agreeable to me to make up the time on MOnday April 14th instead of tonight. I have tried to call you 4 times in the last 15-20 minutes and was hung up on twice. THe last two times it went straight to voice mail & I have left two messages.

Depending upon what time the kids get home tonight, we will renegotiate this make-up time but I am responding while I am logged on.
And so now, here I am at the Highland Coffee house waiting for my children.
There they are: I speak with LL just liong enough to tell her that Hannah believes in God but Sofia does not and she agrees with me.. so she knows and it is probably Nancy Lasky who is doing this? Hum?
And then we walk to the Asian Buffet and from there to LL’s. The children laughed and were happy the whole time. LL would not speak with me when I dropped the children off.
I walked back to the Highland Coffee House and drove my car back to LL’s. There was no ne at her house. I left the legal document in her mail box. I took a ton of pictures of today.

April 15, 2008,
Yes, I do not stand much of a chance of getting along with LL because I have a very hard time being nice to her about what she has done to the children – at least until we have joint custody.
I arrived at the Highland Coffee Shop at 5:15PM and she was already there with the children. Today was to be a good day! I would have the children from 5:15PM to 8:30PM.
Now, this was something that LL did not exactly want. She was working in the L and M building until 8:00PM and wanted me to bring the children at 7:15PM to hang around with her at her desk there – she is doing something to do with foster children (amazing to me since that is the woman who coached my children to lie, but anyway) and the L and M building is the site of Child Protective Services, the institution that catalyzed her hell upon my relationship with the children. I called her and told her that I would not bring the children to the L and M building so she came to my house to pick up the children at 8:30PM. I am, by the way, being quite polite about LL’s behavior on the phone. I will however say that she told me that this would detract form my next visit to which I responded that I will never allow any detractions to take place after four years of her detractions. She also told me that she will call the police and I said “have fun!”
I am guessing she did not call the police. I did not see them at my house or at the park.
But the children had a good time at the park, riding bikes, playing and then with the neighbors and the cats/kittens and then they watched videos of themselves while eating dinner.
LL did speak with Sofia and that resulted in Sofia feeling torn about me not taking her and Hannah to the L and N building, but she put up very little resistance to staying at my house. She sat on my lap and watched the movie.
When LL came, Sofia was more interested in watching the movie (of herself) than she was interested in getting in LL’s car. So, that took a few minutes.
But it is clear that Sofia and Hannah need and love their mother and that their mother is important to them no matter how evil LL may have been to me. This has always been clear to me. The changes that have happened this year include that now the children have opted to prefer no contact between their parents. That is exactly what LL wants.
Oh well, LL has drunken from the life of a sociopath and is now on a path similar to George W. Bush!
LL refused to promise me that she would speak with me on Friday evening. She suggested that Friday evening might be a good time, but refused to promise talking with me because “she can not see that far in the future.”


April 16, 2008
I emailed a copy of the motion to have a hearing that I will present the court on the 28th to Trenaman, LL’s lawyer.
I was not able to speak with my children today.

April 17, 2008
I called an left a message for Mark Duke: I want to set up an appointment to meet him.
I picked up my children at 5:30PM because LL did not deliver them to me until then. I tried to confirm with LL that she would speak with me on Friday (tomorrow) but it was like pulling teeth so I don’t really feel assured that she will call me or pick up the phone when I call. However, she did say that she does not feel that I call her(?) which I think is perfectly insane, so I will start calling her with greater frequency.
I had brought the bikes to Highland Coffee House so we rode on them, first to the mall (where we bought dinner at Subway) and then we rode our bikes to the skateboard rink down town.
We watched the teenagers perform their stunts.
Then we stopped by the Barack Obama campaign headquarters on our way to LL’s.
I then rode my bike back to the Highland Coffee House and put my bike in the trunk, drove the car back to LL’s house in order to pick up the bikes from the children. Oh! I found Hannah practicing on her skateboard in the front of the house. I showed her how to pivot swivel on the skateboard.
LL was angry when she realized that Hannah was with me. She blamed Hannah for being in the front of the house without having told her. I said to LL “She was with me.”
“She still needs to tell me!”
“No, she does not. I am just as much a parent as you.”
Hannah was very loving as I left. She called out “I love you Daddy!” and I waved at her through the sunroof and called out “Ich liebe dich auch.”

April 18, 2008
Today is Zimbabwe’s independence day from England and it’s people have nothing to be happy about. It’s economy, filled with contempt, is subjugating its people inflicting 160% inflation per year. Robert Mugabe, the dictator, raising his clenched fist is continuing to play with his people.
I got a call from Mark Duke, Hannah’s teacher. He is concerned. He said that Hannah’s behavior in class is becoming “destructive.”
She is not obeying classroom regulations, she took a quarter and scratched the walls, she is not doing her class work….
“This is certainly not the first time!” I responded and we set up an appointment for Tuesday at 8:30AM.
By the way, the sub=prime mortgage crisis has crippled, not only the US economy, but that of the entire world.
But anyway, Mark Duke denied ever having told Hannah or influenced her to manifest any psychological distance from me.

On Sunday I need to teach Hannah how to do math. I told Sofia that she should let Hannah know that I will be making sure that she can do her addition! So, yes, I was able to speak with Sofia at 7:00PM. She told me that she was at Grammy’s. Rich was mowing the lawn. Lara was with her five month old baby, Leylanie (not sure about the spelling)…
Sofia and I were cut off not too long after our conversation started. I called again and the phone was not picked up. I told LL that I would be calling her at 9:00PM. I also told her that I would like to speak with Hannah.
She never called me,
I called three times between 9:00PM and 11:30PM but she never picked up the phone.
Pope Benedict is in the USA and he is suggesting that the USA should intervene when there is Genocide in the world.
Jimmy Carter is meeting with Hammas – I reckon Obama likes this. I know Bush hates this: He does not believe in discourse with the enemy (and Hammas is according to Bush a terrorist organization.). I have no idea what Hilary thinks.
The British and the US banks are in severe problems with sub-prime mortgages.
Zimbabwe is still ruled by Robert Mugabe even though he lost the elections.
The group human rights watch has wcalled for an investigation of a reporter who is alleged to have been killed by an Israel tank.

April 19, 2008
On this god-forsaken day, I did not interact with my children and certainly also not with LL. Needless to say, LL nor my children made no attempt to call me. But I knew from my conversation with Sofia yesterday that my children were with Nancy and Lara last night and today.

April 20, 2008
I explained to LL that Hannah needed to do Math before we leave. I explained to her that Hannah had refused to do any Math in front of Archana’s house, that I had asked Sofia to tell her that we would do Math, and that I had not been able to speak with Hannah on the phone today, even though I had called and left a message asking to speak with Hannah.
“Yes, you spoke with Hannah,” LL lies “I passed the phone to Hannah twice!”
That’s Lorena.
LL told me that it was irresponsible for me to do Math with the children since Sofia had not eaten anything. She had a point here, but I decided that it was not sufficient to alter my path.
I explained to the children that Hannah had “won” already in front of Archana’s house and now it was my turn.
Well, it took some time – about half an hour. Sofia and Hannah debated and finally they came to LL’s front porch with pebbles: “We will only do math with the pebbles,” they declared.
“Ok, Sofia, show me using pebbles what 5/4 is. And you Hannah have to tell me which pebbles are pennies, nickels, dimes, quarters…”
But I had a pocket full of change and we played a game that involved Hannah buying my cell phone, my digital camera and so on. She learned how to count coins. It was clear to me that she had never done this before or if she had tried, she had not developed an algorithm hat worked for her. Soon enough, she had a grasp of adding coins.
We walked slowly to my car which was parked at the Thorntons where once again Hannah counted out the money she needed to pay for her smoothie and life was good.
But let me go back and say that LL was ttruly a terrible person at her place. She called me “rude,” “irresponsible” and according to the children she calls me “”weird” and “crazy” when I am not around. And the children were not ready at 9:00AM, they arrived in my area at 9:15AM. LL picked the children up at 7:00PM right on the dot.
Ok, the children and I discussed how we would go to the Speed Art Museum. I wanted to ride the bikes there but they wanted to go in the car. We flipped a coin and they won so we drove to the Speed Museum – only to find that it was closed.
I took them to my house.
Hannah learned a lot of German! In fact, Hannah is right at the edge of beginning to speak German. She spoke more German today, both to me and to herself, than she ever has since arriving in the USA. She watched Pipi Langstrumpf, Tim und Struppi and a Disney movie in German today. In the mean time Sofia cooked pancakes.
“Daddy I am having a little bit extra coming up for you and Hannah OK?”
Sofia is cooking pancakes. She is loving this endeavor and is being creative about it - creating shapes and forms…
Sofia also drew pictures of all nine planets. Then Sofia came and sat on my lap to watch the movies with Hannah. Sofia loves sitting on my lap.
Hannah loves riding motorcycles with me. She gets in front and loves the feeling. She had a bag of flowers that she had collected from the ground in front of my house and she spread these as we rode around. Hannah also loves the park.
I called LL to establish if she or I would be picking up/ delivering the children and LL agreed to pick them up.
When LL came to pick the children up she was on the phone and so I was not able to speak with her.

April 21, 2008
8:19AM LL called me to suggest that I call Mason Trenaman, her lawyer because she does not believe Trenaman has gotten notice of the motion I am presenting the court on the 28th. I told her that I had emailed it to her.
I think LL was confused, thinking that it was set for today (it is Monday.)
Anyway, she gave me Trenaman’s tel. number
(502) 589 – 6190
Hum? I do not care to call her lawyer. I suppose I could, but why? I will probably wait a couple of days and then hand deliver the document to him…
LL said that she is getting the depositions prepared. She said that I should cancel the motion fro this reason. She said that “Trenaman is preparing the motion and will submit it this week.”
She said that she had to pau $800 to purchase the depositions and this is the reason it was taking so long.
“You pay for evil,” I thought and changed topics of conversation.
“Sofia and Hannah say that you are moving out on May 5th?”
“Well, no but I am hoping to close on that day.” She responded.
“Good luck Rena,” said and with that the conversation ended.
LORENA IS A CRIMINAL WHO GOT AWAY FWITH THE CRIME. I am acclimated to the reality that there are many people who commit crimes and do not get caught and that LL is one of them. This is nothing novel.
The problem that my children and I still have is that LL continues to pretend that I am a criminal and after all this time, she has a long history that no one wants to tackle.
I have fun at work at UPS and a great source of my pleasure has to do with having made a friend who, like me, has been denigrated sociologically and most unethically.
There has been a huge shake up in Paraguay’s political realm: Fernando Lugo a Catholic Bishop, not of the Partido Colorado, won the presidency. “Today we can state that small people can also win. This is the Paraguay of my dreams. Hoy más que nunca este Lugo los quiere mucho.”
Finally Paraguay can smile.
Yes, mine is a careful dance, a dance of anger, but I move in my life here in Louisville in a dance of strategy and long term care.
And the dance is not easy.
There is a war going on in Iraq. There was a story on National Public Radio about a child who needed medical treatment in Bagdad, Iraq, and was sent to Kabul, Afghanistan, where again the doctors and hospitals refused to take the patient and so now the child is being shipped to Karachi, Pakistan…
And that story brings tears to my eyes, but that child is surrounded by love. My children and I, an in particular, my relationship with my children is hated. The child from Iraq may die and my children will live. Is a life with hate better than a shorter life with love? Tell me! Well, it depends. Children are versatile. My children may be able to wear off the hate? Or most of it?

I sent LL’s lawyer an email:
Mr. Trenaman esq.,
Your client, Lorena Lasky, called me this morning and told me that you will be submitting the depositions by Friday. If you confirm, then I will remove my latest motion. wherein which I ask for a hearing to put a deadline by which time the depositions are to be handed in or not considered.
Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
I was able to speak with Hannah for just a little time. LL picked up the phone and said “did you call Trenaman?”
“No, I emailed him.” I said. Then she put me with Hannah and that lasted barely a couple of seconds. I called back to speak with Sofia but LL did not pick up the phone and so I left a message asking to speak with Sofia.
9:30PM I called LL and she picked up the phone! Wow! Cool! This is the first time in ages that she actually picks up the phone.
I said “Can we talk Rena?”
She said “I guess we can talk for a little bit.”
“How long is a little bit? Is it five minutes?”
“I do not know.”
“Can I have the children over at my house?”
“No.”
“Why not?”
“Because you failed the lie detector test.”
“Well, I swear that the children’s statements do not have an iota of truth.”
“uhum.”
“And so that means that the source of their statements must have come from Kentucky.”
“Allan, if you are going to accuse me, I am going to hang up.”
“I am just speaking the truth, but why is Hannah doing so badly in school?”
“She is not.”
“Yes, she is.”
“No she is not.”
“Well the only two changes that have happened is that she is taking less ADHD medicin and she has been with you.”
“Why don’t you tell me that her meds are being reduced?
“Well, I am sure that you want the information but you take no responsibility for making the payments.”
“If I had custody of the children then they would by fully insured.”
“I am going to hang up.”
Click.

Lorena is a very evil woman. I know that she is evil because the evidence is too great: for example, less than a year ago she tried to coach Hannah to claim that I had sexually abused her. There was another round of allegations – this was again fully the work of a cold blooded conniving woman: my EX-wife.
So how to address her when I next see her tomorrow evening? My usual self would be to smile, laugh and say something like “thank you for speaking with me when I called you last night. That was a very nice gesture and I am deeply happy that you spoke with me. When do you think we can talk again?”
I called the KGB and left a message on their answering machine that went as follows: “Hello, this is Allan Robert Lasky-Headrick. I am the father of Sofia and Hannah. You Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo, have severely thwarted my reputation in the world without my being eligible. That is to say that everything you have spoken to the judges in Kentucky and Texas is not worth the nitrogen you exhaled or inhaled. And now you are not speaking to me – or at least you have not for a while. I am guessing that you are scared because of the heinous socio-pathological influence that you have both endorsed and supported in the lives of my children? So, if that is not the case or what ever reason you may have for not calling me before, please call me now. My telephone number is (502) 714 – 8577. Thank you.

April 22, 2008
I met Mark Duke and the EEC teacher – I have forgotten her name. I explained that Hannah had acted in threatening manners to herself and to her classmates and teachers at the last school. I explained that she was sent to the Western Day Care Training Center. Hannah has been acting out of sorts according to both the teachers I spoke with. She has either pretend punched a kid in the face or actually done so. She has scratched the walls with a quarter. She says things that make no sense and reacts in manners that are not expected. Like she will say something that “comes from left field.”
I explained to the teachers that Hannah had been used as a pawn in LL’s ploy to get rid of me – that I had been accused of sexually abusing Hannah and that this was, of course, completely false.
I told Mark Duke that any indication that he could give Hannah that provides her with an understanding that he can be trusted, is honest, fair and square is good for Hannah.
I told the teachers that Hannah lies.
As I rode my motorcycle back home I wondered to myself “am I still the victim?” The answer, as best I can resolve is that I have never really allowed myself to experience the sensation of victimhood, rather I felt that my children were/are the victims. AND THEY ARE STILL! All you have to do is observe the behavior of the Lasky’s in our presence. But yes, I have been and continue to be the object of the label “pedophile.” And so the straight answer to the question is “yes, I am still a victim,” but I do not feel it because I am much too global to fall for such local crap.
An email from the Girl scouts troop leader:
On Saturday April 26 is the Sign of the Sun Workshop (Junior's Only), we will meet at Deer Park at 8:30 am, please do not be late.

The girls that are registered are: Katherine, Katie, Alexis, Emma, Zoe, Sofia, and Jasmine
Please bring 1 - 10 pairs of socks for donation (See below for Service Project #1)

BethAnn and myself will get the girls at the workshop and Carolyn will meet us at 1 pm, I will be leaving at 1 pm so BethAnn and Carolyn will get the girls back to Deer Park after the workshop.

_____________________________________________________________________________

On Sunday April 27 3-4:30 pm is our last meeting of the troop year.

Brownie's are you still bringing your supplies to finish the try-it, Number and Shapes, if I need to pick up any supplies please let me know.

Zoe -- bring snack enough for 16 girls

We will also have a year end meeting/ceremony in May, make sure to keep an eye on your email for date and time.

Thanks,
Kelly





________________________________________

Hello!
Thank you for registering for Troop 1957's Sign of the Sun Workshop. This email confirms that I have received your registration and we are looking forward to Saturday's workshop! I need to give you some details for the day. Please pass this information on to the girls and parents in your troop (especially #2!).

1) Basic information:
- Please be sure you meet Safety-Wise requirements for adults. For Juniors, that means 2 adults for 2 - 16 girls.
- Do not bring Tag-alongs (with the exception of nursing mothers). We have over 50 girls attending plus adults. We did not count on Tag-alongs attending, and will not have room or accomodations for them.
- Troops will remain together. We have divided attendees into 4 groups. The workshop leaders will rotate for 4 sessions while girls remain seated in their groups.

2) Service project #1: One of our activities is to do a service project for a church or community organization. Since the church is allowing us to use the space, we have decided to work with them on a service project. Please have each girl bring a packet of new socks. They can bring 1 pair to 10 pairs - whatever they think they can bring. The socks can be for men, women, girls or boys. The Salem United Church of Christ will distribute them to homeless and needy people. This church is very active in the community.
3) Service project #2: As stated on the registration form, we will be doing a service project for U.S. Soldiers overseas. We will be folding small flags for soldiers to put in their pockets and take with them out in the field. These are called "pocket flags." We will provide everything needed for this project. We think this will be a great project with lasting effects for the men and women fighting for us overseas. It's one way to remind them that we support and appreciate what they are doing - regardless of anyone's political views.

4) Check-in: Check-in will begin at 9:30 AM. We will serve a breakfast of doughnuts, fruit, juice, and milk until 10:00. We will have coffee for the adults. Please don't be late - it will throw everything off and we won't be able to give you and your girls the proper instructions and attention you need to get started. You may arrive 10 - 15 minutes early to speed the check in process, if you want. Upon arrival, girls will be escorted to their workshop room. Breakfast will be eaten in the workshop rooms.
5) Lunch: Lunch will be at 11:55. We will be serving pizza, salad, cookies, and lemonade. We will have cheese and pepperoni pizzas. Adults are welcome to join us for lunch. There is no charge for Safety-wise adults from each troop. If additional adults would like to join us for lunch, the cost is $5 per adult.

6) Snack: We will provide a snack at about 1:50. Snack will consist of popcorn and lemonade.


7) Award ceremony: After girls have completed all the activities, we will do a small award ceremony to present them with their Sign of the Star patches. If we have time, the workshop leaders will lead the girls in a few closing songs.


8) Church address: The event is at the Salem United Church of Christ at 3408 Newburg Road in Louisville. Get on 264 - Waterson Parkway. Take the Newburg Road exit South (right if you're going East, left if you're going West). The church is on the right hand side - it's easy to see. Park in the back and enter the double glass doors.

9) One more thing - This day is going to be packed with activities, but will be a lot of fun! Girls will enjoy themselves more if they are well-rested. We are really looking forward to doing this workshop with you and your girls!

Be sure you keep my cell phone number handy. If you have any problems with directions, give me a call.

See you April 26th !
Jeanne Winrich
(502) 262-0015 cell
Troop 1957


Please call Hyatt Legal Plans at 1-800-821-6400 Monday through Friday 8-7 Eastern time, for information about your legal plan.

Dear Lorena,
Just to be sure that you are aware that we have agreed to share the birthdays of the children I am again and again and again reminding you with lots of patience and hoping that you are having a truly nice day.
Sincerely,
Allan
At 5:15 I found the girls and LL in the CEP. They let me in! The lady who let me in looked Hispanic so I spoke with her in Spanish and asked her to teach my children just a little bit of her language. Sofia later told LL that I had done this and put on the appearance of being displeased.
And then, by the time we finally got outside it was close to 5:30PM but LL said that since I had first had contact with the children at 5:15PM that it was 7:15PM when I was to bring the children. I said “Rena, I do not want to argue with you about a few minutes, what is more important is Hannah’s birthday.” LL agreed that I can pick the children up at 4:30PM from CEP and then she will pick them up from Ballet at 6:30PM. I suppose that is OK. Both Hannah and Sofia did not really know how to handle the situation with me and LL talking. They behaved in funny ways both ways (in LL’s favor and in mine.) For example, Hannah would throw something at me, then I would catch her and kiss her and she would scream “Mommy!” and there was a love/hate sort of behavior to her. Sofia complained to Sofia that I was taking her to Ballet but then she was clearly happy that I would be doing so when LL suddenly turned her head to look at Hannah who was scratching the tree. Sofia smiled at me and said “Daddy, you want to take us to the Kroger near there?” Sofia and Hannah like the Kroger supermarket near there because they have found a way to get quarters out of a vending machine.
And when LL was gone the children were happy as can be. It is not trivial how the forces generate weird behaviors in them when LL and I are together.
And we walked to the convenience store nearby and bought a smoothie and donuts as an appetizer. Then we walked to the Lemon Grass, Vietnamese Restaurant (via the bike shop) for dinner. We watched movies in German on the computer,-- Tim und Struppi and Der Toaster…. --- and then we walked home.
Sofia is in dire need of activities that are interesting to her! When I go buying more presents for Hannah tomorrow for her birthday, I want to find a good present for Sofia.
Yeah, I want to wake up early tomorrow, go to the bank – find two good presents (a skate board for Hannah and a Chemistry set for Sofia? She might hate it at first?)
But is it not a sad thing that LL will not share Hannah’s birthday with me. She will only divide it. The fact that she can do this is the work of the social workers/ therapists (Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo) here in Louisville. But it is, of course, LL’s fault, pure and simple.
I am saddened that Hillary Clinton won the Pennsylvania primaries. “My heart truly beats with a foreign rhythm and I look at you people in America, and I wonder, why do you cave in? Why di you appear to me so lame? So boring? So predictable? What ever happened to your creative instinct?”
I find myself explaining to a man, while registering people to vote (Yes, I have been volunteering for the Barrack Obama campaign for the last ten days) “The best years of my life have happened in other countries – Paraguay, India, The Dominican Republic) , the worst years of my life have happened in the USA, in Louisville.

April 23, 2008 (HANNAH’S BIRTHDAY!)
Barrack Obama is in New Albany, Indiana. (20 mins from my house).
It was a crazy day and in the end it was very pretty – well, except for LL…. Who was not bad, just cold in some ways…. Ok, let’s see.
I awoke to a splendid day. Riding my moped was a real-life dream. I went to the bank, got a couple hundred bucks (I sold my Lincoln, Mark VII the day before yesterday – the prestigious American Car with all the stickers for $300. I almost gave it away. The price reflects my feelings for the car. But it served me very well, over a year and 36 thousand miles. So now with the money, I first went to a store w2ere I bought presents for Sofia. I could not find anything that Hannah wanted. This is OK. I wanted to buy Hannah a skateboard anyway. And then I went to two skateboard shops and they were both closed. So, I went to work. After work I wrapped the two presents that I had for Sofia and then my yellow car would not start. I asked some kids on the street if they would help me. It was not easy to get their help but in the end they did help and I drove to the skateboard store. LL called me and told me tat she would give me the children at 4:15PM. That was nice! I said “YES!” and made it to the Highland coffee house by 4:20PM. LL called m at 4:15PM to determine my location. I asked LL if rather than “divide the children we could share them, both of us being with Hannah together?” and LL responded “Dream on.” I told her that she is like her mother. Anyways, I was at the Highland Coffee House right soon.
When I asked Hannah what she had gotten for her birthday she said that she had gotten nothing. However Sofia interjected and said that she had gotten an MP3 player. I was glad that she had gotten something. But it was clear that she was not thrilled.
The skateboard did not thrill her either at first.
We practiced it a little bit in the parking lot of the Highland coffee house and then her fascination started up.
But then we had to go to the Walgreens: There were two things we needed to accomplish. One of them was that we needed to buy Hannah another birthday present – because Sofia had two presents. The other was that we had to buy something to eat. I did not want the children to take Ballet classes without eating.
We bought Danish Butter Cookies, drinks… and got back in my car.
Now remember that my car does not start. It needs to be pushed to start. I had parked it so that it was on the curb so as to get a little bit of motion going to start. This caused the drinks the children were holding to splash and spill and Sofia lost control of her emotional rudder.
She called LL saying “Daddy stained m\y clothes!” (And I smiled but since I was driving the children could not see that.) Then Sofia became angst berrideled about making it to the Ballet on time. She called LL again and was all in tears about me wanting to take the children somewhere else first.
I stopped the car and told Hannah that I wanted some butter cookies too. “You have to share with me, you can not just share with Sofia!”
Then Sofia wanted Butter Cookies and a minute later Sofia was happy.
We bought ice cream and got changed for Ballet and made it to Ballet with plenty of time to spare and the children were happy as larks and that was pretty much the end of my time with them because I went back to my car to diagnose the issue with the starter. The starter is falling off!
LL was five minutes late. It did not matter because I was still with the children. When LL came she seemed like the all American snot: she did not get out of her car. She parked at the entrance to the Ballet parking lot and blocked anyone from entering or leaving and called for Hannah and Sofia to come and jump in the car. Hannah was distressed because she did not have her birthday presents with her. I told her that I would bring them to LL’s, “Mommy’s.”
But Sofia was not pleased that LL was late. I detected in her body language a shrug and a callousness to the whole situation with her mother being late.
LL has always been late --- some times so late as to have forgotten.
But I think there may be another component to Sofia’s shrug. It may be that she feels that she does not get enough time with her mother. In fact, LL has alluded to this. And the time that LL does have for the children she uses cleaning up after them.
This is in stark juxtaposition to me: I am there for the children. I always have been.
7:40PM Hannah called and asked me “How come you have not brought me my skateboard and the presents.”
“I will bring it to you now, I said.”
And I drove to LL’s. The front door was open. I called out the names of my children.
“Daddy!” Hannah called out and ran to me and hugged me.
I gave her the toys and then kissed her on the top of her head.
Very good.

I spent the rest of my evening volunteering for the Barack Obama Campaign.
Good night!

I did not get Sofia the Chemistry set I had dreamed of getting. Sofia has needs too.

April 24, 2008

Dear Lorena,
I am unable yet to resolve any reason why I should not be able to access the children from CEP. That is a time when you can not access them – since you are at work. It is a time that does not detract from the time that you are able to be with them. Do you think you could be so kind as to open up that interval for me to fill the lives of the children with other activities?
Also, I need to get an email about when I am to be with the children to make up for the time you will be out of state with them (or your family anyway—on the fancy rental property that their uncle is paying for in Florida ). I will give you until the end of this week to work out a time table to do so. That is Sunday. There is a motion hearing on Monday in spite of all attempts made to contact your lawyer and so I may address both issues at that time.
It is better to share than it is to divide.
Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick

I got my children at 5:25PM. I 2was with Peter at the Highland Coffee House and the children talked with him for a while and then we walked to Arby’s for dinner. I had purchased a science kit (electronics) which I presented to the children and they made the first four circuits.
Then we walked to Archana’s house.
We bought chocolate ymmies at the gas station near LL’s and finally ended up at LL’s.
I got a call from LL a few minutes before we arrived.
“Allan, can you do me a favor?”
“Yes, of course.”
“Can you take the trampoline out of the back of the car and bring it into the back yard?”
“Sure.”

So, after kissing Hannah on the top of the head and blowing a kiss to Sofia I went about looking at how to deal with the trampoline. It was heavy: maybe 170lbs. I thought to put it in the garbage can, which has wheels. That is a good place to hide it too. I called LL and suggested this to her. She agreed. So I rolled the trampoline into the back yard and covered it with a bag of garbage and a blanket and left it next to the house.
This is a good moment for LL and me.
Finally, something decent.
And then I returned to the Highland Coffee House where I checked my email:

I got the following email from LL’s lawyer: Mason Trenaman.
Mason L. Trenaman
Attorney at Law
600 West Main Street, Suite 300
Louisville, Kentucky 40202
(502) 589-6190 (office)
(502) 584-1744 (fax)

April 24, 2008


VIA HAND-DELIVERY


Hon. Patricia Walker FitzGerald
Judge, Jefferson Circuit Court
Family Division Three
The Judicial Center
700 West Jefferson Street
Louisville, Kentucky 40202

RE: Lasky-Headrick vs. Lasky
Case No. 06 CI 501203

Dear Judge FitzGerald:

Attached please find the transcripts of the deposition testimony of Leanne Gardner, Dr. Ginger Crumbo, Kim Dial, and Allan Lasky-Headrick. I believe both Mr. Lasky-Headrick and I request that you now consider that this case as under submission for your final ruling on the custody, parenting time, and supervision of parenting time issues.

If you have any questions or need any additional information, please feel free to contact myself and Mr. Lasky-Headrick. Unless we hear otherwise, we will await your ruling as your schedule permits.

Sincerely,



Mason L. Trenaman

Enclosures: Transcripts

cc: L. Lasky
A. Lasky-Headrick

MLT/glk

And another from Mason Trenaman:
Mason L. Trenaman
Attorney at Law
600 West Main Street, Suite 300
Louisville, Kentucky 40202
(502) 589-6190 (office)
(502) 584-1744 (fax)

April 24, 2008

VIA E-MAIL ONLY


Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
egonbegone@yahoo.com

RE: Lasky-Headrick vs. Lasky

Dear Mr. Lasky-Headrick:

Deposition transcripts will be delivered to the Court by today.

Sincerely,



Mason L. Trenaman

cc: L. Lasky
Case File No. 06 CI 501203

MLT/g


OK good.
So now, finally, after almost a year, the last vestiges of the crap for the Order to be signed have been submitted. H Well, actually, I do not know if the deposition from Richard Nassr has been submitted. Should I care? But it is sad that I had already sent LL the last email that you read.
I called her and left the following message: “Hello Rena, I got an email from Mason Trenaman saying that he has filed the depositions with the court. Thank you for that..
There is no need to mention that she is loosing her lawyer. This is the second time this happens to LL and I bet it is for the same reason: Sie hat kein Geld.

April 25, 2008
7:30PM: “Here is Hannah,” said LL as soon as she knew that it was me on the phone – thereby making it not possible for me to speak with her… and yes I was able to speak with her and she told me that she was opening presents – apparently some friends had come by with presents for her. I do not think it is a big deal but then when I asked to speak with Sofia she told me that Sofia was in the bathroom so I asked her to tell Sofia to call me. I interacted in German the entire conversation – and that, by the way, is the first time that I do that!
And an email from Mabelle,
Muy querido allan!!!! Realmente las cosas parece que van a cambiar. Pero, despu´´es de muchos años, 61, el partido colorado cae con toda su cúpula y estrenduosamente. En presidente, senadores y representantes. No pense vivir para verlo. El nuevo presidente es el exobispo de San Pedro, esa región tan pobre de Paraguay. Los colorados están de velorio jajajaja. Yo he celebrado mucho. Y, aunque no se si se verán cambios rápidos, sé que habrá y muchos.
Voy en Julio a USA sería lindo verte. Podemos combinar aunque sea un fin de semana. Con el cariño inmenso de siempre. Besos a tus hijitas. mabel

To which I respond right away:
Dear Mabel,
Oh how beautiful that you will be closer in three months. I can not wait. I have no idea what your schedule or your travel itinerary looks like but I am sure of one things: We will be able to speak on the phone. It does not cost me anything to call in the US on Saturdays and Sundays or after 7PM on week days, so if you can just get near a phone…. By the way, my telephone number is (502) 714 – 8577.
I would love to bounce lots and lots of words with you.
And if we can meet that would be better than heaven,
Lots of love,
Allan

And an email from Farfar:
Allan, my suggestion is that you go over to Helmer's office and ask him or his secretary to let you have a copy of Richard Nassr's deposition. Then submit it to the judge with a letter similar to the one written by Trenaman. Let Rena have a copy of your letter and of any other correspondence you have with the judge.

I am glad that Trenaman is resigning. That evens the playing field between you and Rena, and saves money which can go to improve the lives of the children.

Your Dad

Yes, that is true. But, especially if the Judge does not rule in our favor, we will need to continue to go to court.

April 26, 2009
Today is a good day to call a lot of people:
1. KGB: Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo, It is immoral to play heinous games with children which is what you have done with Hannah (and Sofia.) It is unethical to lie and I know absolutely that you lied about my presence at the transitions lot parking lot in a deposition. Please call me, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick at 714 – 8577.
2. Shannon Fife: It is immoral to play heinous games with children which is what you have done with Hannah (and Sofia.) It is unethical to lie, spread rumors and invite slander or in your case also libel into the lives of children, so please call me at 714 – 8577. This is Allan Lasky-Headrick.
3. Misty Roano: Hello Misty. How do I get a copy of your report? This is Allan Lasky-Headrick.
4. LeeAnn Gardner: Mi LeeAnn, well, Judge Patricia Walker-Fitzgerald has your worda and will hopefully be ordering things soon. May I ask you to act in a moral, correct, decent, and ethical manner from now on? Part of that would involve calling me since I am asking you to do so now.
5. Richard Nassr: Hi Richard, My telephone number is 714 – 8577. Can you please call me? Thanks.
6. Helmers: Hello there, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick and I am trying to figure out how I can get a copy of a deposition of Richard Nassr so please call me back at 714 – 8577 I would appreciate that.
7. I would have called Craig Hansen but his number is disconnected or no longer in service.
8. Gretel: Left a message.
9. Yanhong: Oh that was a fun conversation!
10. And my children. Yes, I was able to speak with Hannah for about ten seconds and then the phone went dead.

Today Sofia is at the sun work shop, has to do with Girl scouts – I should ask LL about this…

April 27, 2008: This is Sofia LAST girl scouts.
Right now I am planning on picking up the children at 9:00AM, breakfast at the donut shop, Unitarian Church at 10:55AM, lunch at my house: skate boarding and science kit, Girl Scouts and then visit Jerome and his family and to the Obama Campaign? Let’s see how it evolves.
Well, I picked up my children at about 9:20AM, and the first thing that we needed to do was eat breakfast so I took my children to the Donut Shop near the Sunergos Coffee shop and there we first practiced skate boarding…
But wait, on our way to the breakfast place Sofia told me that LL had called the police on me when she had come to pick up the children last time. She had claimed that I had left a child alone in the house and that I was driving with achild on the motorcycle without helmets…. I wonder if this is recorded. Go listen to it!
My god, that woman is a dangerous mother to the children. I reacted in a very calm manner to what Sofia was telling me and I can tell that she appreciated the sanity in my response.
While eating breakfast, Hannah watched a German movie and Sofia and I looked at the Encyclopedia Britannica World Atlas and talked about World Distributions, World Political Geography, Geographical Summaries and so on. “The temperature changes that happen over a year in Kentucky are the same as they are in Anchorage Alaska!” That was fun!
and then I took them to my house where Sofia worked on some of the science projects while Hannah either watched German movies or played with the skateboard
Sofia sings to the Pipi Langstrumpf movie in German while working on the electrical projects. She has marked of all the projects she has done. In fact we were in the park where I tried to get Hannah to be entertained while Sofia worked on the projects but that did not work because it was too cold and windy. Both agreed to return home and now Hannah is watching Pipi and Sofia is happy working on the electrical projects.
and then we went to Girl Scouts. I did not let Hannah stay at girl scouts but took her to lunch with me at McDonalds. I carried her on my shoulders while she watched a German movie on my laptop. That was funny, I am sure. Then when we returned to Girl Scouts we found H Sofia and Helen in a tree. I met Helens dad who explained to me that Helen had learned her Spanish from Ecuador so from now on I will speak only Spanish with Helen.
And I know that Sofia had a very good time with Helen.
And then we went to the Obama Campaign center here we picked up my new friend Jerome and took him to my home where the children continued to do science experiments – in time they learned how to burn spaghetti… and petted the cats net door and learned that there was cable TV next door and played in the park and it was oh so good…
And then I had a crazy interaction with LL about whether she comes here to pick up the children or I go there to deliver them and LL spoke with the children and told them that they need to go to her place but neither of them wanted to do that so I set a time of 7:05PM by which time we have to leave and told them so and I called LL and told her that we would be arriving late….
But you see, it is not something that LL should have spoken with the children about. So I made sure that the children know and that LL knows that it was my responsibility what time I delivered the children to LL’s and I was clear that LL that I took this approach because she was flaking on picking them up.
And so we packed up and I took them home. But on the way home, Sofia asked me what she had eaten for breakfast lunch and dinner. She wanted to know these things she knew that LL was going to ask her. I told her what she had eaten for those meals and she was satisfied.
Oh, and by the way, what was Sofia’s high point today? It was playing with the candles and melting the glass chemistry tubes from the Science Kit.


April 28, 2008
I went to court and met Mason Trenaman who informed me that my motion (to have the depositions filed) was remanded since the depositions had been filed with the court clerk…. and that his motion to cease representing LL had been signed buy the Judge. This is recorded.
I also saw John Helmers and asked him about the deposition of Richard Nassr. He pretended not to know what was going on with that when I informed him that it was not filed with the cout clerk. He said “I will call Larry.”
“Who is Larry?”
“The person who transcribed the deposition is Larry Smith.”

So, I stopped by John Helmers office to get Larry Smith’s number. They gave it to me, but they did not tell me that it was an out of state (IN) telephone number. And so I had to return and ask again. Strange?
Larry Smith: (812) 284 – 9899
Transcriptions Unlimited
P.O. Box 128
Jeffersonville, IN, 47130
I called Larry Smith and left a message but strangely enough he did not call me back.

I stopped by the Union Building to inquire about a lawyer and they told me that if I come by tomorrow, after work, that there will be a lawyer to help me.
In the late afternoon, LeeAnn Gardner called me and I let her know that she was an
Inert
Massive
Unethical
Arrogant
Immoral
Liar
In a thirty minute conversation. How much was she worth? 5%.
(She was 95% worthless.) What is the 5%? It is due to nothing other than LL and I meeting – it actually has nothing to do with LeeAnn.
She said that she would wait for LL to call her about a meeting and that she was prepared to have one meeting with us to see if it was worth having more meetings.
Specifically I told her that she was wrong to label me a bulldozer after what she and her colleagues Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo had done (she did this in the deposition) That she was wrong to label LL the ‘victim,’ when it was Sofia and Hannah, that she was wrong to pretend that she did not know why the meetings had stopped. In short that she was a ‘liar.’ LeeAnn took offense to that. Oh well.
How many days did it take for her to call me? Quite a lot!
On Wall Street the Dow Jones Industrial average took a dive. The situation in Iraq is intolerable: Shiite militiamen are in the thick of the fighting under the Anti-American Muktada al Sadr. Mortars and rockets are fired into the ‘green zone.’
7:00PM or soon after: I tried to speak with my children today but they claimed that they could hardly hear me. I called Papo and he was able to hear me perfectly, so I deduce one or both of the following possibilities:
a. LL has set the volume low on her cell phone.
b. LL has a defective phone.
If LL has set the volume down on purpose so that communication with my children is difficult then I would not be surprised.

April 29, 2008
There is a “global food crisis.” Much of the world’s people are about to die of starvation. (No one that I have spoken with in Louisville is aware of this or cares when informed.)
There are security concerns in Afghanistan – for example, there was an attempt to murder the president, Hamid Karzai (An ally of the U.S.A.)
Paraguay is the happiest country in the world right now. The people are filled with hope. They have a new President.
I met with my lawyer, yes, I have a new lawyer now. Her name is Amanda (same name as the secretary at John Helmer’s, my last lawyer.) I gave her the entire file from Helmers.
Then I went to pick up my children and found that Nancy and LL were there! And I said “Hello to Nancy three times and she ne never responded. When I went to speak with LL, Hannah came between us saying “Grammy told you to just ignore him.” LL tried to smirk it off but Hannah repeated the same sentence. I was unable to get any information from LL about anything like the dance recital (Ballet) or her closing on a house or Sofia’s art exhibition at the school (which was today.)
And as soon as the Lasky contingency as gone and us Lasky-Headricks were together life was sublime. First the children harassed Peter (my friend the elementary school art teacher,) and then we walked to the Asian Buffet. I asked them about Grammy telling LL to ignore me.
“Actually Grammy told me to ignore you too,” said Hannah.
“Are you going to ignore me now?” I asked Hannah.
“You are going to tell the judge that we said this!” exclaimed Sofia.
“No, I do not do that. I beg people to be nice and ask everyone to only say nice things,” was my response.
We ate heartily and then we walked to LL’s by way of “den Park mit den Hunden,” and the convenience store.
As we approached LL’s we came across Miles, a six year old friend of Hannah’s. He ran t LL’s with them, Miles’s mother and I followed suit and that made for a more extended exchange of the children for me. I was able to go inside LL’s house nad catch my children and kiss them on their heads. They pretend that they do not want this but I know that they love this.
LL put up with me but she did not say a word to me.

Hum? So today was a day like many others where the children were again inculcated with the understanding that I have been victimized by the Laskys. When is Nancy going to stop?

April 30, 2008
I tried to call my children a little after 7:00PM but no one answered the phone so today my children and I were not able to interact.
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March 1, 2008 (Saturday)
I went skiing with Subir and his son Michael. We skied all day until eight o’clock at night. I tried to call my children about half a dozen times. I left messages asking to be called but no one ever called and my children and I did not talk today.
March 2, 2008 (Sunday)
A very eventful day and I would bet, an excellent day for the children. It started in a sad manner, with Hannah at 8-55AM when I called, telling me “Mommy wants the bikes and the swim suits back.” I almost said “NO,” but then I said “Let me talk to Mommy so that we can work out what we need to do about the bikes,” and Hannah tried to pass the phone to LL but LL was apparently on the computer and too busy to talk with me….
And then at 9:00AM exactly Hannah came out the front door and accused me of having been in jail. “And because of lies!” she added. “I didn’t lie…” I said and then Sofia emanated thorough the door and interrupted by saying “I think what Daddy is saying is that he didn’t lie, other people lied, and he went to jail.” Then Hannah said “I’m going to ask Mommy.” Hannah went inside LL’s house and asked her. Sofia and I talked about photosynthesis and green leaves in the front porch and then Hannah came out saying that Mommy had said something about money which she did not understand.
I tried to explain to the children that they should not be go betweens, in the middle of “Mommy and I” but I do not know that they understood but I do know that they will understand soon enough.
And then I drive them to Krispi Kreme Donuts on Bardstown road. They likes this very much and were fascinated by the factory that could be seen through the glass. I do not think this was their first time, but I do think this was the first time they were able to look a the processes taking place on the other side and realize in conversation with one another what was taking place.
Hannah said “Look at how the machine flips them over,” and Sofia said “yes, that way they get cooked on both sides.” “But they only get rained on with the glaze on one side,” added Hannah.
And then we went to the Girl Scout Cookie sales at Krogers. Again, it was the same lady, Kelly, with her daughter but there was also another lady there with a daughter called Jazmin who knew Mark Duke and actually spoke well of him but her body language implied everything else.
I left Sofia to sell the girl scout cookies quite a bit today. Hannah only wanted to ride the horse an steal more money from the coin compartment. Eventually that faed and I was able to take Hannah to the Friends meeting house. This did not work very well. Hannah was an absolute embarrassment and she unzipped my coveralls in front of the Quakers after refusing for a long time to come in the meeting plae. The meeting place was full of refugees from Burundi. But Hannah promised to be a well behaved girl next week.
And then we returned to Krogers. When Sofia was finished selling Girl Scout Cookies we bought Sushi and other fancy foods – all of which was fun. There was no time constraint. I did not have to worry about anything and the children were having a wonderful time in the cart, selecting the food and being with one another.
We had just finished purchasing the food when they suddenly realized they really wanted to go to the candy section and choose two candies for themselves. After deliberating about the order of events it was agreed that first the sushi would be eaten and then we would get candy.
So, with full bellies we went to the Jewish Community Center where we
1. Frolicked in the play ground for a good long time.
2. We went inside and played in the Globo Loco (and Hannah still calls it that from Paraguay!)
3. Went swimming and played some competitive games.
4. Played in the Globo Loco again.
5. Played in the played ground outside this time with the same kids they had played with in the Globo Loco.
And then I took them home. On the way home I spoke with LL and told her that we needed to sort out the issue of the bikes. We agreed to speak about it later.
Hannah climbed the tree again and is obviously completely comfortable with the tree again.
5:
Sofia discovered the garage and all the things inside it.
Sofia discovered the back yard as an excellent place to play.
Hannah discovered the fun of jamming on a guitar.
Hannah watched Sprit in Spanish.
Sofia learned how to cook toast on the stove top, melt butter in a spoon and add honey for a wonderful flavored bread. This was Sofia’s highlight. But she also loved using the microwave to make tea.
And we went bike riding and played in the park near my house.
And then we watched a Tim und Struppi movie until LL came to get the children.
I put one bike (Hannah’s) in the car but I kept Sofia’s bike and explained that it was the bike that Papo had given. LL did not agree to this.
At the following times I called LL:
4:32PM – no answer
4:33PM—agreed to call again to speak about the bikes.
5:31PM – left a message to come pick up the children.
6:39PM – left a message to come pick up the children.
6:53PM – no answer.
6:57PM – spoke with LL and she said that she would pick up the children, “But not on a week day.”
7:09PM — LL speaks with Sofia.
Hannah said “She’s not going to obey you!” talking about LL. I had just told her that LL was coming to pick her and Sofia up.
8:18PM I called LL and since she did not answer her phone I left a message asking her to confirm that Sofia had taken her Girl Scout shoulder band with her.
LL approached the house from the West. I guess she was doing some research? Seeing what the neighborhood looks like?

March 3, 2008
I had some amazing dreams last night – not just nice ones: In my dreams I was being persecuted by LL’s brother(s) and it was not just in Louisville, but across the world: Fiji islands and Samoa, Tuva in Mongolia, Bangalore in India,… At times my dreams were utterly comic and at other times they were horrifyingly existentialist: after all, they were trying to murder me.

LL called me in the early afternoon to tell me about a John Roberts Powers school to which Hannah might want to be sent? Hum? I looked it up on the internet. Image image image.
I could tell that LL was excited and she thought this was a good thing for Hannah. LL must have known that this is exactly what I call “crap,” because she was afraid I would say “no,” and let’s face it – she called me! Just the very fact that she called me indicated that this was something important in LL’s mind.
LL did not want me to be a part of it. It took her a long time to tell me when and where we meet. It was crazy – and then she gave me very scant directions.
I continued to push my motorcycle (which had ceased functioning) to a gas station and evaluated the rest of my evening.
I had to go home, get my computer and go to a place where I could pick up an internet wifi signal, find the webb page of this company: It is a modeling and acting agency…
Just as I thought: EXACTLY the opposite of what I think is important in life.
And that meant I had to put on a suit and tie. LL had already told me so.
Well, I checked my email and discovered the advertisements about this company at the ice cream parlor. I had a suit in the van. I was ready to go.
It was impossible for me to find this without help. Sofia helped me because LL refused to speak with me on the pone.
And there was all the superficiality about this place. It was exactly a con-company. Luring people with hopes and ambitions that they will never realize.
Here, look:
In 1923, a young actor turned model created the first training company of its kind. The “Powers Girl” was known as the epitome of poise, posture, sophistication and social grace. Over two million men and women of all ages are Powers graduates, including legends like Lauren Bacall, Lucille Ball, Henry Fonda, Ava Gardner, Grace Kelly, Montgomery Clift, Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis, Diana Ross and Raquel Welch.

Recent JRP graduates have appeared in numerous commercial campaigns, including McDonald’s, Levi’s, Pepsi, Chevrolet, Revlon, Home Depot and hundreds of others.

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Red Rock Agency, Saturday, April 19, 2008.
Red Rock Agency is a full service modeling and acting agency. Call for an appointment.
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Harriet Greenspan Casting, Sat. March 15, 2008.
Harriet is one of Hollywoods most popular kids casting directors. She has casted for such shows as: iCarly, The suite life of Zack and Cody, Zoey 101 and Hannah Montana. Call 502-339-2925.
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iPOP! International Presentation of Performers auditions are coming!!!
iPOP! is an international convention that will be held in Las Vegas the month of July. Performers audition for hundreds of leading talent managers, modeling agencies, music producers and casting directors from all over the world. iPOP! is by invitation only and you must audition call 502-339-2925 to set up your time. Space is limited to the first 200 callers.
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Mavrick Artist Agency, Sat. March 29, 2008
Mavrick Artist Agency is a full service agency, Talent has appeared on projects such as: Volkswagen, AAA, Kellogg's, Sears, Little Tykes, Walgreens, Dell and VH-1. Call 502-339-2925.
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And so, you see, this is pure crap.
But OK, it is probably good for Hannah so I paid 4/5ths of it with my Credit card.
March 4, 2008
I think LL sent this email yesterday and Farfar responded to it and copied me in on it:
William, Inga, Allan:

We heard back and were not able to get the retreat facility for either date. Therefore, it is open as to which weekend. Do you have a preference? If not, I would chose the second weekend simply because I cant to go camping and I might wager it could be warmer later in the month. (Then again, April is rainy season so it is hard to tell!).

Regarding the summer, Sofia's camp was full noth of those weeks. They said I can put her on a waiting list, but it is not looking hopeful. The only other week open was the week of day camp. I may have to let them chose one or the other.

Matthew invited the girls to the wedding, but I do not know if you were plannign on taking them since it would be two added airfares. I have no other set plans yet. I would like to get Hannah in the drumming camp again, but I have not gotten the dates on that yet. They are usually behiond the other camps on getting their schedules out.
Lorena Lasky

And here is Farfar’s response:
Hello, Rena,

Since you give us the choice, we would take the girls beginning Friday, April 4, after school. We would bring them to your house for them to leave their books and change clothes. We would return them to you on Tuesday, April 8, in the evening. You could then go camping with them for the rest of the week. I hope you will have good weather on your camping trip, but if it rains and camping is no fun, you could come home on Saturday, and Allan could have his usual parenting time on Sunday, April 13.

I am not planning to take the girls to Matthew's wedding. The cost, not only of the air fare, but also of the hotel room and meals, would be too much, especially since Inga and I will be seeing the girls at some other time during the summer.

As far as the summer is concerned, I am sorry to read that you are unable to get the girls into Girl Scout Camp this year, but that gives us more flexibility in setting the dates for Allan's parenting time and our visit with the girls. We need to take Allan's schedule into account here. I will revert to you when it gets clarified.

Kind regards,

William
And to Paraguay
Mi querida Mabel,
Bueno, todo es muy complicado pero tambien es delicioso Te quiero mucho
Your Allan

And to LL’s best friend in Paraguay
Dear Martha,
I thought you might like to know that Hannah has decided she wants to be an actress.
Lots of love to all of you and we want to know about Alec.
Allan
And to Paraguay
Querido Francy,
Bueno, yo no se que esta pasando pero me parece que la vida es un encanto
Un gran abrazo,
Allan
At 5:35 I got my children. LL had called me at 5PM and told me to go out front and see if the kids were there but they were not so I had to wait till LL got here to get them out of CEP They wanted a brownie and a lemon bar (cake) and Sofia said that she had a stomach ache
LL told me on the phone at the start that Hannah had no homework and that I should have her read a book.
The children stated that I had “stolen the bikes,” and I have no doubt that that was LL’s term. I told them that I had taken “Munchkin’s bike” and that I was going to take another bike tonight. They were scared.
Hannah asked for a brownie from the Highland Coffee house It was fun buying her this item since I got to speak German and Spanish with her and the attendants The same goes for Sofia but Sofia wanted to hang in my arms while I purchased her Lemon bar I suspect that the reason for Sofia’s stomach ache was hunger
I decided to take my children home It is becoming a better place as the weeks go on I think the children enjoy it They do not mind the situation with the water Today Sofia helped me get water an poured the bucket in the toilet to flush it.
Sofia is sometimes truly gregarious She had learned how to make toast on the stove and how to melt the butter in a spoon and today did more of the same Hannah thought this was dangerous and refused to participate except as an observer.
Hannah read the first pages of the red ballonn I loved listening to her read because she reads with interest and her voice moves into tones appropriate to the nature of the sentence.
But Hannah was much more interested in playing with her make believe castle and in particular with the boat that floats in the cookie pan to which I had added water.
Sofia did all her homework.
Sofia and Hannah like to sit on the heat vents in my house.
Hannah played with the electric toy and the Disney toys.
At the end of their time here, Sofia wanted to make an atomic explosion. She asked me for a hammer and a nail. Then she hammered a small hole into the top of a soda bottle…
Each child had one of these bombs and they squirted them outside with glee.
The children sang songs in the car to LL’s.
I parked in the back of LL’sw house and took another bike, this time it was one of the one’s I had brought from Texas.

On my way home I tried to call LL but she did not pick up the phone so I left a message asking her to enable the children to call me tomorrow.

And then an email to LL:
Dear lorena,
I think the last time the children called me was 9 months ago, June 2007. Please have them call me today
Sincerely,
Allan

And then to LL’s Lawyer
Dear Mr Trenaman esq,
Please provide me via email the name and telephone number of the court reporter who recently transcribed the depositions of Ms Kim Dial and Dr Ginger Crumbo.
Kind regards,
Allan R Lasky-Headrick

March 5, 2008
I remember that I called LL, but I can not remember the time that must have been between 3 and 5 PM asking her to see to it that the children call me. They never did.
I did not have a chance to check y emails today but I did call Papo and he checked them for me Apparently there was nothing of any importance.
But amazingly I was able to get in touch with my children I called at 7:20PM and Sofia picked up the phone and we spoke well and with much amusement – including speaking about all the different rooms in Grammy’s house. We spoke for a reasonable amount of time – I am going to say we spoke for 15 minutes We were able to speak in part because LL was oing Hannah’s homework with Hannah (I bet LL was doing Hannah’s homework for her) And when LL realized that Sofia was on the phone she told her to hang up.

March 6, 2008
8:20AM LL calls me. She asks me if I have to be at work tomorrow evening and I said “NO.” And then she said “Ok, we are going to switch because Hannah has Brownies today”
“I can take Hannah to Brownies,” I responded.
“No you can’t!” she retorted.
“I take Sofia to Girl Scouts so I can take Hannah to Brownies.”
“No, because I am the scout leader”
“But that is an excellent reason, Rena, so that we can start showing that we can co-parent.”
“Listen, these are your options.” And I said that I did not want any of the options but offered to take the children on Friday if I can take them for 3 hours but she saisd “NO”
Then she accused me of being “Nasty,” and of wasting money in the court. She told me that she was going to tell the judge of the times that the children came home hungry having eaten only bread, of the fact that they “flush the toilet with water from the sewage,” and that they are brought late to her home. Then she hung up on me.
So, after work I went to the Highland C0pffee House to be sure
I got a wonderful email from Mabel:
Allan no importa si todo es difícil, lejano y complicado, recibir tus emails es una gran alegría. Besos. mabel
mabel avila
ars longa vita brevis

And the following from Mason Trenaman, LL’s lawyer
Mason L. Trenaman
Attorney at Law
600 West Main Street, Suite 300
Louisville, Kentucky 40202
(502) 589-6190 (office)
(502) 584-1744 (fax)

March 6, 2008

VIA E-MAIL ONLY


Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
egonbegone@yahoo.com

RE: Lasky-Headrick vs. Lasky

Dear Mr. Lasky-Headrick:

The Court Reporter’s contact information is:

Wendy McLaughlin
101 North Seventh Street
Louisville, Kentucky 40202
(502) 561-3467

To date, I have not heard from her as to when the transcripts will be ready. I believe she estimated 10-14 days from the date of the depositions.

You and I both need to assure that any contact we may initiate with her will be appropriate and respectful. Thank you.

Sincerely,
Mason L. Trenaman

cc: L. Lasky
Case File No. 06 CI 501203

MLT/glk

Here is my proposed response to Mason Trenaman, but of course, since it serves no actual purpose I will not send it:
Dear Mr. Mason Trenaman Esq.,
Anything other than cordial, decent, moral, ethical correct and sociologically acceptable behavior from any person should be trounced upon. Thank you for the advice, and if you would please direct such advice to the appropriate persons, I think that would be best.
With all due respect and kind regards,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick

So I send a quick email to my parents
Dear Farfar and Farmor,
Well, I got a pay check for $75 and I spent half of that on some supplies to see if I can get water in my house. So far I like my job just fine. I am about 10% of the way along to get Health insurance In the mean time the economy in Louisville is taking a big hit: FORD Co. is going 'bancarota,' -- you know they have a big factory here. In fact, the Ford factory is across the street from the UPS place where I work and so it is often that the workers compare their respective situations.
Lots of Love,
Allan

Well, I was supposed to see my children this evening and they never came
Dear Mr Trenaman esq,.
Please advise your client that John Helmers or myself may be filing a 'contempt of court' motion for not allowing my parenting today, Tuesday March 6, 2008.
Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
Dear John,
I hope you are doing well. My children require a great deal of help already. How do you wish to proceed - let me know by Friday. Below is an email I just sent Mason Trenaman.
Sincerely,
Allan

Dear Mr Trenaman esq,.
Please advise your client that John Helmers or myself may be filing a 'contempt of court' motion for not allowing my parenting today, Tuesday March 6, 2008.
Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
And of course I tried to call my children:
I left messages on two calls separated by an hour or more and the times I called are:
5:22PM
6:37PM
6:43PM
7:10PM
7:19PM
7:25PM
7:35PM
7:37PM
Finally at 8:45PM someone picked up the phone. Sofia picked up the phone and this is how it went:
Sofia: Hello?
Allan: Hello this is Daddy. I was calling to wish you a good night and to tell you that even thought there are clouds that are shaped like bunny rabbits in the sky…..
Sofia: I know Daddy.
Allan: Did you and Hannah go to Brownies?
Sofia: Yes.
Allan: Well that seems fair, because Hannah gets to go to your girl scouts so you should get to go to Hannah’s brownies. Do you think that’s Fair?
Sofia: No, I don’t know why, but I am tired. I’m too tired and I’ve gotta go to bed.
Allan: I love you, bye.
Sofia: I love you Daddy!
Allan: I love you so much.
(And now, I am not even sure that I was speaking with Sofia, I may have been speaking with Hannah?)
March 7, 2008
I went to the L and M building to inquire about the progress made by Neighborhood place with my family and found that they were not at all involved, that it had been superseded by the work of Misty Rowan…
So I returned home and called Misty Rowan at 595 -5158. I left a message informing her that my parenting time yesterday had been denied, that LL seems to be trying to prevent her from doing her work (the depositions of the KGB and LeeAnn paved the way for her discontinuing her work…) and that Christi Atkins at Child Protective services had told me that only she (Misti) could respond to my questions about the last work done by CPS.
Then I called David Weatherspeak of the KGB and left the following message.
I spoke with the secretary and asked her if I had called thirty times in one day. That’s once every 10 minutes for eight hours.
“How do you know it was me? There are several people who answer the phone.”
And then I asked to be allowed to leave a message with David Weatherspeak: I left a message asking him to call me back and telling him that things with my family are as awful as they could be, that I was denied parenting yesterday.
5:15PM Sofia calls me on behalf of LL asking me about ‘make up time.’ I tell Sofia that this is something that LL and I must work out and ask her to give the phone to LL. However refuses to speak with me.
7:00PM I called Rebecca and she told me that Sofia and Hannah had been earlier with her but that now they were at their ‘home.’
7:00P I called both the ‘linea baja’ and the cell phone but got no answer.
8:20PM or so I called and was able to speak with Sofia again for a little time. She told me that she was with her cousins.

March 8, 2008 (Saturday)
8:35AM I called and LL picked up the phone.
LL: He---low (Sounded like she had just woken up.)
Allan: Hi Rena, have you looked outside?
LL: Stop being such a creep, you sound like a three year old. Here, you can talk to Hannah.

Hannah confirmed that she had heard what LL had said to me. I spoke with Joey and Leah as well, but then, since they were watching “the Lord of the Rings,” I bid them all good bye. Hannah refused to “send my love to Sofia and all others” I agreed with her and said I would do it myself.
10:20AM The ‘linea baja,’ yielded no response. I called LL and left a message on her cell phone to have the children, especially Sofia ‘with whom I have not spoken today,’ call me.


March 9, 2008 (Sunday)
I was driving to pick up my children when I found the following message on my cell phone -- a text message from LL: “The agency left me a message. All classes will be held Sunday from 12:30 – 2:00PM. She has to be dressed up too.” I called LL and told her that I had no counted on this occurrence and needed to return home to get some items that includes better clothes. I asked LL if she wanted to take Hannah and she said “No, I am meeting some people in Bullet County.” (I think she is buying a house.) I asked LL why she had only sent me a text message instead of calling me, and she replied that she had gotten the message at midnight. “So?” I said. “When there are last minute things like this you should make sure I know about them.” LL said “OK.” (Placating me.)
And so I was half an hour late in picking the children up – but what I did not realize, and neither id LL, was that the hour had changed at midnight last night and so I was in fact an hour and a half late.
And so it goes.
We went to Krispi Kreme Donuts.
Then to Borders Books.
Then to Hannah’s acting class, and while this happened, Sofia and I went to Starbucks and melted wax in hot water to make lip balm – this was a kit we had bought at borders.
Just as we were picking up Hannah, Archana called and told us that her son, Christopher was in the hospital with a fractured skull.
We played in the snow: Made a snow person, wrote with water in the snow, climbed piles of snow etc…
Then we visited Christopher in the hospital. Christopher’s father was there and he was a great one to talk with.
Then we went home and did a variety of things that include empty out boxes from Texas (with pictures of them as babies and of LL and I together…) listen to Hannah’s biological mother, Sarah, speak -- not live, but from a recording.
We played with candles and melted wax onto paper surfaces and glued a mosaic using the molten wax.
Played ball.
Watched the Pirates of Penzance.
And then LL refused to pick them up, so I naturally took them back an hour later but not without making it very clear to her that if she had come to pick them up then she could have gotten them at 7:00PM. Remember that there was an hour shift that caused a bit of misunderstanding regarding the pick up time. So I took them home, but not without having them do some cleaning up.


Hey Everyone----

We are down to 148 boxes of cookies....we will have a booth sale this Thurs and this weekend please let over the times and sign up ASAP, this is the last weekend so we need to get these boxes sold.

I need 4 girls and 4 adults for each time slot so we can have a table at booth door.

Thurs 3/13 6-8 Kroger's -- Katie B and Alicia (Would like two more girls so we can be at both doors)

Sat 3/15
Kroger's 10-12 pm -- Emma, Alexis, Olivia

Walgreen/Starbucks 12-2 and 2-4 pm (Need girls)

Sun 3/16
Kroger's 10-12 pm --
Kroger's 12-2 pm -- Katie B and Alicia

Thanks for everyone's help.

Kelly

And I see that LL has responded to this but I do not understand the response. It seems like she meant to write that she can not do Saturday because of Hannah’s class?

Can you do the booth sales on Sunday? I can do Saturday because of Hannah's class. Lorena Lasky
So I write to LL
Dear Lorena,
You can do Saturday? What are you writing?
Allan
And then to Kelly:
Hello Kelly,
I was not able to discern really if Lorena (Sofia's mother) really meant that she could do Saturday because of the way she wrote to me, but Sofia, Hannah and I can be there Sunday after Church which would be right after 12PM.
Allan
And I got a fast response from Kelly:
OK Thanks!

Dear Lorena,
I think it is only fair to tell you that I will be filing a motion in court if you do not provide a make up time. This is because you kept the children when I should have had them on Thursday. I think it is reasonable to require you to bring and take the children from my home on the make up day for I have been very good to you about picking the children up and delivering them to your house.
Sincerely,
Allan

And look, an email from Martha!
Wow. Hannah, an actress! Now that I can imagine. Alec is ok. He's been having some difficulty lately and is being investigated for OCD/depression. It's something in his genes, I'm afraid. It's just really sad when it appears so early.

Other than that, he is enjoying his Pokemon and his baby brother, Javier. Javier is trying to do everything as fast as he can..he has three teeth cutting through (he's 5 months). Oops, now he's crying. better write more later.
Martha
And she is a very important connection with what was going on in Paraguay. Remember that she was LL’s best friend.
Dear Martha,
Oh it is good to hear from you. I am truly sorry that it seems that one might think that there is something silly in the gene pool. Personally I find that preposterous but then who am I? But it is sad when young people are chronically unhappy. But doesn't Javier have a good effect on Alec? Hannah has a very good effect on Sofia but I do not know that I can say the same for me and my brother... hum? Life is just a ver complicated mish mash and mostly there is nothing we can do about human nature.
Kindest regards,
Allan
Oh look, an email from Fatima – also a Paraguayan connection:

queeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee contenta que estoy,,,,,,,,,,,,,,gracias milllllllllll gracias por desearme asi los quiero un monton dile que les mando a todos mil besos,,,,,,,,,,,creo que la suerte esta de mi lado,,porque las coasas me salen como yo esperabas los quieros un monton...........te cuidas

And Farfar adds this email:
Hello, Allan and Rena,

I have made reservations at the Old Bridge Inn, where we stayed last year, for myself and Farmor. We will arrive there by car in the afternoon of April 4, probably after 3 o'clock. My suggestion would be for Allan to bring the girls over to our place, either directly after school or after passing by the house to lay down their school bags and change clothes.

The girls will be returned to you on April 8 in the evening.

Best wishes, Farfar
And from Farmor:
Dear Allan,
I am sorry about the Louisville economy. Hope your company will not be affected.
How many days a week do you work?
I had an eye check up today, and the dr. was pleased with the condition of my eyes. On the way I had stopped at the Sarah P. Duke Gardens, where a friend works on Thursdays, and had had a very good time with her. People are very friendly at that place. When I came home (late), Daddy had prepared dinner. Maybe I am being spoiled...
Anyway, I like it. Who would not?
Love, mamma

Allan: Mi querida Fatima.
Fatima: Holaaaaaaaaaa.
Fatima: ¿Como estamos?
Allan: Andamos bien, jugamos mucho en la nieve
Fatima: ¿Como estan tus preciosas chicas?
Allan: Ellas estan tan contentas es inimaginable. Ayer esturvimos practicando actuaciones, y visitamos un amigo y jugamos mucho.
Fatima: ¡Que gustoooooooooo!
Allan: ¿Y tu, dime que hay en tu vida?
Fatima: Yo estoy super mejor
Allan: ¿Porque?
Fatima: Estuve bien bajoneada para ya se me paso
Allan: ¿Porque te bajas?
Fatima: tenia tanta ganas de ver a mi mama y no va poder ser
Allan: ¿Porque no puedes visitar a tu mama?
Fatima: Por mi papel tengo que esperar hasta dicienbre que me salga acá
Allan: Ay Dios mio -- es super difícil emigrar a otro país. Tu nuevo país no respecta tus origenes para nada.
Fatima: Para nadaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Allan: Es lo mismo aqui en eeuu. Tengo una amiga que se murieron sus padres e la India) y nunca pudo verlos porque estaba en transmite de conseguir sus papeles.
Fatima: Hoy cumplo tres años
Allan: Hoy cumples ANOS? Tienes 30 de verdad? Te felicito Fatima, qiero que sepas que te queremos como las ranitas quieren a la naturaleza.
Fatima: Allan, y Lorena ¿como anda?
Fatima: Es muy duro que fallese tu gente y uno pueda verle
Allan: Ella anda bien pero me trata muy mal. Si te olvidas de que ella me trata mal, ella es una mujer fantástica. (Bueno, casi, porque eso affecta a Sofia y a Hannah.)
Fatima: Seguro allan lo siento,,,,me gustaria tanto que estuvieran juntos con su dos hijas como tiene que ser una familia y lleno amor.
Allan: Asi es la vida. Pero me divierto sin ella bastante bien.
Allan: Fatima, que me cuentas de Paraguay?
Fatima: aaaaaaaaaaaaaa… De paraguay solo Dios sabe, pero estoy tratando que mi mami venga de visita
Allan: Fatima, tu Mamá siempre me ha parecido una mujer muy especial. Ella tiene su propia vida que es su trabajo con sus hijas e hijos. Ella sabe lo que hace, y su vida no es algo vacío: está lleno de muchas cosas. A veces la cosas no son bonitas. Pero ella sabe como actuar en esas situaciones. Tu eres como ella.
Allan: Yo entiendo que tu quieres verla para ti -- ella te quiere ver también, pero ella mucho mas prefiere saber que estas bien, que tú te sacrifices para ella: eso pienso yo.
Fatima: A lo mejor tienes razón
Allan: Cuando seas madre, sabrás que es así para ti.
Allan: Esa es una de las razones por tu ser una persona tan bella.
Fatima: quiesiera
Fatima: Allan sabes tu que te quiero increibleeeeeeeeeeee pero de corazón tu eres la persona que sabe de vidaaaaaaaaaaaa
Allan: Gracias Fatima.
Allan: Que me puedes contar de tus hermanas y hermanos que aún estan en Paraguay?
Fatima: Pedro, cada día mas malo
Allan: ¿Y tus hermanitas?
Fatima: Estan tremendas, sabes.
Allan: ¿Que hacen ellas? ¿Cuales estudian y cuales trabajan?
Fatima: Todos estudian y quien trabaja es chichi y julio
Fatima: chichi es el papá de la casa
Allan: Bueno, te lo digo porque tu ya lo sabes, pero es bueno que Chichi sea una persona mayor en la casa, pero no es justo.
Allan: ¿Cuantos años tiene Chichi ahora?
Fatima: 16 años, es verdad, eso ya lo sé.
Fatima: Allan me tengo que ir estoy muy cansada
Fatima: ven acá chauuuuuuuuuuu besosssssssss
Allan: Te quiero y te admiro completamente, que tengas una buena decada entrante - ahora que tienes treinta años espero que te realizes con mucha alegría.

March 11, 2008
Well, it was a decidedly tough concept picking up my children. First I must say that LL called me while I was at work at UPS and left a message telling me that she had provided the children with letters saying that I may pick up my children. She wanted me to call her back and leave a message confirming that I would be in the front of the school at 5:00PM.
I did not get the message until 3:00PM and called her and left a message telling her that I would pick the children up on time. LL had called me twice and the second time she called at 2:55PM.
But I as I arrived at the Bloom elementary school I could not see my children. Then a few minutes later Sofia arrived. She was in a sullen. Hannah would not come out.
Then Elgin, who works at CEP spotted Sofia. He called out to her. “Sofia, come here!” Sofia would not budge, and as he became more and more stern with her, she shook her head.
I told Sofia to do as she was being commanded to do.
Mr. Elgin walked past me in a brusque manner and I said to him, “I am caring for her,” but he responded, “She is supposed to be at CEP.”
I allowed him to approach Sofia who would not do as he said.
Then I explained to him that LL had sent the children with a letter stating that I would be picking up the children and backed off.
But where was Hannah?
I was unable to get Hannah.
A few minutes later Elgin came back and explained that he had spoken with his boss and had been told that Sofia had to go with him.
I said “OK.”
Sofia would not go with him so he called someone who was inside the school.
A lady came out and spoke with Sofia. She told Sofia that she had tried to call her mother but had been unable to make contact. However she had made contact with her Aunt Rebecca who would be arriving soon. She asked Sofia to come inside the school and wait with her.
I asked if I could stay with Sofia, but Mr. Elgin said “No.” Then he added It is a matter of her safety and her mother’s concerns.”
I told Mr. Elgin that his rhetoric was unacceptable.
I went to The Highland Coffee House and waited there.
At 5:30PM Rebecca arrived in her car with all her children and my children too She beckoned me to approach the car and get my children. She was not in a good mood. LL called at that moment. I offered to let Rebecca speak with LL but Rebecca said “No thank you.” I said to LL “Rebecca is not able o speak on the phone with you right now but she said ‘thank you.’ And then I passed the phone onto Sofia. I do not know what L said to Sofia but moments later Sofia returned the phone to me.
“Did you notice anything about Rebecca?” Hannah asked.
“Sie ist schwanger, sie wird ein Baby Kriegen.”
“And guess if it’s going to be a boy or a girl.”
“Ein Mädchen.”
“No, it’s a boy!”
LL called. She said that Sofia had hung up the phone on her. Oooh that was a interesting moment for me. You have no idea how many times she, Nancy, Lara, and Rebecca (and now also the KGB) have hung up the phone on me, and so I was really caught in a very trigger easy state. I found myself responding by saying “you have never hung up on anyone, have you Rena?” and she said “Not on my mother!” I did not respond to that. Sofia did not hear what LL said and I knew that I had said enough. I passed the phone to Sofia who accidentally pressed the talk button which disconnected her from LL. I truly believe this was an accident.
A couple of minutes later I called LL and told her that Sofia had accidentally pushed the talk button and that she had not meant to hang up on her.
And then in the car. Sofia wanted to know where Hannah had been: you see, if Hannah had come out, none of the havoc with CEP, LL and Rebecca would have happened (but I did not tell this to Hannah, and Sofia did not have the insight to realize this) and Hannah said “Oh, I thought I was supposed to go to CEP after chess.” She was indifferent and completely OK with what she had done. I was OK with her and it was in fact, totally good of her to go to CEP. It is not her fault that CEP and LL and Rebecca are as they are.
I brought the children to my house. They watched a German Movie in the car and then were reluctant to come into the house – being content to watch the movie in the car. After about ten minutes I made them come in the house.
I had a movie in the DVD player going in Spanish – and Hannah watched this for a while but then she decided that she wanted to watch a different movie and chose to watch a silly adolescent movie about the importance of being pretty…
And Sofia became involved in solving a complex 3-D puzzle and then made pancakes. Both of these experiences were top quality for Sofia.
And LL arrived at 7:00PM.
But the children did not want to leave just then. I explained that I had not gotten the children until half an hour later and so I welcomed LL into the house.
LL scanned the place. She looked for things that she claimed were hers.
I told her she could not take anything.
I told her that I do not go to her house and make claims to things that she has and asked her not to act in such a manner in my house.
She listed things that she wanted: Nancy Drew books and a painting.
I said “I do not behave like this at your house.”
“I do not have anything that you can pretend belongs to you.”
“Yes, the scrap books.”
“They are not at my house.”
I left that alone. Who cares where they are? If they are at Nancy’s house, then they are in LL’s possession.
LL left at 7:20PM.
Just as Hannah was getting in the car, Hannah asked for her booklet from the Western Day Care. I told her that it is in my house but that she can not take it with her. It is something that I am caring for “in my house.” This caused Hannah to curse at me.
I walked over to LL’s car and LL opened the window a crack.
I said to Hannah “I love you,” in a serious voice, and LL said that she had reprimanded Hannah. (So, even if she hadn’t, she at least made it clear by admitting that she had, that that was not acceptable behavior.) I assured Hannah that I am very good about keeping things. LL agreed.
Then LL called me and she railed on me for not having fed the children. She said that she had stopped at a fast food restaurant because the children were hungry. That is crazy because I offered the children food all evening and Sofia was “the expert chef,’ in the kitchen. Even as the children were with me and LL I was pushing oat meal cookies on them.
So, the children are playing LL. That’s a problem that the catastrophic lack of intelligence in the development of this case have allowed now to make probable.
LL went on to call my place unhygienic – no clean cups, no dishes, no dishwasher. She said that I had to take the children to a restaurant. I assured LL that since she had not only said that to me, but also to the children, that I would not be doing that.
So now, I am thinking we will eat peanut butter sandwiches with olives on the side and we will also drink milk and juices. If the children refuse? Then they will not eat until they are back with their mother. Does that work? It works on Tuesdays and Thursdays a little bit.

March 12, 2008
I called the KGB and left David with the following message: “Hello David, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick and the last time we spoke you said that you would consider calling me on your own steam – that was in person. The time before that, you assured me that you were calling me in response to my calls. I would very much appreciate hearing from you. My telephone number is 714 – 8577. Thank you.”
Then I called The Court Reporter whose contact information is Wendy McLaughlin, 101 North 7th Street, Louisville, Kentucky 40202. Tel.(502) 561-3467 and left a message asking to call me about the status of the depositions of the KGB.
Then I called LeeAnn Gardner and left another message “Hello LeeAnn, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick I hope you are doing well. I am calling to ask you to please call Lorena and ask her to please me us at your office and preferably sooner rather than later. Thank you.”
I called the Bloom elementary school to speak with the CEP. They transferred me to Debbie Lee who is in charge of CEP at Bloom and who apparently knows Sofia and Hannah. We agreed to meet with Mr. Elgin today at 5:00PM.
At 3:00PM I received a message from LL that I was to pick up the children at 5:00PM (that is when I am to meet the people from CEP)
At around 4:00PM the CEP lady, Debbie Lee, called to cancel our meeting. She said that since I was not allowed to pick up my children from CEP hat we would not be able to meet at the school. I said that I did not mind meeting somewhere else but that this is important. She apologized on Elgin’s behalf about his behavior yesterday. She added that she would find a time when we could meet.
The problem with the people at CEP is that they treat me with disdain or indifference. They are always very short with me.

Dear Lorena,
I got your message asking me to pick up the girls at 5:00PM and take them to Ballet. I will do that.
Thank you,
Sincerely,
Allan
I also called LL to make double sure that she know that I was on the same page as her about taking the children to Ballet.
Yes, the way the world runs has nothing to do with fairness or truth or ethics, rather it has to do with power.
I am powerless, pretty much. I am armed with nothing but my own vision.
I arrived a quarter of an hour early at the Highland Coffee House and am now waiting for my children.
It is a beautiful day! Spring is in the air.
LL brought the children after I called and she called me back and I got them at about 5:15PM – we arrived at the Ballet studio with one minute to spare. The children did not eat before dancing. I offered them a chocolate bar that we could buy at a gas station on he way, but Sofia said “no,” while Hannah said “Yes, let’s do it, I am hungry…” but then Sofia got on the phone with LL and told her that I wanted to stop and buy them chocolate and LL told me that the children should wait until they have finished dancing.
And so now they are dancing upstairs and I am on the computer down stairs.
Hannah and Sofia are hard at work – learning how to dance.
“Arm up Sofia.“
“Where are you going?”
“Use the bar.“
“Don’t try to hop away from it.“
“Left foot in front, right foot in front.”
“I have lots of dancers I would rather have a girl who tries rather than be lazy. Hard work pays off. Keep your body where it should be.”
“Ok, pull up, don’t lean a bit formward, not even a smidgeon, -- Barbie elbows!”
“One more time. Here keep that thumb down, keep goin up, don’t drop your shoulders Nora.”
“Debbie at this age you should all know that the work look how my head is in my arms.”
“Bottom shoulders arms, elbow, elbow finger, Nora you lost you position.”
“Back you go.“
“All you do is try harder.”
“Up, up, up.”
“Five, six, seven, eight, point your toe.”
So, do I think that Sofia is paying attention to her teacher? Yes and not really. It may be because she has seen that I am there.
They just finished doing chaise right and chaise left and then they kneel on one knee, drop to the floor and sit on their bottoms and pull their knees together and keep their heads tucked under. Arms in a cradle, one two three four.. eight (two times)
There are about ten girls in this class. It is not so bad, I mean and the children are doing more or less what is expected of them, but I can not deny that I denote in Sofia some semblance of indifference to what is going on.
However, I do think that there is some learning going on here and that is good.
No, it is not that Sofia is lazy at all. It is something else. It is her intrinsic ability. She is right on the mark with timing and performance moves, where as Hannah just floats or like water, flows through the scenes.
Hannah was completely happy with me there, she waved to me a couple of times.
Then we went down stairs to eat pie. The children heard the dancing upstairs and I admitted that I had been where we now were (down stairs) but had not known from which part of the ceiling their feet sounds came from.
We sat outside. Hannah soon made another friend but Sofia stayed with me and we spoke about her friend Samantha.
Then Sofia joined Hannah and Hannah’s new friend and they played and it was really good.
I spoke with the father of the new friend of my children. I called LL in order to find out how I was supposed to do the homework with the children and she told me that she had taken their back packs and that I was not able to do the homework with them. Lorena was a pissy person when I asked her if I could do homework with the children. She started out saying “I do not need for you to do homework with them,” and I said “That has nothing to do with anything…” and then she said “No,” and I did not let the children know this.
By the way 2,000,000 Iraqis have been killed, 4,000 US soldiers killed and who knows how large the numbers of maimed and wounded during the same yeas that my children have been in the state of Kentucky.
We hopped in the car and were heading down Bardstown road and the traffic was moving very slowly when LL called and I told her that we were on our way home. The children knew that I was speaking with LL. Hannah said that “Mommy told me that you are not supposed to speak about sexual abuse.” I said “hum? Complicated… first of all we don’t. Second of all, Mommy wants everything to be a secret, secret, secret.”
The children were happy. Hannah asked me for a kiss on the head.

March 13, 2008
I called Misty Rowan again since she has not called me back in a couple of days. I left a message on her answering machine asking her to call me back and I let her know that I had gotten the CPS collection of documents (except for the one that she was working on.)
LeeAnn Gardner called me and left a message stating that she was not going to “chase” after Lorena. I called her back and left a message telling her that meeting her was “court ordered. Please call me back and tell me what I should do?”
LL Text messaged me and told me that she would be bringing the children to the Highland Coffee House at 5:15PM.
I found Peter at the coffee house and he had his two precious dogs with him, so, we all decided to go to dog hill.
Sofia was hard to convince to play along. She resisted most things: getting out of the car, going for a walk with the dogs, walking – it was getting late and she started walking at a snails pace. Finally I let her know that I was going to take her book from her if she did not walk back. Five minutes later I actually did that and walked ahead and then sat down to read the book. It did not take Sofia and Hannah long to come to me, get the book and run ahead.
They held hands as they climbed dog hill.
By the way, Peter is really good with them because he is dramatic.
And then we drove home. Hannah saw that I had red eyes (from running?) and she asked if I had been crying and I denied this, but the children became very concerned. Hannah told me that she loves me and that she believes that I have been crying for four years. I told her that I did not cry all the time that I was in Paraguay but that I did miss my children very much. The children wanted to know what “child support means” and “why that means that I had to go to jail.” Hum? That is a tough cookie for me to answer.
Here is what I wanted to answer: “The reason I do not have a good job like Mommy is because I have been accused of sexual abuse, Sex abusers can not be teachers.”
Here is what I answered: “Remember what Mommy told you? I am supposed to pay Mommy to care for you. When I can not pay, then I go to jail.”
“How long? Three days?”
(This guess is something that the children must have gotten from LL.)
“Next time it is supposed to be a year.”
The children said that they would visit me if I go back to jail and they claim that they did not know in past times when I was in jail or otherwise they would have visited me.

March 14, 2008
I called the KGB and left a message on David Weathersby’s voice mail. “Hello David this is Allan Lasky-Headrick and there is no need for hatred or enmity or walls or barriers and there never has been so please, please call me. Thank you.”

Dear Mommy, Daddy and Papo,
It occurs to me that it might be a good idea if you have some phone numbers just in case:
Important things:
(502) 593 – 4128 Lorena L’s cell phone number:
(502) 299 – 4061 My friend Peter
(502) 584 – 0044 The KGB, David Weathersby and the forlorn therapists of my children.
(502) 247 – 1816 UPS – my job!
And I got a number of emails from the Girlscouts:
Great News... they have extended the cookie sales, so if we can't get everything sold this weekend we will still have one more week!!!!
And this one:
Just a Reminder-----

This Sunday March 16we will have a meeting from 3-4:30 pm at Deer Park Baptist.
Snack: Rubin's

If you still owe dues please bring that with you:
$8.00 -- Rami, Katie E.
$6.00 -- Jamine
$4.00 -- Sofia
$2.00 -- Katie A., Lindsey, Katie B., Zoe

Missing cookie money from: Jasmine (please bring this to the meeting)

If you have not signed up for booth slots this weekend please do so ASAP, I still need girls:
Thurs Kroger's 6-8 -- Alicia and Katie B

Sat Kroger's 10-Noon -- Olivia, Emma, and Alexis
Sat Walgreens/Starbucks Noon-2 -- Alicia (Still need one girl)
Sat Walgreens/Starbucks 2-4 -- Alicia (Still need one girl), Lindsey (?)

Sun Kroger's 10-Noon -- Alicia
Sun Kroger's Noon-2 -- Katie B., Sofia, and Katie A.

(If we sell out of cookies on Sat, we will not have a booth on Sunday, or if we are down to 15 boxes we will not have a booth but will just have the parents buy some of the extra boxes)

Thanks again for everyone's help:

Kelly
And
Also Junior's----

Please bring your $15 for the Sign of the Sun WS to this week's meeting. These girls are the ones registered to attend the WS.

Alexis, Emma, Zoe, Alicia, Jasmine, Katie B, Katie E, Sofia

Thanks,
Kelly
And from LL:
Don't forget--GS meeting this Sunday! Lorena Lasky
And then again:
Sofia will be very upset if she misses again. We already had to do three make-up activities to catch up from the meetings she missed becuase of other activities planned during your parenting time. They are working on Sign of the SUn--a lengthy award that requires her to participate (and, as you can see--she is to bring $15). I will provide the $15.

If she misses, I fear she will be too behind & feel disconnected. It will be detrimental.

Can't you ride horses 10-2 and still make it to the meeting by 3?
And then again:
It appears she is selling cookies Sunday 12-2, as well. Perhaps the horseback riding needs to happen the following weekend. This is you year to get Easter which is the following weekend, so you can do something that Sunday. Lorena Lasky

And I respond:
Hello Dear Lorena,
Thank you for your two emails: Yes, you are right that I have signed up Sofia for Girl Scout Cookies on Sunday, I had it in my schedule in the computer but not in my head when I was dreaming about taking the children horseback riding. So, yes, maybe will go horse back riding next week end – and not this one. I can take them to the science museum this week end. But you may remember that last year, we tried to do both Girl Scouts and horseback riding on the same day and it did not work too well. So, no, it is not possible to “ride horses 10-2 and still make it to the meeting by 3.” Last week end you said that you would go to Girl Scouts and then you did not. You are again invited to coma to Girl Scouts. You wrote that you would pay the fee of $15 and you should feel completely free to come to Girl scouts, not just to make that payment, but to spend time with Sofia and Hannah as well. What are the three make up activities that Sofia had to do in order to catch up with the alleged missed times when I was parenting? In fact, on what days are you saying that I did not bring Sofia to Girl Scouts? If I did not take Sofia to Girl Scouts it is because you or you and Sofia told me not to and I have always believed that was because there was no Girl Scouts on that day since that is what I was told. But I do still have a number of questions that I am still trying to get answers for: “May I invite you and the children to tea or coffee and yummies at Starbucks or to falafel, humus and babaganoush at the Marakesh restaurant next to Starbucks?” or maybe may I come by for ten minutes and say hello to the children? I also some things that the children left in North Carolina that I would like to return…. And would you please give Hannah a kiss on the top of the head and tell her it is from me through you to her?” May I speak with Hannah and Sofia on the telephone with some freedom?” It appears that we need to communicate – at least in the presence of a professional like LeeAnn Gardner – don’t you agree? I got a message from LeeAnn saying that you need to call her for us to meet. It seems to me that our children need access to KUMON after school care instead of CEP (which is a waste of time since they do not even do their homework.) Can you allow this? It seems to me that the children must receive therapeutic services to deal with the past and the present. Are you adverse to them getting therapy? (I was told that you did not want Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo to be their therapists.)
All right, have a nice day Lorena!
Allan





9:00AM I tried to call my children. I think the first time one of my children picked up the phone but it might have been one of Rebecca’s kids. The second time Joey picked up the phone and told me that I had marked the wrong number. The third time the phone was immediately hung up again and the fourth time it had been disconnected. So, I believe there is an adult in the midst of the Lasky telephone. This all happened on the linea baja.
So then I called LL’s cell phone. I left the following message: “Heypodey Rena I would like to speak with Sofia and Hannah today so if you would be so kind as to facilitate telephone conversations between me and Sofia and Hannah and me, that would be truly beautiful and truly good of you. Alright, have a beautiful Saturday.”

12:00 noon: called LL’s cell phone and left the following message: “Heypodey Rena I would like to speak with Sofia and Hannah today so if you would be so kind as to facilitate telephone conversations between Sofia, Hannah and me, that would be truly awesome, beautiful and truly good of you. Alright, I hope you are having a beautiful Saturday.”
I must admit that it is the craziest thing that I do things like leave polite and kind messages on LL’s cell phone. Although a pretty good, if not excellent argument can be made that I have been forced to act in this manner, I am also glad to recognize that I choose to act in this manner. Let me explain something in terms of incidences that pertain to LL.
Rape is a terrible experience. I have no knowledge of it because I have never been raped and I have certainly never raped anyone. However, if I am to believe L, she has been raped. But I can empathize and in my attempts to fathom the hell of being raped, I believe that to have your children stolen is worse – in fact, it is a zillionfold worse.
LL stole my children. I know this even if society does not recognize this truth. The monstrous experience LL has created for me and my children is chronic and in my face every day. The hell is an all pervasive quality in my life.
So, how do I manage to be kind to that person? Well, I think I tower over her: morally, ethically, socially, in terms of any positive quality a human can have.
So yeah, LL, go ahead: have a nice day.
1:30PM I tried calling but no one picked up the phone. I did not leave a message because I already had this morning.
Late in the afternoon Hannah called me to tell me to stop calling and that they were very busy.

March 16, 2008 (Sunday.)
Sofia did not seem happy this morning and there was nothing I could do to assuage this condition. In fact, she became impossible to work with so I had to take certain a definite actions to accomplish any thing happening. So, for example, when it was time to go to Friends meeting, and Sofia was saying that she would not go, I lifted her and her chair and carried her out of the house.
I introduced my children to the folks at the Friends meeting house and Sofia rolled her eyes.
And then I brought them back to my house and then we went to Girl Scouts. This is particularly good with faces, ears and hands and later with Christopher, feet. And my goodness that was good for Sofia. While Sofia was at Girl Scouts I took Hannah to Wallmart where she bought (mostly with her own money) a toy that consists of many prongs which when pressed against and object are displaced by the shape of the object to recreate the form of the pbject and finally for dinner I took the children to Archana and Christopher’s house where they ate pizza and watched a movie about Krishna. We walked to LL’s from there. And there were many lucid and incredible moments during this time. Archana and I drew analogies between Jesus and Krishna which may have been absorbed by the children. Christopher was happy. He was in his element and had no problem just being himself. The children were children and they played both with and against each other and this was “all good.” For example I watched Sofia hitting Christopher with a red get well heart filled with helium. And Sofia was happy as she walked to LL’s with me. We spoke about her friends.
Hannah and Sofia ran ahead when they realized hey were on Rubel street. By the time I got to LL’s house, the house was closed and , I knocked on the door. Hannah answered the door and offered me her head for me to kiss. It was cold outside so I entered the house and that caused Hannah much concern. She had been taught b her mother that I am on no circumstances to be allowed in the house. (What madness) and she pushed me out. Then she said wait Daddy, I want to give you a note and on a piece of paper she wrote “I am sorry. I love you Daddy.”
Later on in a telephone conversation with Archana we commented on Sofia – that she has desisted from manifesting empathy, she is sometimes hard to get along with (Sofia had refused to enter Archana’s home…) and Sofia is much more on a psychological edge than Hannah. “It is a defense mechanism as well as a phase,” was the best I could come up with. I know of course, that Sofia is torn by the Lasky way of being.
Oh by the way, we did not sell Girl Scout Cookies because I got an email from the troop leader stating that “The booth sales have been cancelled for Sunday 3/16/08 due to only having 20 boxes of cookies left.

Thanks,
Kelly”
March 17, 2008
Today I go to court. Present my motion to the judge: contempt of court for not allowing the children to be with me on March 6th, 2008.
The Judge sent a delegate person to me and Mason Trenaman (LL’s lawyer) and we agreed to meet tomorrow to deal with the motion.
Now, in a sense that was a good thing. I had met John Helmers who had told me that he was no longer representing me, that he believes the hearing tomorrow was going to be rejected.
“You are pretty hairy!” John commented on my beard.
“That is evidence that we are descendents from the apes.”
“There are no bald apes!” John answered. It was funny. The Judge read out the names of the people and this time LL and my names would have been the last to be called out, but a delegate came to me and Trenaman and we agreed to deal with the motion today.
On my way to work I stopped by John Helmers office to pick up his “massive” folder of documents and was told that I could not get them then….

March 18, 2008
I was not able to speak with my children in spite of my calling. I called Papo and asked him to sent LL the following email. He got into my account and sent this email for me.
Dear Lorena,
The happy happy phone call today between my children and me did not materialize. Would you please have the children call me this morning.
Thank you,
Allan

And so it goes.
I was talking to Mark and he said that according to zillo, Sweeney lane is worth $136,000. So, I lost $46,000 in selling it. However I bought this house for $23,500 and it is worth $74,500 and so I made a profit of $51,000 and so in the balance I made a $5000 profit in exchanging houses.

March 18, 2008
I called John Helmers but his secretary told me that I can pick up the folder anytime I want.
I called the KGB and left the following message. “Hello David this is Allan Lasky-Headrick. Well, yes, it is obvious that I would very much appreciate the opportunity to speak with you. Would you please be so kind as to call me? My telephone number is 714 8577. Thank you.”
And then I called Misty Rowan and left the same message for Misty.
“Haven’t you lived my life and me haven’t I lived your life?” a nice person at Highland coffee house asked me and I said “No, very few people have lived my life!”
So, here I am at the Coffee shop waiting for my children and I have a ton to write because I was just in court with LL, Mason, her lawyer and Judge Patricia Walker Fitzgerald.
I have recorded my time in court and will transcribe that later on, but for now let me say that I think neither LL nor I won anything and it was a waste of the time. I had filed a motion against LL for not allowing me to be with the children on March 6th 2008 and she had filed a motion against me for speaking with the children about the allegations.
The judge I think will decide that neither LL nor I are good about the allegations with the children and will dismiss the children
LL appears with the phone in her hand saying “I am talking with Jenny from the agency at the John Powers School of Modelling and acting.” She continues to tell me that “Hannah had an audition on Saturday with Harriet Greenspan with and she got an honorable mention and that means that he will get an invitation and she needs a professional headshot and that is really good that means that she likes her and she wants Hannah to get a new mention. The number is 339 – 7483 ask for Jenny.”
“I will.” I say and add “thank you Rena.“
And then the children asked to stay at the Highland Coffee house and so here we are…
Hannah said something interesting and so did I
I said “Thank you Rena for meeting with me today and thatnk you for being so nice and cordial.”
Hannah said “Mommy said that she wants you to bring us to Mommies house because she has picked us up fro your house two times in a row.”
I called Jenny.
And then I did homework with my children. I did not help Hannah very much. She was involved with spelling while Sofia did math: Statistics!
And then we walked form the Highland Coffee House to LL’s place. It was a fabulous walk for me and Sofia and Sofia was very talkative but Hannah felt and seemed distant and then as we rounded the gas station near LL’s Hannah said to me that she wanted to be on my shoulders and I put her on my shoulders and carried her and this made her very happy and she offered her head to me as I put her back down again in front of LL’s house so that I could kiss it which I did.
And as I bid my children good bye I asked LL to call me and she said “sure,” but she never called me.
Oh, one more thing. On the way to LL’s Jenny called me and pushed hard for me to spend money on Hannah’s photoshoot: $800.00.
I asked her “What can you tell me about Hannah? – Let me tell you first what I have just gleamed from Rena, her mother: Hannah had an audition on Saturday with Harriet Greenspan with and she got an honorable mention and that means that he will get an invitation and she needs a professional headshot and that is really good that means that she likes her and she wants Hannah to get a new mention. So what ca you add to that?
Where is the photo shoot to take place? Sghe said that in May.

I need to speak with my financial advisor who is H’s grandfather called Farfar… I will call you back well before the dead line --- when is that?
I walked back to the coffee shop to write and speak with David and Steve. I checked my emails: The first email was from LL:

Allan:

We had communication abotu hilidays before Thanksgiving of last year. Perhaps you can find that email?

We started our holiday schedule as outlined in the new Court Order with Thanksgiving. We are to alternate Thanksgiving, Easter, Labor Day & Memorial day & X-mas.

In 2007, I had Thanksgiving & you had X-mas.

That stands to reason that in 2008 that will be flip-flopped. I believe we said that if one had T-Giving one year, the other had Easter--then it flip-flopped the next year.

What about mapping it out farther in advance so there is no confusion......

2008: Easter--Lorena; Memorial Day--Allan; Labor Day--Lorena; Thanksgiving--Allan; X-mas--Lorena
2009: Easter--Allan; Memorial Day--Lorena; Labor Day--Allan; Thanksgiving--Lorena; Xmas--Allan


That being said (since we said back in November or October that I would do Easter this year...)---Easter has snuck up on us. I kept thinking it was your day this year, but that is incorrect. That is not what we had discussed back in the Fall. The four smaller holidays alternate in the same year and the big one holiday (Xmas) alternates year after year with you getting odd years and me getting even years.

So, I had made a mistake earlier last week when I thought it was your year for Easter and I emailed you the same. As you can see from the schedule above, that is not the case that you could get Easter and Thanksgiving in the same year. This is your year for Thanksgiving because I had it last year.

Since I figured this out at the last minute (I mistakenly told you last week this was your year for Easter), I am offering you to see the kids Saturday so as to not interfere with you getting some parenting time this weekend. Are you available Saturday?
And then another email from LL:
Allan:

We are plannign the annual trip to Florida with my sisters and it has to be earlier this year due to Rebecca's baby coming. We plan to leave Sunday May 18 and return Sunday May 25th as it is the only time everyone can all get together. Can you pencil this on your calender? Please pencil in that you would see the kids on Saturday May 17th instead of Sunday May 18th. Hopefully that is more than enough time to adjust your schedule. The rest of the week, I would like to count as one of the two weeks of summer vacation that I get.

Have you heard from your parents yet about when they want to do the two weeks? I am holding off planning my second week for now. If they will be in California the week of July 4th, I think that might be a good week for me to take vacation time since I get the 4th as a holiday & my center is closed that week. In other words, I am proposing that my second week by the week of May 31st. Lorena Lasky

And then I got a little email from Farmor:
Allan, does Hannah have rollerscates, a scateboard?
Mamma
And I write back:
Dear Mommy,
Hannah and Sofia both have rollerscates… I think… If they have a skateboard it is very small and utterly cheap. And yes, I would love to teach my kids how to skateboard.
Lots of love,
Allan


Understanding this reality requires a reminder of how we arrived at this point. As William Faulkner once wrote, “The past isn’t dead and buried. In fact, it isn’t even past.” I do not need to recite here the history of social injustice in the legal and social workers interplaying to fixate my family. I do need to remind myself that so many of the disparities that exist between LL and myself today can be directly traced to inequalities passed on from an earlier year of shit that suffered under the brutal legacy of allegations and carelessness.
Anger is not (always) productive; indeed, all too often it distracts attention from solving real problems; it keeps us from squarely facing our own complicity in our condition, and prevents LL from forging the alliances she needs to bring about real change. But the anger is real; it is powerful; and to simply wish it away, to condemn it without understanding its roots, only serves to widen the chasm of misunderstanding that exists between us. Does this explain why my emails to LL are layered with kindness?
But I have asserted a firm conviction – a conviction rooted in my faith in life – that working with kindness – god if only it could be together! we can move beyond some wounds, and that in fact we have no choice is we are to continue on the path to be better parents for Sofia and Hannah.

For me that path means embracing the burdens of an imposed past without becoming victims of that past. It means continuing to insist on a full measure of justice in every aspect of my life. But it also means binding my particular grievances – to the larger aspirations of my children -- And it means taking full responsibility for own lives (which I always have done) – by demanding more from myself, and spending more time with our children, and reading to them, and teaching them that while they may face challenges and discrimination in their own lives, they must never succumb to despair or cynicism; they must always believe that they can write their own destiny.
Ok.
I sent LL this email:
Dear Lorena,
Today in court you wanted to present the Judge with an utterance or more of my behavior in the presence of the children. I did not get anything from Trenaman and you did not tell me until a few minutes before the court proceeding started. So, as you should have gleamed from the court proceedings I had no idea what the court proceeding was about today. Would you please be so kind as to email me the recording so that I can understand what you were concerned about? And I would also like to talk with you about it later.
Thank you,
Allan

I did not actually respond to LL’s request to spend Easter with the children because I already had said that I was not working on Saturday and could spend Saturday with them instead of Easter Sunday with them. I said this in court with LL… I also want to think a little more today about how to handle this with her. Let me respond to that now:
Dear Lorena,
As far as Easter is concerned: You are suggesting in your email “Since I figured this out at the last minute (I mistakenly told you last week this was your year for Easter), I am offering you to see the kids Saturday so as to not interfere with you getting some parenting time this weekend. Are you available Saturday?” and the answer is Yes, I can spend Saturday with the children. But… Is there any chance that I could be invited to spend Easter with your family this year? That would be the best of all worlds! Please answer to this suggestion. If you tell me that Grammy refuses to invite me to spend Easter at her place with the children then I can consider exchanging Sunday for Saturday but that is a much lesser option. Please let me know if this is the case.
Sincerely,
Allan

March 19, 2008
Sadly I did not speak with my children on the telephone today. Archana told me that she had seen Sofia at school and that Sofia had been happy, giggling with a friend of hers. Archana said that she would help paint my house.

March 20, 2007
LL was early! In the end I discovered it was because Sofia had been to the orthodontist. Sofia called me at 4:50PM asking me where I was and I told her that I would be there at 5:00PM.
LL hugged the children and then the children and I entered into the Highland coffee house but we did not stay there. We decided to go to the Mimosa Vietnamese restaurant near by.
Sofia had learned a silly story about a very dumb family of bunnies that allow the baby to drive, picnic at the carwash etc…
This indicates the sense of humor that Sofia has attained. A humor that draws on juxtaposition with social norms.
And then we walked home. We stopped at the park and played hide and seek and who knows what else. It was fun as can be. We also stopped at the gas station and bought a few nice things.
But the highlight today for me was when I was pushing my bike up the hill, Hannah called out to me and said “Daddy, I LOVE YOU!!!!”
“Ich liebe dich AUCH!” I called back.
Then I checked my email. The first one is from LL:
The children are already looking forward to seeing you on Saturday. It works best keeping it this way. Also --I was going to work Sunday & I switched it to Saturday when I realized I was supposed to do Easter this year.

Hannah will need you to take her to acting class Saturday.

Did you sign her up for a picture shoot? If so, what is the date?

FYI--There will be a conflict with one of your parenting times in May. The girls have either a dress rehearsal or actual recital on a Thursday. Are you going to file a contempt motion for that, too? Are you going to file every time they have an activity or illness that requires switching for another day? And, do you feel good about yourself for lying in Court and presenting that you were denied a visit when in fact you had already made up the time?
Lorena Lasky

And I answer:

Dear Lorena,
It is true that the girls are looking forward to seeing me on Saturday but that is not because I told them that they would see me on Saturday. Today Sofia told me that she was going to see me “on Saturday and not Sunday because last year she spent Easter with me.” This is something that you told her. She does not remember what happened last year.

No, I have not signed Hannah up for a picture date because I do not understand what the return on the investment may be. I spoke with Jenny and she did not convince me. However, I will inquire on Saturday when I take Hannah in person and possibly then I will understand what is at stake.

I am glad to take the children to a recital or a dress rehearsal on Thursday next month. If you are needed, you are welcome.

Your sentence that runs “And, do you feel good about yourself for lying in Court and presenting that you were denied a visit when in fact you had already made up the time? “is very interesting. It is an amazing sentence. Literally, it comes from the world of the fantastic! When I say ‘fantastic’ I do not mean to impart anything like ‘heavenly,’ it could be ‘infernal.’ Both those are notions that for me are in the real of the fantastic. Here are some ground based answers:

(1) In the hearts of my children and in mine as well, we are owed four years. Therefore , I can not have lied.
(2) You said to me in a telephone conversation on Saturday that you would not make up the forlorn date and I have that recorded in my computer.
(3) If you had called me, emailed me, Communicated with me, then I doubt VERY much that I would have had the pretext to present the motion in court. Communication Lorena is KEY. For example, today you hardly said anything to me. Getting any information about Sofia’s visit to the orthodontist was like pulling teeth. And when I brought the children to your place, you were as scant in your speech to me as a slug is to the arctic caps, or an elephant is to a grain of sand. This is causes the children pain. Compounded to that pain is the reality that you and your family coached them to lie in order to get custody of them, in order not to have to live in Austin, Texas, in order to bolster your position on being able to treat me as you have. This is even worse for the children.
Most sincerely,
Allan

LL’s response arrives:
What I said on teh phone Saturday was that I would not drive them to your house in the snow and that you could choose Monay or Wednesday to do the two hours. You kept insisting that I bring them Saturday and that I had to drive them to your house. You started to raise your voice and I said "no." I never said you could not make up the time. I refused to drive in what I perceived as unsafe conditions. You refused to drive to my house, as well. You also know clear as day that you gace the the motion AFTER I INITIATED (you did not initiate) a conversation with you about seeing them Wednesday for make-up time. Your reply, if you don't remember,, was "well, maybe you want to see this before you schedule that time" and you handed me the motion. An ethical person would have remanded the motion after taking the make-up time. In fact, Allan , it is you who either misunderstood or misconstrued what I said Saturday. Had you been trying to communicate, you would have asked me again about what I said before you jumped to conclusions. Communication is the key Allan & the first and most important trait of good communication is LISTENING. Lorena Lasky

And I write
Oh my goodness, dear Lorena,
There was never an issue with snow in Louisville on any of the days I was to have the children. Thus, snow can not be an excuse for my children not getting parenting from me. As for the other days, they were days that you "perceived as being unsafe," and they were not days that I considered unsafe. There was one morning when I would not have driven the car or motorcycle (with side car) but by noon that day, the driving conditions were safe. I know that they were safe because I was out there driving the white car and the motorcycle with the side car.. That would have been a fine afternoon for a makeup.

On the telephone call that happened on March 6th when you told me that I could not see the children, I did not raise my voice, but I was, as I have always been, clear about your infraction.

Goodness, What do you mean when you write that YOU "initiated" dialog about make up time? On March 6, 2008 you called to tell me that I could not see the children in spite to the Judge's orders and you challenged me to take you to court about it. You said "Go ahead, take me to court!"

And I asked you then about make up time but when I asked that it happen sooner rather than later, you took the offer away from me, saying you will not agree to making up the time.

Several days went by....

And in front of the children, in my house, you spoke with me about make up time. That was when I discretely gave you the court motion. I was discrete because, when I invited you into my house, the children were present and that was certainly not an acceptable place for us to talk about make up time. Still, that is what you did.

And now:

You write that an "ethical person would have remanded the motion after taking the make-up time," and I agree that it slightly weakens my position, but in addition to what I wrote in a recent email You may not decide that I can not have the children because you are the Brownies leader,
or because there is snow on the road,
or because the sun shine on your porch is yellower than Vincent van Gogh's floor
or because the US economy is falling like a house of cards.

And finally you write my favorite sentence: "Communication is the key Allan & the first and most important trait of good communication is LISTENING." Back at you Lorena!!!
Sincerely,
Allan

Farfar also wrote to LL today:

Dear Rena,

Just to be on the safe side, I thought I would confirm the plans for Spring Break.

Farmor and I will arrive in Louisville on Friday, April 4, and take in at the Old Bridge Inn, where we stayed last year. We will arrive there some time after three o'clock. Allan will bring the girls to us. Please prepare a bag or suitcase for each one, as you did last year, containing their pajamas, tooth brushes, combs, etc., and a change of clothes for four days. They would need their blue jeans for bike riding and in case we decide to go horseback riding.

If Hannah still has her rat and Sofia still has her duck, they can bring them along, but the animals must be told that they have to be quiet. We don't want a lot of grunting and quacking disturbing the peace and quiet of the hotel.

You won't have to let the girls have their nice dresses, because, as an advance against Hannah's birthday, Farmor has found some very pretty clothes for both girls, which they can wear when they go out for dinner. (Please keep this secret.)

At the hotel, the girls will sleep in one room, and Farmor and I will sleep in another room. I have already made the reservations. Allan would sleep in his house. On days when he has to work, which would be Monday and Tuesday, Allan would join us for breakfast, then be at work at 10 o'clock. Farmor and I would spend some time with the girls and have lunch with them, and be joined by Allan after he comes out of work at 2 o'clock.

We will return the girls to you on Tuesday in the
early evening.

Best wishes,

William

And LL answered affirming in a single three or four word email that sounded like “That is fine.”

And Farfar sent me an email with a proposed email that he is thinking of sending to LL: So, here is a potential letter from Farfar to LL:

Allan, here is a letter I would like to send to Rena.
What do you think of it?


Hello, Rena,

I'm taking note of your schedule for the summer vacation. You are assuming that both you and Allan
are entitled to two weeks of exclusive parenting time during the childrens' summer vacation, although the Agreed Order says only that Allan has two weeks, and says nothing about you.

Still, I like your suggestion. I think it is fair that you should have two full weeks of exclusive time with the children, just as Allan has two exclusive weeks. You also propose that those two weeks need not be taken in one stretch, but can be divided into two separate weeks, taken at different times. That also makes sense, and Allan could do the same, if he wanted to take his two weeks separately.

During the rest of the summer vacation, when neither one of you has exclusive possession of the children, you would have the children on Saturdays and Allan would have them on Sundays. The rest of Allan's parenting time, namely from 5 to 7 on Tuesdays and Thursdays, is meant for the school year. We need to fill this gap by providing some parenting time for the summer. Taking into account Allan's present job, which lets him out at 2:00 p.m., my suggestion is that he should be able to be with his children on Tuesdays and Thursdays from 3 to 8. The next week, he can care for the children on Monday, Wednesday and Friday again from 3 to 8.
If the Judge rules that he can care for his children overnight at his home then he can bring them to you after breakfast …

In this way, we fill two gaps in the Agreement in relation to the summer vacation: you have two weeks of exclusive parenting time during the summer, to be taken together or separately, and Allan has more hours of parenting time on Tuesdays and Thursdays, for so long as his job permits.

Now, in answer to your concrete proposal, there would be no objection to your taking one of your two weeks from May 18 to May 25.
For your second exclusive week, you are thinking of the week of the 4th of July. That would be the week beginning on June 30 and ending on July 5. Since Allan only recently began his job at UPS, he will not yet be entitled to vacation. You can therefore set that week aside for yourself.

To decide about Allan's exclusive two weeks during the summer, first we need the Judge's ruling on whether he can have the children without being with his parents. If he is granted that right, since he would have to work each week-day from 10 to 2, he would have to place the children in a day care center or a day camp during those hours. If he is not granted that right, he would pick up the children from your house each week day around 2:30 and bring them back at 7, and would also have them all day on Saturday and Sunday without the overnights.

Inga and I will also want to see our grandchildren some time during the summer. Could we have them for a week that interferes neither with your exclusive time nor with Allan's? We might again take them to the beach or to some other resort. That would allow us to establish a close relationship with them, which is impossible when they are with Allan, because they relate only to him, and regard us as grand parents.

With kind regards,

William

Not bad. I thought about it and spoke with Farfar. I believe that LL will not negotiate with us. She will argue in the court, but that does not mean that we should not try. So, I assume that Farfar will probably send an email to LL that is fairly close to this one. Farfar and I are very closely connected.


Some how LL tried to call me. I picked up the phone but she would not connect with me. She did not leave a message. A few minutes later she called again and this time she asked me if I had tried to call. I said that I had but in response to her call. She then explained that she might have accidentally called me. She put Hannah on the phone. Hannah said “I love you Daddy,” and I told Sofia that I would see her tomorrow.

March 21, 2008
Today is a Friday and I have negligible chance of interacting with my children today. I called in vain several times but then I was lucky. I spoke with both my children and told them that I would be seeing them tomorrow.
March 22, 2008
A cold dreary day – hardly worth taking the bikes out. That meant that I had to improvise otherwise. I picked the children up at 9AM and my goodness were they tired.
I took them to the donut shop that is next to Sunergos even though they had already eaten breakfast – so they said. And then we did art at Sunergos and that was really cool.
Hannah said “Mommy hates you (that’s me) in the car.”
I took the children to my house where Sofia ‘taught’ me how to make pancakes using powdered creamer and water instead of water. The pancakes were delicious.
Hannah watched a movie about dogs.
Then we took Hannah to John Powers acting class but it was cancelled because of Easter. LL should have told me this.
Then I took the children to the movie theater. We watched “Horton hears a who.” It was good but I think Sofia was too sophisticated for it.
At this point Sofia could not stay awake and she fell asleep in the car. It was about 3:00PM. I brought the children home and Hannah and I painted the walls a bit.
Sofia was still asleep tow hours later. I had given her a blanket to stay warm…
Finally t 5:00PM I took my children to LL’s. LL wrote a note saying that I can have the children for two hours on some other day. LL said that Sofia and Hannah had slept over at Vera’s and knew that Sofia had gone very late to bed the night before.
When I came home I saw a figure skating competition on TV and wanted to call my children to have them watch it as well. There was one competitor who fell on the ice, got back up and performed some of the most sophisticated tricks on record. The skater did them all in a row and it was an incredible rush when the Judges awarded her the first place even though she had fallen.
Of course I tried to call my children but no one picked up the phone.

March 23, 2008 (Sunday)
Ok, so usually I have the children today but LL asked for me to exchange yesterday for today because she said “I had the children on Easter Sunday last year” which is not really true – I had them only for two hours in the evening (as I remember), but who cares. Saturday for me is as good a day as Sunday so I let her have them today and sure enough they went over to Grammy’s house and when I called at 10:00AM I was barely able to speak with Hannah (and not at all with Sofia) and I let Hannah go. Hannah agreed to call me back but I can not hold it against her if she does not because she is in the Lasky environment.
I remember that one fifth of the world’s population of humans have a hard time getting water. Global water use has trippleded since 1950. Drought, high oil prices and uthe use of land to feed to bio fuel industry and millions of the world most vulnerable people face starvation.
High economic growth has made people richer so people eat a lot and so there is more demand for food and then then there is the bioenergy agriculture that has causen the prices of foods to go up. So we are tip toeing into a crisis.
The world is now a limited place with lack of land and lack of water an 6.5 billion people.
6:00PM I tried calling my children. I left a message for LL on her cell phone that said “Hey Rena this is Allan and if you could have the children call me back that would be quite fantastic of you.”

March 24, 2008
I called six numbers this Monday morning:
1. Debbie Lee, CEP lady and Elgin 637 – 1575
2. KGB, I called David Weatherspeak of the KGB and asked him to please call me.
3. I called Misty Roano asking her to call me back, that I wanted to make contact with Shannon Pfeif and that my children had said that their mother and grandmother hate me.
4. Wendy McLaughlin, 101 North 7th Street, Louisville, Kentucky 40202. Tel.(502) 561-3467 (the court transcriber) and asked her to call me back about the depositions of the KGB.
5. Rose Macarty 595 – 5636
6. LL: Would you please be so kind as to call me? I would appreciate that. I would like to speak with you about Sarah and Scottie and Hannah.
Farfar wrote to LL:

Hello, Rena,

I take note of your schedule for the summer vacation. I also take the opportunity to make some suggestions which, I hope, will create a framework for you and Allan to work out the issues which are likely to arise this summer. There are two sets of issues: 1) how to deal with the two weeks of full parenting time, and 2) how to deal with the rest of the summer vacation.

You are assuming that both you and Allan are entitled to two weeks of parenting time during the childrens' summer vacation, although the Agreed Order says only that Allan has two weeks, and says nothing about you. Still, it is fair that you should also have two full weeks of time with the children.

You also propose that those two weeks need not be taken in one stretch, but can be divided into two separate weeks, taken at different times. That also makes sense, and Allan could do the same, if he wanted to take his two weeks separately.

In answer to your concrete proposal, Allan tells me that he would have no objection to your taking one of your two weeks from May 18 to May 25. For your second week, you are thinking of the week of the 4th of July, when your office is closed. That would be the week beginning on June 30 and ending on July 5. I see no reason why you should not set that week aside for yourself.

Allan has not yet decided on which two weeks he would like to have full possession of the children. He could take any two weeks, in one stretch or separately, other than the two weeks you were first to select.

To decide how Allan would spend his two weeks of full parenting time, first we need the Judge's ruling on whether he can have possession of the children overnight without being with his parents. If he is granted the right to have the children alone, since he would have to work each week-day from 10 to 2, he would have to place the children in the Day Care Center during those hours. After work, he would pick them up and spend the rest of the day with them, and they could spend the nights at his house.

On the other hand, if the judge orders that he must be with his parents when he has possession of the children overnight, or if the judge has not ruled on this question, the arrangement would have to be different. On week-days, Allan could pick up the children at your house around 7:30 in the morning, take them to the Waffle House or elsewhere for breakfast, then take them to the Day Care Center while he is working, then spend the afternoons with them, and take them to your house before 8 p.m. for the overnight. For Saturdays and Sundays there are various possibilities. For example, Allan could take the children on Saturday morning and have parenting time, without overnights, until Friday evening two weeks later, then have them again the following Sunday. There are other possibilities that could be worked out.

2) During the rest of the summer vacation, neither one of you would have complete possession of the children. You would have the children on Saturdays and Allan would have them on Sundays, as provided in the Agreed Order. The rest of Allan's parenting time, namely from 5 to 7 on Tuesdays and Thursdays, is meant for the school year. We need to provide some parenting time for the summer.

I suggest an equal sharing, except for the overnights, which would always be at your house, regardless of what the judge may order in relation to the two weeks of full parenting. You and Allan could alternate having the children in the afternoons after work. Taking into account Allan's present job, on regular weeks he should be with his children on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and on alternate weeks he could have them on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. On days when he has the children, he would pick them up at the Day Care Center whenever he is finished working, usually between 2:30 and 3:00 p.m., and bring them home to you before 8:00 o’clock, after dinner and ready for bed. Normally, each morning, before going to work, you would take the children to the Day Care Center, but on some days it might be convenient to have Allan pick them up at your house and take them to the Day Care Center. He would normally have time for this, since he does not start working until 10:00 o’clock. If he picks the children up before 8:00 a.m., he could have breakfast with them at the Waffle House before
dropping them off at the Day Care Center. If that becomes too expensive, he could invest in a waffle
iron and make waffles at home.

With kind regards,

William

And I wrote:

Dear Lorena,
I see that Farfar likes the idea that you should have two weeks with the children over the summer vacation. I suppose that might be alright if I get three (or four) weeks. The reason for this is that you have had them for four years and my children need something to balance. I am very hopeful that you and I can talk about how we might share the children over the summer. If we can not, then we will have to take it to the Judge, but I want you and I to be on speaking terms about this issue before we resort to such extremes. I also want for you and I to be on speaking terms about the issue of Hannah and Scottie.
Sincerely,
Allan

Then I write to my x-lawyer:
Dear John,
What conditions need to be met for you to get back on board?
Sincerely,
Allan
5:00PM, 6:45PM I try calling my children but no one picks up the phone. My children and I were not able to speak today.

March 25, 2008
Where as yesterday I had called in the morning, today I decided to call people in the afternoon:
I called six numbers this Tuesday:
1. Debbie Lee, CEP lady and Elgin 637 – 1575 and childcare services center and she agreed to call Elgin and see if he might not call me.
2. KGB, I tried calling David Weatherspeak of the KGB to ask him to please call me but no one picked up the phone and no answering machine came on.
3. I called Misty Roano asking her to call me back, that I wanted to make contact with Shannon Pfeif and that I would call her again to let her know how my parenting time with my children transpired.
4. Wendy McLaughlin, 101 North 7th Street, Louisville, Kentucky 40202. Tel.(502) 561-3467 (the court transcriber) and asked her to call me back about the depositions of the KGB.
5. Rose Macarty 595 – 5636
6. LL: Would you please be so kind as to call me? I would appreciate that. I would like to speak with you about Sarah and Scottie and Hannah.
I sent LL one short email:
Dear Lorena,
When do you intend to start helping my children make telephone calls to me?
Sincerely,
Allan
And now it is 5:01 and I am waiting for my children at the Highland Coffee house. A few minutes later LL arrives and she spends some time telling me about the homework situation with the children. I asked her if she coauld call me and she said “not right now.” So then I said “well, no but how about later?” and she muttered “maybe.” I saw that Sofia had a beautiful art project that I presumed she had made in her school. I asked Sofia if I could look at it and she did not respond. She pretended that I did not exist. Then she left the car and I asked her again if I could please look at ther tile art and she said “NO.” I did not understand why she was acting in this manner, but it is something that I presumed had to do with LL being there. I looked at it through the car window. Sofia came and locked the door in an act of defiance. Hannah screamed “Daddy NO!”
Why not Hannah?
Because it is hers.
But all I want to do is look at it?
So?
I did not understand why Hannah and Sofia were being like that. Later when I was writing this down Hannah said “I hate what you are doing?”
“Would you quit?”
And then I stopped writing.
The children are doing a great job of their homeworks.
But the children were having a great time outside rolling around the lamp post. Then it took me a bit to convince them to go to my car to find a pencil.
When we found a pen, Sofia said that her teacher would accept it done in a pen. We came to the coffee house and ordered yummy food.
And the children wanted ice cream and juice as well and I said that we would get this next time.
I had asked to look at Sofia’s homework but she has refused to let me see it. She continued to refuse in the car.
When we came to my house, Sofia refused to come into my house. I took her homework and without looking at it, extracted it from the car and put it on my front porch. When Sofia came out of the car to get her homework I locked the car.
Then I worked on painting my house.
Sofia and Hannah explored the back yard and the garage and when they came back, they came disguised inclothes they had found. They knocked on the front door and pretended to be beggars.
“Oh, dear, gentlemen, I can not give you money because I am afraid you might spend it on bad food, like French fries at McDonald or even beer.”
Sofia and Hannah laughed like nuts.
Then they joined me in painting the living room.
I cooked a chicken rice dinner which we then ate at the park.
LL called me and she seemed to me to be very angry because she did not want to pick the children up at my home. She said that I did not have the right to make her come to my house. I pointed out that I have both picked the children up and delivered them to her place the last two or three times. When I said I wanted to split the responsibility 50:50 she said “That’s funny after your refusal to pay for their medical bills.” I was trying to explain to her that my debt to the children is four years of raising them but LL hung up on me. I saw LL’ car pull onto Lillian Ave about ten minutes later so I called her again and reminded her that we were at the park. (The park is a block away.) She railed on me for not having the children ready to hop in her car.
“I love you all,” I said to the children as they got in the car.

March 26, 2008
I called six numbers this Wednesday:
1. KGB, I tried calling David Weatherspeak of the KGB to ask him to please call me but Marsha picked up the phone. She denied being the one who had allegedly told Dr. Crumbo that I had called 30 times in one day. I explained to her that Dr. Weathersby was not responding to my messages and suggested that maybe his telephone answering machine was not working so I asked her to give him a note: The note contained my name, tel. number, email address and physical address and asked him to communicate with me.
2. I called Misty Roano asking her to call me back, that I wanted to make contact with Shannon Pfeif and that I would call her again to let her know how my parenting time with my children transpired. I described the difficult communication between LL and myself yesterday.
3. Wendy McLaughlin, 101 North 7th Street, Louisville, Kentucky 40202. Tel.(502) 561-3467 (the court transcriber) and asked her to call me back about the depositions of the KGB.
4. Rose Macarty 595 – 5636.
5. LL: I left the following message:

“Yesterday you said maybe you would call me, Rena. Would you please be so kind as to call me? I would appreciate that. Among millions of things that you and I would like to speak about, I would like to speak with you about Sarah and Scottie and Hannah.”


And I got responses from Wendy McLaughlin – she said that the depositions had been finished on March 18th… So I need to send Trenaman an email that runs along the following lines:
Dear Mr. Trenaman esq,.
Wendy McLaughlin has informed me that the depositions are long ready. Please let me know that the depositions are in the hands of the court.
Sincerely,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick.
But none from the KGB, Misty Roano of the CPS, or Rose McCarty (food stamps.) Also nothing from Debbie Lee, CEP lady and Elgin 637 – 1575 and childcare services center and she agreed to call Elgin and see if he might not call me.

I did speak with my children today but it was not for a long time. They experience a great deal of negative psychocrap in their home and are not able to stay on the phone with me. Hannah told me that she was eating and Sofia told me that she was reading a book.
Ph, by the way, there is some interesting news: It seems that LL is buying a house. The children told me that it was in the opposite direction of my house. They can not have known this unless they were told this by LL. Not a nice way to say things.

March 27, 2008
My children tell me that they are moving into a home that LL is buying in a month.
We walked from school to LL’s. That will be harder or impossible to do when they move…
We ate dinner at Tacobell.
Sofia did her homework and shared it with me. It was about making graphs, reflection, refraction of sound and light and about scientific instruments.
Nothing of any interest regarding the hate that LL harbours came out during the time that I was with the children. But when LL dropped the children off I indicated to LL that I wanted her to wait and speak with her and she drove off. When we arrived at her house she did not come to the door, but when Sofia stayed outside with me discussing the best way to determine who in her class had started the rumor that she speaks German, LL came out to say that Sofia needed to get ready to go. I told LL that I wanted to speak with her and she said that she could not do so. I told her that I wanted to speak with her about Scottie and Sarah and she responded that the best thing I could do was to stop bringing this up. With that I left the home. She may have recorded that conversation. But also I asked her to facilitate the children speaking on the telephone with me. She said that the children can call me when ever they want. I said that they don’t. Then Sofia jumped in and said that she wanted to call me.
Indeed Sofia did call me – many times to continue thinking about who could have started the rumor that she speaks German in her school:
5. Bailey Parrish
4.Tommy
1. Hellen
11. Mother of hellen
10.Crawford,
6.Ms Scartzer
8.Mr. Elgin and his date Rebecca who speaks German
2.Devin
3.Christopher
7. Archana
Thomas barber
Rubino
Audry
Samantha Edmonton
Ila hayes
20.Joshua
Ethan
Grass
Ryan
Bayley paris
Asia
Danielle mills
Luanier
Collin Barton
Caldwell
Arthur anao onao


Nkaya
Very suspicious Kylie walker
Hannah banana bobana
Duke
Mimi
Kim Jackson
Blake smith girl!
Ari – if he speaks another language.

Haley spears
Audry Thomas
Clay



Jack horlow

Hannahs best friend = Alexia
In short: Sofia became very interested in trying to work out how a person called Connor came to ask her whether she speaks German. She called me several times after I dropped her off and together we developed a list – this happened while LL was belly dancing. Above is the list. The numbers indicate the degree of “suspicion” with number one being the most likely person who started the “rumor.” Sofia enjoyed this sleuthing exercise. I gave her several suggestions that included:
1. Do not ask the person “did you tell anyone that I speak German?” Instead ask “who did you tell that I speak Japanese?” That way the guilty person is more likely to say “I never said that you speak Japanese, I said that you speak German!”
2. Ask adults first and get them off the suspicious list because they are less likely to tell others that you are trying to find out who started the rumor. Also, if you ask and adult they would probably admit that they started the rumor.
3. Do not ask the most suspicious person first, ask other less suspicious people who might then corroborate evidence against the most suspicious person so that when you ask Hellen (the most suspicious person) she is most likely to cave in under the weight of the accrued evidence.
But It want to add one more tidbit of information and that is that the children were on their way home in the car at 9:00PM when Sofia last called me. This means that the excuse of 8:00PM being a bed time is at least on Thursdays forsaken by LL. Let me add that LL has been going to the Belly Dancing in Indiana for what strikes me as a very long time – a year? More?

March 28, 2008
I went to the L&M building – where Child Protective Services is housed and got the number of Shannon Fife. I was forced to do this because Misty Roano has refused to call me for a week. Misty Roano is the person who is in charge of the current CPS investigation. I had been asking Misty to call me telling me of Shannon’s number for a long time. Then I called Shannon and left a message asking for an appointment.
7:00PM I called LL and left the following message
Hello there Lorena, well, I am calling to speak with our dear children Sofia and Hannah Lasky-Headrick. I sent you an email where I asked you when you are going to start facilitating the childrne’s contact with their father – that’s me. I remember the words you used to describe your mother’s method with your father. So, I hope you might think about the extreme madness of yourchana tor disposition and the incalculable harm that you have already caused the children and reverse your methods and facilitate our interacting. I, for my part just with you a nice Friday.
Archana told me that Hannah went on a field trip today so I can ask her how that went when I see her the day after tomorrow.

March 29 (Saturday) 2008
11:00AM. I call LL and leave the following message.
Hello there Lorena, the sun is shining through a cloudless sky and I expect you and Sofia and Hannah are all having a wonderful day. I hope that it remains in the highest echelons of wonder throughout the whole day. I have the note on my fridge from you that states that I have two hours of make up and am still waiting for your email suggesting a time. I am also calling to speak with Hannah and Sofia, so would you please be so kind as to pass the phone to them? And ask them to call me? Thank you.

Dear Lorena,
Today I got one call from one of my children who pretended to be 'Uncle John,' but I was not able to speak with our other child. I think that you probably got the one child to call me since I got the call right after I had called you. Can you please see to it that I am able to communicate with both my children?
Thank you very much,
Allan
I called again to see if I might be able to speak with my children but no one picked up the phone. I left a pleasant message.

March 30, 2008
OK, I am about to go pick up my children. The weather forecast indicated rain for the afternoon…. But it did not rain until after the children left!
I drove to the Thornton’s gas station near LL’s place, bought a cup of coffee and walked while jump starting my psyche with the drink to LL’s. I called when I was approaching and it was 9:00AM. LL answered the phone. She told me that the children were getting ready and would be coming out the back door with their roller blades. LL agreed that I would bring the children back to her place at 7:00PM in exchange for LL picking them up from my home on Tuesday.
(At 6:45PM LL called and told me that she wanted to pick the children up from my home after all. I said “Ok.” This means that I will drop the children off at her home on Tuesday.
So, when I appeared at the back door I found the children with heavy bags with all kinds of clothes and roller blades and who knows what else. There was a red wagon in the back yard and LL allowed us to take it with the understanding that we would bring it back today and we promised that we would.
But, on the way to the wagon, there was a plank of wood on the steps with a rock at the end of it. Hannah had been playing with it but Sofia did not understand what it was about. Hannah showed how she could step on one end of the wood and it would lift the rock with the ledge acting as the fulchrum. I showed the children (I think only Sofia understood) that the weight of the person times the distance to the fulchrum was equal to the weight of the rock times its distance from the fulchrum.
Hannah told me that she really liked the ‘John Powers book that she had gotten yesterday. I told her that I wanted to look at it but then she told me that “Mommy’s boy friend is sleeping in Mommy’s bed and the book is in Mommy’s bed room so I can not look at it.”
(I called LL later to ask her what the name of her boy friend is and she told me to ask Hannah. I of course, did not do this.)
We played in the park behing LL’s house for about an hour. This was fun. Farmor called in the middle of all this and that was good too.
We went to Quacker Meeting and that was not interesting for Sofia but it was good anyhow. There was the children section where Sofia and Hannah drew some art. I heard that there is a good Unitarian Church near the down town Library and am thinking to check it out next week end?
Then we went to McDonalds and here Sofia and I read a great deal from a Spanish book called “Tintin, El Fetiche de la Oreja Rota.”
TODAY WAS THE FIRST DAY TEACHING SPANISH TO MY CHILDREN.
LL called to confirm that Sofia was being taken to girl scouts. (LL does not trust me because she knows that she herself is not trustworthy.)
I dropped Sofia off at Girll Scouts and went with Hannah to Wallgreens where she showed me things she wanted for her birthday. Then we dropped the wagon off – and the roller blades too, at LL’s.
We returned to Girl Scouts but I parked the car a certain distance from the event and Hannah and I walked and played catch on route.
The children were hungry so we went home and Sofia cooked a wonderful rice dinner. (Last time she had cooked wonderful pancakes.)
Of course, I was always in control but I basically allowed Sofia to read the instructions on the packet and determine how to cook the food.
And then LL called but Sofia picked up the phone but when LL spoke with me she told me that she wanted to pick the chroildren up from my home.
The children played like there was no tomorrow until LL came. She came at 7:45PM – three quarters of an hour later, which means that she was probably not at home at 7:00PM and that is why she said that she would pick up the children (and be late.)

That’s OK.
When LL arrived she refused to come in the house to taste Sofia Macaroni and Cheese and play in Hannah’s gym that she had made with tape. (She had strung tape from my desk to the walls!)
Oh well.
A minute later I called LL to ask if I could speak with Sofia. I told LL that I wanted to learn the recipe for the food she had cooked and amazingly(?) (Can write like that?) I was able to speak with Sofia. She described to me how to make the Macaroni and Cheese. Then we started talking about the rumor that has spread through her school about my children speaking German. But then LL told her that she had to stop speaking with me and Sofia told me that she would call me as soon as she could. She did not call me this evening.
Playing catch with Hannah was a great high point. Reading Tin Tin in Spanish was a great high point with Sofia.
5:15PM I tried to call my children but no one picked up the phone.
6:30PM I tried the same again with same result.







(502) 593 – 4128 Lorena L’s cell phone number:

(502) 584 – 0044 KGB, David Weathersby and the forlorn therapists of my children.




]]>An addressed set of envelopes with stamps for the teachers of Sofia and Hannah. The court order needs to be given to the school.
Sofia and Hannah should be told that they are not just my children, they are also LL’s children.
Keep the homework of learning German going.
Get the children to do their homework during CEP.
Continue to act in the same manner about the Laskys with the children. I love the Laskys and this is not dependent on how they are towards me. This means that I must love them. Learn to forgive them for their foolish ways have opened new and wild possibilities in my life… for example, I have bought a house and have $1000 coming in above and beyond the cost of that house per month!

February 1, 2008: I got the following email from the Girl Scouts leader.


Here is some information for a Father - Daughter Dance, if you are interested you can just pay at the door.

Thanks,
Kelly


Kelly had obtained this information from Elizabeth.

Kelly,

Katherine and her dad have gone to this dance before and really enjoyed themselves. I know it's short notice, but maybe some of the girl scouts would be interested. Katherine and her dad will be going.

-Elizabeth B

Girl Scouts of Kentuckiana Calendar
12th Annual Me & My Guy Valentines Dance
Father/Daughter event
by Terri Sanders
Cost includes patch for girl, professional photo of couple, crafts, games, snacks, drinks, and all the dancing you can handle. Come with your troop and fathers or as couples. No registration required; just pay at the door.
Event Details
Service Center: Metro Service Center

Event Type: Calendar Event
Age Group: Adults/Volunteers
Daisies
Brownies
Juniors
Ages 11-13
Ages 13-15
Ages 15-17
Cadettes
Seniors

Date(s): 2/12/2008 - 2/12/2008
Event Time: 6:30 PM - 8:30 PM
Cost: $12.00 per couple/family
Location: Camden Station Elementary School, 6401 W Hwy 146 at bypass Hwy 329 - Crestwood
Contact Info: For more information, call Terri at 222-0646 or 435-4853.

2nd exit
Hway 329
Rt
Do not take 3329 little
Left at light and then left into shool.
329 and 146



I also got an email from LL:

That is good. They will like it.

Now, I have a rather late request. I have to work one Saturday a year at a job fair. That is coming up on February 9th. Since I have to be gone several hours, I wonder if you can switch days. You would take them Feb 9th and I would on Sunday the 10th. Lorena

And I write:
Dear Lorena,
When you say, “that is good, they will like it,” I understand you are talking about Sunday. Please confirm your thoughts on this week end. The email from Kelly Wallace was about an event that is taking place on Saturday – tomorrow – your day with the children. If you are saying that I am invited to that event, then I will make it. But just to be sure we are on the same page, I have not agreed to exchanging Tomorrow (Saturday) for the day after tomorrow (Sunday) yet. But I am very serious about trying to find some way for you and me to raise the children in synch.

I am trying to invite Sofia and Hannah to learn a musical instrument. They have both had two experiences with the violin teacher. . I think that Sofia might be interested in taking violin classes. Hannah however might be more interested in learning the guitar – the electric guitar.
I will send you an email soon about your new request to exchange the 9th and the 10th of February.
Thank you,
Allan.

I write to LL:

Dear Lorena,
Below is a Father - Daughter dance that Sofia, Hannah and I AND YOU are invited to come to. Can you please make arrangements so that we can attend the event more fully?
Thank you,
Allan

LL writes back:

What does that last sentence mean? Lorena
And I write to LL again, in more explicit sentences:
Dear Lorena,
The amount of overlap between the interval when I have the children and the event is only half an hour. The last sentence means that at present we can attend only for half an hour and I am asking you if there is a way that we can make the overlap time greater. The last sentence reads "Can you please make arrangements so that we can attend the event more fully?" and what this would entail is that you either agree to expand the time that I am with the children or you shift the time a little bit. Does my last sentence make sense to you now? Can you pick the children up at the event? Would you please attend the event with us?
Sincerely,
Allan
Cookie Kick-off is this Saturday 10:30-12:30 pm at Skate World on Preston Hwy., we will meet at Skate World. (Try to be about 10 mins early so I can get everyone there ticket) That is LL’s day with the children.
I write to Paraguay:
Querido Francy,
Perdoname por no haberte escrito en tanto tiempo. Te quiero escribir para ponerte al tiempo con las vidas de mis hijas y la mía.
Estoy en proceso de comprar una casa aqui en la ciudad donde vive Lorena. Me ha sido muy dificil llegar hasta este punto pero me parece que no tengo la opcion de llevar a Sofia y Hannah a mi casa en Texas.
He vendido mi casa en Texas y con el dinero estoy comprando la casa en Louisville. Mis hijas ahora tiened 7 y 9 años de edad. Sofia y Hannah ahora saben como esquiar, patinar sobre hielo, andar en caballo, y tantas cosas mas.
Sigo soñando de visitarte en Paraguay. He estado communicando me mucho com Fatima. Ella sigue trabajando para la misma familia en Barcelona, España, y parece estar bastante contenta. Lo único que le falta es enamorarse. Es dificil para ella encontrar un hombre porque hay tanto odio hacia los extranjeros en Europa– especialmente aquellos que vienen de países pobres. La vida es muy bonita pero no es justa.
Hace también mucho tiempo que no me comunico con Mabel.
Entonces, quisiera saber ¿como estan ustedes? ¿Aldo?¿ Cinthia? ¿Como andan los estudios?

And then I send an email to Mabel,
Querida Mabel,
Perdoname por no haberte escrito en tanto tiempo. Te quiero escribir para ponerte al tiempo con las vidas de mis hijas y la mía.
Estoy en proceso de comprar una casa aqui en la ciudad donde vive Lorena. Me ha sido muy dificil llegar hasta este punto pero me parece que no tengo la opcion de llevar a Sofia y Hannah a mi casa en Texas.
I think of you and now that so much time has transpired since I last communicated with you, I feel guilt. I had the thought, that when I close on the house (finish buying it) I will paint images on the walls – images that are made using the many Photos I took when I was with you.
I love you as I always have, no change, nothing different or new in that sense. I am merely fully occupied with trying to raise my daughters,
Tons of petal scented rainbow arching love,
Allan


And finally I sent LL a response to her email from this morning about exchanging the interval I am with my children:

Dear Lorena,
I am sorry that it took me until late this evening to write back to your email early today... and I still do not have a definite answer for you about exchanging Saturday the 9th for Sunday the 10th. My dilemma is that I have been interviewed for a second job that will certainly require me to work on Saturdays. I had thought that I might hear from the company today, but they did not call me so I am still in hanging in limbo.

I was told that I would be called whether I got the job or not so I believe now that they are waiting until next week to call me. I will let you know as soon as I find out if I got the job. But, of course, if I do not get the job then I will certainly be glad to help you out by exchanging Saturday for Sunday. And please note Lorena, that normally I do work on Saturday - for the Penguin Co. but that is a sacrifice I would make for you.

I don't know what to recommend, but maybe it would be better if you did not yet count on us being able to exchange Saturday and Sunday. I am very sorry.

Would you be OK with having Sofia and Hannah's time with me overlap more of the Girl Scouts Father - Daughter dance on February 12, 2008?

Thank you very much and I hope you are happy,
Allan

Subir and a new friend, from the state of Kerala, in India --- we had picked this fellow up at the Indian Supermarket on Bardstown road… and were driving to take our new friend to his home…. and the path led us very close to LL’s house. It was about 10:00PM and we drove past LL’s place and saw that the lights were on and that LL’s car was parked on the street in front. I called LL but she did not pick up the phone. I did not call her cell phone. But this new friend is remarkable. His name is Sunil and he has been places in the world of recent historical interest. He worked for the Red Cross in Iraq after the first invasion, He lived for three years in Saudi Arabia and experienced the American’s using Saudi Arabia as a base for the invasion of Kuwait. He talked about SCUD missiles. He was in New York City when the twin towers fell. He was five blocks away when the first building came down.

February 2, 2008
9:50AM I call and the phone is probably picked up and hung up. 9:53AM I call again and Hannah says “Hello!!!!!!!!!!!” in an irritated voice.
“Oh heypodey good morning how are you?” I ask and then the phone goes click.
10:15AM I call again. No one picks up the phone. I call LL’s cell phone and leave the following message: “Heypodey Rena, good morning! I had tried calling this morning a couple of times but was not really able to get though. Do you think that you could call me so that it is more likely that Sofia and I as well as Hannah and I are able to communicate? I am sure the children and I know that I would certainly appreciate that. OK, well I hope that you are having a beautiful Saturday.
OK, so I have to set myself up in this crazy (in a bad way) city. The job at the Penguin Ice Cream Company is a wonderful job for me because it is so versatile and renders me with a good chunk of money and a place to live for free… But I need a second job that is going to make me economically powerful enough to furnish my house (I am in the process of buying a house) and put the kind of technological artifacts that I need for my children. Finding a job is not easy. I want a job that involves social work and as you can imagine, with the KGB blackmailing me, this is very tough. I keep going. I have the thought that maybe I could apply to all the YMCA’s in Louisville? There is the YMCA on Bardstown road that is between the Buechel loop, so I stay on the left side as I go south and then I make a right.


Dear Lorena,
I have been going to many job fairs and when you wrote to me that you were going to be involved in a job fair I was a little surprised because I was not aware of a job fair on Saturday the 9th of this month. Today I looked on line and was not able to find any job fairs in Louisville on that day. So, I suppose it is possible that I did not look enough and I will look some more, but if you could give me some guidelines, I might appreciate that.
Sincerely,
Allan

6:00PM I call the ‘linea baja’ but no one picks up the phone.
6:00PM I call LL’s cell phone and leave the following message: “Heypodey Rena, I hope you are doing well and that there is a great deal of happiness in your life and that the children are also well. I am, as I am apt, calling to speak with Sofia and Hannah and I am asking you, as I am apt, to facilitate them calling me. I understand that tomorrow there is a Girl Scouts event and I would like to go to that so maybe you should email me if you want to tell me not to go.
OK thanks, bye bye.

Around 1:00PM I sent LL the following email:
Dear Lorena,
This morning at around 10:00AM I tried to call my children. I also would have been glad to speak with you because there are millions of unresolved issues but it was not possible to speak with anyone. Would you please be so kind as to provide me with an explanation as to why it is so dificult to communicate with any one in your family? If I have ever hurt or been unkind to anyone in your family, I would like to know of the event. I have done an insurmountable ammount of soul searching and am truly at an absolute loss as to what I may have done to case you to act in this manner. I would very much appreciate a telelphone call from you and what is important for the children - a telephone call from each of them.
Sincerely,
Allan
1:20 I try to call my children again. No luck on the ‘linea baja,’ no luck on LL’s cell phone and I did not leave a message.
7:00PM I have a long and very nice conversation with Sofia that started with her telling me that she was bored and then we found many great topics to converse about that included doing a good chunk of math and a good dose of creative thinking about potions and what they can do.
9:00PM LL calls me and tells me that she had left a message informing me that I was going to have to pick the children up near Nancy’s house. I told her that I was glad to pick up the children at Nancy’s house but that to have me pick them up near there (at the convenience store) was not a game I wanted to continue to play: I would pick the children up at Nancy’s. However, Hannah wanted to spend the night at the house of a friend and I said that I would be glad to pick Hannah up at her friends house.
The problem was that LL was so upset about my picking the children up at Nancy’s house – she wants to protect her mother’s lies – remember that Nancy is the architect for the destruction of my relationship with my children, so LL said that she was not going to let Hannah spend the night at her friends house and I would pick up both children at the convenience store. I said “NO.” I added that I was acting with a kindness that she should be appreciative of, but LL hung up the phone on me.
So then I called Nancy and told her that I would (according to LL) be picking up the children at her house and proposed that we might drink tea together. Nancy said “I will have the children ready.” Then she hung up on me.
And then I checked my phone messages to see what kind of a message LL had left me.
LL had left me the following message at 6:38PM Hey Allan I totally forgot to tell you that the kids will be sleeping over at Moms house and I will not be able to and so she will bring them to I think it is a thorntons right at the corner , she will bring them down to the Thorntons at the corner of Highway 22, and Barbour Manor lane and Sofia will have her girl scout stuff and I have not checked my email yet so I do not know if you can switch the days next week end so let me know about that. Thank you bye.
And then at about 11:00PM I called LL to remind her that she should also make sure Sofia had her swimming gear.

February 3, 2008

It is close to 8:00AM and I am getting ready to pick my children up at their grandmother’s house. I am taking Ginger and her nephew Mathew who is nine years old. I would like to take them to the YMCA. Nancy managed to lead the children out the door without saying a word to me. Both Sofia and Hannah were distant and managed to not laugh at all or think anything could be positively looked upon until they were in the car and then the laughter and the happiness started for real. After all, they were in the car with Ginger and her nine year old nephew and there was plenty to explore socially. At first Hannah said things like “Daddy likes Ginger,” and the children tried for a long time to tease Ginger and me about this but it eventually subsided because we told the children in no uncertain terms that Ginger is married to Tony. But that took a long time, and it did not stop without Hannah having blurted out some statement about people showering together.
And then we arrived at the YMCA on Bardstown road only to find that it was closed. We continued to Tony and Ginger’s house where the children mostly watched TV (The nature channel) and then we went back to the YMCA and this proved to be very unsuccessful because they would not let me swim in my basket ball shorts, Ginger swim in her shorts or her nephew, Mathew, swim in his shorts…. So we went to the YMCA down town.
This was a great success. I took a lot of pictures.
And we ate lunch there.
And then we took our guests to their home and went to Girl Scouts.
I asked Sofia to either eat something or drink something before she went to Girl Scouts and she became obstinate about not complying. I told her why she needed to get just a little bit on energy in herself but she refused. She decided to call LL. LL said hat I should allow Sofia to go to Girl Scouts without eating or drinking anything.
I took Sofia to a convenience store and gave her an option to choose anything she wanted – just so long as she put something, anything inside her belly. She was psychologically stuck in her determination to not eat anything (and she had her mother’s support.) So, with half the time at Girl Scouts now lost, we returned to Girl Scouts and everything was OK.
I recorded the last part of this as I was parking and the children were going into Girl Scouts and LL was talking with me on the speaker phone and the children were actually now refusing to speak with their mother and at the end of it I managed to get Hannah to speak with LL but I do not think Sofia did….
Anyway, you can listen to it – it’s there.
And then we went to Café 360 and now Sofia was so hungry she could hardly wait to eat.
We drove to the Chevron near LL’s house.
On the way Hannah accused me of keeping her from spending the night at her friend’s house. I said “I told Mommy I would be glad to pick you up at your friends house,”
“You don’t know where my friend lives!”
“On Broadway and 35th,” I said and then I added “and I said I would pick up Sofia at Grammy’s house. But that upset Mommy because she wanted me to pick you up at a gas station near Grammy’s so she arranged things as they happened – except I picked you up at Grammy’s.”
The children want to believe their mother. That is OK and I respected it.
Then we walked back to the home of the violin teacher and listened to him for a minute or so. This was a fortuitous moment because he was accompanied by a mandolin and a guitar.
And then we walked to LL’s.
And all this was fun as can be. At LL’s it came out that the children were going to Emily’s. To spend the night?
I called LL and she agreed that she and I can speak with one another about the children tomorrow at 8:45PM. This is a momentous occasion. LL has basically almost never agreed to anything like this.
Feel free to guess why she might have been so amenable?
Feel free to guess whether it will happen?

(Monday) February 4, 2008
I got two wonderful emails, the first from Yanhong:
Hi, Allan,
Thanks for the info.
It's always nice to talk to you. You are a good listener and talker. Since my English is getting better, I could understand more than before. I really want to have your best part brain, then I do not have to study so hard and can pass the National Board Test easily, right? He, he, he... This is my dream!
Anyway, if you come to Austin next time, we can meet together and talk more.
Take care!

So, that was her response to my email and I write to her:

Dear Yanhong,
It was a really nice surprise to get a call from you today. (Feb 1, 2008) There are lucid and funny moments in our conversations like for example when you suggested it would be good for you to have the good part of my brain or when I promised you that I would call you when I get a "C" and we could have a party to celebrate my accomplishment.
I am however concerned about your situation with your lawyer. My lawyer, called Brian Walters, did a great deal of research and was very good but he was extremely expensive. I think he charged $250 per hour.
I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.
Allan

And the second email I got is from my lover in Paraguay:
Mi querido Allan:
Tambièn siento mucho que nuestra correspondencia sea tan esporádica pero igual es mucha alegría recibir tus cartas
Yo tuve vacaciones muy agitadas. Acompane al padre Roberto, mi amigo, a visitar a su familia a california. El ya no puede viajar solo. No se si sabes que tiene Alzheimer. Fue muy triste pues su familia decidió que él debe ser internado en una clínica especial para gente con éste problema y eso será en Julio de éste anho. Cuando regresé fuimos con juancho a visitar a mi hermano a Rio y luego me fui a Francia y Espanha. Era un viaje que habíamos planeado hace muchotiempo con el padre, pues el deseaba conocer el santuario de Santiago de Compostela. Lástimosamente él no pudo ir por su enfermedad y como ya todo estaba pago terminé viajando yo sola. Fue muy triste pero dentro de mi pena supe gozar las cosas hermosas que medió la vida. Visité Paris, el centro de Francia con los castillos y luego fui a Carcassonne. Finalmente me maravillé con Barcelona. Llegué sola a Santiago de Compostela para encontrar la espada de la felicidad y descubrí que hace mucho la tenía y que ella me ha acompanhado hace muchos anhos, y que ella es el gran amor de todos los que me rodean y de todos los que amo. Me sentí feliz y bendecida por ser capaz de darme cuenta, de reconocerlo y sobretodo de disfrutarlo. Luegué ayer de Europa y hoy para gran suerte mía abro el correo y encuentro tu hermosa carta.
Yo también te quiero muchísimo. Me alegra pensar la manera tan linda que luchas por tus hijas, pero sobretodo tu lucha porque ellas conozcan el amor de padre. Nunca las has abandonado a pesar de todos los problemas y un poco es como mi caso y el de Miki. ninguno de los dos hemos abandonado a Juancho y a pesar de nuestras diferencias sentimos que él debe ser compartido por los dos. Bueno en nuestro caso Juancho implica tanta atención como tus dos neneas que aún son pequemhas.
No te sientas culpable por no escribirme, lo más importante es tu carinho por mí y esos hermosos sentimientos hacia mí. Yo los tengo igual por tí y me alegraría mucho poder verte algún día nuevamente. Deseo que encuentres en todo lo que haces la felicidad y que sigas amando a tus hijas como siempre lo has hecho. Te quiero de verdad muuucho y extranho las cosas locas que hacíamos juntos. Besos por montones. Recibe el aroma de las guayabas del patio de mi casa. Se caen por montones al piso. mabel
mabel avila
ars longa vita brevis


I called the KGB and left the following message: “Hello, good morning this is Allan Lasky-Headrick. I am calling for two reasons, I think, this time... I want you to know that the enmity and sociologically unacceptable behavior that you have supported in the Lasky family, which involves rejecting, repudiating, maligning and vitiating me as the father of Sofia and Hannah continues. I want you to know that I swear this is the only present you have given Sofia and Hannah.
Yesterday, picking the children up at the place of Nancy Lasky was pure hell for my children. As soon as they got in the car and the car started moving they became happy.
And so it occurred to me, as I look through the reports you have given me, that I see no single copy of any home visit. However, I also know that home visits are in the instances that my children have lived, categorical according to your own doctrines. For example, a home visit was prescribed by your own institution when I was in Louisville during the summer time and Hannah was going to the Western Day Care Center that Kimberley Dial, after having group sex abuse therapy with Hannah, appointed for Hannah – by the way, the group sex abuse was both wrong of Kim Dial and very detrimental to Hannah. I am sorry if you do not enjoy the truth, but to tell me, that my telling you the truth is an excuse for cutting me short or obliterating discourse with me, is unethical. But I am sorry that the truth is not nice to you and I beg of you that you embrace the idea of wanting to recognize what you have done to Sofia and Hannah. I want, and of course need, copies of ALL home visits. That is where the truth of this case is found. I want an explanation as to why I was not provided with any of these. I was not given a single one.
Also, David Weatherspeak, you told me that you would do a follow up call with Lorena Lasky. I want a written statement from you detailing how many times you called. How long it took for you to get a response. And what is the response.
David, because of Louisville (that is a metaphor!) my children need non-maligned therapy. Non-maligned therapy is therapy that is in line with reality. Lorena and I need to meet in the presence of mediators. None of this is happening and my children are, as they have been since you all became involved in the family, swimming in a sea of ‘how about you fill the word since it is your work.’ I have already labeled it. It is extremely painful for Sofia and Hannah. The counselor at the Bloom elementary school describes Sofia as a child on the verge of exploding.
And then the message machine refused to accept more message so I called again and this time I asked the receptionist why she was always connecting me with David Weatherspeak and not with Kim Dial or Ginger Crumbo and she said that it was because she was ordered to do so. She reconnected me with David Weatherspeak’s voice mail and I left the following continuation of my message:

So, get people in on this case. Move in on the entire family and that includes me. Do something to cap the intolerable hate that my children have to survive in the ambience that they inhabit. Send me reports of home visits and explain why none of these were included, let me know of follow up calls to Rena about continuing therapy.
(I had labeled it maligned.)

Then I called 911: They told me the abuse hotline is 581 6184. 1-800- 752- 6200
I was with my children yesterday and they told me that their mother had accused me of forcing Hannah to spend the night at Grammy’s. LL had told them that Hannah was having to spend the night at their grandmother’s house because of me – which is certainly not true. My Hannah stabs herself with a pencil, maims kids, threatens adults. My older daughter Sofia tells me that she sometimes does not want to live any more when she is in her mother’s family. They have told me that their mother and grandmother have made them lie to therapists and have repeatedly stated that the things they told their therapists are lies. Now that the judge has ordered that I can spend a day and a week with my children, my children are suffering the madness of the hatred of the family they live with. My children need therapy like a fish needs water and, of course the mother who has custody is refusing that service. I am calling you to ask you to help save my children from the psychological ambience that my children inhabit and to provide some modicum of sanity therein.

But what is most interesting is that I was told that I can just go to the family court and file motions. I guess I will do that.
I recorded this conversation.

And I got a nice email from LL: Good! This calls for me to respond in a positive way and I want to do this. I can see that she is wanting to exchange Saturday for Sunday. The fact that I do not believe that she is providing me with a real reason for exchanging those dates need not deter me from exchanging those two dates. Let me be clear about this: I do not have any real reason for believing that there will be a job fair that she is to work at on Saturday – this is because I have searched the internet on two separate occasions for any hint of such an event taking place and have fund NOTHING. So what? She can ask to have Saturday and Sunday exchanged without providing any reason, right? And that I have had the children on Sundays for many months is sufficient reason for me to say “OK,” without taking any of her reasons into consideration – especially if I have reason to believe they are lies. Right? And in her email, LL has suggested that I can be with the children for an extra half hour on Thursday.
Why did LL send me this email? Has she realized that there are forces at stake that she needs to begin to reckon with? I will try to find out this evening when I call her. Do you think we will actually speak?
And here is LL’s email:
Allan:

i got your explanation about Saturday. Do you have any news yet as to whether or not you got the job and will be working on the 9th?

You said this is a second job. I did not know you had another one. The kids said you had 3 jobs--or so they thought. They mentioned a teaching job--are you teaching somewhere?

Regarding the father/daughter dance. I think it is a good idea to take them. It is on Tuesday the 12th. they would have to come home and get dressed up for the dance after school, so we can just adjust the time you normally get them. What time in the dance again? is it 6:30-8:00? Lorena Lasky

And then a second email:
Allan:

I think you should pick them up at my house at 6pm so they have time to get dressed up at home and eat something. Then, you can arrive on time, stay an hour at the dance & get home at 8pm. Lorena Lasky.

So I write back:
Dear Lorena,
Yesterday you said that we would be able to talk tonight at 8:45PM, so I will call you then and we can talk about this. Thank you very much for this email and it is alright with me so please tell the children about the event because I am saying 'yes' to this.
Sincerely,
Allan


7:00PM I called the ‘linea baja,’ but no one answered the phone so I called LL’s cell phone and asked her to ‘facilitate the children calling me.”
7:30PM I got Sofia on the phone but her mother told her that she had to hang up and do her homework so we were barely able to exchange any utterances. I reminded LL that I would be call at 8:45PM and she said “whatever.”
8:45PM No answer.
8:51PM NO answer.
9:00PM No answer.
10:00PM No answer.
10:30PM No answer.
And I mean no answer to either the ‘linea baja’ or her cell phone and she never called me either even though I left messages two times.

Dear Lorena,
Yesterday you promised me that we would be able to speak on the telephone between 8:30 and 9:00 and I called you many times in an attempt to reach you but it was in vain. I will try again tomorrow. I will call you at 8:45PM.
Thank you,
Allan

And my friend in Australia, Lionsharecology:

Hello Allan,

Hope you are well and just checking in to see you are going OK with your kids and in your family issues. Lets me know.

Cheers

Lionsharecology

To which I respond:
Dear Lionsharecology,
Yes, all is good here in the United States for us. Progress is a slow and tedious process with the legal system and with my x-wife -- inertia is everything -- but I am doing well and my children and I have a good place in the world... what I mean is that we are happy. I am buying a house near the Churchil Downs Horse race track and will probably be a home owner in a week or so. I used the money from the sale of the house in Texas to buy this house. The great thing for me is that the house in Louisville cost me only a fraction of what my house in Austin sold for.

I have now shown my children how to ski. That was fun! I wish there was more snow in Louisville. It is possible you have never gone skiing -- I enjoy skiing like a Gray hound enjoys running.

My parents will be coming to Louisville in a couple of months to celebrate Spring break with my children. It is also possible that my brother will come. These are nice things to look forward to.

And in the mean time I am teaching my children German.
Wie geht’s?
Your brother,
Allan

My conversation with LL this evening did not happen. I think she just blew me off and I think she did so “mit Absicht.” She did this deliberately and we will see if there is at least an excuse.

February 5, 2008
I call the KGB again. Here is what I said to David Weatherspeak:

Hello David, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick. I recognize that you are in a difficult predicament because I am on a moral quest. So we may have a common denominator since you portray yourself as Christian. You should imagine that the force that drives me to correct the wrong, in the correct manner, is even more vehement than any person’s religious convictions can be because my children are real. They exist on this planet and I can see them. I can observe their behavior and I am sorry but you can not observe God’s behavior because God is everywhere and you can not see what is on the other side of the moon. And so, I am telling you that my convictions are concrete, cemented in reality and as real as it is that you have studied divinity. One of those convictions is that a person is unethical if they practice the art of trivializing a parent/ trivializing children, marginalizing a parent/ sequestering children, ostracizing a parent/ facilitating coached derogatory statements in children to make, psychologically terrorizing a parent/ psychosocially laying waste the lives of children…. And all without doing a stroke of investigative work. Please pay attention to what you do by doing nothing, by not responding to my pleas for communication, open dialogue, reasonable discourse, honest exchange and call me because my children need therapy. You have literally left them to rot. The therapy my children have always needed and still need today is therapy that involves their father, me. That is a therapy that is aligned with reality. Please do something about this and please call me.

And then I got the following email from LL:
Okay--I will tell them abotu the dance.

Sorry--I fell asleep with the kids. We all went ot bed at 8 yesterday. It was a long day for all of us. Lorena

OK, so at least she has responded – but she did not confirm that we would speak today. And she responded only to the email that she wanted to respond to: she did not respond to the emails that involve interacting with me. It is, of course, a game.
So I send her the following email:

Dear Lorena,
Thanks for your email. It is good to get a response that provides an explanation about what happened yesterday. I am assuming that you are deeply interested in speaking with me about the children but that the children needed to spend time with you and indeed to fall asleep with you. That is good. So, let’s talk this evening. Please confirm this in an email.
Thank you,
Allan

And then another:
Dear Lorena,
Please answer my emails. Not just one here and one there.
Thank you,
Allan


LL needs to learn how to interact with me in a civil manner. It is very detrimental to the children when she is as she is. I am very unhappy about having no other recourse than the court to get LL to make any civil attempts. I think I have waited enough. I know I have been abused in excess. I went to the court house and filed a five part motion.
The motion involves the following issues:
1. LL and I need to communicate – at least in the presence of a professional like LeeAnn Gardner.
2. My children need access to KUMON after school care instead of CEP (which is a waste of time since they do not even do their homework.)
3. The right to have my children stay over in my house over spring break.
4. The children receive therapeutic services.
5. My children and I need to be able to communicate by telephone.
I did not include a motion of contempt of court for depriving Hannah from her time with me when she had Strep. Next time, I will, because there is no reason why I should not be able to care for Hannah

5:02PM I do not see LL’s car or my children. I call LL. She says “Hey, listen I can never make it at 5:00PM because of my job so adjust accordingly. Ok, bye!” Yes, that is the LL I have come to know for a decade now.
I wrote a letter to LL on the motion that I had filed in court today. It went as follows:

Dear Lorena,
Finally, after all this time I gave you one last opportunity to call me last night (as you had promised) nd you didn’t. Much more important is that your email made no alternative suggestions.
So I went to the court house and filed this motion.
I am very sorry to have gone to the court house and I WANT more than anything you can imagine to resolve llour issues on our own.
S please call me and lets see if we can’t find a solution.
Most respectfully and with unmitigated sincerity,
Allan R. Lasky-Headrick
(502) 714 – 8577
My cell phone is free after 7:00PM.

And I gave LL the court documents. I said “This is a letter for you and it is very pretty, but we can make it even prettier if you call me tonight. Do you think we could speak tonight at quarter till nine?”
And she said “Probably….”
And then Hannah, who understands that LL hates me (?) got between us and told LL to drive away.
Now Hannah did not have a homework so I made it clear to Hannah that I was going to give her a homework. The children said that they wanted to eat something Chinese or spicy. So, we clambered into the car and drove to the Greek restaurant only to find it closed. The children were very happy and indeed giddy with enthusiasm for the wonder of being in my midst. Hannah wanted to play catch with ‘starfish’ – a stuffed animal and Sofia wanted to discuss with me the properties of light, (reflection, refraction and straight line propagation.)
Since the Greek restaurant was closed we walked to Café 360. It was warm and we ate outside. I generated a German Language homework for Hannah while I worked with Sofia on her science project.
The children were very excited and it was a hard stretch for me without completing their homework, there would be no bike riding.
So they finished their homework.
We drove to LL’s. The children sang songs in the back seat and practiced their German.
And we got the bikes. Sofia is fairly picky about things and since her bike did not have much air in the tires, she opted to push it to the gas station. This frustrated Hannah quite a bit but there was no explosion. Hannah found a way to weave circles and keep herself entertained on her bike.
And then, once we had air in the tires, life became exhilarating. We rode along the alley ways parallel to Bardstown Road to Karma Café (where we discovered they had no spring rolls) and then back to the Lemon Grass where we ate spring rolls and drank hot tea. And then, the bike ride to LL’s was more fun.
I reckon today was a very successful day for my children.
But Lorena has become a blunt element, icy cold with indifference and rank with venom in her infrequent act of kindness – if you can call an email an act of kindness?
8:45PM I tried to call LL but was not able to communicate with anyone since LL did not pick up the phone. I called her cell phone and left a message begging her to call me.

February 6, 2008
Last night there were some tornados and strong winds which made many computer systems in the city of Louisville defunct. When I went to the bank to deposit money for the purchase of the house on Lillian I was told that I could not do so. Imagine that! In 1970 that would never have happened. What is becoming of this world?

I got a call today that the closing of the purchase of my second house (remember I also have a house on Zane street?) will take place on Valentines Day at 10 AM.

I sent LL the following email:
Dear Lorena,
Don’t you agree that for you and I not to find a way to communicate is bad for Sofia and Hannah? I am still trying to find some way that you and I can talk. Do you have any suggestions as to how we might be able to do this?
Sincerely,
Allan

I called LeeAnn Gardner and left a message on her answering machine telling her that I had filed a motion to have LL and I meet with her. “If Rena calls, would you please set up a meeting as soon as possible? Thank you.”

Notice that I did not get a message from Helmers. The good thing about this is that he is costing me absolutely nothing. Remember that I filed the motion on my own yesterday. I left a copy of the motion for Helmers and gave a copy to LL.
5:35PM I called LL’s cell phone in the hope of being able to speak with my children. She does not pick up the phone and I leave a message saying something like “Hello Rena this is Allan and I am calling to ask you to please engender the children with the idea of calling me and then facilitate them actually doing as much. And you too, Rena. Thank you.”

And then I sent LL one more email:

Dear Lorena,
Do you think it would be possible for you and I to speak with the teachers of Sofia and Hannah during the parent teacher conference day together? Teachers appreciate not having to say things twice.... and it would be a good thing for us to do. Please let me know.
Thank you,
Allan

6:18PM I try to call my children again. Hello, and it was LL:
I did manage to ask her a few questions. From the list below and I tried to record the conversation but it was not easy since I was in a restaurant and it was all impromptu, but I remember that at first LL did not think that there was anything to talk about but then she got on a roll. Listen to the recording…. LL told me that she I was not allowed to file a motion in court without consulting Helmers, so I assured her that I had consulted with Helmers both minutes before and minutes after filing the motion. “Is Helmers still your lawyer?” she asked me and I said “Yes.”
Lorena complained about her not having the presents that Sarah had given Hannah. That is because I have them. I told her that I can make copies and give her the copies.
Lorena complained again about the book from Western Day care – the institution Hannah was referred to by Kim Dial. Again, I told her that I can make a copy for her.
What about the scrap books? Can I have a copy?
If only my recording had been better. Oh well.
But it is good that LL and I spoke. Can you imagine it took this long? How crazy? Well, that’s what LL wants. And the court has been so damnably good to her that she wants to continue to use it. But you know, it was good for LL to vent. Poor person, all pent up in her paradigm... That has to suck.


And then Hannah called and we spoke for just a few minutes before I believe LL cut us off… It was strange the way Hannah said that she had to go. It was like for no reason the phone was going bad and she could not hear me… but I could hear her perfectly well.

February 7, 2008
I call the KGB and leave a message on David Weatherspeak’s voice mail. Hello David, this is Allan Lasky-Hearick. I hope you are not like Kim Dial and Lorena Lasky and Dr. Ginger Crumbo. Kim Dial, Dr. Ginger Crumbo are people who without investigating anything say terrible things and then hide from the person you have attacked by not answering the phone, not speaking, not communicating. I am calling you to ask you for help. It is extremely unchristian not to respond but that is not why I ask that you respond. I ask that you respond first and foremost because my children are living in a difficult situation. Second because you are professionals, third because it is a moral duty to respond to pleas for help.
I am submitting a motion in court to see if the judge can order that my children be seen by therapists.

Querida Mabel,
The words in your email are stars on the dew drops of olive trees. Thank you!
If only I had known that you were going to be in Barcelona! My house keeper in Asunción has lived there the last three years and you are one of very few people for whom ‘class’ is not an issue, so I would have given you her phone number.
If only I had known that you were in Paris! I dream of Brie Cheese, green olives, apples and crackers underneath Le Pont Neuf sur la Seine. And of a cup of ‘café au lait’ with a ‘Croissant au beurre’ in the Cartier Latin, an afternoon at the Orangerie and the Palace des Jardins and dinner Au Pied du Cochon… ¡Ay Dios Mio! Que Romántico.
Yes, I know that Padre has Alzheimers. I have some photos of him and Juancho which are more precious than the bible. You know that I am not saying that to reduce the value of the bible but to escalate the wonder of Padre and Juancho.
As for ‘la espada de la felicidad,’ that term cuts like an oxymoron but I am glad as can be that you are happy and surrounded with love. The joy that is yours seems to me well deserved. But you are modest and humble.
As it happens I will be in California in July. My cousin is getting married to a Russian girl and I believe their wedding will be in Berkeley, CA on the fourth of July = the day the white American people proclaimed their independence from the British Empire… You did not indicate that you are coming with Padre to California but if you are, I would love to see you.

When elephants weep,
humanity sleeps,
Only Juancho and Padre,
they storm the Bastille,
and let them free.

Lots of Love,
Allan

Dear Papole, Farmor and Farfar,
I will be closing on the house on Valentines day. I do not need any Valentines day wishes because I am loved already so dearly. But I hope that you have at least as beautiful a Valentines day as I will.
Lots of Love,
Fripe.

Papole writes back:

don't
forget
to
bring
your
valentine
a
bone...

To which I respond:
Dear Papole,
There are three canine loves in my life that kiss me all over my bald head. They are all prone to bones and unlike some humans, they have a great deal more moral back bone. the words dome, home, some and zome should all have the first letter replaced with the letter 'B.' And if you are wondering what the word 'zome' means, it is a skeletal delicacy that can only be purchased at select stores like Au Pied du Cochon sur la seine in Paris.
Lots of love,
Allan

And Farfar writes back:
Dear Allan,
The fact that the signing will take place on Valentine's Day augurs well for your love life. Do you want to send me a copy of the deed?

Your Dad

To which I respond:
Dear Farfar,
Yes, yes, my love life is a bundle of what have yous but I do not think that it will escalate into anything much more magnificent until I get a job second job so that I can pay for water and electricity in that house.
Do you think that the deed will be provided at the closing? Or is that something that needs to be signed by lawyers, a judge and filed in the court house first?
What specifically am I to look for at the closing?
Lots of Love,
Allan

I got an email from Girl Scouts:

Don't forget about the Service Opportunity this weekend, it is open mostly to the Junior's but the Brownie's are welcome to come too.

Polar Bear Clean-Up
Sat 2/9/08
9-12 pm
Mid-City Mall


Pre-registered:
Alicia, Alexis, Emma, and Jasmine

I forwarded the above email to LL and added the following message:
Dear Lorena,
I wish I knew about my new job, but if I hear that it is not going to happen, then I am assuming that we are exchanging the week-end days and then I would like to take the children to do the clean up. Would that be possible, pending things falling into place?
Sincerely,
Allan
And LL responded:
Allan,

per our conversation last night, I am assuming you are taking the kids Saturday now. Since the Polar Bear clean-up at the zoo starts at 9:00am, you should get them earlier. I also have to be at the job fair by 9:30am, so can you get them at 8:00 or 8:30?
So I write back to her (and I got her email almost the minute she sent it because I happened to be on line when she sent it, so her email and my response both happened before 1:10PM and within minutes of each other.
Dear Lorena,
I am sorry: I did NOT say that we would exchange this Saturday for this Sunday in our conversation last night. Please do not yet assume that I will pick the children up the day after tomorrow. I am very sorry Lorena because I sure wish I had heard from my possible employer, but I do not want to shoot myself in the foot and so I am not agreeing yet to exchanging Saturday and Sunday. Maybe I will get a call today and then I will be able to tell you exactly. I hope so very much. And if I do not get a call today, I will call you tomorrow and then I will email and I will call you.
If I do not work on Saturday then I am happy to pick the children up at any time before nine that you like.
I do not know of a clean up at the zoo. Where did you read that?
Would it be alright if I pet the kids past 9PM so that they can attend the clean up a the Mid City Mall? That way we could go horse back riding and to Girl Scouts.
Your email is confusing because you write about the 'zoo' and a time, '9AM,' that I have no knowledge of and of a day, 'Saturday,' that you and I have not agreed on yet... Your email indicates that you did not read the email from Girl Scouts.
Sincerely,
Allan

And then LL sent me the following email:
Allan.

I do not have time to read a million emails & I skim very quickly. Also--I am at work taking a quick break & don't have time to do personal stuff on the clock. If you really want information from me, I suggest you prioritize and send me only the most important questions on your mind. It is similar to the boy who cried wolf--If you send me 15 "important" emails a week, I start to get tired and I do a quick perusal. You sent 3 emails yesterday!!!!

Remember when Craig Hansenm, the GAL, in Texas was copied in on all of our communications. remember how we sat in the park with him & came to an agreement that, barring emergencies and schjeduling issues that connot wait, you would send one email per week asking wbout the girls. You would list the 5 or so burning things on your mind & I would agree, barring emergencies, to answeer one and only one email per week. So, from now on, I am goign to randomly pick on eof your emails and answer that one per week. So, I suggest you consolidate your thoughts.

I cannot afford to wait on an answer. I have found a sitter for when I am at the job fair Saturday. I will expect you to get them Sunday at the regular time.

And I respond:

Dear Lorena,
I have a recording of that conversation at the park. It was a cheap conversation because we were not allowed to speak about the allegations so I did not agree to anything you proposed. I remember you proposing something like what you wrote but I remember thinking that it was not acceptable and it is certainly not acceptable now. If you want to make something like that acceptable, then allow me to raise the children.
I have consolidated millions of thoughts and I can not consolidate my thoughts any more than I already do. As far as Saturday is concerned, I think you are wise to accommodate in advance since I am not able to promise caring for the children on Saturday yet. However, if I do not get the job I will call you and email you and then, if you like, you can cancel the sitter’s appointment to save the cost.
Sincerely,
Allan

And I write to Craig Hansen:
Dear Craig,
Lorena still enjoys the things you did. She mentioned you as a witness in a conversation we had in the park where she claims you stated that she need not respond but to some 4 emails per month. My phone number is now (502) 714 - 8577. Please call me so that we can work out how I can get hold of the documents you have associated with Sofia and Hannah.
Thank you,
Allan

In preparation for being with my children, I retrieved the two bikes that were left in LL’s back yard from LL’s back yard – and I admit that I did this without her permission packed them in my car and drove with them to the Highland coffee house.
Again, as is the norm, I got my children about fifteen minutes late. I don’t actually mind this since I then deliver the children as late to LL and she does not complain about my bringing the children as late to her so I, reckon we are in agreement. But this time, Hannah entered the Highland Coffee House and found me buying coffee and so I bought the coffee (I bought some for Peter too) and then when I came out I confirmed that Hannah had already done all her homework with Lorena. It was good that Lorena and I were able to talk about the homework in front of the children.
And then the children wanted to know where we were going to eat dinner and do homework. I decided to take them somewhere they had never been with me before. As we rode out bikes Sofia was on the phone with a friend of hers. She was very proud to tell her friend that she was riding her bike and speaking on the phone and she was with her Dad.
I took them to the restaurant right next to Carmichael’s book store – forget the name, anyways, it was fun. It is a novel place. The children liked the food. They got some kind of middle eastern spaghetti dish and chicken finger type thing with home made French fries. We also got hot ‘Tchai’ tea. Now, Hannah did not have a homework, so I set her with the homework of doing German on the computer. She was to read with me one of the Tim und Struppi comics. The problem was that Sofia needed my help and it was a little complicated for me to read to Hannah with Sofia continuously interrupting me . And moreover, Sofia wanted to do the Tim un Struppi…
Anyways, it was fun to be at the restaurant with them, and then it was fun to ride the bikes back to LL’s. We rode the alley way on the eastern side of Bardstown road. And then, we stopped at the Chevron and bought chocolate and what have-you’s and then took the long way to LL’s so as to really max out on the down hill….
It was such a good time that the children were not glad to get back to LL’s and Hannah promised she would call me. I asked LL to call me and LL said that she would not because she had to go to her mother’s house… does that mean that the children would be spending the night at her mothers? Don’t know. Maybe LL has a baby sitter lined up? Don’t know. But it sure is stupid that she gets a sitter instead of me. Stupid is a misnomer – it is truly awful.
Oh, and there was an important incident that took place while we were at the restaurant where in which Sofia said “Mommy hates you so much that she stole us from you.” I happened when we were talking about the president of the United States invading Iraq without cause. I looked at Sofia but did not say anything. I looked in her eyes and she was full of anguish but I dissolved her anguish and she understood that I was not going to use her anguish in a manner that made things worse. It was Ok, it was as it was and there will be no changes. And then Hannah said to me “Daddy, I’m going to tell you something but don’t tell anyone that I told you. Mommy sneaked a kiss from her boy friend yesterday.” I said “Oh that is good!” and Hannah asked me why I thought that was good and I said “because Mommy needs to be loved.”
Hannah is now very interested in the concept of kissing. When we were riding our bikes we passed a couple in deep kiss in the parking lot and Hannah was very fascinated. Sofia pretended not to care.
By the way, in my conversation with David Weatherspeak I told him that to provide my children with a safe environment for them to speak freely, they would now have to tell my children that no matter how much they spoke about the psychological terror that they have gotten from their grandmother against their father, that they would never use that in court to take their mother or their grandmother away from them. What I am saying is that the social workers have so botched things up, that now they can not be trusted by my children. To gain the trust of my children they need to learn to be listeners and not back stabbers.
muy querido Allan:
que suerte recibir tus emails. Este me ha llenado de alegría y sobretodo de esperanzas de pensar que alguna vez nos podemos encontrar nuevamente.
No se si em julio iré a California. Yo no me siento con coraje de llevarle al padre para que lo internen en una casa y nunca más poder verlo. Pienso muchas veces en esto y es como una nube negra sobre mi cabeza. He pensado muchas veces en como será mi despedida de él y no encuentro ninguna forma. A veces siento energía para llevarlo hasta su destino final, pero otras me siento una ingrata llevandolo y abandonándolo. Creo que la mejor forma será llevarlo al aeropuerto y despedirlo allí y que alguien lo lleve, sus familiares o sus colegas, hasta el lugar donde pasará los últimos días de su vida. El tiempo se acorte y el final está muy cerca. Mi corazón está roto porque esta temporalidad agobiadora a la cual todos estamos sujetos es muy dolorosa.
Yo se bien que te voy a ver pero aún no se cuando nidonde. Pero, eso no importa lo más importante es que si lo deseamos locamente, lo podremos realizar.
Se me olvidò contarte que Juan Godoy salió del colegio y se fue como director al colegio Saint Anne. Qué te parece?
Paris contigo hubiera sido más que perfecto. Bueno en realidad cualquier lugar contigo es divertido y hermoso.
Que pena lo de Barcelona, me hubiera encantado haberlevisto a la sra. Te cuento que Barcelona esta llna de paraguayos. Hay mucho trabajo y necesitan mucha mano de obra. Lo que yo no sé es si les pagan lo que el duro trabajo vale. Pero es preferible tener algo allá que morirse acá de hambre. Me enamoré de barcelona. Gaudí y su arte se respiran por todos los rincones. Es una ciudad muy cultural y con montones de opciones y actividades arísticas. Me encantó ir de tapas y comer paella de mariscos regada con muchísima sangría. C´est la vie!!!!
hablando de mi francés, me fue fácil defenderme aunque lo hablo muy mal.
Espero que tus hijitas estén bien. Mi juanchito está hermoso aunque un poco gordito. Ahora está de dieta pero es algo dificil hacerla estricta.
Recibe todo mi cariño y mis enormes deseos de volverte a ver. Te envío el aroma de los mangos y las piñas que se apoderan de todos los rincones. Love, Mabel

So, what is going on with LL? Nothing actually. She is still exactly the same as she ever was. Just a barrage of grudge for nothing behind a veil of pharmaceutical rhetoric.


February 8, 2008
Ok, so I went down town, made a child support payment and then dropped by Helmer’s office. “What is going on in this case? Specifically: (a) Getting professional help to enter what’s left of my family? And (b) my motion, filed a few days ago? And (c) the deposition of Kim and Ginger?
But it was fun because of Amanda:
Amanda has been observing in her own way the process of this case. She is always very polite to me and is clearly distressed when she needs to respond to me in a manner that behooves the company of lawyers she works for. Amanda gave me a cigarette and we smoked outside. She spoke about her home in some ritzy part of town and I told her that I live out of my car (which is true except on the nights before I see my children and other times when it is too cold or what ever.) She told m that her LG&E bill had been $250 and I smiled and told her that I did not have one. She was curious about the languages that I speak with Sofia and Hannah and spent a great deal of time telling me about her German heritage. She told me that she and her boy friend are staunch Louisvillians and I told her that I was far from that. But then she said “You know, I do not know what to say to you sometimes when you ask me about John Helmers.” I had just asked her if she had known John to stonewall a client in the past. “No, not that I know…..” and then when she admitted that she was effectively caught between a rock and a hard place I told her not to worry about me, but to respond in a manner that was commensurate with John’s expectations.
I sat in the lobby for a while to wait for John to come back from lunch. During this time I read about Mother Teresa in a report in the Time magazine, November 2007.

Mother Teresa wrote about a different Christ a silent one. “The silence and the emptiness for me is so great that I look and I do not see. I listen and do not hear, the tongue moves (in prayer) but does not speak.” Yep.
I called CPS. They told me to come to their office and bring evidence with which to conduct an investigation.
Then I called John Helmers to tell him that I needed the documentation from Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo in order to take it to Child Protective Services for them to do an investigation.
And then at 4:42PM I got a call from Sofia’s friend (502-548-8216). I first gave her LL’s home phone number and se tried that but no one picked up the phone so she called me again and I gave her LL’s cell phone number.
5:20PM I tried the ‘linea baja,’ but got no answer.
5:25PM, I called LL’s cell phone and left her the following message: “Hello there Lorena, this is Allan and I hope you are having a very beautiful day. Earlier today I gave a friend of Sofia’s your telephone numbers and I hope she called you and that she was able to speak with Sofia. I am calling to speak with Hannah and Sofia and to tell you that if you want me to take the children tomorrow I can do that. I will send you and email with the same information about tomorrow. Can you respond with an email about tomorrow? Alright, kiss Hannah on the top of the head from me. Thanks.”
As Subir said “shit happens! Buddy!”
Dear Lorena,
I called you with this same information - left is on your voice mail.

As you wish: You can call me and then email me about me taking care of the children tomorrow or we can go with the norm that has been established for Sunday.
Most sincerely,
Allan

7:00PM I try to call my children. There is no answer to either the cell phone of the ‘linea baja,’ – ad I left a polite message on LL’s cell phone to get the children in touch with me…. so, since I was near LL’s place, I drove by and saw that the car was not parked on the street and called Nancy Lasky. I called both her ‘linea baja’ and her cell phone number and left polite messages indicating that my children should call me.
My children did not call me.
You know I spend such a large potion of my time writing in my journal about my fruitless attempts to call my children, that I should develop a code:
TIME;PERSON;MESSAGE
TIME: 24 hour time.
Person: LLL = Lorena Lasky ‘linea baja’ NLL = Nancy Lasky (Ungaro), LLC = Lorena Lasky’s cell phone, NLC= Nancy Lasky’s cell phone, RL = Rebecca Lasky, Lal = Lara Lasky…
MESSAGE: N/A = not applicable, N = no message, Y = a message was left.! = someone picked up the phone, X = no-one picked up the phone.
And then I would write:
19:00hr;LLL + LLC:N/A + Y:X
19:15hr;NLL + NLC;Y + Y:X
And now let me add another phone call.
~20:00hr;LLC;!, and she told me that she was on her way to “her sister’s” and that she would have the children call me when she got there. She said she would be at her sister’s house in a minute.
As already mentioned, that call never happened.



February 9, 2008
11:20hr;LLC;Y;X = Please let your sister know to have the children call me.
11:30hr;RL;! picked up the phone and said “They’re (the children) not at my house. I do not know where they are but they are not here.”
And I may not have any proof, but I am prepared to bet $1000 that Lorena was at Nancy’s last night, that she dropped the children off at Nancy’s last night, that she had just left Nancy’s when I spoke with her and that she lied to me when she said the children were at her sisters….
11:31hr;LLC;Y;X = I just spoke with Rebecca who said the children were not with her so I am guessing they are at Nancy’s. Could you please call Nancy or who ever they are with and have Nancy facilitate telephone communications with me? Thank you.
11:32hr;LLL;N/A;X
15:00hr;LLL;N/A;X
17:22hr;LLL + LLC;X + X;Y = I would like to share a hot cup of tea with you and I am calling to speak w/ Sofia and Hannah. Please have them call me.
17:25hr;NL;X; Y = please have the children call me.
19:00hr I tried calling both the linea baja and LL’s cell phone but no one picked up the phone. I left a message asking to speak with Sofia and Hannah.
20:00hr again in vain.
But then at 8:30 I got through to LL. She did not want to give the phone to one of the children and tried to say that they were occupied “let me see if one of them is free to talk with you,” but then Hannah did take the phone. Hannah told me she wants to go ice skating and then she told me that she was at Aunt Rebecca’s house and that it was Aunt Rebecca’s birthday. Then Hannah told me that she needed to drink and passed the phone to Sofia. Sofia and I were doing well on the phone – talking about her friend who had called me the day before yesterday and to whom I had given Sofia’s number and also talking about Rebecca’s birthday who is now 35 years old. I asked her what she had given Aunt Rebecca for her birthday and she said “Nothing,” and I told her to make a card for Aunt Rebecca saying ‘happy birthday’ and to get Hannah to sign it… And then suddenly I heard LL holler at Sofia “It’s time to go bye bye and Sofia said “….Need to get off the phone?” and then briskly “I have to get off the phone, bye!”

February 10, 2008
Well, we could go skiing today? I pack all the ski gear into the back pack and load the car with food and art supplies (and a few toys because Hannah can not put up with too much art.) If we do not go skiing we can go ice skating (Hannah had asked to do this last night). We could go to a meeting house and celebrate life with the Quakers. We will see but I am open to suggestions.
I tried calling the friends meeting house but no one answered. I called Paoli peaks and they assured me that skiing would be good.
You know, it was a difficult day because of Lara Lasky who in mediating between Hannah (who wanted to go home on the way to ski, so she said) and me – accused me of a number of mad notions…. This was all resolved when I just drove to the police. The children did not want to talk with the police and I did not make them. But the best thing by far would be to listen to the recording….

It is so much fun to interact with Sofia on a brainy level. We stopped in Palmyra for dinner at a Mexican Restaurant and we made lists of the states in America, the countries of the world, cities of America.

February 11, 2008
I went to Helmer’s office and asked him to file the motion since my filing it did not work.
Then I went to the Child Protective Services office and spoke with a lady called Taylor. Taylor listened to me but did not express interest in taking on the case. She did not care for what I had to say. I mentioned many things including both Sofia expressing an interest in suicide and I had the reports from the KGB to make that statement official… but she did not want to read the reports. At one point she said to me that the things I was telling her did not meet the criteria for her taking on the case. I asked her what the criteria were, and she guided me to a web site: www.ky.gov and then go to ‘standards of practice’ and then to ‘CFC online manuals,’ and then to ‘CPS’ and then to ‘criteria.’ She also provided me with the ‘Open Records’ department in Frankfort KY’s telephone number (502) 564 – 9554 and their FAX number is (502) 564 – 9554.
I called for the records and was told that I need to fill out a form. I was told that I could down load the form from the ‘cabinet for health and family services ‘ and was told that the form was called CHF5305.
7:00PM I tried calling my children but no one picked up the phone.
7:35PM LL picked up the phone. This is how the conversation went:
LL: Hello?
Allan: Hello Rena, how are you?”
(There was a long pause and LL did not answer the question or say anything and I waited.)
LL: Did you call for a reason?
Allan: Yes, I called for a reason but I started by asking how you were doing.
LL: Well, Hannah is right now cleaning the bathroom and Sofia is getting ready to eat dinner. I would say that you can call them in fifteen minutes.
Allan: Can you tell them that they can call me in fifteen minutes while I am still on the phone?
LL: What did you say?
Allan: Can you tell them that I will be speaking with them now, while I am still on the phone?
LL: No.
Allan: Why would you not do that?
LL: click, the phone went dead.
7:50PM: I called again: And I was able to speak with both my children and the conversations went very well until LL made them get off the phone with me. We talked about
Snow people,
Sledding, ice skating,
Doing while speaking sink, bath tub and toilet
Name
Going down hills,
And the states of the United States of America.
I am trying to get Sofia to learn of the countries of the world.
At 11:00PM I saw the news on TV. Judge Patricia Walker Fitzgerald speak about the terrible issues associated with Kentucky CPS. She expressed concern about the names of children and families being divulged. I respect that, but my children have been terribly treated by the Child Protective services.
Then I saw on TV that there will be no school for my children tomorrow and I called LL.
The actually answered the phone but she told me that she would not let me spend more time with the children than the court already allows. She went further to say that she will never allow for any make up time.


February 12, 2008
8:45AM I try to call my children but no one answers. An ice storm has blasted through Louisville over night and my car is like an eel. I had fun. But where are my children?
12:00AM I try to call my children but not one answers the ‘linea baja’ and so I call LL’s cell phone number and I leave LL the following email: “Heypodey, Lorena, happy snow day! I was going to take the children sledding today but it is much too slushy now and I reckon if there is any snow, it will be cold and wet on dog hill and maybe it will not work. But anyway, maybe we can go bike riding today. I was calling to speak with them since it is a snow day. Could you please have them call me? Thank you.

1. Organize files.
2. Shower.
3. Shave.
4. Check Barklays.

I called 574-4115 to find out if LL was at work and confirmed that she was. I did not ask to speak with her. I had just left a message on her telephone.
She had emailed me:
This coming weekend, I would like to switch again. I would like to take Sofia to girl scouts sunday as I have not had the opportunity to take her except for once. I want to personally make sure she makes it there happy, fed, on time, etc. I think the kids are too tired Sunday when they get home and it makes them too tired Monday morning. For all of the outings you do on those long days, it would benefit the kids to have that happen on Saturday. then, they could sleep in Sunday and go to bed earlier Sinday evening--thus making them in better shape for the school week to start.

I would be amenable to switching days indefinately.

If that doesn't work for you, I would like to alternate weekends--that is alternate Saturdays and Sundays. This is somethign I asked you abotu a while ago and you could not because at the time you were working Saturdays--forst at the nursing home, then at the car place. Now that you do not work Saturdays, I would like to go back to the idea of alternating (or maybe just switch all together for awhile like I said above). In the end, alternating is probably the "most fair."

You said you usually work for the Penguin Ice Cream Co. on Saturdays, but that is mechanic work for your friend that I believe can be done on Sunday just as well, correct?

Then I emailed her:
Dear Lorena,
It is a snow day so the children are not in school. They are not at your house as far as I can tell since no one is answering the phone. Can you please have them call me? Would you please consider having me care for them this afternoon.
Now, in response to your email: You have been able to take Sofia to girl scouts every single time she has gone for half a year now and you have said "NO."
The advice I get from everyone is that I should stick with the judge's orders as far as the time that I spend with the children. I am told that if I let things go here and there, to suit you and not me, that then I do not have a good case before the judge. You have to know that I have wanted to negotiate with you and see if we can not find a more reasonable balance for both of us since December of 2003. I might suggest that if you want something, then you need to offer something. You are offering me nothing more than the judge would already dictate and it is compounded with going against the judge's orders and a mishmash of confused agreements. I called you last night to see if I could care for the children since it is a snow day and you quite simply said "NO." When I asked you if you would agree to some make up time you said "NO."
So, if you want something, generate something reasonable in exchange.

Again, I can find ways to exchange Saturday for Sunday -- but they come with a sacrifice: I can not work on Sunday at the shop. If you give me a good reason then I am prepared to make that sacrifice (as I did last week end - as you can read in the email if you scroll below where it also states that I called you to let you know that we could do that then.) So, please give me a good reason and I will consider it strongly.

We went skiing last week end, and except for your sister Lara, everything went well. Please tell your sister that she needs to behave appropriately when she speaks with Sofia, Hannah and me.
I am not surprised that the children are tired when they return to you after a day of skiing, bike riding, horseback riding, ice skating, roller skating, learning a new language as well as math and science. But I am, as usual, flabbergasted that you would make an issue of it with me since the children are allowed to go to bed after midnight, the evening before I get them (according to several accounts.)

If anything Lorena, we need to find a way to communicate. That way, issues that reside in one another can have the opportunity to find themselves counter balanced.

I have signed a contract to buy a house in Louisville. As you can imagine, it is a dream Allan house: cheap and old..... and as I work on it, for it is a handyman's challenge, it will take on the flavors that you had once known to be mine.
Please call me about the children's time with me today or I will pick the children up at 5PM at the highland coffee house.
Thank you,
Allan

What this means is that LL does not want to let me have the children even though she herself can not care for them. That is hate that has been nourished and embalmed by the KGB.
I looked up the criteria for CPS to become involved in investigating the Lasky family and this is what I found:

NEGLECT: EMOTIONAL INJURY

GENERAL PROVISIONS:
A report may be accepted as suspected emotional injury when the reporting source has reason to believe that:
o A child’s mental or emotional well-being, has been harmed or is at risk of harm; This is certainly the case.
o The harm to a child’s mental or emotional well-being is evidenced by a substantial and observable impairment in the child’s ability to function within a normal range of performance and behavior with regard to his age, development, culture, and environment; and
o The parent or other caretaker inflicted the harm to the child’s mental or emotional well-being by non-accidental means.

CRITERIA:
1. In determining whether a child may be emotionally injured, the SSW and FSOS considers the following emotionally abusive behaviors that will, or are likely to cause emotional injury to a child, or may put the child at risk of an emotional injury.
(a) Spurning – repeated or pervasive actions that lead to the deprecation, belittling, or other humiliation of the child, including verbal and non-verbal caregiver acts that reject and degrade a child. These behaviors may include, but are not limited to:
(1) Repetitive verbal harassment;
(2) Scapegoating;
(3) Speaking to/about a child in depreciating, resentful or angry way;
(4) Inappropriate withholding of affection from one child while giving to another;
(5) Name calling;
(6) Use of profanity toward the child;
(7) Public humiliation; or
(8) Insulting or disparaging remarks.
(b) Terrorizing – any act that exposes a child to intense fear or anxiety of:
(1) Physical or sexual assault or harm to themselves or his/her loved ones;
(2) Prolonged exposure to domestic violence;
(3) Being placed in a chaotic, unpredictable, dangerous environment likely to create extreme stress; or
(4) Verbal threatening in a manner that creates fear of bodily harm or death to self or others.
(c) Exploitation/corruption– any act that uses a child to meet the emotional, psychological, or other needs of another person. Any caregiver acts that encourage or allow the child to develop inappropriate behaviors (self-destructive, antisocial, criminal, deviant or other maladaptive behaviors). These acts include, but are not limited to:
(1) Repeated, negative communication to a child about one or either parent or other caregiver;
(2) Use of a child to communicate negative, inappropriate, or adult information between two adults or one adult and another person;
(3) Use of a child for the personal financial gain of a parent/guardian or other adult;
(4) Use of drugs or alcohol with a child, providing the same to a child, or allowing a child to access and/or consume drugs or alcohol;
(5) Encourages or allows a child to steal, be truant from school, break curfew, misrepresent a medical condition for personal gain, or perform any other illegal act; or
(6) Encourages or allows a child to be involved with a sexual partner.
(d) Isolating – any act that results in the prolonged confinement of a child or the restriction of contact with others including appropriate peer relations. These acts include, but are not limited to:
(1) Prolonged periods of confinement;
(2) Restriction of reasonable peer contact to allow normal development of peer relationships;
(3) Confinement to a limited group with bizarre or highly controversial beliefs/values and not allowing exposure to other ideas and views; or
(4) Confinement of a child or placing unreasonable limitations on the child’s freedom of movement within his or her environment.
(e) Denying emotional responsiveness – actions that cause a child’s need for emotional support/nurturing to not be met. These acts include, but are not limited to:
(1) Denial of appropriate/socially acceptable physical contact necessary for a child’s well-being;
(2) Declines nurturing to a child;
(3) Failure to demonstrate appropriate affection to ensure the development of healthy psychological attachments; or
(4) Failure to express reasonable affection for a child.

I went returned to the Child Protective Services Place and asked to speak with Taylor but was told that she was not there. Instead I spoke with another woman called Christi Atkins. Later I found out that she was the boss of the place. She ordered two officers to be present at our meeting. Although this was insulting as anything, I put up with it. She denied knowing that the sexual abuse allegations had been dismissed. I worked my way through the list above of criteria for CPS to take on the case but she kept saying “that does not meet the criteria,” and at one point she said “coming in every day is not going to make me take you seriously,” so I told her that she had no choice but to take me seriously and in the end she sent me away telling me that she would look at the records and call me back.
Again, I found myself describing the environment that my children live in and the ONLY thing she cared about was when I told her that LL was in the car and had made Hannah say that I had abused her when she was “a little girl.”
I believe she is just going to dismiss me if and when she calls me. It was a way to get rid of me. Just like saying that she would get me the form (half way through our talking together) was also a way for her to try to get rid of me. But in any event, I gave her my telephone number and she said she would call me, so if she does not call me then, I will call her and I will consider her to have lied to me even though, of course, I will not tell her that.
I filled out the forms for requesting the documents associated with the CPS involvement and the guards gave them to her and then I left.
LL called me at about 4:14PM and it was clear that she had forgotten that I was taking the children to the dance. I do not know what she told the children, but Hannah got on the phone and screamed at me that she could not be forced to go to the dance. I decided that I would let the evening evolve in a natural way. I drove by LL’s home at 5PM and saw she was not home yet.
At 5:15 I called LL and told her that we needn’t go to the dance.
At 5:20 I called her again and told her that we could go to the dance, but we should leave it up to the children. LL went on to describe the psychological states of the children. She said that they had calmed down. I thanked her for this because this was the first time in four years that she had done this. As soon as I thanked her she matter of factly agreed that I should used “input from the children” and put both children on the phone and both told me that they did not want to go to the dance. So, I said “Ok, then come out because I am right outside.”
I asked LL if I could come inside. I explained that it was very cold – there is an ice storm. She said “NO.”
The children came out ten minutes later. LL explained that the children had complained about being hungry so she had heated up some food.
So, it turned out that rather than sharing the children with me today, a day of no school, LL had taken them to work with her.
We had just gotten out of ear shot of LL and Sofia said “Daddy, do you think we are toys?”
I said “No, you are not at all toys. I will tell you Sofia that there is no such thing as a human being who is a toy and it is even bigger than that. There is no living thing that is a toy.”
“But you want Mommy to share us with you!” Sofia defiantly expressed.
“What?” I was somewhat incredulous. This was of course true, but I had never said this to Sofia. I mumbled and fumbled for words. I probably looked like an idiot to Sofia who had me cornered. By the way, this is a new found attribute of Sofia’s. She uses ‘logic’ and presents her arguments in air tight ways.
“You can ask Muntschkin, gold fish and gold watches are both the same color but they are not the same thing. Children and toys both need to be shared but they are not the same thing.”
And later in the car I wonderd, is LL talking with the children about my wanting to share the children? I do not know, but of this I am certain: LL does not share, she steals. So, if she does speak with the children about sharing it is with not-sharing in mind.
Again, with the children in the car, I asked them if they wanted to go dancing and Hannah said “NOOOOOOOOOOOOO,” Sofia usually tends to defer to Hannah so I let it go.
“Where shall we eat?” I asked.
“Wall*Mart!” They both exclaimed.
“YUK.”
But I thought that was alright and took them to Wall*Mart. There they came across two of their teachers and teased them about dating. “People should not be teased when they date because they feel vulnerable,” I said to Hannah. But Hannah did not listen to me and sang out to them “You are day -tin’”
And we ate dinner at the Subway.
And we walked around the store but only bought socks for Hannah, whose feet were soaked because she had gotten snow in her boots.
But, of course, on the way back out to the car, the children again played in the piles of snow pushed to the side by the snow plow.
And they watched a German Disney movie “Der Tapfere Toaster,” and Sofia claimed that this was her favorite Disney movie.
They watched it all the way back to LL’s.
Now, if we had gone to the dance, then I would have had the children from 6:30PM to 8:30PM and it was now 7:20PM (I was 20 minutes late because LL had given me the children 30 minutes late) and so I called LL and asked her if it would be OK for the children to watch the movie for a while longer in the car. She said “NO, they need to go to bed.”
So, at 7:30 I ushered them into LL’s house. LL did not come to the door.
7:40PM, just a little time after dropping off my children, then phone alarm went off. Sofia had set the alarm at Wal*Mart and asked me to call her. I tried calling the ’linea baja’ but no one picked up the phone. I called LL’s cell phone and LL picked it up and I told her that I did not think Sofia needed to speak with me…”OK, because she is in the bath tub right now” (LL said)… but that I was supposed to call her at 7:40PM. “Oh, said LL, “Yes, I know why, it is because of the computer game that we are playing.”
A really interesting day in terms of LL pretending to be fair with me while not being fair or in any way decent at all. This is a new phenomenon. It is also a little different that LL called while the children were with me. LL really wanted to stay on the phone with the children and kept the conversation going for maybe twenty minutes. I did not object to that. I said to Sofia when she returned the phone to me “good, I am glad that you and Mommy talk lots on the phone.”
But I was able to overhear some of LL’s conversation with Sofia and it reminded me of Nancy (a kind of nagging manipulative guilt trippy way to keep Sofia on the phone “I love you Sofia and you love me too,” “Yes Mommy.”)
I shouldn’t be critical.

February 13, 2008 (Wednesday.)
Well, tomorrow is Valentines day. I bought some art supplies for the children and I to be creative during our time together tomorrow. I applied for a job at UPS today. They immediately responded to my application and so I went for a drug test.
Note for my children:
Spiderman ist ein unauffalender Kind der sheu ist mit Mädchen, sogar, wurde ich sagen daβ er ein beangste Katze ist mit Mädchen und er geht so weit als zu sagen daβ mit groβe Macht kommt groβe Verantwortung.
Spiderman is a humble kid who is modest, shy with girls, in fact, I would say he is a scardy cat with girls and he goes so far as to say things like “with great power comes great responsibility” which sounds cool but it is also an excuse for not spending time with his girl friend.
Cat woman ist eine Künstlerin und ihre künstlerische Eigenschaft ist eine Erweiterung von Marc Chagall. Spiderman ist eigentlich noch nichts – Man könnte behaupten daβ er eine Ausrede ist um keine Zeit mit seine Freundin zu verbringen.
Cat woman is an artist and her artistic flair is an off shoot of Marc Chagall. Spiderman is really nothing yet – you could argue that he is a photographer but the artistic quality is subdued to the news worthiness of his images. Cat woman works in an art studio and Spiderman works for a news agency. Both their bosses are despicable people. Cat woman is also poor like Spider man (and unlike Batman) and she looses her job because she has backbone (for once) and she is shy with boys too and she plays basket ball and kids love watching her do so. She drives a motorcycle (so does Batman.)
Cat woman ist eine Künstlerin und ihre künstlerische verschoenerung ist eine abzweigung von Marc Chagall,
February 14, 2008
Valentine’s day, Thursday, and today I am buying a house in Louisville.
Buying the house:
Regional first title group 200 meridian ave Louisville 40207
Certified check for 23 251.86
Valid id
Payable to Allan
Endorse at the closing
11:00 AM WATERSON EAST TO BRECKENRIDGE LANE ROAD, THEN GO DOWN BRECKINRIDGE GO PASS THE PHOSPITALS AND AT DAYTON, AND GO RIGHT (EVEN THOUGH THE STREET SIGN IS ON THE LEFT) AND THEN GO ONE BLOCK. Regional first title group 200 Meridian Ave Louisville 40207

Ok, I have now bought a house. I have a huge amount of work to do. I bought paint.
Dear Lorena,
First of all, I hope you and your lover have a wonderful Valentines day. I make this wish with absolutely no reservation. It is a complete hope that you establish and have a beautiful relationship with another person.
Sincerely,
Allan

I got three emails from LL. I will list them all and then email all of them in one email:
Allan:

Regarding switching Sundays and Saturdays:

First, you are not following through with your commitment to Sofia to take her to Girl Scouts. This was the only troop with openings and one of two troops with Bloom students in it. The day and time are beyond my control. What Sofia said to me last week was, " Mommy why did you pick a troop with Sunday meetings so daddy had to take me?" She was making the whole thing my fault. I do not wish to push blame around but I do need to illustrate that you have neglected to take Sofia to scouts for three meetings. That you took her last week for the last 15 minutes to me does not count as making the meeting. Girl Scouts is important to Sofia and to me. Every meeting they work on badge work. Every missed time is a box that is not checked off for Sofia, so-to-speak. Absenses should be very rare. You had her miss 3 of 4 meetings since December. The troop leader could tell her she cannot continue if she wanted to based on these absenses. I bet her dues ($2.00 per meeting) are not paid up either. I paid her ahead ($20.00) but I bet that has been used up by now.

For the sake of Sofia, I would like to take you off of Girl Scout duty. Last week you said yourself that you took her swimming for a long time in the afternoon when she had eaten little lunch and delivered her to the meeting tired and underfed. This is your responsibility Allan. You should have planned ahead so Sofia would not be in this tired, underfed, thus temper-tantrum-prone state.

For the sake of Sofia, it is important that she have the next meetings go smoothly and that she arrive on-time (10 minutes before meeting starts). If you do not agree to the switch, then we can bring it up with the Judge. It sure is a waste of money.

Again, the reason you got Sundays in the order was because of your job schedule at that time. You no longer have that job, so there is no reason you cannot alternate other than obstinance.

But for this weekend, until we work out any alternative, I will plan on you getting them on Sunday. Lorena
And here is the second email:
This Sunday there is a meeting 3-4:30. Please do not do a strenuous activity for the hour or hour and a half before the meeting so she will feel good when she gets there.
And here is the third email:
Allan:

Just a reminder that the meeting is this Sunday at 3pm. Please arrive early with Sofia. I will come there with my calender so I can write down the times of the booth sales & see which ones I can commit to.

If there is a booth sale on a Sunday or a Tues or Thurs, do you want to volunteer to do it with Sofia? Or do you prefer I sign her up for times when I take her? Lorena

And here is my response to all the emails she sent me:
Dear Lorena,
Wow! I got three emails from you. Thank you for that. I appreciate that very much. I already sent you a Valentine’s day email. That sentiment, expressed in the last email, is unabated.
Now, as for your emails: You claim that it is my commitment to take Sofia to Girl Scouts. That has not been the case. Nevertheless, I am prepared to take Sofia to Girl Scouts except on those days when we go skiing or horseback riding or if anything that is more important comes up. As you must know, I have an acute interest in Sofia participating in Girl Scouts. By the way, Sofia met a troop of Girl Scouts while skiing last Sunday. I saw her have a very good time with them.
I would tell you that what Sofia said to you also pitted you and me against one another. It is important that neither you nor I fall for that. This is why we need to communicate. The day she blamed you for having chosen Girl Scouts on Sunday, we were in Louisville and she was taken to Girl Scouts on time. You may remember that at that point I was trying to get her to eat something and she called you and again, she managed to put us at odds because you did not agree with me that she should eat something. Maybe it would be good if you agreed that when the children are with me, what I determine is in the best interests of the children, you automatically agree. And Sofia did not have a temper tantrum, she cooly called you to see if she could get you to side with her so that she could get what she was pretending to want. I agree with you that she was hungry but it was not because she had not eaten substantially that day, rather it was the because she had been involved in a lot of activities between 9AM and 3PM.
You can bring it up with the Judge if you like.
As for the reason for Sunday being the day that I have the children, this has not changed. It will become even more important as the summer rolls around and I will be even more needed on Saturdays. Children buy ice cream on Saturdays during the warmer seasons.
I am in no way obstinate. I am so far from ‘obstinate,’ I can not even imagine the applicability of the word to me.
If you are coming to the Girl Scouts on Sunday I would like to request that you and I act in a manner that is orthogonal to anything during the last four years. I am asking that you be glad that we are all there. I am asking that you speak with me. I am asking that you indicate to me, in front of the children, that you want to and will communicate with me at that time and in the future about the children. I am asking that we be together when either one of us addresses the leaders of the Girl Scouts. I am asking that we consult with one another in a kind and positive manner about how we might best serve Sofia and the sale of Girl Scout cookies and so on. Are you in agreement? Remember Lorena, you are always invited to be with the children and I.
Yes, If there is a booth sale on any day of the week, I want to volunteer to do it with Sofia. Of course, Lorena.
Sincerely,
Allan
Now I know why LL is more reasonable with me: We are under the microscope. This is good!
LL delivered the children to me at 5:00PM for the first time in a very long time. I can say I was actually surprised. And it was warm. The children and I rode our bikes to the mid city mall and there we ate at the Asian Buffet. Hannah had a tough homework. She had to write, for the first time, in cursive. It took a great deal of psychological work to get her to complete her homework. I wanted her to do it on her own steam. I agreed with her that she could go to a separate place from me and Sofia to do the homework on her own. She worked hard. It takes her a long time to write the letters in cursive. LL called me to tell me that she would not be home until 7:15PM which was lucky for us since Hannah was talking a long time. However, at 7:10PM Hannah was still not finished and it was clear that she would be going home without having finished her homework unless LL okayed us staying out later. I called LL and more or less got her Ok. When Hannah had finished her homework I took it to the supermarket and made two copies: One for me and one for LL. I told Hannah to “give Mommy a copy for Valentine’s day.” I was really proud of Hannah and I know that Hannah felt truly good inside herself for what she had achieved. Hannah needs this kind of positive reinforcement. Sofia always does well in school and Hannah is a little insecure.
I taught Sofia some algebra. She has, of course, never had to learn algebra. But Sofia can solve for X in questions of the form “3/X = 6/12, what is X?” The way she does this is to find the multiplier that converts between the numerators, then she applies that to the denominators. In very little time I had Sofia solving problems like 2X - 5 = X.
Hannah was doing her homework and made a mistake for which she needed to borrow Sofia’s eraser. Unfortunately, Sofia did not want this. At one point Hannah took Sofia’s eraser and Sofia jumped to Hannah with an angry scream. I intercepted and held Sofia back from Hannah. Sofia became angry with me. I repeated the same sentence some five times “please let Hannah borrow your eraser.” Sofia said “I did!!!!” and I responded “No you did not. I did!” and then she calmed down and went to get some food from the buffet.
That worked once, but it will not work again. Next time Sofia will tell me that I have no right to lend Hannah an eraser that does not belong to me. I know this because Sofia is like me.
I love Sofia’s mind. She is sharp. I wish I could spend more time with her because I would trigger her thinking.
We arrived at LL’s at 7:30PM. LL was not happy. She needed to go to the supermarket and ushered the children into her car. It was just while I was giving the children their homework, when Hannah asked me:
“Daddy, what does ‘abuse’ mean?”
“It is when a person is terrible to another person,” I responded.
“A lady today was asking me about you today questions about you and it went on and on and blah blah blah.”
A few minutes later I suddenly noticed LL’s car on Broadway and honked my horn. The children recognized me and we waved.
LL went through a yellow light, but I stopped.
A few minutes later Hannah called me.
“Daddy, I have something that I want to give you. Can you please wait for me when we come back to Mommy’s house?”
“Let me ask Mommy if it might be better another day,” I said to Hannah, but then Hannah asked LL herself.
“Mommy, is it OK if I give something to Daddy when we get back home?”
“Sure,” said LL.
“Mommy said ‘sure,’” Hannah informed me.
“Ok Hannah,” I said “I will wait for you.”
And then I pulled into a gas station with the intention of buying some fuel, a cup of coffee and hanging out for a while before driving back to LL’s.
I had just finished purchasing my items when LL pulled into the gas station. Had she already been to the supermarket? In any case, I went and kissed my children, wished them happy Valentine’s days and Hannah gave me a photocopy of her first cursive written homework. I said “Happy Valentine’s day to LL. Hannah noticed the polite character of our interaction and complimented LL on it: “Mommy, you are being polite to Daddy,” she said.
Something is going on, to make LL behave in a reasonable manner. The family is under some scope. That is good.
A few minutes later I called LL. She did not pick up the phone. I left a message on her voice mail: “Hello Rena, this is Allan. Who is the person interviewing my children about my relationship with them?”
So, what is going on? Who is that person interviewing the children? I am guessing, from the way that Hannah phrased the question to me that the person is against me. It may be a person from the CPS? From the KGB? But what ever the case, the person is probably trying to build a case against me. That is better than nothing for two reasons. The first is that I am the decent parent my children have and the second is that when LL is aware that she is under the microscope, she has to behave better.

February 15, 2008
1. Call the electric co. between 2 and 4pm.
2. Fill the car.
3. Go to the shed empty it out.(lamps!)
4. Secure the house.
5. Paint the house.
6. Plant a tree in the yard.
7. Call UPS 359 – 1813, 359 - 1816
8. Call Bloom elementary about parent teacher conference, getting the judge’s orders, about the stamped self addressed envelopes.
9.




February 15, 2008
I called the Bloom Elementary School and left a message for the school counselor to call me back.
I called Child Protective Services: “I am wanting to speak with Christi Atkins because she took on the case of my children when I was there, but that failing, could you connect me please with someone by the name of Taylor.”
“Hello Ms Atkins, this is Allan Lasky-Headrick, how are you?” She said “fine, how are you?” and I responded that I appreciated she was trying to be kind but her asking me that question is analogous to Adolf Hitler asking Anne Franc how she is. Then I stated the following:
“You may recall that your organization was used by the family of my former wife to destroy my fair and reasonable chances of custody, to remove our children from their correct state of residency which was Texas and to endorse the hatred that my children have been availed since you came into their lives…. and I have come to you in order to beg you to rectify the damage incurred.”
And she told me that she had read the records and had referred the case to Mary Williamson, 595 3632.
But take note: Christi Atkins told me she would review the records, decide whether to take action and then call me. She did not call me. I think this is how they work. Christi Atkins set the game in motion, based on what Hannah told me, the perspective taken is most likely negative towards me. Certainly it is OK for CPS to set traps and that includes lying to me. Christi Atkins lied and that is fine but it has of course, demolished any moral authority I might have deemed her.
“Alright and thank you” I said, “You’re welcome,” she responded.

So I called Mary Williamson and found out that she was on vacation and spoke with her secretary who told that the organization for which she works is CPS community based services, investigations team and Mary is the boss of this aspect of CPS and she is now on vacation – now it is still possible that the case was delegated(?) to someone else? But it is looking less likely. I left my phone number.
Brenda Crawford, the counselor at the Bloom Elementary School called me back and told me that indeed BOTH children were taken out of their class rooms by a CPS worker. This happened either yesterday or the day before yesterday.
No emails from LL today.
I am not able to communicate with my children despite repeated attempts to reach them by phone and leaving a message at 7:15PM asking LL to please have the children call me.
Dear Lorena,
I am not able to communicate with my children despite repeated attempts to reach them by phone and leaving a message at 7:15PM asking you to please have the children call me.
Sincerely,
Allan




At 9:00PM I wanted to drive by LL’s place to see if her car is parked near the house, but then I said to myself “That would not change the place where the children are,” so I did not and I went to my new house and I started to paint it.
Now, in painting the kitchen, I drew the outlines for a street on the Mercado Quatro in Paraguay. I drew a huge tree that will merge into the ceiling and the limbs may crawl across the ceiling (to indicate the dissolution of the bipartisanship in LL and my relationship.) On the distant wall I sketched out the images of Fatima’s mother and one of her sisters. (Fatima was a person who helped in Paraguay.) I thought of painting images of Fatima herself, or of my children, but then I decided that if I paint images of people that are not so close, then it is sociologically easier.

February 16, 2008
9:45AM I call the two numbers. The ‘linea baja’ does not respond and on the cell phone number I leave the following message. “Hepodey Lorena, you big hippo you, I am trying to get in touch with our children, Sofia and Hannah so if you could call me back that would be right on target.
10:10AM I call Nancy. “Hepodey, this is Allan and I was wondering do you know where Sofia or Hannah are so that I may call them. I think Rebecca answered the phone and she told me that LL’s car is still outside so she thinks they just went somewhere. She said that she would tell them that I called and I said “No, wait, ask them to call me.” She said “OK.”
12:00AM I called LL’s cell phone but no one answered and so instead I just left a message asking her to have the children call me and try and make the communication between the children and the parents more symmetrical – since the children can always speak with their mother when they are with me.
2:00PM I called LL and left a message asking her to have the children call me.
4:00PM I called again and left the same kind of message.
7:00PM I called to no avail. (Both numbers.)
~8:00PM I again call both numbers to no avail.
9:30PM I try to call LL but she does not pick up the phone.
I continue to paint.

February 17, 2008
I am about an hour early and have come t the highland Coffeehouse to check my emails: I have none from LL.
Dear Lorena,
What happened yesterday that I never was able to speak with Hannah and Sofia on the phone?
Allan
Well, Ok so what is going on? LL probably knows that CPS is on her. This is the reason why she is always very kind to me in person and on the phone but avoids meeting me or speaking with me like a criminal avoids the law. The last time I saw her was Thursday (today is Sunday) and that was the same day CPS interviewed the children. It was pure fluke that I found out about it. Hannah told me that she had been grilled about my supposed abuse of her just as she was rejoining LL.
The children were with Nancy yesterday and probably the night before. The Lasky’s huddle before they set a bomb. Remember that they are an Italian bunch.
There are three things I am planning for today: go see some baby cows and go to church or vice versa and then go to Girl Scouts.
But I did get the children. I, of course acted in a totally natural way. First I bought them two muscal instruments (a recorder and a harmonica), we played for a while at Toys R Us, then we headed for the ranch of my BMW motorcycle friend in Shelbyville. That was awesome. A calf had just been born, it was still covered in blood, the mother licked it and we watched it learn how to stand up. It suckled and my children were able to watch this. They were not grossed out by the blood. There was a piece of afterbirth on the floor and blood was still coming from the cow’s vagina.
Mark was a great person with the children.
They watched Tim und Struppi movies on the way back to Louisville: Girl Scouts.
Sofia asked me to escort her to the door – I do not know why but it may have had to do with the fact that she and I thought that LL might be there?
Hannah and I watched Tim und Struppi and then rejoined Sofia at Girl Scouts.
Then I took my children to my new home. They liked the kitchen. We rode out bikes from my house to LL’s place.
I asked LL if I could see the children tomorrow and she said “NO.”
.

February 18, 2008
8:00AM Called Helmers to find out about the motion.
A little while later I got this email from Helmer’s secretary:
Mr. Lasky-Headrick,
John is out today, however, I spoke with him this morning on the phone. He said that the motion will not be filed today, however, he will give you a call tomorrow when he returns to the office and let you know of the status
of the motion.

Thanks,
Amanda
John Helmers: you are wasting my children.
10:00AM called ‘linea baja,’ then LL’s cell; just calling to speak with Sofia and Hannah so please call ne back.
11:00AM I call David Weatherspeak of the KGB. I told him about the hatred that the Laskys continue to manifest and asked him to call me back.
1:30PM I went to the parent teacher conference at the Bloom Elementary school and saw that Mark Duke was at the Byck school. I thought to go. I spoke with Ms. Schartzer who praised Sofia’s reading and writing. I asked her “is Sofia more of an artist or more of a scientist?” and she said that she thought Sofia was more of an artist.
And then, as I was walking down the steps I came across Sofia, Hannah and LL. LL put on a good show. I followed them back Ms. Schartzer’s room at which point LL told the children to wait outside with me, but then she changed her mind and told Sofia to come in – thereby separating the children. That left Hannah with me and this pissed Hannah off so she went and hid in the bathroom.
When Sofia and LL came back out, Hannah came to me and gave me a hug. I kissed her on the head. I walked out with them to their car. Hannah said that my breath smelled like dog poop. I told Hannah that I like dogs. Hannah responded that I kiss them on the lips. I said “No, they kiss me on the lips and then I suck their tongues.” LL laughed. (How much do you want to bet she thinks I shot myself in the foot?) But I looked at Hannah and I saw that she was smiling.
Just as they were piling in the car I asked them to call me. They agreed to call at 7:00PM. I note that LL said “but not much after seven since they are having an early bed time tonight.”
I went to CPS again since I have not heard a word about what is going on and this time, without having to speak with anyone there, I simply went and asked for the name of the social worker, I was given the name and number. Her name is Misti Ronau and her phone number is 595 -5158 and her supervisor is called Laura Johnson and her number is 595 – 5410.
7:00PM. I called and after many rings, about six or seven, Sofia picked up the phone. We were talking well about school and this tht and the other (Did Ms. Schartzer say anything that surprised you today? To which Sofia responded that she had been surprised that Ms. Schartzer had not commented on her reading ability, to which I responded that she had told me a lot about her reading. Or what is bigger 4/5 or 7/8? And so on. Suddenly the telephone was cut off. It went ‘click.’ And it was dead.
I tried calling it back again and it only rang. It rang about twenty times.
I called LL’s cell phone and Sofia picked it up. I told her that I had called the other phone and that it had rang twenty times. Sofia said “I never heard it ring.”
I think, but of course I can not prove this, that LL can turn the ringer off on the telephone in the house.
Sofia accused me of not having made an appointment to speak with Ms. Schartzer…
And Sofia and I were able to talk on the phone for a considerably longer period of time. I also spoke for a little while with Hannah while she was playing Nintendo
7:30 or so, I called the social worker who was involved in this case, a certain Miswti Ronou. She was not at work of course but I left a message with my name and phone number

February 19, 2008
I Call the kGB. The secretary or receptionist told me that David had said he would call me back later this week so I was again forced to leave a message on his answering machine: “Hello David, I was just told that you would call me later this week in spite of this continuing to be an urgent emergency, this is Allan Lasky Headrick… Please when you call me back, just apologize for not having called me yesterday. Last time you called me you asked me not to think that you are not calling me back and that is no longer a fair option. David, it is because of you plural that I do not have custody of my children. This concerns me very much. It concerns me for two reasons, one local and one global. The first then is my children Sofia and Hannah who have been unlawfully treated. I do not mean just the law of the land, but I mean the law of god.. It is quite simply impossible to justify your behavior. It has been terrible and it has been wrong. But the second reason has to do with all the other children you come across and I am determined to change your procedural methods, the processes and pathways that you currently follow to make sure that the travesty that you incurred upon my children is never repeated. So, David, you may consider yourselves married to the responsible social caring facet of my personality. But you see, it is not a standard marriage. If you want a divorce, you must help my children. You must make sure that they are not left out in the shit hole you have provided them, you must work to make sure that they get their father back and that means some kind of custody and we must work together to guarantee that what you did to Sofia and Hannah is never repeated to any other child. So, you said that you would do a follow up call. You also said that you felt (and I disagree with you, but that is beside the point because your role has been god or devil like in determining anything in the lives of my children) you said that a one or two week wait was quote reasonable and that interval has transpired, so please call me and let me know what you have actually done, and what you are doing and what you will do. I am very sorry if you feel that I am against you. I am not. I am begging for you to do what you should always have done: provide real therapy for my children and not be in the way of them receiving such therapy. If you had not been adverse to real therapy or even therapy from another professional both of which you have repeatedly been, you would not be in this situation. In any case, I look upon things with a positive disposition and am looking for you to do intelligent, proactive, decent work.”
David called me back shortly later. He started out by telling me that he does return my calls. I listened to this and responded “I acknowledge your having said that and will etch it in my brain.” I did not agree with him though, it is not possible to agree with him.
And I told David that my children were hurt by the work performed. This upset David and he said “OK, this conversation is over.” I said “What do you want me to say? Do you want me to lie to you?” and he stayed on the phone. But it did not take long for him to then say “You are playing the victim.” I denied this. “My children are the real victims and you are the cause.” It was not an easy conversation for him. He tried to put up with it but it was not exactly smooth for him. Finally David told me that he had spoken with LL (today!) and that she had told him that she was “alright with things the way they are and did not want the children to get any more therapy.” I said “Of course not, because the children have learned the hard way that they have been used to play a nasty trick on their relationship with me.” I told him that I was going to stop by the office and he responded that if I did that he would call the police. I was shocked and told him so.
I thought about this.
I am not a normal person, way cooler, way deeper, way more complex.
I decided to go make the child support payment to make sure I am up to date and then go to the KGB office.
I left a note with John Helmers to let me rot in jail if I end up there.
I called David and left a message informing him of what I was doing. I wanted to be sure that I was honest and up front with him. I gave him the option of calling me back to try and dissuade me.
I was driving to the KGB when David called me. He asked me why I was coming to his office and I said “because I need a friend.” I am sure he had no idea how to respond to that, but then he came up with the idea that I should hire a therapist. “I do not need a therapist, I need to speak with you guys since you guys are the issue.” David promised that he and I would be able to talk once a week. I told him that I would not come by his office.

1. Call Mark Duke.
2. Go to Tony and Ginger’s and see if I can shower there and if they are still living there or where they are?
3. To t the storage unit and fill the car up with stuff.
4. Go to the bank.
5. Go to the shop and check my email.
6. Go to the Chip Support payment place.
7. Empty the car here.
8. Go pick up my children.

And I got the following email from LL and a response from Farfar:

Allan--Both girls went to this last year & loved it so I am signing them up again. Also--I need to know ASAP about which two weeks you and your parents want to do vacation this year because I need to plan the girls summer camps and my own vacation time. Last year we ran into problems because I had already paid for some camps & I want to avoid that same issue this year. Priority for GS summer camps was February 15th & the deadline in March 15th. By March 15th, I have to pick their overnight camp & pay a deposit for it is they are to go as they did last year. So, please get back with me soon. I prefer by the end of February. Lorena Lasky


Hello, Rena,

You are doing the right thing by planning in advance for the summer vacation. I take note of the fact that you will register the girls for the Area 9/12 Day Camp, which lasts from June 16 to June 20. I will coordinate with Farmor and Allan and give you the dates for the two weeks during which we would like to take vacation with the girls.

I have also been thinking about Spring Break. Farmor and I are planning to go to Louisville, as we did last year. Could you find out and let me know when Spring Break will be this year? Allan has parenting time during half of it. As we approach Spring Break, please let me know if you have any preferences as far as his parenting days are concerned. Farmor and I will need an answer at least two weeks in advance, for the sake of our own arrangements.

Best wishes,

William

I called the KGB just before picking up my children – it was a few minutes before 5:00PM, and left the following message: “David, this is Allan. Today I got notice again of the depositions of your colleages Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo. And you said to me that you believe the systemic aspect of the work they undertook was good and I disagree with you and infact would like to provide you with procedural methodologies that are non-systemic. But for now I will let those be and am asking you to work with Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo to rectify the incredulous imbalance in their previous disposition. I am absolutely certain that my children feel terrible for the role they have unwantingly given to their therapists. I am certain that Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo know that my children have missed my parenting and want things to become normal. It has been a terrible struggle to be the father of my children, I have no doubt that they have learned that my children want me to be in their lives. So, I am asking you point blank to ask them to state in the depositions that they believe I should be in the lives of my children as a custodial parent. I am asking you to ask Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo to volunteer this information. I am asking you to ask Kim Dial and Ginger Crubo to volunteer that they are not investigators and can not address the truth of the allegations. They could be coached. I am asking you to ask Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo to volunteer that they are in no position to not recommend custody of Sofia and Hannah to their Father, Allan. I will call you back in a week. Thank you.”

And then I chat with Claire real fast:
Allan: Hola Claire, que tal estan ustedes? Yo sigo aqui en Louisville, criando mis hijas Sofia y Hannah.
Claire: what?
Allan: Thank you for answering to my message. It asks how you are all doing and tells that I am in Louisville raising my two daughters.
Claire: i mean how did you get on messenger? and I'm psyched to hear from you
Allan: I had no idea that I was on messenger, it just came up on my computer. My daughter Sofia may have planted that seed.
Claire: oh, great!
Allan: But I am glad to hear from you! I do miss both you and Harald.
Claire: r u ok?
Allan: Yes, I am doing quite well. I just bought a house. It was a much less expensive house than the little house in Texas.
Claire: did u sell the TX one?
Allan: Yes, I got rid of it since I was spending very little time there.
Allan: But there were many aspects of that house that remind me of Harald - starting with the roof.
Claire: are the girls living with you? the roof?
Allan: No the girls do not live with me - maybe at the end of this month? I spend three days a week with them though but then I take them to Rena's house in before bed time.
Allan: The roof on the house in Texas was put on with Harald's help and we used Tony's truck!
Claire : i really want to catch up with you. Now is not a good time. I have a girl and her mother coming at 4 who are Spanish speakers I'm tutoring in English.
Allan: Claire, I do not know how fragile things are about me at your place and I do not want to make any more mistakes. But I want you to know that I have a new phone number and if you want to call me it is 502 714 8577. Yes, I have to pick uo my girls in a few minutes too so I gotta go.
Claire: gracias!
And just as Claire and I disconnected, the phone rang and LL informed me that she had arrived.
Lorena arrived at 5:06, apparently Sofia was in art after school and so as not to go to CEP, LL came at exactly 5:00PM and I got the children five minutes later.
I took the children to Denny’s and then to my house. They were in a very good mood at both places. Hannah just loved the fact that she could get me to kiss her as a punishment for her teasing me. And Sofia did a good job on her science homework. And then I took the children to my house and now the fun became incredible. The children helped me paint the house. I called LL as we were leaving Dennis and told her that we would be at my house and asked her to come to my house to pick up the children. She agreed but it was not easy.
And the painting at my house lasted for a long time. I had a movie playing on the DVD (Avatar) which Hannah enjoyed. The kids stuck their hands in the paint and put their hand prints on the walls. Hannah in the kitchen and Sofia on the wall in the kitchen near the back door and in the basement.
It was a really cook experience. I kissed my children and they were super glad to have come to my home.
When LL came (half an hour late) she refused to come in the house and the children were covered in paint. Oooopps.
LL did not call to complain. I know that she wants to. I know that it is just brewing inside her. But she knows that the depositions of Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo is in about a week --- well, I do not know for sure that she knows, but I bet she finds out before I do, after all, they are on her team.

February 20, 2008
1. 8:00AM Call CPS Misti Ronau at 595 -5158 and her supervisor is called Laura Johnson and her number is 595 – 5410. I did this an neither number picked up the phone. Also the supervisor is on vacation until February 26th (the day of the deposition of the KGB.) I call Misti again at 9:00AM, 10:00AM, 12:00AM…

2. My finances:
I owe my credit card $1500 by the end of this month.
I owe LL $600 for the next month and this one still.
I owe Papole $500 for the loan on this house.
I owe Papole $220 for the financial help just administered.
I must spend say $500 on food.
I must spend say $500 on moving in here.
That adds up to $5000 by the end of next month and the only thing to curb it is $100 from Sweeney and if I get a job about $500.
I owe Subir $30 for YMCA.
And that is really bad news: Imagine $3500 in debt in one month! That says nothing about Helmers. And it include my making half a grand net in a month. If I got another job and made another $1000 and add to that the food stamp money then I will still be $2000 in debt at best!
So, I gotta make more money… any ideas?

And here is an email for LL:
Dear Lorena,


I spoke with the people at Seven Counties and they said that you did not want the children to receive therapy.
They said that you had said “things are alright as they are.” So now the next step is to establish fair and just custody. How do you propose we move in that direction?


Sincerely,


Allan

Ok, David.


Hum? John Helmers did not call me. Wonder what is going on with him?
At 7:00PM I called the ‘linea baja’ but no one answered that phone so I called LL’s cell phone and Sofia picked up the phone. She told me that she was eating dinner. I asked her to call me back when she was finished and she said she would. We said “Love you,” to one another.
Sofia never called me back.
I, of course do not blame Sofia for this. It is hard for Sofia to pick up the phone and call me in the Lasky environment.

February 21, 2008
Alright, I got a second job today that will start in about a week, on February 27, 2008 but it is only a little part time job at UPS.
But there is a mild snow storm going on. I saw that JCPS, the school district, had closed and called LL to see if she would be OK with me spending some time with the children today. I left a message. That happened around noon time. One hour later, at 1:00PM I called LL again to see if I could speak with my children on the phone.
I called Misti, the CPS social worker involved in the lives of my children again today. She has not contacted me and in fact, she has made no attempt to call me as evidenced by my cell phone. I asked her to call me. I said “The fact that I am not calling the CPS hotline does not mean that this is not an emergency. This is a chronic emergency.”
I called LL and here are the times: 11:51AM, 12:56PM, 2:43PM, 4:46PM, 5:01PM, 6:10PM, 6:36PM, 6:46PM and 9:51PM. LL actually picked up the phone at 4:46 which was the fourth time I had called her today. She was not happy that I was picking the children up at 5:0PM and complained that the roads were not safe. She accused me of not calling her sooner and arranging for me to get the children on another day. I, of course told her that I had called her many times already and she had not picked up the phone. Apparently she had not even listened to my voice messages. My voice messages had pleaded with her to let me care for the children for a part of the day since there was no school. I believe she had listened to her voice messages and decided to pretend that her phone did not work today. It is the way this game is played by LL: She pretends some kind of tangential behavior that excuses her failures and at the same time tries to blame me. It is a blatant contradiction to accuse me of not having called her earlier and then to try to get me not to pick the children up and then to use the weather as an excuse…
I assured her that the road were good, that I had been driving quite a bit today and that the roads were not slick. She prepared the children for their time with me.
She had Sofia call me before I picked up the children to ask me if they should bring food and I said “yes,” why not? That would save me from having to take the children to a restaurant.
At 5:01 I called to say that I was on the front porch, I did not speak with anyone.
I drove my children to my home. They watched a movie called “Bear with me,” and Hannah painted the wall. I called LL to make sure she was going to pick the children up from my house and she said she would not. “Ok,” I said “I will take them when I feel like it which will be when the movie is finished.” This upset LL but I said “come get them then.” That was at 6:10PM. LL called me back and asked to speak with the children. I explained to LL that the children were watching a movie, but that in a few minutes I would place it on pause and call her back. This upset her too.
So then, in a few minutes I told the children that they needed to speak with their mother and I put the movie on pause.
LL spoke with the children and told them to come home. They are to stop watching the movie and they are to get in my car an come home.” The children did not want to do that. I promised the children that if Mommy did not come get them, that I would take them home.

We watched the movie a few minutes more and then LL called again and I told her what we were doing and that I would have the children speak with her in a bit.
Again, I had the children speak with their mother. This time the children were not on speaker phone with them and I do not know what they were told but I am sure it was more of the same. Hannah told me to take her home and I said “NO, not now but soon.”
Hannah and I agreed that I would take them home when the movie ended. Sofia did not play any role in t5he game LL was instigating. She let Hannah be the pawn that LL was tooling around with.
The last call I made to LL was at 9:51PM. I asked her if I could spend some time with the children the net morning since I had seen on TV that the school district might delay the opening time for schools. Ll argued that it was very unlikely and did not want to consider hypothetical situations. I asked her to call me the next day if there was a delay.


February 22, 2008
I saw on TV that the schools were delayed by two hours. I tried to call LL but no one picked up the phone.
Misty called me and told me that the weather was her reason for not calling me sooner. Misty told me that she had interviewed Sofia and Hannah and she had not resolved any abuse. She told me that she had only wanted to resolve that Hannah was coached to make an abuse allegation and that she had been threatened with “or I’ll kill you.” A metaphor from Hannah. And so, she went and spoke with the kids at their school and saw nothing worth pursuing. This, of course disappointed me. I accused her of having no moral authority, of being a cog in a social machine that was flawed. She agreed to meet with me to look at the work from the therapists but would not commit to a time or date. She said she had to first speak with LL. She also said that she had to speak with her supervisor. “This is something that will take years of work,” I told her. She said that she would call me back in a couple of days. We were on the phone for at least half an hour. I told her that my children had been coached to lie about their father and specifically about ‘sexual abuse.’ I told her that it was not just LL, it was her family. I told her that the grandmother of the children works for ‘Neighborhood Place,’ and understands how to use the system for her own unethical means. I told her a lot of things but Misty was pretty bored by it all – she told me that “none of the things you say meet the criteria.” She told me that she wanted me to call her back after Judge Patricia Walker Fitzgerald makes a ruling because that may give her direction. I wanted her to do investigative work independent of anything the Judge might order, but she is a ‘cog in a flawed machine.’ “I understand your frustration…” blah blah blah. I informed her that I was intent on making the system better. I expressed severe disappointment that I had not been called and the case had not been investigated, when LL last forced Hannah to make sex-abuse allegations (three months ago.)
Then I called Helmers and he said that Trenaman was filing a motion to have the depositions done by telephone because “I call Seven Counties twenty times per day.” I said “I call them about once a week.” These are the games people play. Helmers said he would email me the motion. I asked Helmers to speak with David Weatherspeak the boss of Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo.
So, now I guess I have to read Helmer’s email.
Ok, so I go to Sunergos, my new favorite coffee shop in Louisville and by the way, a better place than either the Highland Coffee House or Heinebrothers. I read the motion that LL’s lawyer, Mason Trenaman is presenting to the court:
It says: That on the 25th of February, which is Monday’s lawyer will project the following (all lies to the Judge):
“The parties agreed that they would supplement the agreement with depositions from Kim Dial and Ginger Crumbo.” It is more like I was forced to do this.
“The depositions had been scheduled but needed to be rescheduled due to reasons out of control of the parties.” That is not true. The last time the depositions were scheduled to take place, Helmers dropped the case. I wanted the depositions to take place without Helmers.
“The depositions are scheduled to start at 9:15 AM” and this is the first I hear this. The remaining statements in the motion are incredibly untrue and I write to John:
Dear John,
“Ms. Dial stated that Mr. Lasky-Headrick was taking inappropriate actions that caused her fear appearing at the depositions.” This is NOT true.
“Per Ms. Dial, Mr. Lasky is now calling Seven Counties twenty or thirty times a day.” Pure crap and this is the kind of back stabbing that makes her a great enemy.
“Additionally, during the last week or so Mr. Lasky has been parking at the Seven Counties Parking lot for up to an hour and staring into the building.” Pure lies. NEVER and the last time I went or drove to Seven Counties was many months ago.
Sorry, my behavior continues and always has been impeccable.
Sincerely,
Allan Lasky-Headrick
I also call John and leave him with a message not to agree with the proposed motion, that the depositions need to take place with everyone present as per norm.
But this is how people in powerful positions (like, Lorena, Kim Dial and Dr. Ginger Crumbo) cultivate a wrong and terrible image of me. The Judge will be tainted and it will be much harder for me to gain custody of my children.
I wanted to call David Weatherspeak but now that he has become expressly my enemy, I can not. Still, let me write the kind of thing I would have otherwise told David, have you read the motion that Lorena has presented?” This is not true. I am morally outraged that you (plural) would lie. And now, because, you have dropped my children asunder and God knows I should have been able to could to count on you to know better than to act as megaphone for coached